[xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 1/14/13 (please upvote - zero karma)

jakeinmn · 2013-01-14T17:30:16+00:00

I'm making it a thing to address any self-confidence issues I have with myself. The big three are improving my aesthetics, charisma, and some aura of intrigue. While I have been making gains with my effort by myself in terms of lifting, reading, and becoming more interesting by picking up passionate hobbies etc, I just can't seem to improve my charisma. Are there any self-practice charisma exercises that you guys have and are aware of? The issue I have is that I stammer, mix words up, and come to a blank quite a lot.

choc_is_back · 2013-01-14T16:52:58+00:00

If I don't get laid by February 1st, I have allowed my roommate one unexpected groin shot. Would any other newbie like to partake in this challenge? We have 2 weekends.

triplee9 · 2013-01-14T17:06:19+00:00

Let's say you and a coworker really want to hook up. Is this a bad idea? I can get other girls but this is right in front of my face and it wouldn't even be hard.

LazyEvolution · 2013-01-14T20:05:42+00:00

Hi, long time lurker of seddit, reader of the game and the art of seduction, ect... Ice found that my biggest flaw is being funny. I can approach, use kino, and it seems girls generally like me, but the thing holding me back is that I'm not funny. I crack myself up, but not so much girls (or guys for that matter.) So my question is, do you guys use pre-rehersed jokes? Are you naturally funny? Is there something I can do to work on it?

eetsumkaus · 2013-01-14T19:59:31+00:00

Newbie here. ok, so I think I'm interesting, and I don't really have issues striking up conversation with attractive women. However, after a few months of lurking and reflection, I feel like my main problem is just meeting women in the first place. The places the sidebar talks about, bars and stuff I feel out of place at. Day game places like the grocery store or the gym, I'm just too wrapped up in what I'm doing or thinking that I don't really notice anyone or strike up converrsation. Any other sedditors with similar sentiments to me have suggestions on where they've found success?

I am a working professional in the suburbs of the San Francisco Bay Area. 23 years old. If that gives you any idea of what I could be doing...

dvallej · 2013-01-14T18:16:41+00:00

this weekend a female friend of mine told me that i came off as one for the friend zone, im a nice guy but i dont want to keep on giving the "friend zone" vibe that has follow me over the years

i use to be very timid but since i started reading this subreddit i have improved (slowly) and being able to aproach girls and even get a few numbers (and im yet to do anithing with said numbers) but i really need to stop this friend zone actitude. what can i do?

ColdAkuma · 2013-01-14T20:06:38+00:00

After digging myself through a lot of material here on seddit and taking some fundamental changes to my attitude towards life and women I have noticed a significant increase in female attention and success on dates.

One thing struck me oddly today though :

Even after aquiring a abundance mentality and multiple dates , I still got bummed out today after seeing my hot coworker with her boyfriend .

Today was the first time we really had a conversation and it was initiated by her while giving IOIs, I focused on maintaining eye contact and implementing light kino , she then asked me if we wanted to go outside ( she wanted to have a smoke I guess ). In my mind I interpreted this as her trying to isolate me , the idea of the both of us had never occured to me , never gamed her or gave her much thought at all.

After we went outside a dude shows up ( and kinda looked like me which was confusing as hell ) shakes my hand then walks past me hugs her and kisses her.

For some reason my ego took a hit there for a second , not because I am emotionally invested in her , not because I have oneitis , simply for her leading me on I guess.

As I had my fair share of several oneitis cases before I stumbled across seddit and the overall community of PUA and Seduction there is no concern that I might find myself back to the old routine but I´m still curious as to what exactly happened today in that scenario.

NoSmd · 2013-01-14T20:49:30+00:00

How can I try to keep at trying to be confident. Last Thursday I told myself to be happy. I was the whole day then the next four days have been shit. I can't keep being happy I feel fake. I went to the mall the other day and every girl I saw there I have no idea how to approach them. I'm in highschool and I just can't walk up to them. I look at them and don't know how to approach without feeling awkward. Please help with any advice.

