Just because you’re a rare case does not mean you should encourage others to give it up on the first date. Please- vet your partners before giving them any!

ShieldMaidenLagertha · 2021-03-02T16:13:20+00:00

Marriage doesn’t mean happily ever after. 🤷‍♀️

aellope · 2021-03-02T17:36:07+00:00

Weird flex, sis.

volcanic_equation · 2021-03-02T15:13:48+00:00

So many misinformed women out there who think that marriage is the ultimate achievement.

Sweetie, for you, the game has only just begun.

AwkwardDisaster4150 · 2021-03-02T17:36:59+00:00

The thing is, a lot of guys would still marry a woman if they slept together on the first date, if that woman also happens to be compatible with them and what they consider wife material. Most guys are not going to feel that way about you, you just aren’t a good match for everyone you happen to go on a first date with. So if you go on 50 first dates in a year or two until you finally meet the guy you end up marrying, and you sleep with all of them on the first date, you’ve slept with 50 guys. How many STDs have you been exposed to at that point? Not to mention potential for unwanted pregnancy, and just having to endure bad sex with strangers. It’s not worth it. Because I guarantee the same guy who’s going to end up marrying you after you slept together on the first date also would end up marrying you if you waited a couple months of dating before sex.

Lemon_bars_addiction · 2021-03-02T14:54:07+00:00

What ever happened to being classy and not posting stuff like this online. Here’s hoping it’s just a meme someone made

Throwawayrightaway28 · 2021-03-02T16:17:54+00:00

Notice how he stands stiffly with his hands in his goddamn pockets. No movement in his body language apart from sticking his lips out and closing his eyes, while she envelops him in a passionate, warm embrace. Both arms. Body turned towards him. He’s just facing straight forward. You’ve been giving it since day one sis, and he just takes and takes. Case closed.

EffectiveHoneydew422 · 2021-03-02T14:39:11+00:00

haven't we learned by now that day one of marriage is not the same as "happily ever after" Like good on you but share this post on your 20th anniversary or something if you really want to drive home your exception to the rule

edit: I have a friend in a fairly healthy relationship- (by comparison to most) they hooked up on like second date- and then had many rocky patches with intimacy over the course of relationship mainly due to going gangbusters in the early stages of things that then slowed down to a halt, and basically had to rebuild the foundations of relationship on something other than sex to stay together

ChoiceScarfMienfoo · 2021-03-02T15:10:24+00:00

tbh i fucked on my first date too (met my current SO in my regrettable libfem phase) and even though it worked out really well for me by pure chance as he turned out to be a HVM, i would NEVER encourage it to any of my sisters. i constantly tell them how i was in a really bad spot, full of insecurities that i put a band-aid over with 🤮casual sex🤮. and even though all my sisters know how happy i am rn, they understand where i am coming from as they know precisely the kind of person i was when in my libfem/casual sex phase.

also both my HVM and i don't really like sharing how we first met because it's a shameful story so we have defaulted to the "we met at an art class!" white lie

Velvettcum · 2021-03-02T16:20:06+00:00

Who shares this information online? She shouldn’t be encouraging young women to be screwing their man/woman on the first date. I think you should try to know the person and their boundaries, men are only after their sexual pleasure on the first date. You could be banging a serial killer or s3x offender for all we know.

heleninthealps · 2021-03-02T18:57:14+00:00

What this picture tells and doesn't tell:

he keeps his hands in his pocket instead of embracing her.
it doesn't show if he asked her or if she proposed to him
it doesn't show how many years she had to wait until the engagement
it doesn't show if he bought her a proper ring, or took something from Pandora for $30 or let her pay 50/50
it doesn't show if he courted her properly during dating or ghosted her treating her hot and cold in the beginning
it doesn't show if he ever cheated on her
it doesn't show if he watches pork after every love making
it doesn't show if he helps out with cooking and cleaning
it doesn't show if he brushes his teeth or washes his ass crack.
it doesn't show if he has a job or let her support him financially the last 2 years

Ladies - whatever the text says on the picture - a wedding is nothing to be jealous of. Maybe the dress and hair - I'll give you that.

cheeksnpeeks · 2021-03-02T14:59:07+00:00

Don’t kiss and tell. Whatever happened to class

LiAndLenus3rdfriend · 2021-03-02T16:05:54+00:00

His body language in that picture is just off. I mean hands in the pocket while kissing your bride? Seriously?

2021-03-02T15:04:26+00:00

Why would she post this for people to see

honeybeeroll · 2021-03-02T19:24:56+00:00

Even the women I know who slept with their men early - men they're very happy with and In one case, married to for a few years now - don't recommend it as the way every woman should handle it. They had some problems navigating the intensity of the relationship in the beginning because of it I think.

Each of us has to operate on the truth that for most men, it is true that they will only think of you in a casual way if you hook up early. Yes, there are exceptions of course!! I know such couples. But we all know it's waaaaaay more common to hook up with a guy early, get real attached to him, and be very sad when he won't date us seriously. It's safer to hold back on physical intimacy until he shows you his true intentions. Better to be safe than sorry!

Diamond_fairy · 2021-03-02T17:28:33+00:00

A pickme and her LVM spotted in the wild. I hope no one here would marry a piece of wood that sticks his hands in the pockets during a wedding photoshoot.

She's clinging so much on him that I wouldn't be surprised if she's "porn positive" and willingly cleaning his dirty underwear.

TheFinalGirl_21 · 2021-03-02T19:58:51+00:00

Arrogant rare cases are what have us all screwed up. It’s not enough for them to get lucky. They have to rub it in everyone else’s face and commit to the messaging that the way they did it is the way that works.

I’m so over these Horatio Alger dating stories.

Maude2010 · 2021-03-02T15:57:24+00:00

Does no one have any class anymore? Also, that photo is weird.

Emergency-Feed8216 · 2021-03-02T20:45:37+00:00

Narwhals are real and look like unicorns I guess. How many of us have seen either in the wild?

ReignOnYou95 · 2021-03-02T15:25:30+00:00

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spicyspa · 2021-03-03T03:47:56+00:00

Why would she want to settle down with a slut who gave it away?

2021-03-02T23:59:21+00:00

I mean she’s gorgeous and gave sex on a platter. It’s a LVMs dream to lock someone like her down before he starts using his elevated status to pick up pick mes like candy.

Good luck with that marriage sis. A man with that little self control with you won’t have much for the next woman.

esthermaniii · 2021-03-03T16:47:51+00:00

I saw this AND I CRINGED. It makes it even worse that she’s a black woman, considering how we are stereotyped as hypersexual in society. Lots of women will look at this and think having sex with men on the first date is okay when it greatly reduces the chances of us vetting men properly.

She should’ve kept that to herself. Also, we don’t know what type of man she’s married to or if their relationship is healthy. So meh. She really shouldn’t have posted that.

TheOGJammies · 2021-03-03T01:07:08+00:00

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Unfit_Needleworker · 2021-03-03T06:11:13+00:00

This doesn’t mean he’s a good one. 🤷🏻‍♀️

AntiqueGhost13 · 2021-03-03T12:31:50+00:00

That's not something to brag about :|

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