Q4M: Is it possible for a hot girl to turn you off with her personality so much, that you don't even want to have sex with her?

WhatIsTheMeaningHere · 2019-07-02T06:00:02+00:00

Double yes? When you grow a spine you want to just choke the life out of some people, "hot women" included.

clawjelly · 2019-07-02T08:25:43+00:00

True story: Had a short affair with a beautiful black godess with what i'd consider a close to perfect body. Kicked her out after 3 weeks as she kept throwing tantrums when the world wasn't going her way. She was pretty stunned, seems like she never had that experience before.

reluctantly_red · 2019-07-02T06:24:31+00:00

YES! I"m not interested in having sex with any woman I actively dislike. If she isn't at least meh its a no go.

katymarx · 2019-07-02T06:44:50+00:00

No, not really. At best she can make me want to hate fuck her. Sex and affection/respect are two completely separate things in my mind

wub1234 · 2019-07-02T06:39:44+00:00

Most hot girls turn me off with their personalities.

Show an extent to which that would be possible, or whether you feel sex would be more/less/equally enjoyable as a result of your shifted perception of her character.

Sex would still be enjoyable, but I can't hang around with someone who is an idiot, who isn't even approaching my intellectual level. It's just not worth it.

I really think this is, and has been, a massive problem, because I'm as shallow as virtually all guys are when it comes to looks, but I've met many women who are nice looking, but with whom I had absolutely nothing in common whatsoever, with whom I felt absolutely no connection whatsoever, and consequently the idea of spending time with them was completely unappealing.

I envy guys that I see who seem to accept that they're men, and they like 'men things', and their partners are women, and they like 'women things', and that's just the way it is, and you just get on with life, try to stumble through conversation, talk about domestic stuff and your immediate lives, and have sex occasionally.

WestsideMoonWalker · 2019-07-02T06:45:03+00:00

Yes. There is a lot of stuff someone can do that would make me want to not even attempt to be around them. Lying, being a dick, having zero personality, rudeness, excessive loudness (loud personalities are bleh) etc. are all things that I would pass someone up for. I can find people better than that for myself.

Edit: tbh, being extroverted itself is a huge turn off to me. I literally just can't relate to people like that.

Reformedgufestus · 2019-07-02T07:09:01+00:00

Yes. The more uppity and vain you are the more I don't want to do anything with you.

HossMcDank · 2019-07-02T07:10:35+00:00

Yes, but it's different than what seems to happen with women -- I still feel sexually attracted, but I cannot in good conscience give in to her.

Eastuss · 2019-07-02T07:39:42+00:00

It just makes me want to hate fuck them instead.

CosmicBioHazard · 2019-07-02T07:53:08+00:00

I’ll step breifly into a hypothetical where I’m even after casual sex to begin with;

shit personality would be ideal as a layer of protection against getting attached; I mean, my reason for avoiding casual sex is for fear of that, so...

[deleted] · 2019-07-02T08:05:42+00:00

I'm as loser as you can get and yes I would walk away from those basic dumb chicks that talk like

"oh my gawd, Chrissy, like shut up I can't even. OMG goals girl"

Any woman who talks like that. Also any woman who whose only hobbies are shopping, travelling and instagram/social media I would rather jerk off into a sock and be forced to wear it the next day.

PM_Happy_Puppy_Pics · 2019-07-02T08:52:45+00:00

I have been with women of low value and extremely hot women, one girl I have had sex with and dated was definitely a super high-class woman. She had a good family, wealth, good looks, stellar body, and she was so damn cute and feminine. She had everything, and she was also really affectionate and great at sex and kissing and hugging. But you know why I am not with her? She had all kinds of insecurity and a need for people in society to accept her. So even though I was great for her in every way, she didn't like that some people criticized that I wasn't as attractive as she is, and let's be real, she was and still is, 6 years later, a bombshell.

Her personality was not shitty, it was just that she was so influenced by other people. She craved a high social status because that's what people expected of her. She keeps going after guys who could be male models or literally a 6'4 doctor with a chiseled jaw, but they all treat her like shit. Guys who are in the top 1% have their choices of women, so a 38-year-old, gorgeous as fuck sweet woman has no chance against 22-year-old Stacy or Denise who will cut their wrists for these guys if they wanted.

barbodelli · 2019-07-02T12:41:44+00:00

I don't think anyone would truly "not have sex with them". People keep saying that but I honestly don't believe that.

I think they are really saying is that they wouldn't go out of their way to pursue such a person. If she was throwing herself at them. Personality would play much less of a factor.

That is my opinion.

