Objectively self-rate yourself based on looks and then rate the lowest looks rating you'd be willing to date.

wub1234 · 2021-06-04T19:56:00+00:00

You can't objectively rate your own looks.

Kamaronian · 2021-06-04T23:29:19+00:00

im 17 and im just starting to come to terms with the fact I'm a 2 or 3 at best. I genuinely can't think of anyone in my college (who hasn't got a disability) who is less attractive than me. Im a short, mixed, guy with a large nose, a lazy eye, no jawline and small chin with no beard to hide it, and everyone that i meet says i look stoned because of my droopy, baggy eyes and vacant expression. I also struggle socially. Ive very briefly dated a girl who was probably a 4 but her self esteem was also fucked and she'd been rejected by two of my best friends. It's a fucking hard pill to swallow and i know it's gonna be a tough road ahead, but hopefully someone will see past the way i look and like me for who i am, I don't give a fuck how they look cause I can't afford to be picky. If that doesn't work out ill have to look into plastic surgery, because I can't live like this.

PlayfulLawyer · 2021-06-04T21:39:27+00:00

I would say a solid 7, 7 and a half after I get my morning run in lol

As far as the lowest I'd be willing to go as far as dating, if my dick doesn't get hard just thinking about her on a regular basis , she ain't the one for me 🤷‍♂️

PlagueDoctorD · 2021-06-05T04:25:54+00:00

2, 1. Anything is better than being alone.

Jazzlike_Letterhead1 · 2021-06-05T14:41:46+00:00

I'm an 7-8/10

Lowest I would ever go is probably 3/10, my main right now is a 4.

For an actual serious committed relationship, 7/10 minimum. But I have a long list of things personality wise that are crucial. A girl really needs to blow me away for me to want to commit.

Sometimes you're just tired, can't be bothered to message your tinder matches, have hard thermo and calculus exams coming up and an enthusiastic 4 hits you up so you roll with it.

It's a bit uncomfortable when I can tell that she's putting me on a pedestal. I like wine and she had this 40% discount card laying around for some wine store and asked if I wanted it, I declined because I'm leaving in a month and have more wine than I can drink, and then she APOLOGISED for it. Imagine apologising for offering someone a gift.

I guess it's nice to see what girls feel like when they are appreciated for the mere act of existing without putting any effort in, especially having grown up as a complete sexless nerd and loser, but I'd prefer something with a more even power dynamic for an actual serious relationship.

milkyymochii · 2021-06-04T20:57:49+00:00

Ehh I feel like it doesn’t really work like that. I need to be physically aroused and attracted to a man to date him, otherwise he doesn’t even exist at all to me as a potential mate.

I’ve been incredibly attracted to men that I thought were hot af but others found ugly. So idk about ratings because it’s so subjective & honestly kinda dumb.

The lowest I will ever go is whatever I’m sexually attracted to. I think many males on the other hand are okay with fucking women they aren’t all that attracted to. The idea of fucking a male I don’t find attractive at all sounds worse than dying.

NarniaFox · 2021-06-05T05:52:55+00:00

I doubt there's any way to measure yourself objectively and I'm not interested in putting my photos online for other people to judge them.

I guess most people would say that I'm 5-5.5 when I'm not putting any effort into my appearance - simply braided hair, my usual comfy clothes. Around 6-6.5 if I do put efforts - slightly wavy hair, a sundress and some soft-colored lipstick. 7 is usually for my husband when I'm just naked or have only tights on me. I believe that I look best naked.

I have no idea about the lowest bar though. As I've said multiple times - I'm demisexual, if I can become friends with a person and their smell attracts me, chances are I can fall for them. I guess "the lowest" score would get my classmate and only if I use my then-friends assessments of him - around 5-ish. I think he was cute though. I believe my husband scores higher - 6-7 again, depending on the effort he put into his appearance.

