Men's Issues are invisible in discourse

Now, I know this image simplifies the issue, obviously the girl in that post does not represent all women, but anyway.

When evaluating one's place in society, people almost exclusively look at those above them who have things they want, never at those less fortunate. This leads to people thinking they are way further down the hierarchy than they actually are. Humans have a well documented negativity bias, and here it is in action. How long have people been saying "the grass is greener on the other side?"

That IS the foundation of "male privilege." You can only claim that women universally have it worse than men if you're a woman or privileged man who refuses to look down to see those below you. That isn't to say that women don't have problems, but that only about 0.1% of men have "male privilege." It's not really "male privilege" at all, it's wealthy/pretty privilege. It's the equivalent of looking at a male billionaire and telling a homeless man he has it easy. And it seems most people are completely unaware that they're doing this.

It's kinda staggering that feminism, a left wing movement, would not understand that the 0.1% of men at the top of society don't care about the well-being of those struggling below. They aren't rigging society in favor of those men, they're in-fact more inclined to exploit them. The same can be said for women, more female presidents or CEOs will not solve women's issues.

Even when you do talk about men's issues, you must caveat them with how women have it worse or you get attacked and written off as a misogynist. What this means is that universally, men's feelings and issues are not allowed to be centered. I even suspect that this image will make a lot of people uncomfortable due to calling this out directly, and the people who need to see it most will just brush it off as misogyny. People don't care about the problems of those they see as "privileged."

This should be an outrage, nobody deserves to have their genuine problems belittled or mocked. There is a clear double standard here. The "wage gap" was centered nationally for decades, but the "death gap" men face is ignored. Men have been systemically alienated from their own ability to speak up for themselves in both their individual and collective voices, gaslit into thinking their problems aren't real or don't matter, and not only that, alienated from their own worthiness.

"When you're accustomed to privilege, equality feels like oppression," is a common phrase slung at men speaking up for themselves. However, when I am talking to men who live in the society feminists scrutinize, I see anything but privilege. If anything, it seems more likely the people saying this phrase like a mantra are the ones with privilege, and are using it to beat down men who are worse off than them into silence by using shame and gaslighting them into thinking they're oppressors. It feels like a weird abuser dynamic, and honestly I think it is one. It is vey likely that phrase is entirely projection. They feel oppressed by the notion that they should treat men to the same standard they want to be treated themselves, and be held accountable if they don't.

We cannot have our societal narratives relating to gender controlled entirely by a movement that can only see issues hurting one sex and is ignorant of its own ignorance regarding the other, because is it really equality when only one sex's experiences are considered valid?

This is one of the greatest injustices of our time, and it isn't only men that it will drag down.

Just like how men should be involved in fixing women's issues, women should be involved in fixing men's.