_Neon_Shadow_ · 2019-07-02T12:47:57+00:00

God, yes! There's no amount of pretty that will make up for a shitty personality. Any guy that says otherwise is a complete simp or has no experience with women.

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Tealllane · 2019-07-02T07:45:42+00:00

I've told multiple women others found attractive that I fucking hate them and what I hate about them. I'm straight up with people, even if it might turn out not so great for me.

zayelion · 2019-07-02T08:01:49+00:00

Yes, but it can flip back around into a hate fuck situation.

HottentotGenius · 2019-07-02T08:08:23+00:00

It depends on how her shit her personality is. I've put my dick in quite a few terrible women over the years

rogicar · 2019-07-02T08:57:19+00:00

Nope; given that this is a hypothetical without many real life factors. The only change I'd make if I do hate her is after I smash her, and I'd only call her back to fuck again.

In real life though, I'd have to put in effort to get to the point of smashing her that I wouldn't see being worth it if I do hate her.

undeadko · 2019-07-02T08:58:41+00:00

Are you kidding? This is the reason I do not date "the hot girls"! I say "Hi" to them and their responses are usually so over the top that it is annoying. Sometimes you watch her gestures for 5 minutes and you simply know it in your guts that you will not be able to tolerate this human being. So I do not even ask them out. Please spare me the "you do not know her" speech. This is similar to loud chewing. You just know that it is simply a matter of time to kill them in their sleep. /s for all of you psychopaths who think people are serious when they say stuff like that.

The_Frag_Man · 2019-07-02T09:26:12+00:00

If she had a ugly personality it would turn me off.

FairlyNaive · 2019-07-02T09:52:31+00:00

Hate fuck is a thing

The_Lone_Apple · 2019-07-02T10:07:01+00:00

There are plenty of women who I find attractive to not put up with those who have personalities that are negative or nasty. For example, you couldn't pay me enough money to want to even talk to Ivanka Trump. I don't care about her politics or her father, just that she comes across as an empty shell of a human. I have no interest no matter how attractive she seems.

statsfodder · 2019-07-02T10:07:15+00:00

You don't fuck their personality... spending time with them, that would be a different story. I have fucked a few smoke shows cause they had hot bodies but I didn't "call the next day" because they had shitty personalities.

The-Wizard-of-Oz- · 2019-07-02T10:22:21+00:00

wtffellification · 2019-07-02T10:25:09+00:00

even if a woman is natural stunner, too much makeup alone can be... too much (too much makeup tends to tell you things about one’s personality)

EmpoweredGirl · 2019-07-02T11:14:09+00:00

100%, sometimes even before they've finished a sentence if I can tell they're basic. It disturbs me so bad that I am sexually more into normal looking full of character women over basics that make me lose a hard on faster than sonic runs the 100m. Main reason being I'm greedy and can get both hotness and character :D

throwthrowaway919 · 2019-07-02T11:15:15+00:00

Absolutely - yes. I've done it before. I know atleast 10+ girls that are insanely hot but they make me throw up.

[deleted] · 2019-07-02T11:34:48+00:00

Hatefucking is a thing but I dont know how long I'd keep It up

[deleted] · 2019-07-02T12:07:55+00:00

From fucking her? No, not at all. It’s a hookup, I don’t even have to like the person. If she is extremely hot, what do I care?

[deleted] · 2019-07-02T12:09:25+00:00

Absolutely, but the more I talk to people online the more I realize I'm a special case.

[deleted] · 2019-07-02T12:16:19+00:00

Yes, I dont want to deal with shitty people. I wouldnt want to eat a rotten burger even if the wrapper was laced with gold.

wtknight · 2019-07-02T12:38:23+00:00

All the time. I consider personality a main, but not the most important, component of what makes a woman sexually attractive. I seem to differ a lot from other guys in this sense, as many men can fuck an attractive woman like she is an object rather than a person.

CamoWoobie10000 · 2019-07-02T12:45:08+00:00

No. The only way it would matter is if she was intolerable and I had to devote a decent amount of time into getting sex. If it was just straight up STR then pretty much nothing would stop be from wanting to smash if she's hot. I would fuck Andrea Dworkin if she was a hot 18 year old. And i fucking HATE feminists more than anything else in this world.

DREADC0RSAIR · 2019-07-02T12:57:32+00:00

Being intiatily attracted to women then being turned off after getting to know them is a daily thing for me

analt223 · 2019-07-02T12:57:51+00:00

Honestly, probably not

SkookumTree · 2019-07-02T13:32:59+00:00

Yes, no shit, has happened to me many times.

[deleted] · 2019-07-02T13:37:48+00:00

Yes.

Men can put up with a lot of shit from a woman, if she's hot enough.

