UPDATE; my fiancé cheated on me while drunk

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December 22, 2019
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Being drunk is no excuse. It only helps us do the stuff we want to do when sober. I’ve blocked her and told our friends and family that the wedding is off. It was the most humiliating thing I’ve ever had to do but everyone has been supportive. The bitch has been trying to call my mother. She has no shame. Here’s to spinning plates for the next year minimum.


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Title UPDATE; my fiancé cheated on me while drunk
Author throwawayaccou1989
Upvotes 569
Comments 213
Date 22 December 2019 05:18 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/302614
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/ee7epw/update_my_fiancé_cheated_on_me_while_drunk/
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[–]Endorsed Contributor: "The Court Jester"GayLubeOil661 points662 points  (7 children) | Copy

Well I guess you saved a lot of money and a painful divorce. Happy holidays to you!

[–]MisterMarbles1988280 points281 points  (2 children) | Copy

best Christmas EVER

[–]Qba199460 points61 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fuck yeah!

[–]volvostupidshit48 points49 points  (0 children) | Copy

OP can't see it yet because he is still hurting but the moment he recovers he is going to thank whatever god he believes in that this happened to him.

[–]DiskKiller216 points17 points  (1 child) | Copy

This. Congratulations, OP. You could have gone through an expensive-yet-useless ceremony in front of all your friends and family and the public humiliation of divorce thereafter. Additionally, you would have had to say goodbye to a big chuck of your material possessions. Never make the same mistake again!

P.S. in the years to come, you are likely to run into your ex sometime, somewhere. Sad, bitter and desperate. Only then will you truly realize the bullet you’ve dodged.

[–]devilslittlehelper4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

This. Breaking up and calling off the wedding is nowhere as humilianting as the full one bullshit wedding ceremony would be.

[–]alphabachelor22 points23 points  (0 children) | Copy

Late to the party but exactly this.

All alcohol does is remove inhibitions and amplifies one's true personality.

That's why guys who are assholes beat their women or sluts cheat on their men when drunk. Bullet dodged.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Years!

[–]KrissVectorEOC337 points338 points  (57 children) | Copy

Not humiliating at all. You've gained respect from everyone by doing this. Self respect moreso. What does she think your mother will do? Force you to marry her? She's delusional. Use that money for yourself. Push through and hang in there.

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[–]Protocol_Apollo145 points146 points  (11 children) | Copy

If your mum truly believes her, keep frame and re-iterate some of the previously said comments (she shouldn’t need you to argue/defend yourself but women aren’t always logical you know).

Just remember:

She CHEATED when she was ENGAGED (can’t think of a worser time).

Nothing can forgive/change that.

[–]Hamster_S_Thompson80 points81 points  (9 children) | Copy

if your mom truly believes her

Then soft next your mom

[–]Rage815043 points44 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ruthless but fair.

[–]4Sammich22 points23 points  (4 children) | Copy

You say that in jest, but there's a lot of fellas that need to do just that if for nothing more then to disconnect from the female negativity she may be imparting on him.

[–]Hamster_S_Thompson28 points29 points  (2 children) | Copy

Nah. I'm serious. Some mothers are toxic

[–]thechaosz0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Only if you let them be

[–]Hamster_S_Thompson0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

There is not much you can do to change your parents, realistically. If you are unlucky to have shitty ones, not being affected by their disfunction is a huge accomplishment already.

[–]PhaedrusHunt13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

My mom kept getting on my nerves always talking to me about psychics and angels and numerology. I mean it's annoying and a little bit I could handle but this would be the only thing she want to talk about every time we had a conversation. I told her I was tired of it and to stop doing it stop sending me horoscopes she kept it up. I blocked her on social media phone number email everything. a month later I hit her back and asked if she understood that I was serious about this.

She never brought it up again

[–]elios_albicoca18 points19 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lmao

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

...And spin more moms.

[–]SilentlyCrimson4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

This but unironically. My mother is the most toxic woman I've met.

