Building attraction with "text game." The unexplored frontier.

RandianHero · 2013-03-04T20:28:37+00:00

I can tell you one thing: you're definitely going to get better results from being funny than you will from being boring.

aufter · 2013-03-05T00:21:37+00:00

As a girl, I like texting (as long as I'm not busy), but a guy using the word "nekkid" would make me want to lose his number quick

ImJustAMan · 2013-03-04T21:57:31+00:00

"send that bitch a smiley, bitches love smilies"

Lol but seriously, send funny pictures and try to make her laugh.

OP is correct. Especially when he uses her responses to gauge her level of interest/not letting her string you along and flake our on you

WhyamIreadingthis · 2013-03-04T23:23:44+00:00

This was great advice until you got to the part where you talked about specific things to say. Holy shit dude...Cringe worthy

MeowMixDaFreshmaker · 2013-03-04T22:38:52+00:00

I'm diggin this thread so far. Great start with Texting Advice. I'd like to add some more information that can help with the formation of a "Routine", for lack of a better word while texting girls. Turkey459 is absolutely right its all about momentum with texting. If you lose that then you lose her. It is as simple as that.

Before I get into the more complex things I have discovered I would like to cover some simple basics that IMO have improved my game with texting.

Nicknames

If you don't assign a playful nickname with a girl when you meet her in person, start now It is great to use in field as well as in text.

Used properly they make you an Alpha AND someone she feels she knows well. Like the sexy friend her older brother had, but could never get with when she was younger.

"BUT WHAT DO I PICK!?!" Pick something that you talked about, an opinion she was serious about, an aspect of her looks, or even something you accuse her of being when she's not. Some random examples I've used are:

Butterfly Butt (had a butterfly tatto on her ass)

Mr. Serious (She gave a serious face to me when I approached, teased her about it, moved forward with it as MY tool)

Lil Nazi (She waved to her friend once, and it looked a little like a nazi salute, I teased her about it) NOTE:Racial jokes/accusing of something, etc should only be used by the advanced or the very funny. You know who you are...

How to use nicknames: They have two uses really. Though most guys I know only use the obvious one. To tease the girl, or as some guys playing the Game call it a "Neg". But it can also be used as an 'award' that confirms that you two are close. Here's some examples how to use a Nickname properly in text.

The first text You met her 20minutes ago or even last night. Time to start texting. You could go the "Hey Im blank blank from that bar. Hows it going?" But that's boring as shit. Saying "Hey Mr.Serious, I think how much you were smiling around me has cured you." Is not only immediately informing her of who you are, but also allowing you to make a joke^alpha, and remind her of how she was swept away by you^alpha.

Using nicknames as a Neg: Me: "I feel like I know what you wear in bed everynight." Her: "lol woah, little personal?" Me: "Mr. Serious living up to her name! Can't handle that I know it's long johns and a parka?" Her: "OMG hahaha NO! Thong and maybe if its cold a tshirt." In this situation I also flipped it on her, but still made good use of the nickname as a neg and moved the conversation onto the sexual track that I wanted.

Using Nicknames as an award. Her: "I want you to kiss me in a large open public place, its my dream." Me: "name of famous local open public place is going to be bustling around us. Ill kiss you and the huge screen will light up with "MR SERIOUS ACHIEVES LIFE DREAM!" This is obvious why its good.

Proper Language

The use of proper language, and grammar within text messaging are important. The reason being is that for the first while you are texting/getting to know one another you will be judged solely on what they read on a 4-5inch screen.

"I feel like a million bucks. I just smashed that crowd, and got a card from a promoter!" Is much better than: "I feelz like 1000000$ Smashed crowd anddd got promoter number!!"

You are an intelligent man of the world. Men of your calibre know how to use the language they communicate in. Now this being said, I mentioned before that this matters only in the beginning. Why? Because after a while she will know you and accept/love your personality this means purposeful mistakes that imply different meaning or are emphasized for humorous reasons are great.

Emoticons

Ok this one is always controversial. I get most resistance from men that are 25+ on this one. But guys hear me out. Use emoticons, but use them with intent. Most of human communication is non verbal, so when you are texting a girl at a high rate a lot of your intent is lost. This happens most of time with sarcasm, and can be useful with text "negs"

"Iunno if i like your butt :P" Comes across more playful, and less offensive than its alternative. "Iunno if i like your butt."

