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| 112 | Men using "mathematical calculations" to drive down women's standardsEven the stats of finding a HVM are 0.000001%, all it takes is finding one person. Scrote math is often used to try and get women to settle for garbage, and I’m glad women aren’t falling for it anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/22 07:58 PM |
| 3 | An Ode to Living AloneNot at all, if anything my friends wanted to visit me more. Most of them still live at home, so they appreciate the freedom they have when they visit me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/22 09:59 AM |
| – | PSA: A high value man will not be into BDSM.Seems like one of the kinksters got triggered and crossposted it to one of their subreddits. FDS is strictly anti-kink, so writing essays about how wonderful it is that your partner gets off to beating you black and blue won't run here. Take it to your own spaces. Anyone who is pro-kink here will be banned. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/22 09:04 AM |
| 30 | An Ode to Living AloneI’ve lived on my own for years. Even though it’s more expensive, peace of mind is priceless. I don’t envy my friends who pay less, but have to share a kitchen and bathroom with strangers. My space is my own. I can do what I want, and I don’t think people fully appreciate that level of freedom. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/22 08:09 AM |
| 9 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 59 - 40 Years a NEET: Reflections of a Stay-At-Home SonIt was only available on the Patreon, I think. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/22 11:38 AM |
| 131 | The amount of pickmes on reddit is too high"aS A FeMaLe..." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/22 07:15 PM |
| 350 | The amount of pickmes on reddit is too highDon’t forget that some “women” on Reddit are actually men LARPing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/22 03:54 PM |
| 50 | Man attempts to low-ball his date after getting horrendous advice from Reddit. Queen blocks and deletes in responseThey attack women with standards because they’ve been conditioned to believe that women shouldn’t expect or ask anything of men. These same women will end up on one of the relationship subs asking why their boyfriend of ten years has never taken them on a date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/22 08:30 PM |
| 73 | Man attempts to low-ball his date after getting horrendous advice from Reddit. Queen blocks and deletes in responseThe thing that gets me about men like this is that there are plenty of women who will happily accept a cheap/low effort date and go 50/50 on that. They can easily go and date one of them. But they’re not interested in those kinds of women. They want a high value woman at a discount or for free because they feel entitled to a woman’s attention and time. This dude hasn’t been with a woman in a meaningful way for a decade, yet he decided to die on a cheap hill. It’s really bizarre how men will blow… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/22 07:27 PM |
| – | Man attempts to low-ball his date after getting horrendous advice from Reddit. Queen blocks and deletes in responseThis is a good example of men not knowing their place. This man scored a date with an extremely attractive woman after a decade of no such luck, and he blows it by being cheap. What’s even more insulting is that he intially agreed to take her to the steakhouse, but then went back and tried to give her a low ball offer. I am glad this Queen (maybe she frequents this subreddit, lol!) knew her worth and blocked and deleted. Men always know what they are doing when they low ball you, which is why FD… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/22 11:46 AM |
| 63 | Is it generally "better" for WOC to date within or outside of their race?I would say date whoever treats you the best. This person could be within or outside your face. Be open to both options and vet ruthlessly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 08:57 PM |
| 161 | Do you believe in the idea of soulmate or soulmates?I believe a soul mate can be anyone who connects with you on a deep level. It doesn’t have to be a romantic partner. My soul mates are my oldest sister and my best friend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 02:00 PM |
| 130 | The tinder swindler 2.0I am so glad you are safe. Be wary of men who try to take you to multiple locations on a first date. This scrote clearly tried to stitch you up and get you in a vulnerable position. Also, do not feel pressured into going along with their multiple locations crap. This is also why I like to schedule something for directly after the date (doesn't have to be with someone else, it can be a solo activity). Doing this gives you an out and means you are less likely to extend the date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 12:55 PM |
| 45 | All of my commitment-phobic exes…Women also experience a multitude of side effects, including death, from birth control, yet it’s expected we suck it up. Men can suck it up, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 12:34 AM |
| 259 | All of my commitment-phobic exes…I have absolutely no sympathy for men who get “trapped”. They should take responsibility for their own fertility and either get a vasectomy, use a condom, or abstain from sex. Everyone knows how babies are made, so I don’t know why men act surprised when nature works the way it was intended. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 07:53 PM |
| 87 | All of my commitment-phobic exes…Love the violins 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 07:52 PM |
| 8 | The struggle is real.Precisely. Kamala Harris is also celebrated on this subreddit, but she publicly said she believed Joe Biden’s accusers. She then backtracked when he chose her as his running mate. Either she believed them and sold out or she said she believed them for political expediency. Again, no conviction. Just because someone is a woman that doesn’t mean they are pro-female. Deeper analysis is always needed. Many female politicians are not pro-female. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 03:10 AM |
| 8 | The struggle is real.Not to mention she refused to define what a woman is. I’m glad that a black woman is in line for SCOTUS for the first time and her record is impressive. But that doesn’t mean we should be celebrating her without closely examining her views and her history. If a man defended giving a pedo a light sentence, the women on this sub would be (rightfully) raging. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 02:31 AM |
| 18 | The struggle is real.A woman is an adult human female. It’s an objective fact. It’s not bigotry to say that. If people get offended by that, that’s their problem. In the US, sex-based rights exist and are currently under attack. If she cannot define who/what a woman “because she’s not a biologist”, can she be trusted to defend sex-based rights at the highest level? Speaking the truth doesn’t always make you popular, but that doesn’t mean it’s okay to lie or be disengenous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 02:27 AM |
| 33 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 55 - Can Men And Women Be Friends?Men don’t even have good friendships with each other. That’s why they’re always complaining about not getting compliments or not feeling like they can be emotionally vulnerable. When I speak to men about what my female friends do for me, they’re often in shock because they know their male friends would never behave/treat them the same way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 01:21 AM |
| 8 | The struggle is real.She lost me when she gave some bullshit reason as to why she can’t define what a woman is. I’m not an astronaut, but I know what a planet is. It showed a real lack of conviction and authenticity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 01:17 AM |
| 8 | Forever Girlfriend finds out her baby daddy isn’t going to marry her. This is why we need FDS.One of the saddest users on that subreddit is: With a man who doesn't find her attractive and admits it. To the point where he can barely keep it up when he has sex with her Didn't get a proposal after ten years, so she set a wedding date and is planning for the wedding solo Is getting her family to pay for the wedding whilst he contributes absolutely nothing (and she is cool with that!) Some women are just beyond saving, and they will end up going out sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 09:20 AM |
| 9 | Forever Girlfriend finds out her baby daddy isn’t going to marry her. This is why we need FDS.Great post, sis. Head over to the waiting to wed subreddit, and you will see many, many women in the same situation you have laid out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 08:25 AM |
| 11 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 54 - The Pros & Cons of Cohabitation with MenBecause marriage comes with many legal protections. If you’re going to share assets, live together for a long period of time or have kids, it’s in a woman’s best interests to marry. Alimony doesn’t exist if you’re a girlfriend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 10:41 PM |
| 287 | Forever Girlfriend finds out her baby daddy isn’t going to marry her. This is why we need FDS.Ladies, for the love of God, stop giving wife benefits to boyfriends, ESPECIALLY if marriage is important to you. This means that moving in together is off the table. Having kids is off the table. Buying property together is off the table. Men will stay with women for decades because she’s useful to him, not because he loves her. We have to think strategically and learn to compartmentalise men until they have shown they are committed to us over a long period of time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 10:35 PM |
| 6 | Female Political Strategy Podcast: EP 15 - Work From Home Is The Future And All It's Critics Can Die MadBut you could also be making huge savings in terms of not having to pay for things like gas/commuting (which is now ridiculously expensive) and other costs like lunch. Not to mention, remote working gives workers the freedom to find better paid jobs in other locations, not just in their country but around the world. People do not have to be limited to the jobs in their location anymore, which can mean a huge payrise for some. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 03:54 AM |
| 52 | The fake proposal -- anyone else?This hasn't happened to me, but I worked with a NVM who said he would propose to his girlfriends but have no intention of marrying them. Watch out for this, ladies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 02:37 PM |
| 2 | Men on Reddit be like:Does he not know what an exchange is? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 01:21 PM |
| 12 | Let's leave dating apps behind this month : who's with me!Once again, FDS is not against OLD. If you choose not to use it, that’s fine. But you’re not going to pass your personal opinion off as official FDS ideology, especially when the mods have said otherwise. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 08:23 PM |
| – | Let's leave dating apps behind this month : who's with me!A reminder that FDS is not against OLD. OLD requires more vetting, but we have never said that women shouldn’t use it. People will have their own personal preferences, but it’s not something we are explicitly against. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 07:32 PM |
| 21 | Let's leave dating apps behind this month : who's with me!Multiple mods, including the creator of the subreddit Jammies, have said that FDS is not explicitly against OLD. Many users choose not to use it, but FDS does not say not to use it. We understand that many dating apps don’t have many good options, so we advise women to vet men they meet on OLD even harder. Tbh, if we accept that most men are low value, then your chances of running into somebody low value is about the same whether you are in person or in person. Meeting a man in person is no guar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 07:30 PM |
| 695 | The red flags, the entitlement, the audacity 🤡🤯Basically, he tried to play the field and thought he could find better but came up empty, so he’s trying to slither back. This man doesn’t care about his ex, he just doesn’t have anyone else and he’s realising that he’s run out of options. Shame, scrote. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 05:10 PM |
| 6 | Women can be very kind to each other. I'm tired of society acting like were only catty to each otherWhen I was locked out of my apartment, my female landlady and flatmate were the ones who went out of their way to get me back in. The male maintenance man who had the spare key to my flat didn't come out because he was watching the Euros. Fuck you, Mick. When I have been sick, my female work colleagues have always been the ones to volunteer to bring round food. Female colleagues (and a few HVM colleagues) were instrumental in me getting promoted to a very senior position in one of my old roles. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 12:33 PM |
| 844 | Seen in a medical sub. Thankfully the replies were very supportive; I hope she will be OKThe number of women I know who have been pressured into sex shortly after giving birth is shocking. Midwives have reported men having sex with their wives who have just given birth whilst in the hospital. I am honestly so glad that I have no desire to have children. This should be classed as sexual abuse because having sex too soon after birth can cause all kinds of damage and infections. Women should also not be pressured into oral, because she is still recovering from pushing out a 10lb human.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 10:32 PM |
| 84 | al i can say is… jfcThis happened to me. A former ex made it clear he did not want to date me, but hated it when I so much as mentioned another man in a positive light. These men are selfish beyond belief. They don't to commit to you, but they don't you to commit to someone else. They want you to be available to them and only them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 08:12 PM |
| 3 | Ladies who have taken back an ex, did he change and what made you take him back?I took my first abusive boyfriend back numerous times. His treatment of me got progressively worse. I personally haven’t heard of a success story when it comes to women taking bad partners back. Taking back your ex might work if the reason for the split is down to logistics (eg you were long distance but managed to close the gap). If it’s a behavioural issue on their side, it never works out. Shitty people rarely change in a meaningful way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 09:37 AM |
| 125 | Same dudes who have/want to have casual sex will look down on YOU for having a history of it. The hypocrisy. Yet another reason to stay away from casual sex AND slutty guys, they're hypocrites with insane Madonna-whore complexes and STDs/STIs who think they're a prize to be won.This is why I’ve stopped being nice to men. To them, nice is synonymous with doormat. Women should strive to be kind, not nice. Kind people are discerning about where and when they give. Nice people give and give and give and end up resorting to covert contracts to get their needs met. Kind people refuse to be taken advantage of, whereas nice people fall for the lie that being nice to someone means they will respect and like you. I am a kind person, but I am not nice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 07:44 PM |
| 328 | Is it really worth trying to help PickMes?I like to give them all the information and allow them to come to their own conclusions. This worked well with my best friend. Her scrote ex was treating her badly and she asked me what she should do. I knew she should break up with him, but I also knew that she would only leave when she is ready to leave. I have never met a woman who dumped her LV partner on the advice of a friend, myself included. Usually hard lessons have to be learned and/or the relationship has to be damaged beyond repair b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 11:33 AM |
| 4 | Ladies please don’t do this. You deserve your dream ring!Waiting to Wed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 08:54 PM |
| 4 | Ladies please don’t do this. You deserve your dream ring!If she has to basically drag him to the alter there is no way he will value her once they are married. Reluctant men will never make good husbands because they never wanted to be a husband. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 12:23 PM |
| 7 | Ladies please don’t do this. You deserve your dream ring!The end stage is that she ends up buying the ring herself. Some of the women on that sub have done exactly that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 12:21 PM |
| 190 | Ladies please don’t do this. You deserve your dream ring!That subreddit is a whole heap of sad. Full of amazing women who are literally begging men who don't want to marry them to marry them. They really dislike the phrase "if he wanted to, he would" over there, too. But I guess that's because accepting that is true of all men would mean that they would be forced to confront the fact they committed to a man who is not interested in being committed to them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 09:45 PM |
| 46 | Purposefully doing things to drive up his gf’s utility bill…I thought I read it all 🤦🏼♀️ (repost!)Wait, so this scrote wants his girlfriend to subsidise his mortgage, even though she is probably not on the deed of the house and she won’t be amassing any equity? This is why moving in with boyfriends and playing house with them is always a scam. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 09:16 AM |
| 7 | Strangest icks and dealbreaker?Is that even a thing???? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 08:39 PM |
| 140 | A disussion about men's heights and lies thereof with my HV fatherYour dad is a king. These are the type of men we aspire to meet and build a family with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 11:10 AM |
| 64 | You can date a man for ten months, think you're his girlfriend and he will still say you're "casual" and go behind your back and find a whole new girlfriend.This queen must have sensed something was off with him (he was seeing other women) and didn't sleep with him.“She’s important to me and I genuinely want to maintain a friendship.” TRANSLATION: I want to keep her around as a backup plan in case my main squeeze doesn’t work out. She may come in handy down the road when I want a quick shag or ego stroke. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 08:02 AM |
| 76 | She Needed FDS a Long Time AgoBecause marriage means that men are legally accountable to another person. They do not view kids in the same way. It's very easy for a man to up and leave his girlfriend and kids and get out of paying child support. It's much, much harder and way more expensive for him to get a divorce. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 07:35 AM |
| 2 | How to reconcile with the fact that my brother doesn't support the FDS strategies, although he is an HVM?If your brother was truly HV, he would want you to have high standards because he would know what men are really like. The only men who have an issue with FDS are low value men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 08:38 PM |
| 36 | Case Study of Dating Mr. Sensitive, Part I: Weaponized TraumaI am so sorry that happened to you, sis. Men have worked out 1,000 ways to abuse women and tactics such as this are so insidious. I had a run-in with a Mr Sensitive in the form of my ex. This was one of his signature tactics. I remember having a conversation with him where I misquoted a statistic and corrected myself after a minor back and forth. Apparently, my mistake was so awful that it "ruined his evening" and that he was now so upset. The funniest part about this was that I was having the e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 08:36 PM |
| 15 | If you ignored the trolls they can't affect you, remember ladies block AND delete!This gif sent me 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 08:27 AM |
| 54 | Even OTHER men can sense LVM/NVM/ZVM’s red flags with women at the beginning of a relationship, such as “being too busy.”Several posters on our stalker subs have admitted that FDS will make it harder for them to date. These assholes aren't worried about "misandry", they're worried that their potential pussy/bangmaid supply will dry up because, like you said, more and more women will cop onto their bullshit. The bedrock of patriarchy is increasing men's access to women. Anything that threatens that is met with vitriol from men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 11:08 PM |
| 31 | Even OTHER men can sense LVM/NVM/ZVM’s red flags with women at the beginning of a relationship, such as “being too busy.”So, men are allowed to have the same dealbreakers we list without being called "toxic" or "misogynist". Just goes to show much society gaslights women into accepting unacceptable behaviour. It also reinforces the point that most men wouldn't tolerate half of the bad behaviour women are expected to put up with and "ComMUNiCaTE!" their way out of. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 11:01 PM |
| 55 | I want your stories: Have you ever dated a guy who really looked up to guys like Elon Musk or Bill Gates & What was your experience?The Black Panther is another one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 08:47 AM |
| 548 | Current guy I’m talking to lied about his height on dating appHe lied about his height to get matches. This means he is comfortable lying to and misleading women to get what he wants, which is indicative of a man who is negative value. This should be an instant block and delete, unless you are willing to entertain a liar. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 01:24 AM |
| 9 | "I am afraid I will be conned by a psycho man that only reveal his true face after years of marriage"People in this thread who are arguing that some men are master manipulators are also admitting that there were "small red flags" they overlooked in the beginning, which is exactly what you were talking about. The red flag doesn't even have to small for women to overlook it, because we consistently project our humanity and decency onto men when it's been shown that men, as a class, are nothing like women. I have literally seen a post where a woman is dating a convicted pedophile. He disclosed ear… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 09:17 PM |
| 6 | "I am afraid I will be conned by a psycho man that only reveal his true face after years of marriage"Putting the onus on men to act better will never work, because men benefit from oppressing women. That means we have to make decisions to protect ourselves, and us women need to make it costly for men to engage in abusive and destructive behaviours. Blaming men is one thing, but what will that mean for women materially? We know that they're not going to suddenly have an epiphany and start treating us well. I also fully reject the idea that most men are master manipulators. The red flags were the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 08:58 PM |
| 5 | "I am afraid I will be conned by a psycho man that only reveal his true face after years of marriage"Women who stay to train the man into becoming better are just playing themselves. The men they are training don't experience any consequences because she is still sticking around. Men do not respond to pleas, cries, and infinite patience. They only respond to consequence, and the best form of punishment for these scrotes is to cut them off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 08:40 PM |
| 8 | "I am afraid I will be conned by a psycho man that only reveal his true face after years of marriage"This happened in the case of Chris Watts. His wife, Sha'nann suspected he was cheating, but her pickme friend said that her suspicions were all in her head. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 08:37 PM |
| 4 | "I am afraid I will be conned by a psycho man that only reveal his true face after years of marriage"This post is gold. In my experience, it's not that women don't recognise red flags, it's that we stick around for far too long after seeing them. Giving men the benefit of the doubt when it hasn't been earned as a woman means you will lose every single time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 08:32 PM |
| 48 | why YOU have a belly, but influencers DON'T (feel like women need to hear this more often. were expected to have certain kind of body when biologically our bodies are not made to be that way)Exactly. Women's bodies are not "trends". Our bodies are our bodies. It's a constant. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 09:43 AM |
| 671 | Man who used woman for sex is mad that she used him for sex. There is no such thing as casual sex. They will always want to keep it casual but do not like it when you treat them the same wayI don’t think casual hookups are a good idea, but I’m so proud of how this woman acted! Men cannot handle 1/10 of the treatment women recieve. It’s also amazing how entitled he was to her help even though they had just met. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 08:40 PM |
| 44 | Bodyshaming and -negging: It has nothing to do with what you look like, but you NEED to leave at the first sign of it."Post-nut clarity" was invented to mask the fact that men knowingly sleep with women they are unattracted to and regret it once they have had their orgasm. Like OP said, women's bodies are not a surprise to men. They know what they are getting by the time they have removed her clothes, but instead of being accountable for their actions and not sleeping with people they do not find attractive, they invented some bullshit "biological" concept to justfify pumping and dumping women they never wanted… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 11:37 PM |
| 170 | Bodyshaming and -negging: It has nothing to do with what you look like, but you NEED to leave at the first sign of it.I agree with everything except the part about only getting with or getting into relationships with women they find attractive. Men will take whatever they can get, and it is not uncommon for men to be with women they admittedly do not find attractive. This is partly why male validation and attention is worthless. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 02:25 PM |
| 997 | No one seems to be asking where he got this STD?? And she gets frequent UTIs because of him 🤢🤮This is actually super common. Women tolerate attitudes and behaviours from men that men themselves wouldn’t tolerate. Men expect a certain standard from women and are unapologetic about cutting women off who don’t meet that standard. Women need to bring that same energy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 12:58 PM |
| 2 | Does anyone else want a long-term partner, but also doesn’t want to live with them?Yep. Even if I’m in a relationship, I’ve decided we will maintain our own separate residences. This is very atypical, but I’m not willing to give up my personal space for the sake of a relationship. No way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 07:46 AM |
| 51 | Do any of you NOT want to get married one day?Unless we share assets or have children, I am not interested in marrying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 07:36 PM |
| 14 | Just realized viable suitor has a different (taller) height listed in his OLD profile, what do I do?You confronting him won't change his behaviour because he already feels entitled to stomping all over women's boundaries. As for how he could lie to the next woman, do not underestimate a man's ability to manipulate women. He will say "oh, it was a mistake. I was not able to change it!" or "No, I really am 5'11!". A liar will always shamelessly defend their lies. Besides, it's not your job to be teaching a grown man that lying is a shitty thing to do. Block, delete and do not look back. | /r/askFDS | 05/01/22 02:32 PM |
| 73 | Just realized viable suitor has a different (taller) height listed in his OLD profile, what do I do?Men who lie about their height on dating apps say they do it so they can get matches. They do not care that women have preferences, and they feel they should have a right to date who they want, even if they have to resort to deception to get there. A good relationship can never start from a lie. This man lied about his height in order to circumvent filters. This means he is comfortable lying to women to get what he wants. This should be an instant block and delete. There is no point in calling h… | /r/askFDS | 04/01/22 10:35 PM |
| 43 | Nah men, women are visual creatures too.I follow a lot of bigger women on Instagram. No matter their size, these women are ALWAYS well put together. They wear clothes that flatter their figure, their hair and nails are always on fleek, and their entire page just conveys effort. I cannot say the same for overweight men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 10:17 AM |
| 60 | Nah men, women are visual creatures too.Men love to say they are more visual when they want to justify ogling and objectifying women. But if someone is visual, they would want to create art in all areas of their life. This means they would dress well, live in a tidy/kept home, maintain hygiene. It's not impossible for men to do all those things either: the most attractive men I have seen have been gay men. The gay men I know always have impeccable hygiene, dress sense, and they are extremely tidy. Heterosexual men are lazy, and many o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 10:15 AM |
| 70 | what happens to men's physical appearance when they have a guarantee that they will find a partnerAs a straight woman, I can count on one hand the number of men I’ve genuinely found physically/sexually attractive. Meanwhile, I see attractive women of all shapes and sizes every single day. This is why the whole “men are more visual” is a lie. If they were, why do so many of them not care about their physical appearance or hygiene? The stories from sex workers about men’s hygiene will make you throw up. Men will legit not wash their dicks or assholes and then wonder why their wives don’t want … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 11:49 AM |
| 382 | Self-aware guy realizes he doesn't take debate seriously when he perceives the person to be a woman.That's the reason why J.K Rowling went by her initials. Her publishers did not believe boys would read Harry Potter if they knew it was written by a woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 02:45 PM |
| 47 | Happy New year lasses, and REMEMBERMy brother is currently planning on moving in with his "girlfriend" despite still being married to his wife. I am sure his girlfriend has absolutely no idea he is married to someone else, and it makes me sick. I cannot even bring myself to meet her because the whole scenario is just wrong. If I do get round to meeting her though, rest assured I will tell her that he is still married. It's insane that women cannot even trust if the man they are seeing is actually single because men are such fucki… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 02:43 PM |
| 6 | If I was bundled with my own FAQ (please feel free to add your own answers!)So how long have you been married? A. Who told you I am interested in getting married? (This usually shuts them up) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 10:07 AM |
| 27 | Angry right nowThe majority of sexual assaults and rapes occur when the victim knows the perpetrator. Stranger rape is extremely rare. That means you are more likely to be attacked by a man you already know and trust. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 09:58 AM |
| 8 | OLD profiles and effortThat is one of the major pros about online dating for me. Once you have your boundaries set, it is so much easier/quicker to filter men out. I would spent a maximum of five minutes per week on OLD because I was able to filter scrotes out so quickly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 10:15 AM |
| 34 | Don’t waste your time or energy debating about sex work to men and libfemsI know a male sex worker and he has told me that 99.99% of his clients are men. Straight male escorts do not exist, and if they do they are not making any money because women do not need to pay for sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 09:44 AM |
| 96 | Strategy: How to know if a man is only after YOUR money and success"Money is not everything" is often said by people who do not have money. As someone who worked their way up from a poor background and is now financially very comfortable, I can say that money does make a massive difference to one's lifestyle and general happiness. Of course there are some people with money who are miserable, but being miserable because of other factors is not the same as being miserable due to not being able to afford to live and have the lifestyle you want. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 03:00 PM |
| 46 | Have any of you ever known a man who initiated a split with his partner WITHOUT getting into a new relationship right away?I personally haven’t. The men I know who have gone through breakups usually go back to a poor woman they have benched for FWB or a relationship. My ex started orbiting me super hard a few months ago and kept hinting that he wanted to try again. I flatly refused. I later found out that he had recently split with his girlfriend of four years as he made a post on social saying he can’t be happy unless he’s in a relationship. This is why it’s best to block and delete men. They won’t hesitate to hit … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 12:16 AM |
| 115 | Another FDS hate post on the frontpage of LV males frothing at the mouthThis is why it's laughable when they call us femcels. If all of us lowered our standards, we could probably all be in relationships or married. We are choosing to avoid men, not out of scarcity, but out of self-preservative as we know that most men aint worth shit. Men are the truly desperate ones, and because they lack empathy they fail to understand how someone can have options for sex/marriage/relationships and reject all of them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 10:38 PM |
| 12 | Guy dumps his GF over not enthusiastically having oral and not doing anal, and gets hailed as an upstanding guy for doing this in the commentsIf sexual compatibility is so important to men, why do men get so angry when we express a preference for dick size? Seeing as we want to make sure we are sexually compatible with them, it makes sense for us to have a preference for how big a guy is down there. But alas, men believe "sexual preferences for me, not for thee.". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 10:33 PM |
| 16 | Are there red flags in this conversation? Are there signs of a potential LVM here or is this a candidate for HVM?The trauma digging is a massive red flag. Men who want to know all about your past traumas never have good intentions. They’re storing this information so they know what you are willing to tolerate. This is why I always tell men i date that I was treated well in my past relationships. I never tell them that I was in an abusive relationship. Women believe we are just being “open and honest”, but men don’t see it that way. They are asking this information so they can use it against you later. Your… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 08:38 AM |
| 12 | Even in Imperial Russia, where women had to get married, community dick and age gap relationships were avoided.I think the term back then was playboy or philanderer. The Grand Dukes of Russia were known to be playboys, and many of them spent their money on gambling, drinking, or several women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 10:06 AM |
| 19 | Even in Imperial Russia, where women had to get married, community dick and age gap relationships were avoided.This is so true! I’ve always loved Nicky and Alix as a couple, but it’s a real shame their relationship was clouded by their inability to be leaders. Have you seen the Fabergé Eggs that Nicholas would present to his wife every Easter? They are absolutely magnificent. The tradition started with his father, Alexander III, and his wife Dowager Empress Marie Feodorovna. Every Easter, the men would commission Fabergé to make their wives an egg. The eggs are all so different and have such sentimental … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 10:05 AM |
| 249 | Love hearing about women leaving when they had enough! Saying no to couples counseling because she recognizes that there's nothing else she can possibly cOmMunIcaTe to himHaving ADHD is no excuse. There are medications for that and ways to get help. Seems like he’s taking absolutely no responsibility and expected his wife to continue sucking up his BS indefinitely. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 12:46 AM |
| 679 | Love hearing about women leaving when they had enough! Saying no to couples counseling because she recognizes that there's nothing else she can possibly cOmMunIcaTe to himNotice how everything is centered around what he wants. There’s no mention of anything that will make his wife happy. I guarantee if she stays he will continue to be an albatross around her neck. Good on her for leaving - I hope she packs her stuff and never looks back. The Scrote also had the audacity to tag it “seeking empathy/support” despite giving his wife neither of those things. He can get in the bin. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 12:23 AM |
| 81 | Even in Imperial Russia, where women had to get married, community dick and age gap relationships were avoided.Grand Duchess Marie Pavlovna, Boris’ mom who asked, hated Alexandra for saying this. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 11:42 PM |
| 137 | Even in Imperial Russia, where women had to get married, community dick and age gap relationships were avoided.This is true. However, Tsarina Alexandra and her husband, Nicholas II, were rare in that they actually married for love. Nicholas refused to marry anyone else but her, so his parents eventually gave in. As a result of their happy marriage, Nicholas and Alexandra wanted their daughters to marry for love. This was abnormal because back then royals married for dynastic/political purposes. It was rare to see a genuine love match. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 11:26 PM |
| 278 | Even in Imperial Russia, where women had to get married, community dick and age gap relationships were avoided.The Grand Dukes of Russia were known to be womanisers. Community dick is absolutely what Alexandra meant when she made those comments. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 09:02 PM |
| 6 | Common arguments used to defend the sex/porn industry debunkedSupporting someone doesn’t mean excusing or overlooking their objectively bad choices and decisions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 01:23 PM |
| 3 | Just because a guy doesn't have some negative traits doesn't mean he is HVThe subreddit and handbook you speak of makes it clear that low value people should be avoided, not tolerated in small doses. It also doesn’t expand on what a LVM is but it makes it clear they should be avoided. LVM is a catch-all term for men who do not add to your life in any way. Nowhere does it say that someone who is low value adds to your life, and the stories of women on this subreddit and elsewhere shows the opposite is the case. Trying to pass off your definition of LV as though it’s wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 11:18 AM |
| 3 | Just because a guy doesn't have some negative traits doesn't mean he is HVThere’s no real difference between someone who is LV/NV because you’ll find that LV people still make your life worse and/or detract from you in some way. A high value person would not be interested in someone LV because HV seek to make the lives around them better. They wouldn’t have anything in common with someone who is LV. Whether or not someone is low value has nothing to do with whether or not you would date them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 10:57 AM |
| 5 | Just because a guy doesn't have some negative traits doesn't mean he is HVI disagree with the definition of low value. Someone who is low value won’t improve your life in any way, so there is no benefit to keeping them around, either as friends or acquaintances. High value people only improve your life. The extent of that improvement may vary depending on their proximity to you (eg a high value friend will improve it more than a high value coworker), but the value is there. If you’re serious about levelling up, getting rid of everyone low value and below is a must. It… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 10:48 AM |
| 6 | 50/50 trap, listen to this queen!Men don't realise that saying a woman will die alone and single is a massive self-own. That means women would rather be alone than be partnered with them. Shame. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 10:12 AM |
| 156 | 50/50 trap, listen to this queen!It's the best form of birth control as well. Being single is way better than being stuck with a LVM/NVM AND having his children. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 09:28 PM |
| 328 | 50/50 trap, listen to this queen!This reminded me of a certain subreddit dedicated to moms complaining about their life and how useless their partners are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 08:52 PM |
| 96 | If you wouldn’t date a drug addict, don’t date a guy that watches porn.Men do not care if the woman consented or not. They may pretend to as a talking point, but they absolutely do not care if the woman in the video they are watching is truly there of her own volition. Think about how many porn stars have said they were raped or coerced into doing things they did not want to do, yet men continue to consume porn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 08:54 PM |
| 149 | If you wouldn’t date a drug addict, don’t date a guy that watches porn.The American Psychological Association does not believe that porn addiction is real, even though the effects are clear and devastating. I am not surprised by this, because psychology has been used to oppress women and benefit men since the beginning of time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 08:53 PM |
| 380 | What I posted versus a reason for a permaban from a large “feminist” subreddit. Wow I wonder why :)FDS is truly the only "female-only" subreddit that is actually female only, which is part of the reason why we are so hated. Women need to understand that if they allow men into their space, even in a small capacity, they will seek to take over and control the narrative. You cannot give these men an inch otherwise they will take a mile. I cannot tell you how many men try to comment on every single post, even though we have made it clear their opinion is not wanted or required. They are boundary … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 08:47 PM |
| 230 | What I posted versus a reason for a permaban from a large “feminist” subreddit. Wow I wonder why :)"FDs Is ThE MoSt TOXic SuBreDDiT!" they cry. Because according to men, telling women they should have standards in their relationships is worse than misogyny and violent porn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 08:42 PM |
| 4 | Common arguments used to defend the sex/porn industry debunkedThen he wouldn't be a male sex worker. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 08:37 PM |
| 19 | Common arguments used to defend the sex/porn industry debunkedShe is not to blame for the man cheating, but she is enabling it if she knows he is married/committed and still sleeps with him. Both sides are bad actors in that case. Sex workers cannot expect women to support them when they would sleep with their husbands or boyfriends if they paid. It’s unethical. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 02:21 PM |
| 16 | Common arguments used to defend the sex/porn industry debunkedSex work cannot be regulated in the same way other jobs can be. In other forms of work, the employer has a legal responsibility to ensure the working environment is safe and that the worker is not exposed to any harm as a result. With sex work, the lack of such protection is the appeal for Johns. Sex workers are not “paid for their time”. They are paid for access to their body. For sexual consent to occur, it might be freely given. It’s impossible to give consent freely if there would be economi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 12:54 PM |
| 24 | What’s something a man did that gave you “the ick”?Sis, I am creasing with laughter. What an absolute loser. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 04:10 AM |
| – | A message to male lurkers: So what exactly is it about FDS that triggers you?The Triggerati is out in full force in this post. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 05:35 PM |
| 57 | They really tell on themselves. They do not find sex work empowering nor do they respect it. Yet, we are told the opposite.The worst thing is, sex workers will read this and still believe that Johns respect them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 05:34 PM |
| 28 | This man really thought I was gonna pick him up in my carThis brief exchange made me chuckle. Glad you blocked the audacious scrote. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 04:18 PM |
| 44 | They really tell on themselves. They do not find sex work empowering nor do they respect it. Yet, we are told the opposite.The highest earners on OF are often controlled by a pimp. It’s not a lucrative career option AT ALL. The vast majority of content creators are making way less than minimum wage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 04:07 PM |
| 425 | They really tell on themselves. They do not find sex work empowering nor do they respect it. Yet, we are told the opposite.How many of these men who are saying they wouldn’t watch porn, though? The hypocrisy is unreal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 04:02 PM |
| 73 | What does FDS think about the rise of the “stay at home girlfriend?”Hell. No. Being a SAHM when married is risky enough, talk less of doing all of that with none of the legal protections marriage brings. It is NEVER in a woman's best interests to be 100% financially dependent on a man. Women are more likely to be be in poverty after divorce because they are often the ones who sacrificed their career raising the kids and looking after the home whilst the man climbed the career ladder. I do not care how wealthy a man is, women should ALWAYS have their own stash of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/21 08:52 PM |
| 26 | Sex work just is not a good career option as a woman.How many women grow up wanting to service the dick of an old, crusty, obese man with terrible hygiene? They tout "i can work whenever I want!" as a reason why sex work is superior to "civvie" jobs, but they are comparing sex work to minimum wage jobs. Thanks to covid, many companies are switching to remote/hybrid working. Moreover, sex workers know as well as anyone else that if they do not work, they do not get paid, so most of them are not in a position to be choosy about who they see and when… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/21 10:54 AM |
| 53 | VET VET VET your male friends to the same standards you would a potential partner!Well said, Aco. I do not know how many times this needs to be said before women get it. Straight men will always see you as a potential sexual conquest. It does not matter if you have known them for 10 months or 10 years. Men do not understand that it is not possible to be friends with someone you want to have sex with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 11:02 AM |
| 29 | Serious question, do any of you not want to get married?I am not desperate to marry. I would only consider it if we planned on sharing assets or having children. Otherwise I am happy to have a companion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 11:27 PM |
| 2 | What are your thoughts on changing your name after marriage?I plan on keeping my last name. My name is my own and I like it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 09:27 AM |
| 1 | Would you date someone divorced/ have kids?I would not date someone who has kids, because I am not sure if I want them myself. I also do not want to be in a situation where I have to deal with the baby mama drama. As for divorced, generally no, but I can see myself being more open to it as I get older. It also depends on the reason why he got divorced. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 01:58 PM |
| 139 | Wonder why he stuck around for 3 dates... Just when you think men can't get any worseThis is why it’s a good idea to not sleep with men on the first date. Men will sleep with women they are not attracted to. At least this man has weeded himself out of her pool before sleeping with her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 06:32 PM |
| 149 | My online dating experience was so similar, for a second I thought it's my old tweet! Feel free to add more typesLOOOOL, the "I do not know how to change my age" is one of the biggest lies! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 04:33 PM |
| 97 | My online dating experience was so similar, for a second I thought it's my old tweet! Feel free to add more typesI met a guy on OLD who told me he was self-employed. When I asked what he did, he said he streams on Twitch. Whilst working part-time in a supermarket. Blocked and deleted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 04:31 PM |
| 23 | An increasing number of women are paying alimony to LVM husbandsPrenups are not valid in every jurisdiction and they can be thrown out if the judge deems it to be unfair. The best thing to do would be to seek legal advice on how to protect your assets if you plan on getting married. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 04:29 PM |