Her personality can be so grating, so offputting, and so annoying that her looks and body and the prospect of sex with her aren't worth it. For example, she spends all her time with you, next to you, playing with her phone. She texts others. She talks to others on the phone. She responds to email/texts. Or, she has nothing interesting to say at all. She isn't interested in anything, she doesn't know anything about anything, and has no intellectual curiosity about anything at all. Or, she's a total bitch right off the bat. She's rude to you, to the restaurant/bar staff, to other people around you. And some women can be all three.

Those are examples of how a hot girl's personality can be so ugly that it's not worth putting up with to try to fuck her.

Shadow_Of_ · 2019-07-02T14:29:19+00:00

I still want to smash I just don't want to live with her

pnadlerlaw · 2019-07-02T14:34:09+00:00

Is this a serious question? I guess it is.

After 22, I personally felt my interest in sex practically disappear. After 28, I would rather play Sudoku on my phone than have sex. I would rather jerk off than have sex. Now, women can get all defensive like, “Oh, that’s a problem, that’s not how it’s supposed to be, etc.” Those are my preferences, and those are the preferences for a lot of guys over 30. So, yes, it’s perfectly fine.

So, in terms of how “powerful” or “strong” the appeal of sex is after late 20s or 30, it’s something you’ll do out of boredom, or when you’re feeling loving and affectionate with your partner, but it’s NOWHERE NEAR OR CLOSE to the passionate zealous lust frenzy of 15-17, or even the playfully thirsty level it was at 18-21. After 22, you can feel the drop. The “value” sex holds for you is already pretty low.

I remember when I was 21/22, I was dating this Columbian girl. She was 29. She was objectively hot and hypersexual, and had the curiosity appeal of the whole younger guy older woman thing going on. The sex was nothing phenomenal, as it rarely was from 22 and onwards. I was just not into sex anymore, but I sort of had to be if I wanted to be in a relationship. I remember we were in a lounge one day and she was telling me, “I’m just not into work. It’s not for me. I’d rather you work and I can be at home, wearing sexy outfits when you get back.” In her mind, she had me under her spell. In my mind, that was the moment I decided to break up with her. It wouldn’t happen right there and then, but that was the moment.

Then, there was this girl from my high school. We met again around 21/22. She was one of the hot girls in high school, and unlike the rest of her friends, she had a bad break up in college, worked on her body, and was now more toned and fit, dressed sexier, and just looked and overall presented herself better than she was when she was in high school. And again, she was like one of the top 3 “hot girls” in high school, so, the sex appeal was there. After a night of drinking, she “needed to lay down” somewhere. So I took her to my father’s office, which was very close by. There was a vary large and deep couch in his office - I used to sleep there all the time. So, I told her, go take a nap, and when you feel better, I’ll take you home. She tried sleeping for like 5mins before she suggested that I come sleep next to her on the couch. I obviously understood what was happening, but I wasn’t comfortable with it at all.

Best way I can explain it is, she was very tipsy, almost drunk, maybe faking how tipsy she was. That alone didn’t make me feel comfortable or right. Then, all we did was hang out. Other than us being attractive and maybe attracted to each other, we didn’t really have any kind of connection or closeness. We didn’t really flirt at all. I didn’t really feel any kind of spark or chemistry. And that’s sort of my pre-requisite to having sex with someone. It’s not that she was a bad person or had a bad personality. She just had no personality. She was a rubber stamp of a hot girl. And I just didn’t feel comfortable being the kind of guy who sticks his dick into and fucks girls who have no real substance to them. I always thought of my dick as a cultural or intellectual vampire. My having sex, I was connecting (in a way) with the person. If that person was this hollow beautiful shell of a person, and I accepted having sex with such a person, then I always felt that that would (in a way) become a part of who I was as well.

Lastly, this Greek girl I was dating. I think she was 19, and I was 23. Beautiful face, beautiful voice, hyperfeminine, beautiful legs and style. She said she was a virgin (at 19). So, right off the bat, red flag 🚩. Then, the way she spoke about sex was always with excitement, but some kind of fear or anxiety. I think we dated for 2-3 weeks, and her actions just didn’t match her words. She had a very expressive fact and was very giddy and giggly, but when it came to touch, she wasn’t very comfortable touching me, she didn’t make an effort to get close to me physically, even though we would spend hours talking on the phone and in person, and see each other like 2-3 times a week. So, the degree of nervous, inexperienced, and “shy” she was was just a complete turn off for me. With a different personality, she would have made a dream lay. Found her years later on LinkedIn. Omg, I was totally right. She looks like Newt Gingrich (if he was a woman on her late 20s that looked like a very young looking 40 year old). Helmet ⛑ hair. Cake face. Like a fucking 1970s telephone receptionist in the USSR.

