What is more important Physical Connection or Emotional Connection?

szclimber · 2022-07-02T01:54:11+00:00

Physical connection comes first, it is needed for romantic and sexual feelings. Otherwise they are just a friend.

hsvgamer199 · 2022-07-02T02:34:00+00:00

You need a physical connection to even be considered. You're just friends if you only have an emotional connection.

tired_hillbilly · 2022-07-02T01:17:49+00:00

They're equally important, and they both strengthen each other.

python834 · 2022-07-02T01:13:37+00:00

Emotional. physical attraction can grow but if a guy is boring, disrespectful, childish etc it doesnt matter how hot he is hes ugly

Hungry-Nebula · 2022-07-02T01:14:19+00:00

I think a temporal connection is the most important. You can have the most rockin bod, and be the smartest women, but if you lived 50,000 years ago, I can't make it work.

WhiskeyOnASunday93 · 2022-07-02T02:59:04+00:00

What tf is a purely physical connection? Is it just sex with hot people?

Because good sex isn’t purely physical. I think all sides of any fence agrees men/women/red/blue.

BP might describe the emotional component of good sex with words like intimacy or passion, RP probably leans harder into domination and submission. But either way you slice it good sex is conveying some form of emotional connection.

Men complain about starfish sex with unenthusiastic partners. Women complain about porn fucked men emulating pornography awkwardly.

I just think it’s a false dichotomy. Physicial vs emotional

Joelypoely88 · 2022-07-02T01:11:58+00:00

If you're talking about dating/relationships, physical connection for sure. You can have an incredible emotional connection with someone but they will friendzone you if you don't meet their physical threshold.

lowlifedougal · 2022-07-02T02:40:26+00:00

once u past the physical threshold…its mostly emotional. Think of the physical threshold as a spectrum and then the emotional connection as the next level and the platonic as the level beneath . platonic is for mutual benefits for the individual, romantic is mutual benefit for the unit-family building The stronger the physical connection the faster u can get to the “romantic” emotional connection and faster u leave the platonic . The weaker the physical connection the longer it takes to get to romantic and the slower it is to leave the platonic.

men tend to have a wider physical spectrum threshold than women. But both sexes still have a “range” of ppl they are weakly attracted to and strongly attracted to. Nonetheless weak or strong the subject person still falls into a “prospect” because they still fall within range/spectrum/threshold

Anyone this just my own theory dont take it seriously

Platonic Emotional <—-+Physical+—-<Romantic Emotional

wintergreen233 · 2022-07-02T02:13:11+00:00

Emotional is more important to me, or “psychological” would be a better term. It goes together with the physical for me. Psychological connection is a massive proportion of what determines my physical attraction to and outright sexual desire for someone.

Namah-Mayco · 2022-07-02T05:44:53+00:00

Physical, if we're talking long term. What matters most in a relationship is loyalty. Whether you're the closest of friends with your partner, or whether you're in a rocky relationship and drifting, people usually cheat because of finding someone else that's hotter. You'll hear plenty of stories of people that regret cheating because of losing someone they were emotionally close to and all that, but if someone's in a relationship with someone really physically attractive, there's not enough incentive/too much dread to cheat to begin with.

When examining the RP, men make it seem like physical connection is the most important. If a woman sleeps with a man right away but doesn't sleep with you right away (AF/BB situations), it is said that women aren't really attracted to you.

However, when talking to women, they seem to put emotionality on the forefront. I have heard women say that sex is no big deal (since they can get sex easily) and when they display emotionality with a man and give that man her full self emotionally, that's a bigger deal than sex and being physically connected.

That might be the female point of view of what's attractive, but you have a to compare it to a male's point of view of love too. I'm not even talking about how guys prioritize sex, I'm talking about effort and reward out of a relationship. For a guy, they don't need much from a woman. He might just think she's cute, maybe nice, and that's all it takes for him to love her and care for her. For a girl, she usually has all these standards for a relationship, like things that lead to stability, like money and stuff. She doesn't have those kinds of standards for "just sex", she just wants someone that looks good enough.

