N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD

New-Western-4819 · 2026-01-22T21:26:34+00:00

what does ranch dressing have to say about promiscuity or n-count? do you think there's anything ranch dressing is saying subtextually about it? if so, what is it?

Lift_and_Lurk · 2026-01-21T14:49:01+00:00

3 weeks from Valentine’s Day. Does anyone have any fun V-day success stories?

TheRedPillRipper · 2026-01-21T11:11:30+00:00

CROSSPOST FROM A LIFEADVICE SUB

Not sure where to go with my life and relationship

For context, I (21F) am the kind of person who used a new relationship to get out of an old/bad relationship, so the last time I was single was over 4 years ago when I was 16. I have been dating my current bf(21M) for 2.4 years and I love him so much, he's my bestfriend and I cant imagine my life with out him. We met a few days before college started and have been inseparable ever since, and due to a-typical circumstances we've been living together for the most of the time we've been dating. Our relationship is really good, we communicate well, our parents love that we are together, our friends love us together, we find living together very easy, and just all around its a very healthy and wonderful relationship. Here's where the problem is; Ive always wanted to have a "hoe phase". I want a time in my life where I can be single and experience hook up culture and just have lots of strange experiences. I've felt a strong urge to do this throughout all of my relationships, and have felt extremely jealous of those who get to do this, but have tried hard to suppress feeling or work through it but it wont leave me. Me and my bf have talked about this at length and he knows how I feel. Lately the urge has been growing incredibly strong and me and my bf are reaching a turning point in both of our lives, my bf worked extremely hard and is graduating college a year early this spring, I still have a year left. I have struggled greatly in school and i have fallen behind and started to feel extremely depressed and hate the city I go to school in and my friends and just everything. I just cant stay. My boyfriend wants to move to a new city with me after he graduates (he would stay with me in our college town until i graduate, but that's not what I want) but I'm considering possibly ending things and moving abroad, he knows about this and thinks it could possibly be a good option for me as well. I'm almost certain he is my soulmate, but then why do I feel like I need time to be on my own for a bit? I don't want to lose him but I know I cant have my cake and eat it too. I don't want to be 60 and regret my choices. I think our relationship will end in marriage if it continues which scares me as I don't think I'm ready for forever quite yet. Can he really be the one if I feel like this?. Our relationship is as perfect as one can get. I wish we just met later. Also an open relationship is not an option.

TLDR: I feel like I need time to be single and explore but also think my boyfriend is the one, dont want to regret breaking up with him.

Q4ALL; What advice would you give?

Axis_Control · 2026-01-20T15:34:42+00:00

Its funny but I have noticed with society becoming more progressive and due to porn, a sort of "hookups Are Wonderful" HAW) affect.

Where hookups are highly desired by men as a result of early exposure to porn. They eventually learn its not that easy to obtain and so a halo affect is put on men that can get hookups.

Men that can't get hookups feel that they are missing out due to the HAW effect. They may even get depressed etc as a result and think they "missed out on important hookup experiences while young".

They resent the chads that get to have sex with women and feel entitled to sex/kinky sex etc if a woman that has had casual sex before dates them.

Reasonable_Mouse789 · 2026-01-20T11:09:20+00:00

I don’t think n count matters. Lust is lust, and as long as a woman has it for you, you’re good to go.

You can often see it in a person’s eyes when you initially meet them. The lust I can see in a “ran through” mid 20s woman with a friend with benefits and a history of clubbing is the same lust I see in the eyes of a virgin. The two people I’m thinking of even flirted with me the same way, where they touch me all over the place and try to hang out with me alone a lot. The ran through woman also liked me back when she was younger, although I don’t know if she was a virgin.

I believe a high n count is only a net negative if you don’t control for certain factors outside the n count.

If you dated a person once in the past when they had a low N count, and then dated them a 2nd time later when they had a high N count, then you’d mostly get the same exact experience. They’re still the same core person at the end of the day.

I don’t have any other evidence than simply observing some people over relatively long periods of time.

New-Western-4819 · 2026-01-19T23:42:41+00:00

how do yall feel about kiss-counts? esp. the younger ppl + ppl most uncomfortable with sex

Axis_Control · 2026-01-19T15:02:35+00:00

Are there any men in here who are not sexually frustrated? 🤣

Just-Path-5838 · 2026-01-19T09:45:52+00:00

Worrying about N couhts is stupid, by traditional standards we (yes, me and every single one of you) are all whores.

If you're worried about competing with a woman's past partner's, how the hell do you think you're gonna compete against the men in her imagination.

If anything, you should prefer a woman who knows what's out there and is choosing you.

This idea that you're gonna be a woman's first only and best love is cute, but it's not realistic.

alpha2828 · 2026-01-19T08:12:16+00:00

Why do you think casual sex is so common in Nordic countries? They are among the most advanced countries in the world.