I personally use ;P for sarcasm and :) for awards. thats the extent of my emoticon use. It is used for clearly identifying intent like one would with body language or tone of tone. Now there are some possible snags that can come from using emoticons. If they are an older woman they might be very turned off by them because they haven't been exposed to emoticons and are frightened by their internal fright of getting older. Simply flip the situation and use it as a bonding/sexual experience. "When I see you next we're both going to run through them on our faces, and I'll show you what they mean on your phone. But then, because I taught you something, you must teach me something, what are you going to owe me :P" I flipped the situation, implied a funny activity where I show her the ropes^alpha, and then sexualized the whole thing^alpha.

I hope you guys have learned something, and I typed it all out properly. I like this subbreddit a lot. I didn't get to the intermediate things let alone the advanced stuff. But if you guys wanna hear more just let me know, but for now I gotta go. BTW I feel like I should say that all the examples (Except for the older woman emoticon one) come from real life and worked. I didn't just write them out to sound cool.

Edited: for format.

batshit_lazy · 2013-03-04T21:58:15+00:00

Thing with texting is that you need to be very careful.

You can text her a hundred times with great response, but all it takes is one misunderstanding and she'll give you the shoulder. Remember that she can't read your tone, face or body language at all, and since she's talking to a stranger, she's analyzing the fuck out of every word you say. Sometimes more than you intended.

I've dropped it all on the floor too many times because I got a bit cocky and she thought I was being a dick because she couldn't see me smirking at the screen.

o0rly · 2013-03-04T20:33:25+00:00

Good points.

But remember some guys are better at being social when they can be spontaneous which is easier in person.

Some guys/girls over analyzes the texts, making them very time consuming. Also you might come off wrong to the girl when shes "reading" between your lines.

You can't kino at all.

Your face and voice tone is very important when connecting with someone.

I do use texting exactly how you describe it. But I don't overuse it, because it's not a field I excel at. And I prefer using texting as means to gain an advantage where I can. Often this means me using less texting then I could.

Pitrestop · 2013-03-04T21:42:44+00:00

Text game is underestimated on this sub. Maybe it depends with age, but for someone like me (21) it's pretty essential to get some buildup. Especially when your schedule is quite loaded and you don't always have time to set up a date.

And like you said OP, girls love texting, so if you keep the attraction going during text game, it's just a big win for you.

Never ever ever ever ever underestimate what you can do with mere texting. You can definitely turn a girl on simply by texting her.

EddieFender · 2013-03-04T22:32:54+00:00

Something I have had positive results with.. funny or interesting "would you rather?" or "if you were stuck on a deserted island" type questions.

The key is to be original. Don't just ask her, "What's your favorite band?" or some kind of lazy thing like that. I have one that just KILLS, but I try to use it sparingly and I'm not putting it on here. Try to make it contextual to her. Most recently I asked a girl with many tattoos which one she would keep if she had to get rid of all of them. This led to a short back and forth about her tattoos, which gave me a reason to talk about one of her more intimate ones and how I liked it. She immediately called me, "because it's easier to talk on the phone while I'm working then it is to text". If she has pets, she'll love fun questions about them ("If your cat could fly or talk which would you pick?" Maybe that's not a good one, but you get the idea I hope).

I use it like this. I haven't seen this girl or talked to her at all in a while. I wanna keep her interest, but I'm either busy for a while and can't set up a date, or she flaked on me and I withheld my attention (I can't really think of a good way to explain it. I usually just stop texting/calling for a while if a girl flakes on me. If she's around through mutual friends or something, I'm still very nice and everything, but sort of openly friendzone her and ignore her if there's another single girl who wants attention.) Either way I just throw the question out there, respond in a teasing sort of way, and stop.

intjpua · 2013-03-04T22:42:08+00:00

Most guys, when getting started, make the mistake of texting too much. Way too much. Like novel-length, carefully thought out, texts that exhibit a need for validation and an attitude of scarcity. The simple rule of thumb for that is, "Text a whole lot less. Mostly just for setting up dates, keeping a lead warm when you can't get the in-person meet." etc.

Guys starting out also tend to want to use facebook and text because it is easy. It requires no balls to talk to a girl via text or facebook. And, they do it with the belief that they are accomplishing something by carrying on long, boring text conversations...they think they're paying into First National Bank of Pussy, and as soon as they've banked enough time, they get to make a withdrawal. It doesn't work that way.