SleepyA · 2013-01-14T20:28:23+00:00

How do you go about asking a girl out that you didn't really talk to much when you first met, but who you have tons of physical chemistry with? Follow up question: What are some good places to go to for a first date?

rimzdaddy · 2013-01-14T21:03:47+00:00

sometimes when i dont get my full nights sleep. i feel like im slightly off with the world and im not connecting properly. any way to get round this cept sleeping more. caffeine just makes me need the toilet.

dvallej · 2013-01-14T21:05:32+00:00

what you do after getting a number in a bar?

i know that you are probably gonna say call her, but i have being "recovering" from AA and i have got to the point of talking to girls at bars and actially i have gotten a couple of numbers, but sober back at home i have not done anything with them (specially because i have a bad memory and when i ask her phone the contact reads "girl at [pubs name]")

Wiskie · 2013-01-14T21:57:56+00:00

Can a biological sister within ~5 years of age be used as a wing-woman, or is that tremendously weird?

blacknred522 · 2013-01-15T00:01:40+00:00

I have absolutely no friends and avoid my family at all cost.

Other than the family, i'm not alone by choice, I can't even say hi to a stranger, and if I muster up the courage, it most likely will lead no where, I tried online dating but haven't recieved one message, and 90% of mine go unanswered. This makes me feel ugly and undesirable.

sometimes I feel the burden of being completely alone and blame my looks, my personality, everything. I often turn to drugs to fill the void. By sometimes I mean always, and by often I mean multiple times a day.

I want too use seddit to gain the self confidence it takes to make a friend. I want to learn how to keep a conversation from dying within the first few minutes like most of mine do.

Id like to add that I went always this way, I used to be outgoing, but specific events ate away at my courage, until I became a shell of who I was.

This isn't a question, just a heads up, look out for me, one day I may just gain some social skills and have something worth writing an fr about.

DrunkAtTheWedding · 2013-01-15T00:12:53+00:00

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justaskinafewq · 2013-01-14T21:58:56+00:00

As a virgin, how do I go about having sex with a girl for the first time. I know she likes me and she knows I am a virgin. She has had a few partners. Im ready to lose it, but i just don't know what to say to get to that point. I don't feel like i can just say "oh you know i'm a virgin and im ready to lose it so lets fuck" obviously.

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-colors · 2013-01-14T22:04:06+00:00

ok so here is my question help me out me and this girl were talking alone and she told me that she doesn't like her to make the move that the guy is supposed to ask the girl and after she told me that she asked me if I ever asked a girl out.... does that mean that she wants me to ask her out? or what? if yes how can I tell her please help me out thanks :)

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This_is_skyler · 2013-01-14T23:14:33+00:00

Anyone have any idea how to respond to the old "Don't call me I'll call you" line?

greyestofblue · 2013-01-14T23:17:00+00:00

Girls in groups - Not necessarily singling out one girl, but how does one break that into that dynamic. e.g. three girls at a table obviously no men with them, no wedding rings. Do I just walk up as I would a girl by herself?

Also, no wingmen. I always go alone.

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orangesrkay · 2013-01-14T23:25:05+00:00

I go out to loud bars on weekends frequently with 2 other friends. Due to the noise level, the places usually only permit having a conversation with the person right next to you by loudly talking into their ear. I can carry a light boring conversation but usually the women are drawn more to my friends and I get stuck with the leftovers (they're a few inches taller than me and apparently better looking). I don't have a problem speaking to the women, a lot of times it seems more like we're talking to each other just because we're there, not sure if that makes sense. Conversations are always just standard and boring, I guess that's my fault. So basically, I'm not getting the women I want, and the ones I am getting are usually "being nice" i guess. What should I work on, anyone have any direct advice or guides I would benefit from?
TL;DRthes places I frequent are usually dance oriented places, my friends attract the better looking women and I get stuck with leftovers, usually it's bland conversation and nothing more too.

