Living With Men

MajesticSkyPachyderm · 2022-04-07T09:08:31+00:00

Yup, and then they complain that you don't have sex with them anymore. I'm afraid I'm no pedo, I don't have sex with children, even if they're in the body of a grown man.

Bonds_Girl · 2022-04-07T16:30:37+00:00

This is the root cause of the ‘dead bedroom’ post you read about.

The passion died for a reason. Apart from the Madonna/whore complex men strangulate us into against our will, you’ve got the mommy-maid phenomenon happening as well.

Devils_Tango · 2022-04-07T05:37:14+00:00

DONE with the coffee table being littered in wrappers and weed dust with 7 pairs of smelly old socks underneath it for weeks. Eventually I gave up, booted him out, and moved. My living room is freaking gorgeous now and brings me so much peace and joy 😌

Equal-Ear2312 · 2022-04-07T18:18:09+00:00

proof that men haven't evolved their view on us from "the help" to equals. men see other men as their equals and women as props.

how many of us haven't fallen into the role of personal assistant, therapist, secretary, cook, cleaner, mom?

yeah, it makes my pussy dry to play one of these roles for a grown-ass man that calls himself an 'alpha", a "leader" or some other made-up bullshit having to do with his skewed up view of masculinity.

Platipus6 · 2022-04-07T03:40:12+00:00

Mommy Bangmaid is cancelled.

ArtisticBrilliant491 · 2022-04-07T04:40:43+00:00

100% The very best times of my life were when I lived alone. I cleaned up after myself like an adult. And I didn't have anyone judging me in my own home. Or abusing my time, generosity, and love. This is why married MEN usually live longer: their wives are carrying their load too. I'm finally putting down that extra load and not picking up another one again.

You can come over to see me, but ya gotta leave cuz I ain't washing your clothes or dealing with any bullshit games ya running. Fuck me, feed me and then just go. Please.

thanarealnobody · 2022-04-07T12:48:30+00:00

See, if I sent this to my friend (who is a bang maid to her boyfriend) she would consider the “emotional support” the thing that he does for her.

And this “emotional support” is calling her pretty when they’re alone, and giving her a boost of validation after a long day of cleaning up his crap and organising his life and putting up with his childish ways.

And she would consider that an equal exchange of effort.

MamaGia · 2022-04-07T14:41:39+00:00

Absolutely. Men's lives are enriched to women's detriment.

I stupidly paid my long term (12 years) boyfriend market rent to live in the house he owned. I was making very, very bad mistakes. Paying to be this pig's maid and he wished his prostitute.

PerspicaciousCat · 2022-04-07T02:43:01+00:00

Yep, this is exactly how it was when I briefly lived with my ex. He didn’t clean up after himself, “didn’t know how” to do laundry, run the dishwasher, make food, etc. It was a nightmare and one of the many reasons we broke up.

lessadessa · 2022-04-07T10:56:39+00:00

I’m so glad women are picking up on this and speaking out about it. When I’ve lived with men, it was the exact same way. I involuntarily became their mom and they had it so easy.

DieMadScrotesss · 2022-04-07T02:24:48+00:00

In the book ‘Invisible Women: Data Bias in a World Designed for Men’ (Caroline Criado Perez), a statistic is brought up that a woman living with a man increases the housework a woman does by 7x. Not by 2x as you might think. But 7 freaking times. When I heard that, I thought back to the men I’ve lived with before. And I could see it. I thought about when a man has stayed at my place for just one night before. And I could still see it.

And let me tell you. I’M 👏🏻NOT 👏🏻INTERESTED. I have better things to do with my time than cleaning up after a man.