So, I disagree with you, generally speaking, not because your type of text game is bad, but because I believe many guys starting out will take it to mean they can attract women while sitting at home trawling facebook and their address book. You have to have attraction already before you can usefully use your type of text game. You are discussing the "keep the line tight, while you're waiting to reel her in" kind of text game, and it's valid.

And, while it's all subjective, and everybody has to play to their strengths, I think your type of text game is less effective than more laconic game, for me and for the type of girls I like. Fewer words, occasional sexy ambiguity, and occasionally hilarious comments that make her blush or laugh out loud in an inappropriate place/time. I tend to text less than the girl; but will occasionally initiate, even when I'm not trying to setup a meet. I never text e-card memes, but will occasionally send funny animal pictures, or a picture of something I just took. A funny looking animal can be titled "Saw this and thought of you."

Leaves her wondering. ("WTF! Does he think I look like an ugly cross-eyed cat?" This kind of thing is probably best for particularly hot girls.)

citizenc · 2013-03-04T22:22:57+00:00

Don't ask her what she's doing. Don't harass her. Don't pester her.

Remember, YOU are attracting HER. Pestering her with crap like that will drive most women away.

Source: the woman I'm seeing explicitly said that to me. "My friends are like 'he doesn't text you all the time? that's awsome!' and I was like 'I know!!"

If you text her all the time then that sends the message that you don't have anything else going on in your life.

TELLING her something via text, without really expecting a response, is OK. But conversations? No way. Texting is for setting up dates and casual flirting only. :P

ManowaR1488 · 2013-03-05T01:56:00+00:00

Text game is my strength, and with a job that requires 12+ hours shifts, for weeks straight...Sometimes I need to rely on it. I use cocky comedy in my texts and it works wonders. OP is right, girls LOVE texting, so take advantage of that and make them LOVE texting YOU. Make it so they laugh and get a little more attracted every time they text with you.

Once in person, I can build upon what is now already a very strong foundation with minimal effort. Fast Kino and just continuing the cocky comedy is the easy finisher.

I wrote this FR months ago where it was basically all text game.

dablac · 2013-03-04T21:50:00+00:00

There are lots of strategies (often directly conflicting) for text game and this is just one of them.

What you're describing already has a name, it's called building comfort and is often criticized for excessive non-face to face interaction, of which text-only is the worst, followed by voice then video (with sound) which obviously lacks any of the physicality (such as kino, body language, mirroring, eye contact, physical closeness etc.) of a normal interaction

notlurkinganymoar · 2013-03-04T23:03:49+00:00

You can build comfort/attraction over text. The trick is to do so without coming across as needy or falling into the friendzone. This means not overtexting, constantly setting up a date and sexualizing. Also, smileys. Got to use smileys.

There are many girls I've had to build more comfort with via text. It works and the tips are readily available. Use them.

Turkuleys · 2013-03-05T01:40:03+00:00

Good post but one thing. The part about "just ask her straight-up: "I'm not feelin' the love here, I'm throwing in the towel unless you give me a good reason why an awesome guy like me should stick around " The only thing i wouldent try doing. Just doing this shows that you are seeking her value. I wouldent do this unless you have gone on a date already

AlfredLordVenisonn · 2013-03-05T02:11:11+00:00

As far as text game goes: way to go on this post, you are dead right. The part about flipping the situation from one word answers and what not is genius. Aziz Anisari recently did an interview on AV.com, if you haven't read it yet, do it, it's worth a read. Something I took away from the article, was that we live in an age where texting has become a dominant form of communication, it makes people accessible at all points of the day. Building a relationship (wrong word but you know what I mean) with someone is officially been fast tracked. Instead of getting to know someone and building trust in limited few hour long person to person interactions, you can get the same affect much sooner. Texting is a dominant form of communication. The way I see it, there are two options as far as text game goes: ignore it or embrace it, both have to do with what kind of game you play. Some people and PUAs use a mysterious persona (e.g. mystery, kind of), and some people use a larger than life cocky-funny persona, neither is superior to the other. For those using the mysterious persona; texting would be counter-productive and should be used only for scheduling dates. Larger than life cocky funny personas would benefit greatly from text game. Those engulfed in inner game and have genuinely changed themselves for the better and aren't using personas.......... I say text game is a good thing.