The latter for what a girl does (quick sex given to good looks) is closer to how a guy falls in love. That's why being BB is so insulting and hurtful, because you have to go through more hoops and give up more time, while AF gets basically a reflection of the kind of love a guy gives (could even say she's putting in more effort in the "relationship" to keep the guy by giving away sex right away). A lot of the anger for guys in dating is that the guys that don't have proper relationship values are getting ideal treatment with lower standards.

ZaraFlips · 2022-07-02T06:11:35+00:00

Physical connection is quick to form but unless there is an emotional connection the physical one fades very quickly. Conversely, an emotional connection takes longer to create but will be longer lasting, and once formed will trump the physical. The trick is that there has to be enough physical attraction to allow the emotional one to form

DreamsOfWishes · 2022-07-02T01:18:13+00:00

The emotional connection is most important for the relationship, the physical connection is most important for the sex.

You can't have a lasting relationship without emotional connection, like...even an agreement to not give a shit about each other requires an emotional connection because not everyone is gonna agree to that and even less people can actually handle that after agreement.

You can have a lasting relationship without physical connection, plenty of relationships that have no sex at all. But offcourse, ideally we want sex so it remains important.

But emotional connection wins because without it, all relationships fall apart unless there's force involved.

localmicrodosechamp · 2022-07-02T01:28:50+00:00

One can’t exist without the other for me.

2022-07-02T06:10:48+00:00

Perhaps I'm in a minority for this in how I experience attraction judging on most people's thoughts here but I experience the emotional first. Its why I've only dated people I've known already for an extended period of time. I don't ever see a point in something like sex without an emotional connection and that emotional connection informs a lot of how I feel about the process and about the appearance of the person I'm with.

I don't do casual, it just doesn't have a point to me, hell I don't even do short term relationship stuff. Its an investment in commitment and emotional understanding before I'm willing to even consider sex just because I can't enjoy it without that. If someone I didn't know came up to me and asked me for a date, or that I only vaguely know, I'm gonna say no. I don't care what they look like, it just ain't gonna be a yes. It has to flow into a special kind of bond before I'd start feeling an attraction and if they asked then, yeah, I'd probably say yes. But that kind of bond of understanding is rare. You don't meet a lot of people you get that close and trusting to.

Do I find certain traits cuter than others? Yeah. I like brunette hair particularly, or taller height, or little corner of mouth smiles, but that's more of an aesthetical appreciation without the emotional connection. There isn't an attraction, just an appreciation. Like looking at a piece of art. I don't wanna fuck the painting, but it does look cute.

Short, tall, blonde, brunette, muscular, feminine, all good to me in the end if its tied to whomever I love.

Lysa_Bell · 2022-07-02T06:30:08+00:00

If you just want sex physical. If you want a relationship emotional.

I met my bf online in a chat room and we "clicked". I had no idea what he looked like but I was very attracted to his personality. When I first saw a picture of him I wasn't really attracted to him but I was already invested in him. Then he took a bit more care of himself and we had sex. Boom. Physical attraction. Today he is the hottest men alive for me even if he isn't a Chad. He is an amazing men all around and my emotional connection to him raises my physical attraction constantly.

I had fwb situations before and relationships where I was basically just physical attracted to the person. They didn't last long. The less you can form a emotional bond the uglier a person becomes to you.

DrinkItInMan11 · 2022-07-02T06:44:12+00:00

Physical connection and it's not even up for debate, If i'm not physically attracted to my partner then the relationship is doomed to fail.

ruboyuri · 2022-07-02T18:31:19+00:00

She meant she prefers fucking James to being friends with him, and vice versa for Adam

Most men here would prefer to be James; most women would prefer to be Adam

sex_throwaway999 · 2022-07-02T23:59:52+00:00

She told me that she doesn't talk to James too much anymore and they were only "physically connected". She then said she likes Adam and that she feels "emotionally connected" to him.

translation: she thought James was hotter, but he wouldn't commit to her

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Raileyx · 2022-07-02T03:29:54+00:00

They're both important, obviously. And according to your needs and preferences, one may be more important to you than the other. Hard to call a general trend here, as every couple is different.

