A recent OP touched on this topic and linked this article from The Guardian: "Educated women leave east German men behind."

Some quotes from the article:

Eastern Germany is facing a demographic crisis as huge numbers of women abandon the former communist region leaving behind an underclass of poorly educated, jobless and disillusioned men.

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"The clever girls ... are leaving the east German working-class boys behind," said Reiner Klingholz, head of the Institute for Population. "In the west, many women look for their intellectual equal as a partner. As a result, most do not return."

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A substantial number of men have nevertheless also left - 270,000 since 1991 - but a much higher percentage return, more often than not because they are disappointed by the experience, having failed to find a job and make social contacts.

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The most dramatic effect of the imbalance was the growth of a "new, male-dominated underclass," said Mr Klingholz. Its members often have little chance either of finding a job or a partner, and as a result they are typically drawn to far-right parties, such as the German Nationalists (NPD) or to neo-Nazi groups. The proportion of eastern German women with degrees is 31%, compared to 20% of men.

The article was interesting to me because as an African American woman, systemic disenfranchisement and its disproportionate effect on black American boys/men has been discussed within my community for generations. For "reasons," it seems women are better suited from persisting in suffering and finding the will for betterment? Of course, there are the outlier men who succeed and innovate, but it seems the overwhelming majority of men born to these circumstances "flounder" more than their female counterparts.

I recall watching I am a Killer on Netflix -- a docuseries profiling men on death row. Most of the men had devastating childhoods and most were molested. The mother of the child of one of the inmates was interviewed. She and him were both molested by the same man as kids. They met under his tutelage. When she got pregnant, she said she focused on being a mother and working towards ensuring a better life for their child. She mentioned that he wasn't a helpful co-parent, and said rather compassionately, "it was a lot, he couldn't handle it all."

There are sayings, often expressed by men, that "you have to make a man" or "boys have to be taught to be men."

I always assumed they were trite nods denoting the contrivement of 'masculinity. But I'm wondering if the average male is innately more prone to not having direction/discipline if it isn't drilled into him by a male authority figure? (It's why a personally feel military-style/troop-style academies are excellent for the average male as far as teaching discipline and "masculine" values, especially for boys who don't have a healthy paternal role model in the home.)

Have you noticed this pattern? What are your thoughts?

Have you noticed different patterns? What are those thoughts?

How do you foresee this affecting relational dynamics?