Do you notice or judge women for being promiscuous?

SmurfESmurferson · 2018-04-05T19:15:19+00:00

Me, personally? I'll judge someone if they're hurting people, sleeping with married people, spreading STDs, etc. Be an ethical slut, people.

I'll pity a woman if I think she's using her sexuality to try (while failing) to lock down any guy she can.

EDIT: If someone is having sex because they like it, and aren't being disrespectful of their partners, misleading people, being unsafe, etc., I don't really care. You do you.

Outside of that - I've said this before, and I'll say it again - what many TRPers call "slut tells" are nothing more than prole tells. They couldn't pick an UMC slut out of a lineup.

goatismycopilot · 2018-04-05T19:42:55+00:00

When I was in university eight million years ago, I loved it when my hot slutty friends went out clubbing because they drew in orbiters who wanted attention and they would buy drinks for the hot sluts and their more ordinary friends ( like me and I was working my way through university so free drinks hell ya ) it was awesome. My slut friends always had some stupid drama going on that was entertaining to watch plus they usually had a lot of BFs and friends. Slutty people are usually popular and get invited to things so you are missing out in your youth if you either do not have slut friends or crazy friends.

Equalina · 2018-04-05T19:07:15+00:00

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[deleted] · 2018-04-05T19:56:28+00:00

Yea. Especially, when they are unfaithful. I heard a girl talking about wanting to marry her meanwhile she banged one of my buddies a few weeks prior. Fucked up.

gopher_glitz · 2018-04-05T23:02:48+00:00

As a guy, the most valuable thing a woman can provide me is sex. It is the only thing I can get exclusively from women. If she is giving away sex without investment to other guys, then why would I invest anything in her?

Why would I feel good about giving her so much of myself in return for sex if she is giving out sex to guys when they don't even know her name?

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Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2018-04-05T21:10:37+00:00

Yes, I judge women for being sluts. Depending on their attitudes, I conclude they're selfish, dishonest, irresponsible, impulsive, and have low future time orientation.

It's fine if a woman wants to be a slut. Just don't expect commitment from guys; and don't expect it to have no effects on you later. If you can live with the effects, slut it up and have a great time.

Ohpenmynde · 2018-04-05T22:36:36+00:00

All women are sluts if you catch them on the right day. Just don't very married and enjoy it while it lasts

crackrocksteady7 · 2018-04-05T19:32:05+00:00

Mr_Smoogs · 2018-04-05T21:33:24+00:00

I think there are “ethical” ways to be a slut, however for the vast majority of them do two things:

1) Swim in beta orbiter validation

2) Mate poach

Number 1 is preying on weak men due to your own insecurities and 2 is clearly unethical.

So when I judge them, it’s for their actions like likely lead them to a high n count, not necessarily a high n count itself.

sadomasochrist · 2018-04-05T21:40:34+00:00

Two boxes get checked.

She's easy, approach.
Don't ever seriously commit if anything births from this.

concacanca · 2018-04-05T20:48:37+00:00

In general I don't care. Live how you want to live.

When they want commitment from me.....Yeah I notice and judge. I project a persona which is very different from my actual values and women have always felt pretty comfortable talking to me about sex and relationships. Most people think my count is way higher than it is as well.

yasee · 2018-04-05T19:03:58+00:00

Not unless they're being irresponsible about it (like not using protection)

Littleknownfacts · 2018-04-05T19:07:02+00:00

Just for sleeping around, no. If she gets sloppy drunk and thinks PDA is foreplay or if she's with married men or something, most definitely.

PennnyLame · 2018-04-05T19:20:36+00:00

I have a few promiscuous friends. I don’t judge them but do get worried when they engage in risky behavior (not using protection or lacking caution when going to men’s houses/having men come to their house).

Million-Suns · 2018-04-06T04:04:00+00:00

I only judge them if they lie about it. If you're a slut, own it. Be upfront with it. That way we avoid wasting both of our time.

blackedoutfast · 2018-04-05T19:15:39+00:00

yes, i judge them to be the kind of sluts that it's ok to have casual sex with but not a serious relationship

LifterofThings · 2018-04-05T19:02:13+00:00

No and no. idc, do what you want... but also don't expect people not to judge you. If the judgement of others is a real problem for you, maybe you need to re-evaluate your priorities.