SouthernGrass3 · 2021-06-05T01:20:29+00:00

I really don’t know about myself. 5.5- 6? A 4 when I feel crappy, haven’t sleep well, and my skin and hair look like crap? I almost never wear makeup or heat style, and I have finicky skin and stubborn, unpredictable hair, so fluctuations are somewhat noticeable.

A 4 is adequate . My person is a better looking than that though.

Khanluka · 2021-06-07T16:40:28+00:00

I say i am a 4/10 and when it comes to looks 2/10 be my lowste. But personalty wise i only accept 7/10 or higher.but that only something you learn when you date.

SherbertBacon · 2021-06-09T02:42:04+00:00

Ehhh.... I think maybe I'm an 8 in looks. Lowest willing to date is a 7, but historically I couldn't commit unless she's also an 8+.

GridReXX · 2021-06-04T21:35:58+00:00

I don’t compute this ask.

If I’m not aroused by them I won’t date him.

I can better answer this question in person having experienced this “physically unattractive” individual.

But I suppose loosely speaking, a 4/5 (raw pre “maxxing” looks) and above has a shot.

I don’t have an issue attracting people. The people I’ve dated other men and women have seemed to want to fuck a great deal. I’ll base it off of that.

rft24 · 2021-06-04T21:16:17+00:00

i don’t think it’s possible to objectively rate yourself. based on how people typically react to my appearance, i would guess i’m higher up on the 1-10 scale.

the lowest i’d be willing to date is a 5.

philomexa · 2021-06-04T20:15:33+00:00

I think I'm a 7 for my milieu, but an objective measure of yourself is impossible. I can only gauge by what I see and how others treat me.
I've never had problems getting commitment from the men I want.
attraction is either fuck yes or fuck no; there is no leeway if a dude doesn't hit all the marks.

PeskyHijinks · 2021-06-04T23:20:24+00:00

I'm like a 4, probably. Would be willing to date a 4.

datfishd00d · 2021-06-04T23:23:25+00:00

See? Most people are claiming to be a 7, when they probably really aren't. I've seen this IRL, too.

I'm gonna be very objective, and I'd say most people would rate me as a 4, even a 3 if they are really mean. Now, I think I lay on a 4 to 6 range.

I'm overweight, and even though now that I've been working out for a while, I'm getting my curvy shape back, I know most people rate fat people below average and that's fine by me.

I'm fine being a 4, or being seen as a 4. So long the person I'm with sees me as a 10. Or just someone who doesn't care about rating people tbh.

PAThrowaway59 · 2021-06-04T21:02:02+00:00

I'm a 3, would date a 1

wtknight · 2021-06-04T19:52:39+00:00

I’m either a 5 or a 6, depending upon who is rating me. I don’t think that I’d date a woman who I thought rated lower than a 5 in my mind. I’m pretty picky and I haven’t been desperate for sex or relationships since I was a virgin in my early 20s.

343_peaches_and_tea · 2021-06-04T21:41:00+00:00

I have no idea how I rate. Somewhere around the middle I guess?

Doesn't this depend on exactly how good the other person is in the other areas?

I think you can fall in love with someone for the literature they write or the art they produce.

If I met someone who was a genuine creative genius then I'd probably be willing to go quite low looks wise. Perhaps a 2 or a 3?

Physical attraction for me often links closely with emotional attraction.

Flightlessbirbz · 2021-06-05T01:24:21+00:00

It’s hard to rate yourself objectively, but I think I’m about average, 5ish give or take a point depending on where I am (locally, not being obese automatically makes you a 6+). Lowest I would date (and have dated) is probably a 4, maybe 3.5 if being short knocks off points since I don’t care much about height. I consistently go for average and slightly below average dudes who are my type over better looking guys who aren’t.

learn2earn89 · 2021-06-05T01:26:31+00:00

From up close probably a 4–my skin has given me so many problems. I have an asymmetric mouth too. From further I actually look decent—perhaps a 6.5.