CelicnisGhost · 2026-01-19T06:44:10+00:00

Sex doesn’t make you any more or less valuable

AccomplishedDot7092 · 2026-01-19T03:21:31+00:00

I still find it insane that women came out en masse to say "we like casual sex too" and the typical male response was to call them sluts and whores; even though virtually every man wants casual sex. Generational fumble by men as a group

ThatBitchA · 2026-01-18T19:30:59+00:00

I've never had sex with someone for the first time in the same steps.

So it's weird hearing how men here expect women to have sex in the exact same manner they did with someone else.

It's like some men view sex as some kind of paint by number that is repeated with each and every sexual encounter.

Rule_Number_7 · 2026-01-18T19:18:14+00:00

Why do some people have an issue with those who wait? I’m not even talking about the ones who have casual sex but then wait for the relationship potentials. Why the issue with the ones who consistently wait? Does it really bother people that much?

EDIT: I’m not looking for reasons why people don’t want to wait. That’s not the question.

If you don’t have an issue with people who consistently wait then this comment/question isn’t for you, but you are of course free to throw in your opinion on the possible reason(s).

Bitch_King-of_Angmar · 2026-01-18T17:44:38+00:00

I'm going to explain the framework I see here pretty much every day.

Here is a summary:

>Women are the primary moral agents in sex and relationships.

>Men are reactive actors responding to female choice.

>Therefore, harm is downstream of women’s decisions, not men’s behavior.

Here are the axioms:

Axiom 1: Women control access to sex (sex treated as scarce resource, women gatekeep/gaslight/girlboss, men are responders)

Axiom 2: Choice equals responsibility (If women choose, women are responsible, responsibility is retroactively assigned)

Axiom 3: Male behavior is biologically or socially compelled (by hormones, rejection, scarcity, evolutionary pressure) which = male harm is inevitable, not chosen.

Axiom 4: Desire is morally neutral for men (wanting sex is "natural", wanting younger women is "preference", wanting virgins is "standards")

Axiom 5: Female desire is morally suspect (hypergamy, unrealistic standards, chasing chads, entitlement)

Axiom 6: Harm is relocated upstream, like so:

Bad outcomes mean bad choices

Instead of:

>Man lies / exploits / abandons / abuses → harm

The model becomes:

>Woman chose him → therefore harm originates in choice

This is the most important move in the entire framework.

People often talk about the just world fallacy on here, but the idea is that if something bad happened, someone must have done something to deserve it. Which this model does, over and over. I've been having the exact same arguments with different people on here for days, and they consistently use this model to assign blame for poor dating outcomes.

My advice to anyone trying to argue against this framework to keep your replies short and to the point, maintain your original frame, and watch them expose themselves when you point out their logical fallacies and the implications of their belief system.

Muscletov · 2026-01-18T16:22:52+00:00

Remember that women have no moral highground whatsoever to condemn you for caring aber women's n-count. No, not even if you were promiscious yourself because, after all, it doesn't matter what you did or what you are, you're still entitled to your preferences and standards even if you don't fulfill them yourselves. This thread is chock-full of women defending an unattractive woman wanting attractive men, so it's perfectly valid for slutty men to pine for virginal women.

Bitch_King-of_Angmar · 2026-01-18T14:41:50+00:00

Men, on average, face fewer immediate social and bodily consequences for immoral or antisocial behavior, so the incentive structure pushing them toward moral self-regulation is weaker.

salphon · 2026-01-18T14:07:28+00:00

Still no studies from the high-n defenders. Until then, high-n is bad.

WebNew9978 · 2026-01-18T02:37:37+00:00

I met a woman about a month ago online and she said she was into me. I had entered 2026 with a 0.1 ounce of hope for romantic life. Not even 15 days into the new year, she tells me she was faking it and then proceeded to block me.

Man. I know I’m universally ugly but to have a woman fake interest in me. Brutal shit

Bitch_King-of_Angmar · 2026-01-18T00:38:54+00:00

wow nobody's made a top comment in a while.

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Capital-Donkey-2576 · 2026-01-17T19:15:22+00:00

Do women even police each other sexually anymore, or is it just a race to armageddon in terms of saying "you go girl" to every sexual decision one of your female friends makes. And then following this, the friends end up following the queen hen and feeling like they have to be hypersexual and treat sex casually to fit in with the kind of lemming social culture that women tend create for themselves?

PrinceDuneReloaded · 2026-01-17T17:51:29+00:00

q4 n>0

do you have any that you regret? how many is it compared to your full n

Natural_Answer5705 · 2026-01-17T17:11:02+00:00

in modern world there is no difference between wh0re and lady.

lady used to be faithful to husband and virgin till marriage. and wh0res were opposite. but now all women are wh0res since they are not virgins. and marriage is not as serious.

so the woman men might want to fool and believe is their lady is someone's one night stand that makes most men cucks.

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