(this is a general "you", btw -- not you specifically, OP)

writingtoc · 2018-04-05T19:49:51+00:00

I'll judge someone (male or female) if they're being promiscuous in pursuit of a goal that promiscuity doesn't actually get them any closer to. My highschool friend from my hometown who used to bring home a different skeeze every weekend in her pursuit of a good relationship. I judge that not because 'ew, slut' but because its a stupid way to try to get into a solid relationship with a solid man. Same with certain men who seem to have compulsive casual sex as some kind of unsuccessful self-esteem bolstering exercise - I judge them, too.

MelodramaticMouse · 2018-04-05T19:29:17+00:00

I don't judge unless it affects me personally; I'm fine as long as they don't try to slut up my man and they don't slut up all the guys in my social circle. You start sleeping randomly in my group and we WILL talk and judge, haha!

theambivalentrooster · 2018-04-05T19:32:19+00:00

Whores gonna whore. There’s a classy respectful way to be a whore and then there’s a degenerate drug-fueled irresponsible way to be a whore. Or slut, I guess.

I wouldn’t want my daughter to be a slutwhore but promiscuous women are beneficial to society as long as they don’t get pregnant and have kids while in their slutwhore phase.

Individually my opinion would depend on the woman in question.

JTRonald · 2018-04-05T20:20:53+00:00

I never judge promiscuity alone, I always look at the whole personality/behavior and add the conclusion to my "database". For some woman I think this fits the narrative of their lives well, for other it seems kinda desperate, a whole lot of varied reaction.

So i am more curious about understanding than judging, but for "Serious relationship" that's a whole other ball game.

WiseMonkeyGoodMonkey · 2018-04-05T20:43:52+00:00

Judge for being promiscuius? No. But I do notice. Same as I notice when a guy does it. I don't judge until promiscuous becomes indiscriminate. Or if promiscuous comes at the cost of someone they are having a supposedly monogamous relationship with.

oihaoerhg · 2018-04-05T21:23:42+00:00

This is really strange, but when I haven't eaten a lot or got poor sleep or some other issue along those lines, I'll give more fucks about female promiscuity. If I'm well fed, usually I give no fucks, unless somehow I got on a thought loop, but I'm starting to question whether those only arise when I'm nutritionally imbalanced.

As for the judgments I make, it's usually that I'd feel betrayed by a slut who lied about her past and feigned innocence. Sometimes an honest slut can be endearing, unless if they want to shove it down your throat all day. It's the lie to enhance my view of a girl that would make me feel ill towards that girl and not the promiscuity itself.

the_calibre_cat · 2018-04-05T21:45:59+00:00

I suppose my egalitarian sensibilities say "no," but my fear of being left alone would steer me away from a more promiscuous woman.

ummyourdaddy · 2018-04-05T22:11:16+00:00

All women are whores, unless provided with evidence to the contrary.

newName543456 · 2018-04-05T23:01:01+00:00

Most certainly. Everyone does. Difference is, they may keep their judgements to themselves.

[deleted] · 2018-04-05T23:37:44+00:00

I judge them but it’s not like I believe they should be persecuted or don’t deserve to be happy or whatever. I just know right away our views and values on sex are very different.

Entropy-7 · 2018-04-06T02:19:14+00:00

It is so contextual (and yes, we TRPers DO understand "nuance" and such) so there is no firm answer.

My general rule for any LTR is n=3 or less, but I have made an exception for one girl who self-admitted n=20+ because with some vetting she seemed to be otherwise quality.

As a man, it is not my job to reform "party girls" and I refuse to play BB after their AF days are over (I got my share of AF lays over the last decade or so, so no complaints really).

Now in my 50s I married a girl (age 33) who seems to have n=3.

prodigy2throw · 2018-04-06T03:35:27+00:00

That would be exhausting

ifelsedowhile · 2018-04-06T09:52:32+00:00

No, I don't. I consider myself a classic liberal in the JS Mills sense of the word. Everything an individual does that doesn't impact on society is ok. So sleeping around is ok as long as you don't have multiple children and then proceed to burden the welfare system as a single mother.
It's unfortunate that nowadays regressive leftists are labelling classic liberals as neo-nazi, it gives you a hint on how insane they have become.

wtknight · 2018-04-05T19:05:48+00:00

I judge that their personality isn’t compatible with mine. Other than that I don’t care what promiscuous women do.