| 95 | An increasing number of women are paying alimony to LVM husbandsThis is why women need to be careful about who they marry. We need to really think if marriage is truly in our best interest, especially if we are with someone who earns less. Men are the biggest goldiggers so never underestimate their eagerness to rinse you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 04:28 PM |
| 29 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 39 - Casual Sex, Part 1: Don‘t Do It, But if You Do, Sit On His Face) + Real Estate StalkerThis is part of the reason why I will never date a man who drinks excessively or smokes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 09:51 PM |
| 244 | Male friends are a myth.Men don’t seem to understand that it’s not possible to have a platonic relationship with someone if there is sexual/romantic interest on either side. They just see every woman, including their female “friends” as a sexual opportunity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 05:18 PM |
| – | Male friends are a myth.This is a classic example of why women should always be wary of so-called male friends. It doesn’t matter how long you have known the man, most male “friends” won’t hesitate to turn the relationship sexual if they had the chance, and they see nothing wrong with having a desire to sleep with you even if you have made it clear the relationship is platonic. This man resorted to deception to get what he wanted from this woman because he misrepresented himself to obtain the nude pictures. He knew tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 04:58 PM |
| 50 | Two of the biggest lies patriarchy tells us: “men age like fine wine” & “age gap relationships are totally natural”Is that Leonardo DiCaprio? I didn’t even recognise him! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 02:37 PM |
| 7 | Criminal Records / RAP sheets = Black Flags of relationships.If the traffic light is red, do you keep driving? No. Because it wouldn’t be safe to do so and you will likely end up in a horrible accident. Red signifies danger, so if you’re noticing red flags that means it’s time to abort mission. Now, red flags vary from person to person. If a woman stays with a man who cheated on her, infidelity is NOT a red flag to her because she decided to continue the relationship. It’s a yellow flag at best. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/21 12:18 PM |
| 35 | My mentor confessed to me. He's 24 years my senior.She should just report him. She should not respond to the creepy message and she should DEFINITELY not apologise for him coming onto her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 12:17 AM |
| 81 | My mentor confessed to me. He's 24 years my senior.He has violated professional boundaries BIG TIME. If he is a mentor from your department, he should only be contacting you through your university email account. This ensures that all communication between the two of you can be monitored in case of any shady behavior. Seems like he knew this and did it anyway. Big red flag. The fact he said he has feelings for you "deeper than friendship" is also deeply problematic because a mentor is not supposed to be friends with their mentee. That is not the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 12:15 AM |
| 87 | Never feel bad about enforcing boundariesOnce you realise their hatred of our boundaries is rank hypocrisy, you cannot unsee the double standards. Low value people are often extremely good at setting boundaries because their aim is to extract maximum benefit from other people at little/no cost to themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 10:18 PM |
| 1 | How To Know Better That The Older Guy Isn't A Friend, He's Preying On YouDo not make friends at work. Be friendly, but distant and unfamiliar. Keep your professional and personal life separate. I learnt the hard way that being too friendly with colleagues can come back to bite you in the ass. I never socialise alone with male colleagues. If we are speaking 1-1, the conversation is always professional. You have to protect your reputation. Just imagine if this man had told everyone that you had slept together. Even rumours that are untrue can cause significant damage t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 10:16 PM |
| 86 | Lvm telling on themselves: "sex work is a valid profession" and yet he would "never touch that sk@nk with a 10 ft pole"The audacity is unreal. These men want unfettered access to gorgeous women free of charge, even when they look like they look like Predator. I have known men to suggest taking women to forests to have sex because they did not want to pay for a hotel. Never underestimate male audacity and cheapness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 10:00 PM |
| 153 | If you won’t bother checking the FDS handbook before posting your question, at least ask yourself this…Same sis. I absolutely love doing activities on my own: travelling, eating out, going to the cinema, to the gym. I really value my own company, and I have never needed to have someone with me to do anything. Life is way too short to wait on other people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 09:26 PM |
| 43 | Which one of you is this aboutAnd his GF uses exactly the same wording. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 09:14 PM |
| 12 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 38 - A Very Special Thanksgiving Roast +Thanksgiving Clapback StrategyAwesome episode! And congratulations on the SPONSOR LADIES!!! Doing it big out here! 🔥 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 04:57 PM |
| 65 | Pick me gf and pornsick bf vibesWhat’s possible is that he desired a bigger woman, but went with you because you’re deemed conventionally attractive. It’s not uncommon for men to pursue/date bigger women in secret, even if they are genuinely attracted to them, because they care more about what other people think of them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 10:18 AM |
| 35 | Pick me gf and pornsick bf vibesThat thread is full of pornsick losers. What’s shocking is that the OP said that what he watches is the “mild’ then goes on to describe choking, anal, peeing in a woman’s orifices. Porn has completely rotted men’s brains to the point they’re not even human beings. I hope he tells his girlfriend and I hope she leaves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 10:16 AM |
| 87 | Ladies, please do not sleep with a man early on. This is what will happen.Post nut clarity is not a thing. It’s used to justify men pumping and dumping women they knew they didn’t want from the jump. Men know if they are serious about a woman very early on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 01:24 AM |
| 38 | Sex work is not a "pure" service job like being a barista or a maid, it is undergirded by the commodification of the female body. Women are viewed and treated like goods.Excellent post. Also, if sex work is work and is valid and good, why do sex workers shame women who are not sex workers for having sex "for free"? They love to say "well, at least I am getting paid to suck dick!" to women who object to the sex industry. Having sex for free would only be seen as a bad thing if they see it as inherently degrading. So sex workers themselves know the job is degrading. You cannot say that having to fuck men you are not attracted to, day in, day out, is empowering and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 11:38 PM |
| 18 | A man disclosing his mental health/therapy habits early on is an absolute red flagYeeeesssh, sis I feel attacked! This was my first boyfriend. He was always upfront about his mental health issues/personality disorders/general assholishness, but rather than seek treatment and medication, he would use it as an excuse for his emotional and verbal abuse. I am so glad I am out of that dumpster fire. Remember, somebody acknowledging their issues does NOT mean they are working on it. Over at the porn addict sub, how many of the PAs there know they have a porn addiction but refuse to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 10:43 PM |
| 12 | FDS is NOT categorically against OLD.Our grandmothers and mothers met men IRL, yet a lot of them married awful men. There are no guarantees. Whilst I appreciate that OLD is not for everyone, categorically saying that there are NO HVM on there whatsoever is short sighted, IMO. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 01:22 PM |
| 12 | FDS is NOT categorically against OLD.This is why I like OLD. It's much easier to weed men out. I have very little patience for scrotery, so if I am able to block and delete before we even go for dinner, that is a win. I have only had positive experiences on OLD, personally. They did not all lead to a relationship, but using it allowed me to practice vetting and spotting red flags. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 01:21 PM |
| 9 | FDS is NOT categorically against OLD.Some people use OLD in addition to meeting people IRL. I have no idea why people on this thread are acting like it has to be either/or. People can and do use both methods. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 01:18 PM |
| 22 | FDS is NOT categorically against OLD.Nobody is forcing you to use OLD. If you personally don’t want to use it, that’s absolutely fine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 01:24 AM |
| 8 | FDS is NOT categorically against OLD.OLine Dating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 11:41 PM |
| 116 | Famous HMV?Chadwick Boseman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 10:01 PM |
| 48 | Telling women to “just communicate” with their uncaring, oblivious, self centered partners is the advice equivalent of asking, “Have you tried turning off and back on again?”This is the kink community in a nutshell. Whenever a woman tells a horrific story of her boundaries being violated/raped, she is often blamed for not speaking up or for not "negotiating" her abuse beforehand. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 09:54 PM |
| 200 | FDS is NOT categorically against OLD.Exactly. The way to live authentically is to take the parts of FDS that apply to you and leave the rest. We have women on this sub and within the mod team who are happily married so most of the content does not apply to them, yet they still find value in being here. OLD is not going anywhere. I would rather teach women how to vet, both online and offline, than pretend OLD does not exist. Moreover, the same men that are out there in real life are probably the same people on OLD. One of the podcas… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 09:41 PM |
| 5 | Y’all do not be hating LVM enough for me.That's not what FDS is saying at all. FDS is not against OLD, we just encourage women to vet these men even more ruthlessly. There is no surefire way to find a HVM, and a lot of women need to accept that part of finding a HVM comes down to luck and being in the right place at the right time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 04:23 PM |
| 2 | Y’all do not be hating LVM enough for me.FDS is not explicitly against OLD. A lot of our users choose not to use it for various reasons, but we also accept that some women will use it to meet men. The idea that FDS is against OLD is a myth and is proof that some readers have never read the handbook. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 04:19 PM |
| 2 | Reminder: Don't befriend male colleagues who are married!This is it, sis. No adding on social media, not sharing super personal information about where I live/what I do in my spare time. It's better to keep things separate. I keep in touch with some colleagues after I have left the team/company if we really clicked though, but then I am happy to be more casual around them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 01:42 PM |
| – | Professor's controversial interview defending 'minor-attracted persons' prompts statement from schoolI cannot believe this even needs to be said, but any pro-pedophilia/"pedophilia is a sexual orientation" nonsense will be removed and the user permanently banned. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 07:58 PM |
| 11 | Saw this on r/confessions... This is why I don't do FWBThis is why women should NEVER feel bad about going for men who they find attractive. This man think he is the prize, even though he is morbidly obese with a small dick. Men have no qualms about going for women who are super models, even if they look like Quasimodo and have the body of Squidward after he overdosed on the crabby patties. Ladies, do not be afraid to only consider men you find attractive even if you do not think you are a 10/10. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 06:53 PM |
| 4 | Saw this on r/confessions... This is why I don't do FWBComment of the year. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 05:53 PM |
| 26 | Saw this on r/confessions... This is why I don't do FWBDelusional. Being 450lbs at 6'1 is very, very, very fat. And we all know men do not carry extra weight very well. It goes to their gut primarily. His standards are not too low, it's that he is not realistic about the kind of people who would find him attractive. His post history is also disgusting. Full of him thirsting over women on Reddit. He belongs in the garbage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 04:06 PM |
| 36 | The Rapper Da Baby kicked out his baby mama and his newborn child, and when she didn't leave he called cops on her and reported her. He allegedly wanted to invite another woman to his condo and he wanted her out after she cooked, cleaned for him, slept with him.I feel like this should be a 'Nah, sis' flair. It was well known that Da Baby was a POS, yet Dani not only refused to listen, she thought she was better than the black women who tried to warn her. She played into racist and colorist tropes in attempt to make herself look better and get picked. Well sis, looks like you got picked by a man who ain't shit. Play stupid games, win very, very stupid prizes. The abuse is not deserved, but she cannot say that she wasn't warned. She is in this situation … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 11:12 AM |
| 15 | The Rapper Da Baby kicked out his baby mama and his newborn child, and when she didn't leave he called cops on her and reported her. He allegedly wanted to invite another woman to his condo and he wanted her out after she cooked, cleaned for him, slept with him.She was being a pickme and thought she was better than the black women he was degrading. This is why my sympathy for her is limited. Play stupid games, win very, very stupid prizes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 10:59 AM |
| 25 | The Rapper Da Baby kicked out his baby mama and his newborn child, and when she didn't leave he called cops on her and reported her. He allegedly wanted to invite another woman to his condo and he wanted her out after she cooked, cleaned for him, slept with him.It's because Dani is trash herself. She does not deserve the abuse, but at the end of the day she chose to procreate with a NVM and chose to put down the women (black women) who tried to warn her. My sympathy for her is very limited. I am not here to coddle women who have made objectively bad choices, refuse to do better, and are reaping the consequences of their actions, especially when they choose to play into race and colorist tropes to make themselves look better. Nah, sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 10:58 AM |
| 21 | Beware of fuckboys who pretend to be HVM - mistakes I've made and how I dodged a bullet!Also, do not tell men about your boundaries or what it will take to get you to sleep with them. Women need to become more comfortable with saying 'no' to sex without giving a higher reason. If he continues to press the issue, block and delete. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 04:14 PM |
| 28 | Reminder: Don't befriend male colleagues who are married!Women should stop going into the workplace looking for friends. Your colleagues are your direct competition when it comes to things like promotions, and many of them will not hesitate to throw you under the bus if it means they can save themselves. I do not share details about my personal life, what I am doing at the weekend, my hobbies etc with work colleagues at all. You do not know how they will use that information against you. Cultivate friendships outside of work. Your reputation will than… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 10:10 AM |
| 71 | Beware of fuckboys who pretend to be HVM - mistakes I've made and how I dodged a bullet!The thing is, nobody likes to be treated casually even men who supposedly want a casual relationship. How many men get jealous when their FWB goes on a date or sleeps with another man? These men prefer women who want exclusivity and relationships because they know these women are more likely to give them exclusivity and commitment whilst they continue to keep their options open. Men do not like feeling like they have competition when it comes to other men, which is why they do not want women who… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 10:02 AM |
| 46 | Beware of fuckboys who pretend to be HVM - mistakes I've made and how I dodged a bullet!FAKE HVM WILL NEVER BE CLEAR ABOUT THEIR INTENTIONS: this guy used to say "Well, it's not that I was looking for a relationship, but I'm open to the idea of having one This right here is the smoking gun of red flags. I do not mean to be unkind OP, but it should have been obvious that this guy was LV when he started coming out with this crap and when he started trying to push your boundaries. I am glad you have shared this and have learned your lesson, but I would suggest making sure you know wha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 10:00 AM |
| 20 | Is marriage always a good idea for a woman with assets?Just a word to everyone mentioning prenups: in some jurisdictions they are not worth the paper they are written on. In the UK, the default is usually a 50/50 split in case of a divorce. Not saying prenups are a bad thing, but it’s important to know if the one you have signed will truly protect you when it comes down to it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 02:42 AM |
| 206 | Reminder: Don't befriend male colleagues who are married!Personally I do not befriend work colleagues at all. I am friendly, but I avoid being too familiar with my colleagues, whether male or female, until I have left the team. I find it better to keep my personal and professional life separate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 10:24 AM |
| 21 | How do you establish financial independence?I didn't come from money, but I have managed to increase my net worth exponentially by earning more money. I juggle multiple side hustles alongside my main job. This allows me to live the lifestyle I want AND meet my financial goals (i.e pay off debts and save). More people need to think about increasing their income as opposed to just cutting back. Life is there to be lived, and like another person on this thread has said, there is no limit to how much someone can earn. I currently work four jo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 10:12 AM |
| 6 | Never Help Men With Their Woman-Seeking MotivesI’ve stopped helping males when it comes to this as well. Firstly, a lot of them don’t listen and think they know better. Then they complain when they don’t get the outcome they want. Secondly, if a man is clueless about what is attractive to women he shouldn’t be dating. He should go away and figure out how to become more attractive to women on his own before attempting to date. I also don’t let men know about red flags they may exhibit. I remember one man at work was trying to pick women up on… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 10:17 AM |
| 11 | There is no surefire way to avoid LVM - you are not responsible for what comes your way, but you are responsible for what you choose to entertain.LVM remind me of Venom. Venom is a symbiotic creep that slithers from person to person looking for a host. If the bond isn’t strong, they’ll leech off the current host until they’re dead and find another one. Venom was killing people in LA until he found his way back to Eddie Brock. LVM operate the same way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 11:01 PM |
| 111 | The manosphere line that men hit their peak in their late 30s and 40s is a biological lie - male fertility begins to decline once the man is over the age of 34.Another fact for you ladies: in the UK, male infertility is the main reason why couples seek fertility treatment. The article also says that "the quality of male sperm in the Western world is in decline." But yeah, women hit the wall at 21. /s. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 08:22 AM |
| 104 | Don’t travel for a man. Especially on your own dime. If he was interested he would travel to you or at very minimum pay for your flight and accommodations.When I was in the BDSM scene, an older gentlemen paid for me to visit him and got me my own hotel room. We did not end up doing anything sexual, so I got to enjoy a free holiday. Scrotes nowadays see nothing wrong with expecting a woman to pay for their orgasm. I met another cheap scrote in his 20s who expected me to fly over to his city to "show me round" (have sex with me). He didn't offer to pay for anything, just expected me to fly out like some free prostitute. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 05:35 PM |
| 29 | The Dying Art of ConversationI noticed this as well. The number of men who cannot hold a conversation about anything besides sex. I remember being floored by a guy I met on OLD who could hold a civil conversation. We ended up speaking for several hours and it was so refreshing to have a conversation with a man that was insightful and engaging. The bar is in hell. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 11:17 AM |
| 25 | Hookup culture is a scamYou know that casual sex is a scam when the people who are encouraging you to partake in it, both men and women, are having a shit time. It's like the emperor's new clothes - everyone knows casual sex is inferior in every way to sex with someone you know and love, but the 'casual sex is cool' crowd don't want to come out and say it. They are not fooling anyone anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 09:23 PM |
| 133 | JFC. Men: she cares more about material things more than me. Also men: I had to buy a bed frame to get laid.On these kinds of threads someone always brings up the fact people sleep on futons in Japan when it’s clear the OP does not live in Japan. He didn’t want to buy a bed frame because he was being cheap, not because it’s the cultural norm to sleep on the floor. And his actual mattress/living space was probably a state. He probably didn’t have any sheets or mattress protector to make it better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 05:26 PM |
| 7 | Funniest/smallest/strangest Seinfeld-like red flag 🚩 you personally had with an ex?I am deceased LOL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 02:56 PM |
| 46 | Part 2 of the sh*t scrotes say about women vs. how THEY look, inspired by a previous postIn my experience, men who are attractive do not tear women down because of their looks. They have a wide spectrum of what is beautiful because they know that being conventionally attractive sometimes isn’t enough. Men who aren’t good looking blame all their problems on not being attractive and hate women for not wanting anything to do with them. Never mind the fact that beautiful women often date/marry men who are nowhere near as attractive as them all the time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 09:39 PM |
| 146 | Dont mention your standardsAlso, be careful about mentioning your standards to men you are vetting. If you tell them what you’re looking for, you’ve given them what they need to manipulate you for as long as it takes for them to get what they want out of you. For example, lot of men have copped onto the fact that more and more women are taking an anti-porn stance and are now saying they’re also against porn. It’s not uncommon for the woman to catch the man continuing to watch porn months into the relationship. Keep your s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 05:27 PM |
| 14 | How to stop thinking I need a man in my life?I’ve found that women who have the “you need a man” mentality are often desperate and in shitty relationships themselves. People who are in happy and healthy relationships know that a relationship is a positive addition to an already great life. You staying single and focusing on yourself so you’re in the best position to find a man is a much better option than dating a dud just to not be alone. Many women have chosen the latter option and it has completely destroyed their life. Too many women u… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 05:23 PM |
| 413 | The IckIt took me a long time to get the ick for ex. It was around the time I first found FDS and I was slowly coming to the realisation that I was dealing with a dud. We had broken up at this point, but we agreed to be "civil" (i.e he could still ask me for favours but I should not expect anything from him). One day he sent me a picture of himself and it felt like the scales fell from my eyes. He was a totally average guy (5'8, bald, somewhat skinny-fat), and I remember thinking: "this is the dude I a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 01:55 PM |
| 13 | Polyamory and the normalization of dissatisfactionYour last paragraph is *chef's kiss*. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 01:45 PM |
| 2 | Bikini waxing?I get a full body wax every month for £50. I get everything below my eye brows removed. I understand how society has shaped our perception of body hair, but I will keep up with my hair removal. If my hair grows out from time to time that's fine, but I prefer being smooth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 01:41 PM |
| 35 | Sometimes we gotta be "bitches"When women think they are being "mean" they are actually being fair. Men rely on us women keeping quiet and keeping the peace even when they are blatantly disrespecting us. Say no to that. Having boundaries is hard at first, especially since women have been conditioned to prioritize male feels over themselves. However, the more you do it the easier it gets. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 10:01 AM |
| 129 | Could you imagine the outrage if women routinely turned down sex with their partners to watch porn and masturbate? How did that become something we have to accept from men?This should be part of the resistance movement. Let's start sticking pictures of buff men with huge dicks all over our walls and downloading pictures/videos of them. Let's start telling men to get surgery/hit the gym to look like these men. Let's blow off sex with our partners to ogle and fantasise about these men. Men will have an absolute meltdown and would say that porn is now a public health crisis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 08:37 AM |
| 22 | You should have a “hoe phase!”Men who sleep around often have attachment disorders and cannot bond emotionally. I remember speaking to a guy who was extremely promiscuous (200+) and he said that he didn’t find sex as enjoyable. The last time he truly found it amazing was when he was a teenager. I couldn’t help but feel a bit sorry for him that he’s essentially ruined his sexuality because he’s slept around so much. Sex is amazing when it’s done with someone you love and deeply care about. Casual sex cheapens the whole experi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 10:17 AM |
| 23 | Men think we are crazy, ugly psychos for having physical standards. Never change your standards and these “short kings” can go cry themselves to sleep. (The last guy seems hopeful though.)They really think we don’t know the difference between 6’4 and 5’10. And they wonder why they keep getting blocked/ghosted on dates when they’re caught lying about their height. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 07:09 AM |
| 94 | This is what men think of women they hook up with. It is not in our best interests as women to sleep with men casually.I’m so sorry he said that to you, sis. You are worth so much and so much value. My ex said the same to me, but I still stuck around for another two years. 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 07:06 AM |
| 59 | This is what men think of women they hook up with. It is not in our best interests as women to sleep with men casually.This post proves that post nut clarity is a lie. Men know who they are attracted to from the jump, but most will sleep with anyone (or anything) out of sheer desperation. When you sleep with someone out of desperation and not out of genuine desire, of course you will feel like shit aferwards. That’s a no brainer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 07:04 AM |
| – | This is what men think of women they hook up with. It is not in our best interests as women to sleep with men casually.These screenshots were taken from a thread where thousands of men admitted to sleeping with women they did not find attractive. The most upvoted comments essentially boiled down to “well, she was willing and available.” This is why part of the reason why casual sex will never be an equitable experience for women. Many women, thanks to social conditioning and our general lack of assholery, go into these casual situations hoping to make it mutually beneficial, which is why men orgasm at a much hig… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 10:04 PM |
| 251 | You should have a “hoe phase!”One of my friends kept encouraging me to sleep around like she did. She even said she would give me the number of guys she slept with so I could get with them. I always said no, casual sex isn’t my bag. She’s now pregnant from a hookup and the guy ghosted her. 💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 06:59 PM |
| 13 | Celebrity forever girlfriends & baby mama culture cont’d…I agree that marriage is ideal if one wants to have kids, but what I’m saying is I can why Kylie wouldn’t marry him. She could end up having to pay him thousands, if not millions, in alimony/child support since these men become vultures when they realise that they can cash in on their wife’s success. In this particular scenario, not getting married is probably the smart thing to do from a financial perspective. Men are the biggest gold diggers and women need to be cognizant of that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 06:57 PM |
| 61 | Celebrity forever girlfriends & baby mama culture cont’d…Being a forever girlfriend whilst having kids/sharing assets with a man is generally a bad idea UNLESS you make substantially more than the man. Kylie and Gigi have their own wealth and have more assets/wealth than the person they’re with, so it may actually make more sense for them to not get married. Rich, successful women have been screwed over financially in divorce (Britney, Mary J Blige, Adele, Kelly Clarkson), so it’s good to approach these things with caution and due dillgence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 09:50 AM |
| 48 | Your reminder that polyamory is a complete scam for women. This woman is trying to convince herself that she’s okay with hearing her husband have sex with another woman.That was the one! It was just a 🤡 show. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 06:54 PM |
| 75 | Your reminder that polyamory is a complete scam for women. This woman is trying to convince herself that she’s okay with hearing her husband have sex with another woman.Here is a link to an article from the same author where she talks about her husband’s side piece moving in: https://medium.com/polyamory-today/my-husbands-girlfriend-moved-in-with-us-during-the-pandemic-could-this-work-36d8bc83c767. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 05:51 PM |
| 121 | Your reminder that polyamory is a complete scam for women. This woman is trying to convince herself that she’s okay with hearing her husband have sex with another woman.I’ve seen stories where the woman ends up being the bangmaid for both men as they’re both lazy and unhelpful. Fuck that noise. Nobody can tell me they’re genuinely happy in such a shitty arrangement. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 05:51 PM |
| 5 | This is what you get if you act „low maintance”. You are worth less than a good PC setupI helped a guy get a job once. He was my best friend's ex. Between my bestie and I we got him the job. He did not last three months. Never again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 12:57 PM |
| 14 | This is what you get if you act „low maintance”. You are worth less than a good PC setupThis. These men are not cheap when it comes to themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 12:56 PM |
| 11 | Woman comments “we Stan a short king” on random videos on Tik Tok. Men take the bait every single timePinocchio in the house! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 12:48 PM |
| 9 | I wouldn't touch that guy with a ten foot stick after he pulled this kind of shit. He agrees to pay first date if she pays for the next, she ends up being footed with a bill 4x what he paid.Yeah, I noticed that about the second date. He was testing her to see if she would take the bait and he did. He knew that the activity and food would be expensive and because he knew from experience that she felt bad expecting him to pay, he knew he could put it on her dime. LVM are like sharks to blood. They will exploit any perceived weakness to get the most they can out of you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 10:45 AM |
| 169 | Woman comments “we Stan a short king” on random videos on Tik Tok. Men take the bait every single timeNotice how one of them said they wanted to ban the word short. If he’s really 6ft, why would he want to ban a word that doesn’t describe him? 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 08:49 PM |
| 39 | For your safety if you want to reject men don't do it in person (I highly suggest not doing it at all)Because they realise they don’t have any options, so it’s easier for them to go back to the last woman who gave them the time of day. Men coming back is never about them realising they want to be a better man. It’s about them wanting to keep you on their roladex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 08:44 PM |
| 37 | For your safety if you want to reject men don't do it in person (I highly suggest not doing it at all)That’s crazy. You literally need to block men and their descendants because they’ll always slink back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 07:32 PM |
| 98 | For your safety if you want to reject men don't do it in person (I highly suggest not doing it at all)Same, sis. I remember when I broke up with my first boyfriend for the first time, he legit spent two days convincing me that I was being irrational. Every reason I gave for wanting to end the relationship was not good enough. I ended up taking him back and it was an awful, awful relationship that was full of emotional and verbal abuse. The truth is, you don’t need a reason to not date someone. Not wanting to date them is reason enough. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 07:00 PM |
| 95 | For your safety if you want to reject men don't do it in person (I highly suggest not doing it at all)This is why I’m a huge fan of block and delete. Men have made it necessary because as you’ve rightly pointed out, men have killed women for rejecting them. The risk is immense. I used to feel bad for ghosting men mid-conversation until I realised that confronting them was futile and would only lead to a bad outcome. And when you block a man, make sure you block him EVERYWHERE. Scrotes will find that one platform you haven’t blocked them on and use them to worm their way back in. Ask me how I kno… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 06:59 PM |
| 250 | Woman comments “we Stan a short king” on random videos on Tik Tok. Men take the bait every single timeThey’re probably all lying about their height. You can tell by the arms. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 06:55 PM |
| 196 | Woman comments “we Stan a short king” on random videos on Tik Tok. Men take the bait every single timeYou can tell the first guy was in pain. His day was ruined, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 06:49 PM |
| – | Woman comments “we Stan a short king” on random videos on Tik Tok. Men take the bait every single timeIt is clear that men cannot handle one iota of the criticism that is levelled against women. Men will happily troll women all day long about their looks but you can see them die inside when a fraction of the heat they give is returned to them. Men who neg women in any way know how much it hurts, they just don’t care. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 06:36 PM |
| 37 | I wouldn't touch that guy with a ten foot stick after he pulled this kind of shit. He agrees to pay first date if she pays for the next, she ends up being footed with a bill 4x what he paid.AKA the Booby Prize. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 05:09 PM |
| 155 | I wouldn't touch that guy with a ten foot stick after he pulled this kind of shit. He agrees to pay first date if she pays for the next, she ends up being footed with a bill 4x what he paid.\inserts Oprah "I told you so" gif"* Not splitting the bill not only weeds out the cheapos it also weeds out men who will take advantage of women. As much as society likes to make us believe otherwise, men are truly the biggest gold diggers. Trying to be fair with men and splitting down the middle will mean women will always lose because men are coming from a place of extreme advantage. It's unfortunate this woman had to learn an expensive lesson. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 04:26 PM |
| 56 | Thanks to r/FDS I was able to walk away from a BDSM obsessed man! Thank you so much!Love to hear this, sis. Good on your from walking away from a porn sick misogynist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 04:19 PM |
| 13 | What are some vetting strategies to ensure a man won’t turn like this on you after giving birth?Unfortunately I think the red flags were always there. This woman most likely either downplayed them or ignored them. LVM don’t suddenly reveal their character after having a baby/getting married. It’s way too much effort for them to maintain the facade for that long. Men will always show their asses early on. Us women need to get better at not only recognising the red flags, but acting on them and leaving at the first red flag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 10:07 AM |
| 18 | I can’t help but feel there’s some propaganda going on to influence women away from education/ financial success… in favour of being a dedicated wife to a less intelligent, low earning partner. Here’s the evidence & my response:I would much rather be single than be with a scrote who feels intimidated by my intellect and success. There is ZERO benefit to women dating men who are beneath them in any way. All these scrotes will do is try to bring you down ten pegs so they can feel like you are on their level. I was better than my first boyfriend in almost every single way: I had a better job, better prospects, better education. What did he do? Feel insecure about his shitty life and became emotionally and verbally abusive… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 08:40 PM |
| – | Going to therapy is not the solution to every relationship problem. It only works if the person going is willing to be honest about their situation and is open to change, which is why it doesn’t work with addicts.This case is a classic example of how men can use therapy to manipulate unsuspecting women into believing they are being unreasonable. The OP is disingenuously conflating watching porn with masturbation which is what porn addicted men often do to justify continuing to indulge their addiction. What is interesting is that OP drops hints that he is porn addicted (“try my best to fight the urges”, “can be very impulsive”) but makes out like his girlfriend is being unreasonable for expecting him to q… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 03:19 PM |
| 62 | Strangulation BIGGEST indicator of risk of DV murder. ...(but if he has an erection while doing it we can't talk about it because that would be kInK ShAmiNgIt's shocking how they can see its wrong to exploit someone financially, but tying up, beating, strangling, and "rape play" is fair game when it's done to women. Men know BDSM is fucked up, they just do not care because most of the violence is directed towards women. The BDSM crowd loves to say anything is fair game if both parties consent, so why is a man giving a woman money an issue? Are they both not consenting? The hypocrisy is astounding. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 02:31 PM |
| 2 | REMINDER: if you post a screenshot/video, you MUST provide insightful/strategic commentary in the comments. Repeated violations will result in a temp ban.No, you don't. But you can see it has been removed when you view the post. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 09:27 PM |
| 19 | REMINDER: if you post a screenshot/video, you MUST provide insightful/strategic commentary in the comments. Repeated violations will result in a temp ban.Please continue to report such posts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 07:17 PM |
| – | HVM tried to give sound advice to a young single mother in distress and got so much hate from RedditPost locked. OP, please add an insightful comment and it will be re-approved. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 05:32 PM |
| 87 | Men have become so comfortable with violating women’s boundaries that they don’t feel any shame in admitting to itIm pretty sure he will more than lose his job, he will be disbarred which means he won’t be able to practice law. Lawyers in the UK need to be fit to practice. Raping your wife is enough to get you struck off. This guy knows this hence why he tried to backtrack when Jess told him she will be telling his employer. He’s in deep shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 06:39 PM |
| 62 | Men have become so comfortable with violating women’s boundaries that they don’t feel any shame in admitting to itHow does he respond when you say no to sex? Does he watch porn? Does he have “kinks”? These can be indicators of depraved sexual behaviour. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 06:38 PM |
| 92 | Men have become so comfortable with violating women’s boundaries that they don’t feel any shame in admitting to itI am so sorry this happened to you, sis. I’m glad he’s out of your life. I woke up to my ex trying to stick his dick inside me. The pain woke me up and even when I tried to go back to sleep he continued. It took me a year to realise that what he did was rape. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 05:19 PM |
| – | Men have become so comfortable with violating women’s boundaries that they don’t feel any shame in admitting to itFor context, Dr Jess Taylor was interviewed by Emma Barnett on Women’s Hour to ‘debate’ whether having sex with a woman whilst she is asleep is rape. The Sexual Offences Act 2003 clearly states that a person is unable to consent to sex if they are asleep. Jess was inundated with men (and women!!!) arguing that that attempting to have sex with someone whilst they are asleep is wrong and is rape. A lawyer contacted Jess to say that he does this to his wife all the time, which is shocking because h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 01:06 PM |
| 10 | Instead of looking for a partner, look for the father of your childrenLOOOL, I'm dead sis | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 08:15 PM |
| 39 | Instead of looking for a partner, look for the father of your childrenLOOOL, I'm dead sis | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 08:15 PM |
| 5 | FDS is BACK!Thank you so much for your support. ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 09:12 AM |
| 42 | FDS is BACK!❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 09:11 AM |
| 85 | FDS is BACK!Hahaha! Well, we aren’t called Ruthless Strategists for nothing ;) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 09:03 AM |
| 14 | FDS is BACK!Thank you for staying with us! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 09:03 AM |
| 15 | FDS is BACK!❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 08:58 AM |
| 192 | FDS is BACK!The low effort posts rule is to prevent people from sharing screenshots/videos of men being Scrotes which are of no benefit to the FDS community. If someone posts a screenshot/tiktok, they will need to provide some strategic commentary in the comments. This rule applies to posts not comments, so “yeeesss Queeeeennnsss” in the comments are allowed and always welcome! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 08:57 AM |
| 4 | FDS is BACK!We are glad to be back! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 08:56 AM |
| 22 | FDS is BACK!Thank you so much for the support, Queen! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 08:54 AM |
| 51 | FDS is BACK!We missed y’all too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 08:52 AM |
| 272 | You didn't become selfish; you became harder to manipulate. Don't let them gaslight you.My ex said I became selfish when I started reading and engaging with gender critical feminism. This was the first time I had seen a group of women unapologetically put themselves and their interests first whilst calling out men as a class. Of course he wouldn't like that, because I started to advocate for myself as opposed to doing whatever he wanted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 04:46 PM |
| 338 | You are not an equal opportunity employer. Your intimate relationships are not centers of civil rights. Your body and mind are not subject to anti-discrimination standards.Men are not against women having standards. They are against women having standards that they do not meet. This is why women who say they prefer dad bods get praised. This is why women who say height or dick size doesn't matter get praised. Mediocre/low value men want to feel desired, and FDS reminds them that they do not measure up (figuratively and literally). HVM/the men we want to date wont have an issue with our standards because they know they can meet them. It's that simple. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 04:44 PM |
| 134 | If a man ever says something along the lines of "I am a terrible person" or "I am an asshole", take him at word, thank the Gods that he showed himself early on and GHOST/BLOCK AND DELETE. Men who say such things have nothing good to offer you. I promise you.My first boyfriend would say this, and he turned out to be the worst human being I have ever met. I was young and dumb at the time, so I would spend hours trying to convince him otherwise whilst he emotionally and verbally abused me. We recently reconnected briefly and initially he said he had changed, until he started pulling this BS again. Blocked and deleted for good. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 08:06 PM |
| 7 | As a woman looking to buy a property in the next few years. It’s so important to legally NEVER give a man this much financial/ legal leverage over me. Any advice from you ladies???Prenups are not a thing in England. They’re not acknowledged at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 04:19 PM |
| 14 | As a woman looking to buy a property in the next few years. It’s so important to legally NEVER give a man this much financial/ legal leverage over me. Any advice from you ladies???You’ll have to check the laws in your area. I know in some places it’s incredibly difficult and expensive to evict someone who has stayed in your home for a certain length of time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 04:12 PM |
| 25 | As a woman looking to buy a property in the next few years. It’s so important to legally NEVER give a man this much financial/ legal leverage over me. Any advice from you ladies???What he is saying is that her parents loaned them half the money to buy the house, and I am assuming they are paying her parents back under an informal agreement. However, her parents are not legally entitled to their money back. In the UK, you cannot use a loan for a deposit so her parents would have signed a legal disclaimer saying the money is a gift. This is why this man is not only screwing his wife over, he is also screwing over her parents. As far as the law is concerned they gave the mon… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 01:28 PM |
| 31 | As a woman looking to buy a property in the next few years. It’s so important to legally NEVER give a man this much financial/ legal leverage over me. Any advice from you ladies???In the UK, 50/50 split tends to be the default in divorce. This is why women need to really consider if marriage is in their best interests, especially if they are going into the marriage with more assets and money. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 01:18 PM |
| 82 | As a woman looking to buy a property in the next few years. It’s so important to legally NEVER give a man this much financial/ legal leverage over me. Any advice from you ladies???He does not know because he contributed nothing to buying the house. His wife and her parents did all the work. Her parents probably wanted to help their daughter, and given the housing situation in England, I truly believe they wanted to help as best they can. Giving your child money to help them buy a house is no easy feat. It's just a shame her daughter married a selfish asshole who is looking to exploit them and their daughter. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 01:17 PM |
| 488 | As a woman looking to buy a property in the next few years. It’s so important to legally NEVER give a man this much financial/ legal leverage over me. Any advice from you ladies???He said in the original thread that he wants to leave the house for his wife and child and ask his wife's parents if they will give him money for a deposit for another house. Basically he wants to cut and run and start afresh using money he has not earned. Lazy leach. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 01:15 PM |