Classh0le · 2013-03-04T22:38:42+00:00

Nothing says "I wanna fuck you" like a smiley face.

ben0wn4g3 · 2013-03-04T22:40:28+00:00

It can be done. I've done it before. BUT, big but, why opt for second best, if you want to build some rapport, call her. I've called girls and had hour long conversations on the phone, after this a girl will never 'flake'.

FittersGuy · 2013-03-04T23:45:26+00:00

Agreed with your main point, disagreed with how you text. Asking her what she's doing is boring. Asking her what she's wearing might be ok. Telling her you're wearing a sexual outfit is weird.

Ambiguity is excellent, making her wonder if what you said is sexual or not is always a go to for me once she feels comfortable. "I'm about to get nekkid and hop into the shower" is not ambiguous at all, that's straight up telling her what you're after. Let her mind do the wandering on it's own.

If she's boring, I usually just stop texting her. If she texts me again later I might give it another shot.

That said, we may possibly just have completely different styles of text game. Mine is fun, lighthearted, and mostly about absolutely nothing. Usually starts with a reference from the night I met her, then moves into light banter, and eventually asking to meet again because I "need dance lessons" or something like that.

why_downvote_facts · 2013-03-05T00:54:33+00:00

As a lady, if a guy sent me a text of a meme like that whom I hardly know would get a lesser chance. It comes off as not confident that you don't know what to talk about and a little immature. But maybe that's just me.

Here's a better one to break the ice. To start off text her saying simply "Hey how's it going" she'll text back probably something like "good, you?" now is your chance to get to know her. Ask her what kind of food she likes, if she's a dog/cat person, however make it seem natural and not forced like an interview. All in all be confident and take charge. Do not be scared to ask questions (some questions are off limits like past relationships, your parents divorce, trauma on the first few dates/chats)

On to the date, based off of what food/drink/interests its easier to ask her on a date this way in a place you can get to know together that isn't adding any pressure to either of you. Such as if you take her to a restaurant lounge for drinks and an appetizer, only have 2 drinks max don't turn it into a drinking binge with your buddies. Don't take her to a movie, this is third or second date worthy. A first date should be getting to know each other and going from there.

I hope that helped! Yes overall being funny is a good thing however it's nice to see a guy's serious side too.

TaylerMykel · 2013-03-05T02:31:50+00:00

just ask her straight-up: "I'm not feelin' the love here, I'm throwing in the towel unless you give me a good reason why an awesome guy like me should stick around (add winky face or some emoticon bullshit)."

If a guy sent me that I would be a little put off. Just saying. I mean of course it is different for every female but I would be thinking that a guy is a bit full of himself or sounds like he is trying too hard. Just my input. :)

readonlyuser · 2013-03-05T05:34:32+00:00

My 2 cents:

Ambiguity is huge. Make her curious, capture her attention, get her thinking.
Text dumb shit/non sequiturs
Don't correct spelling errors.
Don't be afraid to be sexual, especially if followed up by business-as-usual texts.
Misinterpret things she says as sexual or her being interested in you, etc.
Use emoticons with discretion.
Check in on cold leads every week or two with quick anecdotes, jokes or novel/interesting but superficial questions.

QUESTION FOR SEDDIT-

DICK PICS: Yay or nay? When is the right time if yay?

dalek6 · 2013-03-04T23:46:36+00:00

If she gives one-line response or responds infrequently, just ask her straight-up: "I'm not feelin' the love here, I'm throwing in the towel unless you give me a good reason why an awesome guy like me should stick around (add winky face or some emoticon bullshit)." Remember, YOU'RE the one who needs to be convinced that SHE is awesome. You already know you're awesome, right? If she's interested, she will apologize profusely and change behavior, if not, move on.

I am a girl, and what the fuck?

HUGE turn off. I would stop replying all together. Why the hell should I beg you to text me?? Get off your high horse.

Worst advice.

6PoolPwnage · 2013-03-04T22:43:24+00:00

Sure, I agree with what you're saying.

But I think on the whole idea of things is that gaming in person should be polished and fine tuned first. THEN you can work on Text game.

