Don't give him a penny

biggestsigh · 2021-03-04T17:13:47+00:00

So many men call her entitled for assuming she wasn't paying for the trip.

Euphoric-11 · 2021-03-04T19:05:14+00:00

Send him a $2000 invoice for your time and company.

purasangria · 2021-03-04T17:20:35+00:00

$10 says he's now got "post-nut clarity" and having enjoyed her sexually on the trip, he now wants to break up with her, so he wants her to pay. He invited her, and never asked her to pay until the trip was over. He basically wants his travel subsidized.

Nope. I"d block and delete. He doesn't get a dime.

Erinelda · 2021-03-04T17:25:13+00:00

I'd block his ass with extreme prejudice. That doesn't even occur to her.. but it damn well should lol. Men have taken so much from me and I can proudly say I didn't let them anywhere near my money.

haunted_vcr · 2021-03-04T17:25:37+00:00

You don't owe him shit. You never agreed to pay for it.

On that note, you really shouldn't give him any more of your time either - he sounds like a stingy prick with awful communication skills.

venomous_g · 2021-03-04T17:37:24+00:00

She has absolutely no obligation to give him shit. Dump him and move on.

jargon_explosion · 2021-03-04T19:01:40+00:00

I wouldn't pay in general, but also I would absolutely not pay without receipts. Trusting a person you've known for only months when they request 1800$ without ever consulting you? Hard pass.

Virgomermaid94 · 2021-03-04T17:15:11+00:00

You don’t owe him anything. But that is not your friend, dump him and run

spinsterchachkies · 2021-03-04T17:41:07+00:00

Sounds like a scam. Where’s the receipts Jerry

2021IsOurYearToShine · 2021-03-04T21:47:01+00:00

Oh wow. This reminds me when I was 23 years old and dating a ewww 51 yeat old.

I wanted to SpOiL him so took him on a holiday. I booked and paid for flights, a 5 star hotel, a car rental included drinks and meals in our hotel etc. The weekend cost me a small fortune, like, I literally could have bought a second hand car.

Anyway, we get home and he has a go at me because "You said you wanted to take me away and it ended up costing me money!"

What money you ask? He paid the parking at the airport and paid for ONE lunch.

I was so devastated that I RuInEd his holiday.

I've never paid an extravagant purchase for a man again. I bought my current partner some take away last week, he almost fell over in shock. Fuck spoiling men and being 50/50 financially. I'd rather be 100% alone then have a man only willing to see me as a 50% share.

Euphoric-11 · 2021-03-04T17:35:58+00:00

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aquietsword · 2021-03-04T19:57:15+00:00

Tell him he should have communicated that expectation before the trip because you're not a mind reader. Then block and delete.

DifferentBar6 · 2021-03-04T19:57:52+00:00

If this was not discussed and agreed beforehand that you would split the costs, you do not owe him any money

all_or_nothing_bet · 2021-03-04T17:21:23+00:00

He sounds like is a scammer. Either produce the proof of debt with receipts and an agreement to pay or piss off.

CuriousWasabi76 · 2021-03-04T20:18:54+00:00

The fucking audacity. He’s so scared to be confronted face to face with it, he also waits until they’re in a different city. Nahhh, he’s a penny pincher. 🙄

Woman_on_Pause · 2021-03-04T20:33:04+00:00

I recommended requesting $2500 via Venmo for her time on the trip, and he can just cut the difference and send her $700.

I would be HELLA insulted if I was invited on a trip and then billed afterward. Blech.

spicybookmaster · 2021-03-04T20:10:27+00:00

Block him everywhere.

randowordgenerator · 2021-03-04T19:31:14+00:00

and...what did anyone say?

besides to tell him to fuckoff?

vowelsareimportant · 2021-03-04T23:54:03+00:00

I’d break up with him and make him take me to small claims court if he wants that money.

oscine23 · 2021-03-05T05:27:37+00:00

Tell him like I told my narc ex, "My brother said he'll meet you with the money."

Never heard from his b*tch ass again. 😂

Davina33 · 2021-03-04T20:20:53+00:00

Stuff that, blocked!

need-to-irl-level-up · 2021-03-05T03:34:35+00:00

I went “50/50” on a trip with my ex, I made him sign an agreement that he was going to pay me back his half for any expenses I had to front and he was a whiner about paying me back despite the fact that I was a uni student with no income and he had a $72k yearly salary. He’s tucking trash and I was a fucking idiot

veruscka · 2021-03-05T00:58:11+00:00

Why is she asking what do do? What else is there to do but block him?

devoushka · 2021-03-04T23:53:13+00:00

Block and delete.

uptownxthot · 2021-03-05T00:41:00+00:00

i’d block him and delete the app 😭

KateJ1982 · 2021-03-05T14:52:36+00:00

Wait, it gets worse. I saw this one and the same user had posted a few days pripr that she was in a hotel with her "boyfriend." IIRC, they were a previously online/LDR that had only gotten together in person in this hotel for 2 weeks and also were visiting his friends, a married couple. She overheard him talking on the phone to his friends saying that things were "rocky" and other negative stuff.

So there's further evidence, even though it's obvious from the venmo request alone, that he is about to dump her, she means absolutely nothing to him and he has so little respect for her (and himself) that he's just going to toss out this money request first and see if she'll pay up. He was probably already planning to visit his friends and just thought hey free sex and a 4th person to round out the couples - why not.

Poor girl.

daisy_0720 · 2021-03-05T11:25:57+00:00

I would text back "who dis?" then block.

Turbulent_Gazelle · 2021-03-05T08:44:40+00:00

Block him on everything and move on.

blilola · 2021-03-05T17:32:13+00:00

I wouldn’t give this man a dime. How can you ‘invite’ me out but still expect me to go dutch. However, if he does show signs of violence, aggression or anger, then I wouldn’t want to be caught up with such a man. So I’d pay my share if that were the case then block him. The only thing worse than a stingy man is an unstable one

libramo0n · 2021-03-06T15:11:25+00:00

What would I do? Delete+block.

NoneOfYourBusinessPS · 2021-03-05T11:33:39+00:00

If he had told her beforehand that this would be a SHARED expense and she agreed, then this would be understandable. But having not told her anything? Is she supposed to look in her crystal ball and guess?

No fucking way, don't give him anything. If you plan a trip that will be paid by both (which is of course absolutely fine, I have my own money and don't need your handouts or charity), then say it in advance and I will gladly pay for myself.

They truly are morons.

Title	Don't give him a penny
Author	biggestsigh
Upvotes	432
Comments	64
Date	March 4, 2021 5:12 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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