| 26 | As a woman looking to buy a property in the next few years. It’s so important to legally NEVER give a man this much financial/ legal leverage over me. Any advice from you ladies???In the UK, deposits cannot be loans. Her parents would have signed a disclaimer saying the loan was a gift otherwise the mortgage would not have been approved. Now they may have an informal loan agreement, but I am unsure if this will be enforceable, especially if they signed a legal document saying it was not a loan. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 01:13 PM |
| 82 | As a woman looking to buy a property in the next few years. It’s so important to legally NEVER give a man this much financial/ legal leverage over me. Any advice from you ladies???Marriage IS a business transaction. The idea that marriage is synonymous with romance is nothing but a con to make women sign up for it, even though marriage was not designed to benefit women. I am not anti-marriage, as long as it is in the woman's best interests. We stand way more to lose if a marriage goes wrong than men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 01:10 PM |
| 182 | As a woman looking to buy a property in the next few years. It’s so important to legally NEVER give a man this much financial/ legal leverage over me. Any advice from you ladies???You have to be careful about allowing a man to move in. He could have rights which means its very difficult to remove him if the relationship goes left. This is why I advocate women obtaining property on their own, in their own name if possible, and moving into a shared property if they want to live with a man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 09:42 AM |
| 150 | As a woman looking to buy a property in the next few years. It’s so important to legally NEVER give a man this much financial/ legal leverage over me. Any advice from you ladies???Unfortunately this is the nature of marriage. This is why I will only get married if its in my financial interests to do so, and I will seek legal advice BEFORE accepting a proposal. Women need to separate marriage from love, at least momentarily, if they want to avoid getting screwed over, especially if she comes into the marriage with more assets than him. Now its likely she will be funding his post-divorce lifestyle with an asset she and her parents worked for. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 09:39 AM |
| 187 | Yep! Men are truly disgusting!Agreed with everything apart from the last tweet. We need to stop kneecapping our sentences, because it comes from a place of inferiority and not wanting to hurt other people's feelings. It is possible to say what you want to say in a direct manner whilst being considerate. Kneecapping sentences means the message loses impact. Women should be kind, but we should stop being nice. They are not the same thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 09:21 AM |
| 46 | FDS is and will always remain a dating sub first and foremost. Any suggestions to rename the sub or redirect its focus will be removed and offending users bannedPlease report any such comments. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 08:13 AM |
| 363 | As a woman looking to buy a property in the next few years. It’s so important to legally NEVER give a man this much financial/ legal leverage over me. Any advice from you ladies???And never put his name on the title or the deed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 08:07 AM |
| 608 | As a woman looking to buy a property in the next few years. It’s so important to legally NEVER give a man this much financial/ legal leverage over me. Any advice from you ladies???So he wants to reap the profits from a house he did not help to buy? And men say that women are the gold diggers. I am not sure about the legal aspect of it, but as far as I am concerned he should get nothing. He did not contribute to the purchase of the property and is trying to reap where he did not sow. He can keep the furnishings, but thats about it. I am hoping that the wife did not put him on the deed of the property. What did the comments say, OP? EDIT: Just peeped the original thread. Th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 08:05 AM |
| 187 | Men who lament they “never fought” with exesIf none of his exes had a problem with his behaviour, why isn’t he still with them? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 06:25 AM |
| 1 | Meeting men via speed dating or singles eventsFDS is not against using OLD. A lot of users prefer not to use it which is fine, but there are plenty of users who do use it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 11:58 AM |
| 51 | If ever in doubt, ladies, read this.This should be required reading for any young woman who believes casual sex is empowering. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 08:53 PM |
| 11 | Weekly FDS Check-inWhy is he able to call you? He is not your problem anymore. Block and delete. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 12:28 PM |
| 41 | Will Smith reaches his "Fuck-it 50s"I’m so tired of hearing about his trash marriage with Jada. They’re never going to make poly cool or acceptable, so they should stop trying. It’s embarassing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 11:43 AM |
| 64 | This just in ladies, lazy proposals are the pinnacle of romance and just the best!Imagine getting into a "who received the worst proposal"-off with strangers on the internet. Sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 08:27 AM |
| 14 | Weekly FDS Check-inThe best thing to do is clean as you go (it can be easier said than done). When you use a plate, wash it immediately. Give your bathroom sink a quick wipe down after using it. Keeping a tidy home is about staying on top of those little tasks before they become unmanageable. That being said, if you can afford to get a cleaner once or twice a month I would HIGHLY recommend it. It is so much easier to stay on top of cleaning once it has been done professionally. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 08:04 PM |
| 8 | I set the boundary…Men who watch porn don't change that quickly, sis. If he was watching porn before then by definition he is not high value because he saw nothing wrong with getting off to women's abuse and exploitation. It is so easy for men to lie about their porn use, especially now they have clocked onto the fact that more and more women are becoming anti-porn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 06:09 PM |
| 9 | Men are becoming aware of women's anti pornography stances and are using it to manipulate women.This is why I encourage women to not tell men they are meeting that they are anti-porn. Men who watch porn will always have tells, both verbal and non-verbal. Act like a dumb fox when it comes to porn and watch them reveal themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 04:56 PM |
| 12 | Men are becoming aware of women's anti pornography stances and are using it to manipulate women.Several men have admitted to me that they keep photos and videos of their exes, even the ones who despise them. It's so fucked up and creepy. I can also guarantee that these men do not have the woman's permission to have such videos, either. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 04:52 PM |
| 6 | 'Treat the symptoms and ignore the problem'. A conversation with a 'feminist' man, who proudly consumes PornMen can help the feminist cause by platforming and uplifting the voices of women and by challenging misogyny when they see it and not perpetuating it themselves. The trouble is, too many men are selfish and are not interested in giving up their power and advantage because patriarchy and the subjugation of women benefits all men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 01:38 PM |
| 45 | I forget my audienceSecond this, OP. The Plymouth shooter mentioned FDS in one of his rants and he was able to murder six people in a country where guns are extremely difficult to obtain. There are men out there with murderous intentions when it comes to FDS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 06:33 PM |
| 36 | Pervert pretends to film wife at the beach but is actually recording woman in bikini behind her. Trash. Things like this are why I thank my lucky stars everyday that I never married or reproduced with a scroteSo many ex-male friends would take pictures of random women at the beach and keep them. It’s disgusting and creepy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 08:56 AM |
| 180 | 'Treat the symptoms and ignore the problem'. A conversation with a 'feminist' man, who proudly consumes PornMale feminists don’t exist. If a man tells you he is a feminist, run fast and far. Because I promise you he’s not a feminist that is actually interested in dismantling the patriarchy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 08:34 AM |
| 49 | Do not underestimate male entitlement and their capacity for retroactive jealousy.You’ve made a very good point. Certain methods of birth control, such as the morning after-pill, are less effective if a woman is above a certain weight. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 11:57 PM |
| 547 | Do not underestimate male entitlement and their capacity for retroactive jealousy.He has a choice, though. He can not have sex with her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 05:53 PM |
| 84 | Do not underestimate male entitlement and their capacity for retroactive jealousy.Even if he came back clean, she still has the right to require him to wear a condom. This isn’t a matter of trust, this is just basic safety. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 05:02 PM |
| 208 | Do not underestimate male entitlement and their capacity for retroactive jealousy.She may have also realised that having sex without a condom is very risky. Or she could have been coerced/guilt-tripped into not using one. Whatever the reason, he has no right to get upset. If he doesn’t like it, he can always not have sex with her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 04:37 PM |
| 136 | Do not underestimate male entitlement and their capacity for retroactive jealousy.Also, STDs don’t protect you from everything. She also doesn’t have to give a reason as to why she wants him to use a condom. If he doesn’t like it, he doesn’t have to sleep with her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 04:29 PM |
| 20 | I did this in high school 🤡 and guess what? It did not turn out well. Never doing it again. If he wanted to, he would.Women aren’t afraid of rejection. We are afraid of men saying yes because they would rather have something than nothing. Women who ask men out are at risk of ending up with a guy who doesn’t really want them but is happy to use them until he finds a woman he likes enough to pursue. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 10:23 AM |
| 500 | “My love language is PhYSiCal TouCh”The author who came up with the concept of love languages said that physical touch does not include sex. So if a man conflates the two, he a) has not read the book, b) does not understand love languages and c) is being very manipulative. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 04:38 AM |
| 33 | Masturbation requires porn apparentlyThis was definitely written by a man. A pornsick man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 07:53 PM |
| 15 | Pleas share your tips for getting over someone and taking care of yourself after an amicable breakup!One thing I like to do is mourn. I give myself a set of time to feel really bad about it before beginning to move on. During this time, I allow myself to cry, vent, eat chocolate/ice cream to my heart's content, and just feel shitty. It's important to fully process all your emotions before you begin the healing process. I have been able to get over breakups much faster when I have done this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 07:00 PM |
| 72 | Stay away from damaged goods - porn addictsAlso, be wary of men who used to watch porn in the past. Their brains can still be pornfried. I once dated a guy who said he hated porn, but he was subscribed to all the NSFW subreddits. The dude was so porn fried that he didn't realise he was still watching porn, just a different kind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 07:26 AM |
| 165 | This just in. Baldness - A systemic issue we should all be taking seriously.Oh, who gives a shit about their feelings? Men can dish it out but can’t take it. Women’s bodies are picked apart like mad, but when we give men an ounce of what we get they have a meltdown. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 07:34 AM |
| 7 | Experience of men who mention their ex and a past behavior that their ex called them out on, but claimed their ex was wrong.I briefly dated a guy last year who said that his exes complained that he wouldn't call them when he said he would. Basically he would stand them up. I did not think anything of it, until he started doing the same to me. When I told him I did not like it, he said that he "did not see it as a big deal." If a man brings up something like this, take it as a warning and act accordingly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 10:48 PM |
| 17 | What happens when a forever girlfriend finally gets married.That last sentence about her having to be okay with another woman joining them in bed. Divorce is on the horizon. We will see her on the poly sub lamenting about how the relationship has crashed and burned. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 10:44 PM |
| 163 | This was so wild I couldn’t not share🥲 Thankfully most people were advising OP to ditch him.Say no to community dick, sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 10:42 PM |
| 25 | I hate talking about my abuse to my friends with boyfriends because it makes them look goodYour friend is with an abusive man. Maybe he is not physically abusive, but pestering her for a threesome when she is clearly not interested is a form of emotional abuse. Her comparison does not actually make him look good at all. Not hitting your partner is the bare minimum. Secondly, she is still stuck with a leach. I am very sorry to hear what has happened to you, but you are free. She is still stuck with a LVM. I hope she will one day be free from him, as well. In the meantime, distance your… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 10:41 PM |
| 10 | My friend just posted this and it's so depressing.....I’m not saying that at all. What I am saying is that signs are always there. This is why FDS exists. We help women spot the signs early on before they get too invested. Society has conditioned women to constantly second guess or rationalise poor behaviour. If you ask any women in an abusive relationship (once she has left), or a woman on here who thought she was dating a HVM about the relationship, you will find that there were red flags she missed in the beginning. Missing red flags is not the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 08:09 PM |
| 41 | When to take a break from datingWanted to add another one: if you’ve just left a bad relationship. You need to take time to reflect and recalibrate your standards and boundaries so you don’t accept poor treatment again. Ever noticed that women who are constantly in relationships and are never single are always with LVM? This is because they haven’t taken the time to get used to their own company and properly assess what went wrong. They have no sense of boundaries or standards which is why they keep falling for the same LV tri… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 07:18 PM |
| 24 | When to take a break from datingI can promise you that majority of your friends in relationships right now are probably in bad ones. I wish I focused on myself and my studies in college instead of my LV ex. You have plenty of time to find a HVM when you’re established. Men at your stage in life will have very little, if anything, to offer you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 07:14 PM |
| 11 | My friend just posted this and it's so depressing.....A lot of these women also end up having multiple children for shitty men. Head over to a certain parenting sub and you’ll women continue to make bad decisions with men, all whilst continuing to pop out babies for them. We need to make women understand that they need to protect their uterus and not allow any old dusty to impregnate them. Women’s reproductive powers are one of our greatest weapons. We have the power to make undesirable men die out. That’s why men have sought to control our sexuali… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 06:32 PM |
| 13 | My friend just posted this and it's so depressing.....I don’t buy the idea that LVM reveal themselves after getting married or having a child with a woman. The signs are always there. Most women just do not see them as red flags and act accordingly. Most men are just not capable of not showing their ass at some point, especially if they think they’ve got you. My mother always said that character is like a smoke. You can only contain it for so long. For many men, the mask starts to slip several months in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 06:29 PM |
| 42 | When to take a break from datingIf you want to focus on your education or career. To be honest, I would advise anyone in school or college to shun dating. Don’t focus on men at all. Focus on yourself. I went through a time when I don’t date at all because I was so busy trying to build my career during the madness that was Covid. Make sure you put yourself first always even if it means not dating for a while. You’ll thank you self for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 06:25 PM |
| 194 | WOC and our current complex feelings about missing woman media coverageAgreed, sis. Blessing Olusegun, a 21-year old Business student from London, was found dead on a beach in Sussex in September last year. There was absolutely no media coverage. No outrage. No marches or hashtags on Twitter. Fast forward to six months and Sarah Everard’s murder gets all the coverage, including an appearance from the royal family. Both cases are a tragedy, but it’s tough to see how differently cases involving black women are handled. It’s like a reminder that at the end of the day,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 06:50 PM |
| 9 | Thinking about being married to any of my exes fuels my single hood🤢As we used to say at the bank: “attracting new customers is a lot harder than keeping old ones.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 05:21 PM |
| 23 | I feel like women might be waking up to what this sub preachesA lot of these women are in denial. They know they’ve been shafted in all of their relationships with men, but they haven’t realised that the issue is systemic. It’s not just them. And it won’t improve by trying harder and continuing to give men the benefit of the doubt. To be fair to Reddit at least, more and more women are waking up to the fact men are generally shit as a class. I have seen FDS-style ideology being spoken about on other subs which is always a promising sign. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 07:57 AM |
| 23 | Thinking about being married to any of my exes fuels my single hood🤢Men usually come back because they’ve realised that they don’t have any options and they want to try the last woman who gave them a shot. It’s sad to see how many women fall for this, but men do it because they know unsuspecting women will bite and take them back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 07:49 AM |
| 208 | I feel like women might be waking up to what this sub preachesIt's funny how FDS is seen as toxic when majority of women on Reddit probably agree with a lot of our views. I am glad more and more women are waking up to how they have been scammed when it comes to heterosexual relationships. The revolution is near. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 04:24 PM |
| 148 | Methods they use to stealth unsuspecting womenThis is a big reason why women should avoid hookup culture and promiscuous men. Men do not face the same risks as women when it comes to sex, so they are not as invested in their own sexual health. If a man doesn’t care about his sexual health, he won’t care about yours. Men also lie about their STD/STI status. I remember speaking to a community dick who said he had never caught anything. A few weeks later, he let it slip that he caught a “lil infection that cleared within a few days”. Even if h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 06:24 AM |
| – | Gabby Petito: 911 call shows that BL was hitting her. This should shut up all the men who claimed she was abusing him, when her scratching him was obviously in self-defense. If not the for misogynistic police who victim-blamed her, she could still be alive today. RIP Gabby.There are already multiple posts about this case on the subreddit. Removed due to duplication. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 07:52 PM |
| 7 | Don't trust men's words, trust their actions.Women cannot afford to take men at face value. The consequences can literally be deadly. Men have no qualms lying to women to get what they want, so us women have to be discerning with this information and not just blindly believe them. You will get burned every single time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 03:40 PM |
| 9 | Women need to stop pathologizing themselves and start listening to their intuition with menSuch a good post, OP. When I was with my ex, any time I brought up something he did wrong or I misspoke, it would turn into a massive argument that lasted for hours. He would always lie say that he never argued with anyone else, so I must be the problem. Funnily enough, I never argued with my friends or other people apart from him and I have not since. When men tell you "this has never happened with other people", they are trying to make you feel like you are the problem, when they know the prob… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 03:30 PM |
| 27 | Anyone notice guys get uncomfortable if you want to stay at home after kids?OP, if you do decide to do this make sure you find a way to earn your own money. Whether that be working from home or a side hustle. I am sure you know this already, but I wanted to reiterate this. Make sure you are never financially dependent on a man. SAHM are vulnerable to financial abuse and entrapment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 01:45 PM |
| 2 | "Should I really vet for the rest of my life?? That seems excessive and too much work!" Yes, sis, yes you shouldPersonally, I think it’s very, very rare that an abusive/shitty person will go for YEARS without demonstrating a single red flag. People give off tells all the time. The issue is that women have been taught to overlook or excuse poor behaviour, so even if they know something is up they feel that reacting to it (I.e leaving) is overreacting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 07:36 AM |
| 28 | Isn’t it strange how single women are treated of all ages?Yeah, the story sounds like BS tbh. Why would a woman want to sniff a random man? A man she saw in passing? It doesn’t make any sense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 11:46 PM |
| 23 | Never stay friends nor let your exes stay in your lifeOnly interact with him when it's professionally required. Outside of work, he does not exist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 06:39 PM |
| 103 | Isn’t it strange how single women are treated of all ages?To your first bullet point: it's so hilarious when men think that a woman is hitting on them because they were being polite. Men will literally invent fantasies based off a positive interaction with women. One guy I knew once told me how he had seen a woman on the opposite side of the road. They passed each other when crossing and she (supposedly) sniffed him and he briefly touched her waist. He was like "I hope she went home and masturbated" LOOOOL. The delusion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 06:38 PM |
| 15 | If you notice yourself wishing you could give a man “the benefit of the doubt”, it’s your sign to DROP him. You’re TOO invested & that just won’t do.I always say it's better to drop a guy too soon than too late. There are plenty of men out there who won't make you second guess whether his intentions are pure. Your intuition exists for a reason. Giving the benefit of the doubt early on never pays. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 06:13 PM |
| 21 | If you notice yourself wishing you could give a man “the benefit of the doubt”, it’s your sign to DROP him. You’re TOO invested & that just won’t do.The benefit of the doubt should be reserved for people you know extremely well. People like your closest friends and family. It is not for strange men you have met. Such men should be treated with suspicion and caution, because your life can literally depend on it. Any time my friends or I gave a man we were dating the benefit of the doubt early on, he always turned out to be a dud. It has literally never paid off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 05:20 PM |
| 413 | This sub won’t allow me to post images anymore so I’m going to copy paste a conversation I had with a long time male friend. He was asking me how my 13 yo daughter got covid and then decided to sexualize her. What the actual fuck.I keep saying this, but this is why I say a friendship with a heterosexual male is a myth. What a pig. I hope he’s blocked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 03:27 PM |
| 45 | "Should I really vet for the rest of my life?? That seems excessive and too much work!" Yes, sis, yes you shouldIn two months, ask her how it's going. I would bet money that this nice guy will turn out to be a terror and your friend will be left scratching her head as to why "he's changed." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 08:07 AM |
| 94 | If you notice yourself wishing you could give a man “the benefit of the doubt”, it’s your sign to DROP him. You’re TOO invested & that just won’t do.The worst part is, men do not respect women who give them endless chances. This is why their treatment of you tends to get worse when you keep taking them back. They see you as stupid and they blame you for their poor treatment because you chose to stick around. Moreover, where is his incentive to change if he knows that he will still have complete access to you regardless of his behaviour? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 07:30 AM |
| 97 | Be careful about helping "disabled" men!(potential trigger warning!)Ted Bundy used this ruse to lure young women to their deaths. He would pretend to be disabled and ask for their help. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 07:28 AM |
| 135 | "Men protecting other men" and why you should keep you standards sky high cause of it.Men defend other men’s poor behaviour because they partake in the same behaviour. Thus they do not want to call it out because that would mean calling themselves out and seeing themselves for the piece of shit they are. When I was into BDSM, it was so common to see male doms making excuses for a man who raped someone. “Oh, you didn’t communicate”. “Oh, you should have used the safe word.” “Oh, it wasn’t really assault because he didn’t mean it. Reporting him will ruin his life”. When you dug a l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 10:17 PM |
| 58 | “20/20 Report - Are Short Men at a Disadvantage in Romance?” Spoiler alert: yes, they are!These “tall men” saying they wouldn’t date a woman who wouldn’t date short men are lying. How does that even make any sense? Why would they not date someone who prefers a feature they have? It’s not like these men are drowning in options, either. Such men are either lying or they’re short men larping. My partner is 6’4 and he has no issue with me saying I only date tall men. In fact, he loves it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 08:39 PM |
| 57 | “20/20 Report - Are Short Men at a Disadvantage in Romance?” Spoiler alert: yes, they are!I love how the guy at the end is like “life isn’t fair” 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 07:27 PM |
| 22 | Apparently having an emergency savings fund as a woman and not explicitly saying so to your male partner is “financial infidelity.” 🤨🙄Notice how he mentioned that she had a "nice cusion" of money. I think he's jealous of the amount she has saved and is angry he does not have access to it. Also, this financial adviser is giving terrible advice. Opening a joint account puts your credit rating at risk. If he decides to run the account into the minus or his credit is bad, it will affect her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 10:57 AM |
| 66 | You Don't Always Have to Hold Yourself to the Same Standards as MenGood for you, sis! I am plus size as well, and I have never dated a man who was overweight. Turns out men who are slim are also into bigger bodies. Overweight women tend to carry the extra weight much better than overweight men, as well. Plus, how many overweight men are only attracted to women who are slim? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 08:39 AM |
| 119 | You Don't Always Have to Hold Yourself to the Same Standards as MenWell said. Men expect to date supermodels who earn six figures whilst they are basement dwellers with no job. Men have double standards when it comes to women all the time. They are selfish yet they expect women to be selfless. They are greedy yet expect women to never ask for anything. They are underperforming yet they expect women to be exceptional in every area. Another thing to remember is that generally most people do not want to date carbon copies of themselves. Bringing different qualitie… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 08:38 AM |
| 51 | Reasons why exes come backBlock and delete, sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 12:51 AM |
| 183 | He locks her out of the house, because men are literally the worst.This is not a manbaby. This is an extremely abusive man. He punished her for something she did earlier in the day. Lundy Bancroft speaks about this type of abuser extensively in Why Does He Do That. She needs to file for divorce. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 09:30 PM |
| 93 | In every interaction with a man, you should be asking yourself "what do I get out of this?"Exactly. Men don’t keep a woman around for no reason. Whenever they set their eyes on a woman they’re salivating and sizing up what they can get from her, whether that be sex, attention, love, bangmaid, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 07:31 PM |
| 80 | In every interaction with a man, you should be asking yourself "what do I get out of this?"Yes! This is why I don’t care if men call me a goldigger. It just means I have standards and expectations. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 07:30 PM |
| 39 | In every interaction with a man, you should be asking yourself "what do I get out of this?"You shouldn’t have sex until commitment is established. There are ways to vet for sexual compatibility without having sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 06:36 PM |
| 10 | FDS is not the place for you if you’re not willing to examine your own attitudes, beliefs and behavioursThis sub has covered why looks won’t guarantee you a HVM extensively. Women have a right to maintain their appearance as they so wish. There are men out there who aren’t bothered about body hair, believe it or not. Don’t buy into the lies perpetuated by porn culture that men are only in women who are completely hairless. If you want to shave your body hair because it makes you feel confident, go for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 12:59 AM |
| 13 | Men on reddit advising women to talk it out after a male slaps them during sex (without their consent) is this normal?I saw the post you're talking about. He also choked her without consent. I cannot believe the number of people who were saying she should just talk to him. Not surprised most of them were men as men often see themselves in other men's poor behaviour. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 07:08 PM |
| 7 | Vetting for low value behaviour in men doesn't just apply to romantic relationships. It also applies to your friendships and associations.I’m strictly professional with male coworkers. I don’t discuss my personal life with them and I interact with them solely to get a job done. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 09:35 AM |
| 20 | Men Who live With Parents or RoommatesMy brother falls into this category. He earns six figures, which is more than enough to rent/buy a place of his own, yet chooses to stay at home. The result is he has no idea how expensive life is. My parents heavily subsidise his lifestyle. He contributes to bills and shopping, but with his salary he could afford to cover all the bills and still have money for himself. I’ve now realised it’s a red flag if a man has the means to move out, but chooses not to. It means he’s probably attached to th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 08:35 AM |
| 13 | Emotional incest and pick me moms- stay out of itOr Debbie and Colt from 90 Day Fiance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 07:27 PM |
| 32 | "Exclusive" is not a relationship status. You are either in a committed relationship or singleYep, this is what happened to me. He implied that he would commit some day as long as I did what he said and performed like a Pickme monkey in the circus. Of course, nothing I did was ever good enough because he had no intentions of committing. Men know very quickly the kind of woman they want to commit to, and they do not change their mind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 06:24 PM |
| 100 | "Exclusive" is not a relationship status. You are either in a committed relationship or singleI agree, except for the negotiating the relationship part. He is on his best behaviour in the early stages. If his behaviour is not up to standard then, it is unlikely to improve in any meaningful way. Moreover, telling men what you are looking for in a relationship leaves you open to them exploiting this knowledge for their own gain. Men can tell you what you want to hear and put on an act long enough for them to get what they want out of you. You should keep you cards close to your chest and w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 01:07 PM |
| 18 | Vetting for low value behaviour in men doesn't just apply to romantic relationships. It also applies to your friendships and associations.Yep. My only male friends are gay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 12:53 PM |
| 65 | Vetting for low value behaviour in men doesn't just apply to romantic relationships. It also applies to your friendships and associations.This is it, sis. I’ve said before that I don’t think it’s possible for heterosexual men to have truly equitable friendships with women. I’ve heard too many horror stories of women finding out their male “friend” was interested in them sexually or romantically, sometimes years down the line. If we accept that most men make terrible partners in relationships, why should we believe that most of them will be good friends? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 12:53 PM |
| 135 | "Exclusive" is not a relationship status. You are either in a committed relationship or singleThis. They will be keeping their options open whilst expecting you to only have eyes for them, even though they are not offering commitment. This happened to me in my last "exclusive" situationship. He would get jealous if I so much as mentioned another man, but he went and had sex with someone else and didn't tell me until months afterwards, potentially exposing me to STIs and STDs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 12:49 PM |
| 44 | Vetting for low value behaviour in men doesn't just apply to romantic relationships. It also applies to your friendships and associations.You have missed the point of this post. Aspects such as attraction and age have little to nothing to do with whether someone is high or low value. I was talking about men who use and objectify women, which is morally deplorable. This is a fundamental difference in values that should send any HVW running for the hills. There is no benefit in trying to decipher why a man is low value. Low value is low value. Block and delete. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 12:44 PM |
| 25 | Why are so many men on OLD “just passing through?”I absolutely agree, Daisy. These men see women as conquests and I would not be surprised at all if he sees OP as a potential hookup. Watch how your male friends treat other women, especially when it comes to sex. If they objectify women, rest assured they are objectifying you as well. And you're right about him playing dumb. He doesn't care if hookups are empowering for women or not as long as he is getting his dick wet. In fact he probably knows its not empowering because he sees and treats the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 07:48 AM |
| 17 | Why are so many men on OLD “just passing through?”The most promiscuous man I have met said that sex is better when you have a connection with someone. He said without that connection, it's just a "sport". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 07:47 AM |
| 21 | 'Money can't buy happiness' is a lie women are sold which compels them to seek fulfillment in romantic relationships instead of investing in their education and careersThe "money is the root of all evil" is one of the most misquoted phrases in history, and I believe it's because it justifies being broke. The actual phrase is "the LOVE of money is the root of all evil." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 07:26 AM |
| 43 | Are British men as trashy as they look?Can confirm that they are trashy, lazy, low value, and cheap. I have never dated a man from the U.K. because of this. Most of them expect nudes and sex for nothing even though they have absolutely nothing to offer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 06:54 PM |
| 206 | Women growing out their body hair IS an act of bravery in western society, insensitive fucktardLet men withold sex. Most women will relish not having to enjoy shitty, two-minute pumping where she doesn't even cum. Men will fuck a coconut or a sandwich if they are horny enough, so the idea that they would sex strike over body hair is laughable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 01:57 PM |
| 60 | Nicki Minaj's Husband Pleads Guilty for Failing to Register as a Sex OffenderHe blamed it on gout, seriously? My dad suffers from gout to the point where he can barely walk sometimes. Gout does not turn grown men into pedophiles. My dad has suffered with it since he was in his 30s (he is now in his 60s) and he has never abused a child. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 10:32 AM |
| 6 | A man who is into casual sex and hookups won't give a damn about your sexual health. Stay away from community dick.Eugh, another reason I do not do casual sex. My mom taught me to always shower before sex and I follow this rule religiously. I scrub everywhere before getting frisky, even if I have showered already. I cannot imagine getting intimate with someone and allowing them up close to my genitals without ensuring its clean and smelling good first. Men who present themselves to women unwashed and expect sex do not care about the woman they are with. It is a mark of disrespect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 09:29 AM |
| 11 | I feel like this needs to be said, but let’s stop praising men for doing the bare minimumThis is why all men benefit from the actions of abusive/shitty men. They succeed in lowering the bar so much that women become excessively grateful when a man does the barest of minimums. I have seen women praise a man for not raping them and respecting them when they said they did not want to have sex. That is how low the bar is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 07:23 AM |
| – | Where is the lie, tho?I wanted to add that there is nothing wrong with how the woman on the right looks. It's a common theme with poly/couples looking for third that the woman is way more attractive than the man, hence why she is often used as the bait. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 07:19 AM |
| 7 | A man who is into casual sex and hookups won't give a damn about your sexual health. Stay away from community dick.Don’t do it, sis. Don’t allow some random man to use you as a flesh light. Vibrators and dildos are a much better option, and at least you’re guaranteed an orgasm and you won’t pick up any STIs and STDs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 06:59 AM |
| 14 | Can we make '#YouToo' a flair? As in, "Wow, I thought you were a good guy, but you're actually horrible just like the others?"Your experience proves my point. Six weeks is not a long time at all, and it’s way too early to think a man is HV. I’m glad you have managed to leave that situation, but next time remember that a man is only HV if he has demonstrated HV behaviour consistently for a long period of time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 10:47 PM |
| 328 | Where is the lie, tho?I know! The men especially are always hideous. Without fail. Why do they think a plethora of women would be lining up to sleep with them when they look like they belong in Mordor? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 08:08 PM |
| 125 | Keep your professional reputation inviolate. Do NOT pursue workplace romances.I actually stopped speaking to a guy after I found out he he slept with his subordinates. I asked him about it and he said “of course. Not straight away, but eventually.” Low value and predatory as fuck. These men do not care about you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 06:19 PM |
| 17 | A man who is into casual sex and hookups won't give a damn about your sexual health. Stay away from community dick.Condoms don’t protect you against everything. Women can get stealthed and sexually assaulted. And the risk of pregnancy is always there, regardless of what contraception is used. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 05:39 PM |
| 18 | A man who is into casual sex and hookups won't give a damn about your sexual health. Stay away from community dick.Looool “public cock” 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 04:05 PM |
| – | Can we make '#YouToo' a flair? As in, "Wow, I thought you were a good guy, but you're actually horrible just like the others?"Such a flair is not necessary. Vetting over a long period of time, bailing at the first sign of poor behaviour, and not idolising/following celebrities and their relationships will lessen the instances of you being surprised by men’s poor behaviour. Usually, when a woman “discovers” that the man she thought was HV is not, 99% of the time she overlooked red/yellow flags. Even the most skilled manipulator/LVM can only hide their poor behaviour for so long. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 03:56 PM |
| 32 | A man who is into casual sex and hookups won't give a damn about your sexual health. Stay away from community dick.Grace Millane was strangled to death by a man she met on Tinder and hooked up with. Bottom line is, when you’re meeting a stranger you have no idea what they’re about. They could be a serial rapist or some other sort of violent criminal. It’s much better to not take the risk than find out the hard way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 03:24 PM |
| 63 | A man who is into casual sex and hookups won't give a damn about your sexual health. Stay away from community dick.Exactly. I am shocked that HPV is becoming increasingly normalised and hand waved away, even though some strains can cause cervical cancer in women. But why would men care about that? They don't have a cervix. Women need to consider what is truly in their best interests and act accordingly. Risking all the unpleasant side effects of sex for a man you have just met and who is not invested in your happiness is a fool's game. Women will lose every time they play. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 01:42 PM |
| 122 | A man who is into casual sex and hookups won't give a damn about your sexual health. Stay away from community dick.It honestly grosses me out. Asking about a man's sexual history was one of my screening methods. If he said he engaged in hook-up culture, he was dismissed. Diseases aside, men who engage in casual sex see women as objects and often have attachment issues. No thanks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 01:33 PM |
| 90 | Signs that he is a gold digger: an ever-evolving master list to which contributions are valuedA man being broke dries my pussy up faster than a water spill in the Sahara. Broke men have no business getting into a relationship. Relationships cost money and if you are unable to meet such costs, you should not be dating until your financial situation improves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 01:13 PM |
| 80 | Signs that he is a gold digger: an ever-evolving master list to which contributions are valuedI've told men I have dated that I want to work in politics abroad. Spouses of these workers often face employment restrictions, so they end up staying at home and not working (the country pays most of the expenses). You would be shocked at the number of men who were SO happy at the prospect of not working. None of them mentioned maybe becoming self-employed or doing something useful. It was a great vetting strategy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 01:12 PM |
| 210 | A man who is into casual sex and hookups won't give a damn about your sexual health. Stay away from community dick.And the worst thing is you won't even orgasm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 01:03 PM |
| 157 | A man who is into casual sex and hookups won't give a damn about your sexual health. Stay away from community dick.Condoms do not protect your from everything. Moreover, the risk of being stealthed is high when you are having sex with a man you do not know and who does not care about you. Casual sex is not safe sex. It is playing Russian Roulette with your body. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 11:39 AM |
| 36 | I just found his alphabetized nudes from previous relationships. Mine included.I know so many men who keep nudes and videos of their exes and hookups. I wonder how many of these women are aware that a scrote has their sexual images saved. It’s barbaric. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 09:31 AM |
| 5 | 'When my husband told me to shush during labour I knew our marriage was over'That actually happened. I went to visit my ex in his country and when I left his apartment at 11pm to go back to where I was staying, he didn’t even offer me a ride home even though it would have taken 10 minutes tops. He was perfectly comfortable with me walking/getting the train home by myself in a foreign country. Meanwhile, when he came to stay with me I would do a 200 mile round trip to pick and drop him from the airport. Lol. Never again will I do that for a scrote. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 02:21 AM |
| 67 | Reminder: Men will lie about anything, including their sexuality!I know a male sex worker. He says most of his clients are men who are in relationships with women. I suspect majority of these women have no clue their husband is seeing a male escort. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 11:35 PM |
| 12 | Low Effort Dates | Online DatingWhen I used to travel (pre-Covid) and I matched with men who were further away, they would always say “aww, you’re too far for me. why don’t you fly over so I can show you round?” So, you acknowledge that it’s too far but expect me to fly to you even though public transport works in both directions and you’re the one who wants to see me? Men are so fucking lazy and audacious. I don’t need to men to show me around nor do I want them to show me round. Take me on a proper date or GTFO. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 09:57 PM |
| 38 | 'When my husband told me to shush during labour I knew our marriage was over'This is awful. The last example where the woman said her husband allowed her to walk home at 10:30pm when the drive would have taken him 10 minutes round trip was especially heartbreaking. He must not have cared about her at all, and I’m sure this woman realised that on the 30-minute walk home. There’s really not depth to male selfishness and depravity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 01:17 PM |
| 37 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 27 - Dr. Gail Dines Returns to Take on Porn Culture + Culture Reframed Virtual Conference!Because it makes them believe they have a chance with an attractive women. They see themselves in ugly men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 11:30 AM |
| 36 | The audactiy knows no bounds.So, he wants a woman to PAY to be his free prostitute and service his limp dick? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 09:34 AM |
| 85 | Why can't I get some back?I love how the weak ass scrote started playing the victim when Cardi torched his ass, even though he threw the first punch by calling her a hoe for wanting something out of a relationship. Men are so entitled. They believe that women should enter relationships with no needs or expectations of their own whilst they reap all the benefits. She absolutely torched him and it was deserved. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 07:31 PM |
| 11 | Why did Disney and society at large lie to us about the true nature of most men?Yeah, exactly. Belle was his ticket out of being condemned to stay a beast forever. She could have been anybody. I love the movie, but the actual plot sucks big time. It sanitises a highly narcissistic and abusive Prince and promotes the idea that women can love a man into not being an asshole. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 03:25 AM |
| 42 | Why did Disney and society at large lie to us about the true nature of most men?Also, The Beast/Prince Adam was an absolute dick to the old woman who turned out to be a witch, hence why she cursed him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 09:00 PM |