Buff_N_Sexy · 2013-01-14T23:26:11+00:00

There's a girl at work who works in a different section than I do, so the only time I see her is when we're walking by each other by chance, which is usually when I'm going to take a restroom break before I go back and (un)load more planes, and she looks like she's busy as well. Every time we pass each other, we always exchange smiles. I'm not sure what to do, because like I said, she always looks like she's busy.

2013-01-15T00:08:36+00:00

Went on a date with a girl. She dug it. I didn't. She's nice but I just wasn't feeling the chemistry.

I figure the best way is to just straight up tell her that I wasn't feeling it, but I know that conversations like that are sort of like treading on thin ice. So my question is:

Is there a way (or even a way to phrase it) to tell her that I'm not interested sexually/romantically without coming off as arrogant/douchey and ideally not hurting her feelings too badly?

(note: It is likely that I will see this girl around as we share several mutual friends, so ideally I'm not crushing her soul/self-esteem.)

DrunkAtTheWedding · 2013-01-15T01:29:52+00:00

Any good ways to bounce girls from a coffe date to a dance bar?

DrunkAtTheWedding · 2013-01-15T01:50:06+00:00

Should I invite this girl to go out to eat with me and some friends or just me and her (first date)

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elgskred · 2013-01-15T02:23:39+00:00

Should I try to keep in touch with women I've met on say vacation or similar, meaning I won't have the chance to see them for about a year, when I plan to move to where they live? If so, how? I've tried a little bit, but I think it just feels so forced.

Up_swedes_to_theleft · 2013-01-15T02:48:35+00:00

I once fucked up hardcore with a girl, and moved on real quick. I have talked to a lot of people since, and am much more confident with myself. We have been talking a bit again, should I ask her out? When I mean fucked up, we were texting, imagine the most AFC, white knight kid you can imagine, that was me. I physically cringe thinking about it. I don't think I have one-itis with her, I definitely used to.

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ImJustAMan · 2013-01-15T03:26:57+00:00

I'm great with okay girls. When I start talking to an HB8-10, my game drops off considerably. Will this get better as I keep practicing and improving, or is there something specific I should focus on?

professionalbadass · 2013-01-15T03:33:13+00:00

I read earlier that high schoolers should completely stay away from this subreddit because the tips here are totally different from the things a high schooler should be doing.

So, for me and any other younguns lurking here, what kind of tips seem like good ideas for high school relationships and what kind of stuff is high school exclusive or not for high schoolers?

2013-01-15T03:45:23+00:00

Got the number.

Texted her out for a drink.

She said "Hmm maybe! but i barely know anything about you"

How do i reply now?

40Watts · 2013-01-15T03:56:11+00:00

Is there a good written guide on kino in this subreddit? I'm very awkward when it comes to transitioning from a handshake to putting your arm around or hugging a girl. Basically, I have no clue on how to progress in those first few steps of physical escalation.

AlmostVentured · 2013-01-15T04:03:51+00:00

Whats the best way to turn a prom date in to a girlfriend? We know a little about each other but im hoping to make it a relationship

Saandman · 2013-01-15T04:20:45+00:00

I want to take a small 3 by 5 notecard into the field with me. What should I fill it with? What are some important concepts or lists to add, that would be a good quick reference

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Idontlikekarmawhores · 2013-01-15T08:48:50+00:00

I have trouble leading women, even the ones interested in me. They usually just get bored after awhile and lose attraction. How do i change this? i m thinking of going to a girl i know likes me and just give her a kiss, like that! It ll be a huge deal for me and maybe it ll get easier from there ( thats what i think) I should also say that all the women in my family are alpha females and the men are usually the ones fallowing behind, this might be the reasson for me to be like this. Any help will be greatly appreciate it!!!

