I think one of the most overlooked aspects of today’s dating dynamics, especially when it comes to women, is just how fierce the competition is on the male side.

Let me explain.

Take a girl who's slightly above average. say a 6/10. Let’s call her Jane. She's friendly, decently attractive, and has a good social presence. Nothing extraordinary, but pleasant overall. I know a woman like this at work, and what I’ve noticed is that guys orbit her like crazy. Constant conversation, “coincidental” run-ins, compliments you name it. And I can see it in their eyes: they’re hungry for a chance.

Here’s the part people don’t acknowledge enough: most average or below-average guys would kill to be with someone like her. If you pulled them aside and asked, “Would you want a real relationship with Jane or sleep with her?” most would say yes without hesitation. Even though she's not that 'amazing"

And that's just what she deals with in-person.

Now add:

Likes and attention on social media Matches and messages on dating apps Dudes trying to talk to her when she goes out with her friends and bars and clubs Maybe even the occasional DM from a higher-tier guy looking for something short-term

The result? An avalanche of attention.

And no, this doesn’t make Jane "entitled" or "delusional." It’s not that she's doing anything wrong, it’s that so many guys are competing for even slightly above-average women that it creates a skewed environment where:

The average guy can't get noticed

The average girl gets overwhelmed or overly selective by necessity

Top-tier guys dip in and out, offering short-term attention to everyone

We always talk about female standards, hypergamy, entitlement, etc. But let’s be real: the sheer volume of competition from men is fueling a lot of this.

It’s not just that women have high standards, it’s that they’re constantly being targeted, approached, or matched with guys across the whole spectrum. Even women who are just “decent” are in high demand

The competition is brutal and fierce.