The guy I have a crush on is probably a 7. If he worked out as much as I do and if he dressed a bit better he could probably get all the chicks, but he doesn’t seem to care about getting women at all.

PM_ME_STRIPPERS · 2021-06-05T02:55:52+00:00

Male here, im probably a 3 at best, lowest i would go is 3/10.

Looksmatching is important, however a lot of women dont tend to see it that way and would rather date up.

TheJim66 · 2021-06-04T21:07:05+00:00

I would say im a low 7.Lowest I'd date is a 6 . Lowest I'd fuck is a 5.

nemporisso · 2021-06-04T20:04:54+00:00

I am a three, obviously. Lowest I'd be willing to go looks-wise is a nine.

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Genetic_Prisoner · 2021-06-04T20:32:24+00:00

Been told i am 7 and a 5 is as low as i will go

TheBookOfSeil · 2021-06-04T20:39:06+00:00

I can't objectively rate myself because women either think I'm ugly, cute or "beautiful."

I'd say I'm about average in terms of looks and wouldn't really be interested in going below average, unless she had some type or artistic appeal, like "old world beauty" (think women in old paintings).

Top_Efficiency5067 · 2021-06-05T01:18:28+00:00

Guy here. Average rating according to most people would be about 7.5

I don't want to date anyone less than a 7

AMeasuredOpinion · 2021-06-05T01:19:24+00:00

I'd say I'm about a 7. The lowest I'm willing to settle for is a 9 who understands the importance of silence. I enjoy being alone, so she'd have to be a stunner to be worth the effort.

yungthrowaway97 · 2021-06-05T04:21:26+00:00

7, date 6 lowest. Fun with 5 lowest.

Pastelitomaracucho · 2021-06-05T04:31:51+00:00

I'm a 6, minimum I date is a 6

Swordfromthecement · 2021-06-05T04:46:53+00:00

Given my height, weight, face, body physique I’m probably a 4 to a 5 on a good day (5 being bang average).

If every other box is checked probably a five? It’s tough to say because I believe women are more attractive to either gender so a woman that’s a 5 will probably be better looking than myself.

If you’re looking for the gotcha answer then yes I’m not willing to date a woman that looks worse than myself.

Im_The_Daiquiri_Man · 2021-06-05T05:09:52+00:00

7 for my age.

6 overall on a good day.

Realistically 5.

Like many guys, occasionally you get the girl who is just buying what you’re selling and sees you as an 8 (usually because you did something that turned her on)

I won’t date / fuck less than a 6 girl and will endure dry spells / use porn to hold out if necessary.

silkPJson · 2021-06-05T11:16:26+00:00

I think it’s too difficult to rate yourself, I’ve been called attractive/ugly depending on the person.

But like others have said, attraction (for women) is not about objective beauty but it’s more an attraction to that man. I’ve been attracted to men who others called fat, short, ugly with a shot personality but I thought was so hot.

BaiKingu · 2021-06-05T12:36:41+00:00

I find it very difficult to rate myself and I think other people would also struggle to rate me even semi objectively because of the simple fact that i'm a transsexual, but at the same time i'm a fashion model, so..

If a man is open to dating trans women, i'm considered highly attractive, probably an 8.5, if a man isn't, well, rating almost doesn't apply because the trans factor nullifies the attractiveness, I think when I pass as female, maybe im a 5.5-6?

Regardless, I get plenty of men who I consider 8 and above interested in me, i'm engaged to a man who I consider an 8.5 in attractiveness (tho the being in love makes him overshadow every man on earth, even if hes a 10), and I think if I was open to dating, I wouldn't settle for anything less than an 8, because I know I can have them without too much effort.

Nice-Win-4371 · 2021-06-05T14:37:27+00:00

College sophmore (Male), Objectively an 8 out of 10, wouldn't really look to date anyone who is at least an 8 as well.