[–]bionix9011 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

I agree with you 99%, I'd just like to chime in purely for argument's sake that if she was pregnant with OP's child that would be worse.

[–]Black_Jesup80 points81 points  (3 children) | Copy

More like she's trying to do damage control on her reputation. Don't be surprised if you wind up being "at fault" when she's done.

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[–]furcryingoutloud42 points43 points  (1 child) | Copy

First of all, she didn't cheat. She was doing fine, she fell, there was a dick laying there, and she used it to break her fall. No malice was ever intended or implied.

Second, it was his fault that she fell in the first place, and further his fault for not making sure that when she did fall, there were no dicks anywhere in the vicinity she could inadvertently fall on.

Let's go for a third one shall we? After she inadvertently fell on this strange dick, which could have totally been avoided if HE had been attentive and present when she needed him, he treated her like a whore, which she isn't, evidenced by the first and second points where she rightfully claims she is not at fault.

See? There you have a woman's perspective on every single mistake she ever makes. Well, a lot of people do this, not just women, but since we're on the topic...

[–]2319Skew22 points23 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's scary how accurate this satire is.

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[–]NoMoreUncontrollable28 points29 points  (3 children) | Copy

That's fucked up

[–]abhi_0712 points13 points  (2 children) | Copy

I second this

[–]its_going_down_5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

I third this

[–]putconfac5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

I fourth this

[–]PhaedrusHunt17 points18 points  (3 children) | Copy

Holy shit that's brutal man. How old were you at the time? Do you still have anything to do with your brother? He was just a kid and being 14 and having some pussy come right at you is a hard thing to say no to but still

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[–]PhaedrusHunt12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

You've got PTSD and not just from that but from growing up with a very toxic family brother.

Look at the man that they were asking you to be . If you had taken her back you would have been a shell of a man. That's what they want. That's toxic. growing up in that type of a household definitely will lead to PTSD on its own let alone going through some mega-cheating like that.

My family is similar

[–]Hamster_S_Thompson6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Shit. That's brutal.

[–]Sylvester_Sterone6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Jesus. Sounds like statutory rape

[–]silvereddi6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Wtfff?!

[–]HurricaneHugues5 points6 points  (7 children) | Copy

Your 14 year old brother? How old were you and your wife? How did you find out? What did your brother say when you found out? What was the argument the families were using to coerce you into taking that hoe back?

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[–]MillionaireSexbomb8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Where’s your dad in this? Sounds like you just have to throw the whole family away. Sorry to hear you went through this, hope shit continues to improve.

[–]HurricaneHugues4 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy

That's what's up. What about your brother? You still talk to him?

[–]immortal_wound-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

Very unlikely. But we still talk, just not the way we use to.

[–]HurricaneHugues0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Ok

[–]HurricaneHugues0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Ok

[–]YoungManHHF0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You've made it thru that's all that matters

[–]devilslittlehelper1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

What..??

[–]OracleofFl80 points81 points  (7 children) | Copy

I have an idea: Call her mother and return the favor. Explain to her that her daughter cheated on you and the wedding is off. I think she will experience humiliation on a much higher level than you are feeling it now.

[–]amrit21chandi27 points28 points  (0 children) | Copy

Better yet tell both of her parents. Her dad would feel the same humiliation as you felt. And IF she had a good relationship with her parents then she might learn a lesson.

[–]Ill_mumble_that35 points36 points  (2 children) | Copy

Better yet, call her mother and invite her over, then have sex with the mom. Bonus points if you invite your ex fiance over so she arrives just as her mom is leaving. Don't kiss and tell, just let her wonder about it for the rest of her life.