Don't do it backwards like way too many people do.

hotpajamas · 2013-03-04T22:21:59+00:00

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2013-03-05T06:32:34+00:00

I am late to the game so hopefully this still can help someone. One important thing that hasn't been mentioned is matching their length of each text. If she is texting 2-3 sentences, don't respond with a 2 pager. Keep it simple. Be funny, tease, and confident.

I've recently been making the mistake of not texting enough. If I didn't have a text that would add value, I would cease texting. Which is not entirely bad, but if you are still in the phase of building attraction it can be critical.

SpenceNation · 2013-03-05T13:57:06+00:00

"I'm gonna tell you all the key to getting women. Be confident."

Yeah, ill just put on my confidence suit, strap into my confidence cannon and blast off into ConfidenceLand!

If I was a suave guy who exuded confidence I probably wouldn't be here. It's like telling an aspiring athlete to get more talent. We can practice and with a lot of hard work and dedication slowly develop a skill. But we can't just flip a switch into being something we are not. I didn't choose to be an anxious introvert because of the opprotunities it opens up, I just simply am this way.

Tips and tricks on how to communicate more efficiently is what this sub needs. Not vague, illusory advice like "just be you" or "be confident".

frickinaj · 2013-03-04T21:12:10+00:00

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onemessageyo · 2013-03-05T05:32:06+00:00

My rules for texting: 1) I never send two texts in a row. 2) I never send long texts. 3) I never answer more than one question in a text. 4) I only respond quickly if there's an obvious vibe and we're texting back and forth rapidly (this is a good thing). 5) When I get a text that's a random compliment, or just a reaction text that's basically praising my coolness, I ignore it. 6) I'm never even slightly indecisive with a text. I've had time to think about it so I'm damned sure about what I'm saying. 7) I keep it playful. I use smileys to be playful, but never to lessen the blow of something bold I say. 8) If I've got nothing to say, I don't sit around thinking about what to say. If I need to get a conversation going because things are getting dead or I just got her number, I'll wait till I see something sick, take a picture and send it to her, with some witty label. 9) I don't always amplify how cool/hot/smart I am when she says so, only sometimes to be spontaneous. Usually I pretend to ignore such things, because while I like a girl that's into me, I hate a girl that's clingy. (This isn't just for texting). 10) I keep my texts concise and emotion packed. Wrong way -- Her: You don't look Cuban! Me: I know./lol Right way -- Her: You don't look Cuban! Me: What are you saying about Cubans!? >:o

Wrong way -- Her: I'm about to get in the shower. Me: Ohh sweet ;] Right way -- Her: I'm about to get in the shower. Me: Oh so you thought about me when you got naked huh?

Basically, I'm way more flirtatious than I could possibly be in person. I'm more standoffish and I'm less predictable. I love text game because just like this guy says, it's momentum. Sometimes you might think you won't be able to continue that text momentum when you see her again in person, but trust me it happens naturally if you let it.

mal_one · 2013-03-05T05:46:04+00:00

If you write something, and read it back to yourself and as your reading it are thinking.... jesus thats a boring text. DELETE it. start over, but write something ridiculous.

WRONG Ie. Girl - "What are you up to?" You - "Chillin out, just studying. you?"
YOUVE FAILED.

RIGHT Ie. Girl - "What are you up to?" You - "Battling an ocelot with a toothbrush i've carved into a small spear" WIN

9/10 she probs doesnt know what an ocelot is, so you sound smart (social status +1)
Your funny cause well, thats just redic (Humor +1)
You've opened up a door for more messages from her(momentum +1)

IAmTheOmNom · 2013-03-05T10:24:03+00:00

Oh god I cringe so hard when I think about my texting attempts. It is really hard for me, as I also don't text with my friends or my girlfriend, other than arranging stuff.

ehesemar · 2013-03-04T20:31:24+00:00

I'm glad someone is finally preaching the importance of building report through texts. I don't use is as a substitute for real conversation but I let my real personality come out through texting. It's also a risk-free way to test the waters. I've had many girls tell me that the main reason they hung out with me again was because of how much fun they had texting me.

birdwontquit · 2013-03-05T03:35:17+00:00

What you miss is that the advice about texting and keeping it short isn't because that's viewed as good "text game", but rather that if you don't know what you're doing it gives you less opportunity to fuck it up. If you text purely logistics when setting up the first couple dates, the girl won't lose any attraction for you. She may not gain any (though if you're direct in the way you set up dates, she will), but it won't do you any harm. While lame, boring, question texts will cause her to lose interest.