| 46 | He asked to borrow moneyOnly Fans. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 04:19 PM |
| 30 | He asked to borrow moneySo, you say he is an excellent trainer, but then in the next sentence you say he is always late? Were you able to have a trial period with him? I would not continue sessions with him. He is unreliable, bad with money and has no sense of professional boundaries. The most I have paid for a batch of sessions is one month upfront. I would see if I can get your money back and sever all ties. And here is a lesson: if a guy is persistently late for prebooked appointments, he is almost always trying to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 04:19 PM |
| 203 | When he says he needs at least ten years to think if I’m “the one” for him. 😂🤡Serial monogamist 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 09:41 AM |
| 69 | Some 'men' chime in on who should pay...Obinna actually made a great point. When a man asks a woman out, he’s asking her to forego other plans to spend time with him. Therefore, he should appreciate that and pay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 08:36 AM |
| 73 | One of the few times you know for sure a man is being 100% honest with you.A good way to test if someone is really “brutally honest” is to be brutally honest with them. 11/10 they can’t take what they’re dishing out, but they expect everyone else to be able to take it. That’s not someone who is honest. That’s just an asshole. Moreover, there’s a way to be honest witbout causing the intended recipient offence and upset. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 08:32 AM |
| 615 | When he says he needs at least ten years to think if I’m “the one” for him. 😂🤡He sounds like one of those men who want to play the field in their 20s and 30s, thinking that he will be able to bag a beautiful women when he’s in his 40s and 50s. These men will get to their middle age alone and they will remain alone because younger women won’t be interested in them. He’s playing himself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 08:30 AM |
| 3 | Why do men always bring up women's height preference when factually speaking we know men have a race, weight, look, and physical feature preference?Losing weight is simple, but it’s not easy. I really like your comment. Being obese is often much more than just sitting around eating all day. Poverty, lack of access to good nutrition, lack of exercise options, etc are issues that can start in childhood and can be very hard to fix. I’m not saying people aren’t responsible for their weight, but losing weight is not as easy as “just eat less”. There’s a lot of psychological and societal factors at play. If losing weight was easy, nobody would be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 08:28 AM |
| 12 | Why do men always bring up women's height preference when factually speaking we know men have a race, weight, look, and physical feature preference?So many surgeries that are marketed towards women are also dangerous (like BBLs). Nobody bats and eyelash when women sign up for that. Breast implants also come with their own complications and can cause serious harm if the saline leaks into the bloodstream. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 08:27 AM |
| 8 | Why do men always bring up women's height preference when factually speaking we know men have a race, weight, look, and physical feature preference?I know so many men who are below average height in happy relationships with awesome women. These men are academics, directors, psychologists. The difference between them and the average redditor is that they don’t make their height their entire personality. They don’t demand the entire world finds them attractive. They’re extremely successful in their careers and they’re also very, very, good people. They’ve all managed to find lasting relationships. There is no conspiracy against short men. Wom… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 08:25 AM |
| 26 | Why do men always bring up women's height preference when factually speaking we know men have a race, weight, look, and physical feature preference?Also, the weight comeback is redundant because the woman has already rejected them by that point. 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 08:20 AM |
| 234 | Why are some men’s egos so damn fragile?The issue is men don’t know how to relate to women as people. They see women as objects to satisfy them, so they can’t just have a conversation with them. I blame things like porn which often depicts an attractive woman screwing the ugly troll. In short, behaviour can be explained by one thing: they don’t see women as people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 06:32 AM |
| 65 | Woman says she prefers big dicks and you can imagine how the response is.🤏🏾🤏🏾🤏🏾🤏🏾🤏🏾 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 11:51 PM |
| 178 | Woman says she prefers big dicks and you can imagine how the response is.They’re only outing themselves as not being able to measure up. Lots of them are calling her names when she’s already rejected them because their dick isn’t big enough. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 11:16 PM |
| 26 | This scrote changed his height on a dating app to get more matches. When he inevitably got more matches he became upset and blamed the dating app for being ‘unfair’ for short men 🌚This. They complain about how life is shit as a short man, but then they act shocked when women prefer to breed with taller men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 10:04 PM |
| 66 | This scrote changed his height on a dating app to get more matches. When he inevitably got more matches he became upset and blamed the dating app for being ‘unfair’ for short men 🌚It’s amazing watching men have a meltdown when they realise they won’t be attractive to every woman. They’ve had it so good believing that they’ll be able to get a girlfriend or female attention just because they want it, and it’s nice to see reality give them a massive slap in the face. Women have been conditioned to believe we are not good enough since we came out of the womb. The men crying about height standards probably have a laundry list of physical standards for the women they date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 10:03 PM |
| 64 | This scrote changed his height on a dating app to get more matches. When he inevitably got more matches he became upset and blamed the dating app for being ‘unfair’ for short men 🌚Women prefer taller men/men who are bigger than them. In other news, water is wet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 09:57 PM |
| 15 | Why do men always bring up women's height preference when factually speaking we know men have a race, weight, look, and physical feature preference?What’s even more pathetic is when these short men larp on Reddit as men who are tall. They’ll say “I’m 6’6, but if a girl would reject a because he is short, I’ll pass on her” THE LIES. The men who complain about a certain physical standard are the ones who don’t meet them. Tall men don’t mind if women have a height requirement because they meet that standard. Why would they care if a woman isn’t attracted to short men when he himself isn’t short? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 09:18 PM |
| 78 | Why do men always bring up women's height preference when factually speaking we know men have a race, weight, look, and physical feature preference?Exactly. Plus size women are not out here saying that men should have to date them. Most of them are aware that men will use them for sex and dump them as they see them as low hanging fruit (which is disgusting, but men can be pigs). Personally, I won’t date a man shorter than me. I’m 5’6. I just don’t find them sexually attractive. My current partner is 6’4 and he was happy with my height requirement, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 09:16 PM |
| 68 | Why do men always bring up women's height preference when factually speaking we know men have a race, weight, look, and physical feature preference?And I doubt these men are getting rejected for their height, anyway. It’s easier for them to blame a factor they can’t change rather than look inwards and work on the aspects they can change (personality, self-esteem, style, income, etc.). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 06:37 PM |
| 91 | Why do men always bring up women's height preference when factually speaking we know men have a race, weight, look, and physical feature preference?It makes more sense to discriminate based on height for that reason. Height cannot be changed, whereas a person’s weight can (and often does) change. If a woman wants a man who is 6’4, she is better off not dating a short man because he will never grow taller. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 06:26 PM |
| 443 | Why do men always bring up women's height preference when factually speaking we know men have a race, weight, look, and physical feature preference?Because men are used to women not voicing the fact that we also have physical standards and preferences. If I had a pound for every post from a man whining about women’s height requirements on Reddit, I would be a millionaire. Meanwhile, all the women they drool over in certain subreddits tend to be slim, white, and tonedMen tend to complain about women’s physical standards when they don’t meet them. It’s a classic case of sour grapes. Men also love to say that discriminating based on height is … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 06:25 PM |
| 3 | Thoughts on long-distance?I was in a long distance relationship during university, and I personally wouldn’t recommend it. You’ll be spending a lot of money seeing each other and you’ll miss out on meeting people closer to you. Long distance can work, but there has to be an agreed end date (where the gap closes) and you both have to be willing to work around the challenges, because it’s really not easy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 05:14 PM |
| 48 | Women aren't morally obligated to have babies.https://www.theguardian.com/world/2018/aug/25/a-republican-theme-on-abortions-its-ok-for-me-evil-for-thee | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 07:42 AM |
| 18 | Wishy washy scrote that earns 6 figures asked me over to his house for "pizza" and I left him on read. He did this for 3 days in a row and he eventually gave up. A reminder for the ladies here not to correlate high earning with high value.The idea that all attractive men are assholes is just a myth propagated by unattractive men. Whilst I’m not saying every attractive man is a good person, don’t close yourself off to them just because you think less attractive men are somehow better. In my experience, the men I’ve been with who were more conventionally attractive treated me much better than the ones who weren’t. They had higher levels of self-esteem, and they never disparaged people for their looks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 05:25 PM |
| 132 | He said he wanted a relationshipYeah, stay away from men who have just come out of relationships. It sounds like he’s telling you just enough to try and keep you on the hook for sex. Block and delete. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 05:19 PM |
| 29 | The amount of guys who think the clit and orgasms are made up is... scary.Same, sis. Since I’ve been with my most recent partner, the orgasms have been flowing. I have no trouble getting wet/aroused. Meanwhile, my “no-foreplay-I-will-lie-and-tell-you-I-love-eating-pussy-when-I-will-go-down-on-you-three-times-in-three-years” ex would always complain that I wasn’t wet enough. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 05:15 PM |
| 33 | The amount of guys who think the clit and orgasms are made up is... scary.The mental imagery of a sctote screaming at a pussy made me spit my drink out 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 05:13 PM |
| 69 | Wishy washy scrote that earns 6 figures asked me over to his house for "pizza" and I left him on read. He did this for 3 days in a row and he eventually gave up. A reminder for the ladies here not to correlate high earning with high value.Be careful with this. Less attractive men can be just as shitty as conventionally attractive men. A lot of them have massive chips on their shoulder due to years of being ignored, so when they get with a woman they will try to bring her down to his own miserable level. Date who you are attracted to. Do not date less attractive men in the hopes they will treat you better. It never works out and you will take the L every single time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 07:36 AM |
| 7 | I’m really curious to know..If you have to post on Reddit/ask strangers about your relationship, it's over. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 07:25 AM |
| 12 | I’m really curious to know..Prioritise yourself. Most men are not worth your time, attention or energy. Life is a huge leveller and things have a way of working out. If someone says ‘no’ to you, that means something much better is coming your way. Take advantage of all opportunities and adventures that come your way. Men truly ain’t shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 09:05 PM |
| 14 | I’m really curious to know..On the last point, I would say make sure you’re doing what’s necessary to get you to the next step. In my country, work experience counts for an awful lot, and companies are now looking for interns to have experience. You don’t need to work a paid job to have experience. Volunteering or even side hustles will add a wealth of experience to your resume. Working also gives you a chance to expand your network which will pay dividends down the road. Do not leave college/university with no work experi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 08:57 PM |
| 11 | listening to Gotye song “Somebody that I used to know” after discovering FDS made me laugh at the whiney scrote lyrics ..I was listening to “I’ll be Watching You” by The Police. I thought it was a lovely song and I love Sting’s voice, but upon listening to the lyrics more closely, it’s literally about a man stalking his ex. No thanks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 08:45 PM |
| 17 | JFK, the Harvey Weinstein NVM of his time who cheated on his wife Jackie Kennedy with more than 30 women: His conga line of concubinesJFK was an absolute slag, but Jackie did not marry him because she loved him. She married him for his money and social status. Whilst she put up with a lot of JFK's rubbish, she was not a passive housewife. She was extremely calculating in terms of her relationships and she ended up marrying into a family with significant social standing and wealth (at the time). After Ari Onassis' death, she managed to secure herself a hefty payout from his estate. She ended up living an extremely comfortable l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/21 02:32 PM |
| 36 | What are examples of a LVM playing red pill mind games ?Run. Fast and far. HVM do not dump their trauma or problems onto high value men. He is feeding you sob stories so he can use them as excuses when he starts treating you badly. If it's making you feel uncomfortable, you have the right to end it, regardless of whether he is genuine or not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 05:30 PM |
| 178 | Why do so many women still want to get married?I understand what you’re saying, but marriage gives so many legal benefits. If you’re with someone for a long time and you share assets, it’s in your best interests to marry them. Things like making medical decisions on their behalf if they are incapacitated or automatically being awarded their share of the house if they pass away are benefits afforded only to married couples. I see marriage for what it is: a business partnership between two people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 04:34 PM |
| 59 | Twitter finds an FDS post and scrotes are madI have never seen such a thread of entitlement. Props to the FDS Queens on Twitter for calling them out. So many people making excuses for the man and saying the woman should have been grateful he told her. Men dump women for not wanting to have sex by the third date, trauma be damned, but a woman drawing a boundary when it comes to dating deserves to be burned at the stake. Moreover, it's clear what the man was trying to do. He was trying to get her to lower her expectations, so he can get all … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 01:39 PM |
| 8 | This is who really gets empowered by sex work.This gave me chills, especially the first guy. Men despise sex workers because they believe they should get what they are offering for free. They resent the fact they have to pay to abuse women, which further fuels their hatred towards women as a class. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 07:45 AM |
| 7 | Sisters, walk away if he refuses to get a STI test and show you the results before having sexThank you for saying this. This is another reason why I swerve community dick. Especially since most men don't even know how to wash their dick and ass properly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 07:26 AM |
| 14 | Imagine an unknowing woman finally gets her guy to go to relationship therapy and it's this guy. This is why we never utilize men for any type of therapy or coaching!He doesn't want to train a prostitute, he just wants a free one. I guarantee his "training" will involve brainwashing a woman into servicing his limp dick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 07:09 AM |
| 27 | Sisters, walk away if he refuses to get a STI test and show you the results before having sexI am so sorry this happened to you, sis. This is why I am against the normalisation of HPV. Whilst it can be benign, it can lead to serious health consequences for women. The people that benefit from the "it's harmless because everyone has it" is men. They can't get cervical cancer. They can't even be tested for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 07:19 PM |
| 34 | Sisters, walk away if he refuses to get a STI test and show you the results before having sexThis is also why casual sex has never appealed to me. People who engage in casual sex have decided that getting their nut is worth more than potentially being infected with a disease. No thanks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 07:17 PM |
| 28 | Sisters, walk away if he refuses to get a STI test and show you the results before having sexWhy would he hate you for passing a test? What a dick. If a man ever says "I only sleep with women who are clean" and he doesn't verify by checking, he is a highly ignorant fool who should not be having sex. People with STIs and STDs do not walk around with a sign on their head/dick/pussy. The ONLY way to be sure that someone is clean is to ask them to produce a recent test (even that is sus because the test only captures their status at the time). If they are not asking for tests or are lax abo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 07:16 PM |
| 74 | Sisters, walk away if he refuses to get a STI test and show you the results before having sexLadies, listen to this. Even if he doesn't have anything, anything less than enthusiasm to get tested should be seen as a red flag. I remember I had a massive argument with my ex when I asked him to get tested. I was a virgin and he said he had been with one other woman before me. He started whining about how inconvenient it would be to get tested. When I refused to back down, he said I should get tested too as I could be lying about being a virgin. I should have bailed there and then. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 05:07 PM |
| 42 | Ask men who want casual sex why they don’t just hire sex workers and watch them explode. Why? They chase women who want commitment because it’s predatory!I found FDS and blocked him. I realised I had been a clown for way too long. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 01:52 PM |
| 90 | Ask men who want casual sex why they don’t just hire sex workers and watch them explode. Why? They chase women who want commitment because it’s predatory!Scrotes will say why pay for a sex worker when you can get a woman who is willing to be your girlfriend without the title or commitment required. Plus free of charge. In fact, some of these women in situationships are out here subsiding the scrote. In all seriousness though, I have thought about this for a while. Men, even those who are into casual arrangements, don't like being treated casually. They still get territorial, possessive and jealous if the woman looks elsehwhere even though he isn'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 08:57 AM |
| 3 | Skip the date rape and just move in. These scrotes actually believe porn can be reality while they capitalize on sky high rent prices and openly take advantage of naive young women. He's even gleefully admitting to not having thought the situation through. Wow.Men who do this deserve nothing good in their life. He essentially wants a woman he can rape at will. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 04:31 PM |
| 20 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 24 - Pre-Sex Sexual Compatibility Tests + Birthday SadBoyIf a man asks you out on a date, it’s HIS responsibility to make it convenient for you. You should not be driving an hour and a half to go on a date HE asked you out on when the venue was 2 minutes from his house. That is a red flag. He’s making you do all the leg work and he’s arranging the date so it’s close to his house (I.e closer to sex). Do not travel so far for a date in future. He either comes to you or doesn’t come at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 08:55 AM |
| 7 | Excellent thread on why sex work will never be empowering, no matter how much libfems want it to be. It’s a man’s game.It’s even weirder to me that these so called anti-capitalists are raging about Only Fans shutting them out when it is the biggest capitalist venture out there. Tim Stokely has made his fortune off the backs of sex workers, yet they don’t seem to be questioning this. Only Fans is about as anti-capitalist as one can get because it’s essentially a rich man making money off the most vulnerable people in society. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 06:57 AM |
| 7 | Excellent thread on why sex work will never be empowering, no matter how much libfems want it to be. It’s a man’s game.Even if prostitution is the oldest profession, so what? Slavery has also been around for an extremely long time, but nobody uses that as a moral argument to keep it around. We can recognise that slavery is abhorrent even though it’s been around for centuries. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 06:54 AM |
| 9 | Excellent thread on why sex work will never be empowering, no matter how much libfems want it to be. It’s a man’s game.I have heard/seen straight ones, but they’re not making any money. If male sex workers want to make a sustainable living, they have to be willing to service men. It’s the same in the porn industry. Many male pornstars end up going ‘gay for pay’ because it pays more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 06:53 AM |
| 334 | Can men who engage in hook up culture/casual sex, turn around and happily commit to long term monogamous relationships without cheating/hall passes/porn addiction etc.In my experience, promiscuous men have serious attachment issues and they see women as objects to be used. They’ve often resorted to manipulative and selfish tactics to get women into bed. Basically they’re not relationship material. Community dick can never be a worthy partner/husband. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 10:01 PM |
| 29 | Always be on your guard around men, and learn to spot hidden cameras!Also, MASSIVE FUCK YOU to the police. They did absolutely nothing when this woman complained and even tried to justify why this perv would be recording (to protect himself against false allegations 🤡) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 09:06 PM |
| 64 | Always be on your guard around men, and learn to spot hidden cameras!But men are protectors of women! That’s why women need them. Right?! 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 03:40 PM |
| 11 | Excellent thread on why sex work will never be empowering, no matter how much libfems want it to be. It’s a man’s game.Very fair point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 02:33 PM |
| 40 | Horrified at the scrotes in the comments defending this POS, and the pickmes trying to make him feel better about doing a runner, leaving his girlfriend and her 7yo nephew at the site during an active shooter attack.“MEn ArE PrOTEcToRs!” 🤡🤡🤡🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 12:03 PM |
| 81 | Excellent thread on why sex work will never be empowering, no matter how much libfems want it to be. It’s a man’s game.Male sex workers do exist, but they mainly service other men. Even the very successful ones don’t see single women clients that often. Maybe 1-2 PER YEAR. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 11:59 AM |
| 15 | Excellent thread on why sex work will never be empowering, no matter how much libfems want it to be. It’s a man’s game.Sex workers are also forgetting that legalising sex work will give buyers (violent Scrotes) even more rights. At present, sex workers can refuse to see a client for any reason (including the colour of their skin, which is racist, but that’s a different discussion). If they become a legal business, they will be in violation of the Equalities Act if they refuse to see a client because of a protected characteristic. Clients will be able to take them to court (and probably win) if they were refused … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 10:23 AM |
| 54 | Excellent thread on why sex work will never be empowering, no matter how much libfems want it to be. It’s a man’s game.At the very least the sex industry should be regulated to protect sex workers and for harm reduction purposes. Sex workers should be supported in their efforts to exit the industry. Giving up and allowing harmful practices to continue just because abolition would be too hard isnt the answer. Sex work is work, but child labour is also work. Drug dealing is work. Just because something is work doesn’t mean it’s not harmful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 08:16 AM |
| 286 | Excellent thread on why sex work will never be empowering, no matter how much libfems want it to be. It’s a man’s game.Also, women were unable to open a bank account with a man’s permission until the70s. Women also didn’t have suffrage until the 1900s. Do they really believe that a woman who was a prostitute in 1203 was fully in control and wasn’t pimped out? The fact prostitution is supposedly the oldest profession is not something to brag about. All it means is that men have been exploiting women’s sexuality for their own personal gain for millennia. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 07:12 AM |
| 65 | Sex work is not empowering. It’s exploitation and the men know it. Sorted comments via controversial and got all of these replies.One of the biggest issues with libfems is that they refuse to listen when men tell/show them who they are. Men have demonstrated that they do not respect sex workers or any woman who shares her sexuality in a public forum, yet libfems will still stick their fingers in their ears and say its empowering. Something that is empowering will give you more power. Sex work diminishes a woman's options across the board. Men are the only people who have real power in the sex industry because they collect … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 04:26 PM |
| 38 | LVM Lie: He treats you badly because he's out of your leagueThis is why I detest the idea of "leagues". It focuses solely on looks and nothing else. If a guy has the body that looks like it was chiseled by the Greek gods but treats any woman terribly, he is low value because he is not a good person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 04:21 PM |
| – | How can we help the women in Afghanistan?Removing this post to avoid duplication. https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/p5b17t/whats\_happening\_in\_afghanistan\_at\_the\_moment\_is/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 04:17 PM |
| 137 | How do you know if he’s a HVM or a LVM that’s really good at love-bombing/future-faking?The only way you can tell if a man is HV is if he demonstrates HV behaviour consistently over a long period of time. That is the only way. Some men show major red flags in the beginning, but others are way more subtle. However, lovebombing often feels too good to be true. Is he over complimenting you ("you're amazing", "you are everything I have ever wanted") very early on? Chances are he's love bombing you. He does not know you well enough to be making such grand statements. In terms of future … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 04:14 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Check-inFDS principles can apply to anyone in your life - friends, colleagues, family members, regardless of their sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 12:05 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Check-inDo not tell men what it will take for you to have sex with them. This includes giving them a timeline. Instead say "I don't feel comfortable engaging in any sexual activity until I feel comfortable". Better still don't volunteer that information at all. Men can easily put on an act until they get sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 11:58 AM |
| 16 | A few safety tipsThis is regarding online safety. Telling a date an anecdote is different to posting it online because you don't know who is reading it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 07:20 AM |
| 14 | “FdS IS JuST As BaD As InCeLs” when was the last time an FDS’er, or any woman, went and killed innocent people because they couldn’t get a man?Men are adept at doing this. They call themselves “providers and protectors” even though they created the environment women need protecting from. And they’re bad protecting and providing! It’s all just a way to keep women running back to men because they know we don’t need them anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 07:20 PM |
| 5 | oop 👀One of the biggest scams of the patriarchy is telling women that sexually servicing men for a price is empowering when it diminishes their options and leaves them exposed to copious amounts of abuse. The same men they’re servicing will be the same men who turn them down for relationships/jobs because of their sex work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 03:49 PM |
| 6 | oop 👀So many triggered sex workers in comments. I hope they wake up and realise that the men who pay them don’t rate them AT ALL. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 12:33 PM |
| 14 | Pay attention to signs of mother-son enmeshmentClassic example of this is Colt and Debbie from 90 Day Fiancé. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 08:33 PM |
| 50 | BDSM Apologist Slams Gail Dines, Claims it's Not Violent to WomenThis man must need a PhD to be this stupid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 06:04 PM |
| 36 | Banned from another dating subOther dating subs will ban you because those subs aren’t interested in making dating equitable and beneficial for women. They’re usually overrun with men who are invested in women keeping their standards low and their legs open. Consider it a badge of honour if you’re banned, because the advice they offer is usually garbage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 10:22 AM |
| 175 | When men talk about "the wall", they are inadvertently admitting that women are oppressed.It’s no older than 35. So when men say they hit their prime in their 40s and 50s it’s an outright Lie/cope. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 08:43 AM |
| 253 | When men talk about "the wall", they are inadvertently admitting that women are oppressed.There’s also an age limit (and height requirement!) for donating sperm. The Scrotes had a meltdown when they found out most companies will only accept sperm from men above 5’9. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 07:23 AM |
| 9 | Not sure if this has been posted here yet but for goodness sake, men are so desperate to be oppressed. I just hope it helped some women find FDS 🤷🏼♀️FDS doesn’t bother HVM because they understand where we are coming from. If a guy complains about FDS, he’s exposed himself as a low value scrote. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 07:22 AM |
| 11 | Why do men try to downgrade you from literal GIRLFRIEND to FWB? I've seen this play out multiple times.They try it because it works. Some women out there would rather settle for scraps than not have a man at all. | /r/askFDS | 11/08/21 04:19 PM |
| 627 | I pray that one day pick me women will be free from the shackles of male validation.As I suspected, the comments were full of men encouraging her to make the first move, pursue the man, and lower her standards. What a circus. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 11:14 AM |
| 25 | Too broke to dateWhen I was so broke that I coudn't afford to put gas in my car, dating was the absolute last thing on my mind. Instead I worked my ass off to improve my financial situation. This guy is an absolute bum. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 07:50 AM |
| 39 | Don't Stroke His Ego, especially in the early stages!Excellent point. This is why men future fake. It allows them to reap the benefits of a particular action without them having to deliver. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 03:09 PM |
| 152 | Never trust dudes who have the female “best friend” in adulthood. Normally this woman is someone they strung along for years as a back up hook-up. 90% chance he is already sleeping with her.He’s clearly using her. This is why I’ve always maintained that heterosexual men tend to make bad friends. Just because he’s not using her for sex (I wouldn’t be surprised if he slept with her just because whilst he was living with her rent-free), that doesn’t mean he’s not draining her resources in another way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 03:08 PM |
| 169 | Princess Diana knew she was headed for a terrible marriage but her family still pushed her into itThat whole story is so unfortunate. The Royal Family chose Diana precisely because she was young and very naive (a good example of why it’s never a compliment when a man goes for a much younger woman when he’s in his 30s!). They didn’t expect Diana to be such a hit with the population. Camilla and Charles hoped that Diana wouldnt challenge Charles on his affair. She was essentially used to provide an heir. Diana actually said that Charles was hardly ever interested in having sex because he was g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 03:04 PM |
| 97 | 😭😂 If you need any further motivation to delete those dating appsIt’s basic security. Now this man has her address, so if he ever wanted to stalk her he will know where to go. I live alone, but I always tell men I meet that I live with my family. That usually kills any talk of them coming over, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 09:18 PM |
| 26 | Just seen on relationshipadvice... guess it's about usScrote fantasy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 09:04 PM |
| 425 | 😭😂 If you need any further motivation to delete those dating appsHer mistake was inviting over a guy she barely knew to her house. This is why we don’t recommend house dates in the initial dating stages. She could have sussed out he was a creep without seeing his mother’s ashes if they went for a dinner date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 09:03 PM |
| 6 | This is enough internet for me today I’m done. Porn addicted scrotes are out here getting used items mailed to them from cam girls and giving themselves yeast infections and lord knows what other diseases. (warning extremely nsfw language)Please tell me this is a joke. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 01:27 PM |
| 62 | Just some scrotes and pickmes raging against FDS on another extremely misogynistic and sexist sub that still exists (hopefully they are next)!I cringe when I look back at the decisions I made when I was 19. As she gets older, the age gap will become more and more of a problem for the relationship. They are at completely different life stages. And even if she feels she was a mature adult, he clearly doesn't rate her that way otherwise he would have found a woman his own age. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 01:21 PM |
| 23 | Reminder: Delete your dating apps! Your sanity will thank you.FDS is not officially against OLD and it never has been. We appreciate that OLD has its own challenges and women have to vet much harder if they want decent results. But whether someone uses it or not is down to them. Everyone has their own preferences. We don’t have a stance either way. The podcast on rotational dating made a strong case for how OLD can be useful for meeting more men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 03:55 PM |
| 1 | LVM Guilt Tripping You Into Sex = Coercion, Not ConsentWatch out for men who are quick to defend the poor behaviour of other men. They are often doing so as a way of defending their own bad behaviour. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 07:45 PM |
| 7 | Mere MINUTES after a particular toxic male subreddit was banned, scrotes in another male subreddit are planning to infiltrate and brigade FDS 🤡LOOOL these men really aren’t smart. Men are so bad at larping as women because they have no empathy or ability to understand what it’s like to be a woman. So many men have tried to infiltrate the sub by pretending to be women but the mod team always manage to sniff them out from the first sentence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 07:42 PM |
| 2 | Why you shouldn’t be friends with menhttps://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/mkte6c/a_quick_word_on_friendships_between_men_and_women/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 06:56 AM |
| 74 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 22 - Judge Lynn Toler Holds Court with The QueensDaaaaaamn, you got the judge herself!!! 😱😱😱😱 Amazing work, ladies! Can’t wait to give this a listen. I absolutely love Divorce Court. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 06:37 AM |
| 7 | Shower thought on why the scrotes are angry with us..I absolutely agree, sis. I have started to call people out in real life when I witness shady behaviour and its honestly been a game changer. I get to be my authentic self, plus people always respect the person who is willing to say it how it is, even if they may not like them. In terms of Reddit/scrotes disliking FDS, the reason why they hate us is simple: if every woman followed FDS, their free pussy/prostitute supply would dry up overnight. They will no longer be able to benefit from what wome… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 07:10 PM |
| 2 | “Why did he marry her and not me?”Yes, I agree with your point and post. I wrote my comment from an angle of how marriage shouldn't be seen as some kind of prize and how hindsight brings clarity. I absolutely believe that women should mourn relationships if they want to. Even if the guy was trash, they should be able to mourn the loss of what they thought they would be getting. Processing your feelings is key to becoming an emotionally mature individual. Too many people do not know how to process their feelings, especially negat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 07:02 PM |
| 112 | Normalize breaking up because you’re unsatisfied; you don’t have to wait until everything’s burningIt's actually shocking how many people believe they need a 'valid' reason to break up with someone. Not wanting to be with them is reason enough. Women especially feel like they need to write a treatise as to why they should break up with him. Say no to that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 06:58 PM |
| 152 | Red Flag Or Deal Breaker?I disagree with your argument that a red flag could *potentially* be a dealbreaker. When the light is red at a traffic light, you don't keep driving. Red is used as a colour to signify 'danger, do not proceed', so the same concept should apply to dating. Red flags are never ornamental. They're often a sign of profound pain and misery ahead. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 10:12 AM |
| 11 | “Why did he marry her and not me?”This is why I am against seeing marriage as some sort of 'prize'. Some of the worst people in humanity managed to find someone willing to marry them. Marriage is a legal contract at the end of the day - it says nothing about the character of the people in it. LVM cycle through women until they eventually find one who is willing to put with their BS. Some of the biggest pickmes are married, because they think its better to be with a dud than it is to be single. They have put marriage, and by prox… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 10:03 AM |
| 13 | You ever get genuinely upset at the amount of effort guys put into themselves?This! Any time I see a man I’m attracted to, 99% of the time he’s gay. The pickings for us heterosexual women are so, so slim. The thing is, it’s not even hard to increase your attractiveness. Wearing clean, well-fitted clothes goes a very, very long way. As does looking well groomed. But most men can’t even be bothered to do that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 10:39 AM |
| 20 | Things that are definitely NOT queen energy and why FDS must remain blunt and focused on priorities / real life strategies rather than blind following ideologies and people pleasing everyoneVery well said. Another user said that she had a strong vetting system for OLD and still ended up with a LVM who wanted to go 50/50 after two months. In the next sentence, she said she compromised on several of her standards. Women need to be comfortable with taking accountability and responsibility for poor choices they have made. That is not saying they deserved to be treated badly, or they were asking for it. But self-reflection is one of the best ways to learn and not make the same mistakes … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 12:12 PM |
| 42 | I loathe to sound vulgar but #toomanymen see dating apps as free prostitution websites…without any of the stigma of seeking out a prostitute. 🤭 Thank you FDS for helping me delete the dating app I was trying.Your mistake was compromising in the looks/height department. You say you had an excellent vetting system, but in the next sentence say that you compromised on what you wanted in order to be in a relationship with this man. On OLD you have to be ruthlessly selective, just like in real life. There is absolutely no benefit to compromising on any standard you may have for men. When you bend the rules for men, they never thank you for it. They will just see it as a green light to keep lowering the b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 11:49 AM |
| 45 | I hope she got picked 🙄Women need to start returning the favour to men, idaf. Let's start making their orgasm optional. Refuse to make him cum until he makes you cum first. There are far too many selfish men out there who think they are studs in beds because all their sexual partners have been faking orgasms and enjoyment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 07:16 AM |
| 39 | What tell-tale signs or How to vet for a guy that won't cheat after x amount of years?My friend's ex told her he cheated on his previous girlfriend within the first few weeks of them dating. He ended up cheating on my friend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 04:06 PM |
| 19 | Advice for not-yet-FDS friendsIn my experience, these women end up learning the hard way or never. My best friend is like your friend, and I have stopped giving her FDS-advice. I have tried to direct her to the handbook, podcast and other materials, but ultimately she will have to decide to change on her own. Also, some pickmes thrive off any kind of male attention, even if its negative. They enjoy the drama. Currently I distance myself from the situation. If my friend calls me complaining, I commiserate but I no longer offe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 04:06 PM |
| 51 | What tell-tale signs or How to vet for a guy that won't cheat after x amount of years?If he is still involved or hung up on an ex, don’t even go there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 03:42 PM |
| 12 | Ryan Giggs kicked girlfriend and threw her naked out of hotel room, court hearsRyan Giggs is a football player. UK football players tend to be bottom feeder trash. Most of them are serial cheaters. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 01:33 AM |
| 46 | Loyalty through cruelty is not ride or die.It's because these men look down on women who stay with them when they are struggling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 02:40 PM |
| 37 | To the women here who are childfree: how do you define “childfree”?The woman who said she would have kids under the right circumstances is a fencesitter. Someone who is childfree does not want to have children under any circumstance. I’ve seen a dad claim he’s child free because he doesn’t want his child here on Reddit. Luckily the comments tore him a new one about how he is abusing the word. Childfree has a very specific meaning. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 06:16 AM |
| 18 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-I’mGood move, sis. The audacity. Question though: how did he manage to hide his brokeness for all this time? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 04:46 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Check-inFDS is not officially against OLD. That is a myth that has spread because a lot of users choose not to engage with it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 08:49 PM |
| 2 | ALL of his exes can’t be the “cRaZy” ones…Also look at how he treats women he is not attracted to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 07:47 PM |
| 32 | Wife and mother is "starting to feel taken advantage of" by "exceptionally smart" husbandI get the feeling that this man waited until she was vulnerable (i.e was pregnant and had given birth) before fully revealing his true colours. He knows she won't leave him, so he now feels free to behave as he pleases. She needs to leave before she and her child end up destitute. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 09:04 AM |
| 2 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 19 - Overcoming A Defeatist Mindset: Femcels, WGTOWs, & Radfems + Explosive DiarrheaThe idea that FDS is against OLD in all circumstances is false. Individual users will have their opinions, but we haven’t said outright that OLD is bad. We recognise that for some women, it’s the only way they can realistically meet men. We encourage women to vet hard, regardless of how or where they meet a man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 06:05 AM |
| 4 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 19 - Overcoming A Defeatist Mindset: Femcels, WGTOWs, & Radfems + Explosive DiarrheaThe content of the episode explains the title. You’re getting upset over something that can easily be resolved by listening to what you’re critiquing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 06:25 PM |
| -1 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 19 - Overcoming A Defeatist Mindset: Femcels, WGTOWs, & Radfems + Explosive DiarrheaYou’re making many assumptions because you haven’t watched the episode. Nobody has thrown anybody under the bus. Watch it first. Critique later. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 06:03 PM |
| -7 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 19 - Overcoming A Defeatist Mindset: Femcels, WGTOWs, & Radfems + Explosive DiarrheaListen to the episode and all will be explained. You’re getting worked up over the title without even knowing the detail. It’s not my job to explain information that’s right in front of you but you’re choosing to ignore. I have nothing to do with the podcast, but I’ve listened to the episode and they delve into their thoughts. It’s unfair to critique the hosts without actually listening to the episode. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 05:54 PM |
| -3 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 19 - Overcoming A Defeatist Mindset: Femcels, WGTOWs, & Radfems + Explosive DiarrheaHave you listened to the episode? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 05:43 PM |
| 208 | The uglies always have the most to say 🤡Yep! Anytime a scrote makes a video/post about FDS I’ll always try and find a picture of them. 11/10 they have a face only their mother could love. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 05:45 PM |
| 179 | The uglies always have the most to say 🤡Same, sis! In fact, the most attractive, confident and secure men I have been with have treated me the best. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 05:06 PM |
| 4 | Again with the height thing....Scrote fantasy. Tall men won’t have a problem with women wanting to date tall men because they know they qualify. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 08:15 PM |
| 553 | HVM BehaviorAnd the saddest part about this event is that...she was right. The Pope DID cover up awful sex crimes. When the entire scandal erupted, nobody within the Catholic Church thought to publicly apologise for her unwarranted vilification for speaking the truth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 03:36 PM |
| 58 | If you have to make him sign a contract to ‘keep him’ - he was never yoursI would be extremely weary about co-signing a loan with anybody. If they refuse to pay or cannot pay for whatever reason, you are on the hook for the entire amount. I have seen too many cases where this sort of arrangement has gone wrong, damaging the relationship forever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 03:33 PM |
| 121 | Why do men get so angry when women like tall men?One of my co-workers swore up and down he was 5'10. We stood next to each other barefoot and I was the same height as him. I am 5'6. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 03:29 PM |