[–]Jugurthajones8724 points25 points  (0 children) | Copy

Galaxy Brain: have sex with her mom AND her dad, and tell her the wedding’s back on

[–]PhaedrusHunt6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Make sure to wear two condoms

[–]dtyler8615 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy

I second this ^

[–]mrrooftops2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

She'll just claim you were abusive and forced her to with your actions. to save face with her family. Blood is thicker than water, her mom will believe her and will probably call the cops or something

[–]Yashugan0014 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

and that is what the women's circle has always been: PR Agent for women. smooth that shit over, get the flock moving. they are the sheep herder dogs. check out Anatomy of Female power

[–]oldslut13 points14 points  (1 child) | Copy

great job op. we're rooting for you. stay committed--do not for one second consider taking that slut back. you will get many that tell you that you should try to rectify this. stupid shit like, pair counseling, and friends that say she deserves another chance. fuck all of them--she doesn't deserve shit.

[–]KrissVectorEOC8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's your choice. Only person to convince is you. Stand strong

[–]professor_mcamateur1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Jesus said go and sin no more. Forgiveness isn't something you should be expected to give a bride-to-be for f*vking around before the wedding. I feel like a lot of dumb thots think of forgiveness this way, which is fine for them until they realize there is no way out for most dumb thots.

[–]1matrixtospartanatLV1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

If you do take this lying, cheating, whore back, you deserve every fucked up thing she does to you for the rest of your life.

You have been given a gift.

ACCEPT it.

[–]readical8727 points28 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah to this one ⬆️. There is nothing humiliating by calling the wedding off. What would be humiliating is if you had taken her back and marry her. It would be like having a pile of shit on top of your head and proudly going around town.

[–]redpillcad3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

TIhis is a great comment. OP should flip the script and rather than be ashamed that the bitch cheated as if it implies he is weak and lacking but that he is a world weary pimp who knows Hos lie and cheat and when one does it to him then she is gone

Id tell everyone this. Wear your DGAF like a badge of honor

[–]RevolutionaryPea70 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She hopes she can stay friends with the family and make him the enemy. This is a classic female play.

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[–]muricanwerewolf121 points22 points  (0 children) | Copy

Most people can empathize. It’s not about what happened to you, it’s how you handle it.

[–]KrissVectorEOC7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Because he's taking it back. Therefore gaining by his response.

[–]Protocol_Apollo94 points95 points  (6 children) | Copy

Good, from your replies, I genuinely thought you were gonna go through with the wedding.

Glad you didn’t.

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[–]Enlightened_Chimp69 points70 points  (0 children) | Copy

Stand firm with your decision. It is the right one

[–]2INNASKILLZ2K188 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Nah, never let that shit go. You train people (especially women) how to treat you.

Letting this go sends someone a message that it's ok to totally fuck you over.

She'll feel bad, guilty, and want to get back together. But would she feel bad about the incident, or bad that she got caught?

There is an abundance of women out there. This one wasn't special.

[–]DerpJungler7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

And for your own sanity, stop posting on "relationshipadvice" or "askreddit".

You did the right thing now get on with your life and stay away from oneitis. She's no unicorn.

[–]MillionaireSexbomb2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

You control other people’s actions by what you tolerate in your life and enforcing those boundaries when they are crossed. That’s the only way you can control external actions towards you. That’s your sphere of control. You did the right thing. Letting it go would mean you tolerate that kind of behavior and she will continue to do it. People who want to be a part of your life will live within those boundaries or they just aren’t part of it. You choose who you want in your life for the most part.

[–]MisterMarbles198888 points89 points  (0 children) | Copy

CONGRATULATIONS to you my man!! Your actions reflect huge amounts of self-respect and a good head on your shoulders. Good things coming your way, brother. Merry Christmas!

[–]theUnBannableHulk51 points52 points  (2 children) | Copy

Brother, well done.