(This stat is from memory, as I only have the audiobook version - so anyone who has the hard copy feel free to correct me if my memory is wrong!)

pascalines · 2022-04-07T12:45:17+00:00

Ok but I’ve watched this like 10 times her voice is like FDS ASMR which is a category I am so here for 😂

Sweetheartsorrow · 2022-04-07T10:37:50+00:00

Swear to god my house just smells better since I kicked my ex husband out

darkenchantress44 · 2022-04-07T05:13:04+00:00

Men in my living space makes me cringe, ESPECIALLY when it comes to the bathroom.

My cousin came over to my house two weeks ago and left piss drops all around the base of the toilet.

In general men are so careless and don’t pay attention to fine details. Had an ex that got water all over my makeup brushes and my nice bar soap all the time. I was like, how the hell did you manage to do this? These items are nowhere near the shower or the tub?

KekeSmall · 2022-04-07T02:27:30+00:00

At least another woman got to claim him on her taxes for 18 years. What do I get out of babying a man? Besides high blood pressure.

yggiwtmiih · 2022-04-08T11:16:44+00:00

My ex was an ex chef and extremely independent. Cooked breakfast and dinner for me daily when we lived together, kept his home tidy, kept his body up, maintained his hygiene, handled the physical aspects of our relationship (car/house maintenance, bills, finances), and generally improved my life.

I have dated men before him that were bad with money and messy; it gave me anxiety to watch them handle their lives.

It is incredibly unsexy when a man isn't independent. It makes me think of little boys if I have to chime in for them to manage basic maintenance of their lives when they're supposed to be grown men. Nothing could be a bigger turn off in a prospective partner, and I would never consider dating anyone who doesn't reach my standards again, the most basic reason being that I couldn't be attracted to them otherwise lol.

katiekat0214 · 2022-04-07T12:31:32+00:00

Once again, living apart together for the win!

GoldDigger2LVM · 2022-04-07T02:33:27+00:00

Before I moved in with my HVM husband I took notice that he actually put in an effort to keep the house clean, green flag there. I also mentioned to him why my ex and I broke up was because he wasn’t pulling his weight with anything. He got the message

cinderella_rising · 2022-04-07T03:08:12+00:00

A-fucking-men! 👏

thepsychopathhunter · 2022-04-08T13:48:08+00:00

Have never lived with a man. Highly recommend it. 😂it is stress free and luxurious as f*ck. And I love living alone so much that I am considering asking my future hubby if I ever get married to get his own place. Lmao. I can’t even stand spending a whole few days with a man but maybe that’s because my experiences were with LVM. But even if it was an HVM I think it would still feel suffocating and I would need my space.

PalmTreePhilosophy · 2022-04-07T16:40:13+00:00

Honestly, I maintain that in the next 50 years or so, women will opt out of living with men. Straight men, anyway. I can imagine either women living alone or for those who want kids, raising their kids in a community that does not include straight men.

randomgirlimok · 2022-04-09T19:40:39+00:00

My ex husband said he needed a partner because he can’t do things on his own. That’s not a partner that’s a parent.

victoriabowen8 · 2022-04-12T17:38:20+00:00

I agree with everything she is saying BUT there is a dynamic where this can work. I have no issues handling the domestic chores (cooking, cleaning) AS LONG AS he is handling the "blue jobs" AND he is making me feel valued. This would look like him planning dates, buying me flowers, complimenting me, sending me cute/romantic texts, giving me a massage, etc. on a consistent basis. It's when these things stop happening and he starts taking you for granted that the problems occur. That's when the man becomes a drain on you because he's taking more than giving and you start to view him more as a child you have to take care of which yes, absolutely affects the sexual attraction you have towards him. Too many men don't understand this though. They can get everything they want - a woman who does the cooking, does the cleaning, loves to have sex with them - but ONLY if they balance those things with their own efforts of equal or greater value.

Equality is not the goal in this context, balance is.

Merkury_Vabor · 2022-07-24T21:07:28+00:00

lmao femcels

Title	Living With Men
Author	Ipromisetobehonest
Upvotes	1245
Comments	64
Date	April 6, 2022 11:07 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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