| 30 | Why do men get so angry when women like tall men?The only men who are mad at this standard are men who do not meet them. My partner is 6'4 and when we first started talking I said that one of my physical standards is that a man has to be taller than me. His response? "Easy pass (he meant that is an easy standard to meet).". He was the first man to not have a meltdown when I said I wanted a guy who is taller. Why? Because he is tall himself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 03:27 PM |
| 5 | My best friend told me she's jealous of my "glamorous life". I realized it's all because of our mate choices due to this subreddit.Well said. In my experience, good looking guys have always treated me better and I’m a plus-size woman. If I’m not their type, they’ll say so respectfully. You made such a good point about how HVM look for the whole package. Can you make a post about this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 08:00 PM |
| 77 | "friend" refuses to accept "no means no".They don’t have a strong friendship because what they want out of the friendship is not the same. He wants to fuck her whilst she is not interested. If he was a half decent friend, he would back the fuck off and accept her boundaries. In fact, he wouldn’t have even asked her in the first place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 05:40 PM |
| 5 | My best friend told me she's jealous of my "glamorous life". I realized it's all because of our mate choices due to this subreddit.Also, thank you for making the point about beauty standards being subjective. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 05:37 PM |
| 17 | My best friend told me she's jealous of my "glamorous life". I realized it's all because of our mate choices due to this subreddit.I agree. But I’ve often seen the idea that if you’re beautiful it will be easier to land a HVM floated here and elsewhere, and that’s not necessarily the case. Being more attractive will increase the number of men interested in you, but that doesn’t mean all of these men are HVM or have good intentions. A lot of men can struggle to take beautiful women seriously (the beauty or brains BS). The only way to avoid these Scrotes is to keep your standards sky high and fire men often. My best friend is… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 05:26 PM |
| 93 | My best friend told me she's jealous of my "glamorous life". I realized it's all because of our mate choices due to this subreddit.This is why looks are not the only part of the equation. Being conventionally attractive won’t save you from men’s bullshit if you have no standards and boundaries. Happy for you, sis! But I hope your friend wakes up and doesn’t waste her pretty years with a LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 07:44 AM |
| 59 | Signs you have been benched or 'kept warm' and how to avoid it happening to youThis. I think this was mentioned by one of the hosts on the podcast recently and she was spot on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 09:29 PM |
| 3 | Reminder: this is the bare minimum.I saw a post on here the other day that was praising for a guy for offering to take an STD test before having sex. This is the barest of minimums! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 07:55 PM |
| 7 | How do you ladies feel about friends that prioritize their boyfriends?Your best friend does not sound like a good friend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 06:05 AM |
| 200 | Potent.SAME! My paternal grandfather had a whooooollleee 'nother family and repeatedly cheated on my paternal grandmother. It's the reason why my dad thinks men who cheat are scum. It caused so many problems for my dad's family. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 01:57 AM |
| 27 | I Married a Homeless Man Living Under a BushI worked with homeless men for nearly a decade. These are men you want to avoid. Almost all of them had a criminal background and were drug and/or alcohol addicts. They are extremely manipulative and entitled, and most of them did not want to actively better their situation. This woman has not won a prize by any stretch of the imagination. I would be embarrassed to admit this on national TV. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 10:46 PM |
| 15 | Let's give it up for the bare minimum!A lot of LVM think this way. They think that a relationship should just be easy and not require any mental, emotional or even physical investment from them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 09:50 PM |
| 8 | For episode 20 of the podcast, we will be doing an extra-special (and extra long) listener feedback episode! Comment below with your questions/feedback for a chance to be discussed on the podcast!There are many women who have done the same work as Lundy Bancroft. I think it would be better to give them a platform. The people who believe we hate men aren’t worth proving anything to because they’re not interested in understanding where we are coming from. Hosting Lundy won’t change their mind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 07:27 PM |
| 52 | Cheers sis! You doged a bullet and his MGTOW friendThis is bollocks. A MGTOW fantasy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 01:18 PM |
| 8 | For episode 20 of the podcast, we will be doing an extra-special (and extra long) listener feedback episode! Comment below with your questions/feedback for a chance to be discussed on the podcast!I do like Lundy Bancroft, but I don’t think he should be on the podcast. What I love about the podcast is that it’s a truly female only space. A book review of Why Does He Do That would be a good episode , but I would like us to maintain the female centred ness of the podcast. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 08:33 AM |
| 2 | For episode 20 of the podcast, we will be doing an extra-special (and extra long) listener feedback episode! Comment below with your questions/feedback for a chance to be discussed on the podcast!Same! My dream is to have separate houses or bedrooms with my partner. I have no desire to ever live with a man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 08:31 AM |
| 59 | Don't be with a man you cannot trustSome of the women in certain subreddits for partners of porn addicts baffle me with the amount of work they put in to make sure their partner isn’t cheating/watching porn. Time that could be spent on them being happy and levelling up they’re wasting on trying to keep their porn addict in line. And most of the time their efforts are in vain because addicts and cheats will always prioritise that over anything else. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 08:13 AM |
| 6 | This is what breeding with a LVM will do to youAnd he was probably lazy and neglectful beforehand. It could be that he didn't wash up after himself. Or he got her a no/bad present. Or he took her on low effort dates. This is why FDS advocates for men to show true investment from the beginning. If this is not present, it will not get better. It will only get worse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 08:25 AM |
| 12 | Weekly FDS Check-InFDS has never been against OLD officially. We understand that OLD has its drawbacks, but it’s not something we are officially against. Every woman’s situation is different, so she should weigh up individually if OLD is worth it for her. The recent podcast episode makes a good case for why OLD MAY be useful in certain situations. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 11:02 PM |
| 4 | OLD Case Study #1This man doesn’t know the definition of empathy. Empathy is being able to put yourself in the position of others without having experienced what they’ve gone through. Just wanted to point that out. Excellent breakdown of this scrote. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 05:46 PM |
| 3 | It really boils down to character- most men fail. Stop praising basic stuffSeveral low value men I have come across admitted they use charm to get women into bed. Be very, very wary of charming men. They are not sincere, and they are charming you because they want something, not because they genuinely believe you are amazing. You could be anybody to them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 09:58 AM |
| 30 | An old but good one on “forgetting the wallet” and restaurants.This is such an asshole move. I don’t often carry my purse with me, but I have Apple Pay. Alternatively, if I want to eat something and a friend gets the bill, I’ll make sure that I transfer the money to them right away via mobile banking. There are so many ways he could have handled it, but this is what happens when you go 50/50. Once men see that your standards and low, they’ll only try to push the bar even lower. She’s gone from swapping who gets the bill to footing the entire bill in a matte… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 08:19 PM |
| 107 | JUST A FRIENDLY REMINDER: If he’s a HVM and wants to be intimate with you he will get tested for STDs firstStory time! I remember when I was planning to sleep with my ex. I was a virgin at the time whilst he had been with one other person before. When I asked him to get tested, it resulted in a big argument. He said that I should get tested as well (even though I was a virgin!) to make it “fairer” as I could be lying about being a virgin (even though it was my idea to get tested). He then moaned about how it would be such an inconvenience for him until I eventually gave in and didn’t require him to g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 10:24 AM |
| 7 | A refreshing positive experience with the STD talk I wanted to share. Also curious about how others approaches to this/experiences with itMen will do anything for a crumb of pussy. Him getting tested because she made it a requirement for sex isn’t really that much effort on his part. And the bit about him claiming to “almost use condoms” speaks to me like he’s somewhat naive about the fact condoms don’t protect you from everything. It’s good he went and did this, bur I wouldn’t say this is HV behaviour. It’s bare miniumum. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 10:18 AM |
| 4 | Is the perception of being nice or kind really so different for men and women?A way round this is to use a different name on social media so these Scrotes can’t find you. It sucks that men have no boundaries or self-awareness, but that will help keep them away. I go by a nickname at work but use my full name, which the guys at work don’t know, on social media. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 08:01 PM |
| 42 | A refreshing positive experience with the STD talk I wanted to share. Also curious about how others approaches to this/experiences with itIt’s sad how men have lowered the bar so much that a man wanting to get tested before having a new sexual partner is deemed HV. It’s good that he went and got tested without protest, but this is bare minimum behaviour. Keep vetting and use protection. Also, depending on how long you wait until you get physical with him you may want to ask him to get tested again. He could be sleeping with other people in the meantime. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 07:52 PM |
| 15 | Transform your Online Dating ProfileEvery mod has their own personal opinion, but OLD is not explicitly against FDS guidance. This subreddit is about maximum female benefit in the dating world, regardless of what that may look like. For some women, OLD is the best way for them to meet men. You may personally disagree, but we are not here to argue with women about their experience. Besides, the pickings in real life are not much better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 10:52 AM |
| 21 | Your Friends Are Not Free TherapistsI've started saying to friends who repeatedly vent about situations but do nothing about changing said situation: "do what makes you happy." I don't get involved in their venting besides saying something like: "That must be really difficult for you." You have to protect your own emotional wellbeing, even if that means capping the amount of emotional energy you put into a friend's situation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 06:21 PM |
| 25 | It baffles me why men who complain about FDS think they are the type of men we want in the first place. Male biological delusion is realHenry Cavill is a scrote, but he is objectively attractive. The men who go after FDS only wish they looked as good as him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 07:57 AM |
| 4 | It baffles me why men who complain about FDS think they are the type of men we want in the first place. Male biological delusion is realLol, thank you. I had to fire up the Basie BBQ because the audacity was just tew much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 07:11 AM |
| 82 | It baffles me why men who complain about FDS think they are the type of men we want in the first place. Male biological delusion is realYep. Search ‘Female Dating Strategy’ on YouTube. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/21 06:14 PM |
| 417 | It baffles me why men who complain about FDS think they are the type of men we want in the first place. Male biological delusion is realThese men are literally out here talking like they have the sex appeal of Henry Cavill or Jason Mamoa when they’re lazy, unkept coomers 🤡. Lord, grant me the confidence and audacity of a scrote. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/21 05:31 PM |
| 168 | It baffles me why men who complain about FDS think they are the type of men we want in the first place. Male biological delusion is realVery much a “you can’t fire me, I quit!” It’s all a massive cope because none of them were on our radar anyway. When we talk about the kind of men we want to attract, we don’t mean them. And they know this. That’s what bothers them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/21 05:29 PM |
| 21 | How to stick to practicing celibacyI think of the fact that most men are carrying HPV and don't even know it. Also most sexually active men do not get tested regularly enough. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 05:13 PM |
| 34 | Texting all day is low value.Texting too much with a man will give you a very false sense of intimacy. Anyone can be anything over text, and so much meaning and intent can be lost because you do not have other indicators such as tone of voice or facial expressions to go off. Always keep texting to a minimum. Voice calling and meeting in person is always better. Plus texting is extremely low effort. A man can be talking to 10 different women at the same time via texting. Whereas with a voice call/meet up, it's much easier to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 04:23 PM |
| 32 | Don’t Date Insecure Men! I LIVE For This Goddess’ Channel.Or they will start getting gassed and thinking they can do better than you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 04:17 PM |
| 0 | Don't take it personally if you get banned from FDS. We ban a lot of people, it's actually very common.There is. People just don’t read the sidebar and then play the victim when they catch a ban. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 03:39 PM |
| 10 | Don't take it personally if you get banned from FDS. We ban a lot of people, it's actually very common.Great post. My favourite is when I ban people who then start trying to play the victim in mod mail. “Oh, I was only expressing my opinion!”. It literally says in the sidebar that FDS is not a debate sub. If you fundamentally disagree with the purpose and vision for this sub, which is helping women to find personal fulfilment and high value men, it’s not for you. It’s that simple. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 03:38 PM |
| 5 | FDS isn't about giving the benefit of the doubt. It's about being smart women who don't get played.This is mirroring, which is a tactic narcs use to get your guard down quicker. He does not seem genuine at all, especially when you said he revised his answer based on what you said to make his views seem closely aligned to yours. He is also love bombing you. Avoid this man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 08:28 AM |
| 9 | Objectification versus sexual attraction desire and arousalMen also don't seem to understand that it is possible to find someone physically attractive without wanting to fuck them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 07:57 AM |
| 2 | Sadly trueWomen like that cannot be trusted, tbh. The number of false accusations is so low. Plus these same women will admit that men feel entitled to women’s bodies, yet they think their male friend is immune to patriarchal conditioning? 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 04:45 AM |
| 4 | Ask a man why he loves youThere was a thread on one of the male subreddits asking them how they knew their current SO was 'the one'. 90% of the men commenting said stuff like "she puts up with me" or "she supported me when I was broke and homeless". Basically saying what you have just said here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 09:20 PM |
| 58 | Sadly trueThe number of women who will say they are feminist but will automatically brand a woman who accuses one of their friends a liar is shocking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 09:42 AM |
| 20 | Stuff of nightmares reallyLittle One. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 04:23 PM |
| 264 | The popular saying "Sex is like pizza, even if it's bad it's pretty good" is proof that men just do not see the world the same way as women.Men say this because bad sex still gets them a guaranteed orgasm. Whereas for women, bad sex means severe pain, sexual assault, rape/sexual coercion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 04:18 PM |
| 63 | Straight from the scrote horse’s mouth. When you take shit from men, they look down on you. Reason number 162738382929201 to never tolerate their BS.This. He still thinks she’s stupid for sticking around. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 08:59 AM |
| 15 | Straight from the scrote horse’s mouth. When you take shit from men, they look down on you. Reason number 162738382929201 to never tolerate their BS.Porn addict. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 03:50 AM |
| 118 | Why you shouldn’t be friends with menI wrote an entire post about this and I am willing to die on this hill: heterosexual men do not see women as friends. They see them as potential hook-ups, conquests, nannies, maids, free therapists, a cook, etc. Men are not socialised to be equitable in relationships, so why do women think they’re able to be a good friend? All my friends who have had close male friends soon came to realise that the men only wanted to fuck them, and they disappered if they knew they didn’t have such a chance. Fem… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 05:25 PM |
| 10 | He called me a princessThank you for saying this. OLD makes the shit more visible, but men have been trash before OLD was a thing. Getting friends to introduce you to men is also a risky strategy. Firstly, you have no idea if your friends have the same standards as you. Secondly, like you rightfully pointed out, people can behave very differently in a romantic relationship as opposed to a friendship. The best dating strategy is to vet regardless of where you meet them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 09:28 PM |
| 121 | 2 days ago our haters said we would never get Gail Dines on the Podcast and we all laughed because the episode was already recorded and scheduled to be released today. Haters gonna hate while FDS just keeps winning! 📈🚀🧗♀️Smashed it, Queens! I wonder how it feels to be so fantastically WRONG 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 05:52 PM |
| 16 | Ladies, I’m a failureYour boyfriend is looking to cheat. His “break” is really him wanting to bang someone else and come crawling back to you. You deserve more. You are strong. You are a survivor. You do not need him. And you are absolutely not a failure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 04:27 PM |
| 22 | FDS perk #358961 - Seeing through their BS and manipulationIt's hilarious when men act like they are the prize in the dating world, especially on dating apps. For every man that you reject, there are 20 more willing to take his place. Women do not have to prove anything to these OLD scrotes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 08:01 PM |
| 64 | TW: Hot take, liberal feminism and the glorification of "Sex work" will signficiantly increase the number of woman mental health issues/suicides in the next 5-10 years.Excellent post and something that needs to be said. I've often said that in a few years time, there will be a massive number of posts from former sex workers/Only Fans complaining that their stint in sex work is now barring them from getting a job. Look at how the porn industry sucks women in and spits them back out. I don't see how something can be empowering if it limits your options in almost every way. The same men these women are gaping their assholes for are the same men that will be swerv… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 07:50 PM |
| 62 | Be Sure to Take Photos of Just YourselfMy friend didn’t allow her boyfriend in any of her graduation photos for this reason. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 08:07 AM |
| 20 | Real shit.Men see women’s sexuality as an extension of their own, hence why many of them are interested in FFM threesomes but not MMF threesomes. It’s gross and entitled. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 07:52 AM |
| 11 | If a guy has a high "body count" he is probably a rapist.Straight facts, sis. I know men who have said that they use charm to get women into bed. These fuckers know exactly what they are doing. Men with high body counts are low value by default. Point blank period. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 12:20 PM |
| 31 | OP drank the LibFem koolaid and posted nudes online... now the same redditors who jerked off are judging 😳🥸I’ve dated men who had no problem with watching porn or eyeing up other women, but wouldn’t like it if I showed a smidge of cleavage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 12:04 PM |
| 8 | Fantastic post over on popular womens' subreddit. But OP's edits demonstrate clearly why the FDS subreddit and its mods are so precious.Please remove the name of the sub. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 08:49 PM |
| 47 | Fantastic post over on popular womens' subreddit. But OP's edits demonstrate clearly why the FDS subreddit and its mods are so precious.Please remove reference to the name of the subreddit or I’ll have to delete your comment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 08:49 PM |
| 11 | Wanting a man who is financially stable is not asking for too much. There is no honour in dating a man who is broke.Facts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 04:14 PM |
| 43 | Wanting a man who is financially stable is not asking for too much. There is no honour in dating a man who is broke.Even things like getting a deposit to rent/buy or an apartment is exponentially harder, if not impossible. When I worked in finance, I never saw a couple buy a home without substantial help from either one or both sets of parents. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 01:23 PM |
| 100 | Wanting a man who is financially stable is not asking for too much. There is no honour in dating a man who is broke.Not to mention children are very expensive. Very, very expensive. It’s prudent to ensure that you can afford children before having them. It boggles my mind when women procreate with men who have no/are bad with money. It’s the kids that suffer the most. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 10:44 AM |
| 11 | You shouldn’t have to teach a man how to be in a relationshipYou should not have to teach a man the importance of personal hygiene. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 08:49 AM |
| 2 | Why are there so many stories of shitty men not respecting women’s’ bodily autonomy?I just tell them I am not on any birth control, and have no plans to take any. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 08:39 AM |
| 89 | Why are there so many stories of shitty men not respecting women’s’ bodily autonomy?What a gross piece of shit. I’ve decided I’m not sharing my birth control status with a man. It’s my body, my business. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 01:25 PM |
| 29 | Low value men act indignant when we want a guy who is both attractive and kind to us, because they think that attractive men are entitled to treat women poorly and get away with it.Even if you are not an attractive man’s type, he will convey that in a way that’s respectful. It’s always unattractive men who go after women’s looks and disparage them for it. It’s always, always the uglies. Without fail. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 08:53 AM |
| 3 | The audacity!Okay, if his girlfriend isn’t putting in the effort, why is he still with her. The way men lie is scary. Men don’t stick around in situations they’re getting nothing out of. I’m sure his girlfriend isn’t even aware that she isn’t putting in any effort. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 08:48 AM |
| 20 | The audacity!I have a friend like this. In the 10 years I’ve known her, she’s always had a man in the picture. She’s literally been in back to back relationships the entire time. Of course she always ends up with a scrote because she doesn’t take the time to vet and shackles herself to the first guy that is nice to her. I’ve tried to bring her to FDS, but it’s been without success so far. I’ll keep trying, though! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 08:46 AM |
| 183 | NVM who think they can buy consent and free willIt honestly boggles my mind how men are so comfortable with having sex with women who aren’t enjoying it. I see sex as one of the most intimate and enjoyable activities you can do with another person. Someone not wanting to have sex with me, or not enjoying sex with me, would be an instant turn off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 08:42 AM |
| 2 | 50/50 relationships will never be equalShe said it about all of us. I don’t hold it against her at all, because I’m not sure if I want children. She had her first child at 23, so she didn’t get to experience life as a young adult woman. Her whole life has been centred around rearing children, so it’s natural she will be reflecting on what she would have done had she not had children. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 08:40 AM |
| 32 | Don't over-complicate your relationships: if a relationship is not making you feel good majority of the time, it's time to leave.Totally agreed, sis. I don't see myself ever wanting to live with a man. My ideal situation would be us each having our own houses or at least separate bedrooms. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 12:58 PM |
| 50 | Don't over-complicate your relationships: if a relationship is not making you feel good majority of the time, it's time to leave.You’re right. If I look back to the relationships with LVM I’ve had, I can say something just felt off to me in the very early stages. I stupidly ignored my intuition and ended up paying a very heavy price. Never again. It’s better to cut a man off too soon than too late. There are always more men out there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 12:47 PM |
| 55 | Don't over-complicate your relationships: if a relationship is not making you feel good majority of the time, it's time to leave.Facts. Men are not worth having around if all they do is give you grief. They’re supposed to be making our lives easier and stress-free, not adding to our troubles. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 12:45 PM |
| 12 | Don't over-complicate your relationships: if a relationship is not making you feel good majority of the time, it's time to leave.Glad I could be of help, sis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 12:45 PM |
| 52 | Don't over-complicate your relationships: if a relationship is not making you feel good majority of the time, it's time to leave.100% this. Giving men the benefit of the doubt hardly (if ever!) works in a woman’s favour. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 12:45 PM |
| 75 | Don't over-complicate your relationships: if a relationship is not making you feel good majority of the time, it's time to leave.Life is way too short to spend it decoding shady behaviour. A way to avoid this is to know your limits and boundaries and how you want to feel before getting into a relationship. That way if someone isn’t making you feel how you wanted to feel when you envisioned your ideal relationship, you’ll recognise it immediately and bail. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 12:44 PM |
| 114 | Don't over-complicate your relationships: if a relationship is not making you feel good majority of the time, it's time to leave.Absolutely, sis. This is the winning mentality. Men are never worth losing sleep over. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 12:43 PM |
| 19 | 50/50 relationships will never be equalThis is exactly what my mum said. She said if she could do life again she wouldn't have kids, because a parent can do everything right and the child still turns out to be a nightmare. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 08:34 AM |
| 56 | 50/50 relationships will never be equalThis. The impact of childbirth can also be longitudinal. My mum cannot get a much-needed hysterectomy because she has had four cesarean sections and doctors have deemed another abdominal surgery too high-risk. She had her last child 25 years ago. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 08:32 AM |
| 7 | Men 👏 Dont 👏 change 👏 EVEN FOR THEIR DREAM GIRL. FDS works ladies. Left my NVM fiancée 4 years ago and he immediately started dating the most beautiful woman I had ever seen. My heart was broken then, but this is them now!!Who wants to bet she doesn’t know the relationship is open? The absolute audacity of these scrote men. So he wants a free, kinky prostitute that doesn’t mind being second fiddle to his girlfriend whilst offering absolutely fuck all in return. I bet that he won’t be interested in paying for dates or courting her properly, and will shoot for low effort, low value dates. I also bet he’s shit in bed - these Tinder Doms are the worst and most don’t have a clue about pleasuring women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 09:57 PM |
| 54 | Remember ladies - if he doesn’t respond to your text within a reasonable amount of time he’s not excited about you.Personally I like to keep texting to an absolute minimum. It’s too easy to build a false sense of intimacy via texting. Plus I am a busy woman myself. I can go hours without looking at my phone. The thing to look out for is if his texting habits change. If he starts out by texting you regularly but then drops off to once every couple of days, that’s a yellow/red flag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 09:56 PM |
| 25 | Notice the little things!Good on you for picking up on these subtle cues. Stay far, far away from men who still keep in touch with their exes. The drama is never worth it. Plus men don’t keep women around just for the sake of it. It’s too easy for them to slip back into her DMs looking for something sexual. Ask me how I know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 09:53 PM |
| 12 | Sis follows her nose & uncovers a whole treasure trove of cheating stemming back years. Now imagine she’d ReSpEcTeD hIs PrIvAcY 🤡 cheaters don’t have any respect for you. And that’s why we’re pro SNOOP. If you think he’s cheating- you’re probably right & just smelling the TIP of the iceberg.It’s so callous and disgusting looking back. He knew exactly what he was doing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 06:14 PM |
| 20 | Sis follows her nose & uncovers a whole treasure trove of cheating stemming back years. Now imagine she’d ReSpEcTeD hIs PrIvAcY 🤡 cheaters don’t have any respect for you. And that’s why we’re pro SNOOP. If you think he’s cheating- you’re probably right & just smelling the TIP of the iceberg.I watched him enter the passcode when he was next to me out of the corner of my eye. I then went through his phone when he was in the shower. Motherfucker had the nerve to start asking me what was wrong when I was upset/quiet about it. I gave him the chance to admit to it by asking him directly. He only “confessed” when I told him I had seen the messages. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 06:14 PM |
| 114 | Sis follows her nose & uncovers a whole treasure trove of cheating stemming back years. Now imagine she’d ReSpEcTeD hIs PrIvAcY 🤡 cheaters don’t have any respect for you. And that’s why we’re pro SNOOP. If you think he’s cheating- you’re probably right & just smelling the TIP of the iceberg.Im glad she snooped. When I snooped on my ex’s phone, I found out he had been having phone sex with his ex-girlfriend. The crazy thing was, when he mentioned in passing that he still speaks to her, he got annoyed when I was uncomfortable with it. Turns out I was right to be uncomfortable! If a woman feels the need to snoop, 9/10 she will find out something he’s hidden from her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 09:19 AM |
| 27 | Do not read or entertain essays from low value menThere’s a space to make fun of men, and I’m glad that sub exists. Along with being ignored, one thing men hate is being mocked and ridiculed. Men dislike FDS because we not only tell the truth about their behaviour, we are also not afraid to laugh at them and their low value ways. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 09:49 PM |
| 68 | Do not read or entertain essays from low value menAgreed! You think these men are approaching you in good faith and you keep reading, and then BAM! They hit you with the bullshit. I had one scrote in my DMs whine about how he thinks watching porn is fine. I don’t really care if he thinks it’s fine. I don’t. End of. There’s nothing to debate here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 09:47 PM |
| 44 | How do you respond when men ask questions or make comments about your intelligence?I wouldn’t even do this. Men who say stuff like this know what they’re doing, and they want you to engage with them. The best thing to do is to walk away or block and delete. Never engage with someone who is asking/making comments in bad faith. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 09:22 PM |
| 51 | Do not read or entertain essays from low value menAll of this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 09:02 PM |
| 44 | I don’t know who needs to hear this ,but if you don’t like his past, you are not obligated to stay with him.The woman is also shamed for not being open minded and is told that her reaction is why he wasn't honest with her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 07:56 PM |
| 268 | I don’t know who needs to hear this ,but if you don’t like his past, you are not obligated to stay with him.There are so many stories on Reddit from men who have found out their girlfriend/wife had a sex life before them and are feeling somehow about it. The comments are often full of people saying that it's fair for him to break up with her over it. Yet women are expected to accept and love someone with a sketchy background. Nah. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 04:13 PM |
| 57 | Men who get salty when you're transparent about not pursuing things further and why you should GHOST!Unless exclusivity is mutually discussed and agreed upon, its fair game to keep talking to other people and exploring your options. Ooof, this. I learned this lesson the hard way, ladies. When I was with my ex-FWB, he expected me to only have eyes for him whilst he was keeping his options open. As a result of my clownery, I lost out on several good men who would have committed to me. Do not give a man your exclusivity UNLESS he has proven himself to be HV and has OPENLY committed to you. Do no… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 04:09 PM |
| 6 | Ladies, I need your help.I agree with everything that has been said. One thing I would like to add is to always trust your intuition. Do not give a man you have just met the benefit of the doubt if your gut is telling you something is off with him. Your intuition is telling you that this man is dangerous. I would recommend you read 'The Gift of Fear' by Gavin de Becker. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 07:21 AM |
| 62 | To our lurkers: Just don’t read our sub.It's wonderful watching the stalker sub having a meltdown over our FAF. Comparing fully/semi-clothed to the porn they watch is a violent cope. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 08:07 PM |
| 18 | Bullet Dodging Chronicles: Where Are They Now?I dated my first boyfriend when I was 18. He was incredibly emotionally and verbally abusive. Called me every name under the sun and said I was too stupid to go to uni. 8 years later? I have graduated with a bachelor's, landed my dream job, and my employer is funding my masters degree. Him on the other hand? Claiming disability and not working. Says that working for someone else is a con despite never having worked a day in his life. Ha. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 08:05 PM |
| 18 | Women are choosers and it literally does not matter what men wantWell said, sis. The idea that men are picky is a con to trick women into becoming pickmes and bending over backwards for them when they don't need to. Men will fuck and marry women who are not their supposed 'type'. Their standards, as a class, are so low that almost any woman can meet them, even women they supposedly deem to be undesirable. I knew a guy who said he was particular about the kind of women he slept with, and made it a point to tell me that he had turned women down for sex. This ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 08:45 PM |
| 11 | The truth about all your guy friends.Well said, sis. I would also add that men don’t just use women for sex. I think it’s extremely difficult for a male/female friendship to be truly equitable simply because men are not raised to be giving and emotionally available, whereas women are. I’ve had male friends use me for secretarial support (I looked for my ex-FWB’s apartment and helped him negotiate a discount on rent), for free therapy and ego strokes. Just because a man isn’t after you for sex that doesn’t mean he isn’t using you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 01:31 PM |
| 9 | Sex workers accusing us of slut shaming then in the next breath mocking us for "sucking dick for free" ...wow. And they have the audacity to demand we "support sex workers"This. Sex workers tend to compare their work to minimum wage jobs. I have never seen them compare being a sex worker with being a director. Or a CEO. Or an accomplished artist. They seem to think that all civilian women work in shitty jobs with no prospects, and I guess they have to believe that to cope with the fact that they know the work they are doing makes them miserable and has no prospects. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 10:55 PM |
| 2 | Just got attacked by a man on the street for not talking to him.I am so sorry this happened to you, sis. I am glad you are okay, though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 10:47 PM |
| 32 | Classic scrote cheating signs- from the rookie to the serial cheat. Why modern women must trust instinct > firm evidence.Great post, sis. Another sign is if he suddenly accuses you of cheating. Cheaters love to believe in their heads that their partner is also doing them dirty, as in their minds it absolves them of responsibility and feeling shitty for being a cheat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 08:09 PM |
| 26 | This Scrote on Psychology Today has “concluded” that size doesn’t matter ladies!This post is a cope of epic proportions. Men seem to think when we say "dick size matters" we automatically mean "he must have a big dick". It's a complete strawman. Whether you like big, small, or average, the size of his dick WILL have an impact on your sexual pleasure. If he's not the right fit/look, you won't achieve maximum sexual pleasure. It's so sad that women are conditioned to settle for sub-par sexual experiences so as not to offend men. It's complete bullshit. Their attempt to positi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 02:05 PM |
| 26 | YEP👏🏼Men who have slept around even say that sex is always better when its with someone you care about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 12:23 PM |
| 74 | Do you run into men demanding your attention and getting angry when you don't give it to them?Yep, I’ve had this before. Sometimes a guy will send me “???????” If I haven’t responded for five minutes. Instant block and delete. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 02:28 PM |
| 141 | Banned from other subs just for being a member of FDS?This is why we recommend women make an account they use solely for FDS. FDS triggers a lot of people on this site, and they won’t hesitate to use the fact you post here against you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 09:49 AM |
| 21 | FDS must be an Eye Doctor, because I'm now seeing that most dudes are NOT AttractiveOoof, this. On an average day, I can come across numerous beautiful women. I rarely come across a man I find attractive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 10:24 AM |
| 20 | Men who take naked pictures of sleeping women, and men who use hidden cameras to secretly film their sexual encounters, are compelling reasons to avoid casual sex until you have thoroughly vetted his character.I’m so sorry that happened to you, sis. A guy once tried to film me giving him a blowjob during a hookup without me asking. Luckily I noticed it before he started filming. Men are trash. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 10:23 PM |
| 72 | I’m just so tickled seeing this. Yes Queens, yes.The free dinner idea is just projection because men know if they had the sexual capital women have they would use women for free food. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 10:16 PM |
| 17 | Hobosexuals.When I worked at a homeless shelter, male residents would openly admit that they would hook up with women so they could sleep at their place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 07:53 PM |
| 160 | This is why we must be extremely careful about the kind of men we procreate with, lest this happens. She's still trying to hang on instead of divorce. Meanwhile some pickme in the comments is saying they could "bOtH bEnEfIt fRoM cOuNseLinG." OP has suggested it, but surprise, he never went.This is beyond sad. Her husband has admitted that he does not like her. She needs to leave. This is not salvageable. Counselling does not work if someone has checked out of the relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 07:50 PM |
| 9 | How is this even a question??!!Women tend to do this a lot. It's called kneecapping your sentences, and it lessens the impact of what you are saying substantially. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 05:12 PM |
| 73 | Peyronie's Disease (Permanently Bent Penis)Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 01:15 PM |
| 198 | To “scrote” or not to “scrote”“Scrote-cha-cho” im dead. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 06:40 PM |
| 24 | How to tell if it’s genuine or if it’s lovebombing?I agree. There’s a verse in the Bible that says something like: “too much honey makes you sick.” If a guy is too sweet in the early stages of getting to know him that sets my spidey sense off, because he’s always turned out to be disingenuous. OP needs to vet for a longer period of time and listen to her gut feeling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 03:21 PM |
| – | On today’s episode of MEN (TM) fetishists ruin EVERYTHING. 🤢🤢I would like to take this opportunity to reiterate the importance of NEVER indulging anyone who offers to meet up here. I know that some of you would love to organise an FDS meet-up, but the risks are just too big. We have had men pretending to be women on here trying to organise an FDS meeting. There is no GOOD reason why a man would want to essentially trick a group of women into meeting up with him. Safety first, ladies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 10:35 AM |
| 3 | Lies MRAs tell about domestic violenceI hope he is no longer your friend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 05:14 PM |
| 7 | Lies MRAs tell about domestic violenceIn male homeless shelters, guess who makes up majority of the staff and volunteers? Women. MRAs don't care about issues affecting men. They care about having a stick to beat feminism with. They are not the same thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 05:10 PM |
| 24 | Pickme cool girl calls us "females" and how poor men are oppressed in our society.Ah, I was wondering when this lady would pop up. It’s ironic that she defends men so viscuously, when she’s exactly the kind of woman the men she’s defending would swerve: she’s got tattoos up to her neck and she’s a single mom. Not that any of that is bad, but according to men, she’s damaged goods. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 08:33 AM |
| 33 | Man hides camera in woman's bedroom disguised as clock, takes 140 videos—police - a other reason to not bring men you barely know to your home.I am sure a lot of the amateur porn videos by "consenting adults" were made this way. Men will discreetly record women and upload it to the internet. There are subreddits that are dedicated to men doing this. It's sick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 03:35 PM |
| 3 | Lord if this ain't some anti-women shit.This is like thanking someone for leaving their garbage can on the sidewalk and you taking it home and proclaiming it yours. 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 05:52 PM |
| 35 | Being the "dream girl" isn't specialThank you for saying this. If a man is low value to some women, he will be low value to all women. Believing that a man will act right for his dream girl means you subscribe to the belief that a woman can change a man. It’s complete BS. Moreover, if a man has spent years being low value, how is he suddenly going to learn how to be high value? It’s not going to happen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 05:12 PM |
| 262 | I love this and him.Why are gay men always so much better looking than straight men? This guy looks like he washes, moisturises and gives a single flying fuck about his appearance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 08:07 AM |
| 228 | Living On My Own For The First Time At 36.Don’t tell people you live alone. Always say you live with family. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 08:06 AM |
| 11 | When a single person blames you for their suicide its abuse and manipulation, when men site male suicide statistics and blame it on women it's "based"Men’s trauma is used as an excuse for them when they turn out to be abusive. Women who carry trauma are seen as “damaged goods”. Women who have a difficult relationship with their fathers are deemed to be the problem, hence the term “daddy issues”, yet no word is said about the shitty father who failed as a parent. Women are derided for being single mothers even though they are the parent who stayed. They are then blamed for raising children in a home without a father figure despite the fact men… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 07:30 PM |
| 7 | When a single person blames you for their suicide its abuse and manipulation, when men site male suicide statistics and blame it on women it's "based"Men are the biggest perpetrators of familicide by a long mile. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 07:28 PM |
| 5 | Homeless men: an example of how men twist the narrativeI’m all for a welfare state that supports people who need it. But the thing is with people who are homeless is that they are an extremely difficult demographic to help. They get into self-destructive patterns that money and a house, even if they haven’t had to work/pay for it, won’t fix. The people in the homeless shelter received money from the Government (the Government paid for their housing and gave them some money to live off), and yet it didn’t get them out of a rut. Granted, the money the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 09:44 PM |
| 42 | Homeless men: an example of how men twist the narrativeMajority of the workers at the homeless shelter I worked in were women. Very, very few men. So men don't tend to volunteer or work for projects that benefit their sex, yet complain that there isn't enough support for men. Make it make sense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 06:46 PM |
| 58 | Homeless men: an example of how men twist the narrativeThe statistics also don't count women who are in a sex-for-rent arrangement. There are lots of predatory landlords out there who offer this arrangement to vulnerable women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 06:24 PM |
| 26 | Homeless men: an example of how men twist the narrativeI used to feel the same as you until I worked in a shelter and saw it first-hand. It's not harsh at all - it's fact. 99% of the male residents I worked with had a criminal background. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 06:20 PM |
| 27 | Homeless men: an example of how men twist the narrativeYep. Many of the men we tried to help would prefer being street homeless to actually making an attempt to improve their situation and better their lot. Many of them left the homeless shelter in a worse position. The staff tried their best to help them, but ultimately you cannot save someone who does not want to save themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 06:13 PM |
| 18 | Homeless men: an example of how men twist the narrativeI found the experience very rewarding. I was never in any real danger: if anything, the residents were more scared of me than I was of them. I was known for not taking any of their shit. The female only projects were my favourite, though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 06:09 PM |