You need to take time and relax do not jump into fucking other girls unless that’s what will help you get over her then fuck as many as you can.

understand that a woman who cheated on you is not a reflection on you, she’s like a dog chasing its own tail, when a dog is chasing its own tail, it doesn’t make you less of a man, it just means you own a dog 🐕

And merry Christmas, I don’t know if you believe in God, but think of it as a gift from God to help you dodge a bullet

[–]Yashugan0012 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

this. she's had her chance. you proposed. she fucked it up. hard next. if she bothers you, tell her you'll talk to her parents to explain. you know, to be helpful to her. she'll disappear most likely

[–]Snowaey3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

🐕🐕🐕🐕🐕

[–]farttmistress85 points86 points  (22 children) | Copy

I don’t take women very serious in general, but women who get drunk regularly are the low low end of the “I’m going to take this seriously” totem pole.

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[–]himanshudash79 points80 points  (0 children) | Copy

She is trying to guilt trip you into marriage.

[–]Protocol_Apollo112 points113 points  (1 child) | Copy

She wants to die.. (right now).

She’s calling your mum... (right now).

She’s regretting it... (right now).

Just know eventually she’ll move on and you’ll just be a distant memory (most likely).

Keep frame and watch the storm pass.

[–]flatox57 points58 points  (0 children) | Copy

She doesn't regret it, she regrets OP finding out about it.

[–]Bascome39 points40 points  (0 children) | Copy

Translation: "I wish you didn't catch me."

[–]Fram50234 points35 points  (4 children) | Copy

If she threatens to kill herself, phone the police. It’s a serious claim and will be embarrassing if she’s just saying it for attention

[–]empatheticapathetic29 points30 points  (1 child) | Copy

I wouldn’t involve the police. Who knows what she’ll say and what white knight police officer will do her bidding.

[–]RevolutionaryPea70 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Nah, the police will turn up to yet another female attention seeker instead of being where they are really needed.

[–]Yashugan0013 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

oh, wait till she starts with the suicide threats.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

I promise you this was not a one off. Nor a first

[–]porkmissiles7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Classic borderline personality disorder. You have dodged a very serious bullet my man.

[–]Snowaey2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

She should, you deserve better my guy.

[–]TDCRedPill2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

So wrap up a small box of 9mm rounds to give her for a last Xmas gift.

[–]porkmissiles1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hahahaha savage!

[–]666Evo0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

saying she wants to die

She doesn't actually want to die. She just wants you to believe that.

Emotional manipulation 101.

[–]DiskKiller20 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Block! No use to even see the messages.

[–]Hungboy69694206 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

They're pump n dumps. And this is most women

[–]Darknessblinds1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Interesting, what do you exactly mean

[–]kellykebab0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah a fiancee who is getting drunk without you is not a great marriage candidate in the first place.

[–]pinymax65 points66 points  (1 child) | Copy

Good news that she did it before the wedding - saves a lot of money and emotions, happy for you bro! What's your next plan?

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev66 points67 points  (10 children) | Copy

Update: Your fiancee is a drunk whore. You should also rethink marriage in general. But hey, that's up to you.

Sorry this shit happened to you, bro. Things will get less sucky over time.

[–]pinymax2 points3 points  (9 children) | Copy

btw what's your point of view about the marriage?

(and do you speak Russian?)

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev21 points22 points  (6 children) | Copy

I'm a deal guy and, at this time in history, marriage is a shit deal for men. Why? Because one party (hint: not you) can withdraw freely from her obligations at any time because she changed her mind, while you get to pay up to 40% of your gross, in alimony/child support (for which there is, again, no accountability on her side).

Given the current divorce rate, the there is basically a 53% chance that you will wind up paying a woman to fuck other guys and teach your kids to hate you.

I'm happy for people who can be married and stay married and be happy, but I look at it as an institution, and think, "Why would I do that to myself?"

About Russian, I'm Russian on my mom's side (Anglo-Irish on dad's) and her family used it as an "adult" language, so my Russian is pretty basic, and ungrammatical. That said when I am in the ancient Rodina, I converse in Russian as much as English, but my Russian is "conversational" at best.

[–]trpppp1232 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Considering marriage is a shit deal, what about having kids? How does one raise kids in an environment with an LTR when cohabiting is the same thing as marriage nowadays?