If I were to claim one thing, I'd say at the start of a relationship, the physical connection is more important. The emotional connection grows more important over time and eventually becomes more important than the physical one. Tendentially.

HazyMemory7 · 2022-07-02T03:32:08+00:00

Emotional, physical connection is more or less just fwb

Stunning-Potato-1984 · 2022-07-02T03:48:50+00:00

So if you're with some one whose 1/2 and you find a 2/2 you obviously dump the 1/2.

Caring_Cactus · 2022-07-02T05:10:28+00:00

Emotional connection without a doubt, although in some ways I would argue that is also what physical attraction is doing too since it causes an emotional response. What most people want with themselves is to feel secure and whole in their sense of self, and a romantic connection is one way that can consistently provide that in the long-term. Physical attraction is one way I think that can jump start that process in forming an attachment to someone, to value and experience strong emotions that reinforce our sense of self, but physical attraction alone is not what sustains it in the long run imo, that's where the emotional connection comes from.

Marzipan-Happy · 2022-07-02T09:44:56+00:00

Emotional. If a guy can't make me laugh, I'm not interested. I rather go with the less attractive guy that has a great personality than the eye candy whom I have no connection with.

IcarusKiki · 2022-07-02T10:44:37+00:00

both but you need physical to start

Mind125 · 2022-07-02T13:42:37+00:00

I think Physical and Emotional are the wrong ways to split the two types of connection. A physical connection is just attraction. But attraction is just a social construct where we assess a person's value based on cultural cues of physical characteristics (hair style, body type, height, weight, fashion sense, etc.). Notice how there's no "physical connecting" in this attraction. It's all happening psychologically. An emotional connection is where you've interacted with the person and formed an attachment to them. This too has psychological components. So we're not really dealing with a dichotomy of physical and emotional. We're actually just dealing with different parts of one psychology.

This clarifies that when someone has sex, they are still connecting on an emotional level but they're not very attached. They based the decision for sex purely on attraction which are social cues. However, after interacting with the individual, they must have some stance on attachment, even if it's little to no attachment. This stance is what we would call "Emotional Connection."

Consider the alternative. When people get to know each other and don't have sex, they attach based on different reasons. Sex may or may not come into the equation later (yes, friends do get into relationships and have sex afterward). In this scenario, the question of sex is an entirely different question of attachment, although they are related.

So why did I go through all this work to redefine things? The question of physical vs emotional confuses the issue too much. It's actually all psychological. When re-framed, the real question is: Which is more important, the social cues that someone presents or your attachment after interacting with them? The answer becomes obvious: It depends on what you value. Some relationships are entirely based on social cues, crafting them, maintaining them, and presenting them to society to feel a sense of upward social mobility. Other relationships are based on communication and negotiating how to interact with each other. Some are a mix of both. Your choice, your consequence.

Blueexpression · 2022-07-02T16:47:01+00:00

If we have a physical connection, I get to bang. If we have an emotional connection, I’d have to listen to her talk. Physical all the way young bro.

No_Regular1586 · 2022-07-02T17:41:07+00:00

Without a physical connection, there is no emotional connection. Not a romantic one.

Peacesquad · 2022-07-02T18:01:09+00:00

Emotional for women physical for men

xpinkrainbowsx · 2022-07-02T19:19:24+00:00

they equally matter. i’m not having sex with a man i don’t find physically attractive and i’m not staying around for a man who can’t emotionally stimulate and support me.

Good-Strong · 2022-07-02T19:22:28+00:00

Emotional/mental connection has the edge for a long term relationship imo, but both are extremely important, and a relationship with minimal sexual attraction/connection is unlikely to last long, or be a happy one at any rate…

The sexual side is obviously crucial but at the end of the day, the majority of time you spend together as a couple isn’t going to be spent just having sex lol.

If you don’t enjoy chatting to your partner or going on outings/holidays together, or share similar plans for life- the relationship is just as doomed as one where you totally dread sleeping with your partner imo.

RearwindowPinecone · 2022-07-02T05:46:41+00:00

physical,you cant have emotional connection without physical one

Title	What is more important Physical Connection or Emotional Connection?
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