Also, the amount you text should be in direct proportion to how invested she is in you. I used to text with my girlfriend literally all day. Hundreds of texts per day. When you first meet a girl you shouldn't be texting her a lot because she doesn't know you, you're just some random guy, and you likely don't have enough material (shared experiences) to continue a conversation long. If you do, more power to you, text away.

Playful banter (ideally sexual) is a great tool to use in text, but for beginners it's safer to just stick to logistics. That's why that advice is given.

HolographicMetapod · 2013-03-05T09:13:17+00:00

"I'm throwing in the towel unless you give me a good reason why an awesome guy like me should stick around (add winky face or some emoticon bullshit)."

Douche material.

bentleymazerati · 2013-03-04T20:52:55+00:00

i think texting can be a useful tool but it must be used sparingly. make her long for the next text from you, and make her wait a good amount of time for it.

keithzz · 2013-03-04T22:09:43+00:00

I'm always texting but the thing is a lot of the shit u say gets misconstrued because there is no tone of voice and shit. But it does work if you know what you're doing

DatGuyThemick · 2013-03-05T00:44:57+00:00

Another thing I've done that has helped in the past:

Never text a chick while you have negative emotions hanging around. Someone just cut you off in traffic and you're pissed? Chill five minutes before you text(or call). Negative emotions lead to negative discussions and with a lot of women, that's a huge ass turn off. I've found myself losing control of the direction of the conversation and having it go to negative places all because I was upset over something completely unrelated.

So, if you're mad/sad/whatever, don't hit that send button til you calm down, because once you hit that button, you can't get that message back.

Tiniteddie · 2013-03-05T04:17:05+00:00

I do this out of habit.. Lol.

whorefart · 2013-03-05T04:58:42+00:00

I can only guess now how many sedditors will be going to jail for harassing a girl by text

2013-03-05T06:22:03+00:00

If you have no momentum, your date will start off slow and awkward

I disagree with that assertion. The awkwardness is what you make of it. I've been in situations just like this where I've set a date and gave her the cold shoulder. If you've done your job at building attraction it won't just completely wane.

2013-03-05T14:25:53+00:00

I feel like my text game sux. Im good with girls and all, and can have money game out and in person, but when im by myself and texting a girl i feel like i lose their attraction. I become too nice, too friendly, etc. its the way i was raised i guess but i need to stop. Maybe my life is just boring

hoodieck · 2013-03-05T15:23:51+00:00

Say I'm about to 'move on', do I just delete the number, drop her completely and forget she existed? Or do I text her something like "I'm not going to text you anymore/I'll leave you alone, etc"?

uberafc · 2013-03-05T15:49:28+00:00

This CONTENT Should be side barred!!! Great discussion in the comments as well.

itsmevichet · 2013-03-05T18:11:56+00:00

If a girl is interested enough to give you her number, and then start sexting you, it's because of what you did in person, and what she's imagining you will do the next time she sees you, in person.

Look, I'm not saying that text game doesn't exist. But, it's really only useful for communication in good faith - communication where rapport is already established.

With good rapport, and a basis of positive in-person experience to draw from, you can text almost anything to a girl and have her attraction for you grow, as long as you're not annoying her with the frequency.

It's just not worth it to talk about "what to text" as much as it is to talk about "when not to text, and what not to text."

Thing is, anything that would work over text I guarantee you would work better in person, where you can kino and escalate. All that texting just leads to meeting anyway.

UnapologeticalyAlive · 2013-03-05T19:31:04+00:00

I know there are a lot of different opinions on this, but here's something I think we should all agree on. The #1 rule of texting is Don't overdo it! You can send a few playful texts now and then, but it's a risky thing to do. If you send too many, you look needy. If you get mad at her for not texting enough, you are needy. If you send anything that can be misinterpreted you can lose her interest really fast. So keep those texts short and sweet and infrequent. If there's ever any concern in your mind that you might be sending too many texts, you are sending too many. Always err on the side of fewer texts. Save the majority of your communication for when you see her in person.