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dunno. I don’t have kids. I’m agnostic on them. And you don’t have to be married to have them.

[–]pinymax1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

What about the prenup?

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

Depends on your jurisdiction. They work in some and not in others, but they have to be equitable and not a giant screw over of the other party. Plus child support isn’t “pre-nuppable”.

Go to YouTube and search on “Divorce Corp” which is a documentary hosted by Dr. Drew.

[–]HurricaneHugues1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

"I'm happy for people who can be married and stay married and be happy"

Ignorance is bliss. I'd say 90% of marriages is cheating and dirty games. Most dudes being blue pill just don't know the signs

[–]DickMystery0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Even worse story here, a family member of my mom was mostly a stay at home dad while his wife worked a good job and had a decent earnings. She decided to divorce him, not let him see the children anymore AND he has to pay alimony as far as I know.

[–]Adorable_FecalSpray13 points14 points  (1 child) | Copy

You must be new here...

Read a couple of his posts, easy enough to pick up what he thinks of marriage.

[–]RanaMahal2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

yeah i was gonna say lmao. RP made me never want to get married. ever. my entire family is on board with the RP train now too including all 3 of my aunts who basically said “bitches be crazy” and told me it’s good i don’t wanna get married.

i’ll be spending the rest of my life travelling 🤙🏾

it helps that i’ve got 5 baby cousins between my 2 aunts and it feels like i’ve got kids basically lol

[–]GenericImperialFist28 points29 points  (4 children) | Copy

Just read your story. I like the idea that when you unblocked her, she was already grinning deviously, thinking about her inevitable victory and how she would be in control again ... and then came the RedPill-Division and nuked everything from orbit.

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[–]ashwani265912 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy

Reddit - Changing people's life from across the globe. TM

[–]volvostupidshit16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's The Red Pill, not reddit. Reddit is trying to censor us.

[–]OracleofFl17 points18 points  (0 children) | Copy

What you are experiencing is not humiliation. Humiliation is taking her back and then being known as and talked about as the cuck whose wife cheated on him when they were engaged and that took her back.

[–]Snowaey15 points16 points  (3 children) | Copy

Well thank god you found out she was a whore BEFORE you married her!

Now keep improving and get a higher quality woman.

[–]red_matrix6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Now keep improving and get a higher quality woman.

At his age, in this day and age, do high quality women even exist...or are they all unicorns?

[–]TRP VanguardHumanSockPuppet1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Well thank god you found out she was a whore BEFORE you married her!

Now keep improving and get train a higher quality woman.

Slight fix.

[–]Snowaey0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Right, my bad, actually re-read your post a couple days ago, I should've known better lol

[–]TheDero10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

Just imagine the situation if you went through with the marriage and found her fucking another guy with a ring on. I know words don't help much, but you did the right thing. Alchohol is a social lubricant for most, she showed her true intentions.

Pour yourself into your hobbies, get in the best shape of your life, and spin plates like you said. Stay strong brotha

[–]strongsovereign9 points10 points  (2 children) | Copy

You just saved yourself so much time. As I stated in your previous post, if you thought that she would have never swindled you again, you would be deceiving yourself.

You learned a grating lesson and I'm sure it will propel you upwards. I don't think you'll ever regard women the same after such a disastrous state of affairs.

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[–]Bascome7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

I am over 50, never married and I have a great life. You can do it!

[–]dzkkne9 points10 points  (2 children) | Copy

Get that ring back and sell it. That’s what I did and was the best decision.

Broke up with my gf/fiancé of 8 years a few years back

[–]throwawayaccou19895 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

Why did you break up?

[–]dzkkne23 points24 points  (0 children) | Copy

I didn’t have proof of her cheating, but I found out that she lied to me about her whereabouts after a night out with girls (she ended up at some guys house and got back at 5am saying she was looking after her girl friend who was sick)

That broke trust we had and I didn’t really care if she cheated or not. Best thing that happened to me for my own development. Happy it worked out that way.