| 3 | Call People Out If You Can Safely Do SoYou're still missing the point of FDS. FDS does not encourage engaging with a LVM at all. It is a waste of your time and energy. If a man treats you less than, cut him off and remove yourself from the situation entirely. We don't sink to their level by engaging in slanging matches. Men respond best to action, and the best action is to avoid them completely. Nothing hurts them more because most of them need women's attention. We don't need theirs. There is no benefit to calling a LVM out. You're … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 12:56 PM |
| 4 | Call People Out If You Can Safely Do SoYou do not have to attend every fight you are invited to. It's best to walk away, unless you are acting in self-defence. Even a woman who is well-trained at fighting may not be a match for the average man. I am a bigger lady who powerlifts, and I still would not pick a physical fight with a man. Do not underestimate the strength of an angry male. They could be carrying a concealed weapon, too. FDS is not about sticking it to shitty men - it's about actively avoiding them and not engaging. If you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 12:30 PM |
| 8 | Epiphany: Imagine if dating made your life easier (like it does for men)Even if you are what he wants long-term, he has not proved that. At all. When we want something, we work for it. We go after it. We do not neglect it. We make sure that we take care of it, even when it may not be convenient. This man is not interested in the long-term. And even if he is, he is not what you want. Like you said, your desires and needs matter as well. Block and do not look back - you've got this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 06:52 PM |
| 25 | Staywithmeisha?This is textbook pickme behaviour, because you were still trying to get him to want you. You may not have exerted yourself in the attraction stage, but, by your own admission, you said you did "everything you could to keep this lazy asshole around." You did not leave him because, at some point, you decided being in a bad relationship and having someone "there" was better than being alone, which is a pickme mindset. This is not a criticism, this is just me reading into your situation. I echo the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 06:42 PM |
| 17 | Epiphany: Imagine if dating made your life easier (like it does for men)Sis, drop him. He's exposed himself as a LVM. Believe his actions not his words. Also, re-read the handbook. You should not have already concluded this guy was different from the other LVM because you have not been dating long enough. Most men can put on an act for three months. After that is usually when the mask slips. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 05:52 PM |
| 12 | Can we talk about entitlement in dating for a sec?Men have been conditioned to think about what they can get from women as opposed to what they can give her. Many of them do not see women as fully realised human beings. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 03:44 PM |
| 20 | You should WANT to do things for the guy on a date 💸I can promise you he's only regretting not dating this woman because he is alone. I hope this woman levelled up and married someone worthy of her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 03:39 PM |
| 22 | When roommates/ or family bring over new men 🚩 🚩🤢This is why I am so glad I live alone. Why is it that women's defenses go down whenever there is dick involved? Nobody would bring a random man off the street into their home, but when it's a man they want to fuck any sort of security concerns go out the window. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 03:36 PM |
| 3 | LVM thrive in stagnation. Save your tears.But he’s more than happy to live off the state who is funded mostly by people who...work for other people. 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 06:44 AM |
| 14 | LVM thrive in stagnation. Save your tears.So, so glad you came out on the other side THRIVING, QUEEN! I am so proud of you! And yes, you are absolutely right! LVM men know when they are not on your level, and they will seek to drag you down with them. My first boyfriend told me I was too stupid to go to university. I graduated last year and I’m currently doing a masters that’s fully-funded. Meanwhile, he’s barely finished high school (at 25) and is claiming early retirement disability. He says he doesn’t believe in working for other peo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 09:01 AM |
| 2 | When you achieve something like climbing to the top of a mountain or you travel to a destination with a guy, make sure to get photos of YOU alone.My colleague at work refused to take pictures with her boyfriend at her graduation for this exact reason. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 08:55 AM |
| 5 | This is the type of obtuse mentality that I'm referring to when I say "men are committed to misunderstanding us"I’ve been asked out twice at the gym. Once in a train station. Almost asked out on Instagram after my makeup artist posted a picture of me on her page. He actually messaged her to get my number, but she refused to give to him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 08:53 AM |
| 4 | This is the type of obtuse mentality that I'm referring to when I say "men are committed to misunderstanding us"FDS do listen to men. That’s why we are able to call out their bullshit and see them for what they are. In terms of dating, low value men are not the men we want, so why would be listen to them when it comes to finding a man we want to date? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 08:47 AM |
| 20 | GiRlS aRe So ShAlLoWMen love to say “height discrimination is the same as discriminating against a woman because of weight!” Weight is an arbitrary number that looks different depending on the individual. Two people can weight the same yet look very different because of training regimen, muscle tone, lengths of limbs, etc. Whereas 5’5 is still 5’5 regardless of what size you are. So the two are not the same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 08:44 AM |
| 30 | I'm seeing a lot of comments like "I hate that FDS thinks they're feminist"These feminist subs have men on their mod team. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 10:17 AM |
| 43 | Found this on a relationship sub. Women think this kind of behaviour is endearing ?! Nah sis 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ makes me wonder what else he thinks gets done by magic. Some guy commented and argued with me about how men do more domestic labour lmao I can’t handle this sub. I never want to be married.This. This is how it starts. Incompetence that is cute when they do not have children, but it will become a massive problem if/when they do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 03:40 PM |
| 16 | All the emotional labor, organizing and managing being pushed on the woman, who would have known? This is why multiple partners are not beneficial for women, instead of one man baby, she now has two of them.That’s still bad advice in this context. The only advice they should be giving is telling her to drop these two Scrotes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 03:13 PM |
| 90 | All the emotional labor, organizing and managing being pushed on the woman, who would have known? This is why multiple partners are not beneficial for women, instead of one man baby, she now has two of them."If someone sucks at something, don't make them do it" - this person must have been a terrible manager. There are some things in life that we HAVE to be good at or constantly strive to be better at. Basic adulting is one of them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 10:55 AM |
| 164 | "dating for a free meal"If I wanted a free dinner there are so many ways to get one that doesn’t involve getting dressed up for a scrote. Ask a friend. Ask a family member. Go to a food bank. Ask a random person off the street. We don’t need shitty men to eat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 09:16 PM |
| 56 | Abort Mission if a Man Sees You This WayThis is a hot mess. She needs to leave this man ASAP and quit moving in with men she’s only been dating for six months. I agree with Danny: it’s not a good thing that her son is already calling him Daddy, especially now the man is treating her like crap. She’s bought into the sink cost fallacy already since she’s willing to use her son as a reason to continue investing in this garbage relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 02:46 PM |
| 81 | I have to laugh at this, but I worry for the PickMes who will fear that their value might decrease (hint: it won’t).It’s a huge tell that means drama always follows them in their relationships, and it’s likely of their own making. People who are genuinely drama-free don’t need to announce they don’t like drama. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 12:08 PM |
| 16 | Stop mourning awful men dying.Love it how the press frame his racism as "jokes and gaffes". And Britain has to nerve to say it isn't a racist country. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 06:39 PM |
| 12 | Following our recent discussion here about sending nudes, here is this man hoarding nudes of his exes years and years later....while also married.How disgusting. I’m so sorry you went through that, Queen <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 06:24 PM |
| 89 | Following our recent discussion here about sending nudes, here is this man hoarding nudes of his exes years and years later....while also married.I know a guy who keeps nudes of his exes. It is so, so, so creepy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 06:17 PM |
| 107 | If a man I'm feeling out ask me to add his snapchat its an immediate BLOCK. - if you need an app that deletes messages then I don't need you.Snapchat = I’ll ask you for nudes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 06:16 PM |
| 22 | LVM makes creepy, objectifying comment about a woman athlete. HVM tells him why that's creepy and grossI think they’re both low value. The “HVM”’s suggestion of saying her glutes are well toned instead is still creepy and inappropriate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 11:56 AM |
| 15 | FDS users taking it in turns to roast Scrotes in the comments like:Hip Hop Harry | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 07:24 AM |
| 13 | I've been seeing a lot of posts lately about scrotes calling vetting "eugenics". Here's my theory to counter this.I feel extremely sorry for said offspring, though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 08:40 PM |
| 22 | Remember: The only men complaining about your standards are the men who know they cannot meet them. Pay them no mind.It means you should take some inspiration from Usain Bolt and run as fast as you can out of there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 07:25 PM |
| 27 | Why comparing small dicks with small boobs is a massive false equivalenceIt’s normal for boobs to sag. As much as men say they don’t like saggy breasts, I’ve never ever heard a man complain to me in person. Most men are just happy a woman is into them. If you think about it, the average man doesn’t get to a see a woman naked (except through porn) very often at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 02:57 PM |
| 243 | Remember: The only men complaining about your standards are the men who know they cannot meet them. Pay them no mind.Fuck whoever said that. Your standards are what YOU need to be happy. They’re not necessarily contingent on your age or how you look. And despite what assholes on Reddit say, men find women of all ages and sizes attractive. Don’t let them decieve yoi into thinking you have to settle for less. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 02:21 PM |
| 207 | I really enjoy watching antifeminists have a meltdown every time we discuss penis size. Just take your L and leave us alone! 😂 Ladies, please enjoy this curated collection of male tears, from the left-wing manosphere 🎁We aren’t even saying that bigger dicks are better. We are saying that every woman will likely have a size that is optimal for her and she should go and find it. I don’t get why they’re mad. Personally, a huge dick would be super painful for me, but I like girth. Different strokes for different folks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 09:56 AM |
| 107 | I really enjoy watching antifeminists have a meltdown every time we discuss penis size. Just take your L and leave us alone! 😂 Ladies, please enjoy this curated collection of male tears, from the left-wing manosphere 🎁Looool, check out the PickMe trying to massage their battered egos. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 09:55 AM |
| 46 | Why comparing small dicks with small boobs is a massive false equivalenceThis. I’m never dating an insecure man again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 09:54 AM |
| 93 | Why comparing small dicks with small boobs is a massive false equivalenceMen still neg women with big boobs. I’m busty and I was called all sorts of names at school. I’ve had men tell me they can’t focus on what I’m saying because my boobs are too much of a distraction. When it comes to sex, bigger boobs are good for the visuals and that’s about it. They don’t really serve any other function sexually, and can actually get in the way. Bottom line is, women’s bodies get picked apart by men all the time. But when we state one preference, they act like we are calling for… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 09:01 AM |
| 2 | Don't marry grown children, ladies...I think there’s clips floating around on YouTube. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 06:45 PM |
| 27 | Don't marry grown children, ladies...I’ve watched a show with a similar premise called ‘Don’t Tell the Bride’. The groom would be given the responsibility of planning the wedding, right down to selecting the bride’s dress. Can’t tell you the number of times the brides would be in tears upon seeing their dress or on their wedding day because the groom managed to screw it up so bad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 12:14 PM |
| 7 | How is ass guy and boob guy a thing but a height/ abs/ beard gal is not?I’m a sucker for a tall man with a full head of hair, big, clean hands, gorgeous smile, and well-built. Skinny men are a huge turn-off for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 08:29 AM |
| 16 | "I look like a goblin but I want a thin princess" smh 😂😂😂LOL, I can guarantee none of the adjectives he’s listed to describe his personality are true. Absolutely none. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 08:20 AM |
| 39 | If a man is not going down on you for AS LONG AS IT TAKES then he ain’t worth shitI was with a guy for three years and I could count on one hand the number of times he went down on me. It’s fine if cunnilingus isn’t someone’s thing. My issue was he would expect blowjobs all the time, and complain if he didn’t get enough. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 08:16 AM |
| 50 | Gail Dines versus scrote and pickmeshias (one calls Cosmopolitan magazine feminist)“Cosmopolitan is a feminist magazine” Gail: “I wouldn’t go that far.” 💀 Also, why are the porn watchers so ugly? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 04:47 AM |
| 3 | The importance of maintaining a credit score no matter whatBe very, very, very careful with co-signing bills. I’ve known students who had have debt collectors after them because one of their housemates didn’t pay a bill. If your name is on a liability, you are most likely joint and severally liable for it. This means if he decides not to pay, the bank/company are pursue you for the full amount. Mixing finances is not something that should be done lightly, and I would highly recommend women seek independent legal advice before doing so. There are ways to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 07:49 AM |
| 18 | Very important watch that sums up sad reality of dating in London. I'm really scared to make men wait for sex because there's such a high risk he's willing to run the marathon and leave afterward. https://www.instagram.com/tv/CFZf60RAN3q/?igshid=vpdkcxkma87hThey met when they were 21 at college. They were then long distance for about six years until they got married. No, cheating was never a concern for either of them. He doesn't watch porn, either. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 06:12 AM |
| 37 | Very important watch that sums up sad reality of dating in London. I'm really scared to make men wait for sex because there's such a high risk he's willing to run the marathon and leave afterward. https://www.instagram.com/tv/CFZf60RAN3q/?igshid=vpdkcxkma87hMy sister made her husband wait seven years. They didn't have sex until their wedding day by mutual agreement. He still treats her like a Queen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 04:56 AM |
| 79 | Why we don’t do clapbacksFully agreed. You do not have to show up to every argument you are invited to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 04:21 AM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inMeeeee! I am looking forward to going back to the gym and regaining my fitness, getting my hair done and visiting the beauty salon!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 10:18 PM |
| 23 | A quick word on friendships between men and womenIt's hard to answer this question properly without first knowing more about the guy who offered to help you. However, if you felt like he wasn't offering for wholly altruistic reasons, then you were right to refuse. To answer the second part of your comment, I assess what skills they have and act accordingly. For example, several men I know are polyglots and I listen to a lot of music that is not in English. I will ask them to translate the song for me. Simple stuff like that. But generally spea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 08:25 PM |
| 23 | A quick word on friendships between men and womenAnd women understand other women in a way no man can. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 08:21 PM |
| 35 | A quick word on friendships between men and womenA way to test this (and I am not saying women should do this) is to ask their male friend if they would be down to fuck. I would estimate that most men would say yes, even if the woman believes he's not attracted to her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 08:13 PM |
| 42 | A quick word on friendships between men and womenJust because a man is not romantically or sexually interested in you, that does not mean he isn't using you. I am glad your male friendships have worked out, but there are far too many stories from women who have spent years believing a man is their friend only for him to sexually and romantically proposition her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 08:12 PM |
| 36 | A quick word on friendships between men and womenI completely agree with you. I will edit my post to add this in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 08:07 PM |
| 14 | The other "female" subreddits are disingenuous.Please remove the name of the subreddit and I’ll approve. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 06:00 PM |
| 5 | Second self aware man I've seen in that thread. And all the angry scrotes downvoted himHow did he cheat because he was insecure? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 04:44 PM |
| 9 | You don’t know him yet! Why it’s important to emotionally detach yourself from him during the early stages of courting himI used to be your former pickme friend. Then I would sit there wondering why I was pining after a guy who would ghost or be inconsistent or not that into me. It’s a combination of very poor boundaries, low self-esteem and believing that the man in front of you is the last man on earth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 04:34 PM |
| 14 | You don’t know him yet! Why it’s important to emotionally detach yourself from him during the early stages of courting himOf course. So I’m a very busy person. I work four jobs alongside a master’s degree and other various side hustles. With the guy I’m currently seeing, I usually let him know my availability for the coming week on Sunday and he works around me. I tend to schedule him in for no longer than two hours at a time, and I prefer to stick to one hour if possible. This helps me maintain a good amount of emotional distance as we get to know one another because I treat him like any other appointment. A few w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 02:18 PM |
| 39 | You don’t know him yet! Why it’s important to emotionally detach yourself from him during the early stages of courting himSpending hours talking to a man you’ve just met is unnecessary and a waste of your time. It leads to a false sense of intimacy and you letting your guard down sooner. There’s no reason to speak to a man you’re seeing initially for hours on the phone, even if it’s supposedly mutual. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 07:27 AM |
| 41 | You don’t know him yet! Why it’s important to emotionally detach yourself from him during the early stages of courting himThey were most likely hobosexuals. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 06:44 AM |
| 986 | Second self aware man I've seen in that thread. And all the angry scrotes downvoted himIt’s become so bad that a well-dressed, well-groomed man is ahead of 99% of other men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 09:11 PM |
| 21 | The advice on dating subs will have you down bad. Reserved guys ask women out too. It’s actually even more obvious when they’re into someone.My brother-in-law is very reserved, and he still pursued my sister hard. I can’t believe women have fallen for this BS. FDS doesn’t tell women not to chase men due to rejection. We teach women this because if a woman does the pursuing, it’s impossible to know if the man she is pursuing really likes her. Most men won’t say no to a woman’s advances, whether the woman is offering pussy, FWB or something more, because men don’t have as many options as women. They know this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 06:30 PM |
| 68 | Hypocrisy of men: Women are not allowed to kink-shame, but they are allowed to boundary shame women?!Men act like their sexuality is a protected characteristic. Shame is a completely normal emotion, and sometimes it’s good to feel shame because it stops us from doing shitty things. The idea that something should be beyond reproach because it’s a “kink” is ridiculous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 08:54 PM |
| 70 | LADIES WTF: Homeless Millennial Man Survives By Picking Up Women Every Night. Every woman who fell for this dirty unwashed misogynist deserves to be in the Pickmeisha Hall of Shame.Men on Reddit project harder than a cinema screen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 05:59 PM |
| 57 | Women need to remember that once you have a baby with a man, you are tied to him for life.I don’t think people fully appreciate how vulnerable a pregnant woman is, especially if she is with a partner who is low value and/or abusive. Men have trapped women with babies since the dawn of time. Why is it that the media pumps out propaganda for women that says they’re worthless if they don’t get married and have children? Having children can set a woman back in so many ways. Some women’s careers never recover after having children, meaning they are financially dependent on their partner f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 05:18 PM |
| 71 | LADIES WTF: Homeless Millennial Man Survives By Picking Up Women Every Night. Every woman who fell for this dirty unwashed misogynist deserves to be in the Pickmeisha Hall of Shame.He doesn’t see himself as a bum, but he’s living as a bum. Just goes to show that LVM/NVM know they ain’t shit but prefer to delude themselves. This video was absolutely gross. Women need to say no, no, no to hookup culture. Inviting strange men back to your house is not only extremely unsafe, but it also means men can leech off you in more ways than one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 05:13 PM |
| – | Says he’s into me, wants to explore more than a friendshipRead the handbook. Post locked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 12:56 AM |
| 30 | Ya’ll, please tell me I did not just read what I read? After seeing that I went and made a donation to FDS. It was the only way I could calm down. Is this a thing?!?!?!?!And hopefully roasting with Hades in hell. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 12:46 AM |
| 13 | I don't have words for thisJohns are ultimately paying for something that doesn’t exist. They’re paying to believe that an attractive woman is into them and wants to serve them. That’s why I said they’re getting rinsed financially. If men want to pay to be deluded into thinking they’re desirable whilst still being lonely, then I won’t get upset with that. My comment wasn’t directed towards sex workers, even the ones who are actual scammers. Men shouldn’t think it’s okay to buy consent. And if they do, they deserve what’s … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 12:45 AM |
| 53 | Ya’ll, please tell me I did not just read what I read? After seeing that I went and made a donation to FDS. It was the only way I could calm down. Is this a thing?!?!?!?!I am so sorry you went through that, Queen ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 10:46 PM |
| 178 | Ya’ll, please tell me I did not just read what I read? After seeing that I went and made a donation to FDS. It was the only way I could calm down. Is this a thing?!?!?!?!It’s not true that a lot of peadophiles feel bad about their urges. If it was, the rate of child abuse would be a lot lower. Men are actively campaigning to get the age of consent lowered so they can rape children without worrying about the law. We see men sexually propositioning young children when they’re barely hitting puberty. This comment is absolutely despicable. Shame on the person who wrote it and even bigger shame on the people who upvoted and awarded it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 10:20 PM |
| 26 | I don't have words for thisAs much as I am against sex work, I do like the idea of these ZVM Johns getting financially rinsed by women who aren’t into them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 09:28 PM |
| 54 | People who say "redpillers and pickup artists are only a tiny percentage of the population, most men aren't like that"You’re absolutely right, sis. Many men have used MGTOW/Red Pill tactics and tricks on women without even realising that’s what it is. That’s how skewed the dating world is against women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 09:16 PM |
| 23 | So a “guy friend” tried it on with me tonightI am so sorry to hear this happened to you, but I am glad you turned out okay. Being friends with a heterosexual male as a woman is nearly impossible, and it’s been avoided. These men will lay in wait for YEARS under the guise of friendship, waiting for their chance to swoop in and take advantage of you sexually. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 06:09 PM |
| 12 | How to find out if a man watches porn: it’s easier than you thinkYou don’t even have to say you watch porn. There’s no need to construct an elaborate dialogue to obtain this information since men will give it up so easily. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 10:46 AM |
| 7 | How to find out if a man watches porn: it’s easier than you thinkThis is why you ask the questions and don’t tell him your thoughts on porn before he’s answered. Don’t ask it in accusatory or confrontational way, either. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 10:08 AM |
| 23 | How to find out if a man watches porn: it’s easier than you thinkThe topic of sex will come up at some point with men (if he raises it too early, this is a massive red flag in itself). How he responds to you bringing it up will also say a lot about him, as well. If you don’t feel comfortable bringing it up, watch out for the tells. Men who watch porn always give themselves away. Women just have to know and trust the signs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 03:16 AM |
| 21 | How to find out if a man watches porn: it’s easier than you thinkThis is why I said it’s important to word the question correctly. Asking “what porn do you watch?” makes them much more likely to be honest because it implies you watch porn as well. You don’t need to sleep with them to find out if they watch porn. Pornsick men give off cues long before then. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 03:14 AM |
| 76 | How to find out if a man watches porn: it’s easier than you thinkIt’s very, very, very unlikely he will stop watching porn once he’s in a relationship. So yes, if he watches porn when single, it’s a no-go. Porn is extremely addictive, and with the normalisation of it, so many men don’t even know they are addicted to it which is the first step to tackling an addiction. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 09:50 PM |
| 69 | How to find out if a man watches porn: it’s easier than you thinkI would say early on. You don’t want to waste your time with a pornsick man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 08:51 PM |
| 53 | What a HVM looks like: a personal case studyThis is why it makes me laugh when Scrotes come here crying about having to wait three months. Three months is nothing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 04:53 PM |
| 78 | What a HVM looks like: a personal case studyAlso, when it comes to porn, the best way to find out is just to ask him. Phrase it like “what porn do you watch?” Men who watch porn will spill their guts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 01:32 PM |
| 67 | What a HVM looks like: a personal case studyIt was a mix of the two. They both decided to wait until their wedding night. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 01:31 PM |
| 106 | What a HVM looks like: a personal case studyHe waited 7 years for sex with my sister, and never pestered her for it. My sister has free access to his phone as he does to hers and she’s never found any porn. He’s also said that he’s not interested in porn on Instagram models. Men who watch porn give off many, many tells. He’s given off none. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 12:45 PM |
| 17 | The Kardasians are the ultimate pickmeasBoth still prey on the insecurities of young women for profit and push very problematic agendas. Kylie encourages women to idolise a body that is unattainable without surgery. If she was honest about the work she has had done, I might have a smidgen more respect for her. But she gaslights people when called out and tries to put the dramatic changes down to “puberty” or her “period”. Not to mention the HUGE amounts of cultural/racial appropriation she engages in. She’s running a huge game, and sh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 10:01 AM |
| 20 | The Kardasians are the ultimate pickmeasIt’s possible to be a victim and a perpetrator. Belle and Kylie are making money off questionable actions, and they deserve criticism for that. They know exactly what they’re doing, they just do not care. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 08:07 AM |
| 22 | The Kardasians are the ultimate pickmeasBelle Delphine is two years younger than Kylie, yet gets dragged (rightfully so) for what she promotes. It’s one thing being a victim of patriarchy brainwashing, but it’s another thing entirely to prey in the insecurities of young women to make yourself a billionaire which Kylie has done. Nobody makes that much money whilst being naive about the impact they’re having on others. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 07:24 AM |
| 66 | Great take on Derrick Jaxn cheating scandalMy sister works in mental health, so she often refrains from diagnosing people with personality disorders/mental illness. When she watched Derrick’s video on this, she instantly called him a manipulative narcissist and it checks out. His use of religion to avoid taking any real responsibility for his actions. His video reacting to the video of him and his wife and making fun of her. The sense of grandiose that makes him believe that rules should apply to others but not him. Referring to himself … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/21 11:22 PM |
| 48 | LVM: if you follow FDS, you’ll stay single and die alone!!!Literally. I’m really missing out \s. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 12:27 AM |
| 119 | Uh-oh, the scrotes found our podcast Patreon and are BIG MAD. "How DARE those evil bitches monetize their own podcast!!!" Misogynists don't see any value in anything a woman does, so when women receive money in any way shape or form, they freak out and call it "scamming" "grifting" "a cult" etc.Men hate OnlyFans as well, because they feel entitled to women’s bodies and labour and think they should give it up for free. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 08:22 PM |
| 56 | Mind of a LVM - Ex Goes Off About Gifts 🙄“How is that so many people in past generations have long marriages?” Because women couldn’t leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 04:29 PM |
| 15 | You’re single!The Nigerian accent plus the sprinkling of Yoruba makes it so much funnier. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 04:11 PM |
| 58 | You’re single!I know a LVM at work who told me he would propose to women but have no intention of marrying them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 07:19 AM |
| 13 | Men engage in violence with other men in a whole different way than with women. With men, it's a "battle of the equals" where the other man is given a heads-up of what is about to happen. Women don't get a warning because men really don't see us as equals.True. It took me about a year before I realised what my ex did to me was rape, and someone else had to tell me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 07:17 AM |
| 17 | Men engage in violence with other men in a whole different way than with women. With men, it's a "battle of the equals" where the other man is given a heads-up of what is about to happen. Women don't get a warning because men really don't see us as equals.Yep. My ex-FWB raped me in my sleep. He also put his nasty cum in my mouth when I explicitly told him not to. He used to always guilt trip me when I wouldn’t swallow and say it’s hurtful “because I’m rejecting a part of him.” Eugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 07:15 AM |
| 177 | 💯% true for me.All my male friends are gay. And they’re pretty solid as allies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 09:14 PM |
| 50 | To the NAMALT brigadeNot All Men Are Like That. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 01:54 PM |
| 84 | For all the male redditors asking why women don’t approach first 😂😂This. I doubt Henry Cavil and Chris Hemsworth struggle to get women to make the first move. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 10:32 AM |
| 8 | Men get off on treating women like shit“men get off on treating women like shit.” The backbone of BDSM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 06:14 AM |
| 23 | The misunderstanding Men have with FDSIf I wanted a free dinner, I would just go and visit my parents. Moreover, getting ready for a date costs time and money. Men love to bang on about being visual creatures, yet a lot of them don’t seem to understand that looking good isn’t cheap. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 06:14 AM |
| 6 | HVM are not offended by FDSThis. I visited my sister and her husband yesterday, and I was sharing some of the stories from FDS. Her husband, who is a certified HVM, laughed along at some of the stories about LVM and even agreed with our stance. My sister says "men are trash" in front of him all the time, but he never gets offended because he knows it's not directed at him. The men who write essays in the comments and our DMs trying to tell us we are wrong are only exposing their low value. It's only hit dogs that holler. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 10:58 AM |
| 108 | Police disturbing peaceful vigil for Sarah Everard who’s suspected murderer is a Police officerLet’s not forget that the man on trial for Sarah’s murder is a cop. The police are not our friends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 08:17 AM |
| 7 | Woman makes a whole presentation to convince a guy to promote her to girlfriend..and this is how low he thinks of her. I'm in utter disbelief.If this was true, why didn’t he attach screenshots of the supposed PowerPoint? Red Pill is just full of liars who over embellish their attractiveness to women. They never provide screenshots/evidence of their exploits. Look at this sub - it’s full of receipts. I would bet good money this never happened, | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 12:00 PM |
| 61 | Coom Yourself Stupid, Brahs (COO of PornHub)He reminds me of Quasimodo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 08:33 AM |
| 9 | The majority of men WILL NOT do 50% of parentingPlease remove the name of the subreddit otherwise I will have to delete your comment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 05:45 PM |
| 20 | Why do men feel entitled to participate in spaces made for women?If I had a dollar for every time I have removed a comment from a man on this subreddit, even when the rules CLEARLY state this is a female-only space, I would have enough to retire. It's just plain audacity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 05:26 PM |
| 172 | This is the double bind society presents women with when we try to speak the truth about male pattern behaviour. If we call it out, it’s misandrist. But if we don’t call it out and end up getting harmed anyway, it’s our fault for not seeing the signs. Head men win, tails women lose. Again.Precisely this. Many people still don’t recognise rape. They think that rape is always a violent event, where the woman is dragged into a bush and attacked. Things like sexual coercion, guilt-tripping, overstepping boundaries are also rape, and this often happens in the context of a personal relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 12:40 PM |
| 0 | Piers Morgan Continues His Hate Obsession with Meghan MarkleI think any woman who marries into the royal family, an institution that is built on inequality and racism, is low value by default. Harry even said that if the Riyal family have supported them they wouldn’t have left, meaning they wouldn’t have cared about the racism and misogyny. Meghan is also saying that she didn’t do any research into the family before her marriage, which is just beyond stupid quite frankly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 09:01 AM |
| 22 | Piers Morgan Continues His Hate Obsession with Meghan MarkleAs a Black British woman who leans towards Meghan’s side, I have to say she hasn’t handled the entire affair well. Meghan should have know what she was getting into. Her British friends tried to warn her against dating Harry because the British press are so unforgiving. She didn’t listen. Meghan seems to want all the benefits of being a Royal without wanting to be part of it, and that’s just not really how it works. It seems like she believed that she would be the exception to the long establish… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 09:47 PM |
| 1 | Do FDS rules change for dating a celebrity?Please read the handbook. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 09:13 PM |
| 31 | Your eggs are worth THOUSANDS of dollars and sperm is almost WORTHLESS!Even sperm donor companies have height requirements. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 08:10 AM |
| 7 | The backlash that FDS gets, both on and off Reddit, proves that society is committed to keeping women in unsatisfactory relationships to the benefit of menThe even bigger irony is if those women took FDS’ advice they wouldn’t be stuck with their lazy, useless partner. Truth hurts, I guess. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 11:47 AM |
| 54 | The backlash that FDS gets, both on and off Reddit, proves that society is committed to keeping women in unsatisfactory relationships to the benefit of menAnd they call us a cult yet they ban people from their subreddits for commenting here. It’s a complete double standard. They’re allowed to ban users just for commenting on here, but when we ban opinions we don’t want we are toxic | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 06:35 PM |
| 18 | The backlash that FDS gets, both on and off Reddit, proves that society is committed to keeping women in unsatisfactory relationships to the benefit of menIt was meant to be sarcasm. Men know that they stand more to gain from heterosexual relationships than women. Which is why FDS gets so much backlash from men in particular | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 06:24 PM |
| 23 | The backlash that FDS gets, both on and off Reddit, proves that society is committed to keeping women in unsatisfactory relationships to the benefit of menThank you, love! And oh, the men have read it. And they’re mad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 06:20 PM |
| 30 | Men who lie about their careersI know that people can make serious money gaming, but like you say, they’re the top 1%. This dude was also working part time in a grocery store, so it was clear that he’s just a gamer. No thanks either way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 05:14 PM |
| 29 | The backlash that FDS gets, both on and off Reddit, proves that society is committed to keeping women in unsatisfactory relationships to the benefit of menThis! I don’t live with my parents, so anytime I come home my mom asks what I want to eat. She will make me anything I want because she’s so happy to see me. These Scrotes who really think I need to put up with their shitty company for a free dinner make me laugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 05:08 PM |
| 208 | The backlash that FDS gets, both on and off Reddit, proves that society is committed to keeping women in unsatisfactory relationships to the benefit of menBecause our movement is taking off. We’ve been around for some time, but it’s only now that people are starting to react negatively because we are gaining serious traction. Their attempts at marginalising us won’t work, though. FDS values go beyond Reddit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 03:19 PM |
| 32 | The backlash that FDS gets, both on and off Reddit, proves that society is committed to keeping women in unsatisfactory relationships to the benefit of menAt least Lurtz was 6’4 and muscular. Also, the actor who plays him, Laurence Makoare, is a dish. And the actor who plays Sauron, Sala Baker. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 03:03 PM |
| 60 | Men who lie about their careersThis happened to me. A guy said he was self-employed and when I asked what in, he said “Twitch” 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 02:48 PM |
| 12 | Pick me girl comes into my dms addressing a “misandrist” comment.It’s almost definitely still a man. A lot of them post in places they shouldn’t be pretending to be that demographic. Many men on Reddit pose as women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 01:47 PM |
| 22 | Pick me girl comes into my dms addressing a “misandrist” comment.What a fail of a LARP. Women don’t message women harassing them for holding views they don’t agree with. This is 100% a man. It’s unlikely a 13-year old would even know what misandry is (as it doesn’t exist). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 01:36 PM |
| 336 | Everyone’s attacking this woman. The pick me’s are saying if you love somebody it doesn’t matter if they make $1 a year. The scrotes are saying she needs to stop being a gold digger. I say.. she’s got the right idea!My sister and I were discussing this yesterday, and she made a very good point. If a man marries a woman who earns less than him, the man’s ability to progress in life won’t be hindered because he won’t have things like gender/childbirth/rearing etc holding him back. Whereas if a woman marries a man who earns less than her, it will severely kneecap her because she will STILL be held back because of her gender/giving birth/raising children. Marrying a man who cannot provide is just asking for a h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 04:12 PM |
| 14 | She didn't stutter!As someone who stutters, thank you so much for being gracious about your mistake. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 12:49 PM |
| 10 | Why do they call FDS female incels?If we were incels, this subreddit would be full of posts about how to get sex from men. Getting sex is clearly not our problem. Calling us female incels is just a slur that has no basis in reality. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 09:08 AM |
| 67 | Marriage is overrated as a woman, but society desperately tries to convince us otherwiseIf you’re sharing assets (like buying a house) or having children marriage affords you greater protections automatically if things go wrong. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 06:59 AM |
| 10 | FDS smashing through LVM and patriarchal bullshit like SauronPlease remove the name of the subreddit, otherwise I will have to delete your comment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 12:26 AM |
| 35 | There’s nothing empowering about OnlyFans. The consequences of engaging in sexual acts on camera always lie with the woman, which is unfair, but it’s the world we live in (sadly).Magdalen Berns said this...I miss her so much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 06:29 PM |
| 15 | That’s her 2nd one??She needs FDS ASAPThis woman needs to stop having kids. If you’re questioning whether someone would make a good father, or if the guy shows any signs of laziness, DO NOT PROCREATE WITH HIM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 06:27 PM |
| 7 | Making a man wait to have sex is a vetting strategy that has NOTHING to do with "purity culture"It’s still the same. How someone behaves as a friend is not always indicative of how someone will behave in a romantic relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 03:10 PM |
| 120 | Women being abused isn’t enough for men to quit watching porn.At least your ex admitted it, as shitty as he was. There are many men like your ex. Too many men. It’s so chilling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 12:09 PM |
| 435 | Women being abused isn’t enough for men to quit watching porn.I’ve said it before but I’ll say it again: men, as a class, lack empathy on a scale that many women cannot or refuse to comprehend. They are not moved by our suffering or pain. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 10:40 AM |
| 17 | Making a man wait to have sex is a vetting strategy that has NOTHING to do with "purity culture"Two months is nowhere near long enough to vet a man properly. I would urge you to re-read the handbook. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 08:03 AM |
| 36 | Making a man wait to have sex is a vetting strategy that has NOTHING to do with "purity culture"My sister made her HVM husband wait six years. It’s so laughable watching men have a meltdown when you suggest waiting past the first date. For the logical and rational gender, they really seem to have no self-control. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 07:58 AM |
| 36 | Why “50/50” is so often still unequal...Don’t buy into the number of copies his book has allegedly sold. It’s common knowledge that authors sometimes buy hundreds, if not thousands of copies of their own books so it does better in the best sellers lists. Authors have also been known to write their own reviews. A very trusted source told me this and after that I stopped reading (pardon the pun)! into bestselling lists. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 07:56 AM |
| 18 | I can receive a notification, see a part of the comment, and not even a MINUTE later:On our more ‘controversial’ posts (I.e the ones where the Scrotes get mad and start mass reporting for bullshit reasons, as opposed to just admitting to themselves that they feel called out), nothing makes me happier than being able to swing the ban hammer. I feel like Thor swinging Mjölner, or like Sauron when he swung his mace against the army of men/elves in the beginning of Lord of the Rings. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 04:59 PM |
| 169 | The audacity is off the charts. This is also why FDS advocates blocking and deleting men as soon as it’s done (NOTE: this screenshot was found on Twitter).He should have gone to a prostitute then. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 01:43 PM |
| 444 | The audacity is off the charts. This is also why FDS advocates blocking and deleting men as soon as it’s done (NOTE: this screenshot was found on Twitter).It’s less than that - $10. He literally took her to McDonald’s. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 12:35 PM |
| 789 | The audacity is off the charts. This is also why FDS advocates blocking and deleting men as soon as it’s done (NOTE: this screenshot was found on Twitter).Over three dates...meaning he spent around $10 per date 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 12:35 PM |
| 299 | The audacity is off the charts. This is also why FDS advocates blocking and deleting men as soon as it’s done (NOTE: this screenshot was found on Twitter).You should have sent him the bill for the time and products it took you to get ready. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 12:34 PM |
| 165 | Let’s talk about Instagram‘s affect on hook-up culture.Instagram is turning into Pornhub. I followed a lot of plus-size models for fashion inspo, but I can’t seem to scroll through my feed anymore without seeing someone in lingerie or fully naked. I think it’s really cheap attempts at validation. You can love your body without plastering it all over the internet for likes and comments. Plus, the issue with the body positivity movement that is so prevalent on Insta is that it’s just seeking to expand the definition of what men find attractive and fuc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 08:34 AM |