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[deleted] · 2018-04-05T19:07:03+00:00

If someone lives their life in a way that does not jive with my prude Christian upbringing, I just figure they had different parents and therefore different values. Long ago I figured this. But if the woman is honestly damaged and displaying destructive patterns that is cause for pity.

MercedesBenzoAMG · 2018-04-05T20:08:21+00:00

Nope I don't judge. I even have friends who are escorts and don't judge them either. Couldn't care less. In fact they got the best stories.

I wouldn't LTR a slut but that's not because I morally judge them.

[deleted] · 2018-04-05T21:07:49+00:00

No.

[deleted] · 2018-04-05T21:15:54+00:00

No judgments at all. They're also usually more fun to hang out with and don't have the entitled princess complexes that more prudish women can get.

mistercheeez-o____O- · 2018-04-05T21:30:36+00:00

I judge the women who try and get men that aren't interested in them romantically with sex, and then turn round and conveniently use those failed attempts to condemn the men that are actually romantically interested in them with all of that baggage.

It's like, he's not getting any intimacy and also he has to deal with your bitterness, and then you play him, and you and your girls rationalize it like all men are bad, when it's abundantly clear that you value the chase more than you do a relationship. Just be honest, if you want to conquer heaps of strange dick, just flippin say so.

imjussayin43 · 2018-04-05T21:48:41+00:00

Yes. We all judge each other. It comes with the territory of biological evolution (ie assessing if someone is a boon bane or threat). As for what the judgements are it really boils down to two based solely on my attraction:

Indifference. If she isn't attractive to me. Because I wouldn't entertain the idea of companionship with her anyway.
Disdain. If she is attractive to me. Because now it's impossible to consider companionship since she's the town doorknob. Nobody wants to boo up with a slattern...

[deleted] · 2018-04-05T22:34:51+00:00

I don't judge them in any way except dating. I will not date a woman who gets around. Nothing personal just not the values I am looking for.

abaxeron · 2018-04-05T22:45:26+00:00

Pffff, I've got my own time and health to take care of.

I judge sluts after they become single moms of five and siphon my tax money out of the state like tomorrow's a dream, not before.

NalkaNalka · 2018-04-06T00:16:17+00:00

I judge them as someone I would probably be inviting to my next party. (and not necessarily because I plan to get into their pants, sluts tend to be more fun)

Unless they are doing something that offends my personal code of morality (theft, murder, intentionally fucking someone else's life up or trying to curtail people's freedom) then I don't really care what they do.

KrispyMcSockington · 2018-04-06T04:09:01+00:00

Notice? Maybe. Depends on her behavior.

Judge? Only in certain instances. Sluts are great for sex. They make themselves available to a lot of men. Someone's got to pop that dude's cherry, why not a slutty girl if he can't get a girlfriend?

When I judge? When a slut wants to 'reinvent' herself after riding the CC for years, realising she's not attracting good men anymore and wants a good man to take care of her. She treated herself as a sex object and now wants to be respected as something more. If a decent man is going to commit to her, he may want to know if she can handle being in a LTR and behaving like someone who is committed to their partner.

Bonus judgement if she wants to make the LTR guy 'wait' for sex with her. If she's lucky enough to get a decent guy after slutting it up, the least she can do is be as slutty for her LTR partner, especially if he is cool with her past. A man may want to know why she's increasing the price of sex after her youth has begun fading. It's like dishing out free rides to all comers then making people pay and increasing the cost of a ride the more mileage the car has.

Extra bonus judgement if she's a single mom with a list of ~~demands~~ traits she needs to bail her ass out of the bad decisions she made. It's ironic when a single mom says she's a moral person, won't put out easily and needs to be treated like a queen. Well, that kid you got tells us you put out easily before and now want to be respected after suffering the consequences. The irony is lost on them.

speed3_freak · 2018-04-06T04:14:06+00:00

I don't judge them, I feel bad for them. I still use them, but I it's like seeing someone that could be so much better of a person if they would just have a little more self esteem.