I hold no grudge and still talk to her. She begged me to get back together etc but I was basically honest with her - as much as I like her as a person etc this is not what I want from a relationship and that we should both move on and that she is going to be fine.

I got the ring back from her, sold it and went on a big 2 month ski trip.

[–]Jugurthajones8716 points17 points  (1 child) | Copy

This guy’s a troll. Go back to the beginning of his post history, where he talks about resenting his fiancée six months ago because of her promiscuous past, and now he’s telling us she’s a sexually shy conservative who’s only been with two guys before him.

He deleted all of his previous op’s but you can see from the responses he’s gotten that he’s giving out different stories.

Go back to fapping to cuck porn, you masochistic phaggot.

[–]Endorsed Contributorbalalasaurus1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

This needs to be higher up the page.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good call. The thought of her doing it again will always be in the back of your mind if you went on with that wedding.

[–]The1ndex7 points8 points  (6 children) | Copy

Hey man. I assume you had feelings for her, since you were going to marry her. Just know that this betrayal is going to sting and you may go through a rollercoaster of emotions for the next few months. It will get better. Spinning plates, and hitting the gym hard will help.

[–]drevil_4 points5 points  (5 children) | Copy

This. The next few months are gonna be extremely hard you’re going to 2nd guess yourself several times. If you haven’t blocked her, this is a critical step in your recovery because she will keep blowing you up and you will inevitably slip up and let her back in. Block immediately and stay strong brother, we all got your back here.

[–]himanshudash19 points20 points  (1 child) | Copy

I would suggest you to go to honeymoon alone. And fuck a girl or two on that honeymoon bed.

[–]Whitefarmer7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

I didn’t think you were going to bail !! Good job my man!!

[–]Sylvester_Sterone6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

She did you a favor brother. No excuses and good for you for not taking her back.

Have a great holiday!

[–]Corvus_Uraneus6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sorry that happened to you, but a last moment bullet dodge is still a bullet dodge.

Don't let anyone's shaming tactics weaken your resolve.

[–]D3ADM0US3336 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fuck yea bro, use the money to invest in something/yourself. Best christmas gift ever

[–]ArcangeloPT5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

All the best to you my man. And huge respect for you. Most men wouldn’t even fathom taking a step back once everything’s arranged. This was a massive boost to your self-respect which was obviously on point already. Happy Holidays and good vibes to you.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (4 children) | Copy

Congrats on being a man with principles. Nothing humiliating here. The wall is looming over her drunken shameless ass, desperation is her motto now. Pretend that she doesn't exist and see that creature's humiliation. Tell your relatives to block this cheating half brained whore. You are lucky for finding out the truth about her before committing.

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[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Money is almost infinite, time is not. Don't worry about money.

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[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

What's wrong, buddy? He perfectly knows that it's him not being a leader that caused that. But it's still not an excuse for her to fuck someone else. On his previous thread he wanted to marry the chick. Money he can earn, time spent in a miserable marriage he can't. I see that a lot of "redpillers" on this sub think that calling people deep shits makes them more convincing or alpha.

[–]drsherbert4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

You really dodged a bullet there. Good luck to you friend

[–]1Red_Pill_Brotherhood4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good job brother. Now stay strong and enjoy the holidays.

[–]lolomotif124 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

You dodged one hell of a bullet there aimed right at your head!!

[–]red_matrix5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

You dodged a bullet. Be thankful as most men aren’t that lucky.

[–]Terdmuffin4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dont feel humiliated. Feel pride. Imagine the shame she feels imagine the shame felt by men who would be in your shoes and still get married. You did what you should.

[–]Altin_Beg4 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy

You dodged a bullet

[–]throwawayaccou19891 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Sure I have it’s going to take a while for me to believe that. She was the most conservative woman I knew

[–]geocorb2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Bruh, all women are like that. Change the locks, pack her shit, close any combined accounts/credit cards and hope she doesn’t stalk you.