Electrical_Coat_8714 · 2021-06-05T18:34:14+00:00

6'1"

Decently attractive face

Socially awkward

Black with dreads

0/10

I would date almost any woman who isn't built like a fridge.

You don't even have to "just don't be fat"

Like just be femininely curvy

Kiwikivi · 2021-06-05T22:59:15+00:00

I could date any woman who can make my PP hard , so anyone who is not obese or noticably disfigured.

Oh and I'm a 6 according to hownormalami.eu but in reality i'm probably a 5. Never been called handsome, but a middle school bully called me ugly once. I didn't take care of my appearance back then tho

APLAPLAC100 · 2021-06-05T23:10:47+00:00

5-6. 4-6.

blueXcat · 2021-06-06T03:44:48+00:00

I can say no to someone else's 10 because I find they look boring... And have a crush on someone's 4

ChibsFilipTelfordd · 2021-06-06T03:47:12+00:00

Objective self looks rating: between 7-9 depending on if preppy white boy is your type. If i went from current 15.5% bf to around 12% i could confidently say I was a 9, i think. Currently probably an 8.

Lowest that I'd date: 7.

When i was obese -- i was a 4 or 5.

I dated 3 women during that time, one was a 4, one was a 7 with mental issues and one was a 5.

E: these scales are the "buckets with 10% in each." Not the truerateme normdist.

2021-06-06T16:30:58+00:00

The only way you can see this is by looking at the decile of the "liked" distribution you fall in on dating apps. Unfortunately that data is not available

Arnaudbzh44 · 2021-06-06T16:59:43+00:00

For a 18y old girl i rate me 7, but for a 27y old girl (my age) i rate myself 5 bc i look very young 6 is the minimum i would date

Feisty-Friend9227 · 2021-06-06T18:31:25+00:00

I’m objectively a 3 bc the only women who actively chase me are 3s. It’s that simple

kittenlovegoddess · 2021-06-30T01:13:41+00:00

Rating yourself sounds so odd. I have a general consensus of how others think of me based on commentary and what people find attractive in my area. I don’t know the normal for other people but I do get hit on a lot and people tend to compliment me. Putting a number scale on looks is absolutely impossible. Everyone has their own personal preferences. I’m into intelligence mainly.

PurpleManufacturer94 · 2021-07-30T16:44:23+00:00

A 10 if you've got a fetish for redheads. About 9 on American standards. And a 8 in European standards.

I would be a 10 in all categories if I didn't have the amount of injuries I have from extreme sports. I have 9 concussions from combat martial arts. The concussions kinda fucked up my personality through chronic memory loss and excessive aggression because I feel like I'm losing my mind.

A 4 as long as her personality is straight fire.

ToughAnswers · 2021-06-04T19:50:54+00:00

Where's the cut off for you looks wise where you say no to dating?

If by dating you mean have sex more than once pretty much anyone I love novelty and have been with everyone from literal femcels to literal models.

You never know what it will be like to experience someone until you've experienced them.

If by dating you mean commitment, I used to have a pretty low bar/tendency for serial monogamy (an LTR is not a marriage after all), but have reached the point of "won't commit unless she's a 10 virgin"....so basically, won't ever commit

Expensive-Guitar3609 · 2021-06-05T23:03:42+00:00

I think I'm a solid 8, a 9 if I put some effort. My fiance puts me in that range, and one of my exes used to say I was "painfully good looking" haha. I'm white, 6.3"-6.4", blue eyes, black hair, well build and ripped with some cool tats. Actually my doppleganger would be Billy Russo from Punisher.

If dating means something that I know is not going anywhere, then a 6 or even a 5 could do it. I've "dated" (aka banged) some girls that were way below my league.

If dating means "I want to marry this woman" then yeah, 8 and above.

Title	Objectively self-rate yourself based on looks and then rate the lowest looks rating you'd be willing to date.
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Date	June 4, 2021 7:44 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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