Kobe_curry24 · 2018-04-06T06:55:05+00:00

Yes of course why not it’s easier for them to gain attraction wayyy easier men have to work for every attraction we get . It’s harder for them to be loyal then to attract multiple partners

MisterJose · 2018-04-06T12:26:59+00:00

This goes back to the two possible dynamics of relationships:

First, the peer. Someone who is my peer and I relate to as a best bud who happens to be a woman. I could care less if she is slutty. First of all, we almost certainly would have had to bond on a shared perspective on sex. Second, I don't see her as cheapened by it because that's not connected to the manner in which I view her.

Second, the 'beautiful feminine flower'. This is relationship based mostly on gender roles and dynamics. Here, it definitely does matter, because her value and attractiveness are connected to how difficult she is to 'win'.

ganso_bum · 2018-04-06T13:42:08+00:00

Notice, no. You can't truly tell.

Judge, it depends. If she wants an LTR, yes I do judge, because that's a poor way of showing it and I think it makes any man she ends up with look like a sucker and chump. Otherwise, knock yourself out.

noksis · 2018-04-06T18:06:48+00:00

do not judge them - we all have our own choices. But would not date one for sure as it's below my standards.

winterrider · 2018-04-06T18:09:20+00:00

I don't care about a woman being a slut. One of my friends is a 7/10 who is a kind, thoughtful person and at the same time a huge freak and a huge slut. She is married but her marriage is open. Her body, her life, her decisions.

Now I would never seriously date or marry a woman like this myself. There is a difference between being friends and actually committing.

MGTOWtoday · 2018-04-06T20:33:22+00:00

Yes, and I think poorly of them.

MickDash · 2018-04-07T10:01:38+00:00

I dont judge them for the alpha fucks part but after giving it away to alpha chad they want beta brad to pay for it

SoupedSnake · 2018-04-08T03:15:15+00:00

I know I'm a bit late to the party, but in my personal and humble opinion it depends on the way a person handles it.

If she/he is beeing honest and upfront about it, then there is nothing really wrong with it, but if he/she pretends to be different but acts slutty, then, for me, there is a problem. In the recent months, I encoutered some women, who were in a relationship. A loving exclusive type of relationship and were cheating on their loving partners behind their backs. I'm not going to lie and pretend that these relationships were flawless, but instead of communicating with their partners, they chose to cheat on them. This is not okay and I'm openly going to judge the shit out of every person that does this, doesn't matter if that person is a man or a woman.

Priene · 2018-04-08T18:36:55+00:00

I judge men who judge women for having casual sex, with an air of outrage and hilarity to it all, because it baffles me how these guys want casual sex but at the same time call women who sleep outside of relationships sluts, and they want to have casual sex with women and then finding an attractive young woman with the lowest possible number of sexual partners because they are too good to marry ''sluts.''

Oh man, a psychologist would have a field day analyzing this sub.

circlingldn · 2018-04-18T15:04:57+00:00

no, i judge women for lying to men about not being promiscous

nothing wrong with being slutty and proud

Bruchibre · 2018-07-03T03:46:01+00:00

Yes I do notice and judge women for being promiscuous. But it would only affect me if I have or if a friend of mine has a romantic interest towards them.

belletaco · 2018-04-05T19:29:16+00:00

Nope, do ya thing. I love sluts, they're the most fun to go out with.

AstuteBlackMan · 2018-04-05T20:31:17+00:00

I don't know what you mean by notice but if I know a girls promiscuous I do judge(even though I judge everyone). It's more of a "damn. This really how you're living life? Alright"

Hopefully I answered your question.

JezebeltheQueen5656 · 2018-04-05T23:02:14+00:00

Ethical sluts are the best! Not giving a flying fuck about anyone's shitty opinion. They look after themselves first and foremost. And they are happy that way. Males want to be with them, women want to be them.

Callandoro · 2018-04-05T19:32:28+00:00

I do notice, I don’t judge

If I make any kind of judgment at all, it’s emotional/prerational, and converted into words it’s something like “oh, she’s broadcasting sex appeal, lets go find out if she’s receptive”

Title	Do you notice or judge women for being promiscuous?
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