[–]rizzyfromthe94 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Be grateful. Imagine you married her.

You’d be praying to be where you are at right now

[–]volvostupidshit4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Imagine the humiliation you get for marrying a whore. You would be laughed at by the men she is sleeping around with while you work so hard trying to keep the family afloat. That to me is one of the greatest humiliations a man can get.

[–]BaconLettuceTomatos3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Not humiliating at all, If you went back that would be humiliating.

[–]TiredOfBeingMediocre4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is fucking repulsive. I can’t believe it actually happens... like you’re set to MARRY someone and you go and fuck someone else? I cannot believe it, I’m so sorry OP.

[–]ceilingsky953 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fuck her sister.

[–]TheRedPillMonkey2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

You're making the right move. Just because she was a good fit for you doesn't mean AWALT doesn't still apply. Remember, she was never yours, it was just your turn. Turn over.

Get out their and fuck someone new fast. You need to get over her and it'll feel good to get some strange and recalibrate to trp life.

[–]vullnet1232 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Saw the first post and am glad you came to your senses. It's gonna suck OP, the first few weeks especially. When my ex dumped me, the thing that got her off my mind was staying busy. Find some new productive hobbies to spend your time on, start lifting if you haven't also.

[–]Lateralanouncer2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good work finding out her vaginas only worth a few drinks.

[–]TheGodHunter2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dodged a bullet, bravo. Merry Christmas.

[–]PhaedrusHunt2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

A couple of days ago when you posted you said you were red pill but you were not.

Between then and now you made a tough decision, an honest decision.

Only good can come of this.

You might doubt yourself more than you did a week ago, but I promise you are actually way more red pill than you were then.

[–]Coleoptera2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I envy you so fuckin much. to be shown the truth so early on... release

[–]wowkwo2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

You did the right thing, can't imagine how difficult this must be for you.

[–]HumbleTrees2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

One cannot put a price on the value of seeing someone's true colours. You are lucky this happened before the wedding and even luckier to have found out. Reality is a bitch but better to know it so you can master it than live in a fairytale of comforting lies.

I had the same thing hapoen, but three years into marriage. I assure you, it's a whole lot shittier that way around. See the gift you've been presented with. Godspeed.

[–]Scottmatee2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Enjoy your Christmas, you'll be grateful in the long run if not already!

[–]lord_ah2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Why were you getting married in the first place??🤔🤕

[–]Rodent92 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Read up on what male strippers have seen engaged women do on their hen’s night.

It is almost unbelievable what a woman will do and then avoid responsibility for it by saying she was drunk, on drugs, lonely - anything to put the responsibility on someone or something else.

Stay strong King.

[–]putconfac2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Congratulations for choosing Self Respect

[–]3chazthundergut2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

What a favor she did by revealing this to toy before the wedding. Count yourself lucky

[–]agjrpsl2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's a FESTIVOUS MIRCLE

[–]PurpleSweetz1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Holy shit I’m proud asf!

[–]CMOAN_MAYNE1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Slay, King.

Good for you for having those fucking balls.

There’s nothing humiliating here. She decided to sabotage an ostensibly good relationship while her SMV is declining. What a stupid decision lol, that’s the only embarrassing thing.

Now you can find a younger and faithful woman without being the asshole who dumped your fiancé for an upgrade. Nothing of value was lost.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I hope you got the ring back

[–]Pockyaf1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I mean, why would she even still want to go through with the wedding? Obviously she wasn't satisfied. The logic doesn't make sense, but guess that's why it's termed wimmenz logic

[–]Sonny_Luna1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Breaking up with a woman because she cheated on you is empowering. Good for you.

[–]TheBunk_TB1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Level head. I wish you the best. Dont let her crawl back to you.

[–]its_meKnightSwolaire1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I couldn’t help but read all the other posts. You better not cave bro.

Abundance mentality is lacking... you must cultivate that

[–]PrincePound1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I once overheard a conversation from a guy about screwing his brother's wife a day or two after the wedding. Be glad you're not that guy.