ColCrin · 2019-07-02T14:40:01+00:00

Yes, if she's a massive cunt I'd only want distance from her.

the_calibre_cat · 2019-07-02T14:53:54+00:00

Yeah, i was drunk and hanging out with this girl at a bar and we really hit it off so I angled to try for that again. I was more sober the second time we started hanging out, though, and... I decided she's... kind of as dumb as a box of rocks. Hot, but stupid. Anti-vax, doesn't believe in the moon landings, etc like sorry I just can't.

joyinhibitoractivate · 2019-07-02T14:54:31+00:00

Yes. It isn't that hard to control your cock.

dicklord_airplane · 2019-07-02T14:57:17+00:00

Yeah, but it was a lot harder to resist when i was younger and desperate for sex and validation.

ohheyhi99 · 2019-07-02T16:52:35+00:00

Hell yeah.

gunbusterxl · 2019-07-02T16:54:59+00:00

I don't do one night stands, so... yeah. I don't date girls I don't like.

Overcast30 · 2019-07-02T16:56:58+00:00

In my experience it just infuriates me to a point where we have really aggressive sex and then I kick her out. Personality is definitely a make or break situation in a romantic relationship. But with my 20 year old sex drive, it’s not going to stop me from getting my dick wet with some annoying basic girl. Plus she’s not going to be annoying with my dick in her mouth.

darudeboysandstorm · 2019-07-02T17:00:30+00:00

Yea, sometimes they are hot but have zero ability to act sexy in any way. You go to have sex with them and it doesnt work out. You ever have someone death grip your dick so hard it feels like its about to snap?

Mattcwu · 2019-07-02T17:55:02+00:00

When I was 17-22, no. After that, yes.

usegao · 2019-07-02T19:05:59+00:00

no. but if she farts its game over.

Zorc_the_Pork · 2019-07-02T19:33:40+00:00

Yes! There is a smoking hot Asian girl at my work. Shed is 5’10, a runner with legs for days. She has a “little girl” voice that absolutely shrivels my unit. I can’t take high pitched little girl voice!

Thounumber1 · 2019-07-02T20:16:01+00:00

Yes. Exhibiting some behaviours that PUAs commonly talk about, like having a "bitch-shield" or doing weird "shit tests" (not talking about teasing here) would be a turn off to me. According to mark manson, if you sleep with a bitch, it's not a good thing. You need to have strong boundaries and not involve yourself with people like that.

Impressive_Client · 2019-07-02T22:04:37+00:00

Yes. Too religious and/or racist.

Raii-v2 · 2019-07-02T22:49:48+00:00

Nope, because her personality will not make my dick hard. Hell I might have more fun fucking someone I hate just to bask in that kind of energy in the moment

“Still beat”

MisterJose · 2019-07-03T00:49:01+00:00

Yes, and I would suggest that even some people who might not answer yes to this when jerking off at home would, in fact, answer yes when actually confronted with that person. I've seen the nerdiest dude in the world simultaneously wish he could have a girlfriend, and be like 'ugh, here she comes, let me hide' to some other not-physically-unattractive girl.

praisethesun799 · 2019-07-03T02:48:14+00:00

If it's just sex, I don't even see the point in bringing personality into it lol It would probably be hate-sex if she's truly annoying, but I can't imagine a personality so terrible that I'd turn down a quick bang , how is personality even relevant in this case ? 🙄

Nobodykers · 2019-07-03T10:02:41+00:00

I wouldnt have sex with Belle delphine in a million years.

I'm lying, i totally would.

[deleted] · 2019-07-04T19:04:02+00:00

Happens quite frequently.

Pastelitomaracucho · 2019-07-05T03:54:15+00:00

Man, absolutely. I won't last more than 2 minutes next to a rude, dumb woman, no matter how hot.

Cunari · 2019-07-06T15:21:15+00:00

Even if she was trying to kill me or maim me I would go through with it and defend myself

MDMCrab · 2019-07-07T20:12:05+00:00

Definitely.

TheJim66 · 2019-07-02T07:25:40+00:00

I would fuck a hot serial killer.

Hatefucks are a thing.

Tyler_Gatsby · 2019-07-02T10:26:39+00:00

Yes, pretty much every woman who is a "9" is a safe bet to being at least borderline inhuman. Social media has ruined her psyche, and is likely the sum all of who she is. Everything revolves around representing or adding to that, and her brand. She's highly likely to be a very self centered, horrible person.

Title	Q4M: Is it possible for a hot girl to turn you off with her personality so much, that you don't even want to have sex with her?
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Date	July 2, 2019 5:46 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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