2013-01-15T12:12:59+00:00

I have trouble being the 'alpha' or dominant person in group settings or in a group of friends. They look down on me somewhat and i have let it happened for ages and its hard to change their perspective of me. This has affected me ways that i have never felt ever when i was in my 'shell'

Any tips?

lainzee · 2013-01-15T13:23:10+00:00

How do you pick up people at work?

I talk to this guy a lot (and some conversations veer into the pseudo-sexual - today we were discussing strip clubs and how high school girls and guys do each other's homework in hopes of sex). Hung out with him once outside of work at a house party at his place (was a guest of his roommate) but we were both in relationships at the time so nothing happened. I don't feel like it's at the point yet where I can ask him to drinks or coffee or whatever yet - I'm still trying to build enough attraction to get to that point. I'm getting IOIs from him (he seems to generally try to impress me through his conversations, demonstrates all kinds of social proof, eye contact, smiles, etc, and he talks to me in a different way than other employees) but I'm not getting any kinds of overt flirting.

I realized later on that I missed a golden opportunity today to turn the context of the conversation towards us having sex - when we were discussing the high school homework thing he said something about how he could generally see through it and I feel like I should have said something about how I guess that means that the next time I want something I shouldn't offer to take him to the hookup room (supply closet with no cameras where apparently things have happened) just to get him to say "yes". I didn't think of it at the time though.

I was thinking that a little bit of kino might help my cause, but I'm not a touchy person in general - I don't touch anyone in the ways that seem to be classed as "general" or "social" kino, and 1). I worry that I will seem super awkward. 2.) I don't even know how to do it in a work context - most advice I have seen is for clubs and clearly is too much for the workplace. Usually we are standing across from each, sometimes alongside eachother in a circle with other people. Or should I just avoid it altogether?

Since I'm a girl and he's a guy, and given the nature of our interactions, I'm not really worried about any type of sexual harassment issues. I'm just worried about being blown out for being awkward as fuck either by him or some of our work friends or just being seen as generally inappropriate and unprofessional.

So basically - kino y/n/how? Otherwise how do I escalate in the workplace?

(And yes, he and I are both well versed in the dangers of workplace relationships. We've both been in them. I think it's worth it.)

hirstyboy · 2013-01-15T18:33:06+00:00

Is there somewhere I could read a good article on push/pull to grasp a better understanding of it?

retrojacket · 2013-01-15T20:47:57+00:00

So I muster up the courage to cold approach a girl (friendly approach, nothing more)

But.. after than what do I say? Keep in mind.. this is on a Uni campus.. And I do not live on Res.. (sadly)

Beng1osha · 2013-01-16T03:25:58+00:00

I have trouble with starting kino with people whom I don't know. Does anyone have any tips for getting over that anxiety?

heckz · 2013-01-14T20:24:49+00:00

Are the mods straight edge? Is there a good reason to use the x's in your posts? It looks silly. drop the x's

DingoManDingo · 2013-01-14T19:53:41+00:00

What does a vagina feel like?

-colors · 2013-01-14T23:53:53+00:00

There is a girl I consistently run into and she has the mad hots for me and I would like to bang. Everytime I see her out she is with a friend who isn't really attractive enough for any of my friends to wing her for the night. How do you get separation when it's just a girl and her ugly friend?

Lanai · 2013-01-15T03:02:29+00:00

I'm currently unemployed and living at home with my parents (just graduated in september).

While attending college I had no trouble meeting new people (ladies included) and engaging in conversation, making dates, etc. But since coming back to live at home, I've found it difficult to get out of the house, especially as the suburban area I live in doesn't have many people my age.

My question is, what suggestions do you all have for me to get out of the house and find people my age while being financially conservative?

versa54 · 2013-01-15T02:52:03+00:00

I don't have a car. Is this going to hurt my chances with girls?

Title	[xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 1/14/13 (please upvote - zero karma)
Author	SedditModTeam
Upvotes	364
Comments	248
Date	January 14, 2013 3:31 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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