[–]XT3M31 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

im late to this so i looked at your post history.

you were engaged to a girl who had Red flags apparently bright enough to rival china's and you seemed shocked and broken that she cheated on you while drunk? bruh....

this is a lesson of why you should follow your gut and not entertain red flags if you feel them. but congrats i guess for waking up

[–]svenfromaccounting2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Go reward yourself with a threesum. Congratulations on your freedom!

[–]notashittyperson691 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Threesome with her and new boyfriend would be the ultimate act of revenge. You can assert dominance by fucking both of them.

[–]Bruchibre0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She was drunk so it doesn't count. She used a condom so it doesn't count. She regretted it right after so it doesn't count.

What else do you need? She sees herself as perfectly innocent. /s

/s big time I'd dump her cold stone hearted in the bat of an eye.

[–]Seoul_Brother0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Better that it happened before the papers were signed. You dodged a whole nuke

[–]sircomeseyed0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She went out on her bday without you and her friends let her do this? Leave her in the past!

[–]ExoticEnergy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Have fun with your new decade resolution

[–]awfulgoodness0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

in the words of illustrious prophet Peaches, "Fuck the pain away" shitty deal but also welcome back to the land of the living.

[–]jakethesnake50000 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You made the right decision, it will take time but just move on from her

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I love that you did this. Some things a woman does are unforgivable. Consider it a blessing she showed you her true colors before marriage.

[–]Dank_Memegod0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Christmas gift of seeing the reality of things

[–]thesoloronin0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

A while ago, I Googled the Dancing Bear after watching an episode of EIC and sure enough what turned up was exactly what OP was going thru. I’m glad you did what you did, and you’ve done it right without second thought. Blessed Merry Christmas to you brother! Next them all and march on to a happy life!

[–]Darksh4dow880 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Are you implying you saw your gf on a Dancing Bear video??

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

*fiancée

[–]RevolutionaryPea70 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Women have zero shame. She will try anything to end up on top. Thank fuck you never signed your life away to her. Now don't ever consider doing something so silly again. The only reason you were doing it was for guaranteed pussy, but the pussy would have just got older and rarer, and the only one guaranteed to get fucked was you.

[–]Andgelyo0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Merry Christmas, you lucky fucker. You dodged a bullet

[–]TRP VanguardHumanSockPuppet0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Man saves himself from a life of indentured servitude. I love a happy ending.

[–]SilverStarKoi0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Get the ring back! That is a contract item she has to return unless you gave it to her on her birthday or a holiday.

[–]pyth0ns0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

" Going home with a random guy and having sex with him " - Props to her for admitting it.
Consider this an EXTREME bullet dodged!

if you're set on LTR and Marriage style of life... Be sure the next one, BENEFITS YOU AND YOU SOLELY!

For your own sanity and health, do not contact her, do not listen to her sob stories, go into Monk Mode and heal yourself!

[–]Wesfromtheblock0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Don't get married. Ever. There are no benefits for a man

[–]Razberryice0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

yea id break up with her immediately and start seeing other girls, fuck her

[–]DeficientDeity0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Sucks bro. I know you're prob feeling like absolute shit. Hang in there, you dodged a bullet. Lucky you didn't have kids. You'll look back one day and think thank FUCK she did that to me. Happy holidays

[–]thechaosz0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You dumb fuck asking a broad to marry.

Don't get fucking married.

Ever.

[–]Justin120320000 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It was meant to happen

[–]Caleb6660 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

How did you find out?

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[–]Caleb6660 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

That's weird... I wonder why she did it...

She could've kept her mouth shut and then you'd be none the wiser

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[–]Casanova-Quinn9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

This might blow your mind, but she only told you because she thought you would forgive her. You were that much of a beta to her. Think about it, she wouldn’t admit that to an alpha male with options because she knows he’d dump her. And she was right, you were ready to forgive her until TRP slapped some sense into you. You’re very lucky dude.



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