| 52 | If *men* didn't demand the service of sex workers, there would be no sex "work"Facts. They're also very deluded. They believe that these men actually respect them, when men themselves have said the only reason why they visit sex workers is so they can abuse her and do stuff they wouldn't dare doing to a wife or girlfriend. The way these tricks talk about women on forums would make you sick. They speak about sex workers as if they are less than animals. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 04:28 PM |
| 8 | The audacity. You have absolutely nothing to offer any woman. You are not genuine. Your partner would be better off without you and probably your daughter as well.That’s a lot of words to say “my worthless ass is looking for a side piece.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 07:04 PM |
| 6 | Relationships may take work and effort at times, but you should not be working and sacrificing just to get the BASICS (love, respect, consideration, etc). Know your line and what it will take for you to fold and walk away, and stick to it.At least you get money working for an angry boss and being paid minimum wage that pays your bills. Women who are fighting for basic respect and consideration in their relationship get absolutely nothing from doing it. In fact, it takes from them in so many ways. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 12:18 PM |
| 6 | Losing male friends left and rightWhat a dismissive asshole. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 05:56 AM |
| 17 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inis repulsed by women having body hair uses language such as “fucking”, “ravaging”, “destroying”, etc when referring to sex follows Insta models who are half naked In all honesty, the easiest way to find out if a guy is into porn is just to ask him. Phrase it like: “what porn are you into?” 10/10 porn watchers will tell on themselves instantly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 09:07 PM |
| 33 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inNot surprised at all. That subreddit should be called FDSTribute. Literally every other post on there is them whining about something that was posted here. It’s really interesting to see the difference between how women go their own way and men go their own way. The WGTOW sub rarely, if ever, talk about relationships with men. The sub is instead full of posts about how they can live a life separate from men. Meanwhile, MGTOWs are constantly complaining about women, even though they’ve, of their … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 09:03 PM |
| – | Gamers, porn addicts, misogynists, and ugly people are not legally protected classes 😑🤦♀️We are now up to 25 complaints on this post. Scrotes mad. EDIT: Now 28 complaints. EDIT: 30 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 07:17 AM |
| 20 | Be weary of men who intimidate you into not voicing your concerns in the relationship.This was my ex. I honestly felt like I was in North Korea when in conversation with him because he made so many topics off-limits. He even banned me from speaking about one of my male housemates in front of him because he was jealous that we got on really well. Really well written post. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 07:12 AM |
| 104 | Gamers, porn addicts, misogynists, and ugly people are not legally protected classes 😑🤦♀️It got 7. Scrotes mad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 10:06 PM |
| 66 | Why is Hair Pulling and Choking (aggression) in Sex the Assumed Norm w/o Consent?"It seems like many men feel the need to be aggressive just out of avoiding actual vulnerability." Bingo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 02:50 PM |
| 20 | The only worthwhile heterosexual relationships are where both people love each other, but the man loves the woman slightly more than she loves him.I remember my aunt telling me this years ago. I thought she was crazy and selfish, but she was absolutely correct. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 07:26 AM |
| 6 | Men on dating apps by and large will not take you seriously. Don't get hung up on it.This. Also, another advantage of OLD is that you can be as anonymous as you wish. If the situation goes bad, you can just block and delete. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 07:27 PM |
| 6 | Men on dating apps by and large will not take you seriously. Don't get hung up on it.My aunt met my uncle in real life. He cheats on her, beats her and gave her HIV which he caught from one of his side chicks. There is honestly no guarantees when it comes to men, which is why FDS encourages vetting for life. Vetting is way more important than where you met the guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 07:26 PM |
| 39 | Men on dating apps by and large will not take you seriously. Don't get hung up on it.Well said. Men have treated women poorly in relationships since the dawn of time. Our mothers, grandmothers, great-grandmothers etc all met low value men in real life. Granted, online dating makes the shit more visible, but that is largely because of exposure. The same men lurking on OLD are also the same men hitting us up in real life. Let's not get it twisted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 03:39 PM |
| 11 | Confirmed: We are the product."Men aren't looking for providers" LOL who wants to tell him? Men are the biggest gold diggers and moochers. Calling women gold diggers was just projection on men's part. Moreover, the idea that men are easygoing and low maintenance is a complete lie. Most men are a complete drain on a woman's finances and emotional, physical, mental energy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 11:18 AM |
| 4 | Do not feel bad for having physical standards - women deserve to be with a man they find physically attractiveAnother classic example of men's words and actions not matching up. Just because men say something, that doesn't mean it is grounded in any sort of truth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 10:52 AM |
| 5 | Female Dating Strategy subreddit doesn't offer any actual strategy to find and keep HMV (High Value Men)Men are getting it all twisted about what a HVM is on this thread, and I know why. If they think a HVM is all about looks, career, money and status, not only does it take the heat off them from trying to improve and do better, it also means they can dismiss what FDS is saying because we are "shallow bitches." FDS has said time and time again that money and career does not make a man high value (in fact, doctors have been spoken about on the sub as being one of the worst professions to date). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/21 09:05 AM |
| 7 | Do not feel bad for having physical standards - women deserve to be with a man they find physically attractiveWhen that song came out, Guthrie was slammed by Scrotes for being “too materialistic”. Can you imagine..Wanting to date a guy with a job was asking for too much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 06:51 AM |
| 13 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InHe dumped you because you wanted him to make an effort? Textbook definition of the trash taking itself out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 03:52 PM |
| 18 | Former Sex Worker Discusses Repulsive ClientsFor men, though, it isn’t just about sex. Men want to feel desirable. This is why men who pay for sex get annoyed when it’s clear the sex worker is only with them for the money. Yes, they want sex on tap, but they also want women, real women, to want them. A sex doll won’t change the fact that they’re not desirable, which is why even if sex dolls were a thing they wouldn’t be happy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 11:19 AM |
| 91 | Former Sex Worker Discusses Repulsive ClientsAnd men resent them for making them pay. Men believe they should get what a sex worker provides for free. That’s why even johns look down on sex workers. Their contempt becomes apparent when discussing relationships. Men who use sex workers/porn stars tend to not want to marry them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 11:07 AM |
| 24 | Former Sex Worker Discusses Repulsive ClientsHow can this be empowering? Being so desperate for money that you’re willing to sleep with someone you find physically repulsive. Stories like this are not uncommon. The way men see it, if they’re paying for sex work there is no incentive to make the experience pleasant for her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 11:06 AM |
| 69 | There are at least 5 things wrong with this that made it to a usually cute sub.I am not interested in dating a man who is broke. I come from a poor background, and I now earn a lot of money. I would never willingly get with a man who didn’t earn at least the same as me and end up going through a lifetime of hardship and struggle. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 08:42 AM |
| 20 | Do not feel bad for having physical standards - women deserve to be with a man they find physically attractiveI’m sure if we got the wife’s side of the story we would very quickly understand why a lot of them no longer want to fuck their husbands. When many men can’t even clean up after themselves, it’s no wonder their wife is put off sex. Nobody wants to have sex with their child. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 08:01 AM |
| 185 | Do not feel bad for having physical standards - women deserve to be with a man they find physically attractiveThe audacity that men have when it comes to women’s looks is off the scale. The same men saying that a woman isn’t hot enough are the same men who leave skid marks in their underwear and piss in bottles. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 09:08 PM |
| 30 | Do not feel bad for having physical standards - women deserve to be with a man they find physically attractivePersonally, I’ve never really experienced this. All the men I’ve been attracted to I have been attracted to from the jump. Then again, I’m also into guys who have a really nice voice, so for me attraction doesn’t only lie in how he looks physically. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 08:54 PM |
| 10 | The bar is so low, it isn’t even humanIt’s like men are trying to be as useless to women as possible, but then they’ll complain when women want nothing to do with them or find them easy to replace. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 08:02 PM |
| 160 | Do not feel bad for having physical standards - women deserve to be with a man they find physically attractiveLol, if that evoscrote was correct incels would not exist. Men try to tell themselves that looks don’t matter to women because they know they don’t measure up looks wise. It’s a cope/delusion of epic proportions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 07:57 PM |
| 13 | How lvms are created :(My mum literally asked me to take food upstairs to my brother who was working in his room the other day. I literally told her that I’m not his maid. He has a pair of working legs, so he can come downstairs and serve his own food. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 07:31 PM |
| 32 | The bar is so low, it isn’t even humanHumans are also one of only two mammals that have sex for pleasure. Comparing humans to animals is not only moronic, but they’ve been very selective. Notice how they never use the fact that the male of nearly every other species on earth goes to great lengths to impress the female as a reason for them to make more effort. Social systems being “primarily funded by men” doesn’t negate the fact that social systems are mainly upheld by women. If every single woman around the world went on a labour s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 07:24 PM |
| 257 | Oh really? Hmm.. you don’t say?This is literally all the men on a certain subreddit. A man being taller than me is a standard that I will not change. Men can cry about it and say “I CaN AsK AbOuT WEight TheN”, but a) them rejecting women for their weight won’t make them more desirable and b) weight looks different on different people and body shapes. Two people can weigh exactly the same yet look very different. 5’4 is still 5’4. EDIT: grammar and to remove identifying info. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 07:02 PM |
| 47 | Valentine's Day Postmortem Discussion Thread: Did your man disappoint you on Valentine's Day? Comment your story below!Girl, no. This guy is not it. There’s no “going with the flow” when it comes to men and dating - if he wanted, he would have. Drop him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 09:49 AM |
| 12 | A lot of “Doms” in bed are really just sexually selfish men who use the presence of a dynamic to justify not having to care about their partner’s sexual pleasure.This subreddit is anti-kink and anti-BDSM because both do not centre women. There is no such thing as “good Dom”, and it’s a typical fallacy the BDSM community uses when they’re confronted with bad behaviour. Rather than stand with the victim (who are almost always women), they’re told “he’s not a real Dom if he abused you!”. This doesn’t make sense because BDSM is predicated on the abusing women, regardless of if said abuse is “consensual” or not. This is why there is no such thing as a high-va… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 06:46 AM |
| 137 | A lot of “Doms” in bed are really just sexually selfish men who use the presence of a dynamic to justify not having to care about their partner’s sexual pleasure.It’s disgusting how men’s orgasms are seen as mandatory whilst women’s orgasms are seen as optional. I’m so sorry you went though that, and I’m glad you kicked his selfish, useless ass to the curb. Women really don’t have to put up with bad sex. I remember when my ex-FWB said I should be grateful that he ate me out at all (during our three years he ate me out maybe four time. Meanwhile, he would expect blowjobs every time we had sex). The guy I hooked up with after we split up went down on me wi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 07:40 PM |
| 66 | COSMO wants y’all to know that Armie Hammer’s Cannibalism Fetish isn’t the problem here and people are “distorting” it. Because nothing screams “safe and sane” like Cannibalism Play.“But maybe I shouldn’t be surprised that the topic of consent got lost in the tabloid shuffle—it’s not something that people outside of BDSM are very good at.” What a fucking idiot. The BDSM world is FULL of stories from women who have had their consent violated. The BDSM community are the ones who understand consent the least. Because if they did they would recognise that choices are not made ina vacuum. If they understood consent, they wouldn’t make “kinkshaming” a bad thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 03:24 PM |
| 22 | Man sleeps with over 400 women and it broke his sexuality. I think it’s not just porn that’s the problem...In my experience, promiscuous men tend to be quite empty and lonely. Sex is supposed to an intimate act, but if you can give it up for any body in a skirt, you’re losing the ability to experience the true essence of it. I would avoid dating an overly promiscuous man. To me it’s a telltale sign of porn sickness and attachment and intimacy issues. No thanks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 07:24 PM |
| 61 | Reddit is out of their minds. Her husband hit her and the comments are telling her it's okay because she said something rude to him.This is beyond sad. I couldn’t even read all of it. She’s being conditioned for abuse. A quick read of Lundy Bancroft’s ‘Why Does He Do That’ will show stories like this don’t have a happy ending. Every abused woman in history once thought the abuse would stop because the man apologised. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 07:13 PM |
| 341 | "FDS needs to be shut down because they are body-shaming men!" lmao OKAY LIL' BITCH, welcome to our world!I’ve seen men body shame women for having a single scar on one of her breasts. I’ve been men body shame women for not being thin enough, thick enough, tall enough, short enough, dark enough, light enough, boobs too big, boobs too small. There is not a single part of a woman’s body that isn’t picked apart by men on a regular basis. Society bodyshames women so much they’ve built numerous multi-billion dollar industries that capitalise on our insecurities. The body thats most in fashion for women c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 01:16 AM |
| 26 | When you have kids with a manchild, you are literally taking away resources from your children. It is child abuse to have kids with a man if you know he is immature, lazy, selfish, needy, and/or insecure.Nail and head. I no longer feel bad for women who procreate with shitty men. It’s selfish and foolish. I feel sorry for the kids. Your choice of partner can affect multiple generations. Seeing women over at a certain sub complain incessantly about how their partner is useless without doing anything about it (I.e leave!) infuriates me. Because it’s not just them who are suffering. Children know what an unhealthy relationship dynamic is, even if they can’t verbalise it. Pro creating with a low val… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 09:50 AM |
| 188 | Being single is not an insultA wise lady once told me that men are like buses. Another one always comes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 04:19 PM |
| 52 | This post on the front page makes me want to barfWhen talking about "divorce rape", why do men never mention the countless women who have been financially screwed over by a divorce? Britney Spears, Adele, J-Lo and Halle Berry are just a few who come to mind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 07:21 PM |
| 24 | Woman asks if it’s acceptable for her boyfriend to want to split the cost of her ENGAGEMENT RING. The highest voted comment is just sad. 50/50 is always a scam.This was posted six years ago, so it might be a bit late... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 06:07 PM |
| 1 | I am so glad that more and more women are realising that casual sex is a complete scam for women.I have African heritage and twerking is the norm here. At parties, everybody twerks: men, women, young, old. It's the same as the shuffle here. It annoys me how this dance move has become so sexualised, when that was never its intention. Even in Africa, which is home to some of the most misogynistic societies on earth, it is not viewed through a wholly sexual lens. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 11:51 AM |
| 9 | On Ethical Self-Preservation: is it okay to fundamentally distrust men?It honestly pains me when people (usually women!) use the Bible to justify putting up with shitty behaviour from men. The Bible doesn’t encourage this at all. It constantly states the importance of being wise when it comes to choosing friends, for example. And you’re so right about the Child of God comment. Jesus even said that judgement will start from the Church. If Jesus is willing to send people to Hell for being shit human beings, why should we tolerate their shitty behaviour? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 10:22 AM |
| 34 | I feel so badly for this womanThis is why it’s not always good to tell a man what expectations need to be met before something happens (like sex, a relationship or marriage). Some men will use this information to shapeshift into everything you want for as long as it takes for them to get it. The classic bait-and-switch. Now he knows she won’t go anywhere, he’s reverted back to his default setting. This woman needs to leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 08:34 AM |
| 53 | On Ethical Self-Preservation: is it okay to fundamentally distrust men?I am not sure if you are a Christian, but the Bible actively encourages discernment when it comes to personal relationships. Jesus found cheating so abhorrent he made it grounds for divorce, yet you get church PickMes wanting to work through repeatedly being cheated on. In Proverbs, it says: “as a dog goes back to its own vomit, so a fool repeats their stupidity.” Being wary of men, especially when you know the statistics when it comes to issues like the level of crime they commit and how they t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 10:10 PM |
| 57 | Nikki Bella thinks it’s cute that she will “always be tied” to John Cena - a man who publicly strung her along for six years and then married the next woman almost immediately. 🤡 there’s nothing honourable about staying in contact with a LVM. Block and delete ALWAYS.That proposal was definitely staged for their reality show. Cena said he didn’t like his relationship being on screen. I doubt Cena’s wife would have cared, as John hasn’t said he feels the same about Nikki. Which is why she looks so stupid saying it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 11:05 AM |
| 14 | "You're being sex negative!" is so insulting to women. True sex positivity for women is impossible to achieve in a patriarchal world. Requiring women to be "sex positive" before dismantling patriarchy is such a "fuck you" to women.Very well said. I hate how sex positivity and sexual liberation has become synonymous with casual sex. To me, engaging in sex that does not satisfy you on every single level is the opposite of sexual liberation - it's sexual conformity. Being truly sex positive means understanding how society has turned sex into activity that primarily benefits men. Compare the number of articles that teach women how to give blowjobs to the number of articles written to teach men how to go down on a woman. I als… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 10:36 AM |
| 38 | Nikki Bella thinks it’s cute that she will “always be tied” to John Cena - a man who publicly strung her along for six years and then married the next woman almost immediately. 🤡 there’s nothing honourable about staying in contact with a LVM. Block and delete ALWAYS.https://www.thesun.co.uk/sport/13191115/wwe-nikki-bella-john-cena-baby/ Nikki is just projecting. She clearly still loves John, but I doubt Cena is tied to her in the same way especially as he has now married someone else. It's embarrassing watching her still pine after him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 09:09 AM |
| 17 | This is how men act as “sex work” becomes more prevalent. They don’t respect “sex workers”, they disrespect all women.I’ve seen men try to get nudes of Instagram models. As in, they say stuff like “I hope her nudes get leaked.” Their depravity and entitlement knows no bounds. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 02:51 PM |
| 45 | Don’t let pity get you into a relationship, it’ll bite you on the ass.Dr Jessica Taylor also made the point that if childhood trauma was the reason behind an adult becoming an abusive criminal, women would be committing violent crime at a much higher rate than men. Women are more likely to be the victims of childhood trauma, yet they don’t offend as adults at the same rate as men. The stats are not even close. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 08:49 PM |
| 42 | The housework user typeI stay away from men who are self-proclaimed feminists. They only say they are so they can justify using women for porn and sex and splitting the bill. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 08:12 PM |
| 7 | "Men aren't providers" - another effeminate dust particle who thinks he's the prizeThis dude was really like: “I got my own crib...errr..well, I share it with a family member of mine.” I stopped watching after that. 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 08:33 AM |
| 18 | Man’s idea of clean is actually super messy. Avoid men who cannot take care of their living space, even when nobody else will see it. His home should be kept tidy regardless of whether a guest is coming over.He’s too busy playing vidya (the guy was trying to comment here, and when I looked at his profile he was a gamer). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 07:52 AM |
| 50 | Man’s idea of clean is actually super messy. Avoid men who cannot take care of their living space, even when nobody else will see it. His home should be kept tidy regardless of whether a guest is coming over.He tried to comment on this post and I peeped his profile. He’s a gamer 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 04:56 AM |
| 111 | Man’s idea of clean is actually super messy. Avoid men who cannot take care of their living space, even when nobody else will see it. His home should be kept tidy regardless of whether a guest is coming over.The man who wrote the comment has been trying to comment on this post. I’m sure it will come as a shock to absolutely nobody here that he’s a gamer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 04:54 AM |
| 11 | Women exist only for male pleasure...🤢🤢There’s entire threads on Reddit about men loudly proclaiming that they don’t find twerking sexy. Who told these men that women twerk to attract them? As much as twerking as been sexualised in the West, in Africa twerking is seen as just another dance move. The audacity these men have to think that a random woman twerking is doing it just to make your peepee hard is just insane. It’s so hard for men to comprehend that women don’t exist solely for their pleasure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 02:25 AM |
| 26 | Armand Hammer: textbook case of the 'woke' LVM narcissist.Most women don’t even know what it means to be a feminist, and the movement is for them. Liberal feminism is just patriarchy 2.0. Most of these male “feminists” are only interested in liberal feminism because it justifies their porn use and using women for casual sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 02:21 AM |
| 40 | When men say they’re scared of being used for a money or a “free meal.” Meanwhile women are expected to cook and provide actual free meals and so much more 🤦♀️It costs me more to get ready for a date than the meal itself. Plus, it’s cheaper for me to order a takeout by myself. At least then I won’t also have to endure shitty conversation and a man who thinks he’s done the most by paying £30 for a meal. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 02:15 AM |
| 140 | Man’s idea of clean is actually super messy. Avoid men who cannot take care of their living space, even when nobody else will see it. His home should be kept tidy regardless of whether a guest is coming over.Yep. If after hours of cleaning his place is still a mess, then his place must be filthy. These are the kinds of relationships that end up on a certain sub for breaking moms. His messiness might be cute now they’re not living together, but if they move in and have kids together, sis will realise that his messiness is a huge liability. This is how it starts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 02:09 AM |
| 9 | Woman is violently assaulted/raped by a Dom. The comments tell her she should have spoken up and stopped it. FDS gets a ton of heat for opposing BDSM, but it’s a world that is an a misogynist and abuser’s playground.Agreed. It’s so he has plausible deniability it was rape. She must have been giving off other cues that she was uncomfortable, and judging by the way he literally ambushed her, this guy is a practiced predator. He wasn’t asking if she was okay because he genuinely cared about her. If he cared about her, he wouldn’t have treated her that way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 12:55 PM |
| 62 | Opinion on marriage and our surname (last name)The requirement and expectation that a woman should change her name upon marriage just exposes the patriarchal aim of marriage. I plan on keeping my surname. Don’t let anyone convince you that changing your surname upon marriage is necessary. In many cultures, it’s not the norm for women to change her last name. In some cultures within Western Europe, for example, the child takes the father and mother’s surname. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 10:26 AM |
| 103 | Woman is violently assaulted/raped by a Dom. The comments tell her she should have spoken up and stopped it. FDS gets a ton of heat for opposing BDSM, but it’s a world that is an a misogynist and abuser’s playground.The victim blaming made me sick. This “Dom” knew exactly what he was doing. People give off non-verbal cues when they are uncomfortable, so him just asking is not enough. If women don’t put out ASAP, we are called prudes and accused of weaponising sex. If we do put out and it goes wrong, we get told “you should have said something” or “you should have vetted harder.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 10:06 AM |
| 13 | Saw multiple men repost this on FB - especially the "if I'm giving her (money), she giving me money" took me out... What's your take on that ladies?This dude is broke. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 09:20 PM |
| 10 | It's time for women to start thinking about equity instead of equalityI think with sports it has to do with funding and sponsorships. Women’s sports aren’t given as much funding as men’s sports, and they often don’t have the same amount of viewership. I do believe female athletes should be paid equitably and be giving a fair viewing. It’s unfair to say that nobody would watch women’s sports if they’re never on at times when most people are watching TV. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 09:17 PM |
| 29 | It's time for women to start thinking about equity instead of equalityA couple makes a joint decision to have children. Is it an equal decision? Yes. Is it equitable? No. The woman will bear the brunt of pregnancy and child rearing, as well as all the setbacks to her career and loss of potential earnings. A man has never been dismissed from his job for having a child, whereas women have. I used this childbirth example because so many women don’t think of this. By choosing to procreate with a man, they’re literally setting themselves back in so many aspects. Some w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 08:21 PM |
| 31 | I was the "forever fiance"A LV co-worker once told me that he has proposed to so many women despite having no intention of actually marrying any of them. As always, actions matter. Saying you want to marry someone is one thing. Actually committing to someone and following through is another. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 12:21 PM |
| 13 | Oversharing as a false way to make yourself think you have a connection with a dateI remember when a guy I was seeing asked me what my insecurities are in our first conversation. Why he needed to know that is beyond me, but I replied with "none." That information is for me and my therapist. It's so creepy that he wanted to know that so early on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 08:59 AM |
| 103 | That's on that - period.You were the one who chose to put your business on a public platform, and because you didnt get the reaction you wanted, you're salty. FDS isn't here to coddle women who make shady choices. A quick read of the handbook would tell you that your boyfriend is not serious about you, but if you want to keep believing that you'll be the exception to the established rules around male commitment, then go ahead. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 08:45 AM |
| 89 | That's on that - period.Busy people still know what they want when they date. Busy is a flimsy excuse for people who don't want to commit. Doctors and surgeons date with intention to commit all the time. Men are never hesitant to call a woman their girlfriend/wife when it's the woman they want to commit to. But you do you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 08:36 AM |
| 129 | That's on that - period.It sounds like your boyfriend only told you what you wanted to hear. He went from not liking labels to being in love with you in the space of 24 hours? Nah, sis. You're being played. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 08:24 AM |
| 209 | Dumped Him For Suggesting That I Pay Rent to Temporarily Stay at His HouseGood on you for walking away. Dan’s suggestion that you pay half his mortgage is not fair at all because you’re helping him pay off an asset that only he will Own. Will be put you on the deed? Or give you a cut of the equity if he sells and it’s worth more? No. He’s using “equality” to try and exploit you into doing something that only benefits him. This is why women need to stop talking about equality and start talking about equity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 06:35 AM |
| 3 | LVM are not a prize, they are the pipeline to women's poverty. Financial, social, physical, mental, spiritual and generational poverty.Also, just to give an example of how hitching your wagon to a LVM can destroy your life: my aunt married my uncle despite my mum (my uncle's sister) warning her not to. My uncle cheated and beat his wife and has now given her HIV. My aunt is still with my uncle, but he has given her an incurable disease because he couldn't stop sleeping around. And he hasnt so much as apologised. When my mum gets on at me about finding a husband, I always use her brother as an example of how rushing into marriag… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 12:07 PM |
| 2 | LVM are not a prize, they are the pipeline to women's poverty. Financial, social, physical, mental, spiritual and generational poverty.Well said. So many women don't realise that our choice of life partner can literally change our life trajectory for better or worse. It is not a decision that should be taken lightly. Just because a man is not outright abusive towards you that does not mean he is positively adding to your life. And if a man is not adding positively to your life, he is subtracting and you are being robbed of so many opportunities to better yourself physically, financially, emotionally and mentally because you are… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 11:51 AM |
| 22 | Woman dumps her partner of 13 years after finding out he watches porn. Comments tell her she’s overreacting. Ladies, you do not have to accept porn in your relationships!Women feel shame about these things because society tells us to feel ashamed. The difference is that porn is peddled as being normal and natural. Menstruating, liking certain colours and having girly hobbies are stigmatised, but porn isn’t. Yet, people still feel shame when they watch porn. So much so they hide it from their intimate partner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 09:45 AM |
| 26 | Woman dumps her partner of 13 years after finding out he watches porn. Comments tell her she’s overreacting. Ladies, you do not have to accept porn in your relationships!Yeah, she’s a pickme. Unfortunately, a LOT of female relationship and sex columnists are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 06:49 AM |
| 6 | Creepy scrote laments that “giving leads to disappointment” because the young women he wanted to prey on under the guise of “Mentorship” sniffed him out. Men, if you’re “doing something nice” to get something out of it, it’s not something nice.Where did he say this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 10:21 PM |
| 189 | Woman dumps her partner of 13 years after finding out he watches porn. Comments tell her she’s overreacting. Ladies, you do not have to accept porn in your relationships!This is literally what I thought when I was reading it. The cognitive dissonance is shocking. On the one hand, porn is natural and normal. On the other, he’s ashamed to watch it. Both statements cannot be true. We feel a sense of shame when we know what we are doing is wrong. We don’t feel shame if, like you rightfully said, what you’re doing is fine. I don’t feel shame for brushing my teeth or washing my hair. Why do they try and peddle the idea that porn is normal but also shameful? they know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 10:17 PM |
| 106 | Remember: in nature, the greatest accomplishment that a male animal can ever hope to achieve is mating with a female. It's time we human women recognize our power over men, and start acting accordingly.This explains why so many men feel worthless if they’re unable to obtain sex. It explains why so many men revel in their promiscuity. It’s why so many men see nothing wrong with lying on their mother’s grave to trick a woman into sleeping with them. It’s why they see nothing wrong with stringing a woman along for years in a non-commital relationship if it means they can get pussy on tap. Men are obsessed with sex. Rather than slang pussy to the local fuckboy (thanks for this, FDS!), we need to u… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 10:15 PM |
| 1 | Creepy scrote laments that “giving leads to disappointment” because the young women he wanted to prey on under the guise of “Mentorship” sniffed him out. Men, if you’re “doing something nice” to get something out of it, it’s not something nice.The scrote deleted the post, but here are some extracts kindly lifted from another subreddit. “But this week I was back to my old ways, offering help to people who didn’t want it. And I got burned hard. One young woman I had personally hand picked as my next intern. We had chatted over video in the past and I admired her. I even referred her to a friend of mine in the industry. So naturally, when it came time to hire someone, I was excited. She would be a mentee and a worker. She would see me an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 07:33 PM |
| 11 | Creepy scrote laments that “giving leads to disappointment” because the young women he wanted to prey on under the guise of “Mentorship” sniffed him out. Men, if you’re “doing something nice” to get something out of it, it’s not something nice.Jon Tessser, LinkedIn “influencer”. He was basically complaining that the women he wanted to mentor/set up with jobs weren’t interested in anything more. He expects his mentees (who are unsurprisingly ALL young women aged 18-35) to provide him with oodles of support and attention, even though that is the antithesis of a healthy mentor/mentee relationship. In short, he’s a trash human being who is trying to prey on young women under the guise of helping them out with their career. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 06:51 PM |
| 65 | Creepy scrote laments that “giving leads to disappointment” because the young women he wanted to prey on under the guise of “Mentorship” sniffed him out. Men, if you’re “doing something nice” to get something out of it, it’s not something nice.“Things have only gotten marginally better lately. I have mentees, and those mentees know that a big part of their role is to equally support me as much as I support them. They’re good with this arrangement and so we have wonderful relationships.” This guy is terrifying. A mentee is not supposed to “equally” support the mentor. The dynamic is inherently unequal. And the fact all of his mentees are young women tells me this guy is just exploiting the mentor/mentee dynamic for his own personal gai… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 12:30 PM |
| 109 | Creepy scrote laments that “giving leads to disappointment” because the young women he wanted to prey on under the guise of “Mentorship” sniffed him out. Men, if you’re “doing something nice” to get something out of it, it’s not something nice.He has no concept of what an appropriate mentor/mentee relationship is supposed to be. I’ve been on both sides, and it’s first and foremost a professional relationship. As a mentor, expecting emotional support and validation from your mentee is super inappropriate and an abuse of power. If I’m mentoring someone in their career, I don’t expect them to have deep feelings for me as a person. This dude is clearly using Mentorship as a way to get closer to young women he knows wouldn’t give him the t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 12:27 PM |
| 79 | Creepy scrote laments that “giving leads to disappointment” because the young women he wanted to prey on under the guise of “Mentorship” sniffed him out. Men, if you’re “doing something nice” to get something out of it, it’s not something nice.The creepiness gets even worse. In this article, Jon admits to helping women aged 18-25 with their career because they are young: https://mahler101.medium.com/why-i-work-with-young-professionals-a20ff7d07a8d | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 11:39 AM |
| 8 | Bets on how many times she told him not to drag dirt in after she mopped? And ofc hes upset that she didnt immediately praise him for doing the bare minimum and "letting her sleep in"... Sure her outburst was mean but it sounds like pent up frustration to me wonder which parts he left out 🤔Notice how this guy is downplaying the fact he ignored a very explicit instruction from his wife to keep the house clean. Why didn’t he think to wear slippers outside when he was on the patio and take them off before he got in the house? I’ll tell you why: it’s because he doesn’t value his wife’s contributions at all. He’s crowing that he cooked breakfast and cleaned up after himself, even though that really shouldn’t be a big deal. It sounds like this dude is deliberately leaving a lot of the c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 07:50 AM |
| 17 | I can't have ANY male friendsWhat has helped me a lot is referring to the male people I get along with in my life as "acquaintances." I can joke around and have catch-ups with them, but I don't consider them friends in the traditional sense. I feel like people use the term "friends" too loosely. If this person wouldn't be there for you in an emergency in any meaningful way, then they are not a friend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 09:49 AM |
| 18 | Asking for advice on Reddit hurts and confuses womenThis is why I am so grateful for this sub. Women will always be prioritised here. That's also the reason why this sub makes Reddit so mad - we don't give men the benefit the doubt. Reddit, even the so called "female-only" subreddits spend way too much time giving men airtime, as if men don't dominate every other conversation on the planet. The worst example of this was when rapists were invited to explain why they raped a woman. Too many comments were sympathising with the fucking rapist, as opp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 08:57 AM |
| 10 | Understand? YoU’rE sOcIoPaThS, nOt NoRmAL!!You know, sometimes I wish that us women would organise and start watching/sharing/subscribing to our own porn. Porn that consists of hot, buff, wealthy, tall, attractive men who are sexually competent and generous. I can guarantee that porn would be declared a public health crisis, because men’s feelings would be so hurt, and they would move to censor it. Men are way more insecure about their looks and what they have to offer than women, despite the narrative being that us women are insecure. A… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 08:31 AM |
| 3 | Ladies, how much do men you date tend to spend on you, per month, during the early phase?She didn’t tell him. He even said he doesn’t know the exact amount, which makes me think he snooped online. It’s very easy to get a ballpark of what someone is earning thanks to sites like Glassdoor. He could have even googled the company she works for and found out her salary that way. Some companies are transparent about salaries in the job description. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 11:56 AM |
| 3 | Ladies, how much do men you date tend to spend on you, per month, during the early phase?She didn’t tell him. He said doesn’t know exactly how much she makes, so it’s likely he went on Glassdoor or Indeed and snooped. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 11:51 AM |
| 4 | Ladies, how much do men you date tend to spend on you, per month, during the early phase?“I’m seeing a woman who makes more money than I do, and our dates are starting to make my pockets hurt.” Next sentence: “I can afford it.” The math ain’t mathin’, Nigel. If you could afford it, you wouldn’t be writing anonymously on the internet complaining about it. People who can afford things comfortably don’t complain about the price. 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 05:41 AM |
| 13 | Why Does the Porn Industry Get Away With Racist Portrayals of Black People?I raised this issue with a (white) sex worker when she came onto this sub defending sex work. Her response? “Racism is a society problem, and every industry has racism, therefore it’s not a sex work problem.” 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 05:33 AM |
| 204 | Random Things That Are An Immediate Swipe LeftA picture with his middle finger up, or any other form of crude gesture. A bathroom selfie. Zero pics that show his teeth. Selfies from very bad angles. EDIT: forgot one. If they say anything like “I’m 6’2 because that apparently that matters”, that’s a hard swipe. Height does matter to some women, and I don’t appreciate the passive aggressive shaming, even if they are 6’2. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 05:13 AM |
| 8 | A question to FDS members: why do you think there are women who are against FDS?https://www.thefemaledatingstrategy.com/post/men-have-no-clue-why-women-even-bother | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 05:07 AM |
| 210 | A question to FDS members: why do you think there are women who are against FDS?I think it’s a combination of factors. The first, and perhaps most important factor, is societal conditioning. Society trains women to settle for less in their relationships pretty much from birth. All the Disney films centre around a HVW settling for a LVW and living happily ever after, even when that man is a literal beast (you know the film I’m talking about). Society tells women to put themselves last, and men take full advantage of this. Conversely, men are not raised to be good partners. F… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 08:02 PM |
| 13 | Hot Tip: If you have to consult Google to see if his behavior is okay, it's time to dump him, sis.Well said, Average. Too many women, myself included, spend way too much time trying to psychoanalyze and come to terms with men's poor behaviours. You are absolutely right when you say that he is not doing the same for you. The time spent trying to figure out how to make it work with LVM is time that is much better spent elsewhere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 05:38 PM |
| 31 | Hot Tip: If you have to consult Google to see if his behavior is okay, it's time to dump him, sis.I see red flags and dealbreakers as the same thing. Stop and do not proceed. Red is normally a sign of danger anywhere else. When the light goes red, you don't keep driving unless you want to end up in a terrible car crash. The same thought process should apply when dating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 05:37 PM |
| 80 | Men never fail to disappoint...I have big boobs, and I get this question all the time. You’re right, there’s no acceptable way to ask such a question. Especially when men don’t know anything about boobs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 06:12 PM |
| 128 | Exclusive but not in a relationship...seems like not a good ideaThis is a big, big yikes. I’ve been in her situation before, and I wish someone told me I was wasting my time. She’s right though: he doesn’t care about her. He’s stringing her along. Exclusive but not together arrangements only benefit men who want to keep their options open whilst they reap the benefits of a relationship (usually, this means they feel they can not wear a condom). Girl needs to leave him behind ASAP and focus on her career. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 06:07 PM |
| 40 | Translation: I want a f@$k and hopefully this is enough to hook you in (asked what he was looking for lmao)It’s crazy how men have invented thousands of phrases to say that they want sex with no commitment. I would respect them more if they were honest. It’s the shameless use of language to manipulate unsuspecting women that gets me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 11:23 AM |
| 21 | If you catch feelings easily, this might help! Stay strong! >:)I agree with this, but I would also add that you should never tell him your views first. Let him tell you first. That way he is less likely to lie and tell you what you want to hear. Men have always said I am easy to talk to, but that's because I am very good at allowing people to just talk. I did a course in counselling skills that really developed my active listening skills, and this is key to getting accurate information from someone. Most men, when given the chance, will tell you everything … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 03:38 PM |
| 64 | Reminder that the idea of “withholding sex” isn’t real because sex isn’t something anyone is entitled to get.I would take the stories from men on Dead Bedrooms with a pinch of salt. A few of the posters have been busted for lying. The most memorable one was from a man who complained his wife didn’t put out, only he neglected to mention that she had just been through a traumatic birth and nearly died because of it. The sub only found out when the wife made an account and told her side of the story. After that, I haven’t believed a word that comes from the mouth of these men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 08:23 AM |
| 16 | “You have to have a house and a job to have a relationship? I’m the stay-at-home dad type though.” This one made me holler 😂😂😂This is so true. It’s funny how if a woman can’t cook, clean or take care of herself that would go against her massively, but men expect women to overlook the fact they’re broke and unemployed. Your output is, to some degree, a reflection of your internal drive and values. Nobody’s saying you have to be a millionaire. But holding down a job is the bare minimum. The BAREST of MINIMUMS. And men complain about having to do that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 09:00 PM |
| 52 | “You have to have a house and a job to have a relationship? I’m the stay-at-home dad type though.” This one made me holler 😂😂😂Why do these men think they can get women when they have absolutely nothing to offer except audacity? Props to this woman for being so gracious, but wow, the nerve of this man. And he tried to go down the “she’s a gold digger” route when he’s the one who is trying to mooch accomodation from her in exchange for a meal. I am so glad she dodged this hobosexual. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 07:02 PM |