2013-03-05T19:56:06+00:00

I very much hate texting, I always over think it and I feel things can be easily misconstrued. I don't know how to get over this

Edgar_Allan_Rich · 2013-03-05T20:23:31+00:00

I've said it before and I'll say it again...text is also good for reaching out to women in other cities, mere acquaintances, and women you haven't spoken with in a while. Send them a joke, have a quick back and forth, and then move on. Everyone loves attention.

spacepack · 2013-03-05T21:21:44+00:00

Use your best judgement and not the advice of people on the internet. Every situation is different.

JihadDerp · 2013-03-05T00:48:22+00:00

If she gives one-line response or responds infrequently, just ask her straight-up: "I'm not feelin' the love here, I'm throwing in the towel unless you give me a good reason why an awesome guy like me should stick around (add winky face or some emoticon bullshit)." Remember, YOU'RE the one who needs to be convinced that SHE is awesome.

Thisssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss.

I was texting a girl I met a week ago and she kept giving the most frustrating one word responses. I got fed up and said, "Your colorless responses are disheartening. Let me know when you have more to say." Not exactly fun and flirting, but I let her know without a doubt I wanted someone more interesting. And guess who spiced up her responses with more to say?

State your standards. If you don't, what are you settling for instead? You only live once.

2013-03-05T15:12:10+00:00

This is terrible advice regardless of age group. I am 22. Texting and facebook are tools and only tools. Never use them to get to know someone. I wont try to convince you but I have enough experience to know what I am talking about.

Sure....mass texting might get you laid but knowing that texting is a tool is a sure thing. Mass texting is like throwing 1000 darts and then claim this is the way to go because you got one bulls eye. It means nothing and the process can rarely be repeated with good results. Learning when to text and how to text will provide you with a tool to get whatever girl you wan.

Broyougotthis · 2013-03-04T20:24:32+00:00

I don't think there is a right or wrong thing to do. After all, game is all about options and using what is lost effective for you. That being said, I've found that the younger the girl is the more she wants to text. This is with my experience though. I usually don't start texting more than a couple messages back and forth until after the second date. YMMV, as with everything. It was refreshing to see a post that didn't just bash text game.

Michael_Cassio · 2013-03-04T21:51:37+00:00

Text game and phone game in general is all comfort building.

I'm sure most of us are aware that push/pull and humor can get you points and retain attraction but you can't really build attraction through texting unless you can get her to sext.

Even then you're better off driving over and getting laid.

2013-03-05T07:25:06+00:00

The text game is so important for anyone still young enough to reproduce

AmazingNinja · 2013-03-05T22:11:10+00:00

I'm not saying, I'm the best texter in the world, but I can hold my own. The only advise I have is don't take advise from a girl. Our male gender role is to lead. Girls aren't use to leading and may (probably will) give you misleading advise. Get your advise from guys who have had success.

Xeonit · 2013-03-05T23:26:03+00:00

I'm throwing in the towel unless you give me a good reason why an awesome guy like me should stick around

Consider this line stolen

datmamma · 2013-03-04T22:31:56+00:00

Hey if anyone here wants to improve or try new text game methods on girls in your area try out the app tindler for the iphone. It's free and ultra entertaining, my roommate told me about it last night and to say the least it is revolutionary. Sure it is easy to read and critique another guy's game, and yea sure there are good theories on what to write and not to write. But these theories are generic and every interaction has a different underlying tone. I have found that the best way to improve and be able to decipher the tone or level of attraction is simple, practice. I have now given all of you a tool to do just that so good luck and happy hunting.

hotpajamas · 2013-03-05T04:42:55+00:00

No.

No, no no.

So many other posts I've flipped through summarize texting as unimportant, or merely a tool to schedule and confirm a date.

This is correct.

The vast majority of girls LOVE texting FREQUENTLY. They do it all day long with their friends.

Of course they do, who wouldn't love someone busting their ass all day sending funny pictures and trying to make them laugh? The more you text, the more you reduce yourself to an object of attention and social proof. It's not as simple as "Girls like texting!1".

Texting is momentum. If you have no momentum, your date will start off slow and awkward.

Momentum? what is that? the goal shouldn't be "momentum", it should be sexual tension. you build this with a delicate balance of offering value and expecting it. if your text-game doesn't extend beyond memes and being funny, you're not going to build tension. you're just going to be one of the other 2 or 3 guys she texts daily who also make her laugh.

Title	Building attraction with "text game." The unexplored frontier.
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Date	March 4, 2013 8:14 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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