| 31 | I don’t even know where to begin with this one. Not only do gamers make terrible partners, they also make terrible housemates.I didn’t even notice that. It’s truly a house of (dirty) horror. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 06:03 PM |
| 50 | FDS Principles Are Essential to Professional Success In a Man's WorldAll the women I know who are absolutely smashing their careers are single/have never married. That is so, so telling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 06:50 PM |
| 20 | Think long and hard before dating a gamer😂😂I clicked on this post for the comments. I was not disappointed. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 01:24 PM |
| 38 | I want to puke. His dad makes fap material of him and his barely legal girlfriend and he "doesn't know what to do".My soul has left my body. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 01:23 PM |
| 34 | This is so disturbing. Who even thinks like this?Please don't let this ruin your day! Like Saeyato said, we are here to support you. As much as Reddit likes to make us out to be an extremist subreddit, there are millions of people, men and women, who agree with our message. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 07:11 PM |
| 55 | This is so disturbing. Who even thinks like this?Sex work is legal where I live, yet rape and sexual assault still happens on a frightening scale. Men seeing sex workers is an extension of their feelings of entitlement to women's bodies. It's not a substitute for it. Moreover, many men, including those who see sex workers, hate the idea of paying for sex. It fuels their hatred for women even more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 07:09 PM |
| 240 | LVM coerces woman into sex while sick and then calls her a disgusting pig when she voms on him. Because she was SICK.Him calling her a disgusting pig is not her biggest problem. He values blowing his load over his wife's health and comfort. He sexually coerced by making her feel bad for saying no. This story absolutely disgusted me. She needs to leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 07:05 PM |
| 1 | AhahahahahahahaAn appropriate response would have been something like "oh, that's cool". Basically, anything that was not about what he personally found appealing. Because it was not about him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 06:48 PM |
| 25 | Any man who aspires to be a “house husband” (even joking) is LVMYikes, sis. I am so sorry you went through that, but I am even happier you are getting out! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 06:28 PM |
| 46 | Any man who aspires to be a “house husband” (even joking) is LVMThis. I once told a guy I was seeing that I want to become a diplomat. The spouses of diplomats have limitations on how/where they can seek employment, so many spouses end up being a stay-at-home. This guy instantly started sharing dreams of how he will stay at home. This skeeved me out, because for many people, the thought of not being able to work would cause distress, not relief. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 06:27 PM |
| 7 | Just broke up with an otherwise HVM due to porn use...True. I can't believe I was actually looking forward to sleeping with him. His response when I was skeeved out about the low frequency of his tests was to say he could tell who might have something by using common sense. Because everyone who has an STI/STD looks a certain way. Okay, Mark. I thank God every single day that it never happened. Even though he swore he had never caught anything before, I would have been a fool to believe him. Probably the worst part was he prided himself on not even … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 09:12 PM |
| 8 | Just broke up with an otherwise HVM due to porn use...It's because it's all they have seen in porn. It was interesting how this guy didn't wax himself. He told me he only shaved/trimmed. So, by his own definition, his dick was dirty, or at least not the cleanest it could be. This dude was sexually active (had random anal at a house gathering), but thought it was enough to get tested once a year. And he had the gall to call women's pubic hair dirty. Good on you for sticking to what makes you happy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 09:06 PM |
| 12 | Just broke up with an otherwise HVM due to porn use...Or if they ask if you got wet whilst giving them a blowjob. If a man mentions squirting, that's another tell. Most of the time, when women "squirt", it's actually urine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 09:03 PM |
| 32 | Just broke up with an otherwise HVM due to porn use...Men who watch porn have very obvious tells. If he exhibits any of the following behaviour, the chances are he's a porn user: Is grossed out by women's body hair. One guy I spoke to actually ranked women from clean to dirty based on how they dealt with their pubic hair, with waxed being the 'cleanest'. If his performance in bed is similar to that seen in porn. If he says "men are visual creatures." If he follows NSFW accounts on any social media If he tells you. From my experience, men have alway… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 08:10 PM |
| 44 | Just broke up with an otherwise HVM due to porn use...And if men are visual creatures, why don't they invest more into their own appearance? Gay men are often more attractive than straight men because they care a lot more about their appearance. I have yet to meet a guy who moisturises regularly or washes his body with a soap and sponge. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 08:04 PM |
| 26 | Just broke up with an otherwise HVM due to porn use...This dude is not high value at all. Well done you for walking away, even when it was hard and consigning him to trash where he belongs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 06:37 PM |
| 16 | If a man says they are ______. They aren't."I am an empath." - would tell me he would call/text me at a specific time and not do it. Then he would wonder why it was such a big deal. "I believe communication is important." - from a guy who slow faded me and ghosted me instead of just saying he wasn't interested. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 05:58 PM |
| 15 | This one hit me like a ton of bricksFirst of all, you're strawmanning my argument. Men having sexual desires is not what I take issue with. I take issue with the fact that sexuality is centered around men. I don't see how any rational person can deny this. Look at porn. Everything in porn is set up to appeal to men and men alone, so you saying that ignoring men's sexuality is stupid is completely missing the point. Sex work does not level the playing field, because it is an indsutry that is primarily designed to benefit men. Even … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 05:45 PM |
| 10 | This one hit me like a ton of bricksAnd if sex work was truly empowering, the people in power would be doing it. Why didn’t we ever see Obama posing shirtless? Or Justin Trudeau sharing a video of himself twerking to WAP? Being used and abused by men, even if you’re getting paid for it, is still being used and abused by men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 09:47 AM |
| 14 | This one hit me like a ton of bricksApproving this comment to make a point. FDS doesn’t hate sex workers. Disagreeing with a woman’s actions is not the same as hatred. Feminism is an actual political theory, that isn’t centred around coddling women when they make bad choices that affect women as a class. Feminism is ultimately about liberation from the patriarchy and rejecting ideals that uphold that. Whilst women are free to do what they wish with their bodies, pretending that catering to the male gaze and male sexuality is empow… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 09:40 AM |
| 13 | AhahahahahahahaI remember showing a guy I wasn't even properly seeing a picture of a woman who I thought was body goals. His response? "Her ass is too big for me." I never asked him if that body type was desirable to him, nor did I care. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 11:25 PM |
| 77 | Top comment on post about woman doing a photo shoot despite husbands wishes. where are all these boundary comments on how messed up it is to do something your partners is uncomfortable with viewing Pornography - scientifically documented as harmful to the individual and relationship$500 says all the people taking the moral high ground on this issue won't see a problem with a man watching porn and jacking off to other women, even if his wife/girlfriend doesn't like it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 10:52 PM |
| 44 | This degenerate is mad at women who change their mind right before sex. Please watch his little "woke" explanation...Just say you’re a rapist and go. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 08:27 PM |
| 97 | Really helpful to realize!I was thinking about this today. Men just assume women enjoy sucking dick, whereas eating pussy is seen as optional. Most men would feel aggrieved if a woman said she didn’t enjoy giving blowjobs and Reddit would encourage him to break up with her. Meanwhile, women are expected to ask for oral and teach him how to do it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 08:24 PM |
| 40 | I can’t tell you guys how many times this has happened to me lmaooooo!I came to the realisation this year that a lot of men are extremely poor conversationalists. I don't know why this is. I get nervous making small talk, but I always remember that people like to feel important. Once you understand that, making small talk and getting to know people is very easy, because most people enjoy talking about themselves. The men I have come across, bar a few, are just so inept at making conversation, and they wonder why they struggle to get women. On the flip side, I do l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 08:59 AM |
| 25 | Do not coddle men!I recently wrote a post on how to not be a pickme in the workplace. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 08:46 AM |
| 90 | This is why it always makes me suspicious when men push for legalisation of buying sex. 1. You get to use the woman for sex. 2. You get to attack other women who object to that.This. On escort review websites (yes, they exist), it’s common to see men who pay for sex complain that it’s obvious the woman is only there for the money. It’s like they delude themselves into thinking they’re desirable to these women, as if these women would fuck them if money wasn’t involved. It’s even more hilarious watching these men ask if an escort is into them and seeing them get shot down by actual escorts who are quick to remind them that any “intimacy” coming from the escort is just a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 12:02 AM |
| 85 | Iggy Azaelea’s NVM picked videogames over being there for the birth of his child 🤡I believe her mom couldn’t go as Carti was pre-approved due to Covid. It’s such a shitty thing to do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 05:26 PM |
| 376 | Iggy Azaelea’s NVM picked videogames over being there for the birth of his child 🤡Twitter is full of Scrotes and Pickmes saying “Well, she should have known he was trash before having a kid with him!” The same people who harp on about women having standards that are too high are now saying that Iggy should have known better. Just goes to show that there is ZERO benefit to us lowering our standards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 04:53 PM |
| 239 | Porn is empowering though, right? Of course a lot of comments say NTA. I feel so sorry for the cousin's kids.Reddit will say that porn is empowering and encourage women to share their nudes. But they will also defend a man’s right to not want to date a sex worker by listing all the reasons why sex work is bad. Make it make sense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 01:31 PM |
| 3 | If I ever end up like this please just end my suffering. Remember : dick is abundent and low valueIt looks like the person who refused sex is male and the one angry about it is a woman. Men don’t shave their legs before sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 09:25 AM |
| 55 | Why do men marry a woman they don't actually love, continue to have children with her, and cheat? Why not stop before the marriage? Why not divorce?I see what you mean. Personally, though, I would only get married if we are sharing property/assets or having children. Outside of that, it doesn’t really seem that worth it to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 09:06 AM |
| 186 | Why do men marry a woman they don't actually love, continue to have children with her, and cheat? Why not stop before the marriage? Why not divorce?From a historical standpoint, marriage had nothing to do with love. Men married for dynastic reasons and to ensure they had an heir to pass their property/name/titles down to. Conflating marriage with love has been to women’s detriment, because it makes them believe that men go into it for the same reasons they do. Men have long realised that they stand a lot to gain from being married, despite the narrative that marriage for men is a “ball and chain.” Men stand to gain free sex, a housemaid, na… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 08:30 AM |
| 25 | Ashamed to say I’ve been there. Got the dummy prize of “wow he’s spending $60 on me so this can be more pleasurable” and the “I’m a dumb pick me tshirt” lol grateful for this message and FDS, merry Christmas.A woman can only get pregnant it a man ejaculates. That’s literally the only way (pre-cum can contain sperm, but the chances are super low). Anytime I tell men to not have sex if they don’t want to have a child, they accuse me of being sexist. Reality is, reproduction isn’t fair. Women have more choices available to them in the event of an unwanted pregnancy. Men acknowledge the inequality, yet do nothing about it. They want to eat their cake and have it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 05:16 PM |
| 129 | Ashamed to say I’ve been there. Got the dummy prize of “wow he’s spending $60 on me so this can be more pleasurable” and the “I’m a dumb pick me tshirt” lol grateful for this message and FDS, merry Christmas.This is so unfortunate. I really wish more people were educated on the effects of Plan B. It’s called “Plan B” for a reason - it’s not meant to be used as a primary form of birth control! My mom took Plan B and ended up having me. Any man who makes this request should be refused sex. If he’s comfortable raw dogging you, then God knows where else his nasty dick has been. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 01:38 PM |
| 80 | Does anyone hate dating single dads?You won’t even be #2. If you date a single dad, the order of priorities goes like this: 1 - kids 2 - the ex (she might even be #1 or ahead of the kids) 3 - ex’s new family 4 - ex’s extended family 5 - Maybe you, but we all know that stepmothers have all the responsibility of being a parent to the step kids with none of the responsibility. Just check out the Step Parents subreddit. Full of women who have hitched their wagon to a stepdad that never prioritises them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 09:39 AM |
| 36 | Guy has countless nudes and inappropriate photos of a friend saved to his phone, girlfriend becomes manipulated, gaslighted, and depressed to the point of suicide. Guy continues to save nudes to his phone regardless. Just things scrotes do.The number of women who genuinely believe that being with a shitty dude is better than being alone is just astonishing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 09:27 AM |
| 31 | Scrote wants a pat on the back for not raping this girl ?? The delusion is realWhilst not all men are violent and terrible, all men benefit from the actions of terrible of violent men because it means they can get applauded for doing the bare minimum. One of my male acquaintances seemed to want me to applaud him for not trying to sleep with one of his friends whilst she was drunk. The bar is truly in Hell. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 09:12 PM |
| 16 | Sex Workers are Harassing Rose Kalemba for coming forward about her underage rape videos on PornHub.Whilst their pay per hour is high, I think they earn the same as someone doing a minimum wage job. Very, very few, if any, sex workers earn a substantial amount of money. Their $350 per hour fee has to cover transport, hotels, bills, living costs, maintenance costs, and they don’t have employer-provided healthcare, pension or benefits. The money is not guaranteed, either, and it’s not uncommon for them to be scammed out of their earnings. It’s really not the lucrative career everyone makes out. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 10:46 AM |
| 86 | Sex Workers are Harassing Rose Kalemba for coming forward about her underage rape videos on PornHub.They will indulge any fetish as long as the price is right. And they really think they’re taking power from men. Ha. These men know they’re in control, which is why so many men admit to seeing sex workers because they can do to them what they can’t do to women they actually respect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 10:54 PM |
| 286 | Sex Workers are Harassing Rose Kalemba for coming forward about her underage rape videos on PornHub.Sex workers practice double standards like it’s nothing. They say listen to sex workers, but ignore the thousands of current and former sex workers who say it’s a terrible industry. They command respect from Johns, yet they put a literal price on their body, attention and time, They want to be taken seriously as a business, but get offended when buyers haggle. They also want the freedom to discriminate against clients on the basis of protected characteristics, such as race, which is incompatible… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 10:46 PM |
| 122 | every timeReddit shows that the bar for men is truly in Hell. Men who don’t work, wash their ass, brush their teeth, or who just seem incapable of functioning as an adult seem to find women willing to be with them. It honestly blows my mind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 10:12 PM |
| 145 | My heart sank when I read this, poor woman 🙅🏼♀️This girl is so young. She has her whole life ahead of her. She needs to cut this pornsick, cheating scrote loose. She may love him, but he sure as hell doesn’t love her. A loving partner wouldn’t cheat FOUR times. He went behind her back and only fessed up because he was caught. She can do so much better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 10:05 PM |
| 34 | My heart sank when I read this, poor woman 🙅🏼♀️A lot of sex workers actually prefer married or attached men. Even male escorts say that their biggest clientele is married men, who see male escorts behind their wife or girlfriend’s back. They say it makes their job easier as it lessens the likelihood of them wanting something more. It’s fucked how we can’t criticise the sex industry, yet many will happily admit how they make their money from cheating, which causes the woman immense pain and trauma. It cannot be empowering for women if it prof… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 10:02 PM |
| 24 | No surprise that most of the men say that she should appreciate his sexual assault and most of the women disregard it as him just having a high sex drive...What a fucking pig. Reminds me of the time when my ex, who I was long distance with, started jerking off down the phone whilst I was recovering from an ABORTION. he said he couldn’t “help himself”. Meanwhile, I was physically and emotionally wrecked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 08:00 PM |
| 13 | In the spirit of the holidays... What is the most OTT gift you gave to a man who absolutely did not deserve it?I used to send a handwritten card to my ex-FWB on his birthday every year. When he moved house, I bought him a personalised chopping board and a recipe book. He gave me one of his old belts as a collar (we were into BDSM at the time). That was the only “gift” I got from him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 03:59 PM |
| 70 | How to safeguard against future faking: Ask "When?"From my experience, men who want to do something will take the initiative and do/plan it without being prompted. This is a slightly better way, but it’s still doing too much. He should take the initiative. Make a mental note of what they say, and if the actions don’t come along for the ride, cut him off. You can’t teach someone integrity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 03:56 PM |
| 35 | Stay BusyBut the skills and qualifications and experience you’ve built up in those jobs won’t. Generally speaking, the harder you work at a career, the better your opportunities become (promotion, more money, better jobs). The same cannot be said for relationships. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 08:49 AM |
| 39 | Stay BusyCan confirm this works. I have four jobs and I’ll be starting my Masters next month. My tolerance for bullshit has gone done immensely, because being this busy has taught me to value my time ruthlessly. I have also been stacking cash like crazy - Covid, despite all its shittiness , has made it possible for me to quadruple my income and secure lucrative jobs that I wouldn’t have been able to do, because everything is online. I am a workaholic, but it definitely keeps me away from LVM and their BS… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 08:47 AM |
| 5 | Online dating in a nutshell; heads men win, tails women loseOne thing I give online dating credit for is that it makes it easier to weed through the trash. Men tell on themselves in so many ways, whether that be through a bad picture or awful bio. Interacting with a man online means you can block and delete when it gets uncomfortable without him knowing anything about you. Meeting someone in real life can easily lead to stalking, because they’re in a better position to build an accurate picture of your life. I’m not saying OLD is the ideal, but low value… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 08:28 AM |
| 77 | Inspired by u/letsberealforamoment, I set my preference to “casual” and matched with men who had “relationship” preferences. I’m in a city (which is why I’m still on OLD just to be safe) & the men with “relationship” preferences don’t seem to know how relationship is different from casual.Their desperation is so cringe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 05:21 AM |
| 4 | Online dating in a nutshell; heads men win, tails women loseNo problem, Queen ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 06:34 PM |
| 40 | Online dating in a nutshell; heads men win, tails women loseI side-eye men who can just sleep with anyone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 05:47 PM |
| 42 | Online dating in a nutshell; heads men win, tails women loseI don’t think telling women not to use it is wise. Whilst it might not be the best way, OLD is here and it’s here to stay. It’s much better to tell women what to look out for. Besides, meeting men in real life isn’t always much better. Some women, due to location/work/other reasons, may find it more challenging to meet men in real life. The same people you meet offline are often the same people online. The problem isn’t necessarily OLD - the problem remains shitty men and equipping women with th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 05:43 PM |
| 56 | Online dating in a nutshell; heads men win, tails women loseYou were much less of a PickMe than me 😅. I fell for this BS for three years. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 02:16 PM |
| 168 | Online dating in a nutshell; heads men win, tails women losePretty much every single LVM I’ve come across has had that mentality. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 01:54 PM |
| 461 | Online dating in a nutshell; heads men win, tails women loseSis, why did you come for my neck like that? The accuracy of this comment is just too on point! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 12:22 PM |
| 21 | Lazy scrote who doesn’t want to work wants Reddit to help him convince his wife why it’s okay not to work.Communist regimes would put people in prison if they didn’t work (and force them to work in the gulags). Karl Marx was also never against working - he was against the means of production being owned by a handful of people. They’re not communists, they’re just lazy people trying to justify their laziness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 12:46 AM |
| 92 | Lazy scrote who doesn’t want to work wants Reddit to help him convince his wife why it’s okay not to work.Spoiler alert: he doesn’t plan on being a stay-at-home dad. He plans on living off his wife’s income and having her raise the kids, whilst he’s free to do what he wants (aka nothing). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 10:06 PM |
| 50 | Cut your lossesPreach, sis. Cutting them off early is sometimes painful, but you’ll look back and wonder why you didn’t do it sooner. No man is ever worth your peace. Once you internalise that message, cutting LVM off becomes a lot easier. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 10:05 PM |
| 90 | Lazy scrote who doesn’t want to work wants Reddit to help him convince his wife why it’s okay not to work.This. I agree that the concept of work as we know it needs examining. The pandemic has shown that many people don’t need to be in the office 9-5, five days a week, which tells me that a lot of working practices are outdated, unnecessary and makes the lives of workers harder for no reason. The anti-work subreddit was initially about challenging working norms, but now it’s descended into a circlejerk where people expect to be able to sit on their ass and not have to work, whilst expecting everyone… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 09:47 PM |
| 9 | Husband resentful he has to care for his own child, uses abusive tactics to punish wife. But guess who's TAPickmes can be a disease, I swear. I can’t believe people are blasting the OP for getting live-in help after going through a traumatic birth. I also can’t believe that people think the husband has a harder time because he has to work and look after his kid sometimes. When mothers do that, nobody gives them extra credit. I guarantee that all the pickmes on there crowing about how they got through it with no help are the same mothers venting to Breaking Mom about how their partner is useless. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 09:43 PM |
| 113 | Lazy scrote who doesn’t want to work wants Reddit to help him convince his wife why it’s okay not to work.But..but he’s been studying/working for a whole eight years!!! He deserves a break and to mooch off his hard working wife. \s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 09:22 PM |
| 8 | My eyes have been open to the truth, that females and males can not be friends.My only male friends are gay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 09:40 AM |
| 3 | If "sex work is work" then why are there so few safety measures to counteract occupational hazards?Funny how issues relating to sex, something that is primarily geared towards male pleasure only, is beyond reproach. But people are more than happy to shame and criticise FDS for merely stating that women should only entertain men who consistently treat them well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 11:16 AM |
| 6 | Guess which comment was written by a man...nobody takes 10 years to decide whether they want to marry someone. Absolutely nobody.Cena also said he didn't want marriage, yet he married the next woman. It would not surprise me at all if he had kids with his wife as well. When Cena was telling Nikki that he didn't want marriage or kids, what he really meant was he didn't want marriage and kids with her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 08:40 AM |
| 19 | "But WomEn aRe jusT as AbusIve As Meeennnn!" 🙄To add to your point, most violent crime against men is committed by other men. When people like to say that "men get raped too", I always tell them that whilst that's true, the main perpetrators of rape and sexual assault against men is other men. Women are still not the problem. A lot of men's issues can be traced back to the actions of other men. They are their own worst enemy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 08:24 AM |
| 35 | Now it’s time to heal and find yourself again 💜🌷Exactly this, sis. The only way to win a war against a low value man is to not engage at all. Cut them off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 10:04 PM |
| 17 | If "sex work is work" then why are there so few safety measures to counteract occupational hazards?I’m pretty sure this already happens. There is a video out there for every depraved fetish you can think of. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 10:02 PM |
| 187 | "But WomEn aRe jusT as AbusIve As Meeennnn!" 🙄Whilst women can and do behave badly, the levels of depravity and just outright evilness that men can sink to is just unmatched by any woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 10:00 PM |
| 18 | Guess which comment was written by a man...nobody takes 10 years to decide whether they want to marry someone. Absolutely nobody.Meeting when you’re a teenager and focusing on education are two valid reasons to delay getting married. However, people don’t take ten years to decide to marry someone - the intention or desire to marry them should be there early on, even if the actual wedding doesn’t take place. Ten years is an extremely long time to decide to marry someone, especially for us women if we want to have children. Waiting a decade is a bad thing generally, because i means the man isn’t serious. Ask any man who is … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 09:36 PM |
| 39 | No other so called "job's" SELLING POINT is sadism, degradation, sexualized/fetishized abuse/torture and dehumanization of women and girls.Sex workers love to look down on "civvie" jobs by crowing about working fewer hours for more money. Okay sis, but what is the progression in sex work? You can't charge higher prices because you have more experience (generally), especially given the fact men, thanks to porn, tend to desire younger, inexperienced women. If sex work is so great, why do so many of them go to great lengths to hide their profession from their family and friends and keep their identity a secret? I have a public profile… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 07:50 PM |
| 23 | Guess which comment was written by a man...nobody takes 10 years to decide whether they want to marry someone. Absolutely nobody.If they didn't want marriage, then why are they getting engaged? Not getting married is fine, as long as it's what the woman wants. The issue we see so many times is women who want marriage spending years of their life with men who clearly don't want to marry them. These men will string these women along for years, reaping all the benefits of having a wife they haven't married whilst looking out for the woman they won't hesitate to marry. Case in point is John Cena. He swore that he would never … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 07:42 PM |
| 22 | Guess which comment was written by a man...nobody takes 10 years to decide whether they want to marry someone. Absolutely nobody.My sister and her husband got married seven years into their relationship, but my brother-in-law knew he wanted to marry her pretty much immediately. They had several reasons to wait that long (my sister had severe mental health difficulties, she needed to graduate and they had to close the gap as they were long distance), but the difference between that situation and a forever girlfriend scenario is that they always knew and were working towards being married. Men know early on whether they are… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 07:34 PM |
| 30 | Guess which comment was written by a man...nobody takes 10 years to decide whether they want to marry someone. Absolutely nobody.Nobody’s saying that you have to get married as soon as you meet someone. But nobody takes ten years to decide if they want to marry someone. There is no benefit to a woman signing up to such an arrangement. The more you play house with a man, the less likely he is to want to marry you, and the more likely it is you’ll have marital problems and divorce when you do marry. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 06:31 PM |
| 40 | Guess which comment was written by a man...nobody takes 10 years to decide whether they want to marry someone. Absolutely nobody.I think studies have actually shown that living together before marriage increases the chances of divorce and marital problems: https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/jomf.12530?af=R&. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 05:10 PM |
| 93 | Being bad at giving thoughtful gifts is a red flag. Stay away from any man like this. The comments are full of women buying their own presents because their partner doesn’t get them anything at all or gets them something they don’t want. 💀Exactly. A good gift should be thoughtful. Buying an expensive item just because it is expensive is not thoughtful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 01:29 PM |
| 24 | Another Failed Flex from the LibFem Logic FilesShe didn’t have to sleep with him to find out that sex diminishes a woman in his eyes. That’s the reason why FDS encourages women to hold out and vet. Men ALWAYS tell on themselves, especially if they’re pornsick, sexist or sexually deviant. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 08:36 AM |
| 272 | I'm done 🙅🏻♀️💢💔Okay, but how does being afraid of fatherhood lead to being balls deep inside a woman 10 years your junior? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 08:59 PM |
| 140 | I haven't had sex in over half a year and thinking about it, I feel great.I haven't had sex since September 2018. Whilst I sometimes miss the possibility of intimacy, I quickly remind myself that very, very few men are worth putting out for. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 12:53 PM |
| 136 | If a guy says he is "sexually dominant" he is probably a massive loser IRL. Literally every "dom" I've ever met were unambitious and unintelligent, often working minimum wage or entry level jobs well into their 30s, 40s, and older.I received that message. What a loser. And you're right - every Dom I met was both low value and low vibrational and huge misogynists with no respect for women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 12:50 PM |
| 75 | I’m really enjoying looking at some men’s reactions to this Pornhub situationJesus, who actually sits there and compiles a 500 video playlist of porn?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 02:42 AM |
| 58 | The amount of posts on my insta today about “sex workers” (OF models) and their rights to be nude on every platform is too damn highA lot of these women doing Only Fans will be writing think pieces about how they can't get a job because of it within the next few months and years. I guarantee it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 10:22 PM |
| 46 | The amount of posts on my insta today about “sex workers” (OF models) and their rights to be nude on every platform is too damn highI've noticed this about the sex industry in general. The double standards are ridiculous. For example, nobody talks about the racism in the sex industry, either. They want to be seen as legitimate businesses, but many of them see nothing wrong with not seeing clients who are of a certain race. If sex work is legal, then discriminating on the basis of race is illegal and they are opening themselves up to lawsuits. Personally, I believe when it comes to sex/dating, people should be as discriminato… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 10:15 PM |
| 140 | The amount of posts on my insta today about “sex workers” (OF models) and their rights to be nude on every platform is too damn highI also hate how sex workers are framing this as "censorship". Instagram is a private company. It was not invented to promote porn and OFs. They have every right to decide what content they host on their platform. It's not like porn is censored generally - even adverts for ice cream have some kind of erotic angle to it. Instagram has really gone downhill in my estimation, anyway. As a plus-sized woman, it was really cool to see women with a body shape that was similar to mine dressing well, and I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 10:06 PM |
| 39 | You can break up with your bf due to financial reasonsAbsolutely. I come from a very poor background, and I have worked extremely hard to reach a level of financial stability and have the means to live a certain lifestyle (own apartment, car, etc). I will be damned if I hitch my wagon to some scrote who doesn't bring anything financial to the table. Call me a goldigger, I don't care, but being understanding of your man's poor financial situation won't pay the bills. A man has to earn more than me. If we have kids and I can no longer work due to rai… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 09:58 PM |
| 19 | NEVER ask a guy out!Yeah, asking men out is a dead end for women. The best dates I've had have been when the guy has taken all the initiative in terms of asking me out, setting a date and time and coming up with the activity. It never worked when I did all that work. Men will say yes to whatever is available most of the time, even if it's not what they really want, and they will gladly admit it. I currently have an acquaintance who is semi-orbiting me at the moment and wants to sleep with him, even though both he a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 09:54 PM |
| 169 | "johns" = Lowest life formI cannot fathom having sex with someone KNOWING they didn't want to have sex with me. That's a different level of selfishness and depravity. A lot of my enjoyment in sex comes with knowing my partner is also having a good time. These men are just so disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 09:50 PM |
| 18 | Men need to stop complaining that they do not receive compliments from women.The second bullet point is so true. A few months ago I complimented a man on his physique on one of the fitness subreddits. He slid into my DMs and within three messages, he was asking for nude/lewd pictures. Lesson learned. This is why men can't have nice things like compliments. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 09:45 PM |
| 29 | Be leery of advice from "friends"This. Once I came across FDS, I was actually shook at how many women I know are in objectively bad relationships. It’s made me very careful about who I take advice from. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 04:54 AM |
| 12 | This comment thread reminded me why reddit is a terrible place for advice. This woman got cheated on and some of the comments are advising her to go to counseling before considering divorce. FDS would never.🙄The adultery subreddit is a wild insight into the mind of cheaters. The lies they tell themselves to justify their shitty behaviour off the charts. Cheating is never a mistake. It is always, always a choice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 04:35 PM |
| 63 | This comment thread reminded me why reddit is a terrible place for advice. This woman got cheated on and some of the comments are advising her to go to counseling before considering divorce. FDS would never.🙄When they say "I can explain" it really means "Please give the chance to opportunity to manipulate you." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 04:33 PM |
| 21 | r/NiceGirls is mad we don’t respond to thinly veiled sex attemptsIf this guy was concerned about numbers rising, then why is he inviting a near stranger over to his house? 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 09:21 PM |
| 25 | r/NiceGirls is mad we don’t respond to thinly veiled sex attemptsI’m so sick of reading “FDS is an incel sub!” Like, dudes and Pickmes, if we were an incel sub, you would see post after post complaining about how we can’t get sex. The issue isn’t not being able to get sex - the issue is being able to find a decent man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 09:18 PM |
| 7 | A young woman is being sexually coerced, abused and choked against her will by her POS boyfriend. Top comment advises her to CoMmUnICaTe.Except my kink of having a man spoil me, be sexually generous, handsome, ambitious and high value. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 09:06 PM |
| – | A young woman is being sexually coerced, abused and choked against her will by her POS boyfriend. Top comment advises her to CoMmUnICaTe.Hey, /u/lilbunny2! You don’t deserve this at all. Your Dom is an abuser and a straight up piece of shit. You can do so much better. Please start making an exit plan. We are here for you, sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 09:04 PM |
| 4 | A young woman is being sexually coerced, abused and choked against her will by her POS boyfriend. Top comment advises her to CoMmUnICaTe.I would, but this subreddit will get banned if we post a direct link. I’m going to tag her username, though. The advice she’s getting on the BDSM subreddit is just terrible. Full of apologists and Pickmes telling her to communicate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 09:02 PM |
| 39 | i could throw up. they really don’t care about us.When even pornstars don't like porn, that's when you know it's really bad. There's not a single ex-pornstar (because the current ones can't speak out if they want work) have anything good to say about the industry. Not one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 05:23 PM |
| 8 | A young woman is being sexually coerced, abused and choked against her will by her POS boyfriend. Top comment advises her to CoMmUnICaTe.All of the BDSM subreddits are moderated by men. That tells you all you need to know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 05:20 PM |
| 15 | A young woman is being sexually coerced, abused and choked against her will by her POS boyfriend. Top comment advises her to CoMmUnICaTe.Also, people within the BDSM community have no problem shaming women who don't agree with their lifestyle and think it's depraved. The same women shouting about being choked is empowering at the same women who think it's abhorrent that men should show financial, emotional and physical investment in a woman he wants to date by doing things such as paying for dates. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 04:49 PM |
| 31 | A young woman is being sexually coerced, abused and choked against her will by her POS boyfriend. Top comment advises her to CoMmUnICaTe.It's funny how people are willing to turn a blind eye to depraved sex acts "as long as everyone consents." But if FDS advocates looking for a man who is a provider, pays on dates and shows financial, emotional and physical investment in us, we are goldiggers and toxic, even though we are not forcing men to do these things for us. The men who pay on dates do so of their own free will. That is also an act that is between two consenting adults, but people always have a problem with that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 04:43 PM |
| 44 | A young woman is being sexually coerced, abused and choked against her will by her POS boyfriend. Top comment advises her to CoMmUnICaTe.The idea that no sexual kink is beyond reproach is insanity. If someone was into children, they would be rightfully shamed for it. But DDLG is fine as it’s “JuST KiNK”. The cognitive dissonance in that community is off the scale. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 01:37 PM |
| 38 | A young woman is being sexually coerced, abused and choked against her will by her POS boyfriend. Top comment advises her to CoMmUnICaTe.It was on a BDSM sub. The few people that told her to leave were downvoted. The top voted comment was telling her to communicate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 12:59 PM |
| 3 | Don't worry, they'll try to screw you over when they're older and *seem* stable and like HVM, too.You should have blocked him the moment you found out he lied about his age. You can’t start a relationship on deception. Why did he feel the need to lie? It’s because he knew you wouldn’t be okay with the truth, and he hoped to manipulate you into being okay with it. But I’m glad he’s in the bin now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 11:11 AM |
| 3 | Don't worry, they'll try to screw you over when they're older and *seem* stable and like HVM, too.This. I used to think older men were more mature. Now I’ve realised that they just have more experience with being LV. Avoid! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 11:10 AM |
| 26 | I hate how common this is on this sub :/ guy thinks two minutes of rubbing is enough to lead to penetrative sex. It sounds like a horror show; she's told him MULTIPLE times to do more and he just "shuts down" on her. So f***ing manipulative 😡Someone with a low libido wouldn’t be having sex three times a week. Interesting how his low libido doesn’t stop him from cumming, but it does stop him pleasuring her. She needs to nix this loser. Women can always get better sex elsewhere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 10:48 AM |
| 28 | Excuse me whatWhy is the answer always for women to lower their standards? Why aren’t men ever told to raise their game? Most women don’t have ridiculously high standards. Even FDS standards aren’t high. They’re the markers of what a decent man should be. The problem is, so few men ever meet those standards. If a guy is unable to find a suitable woman for a relationship, the onus is on him to change. Women are not charity cases for men nobody else wants. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 10:44 AM |
| 18 | Excuse me whatIf a woman dates down and the guy turns out to be a dud, the woman is then told she should have picked better. Heads men win, tails women lose. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 10:43 AM |
| 97 | A young woman is being sexually coerced, abused and choked against her will by her POS boyfriend. Top comment advises her to CoMmUnICaTe.Exactly! If this guy didn’t call himself a Dom, people would see the situation for what it is and tell her to get out. But because it’s KiNK, rather than telling her to run for the hills, people are skirting round the issue and telling her to communicate and get therapy. How can she communicate with someone who has told her he doesn’t like being told no? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 10:26 AM |
| 102 | ICYMI - the main feminist subreddits (incl. r/Feminism) have male moderators w/ MRA ties, one of whom railed against removing CreepShots of underage girls and called it “extreme feminism”.Men taking over female spaces on Reddit is so common. Majority, if not all, of the Gone Wild and sex subreddits are moderated by men. GoneWildScars (yes, that’s a real subreddit) even has a pinned post that “reminds” people of the fact they should be posting nudes, not just pictures of their scars. There was a subreddit for small boobs that was run by a man with a fetish for big boobs. I think the ladies who had subscribed did a mass exodus from the subreddit and had to organise elsewhere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 08:43 AM |
| 3 | Why I don't date "nice" guysMy ex would always say he was a nice guy and that it was unfair he couldn't get women. This "nice guy": Raped me in my sleep Pressured me into an abortion and threatened to kill me if I did not get one Wanted to sleep with one of my friends, knowing she was in a relationship Guilt tripped me into swallowing his nasty cum Refused to pay his share of the accommodation fee when I rented an apartment to visit him in his country. So yeah. Fuck nice guys. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 08:59 PM |
| 91 | You hate to see it. Black men degrading their own kind.So many black men shat on Sidibe, yet had the audacity to get mad when she got engaged to a white man who adores her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 02:34 PM |
| 18 | Have any of you ever left a serious relationship because the man lacked ambition?This man will drag you down with him if you stay with him. He wants you to not only birth his children, but also save enough money so you can support the family pretty much single handedly? Nah, sis. I guarantee this will turn out like a breaking mom story where you are the breadwinner AND looking after the kids. That's if he does not become resentful of the fact you earn more than he does. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 07:35 AM |
| 7 | Women who have played by the rules of the patriarchy must always live by the sunk cost fallacy. Misery loves company they say.I have not read the book, I just saw the quote floating around online. I will start reading more feminist theory, though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 02:33 AM |
| 113 | Women who have played by the rules of the patriarchy must always live by the sunk cost fallacy. Misery loves company they say.Andrea Dworkin said that so many women resist feminism, because acknowledging feminism will force them to confront the misogyny that runs through almost every single relationship and interaction they have with men. I felt so called out when I read that, because that was me. Once you see how rotten and unfair the male/female dynamic is, it is very, very difficult, if not impossible, to unsee it. The reality is, the majority of men are not engaging with women in good faith. The majority of men see… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 09:01 PM |
| 6 | My good guy friend of many years confessed feelings for me, then I learned he is still chasing after his ex. When I asked why he would compromise our friendship if he still is obsessed with his ex and commented he has been acting unhappy lately...this was his response. Blocked/deleted.I'm so sorry, Queen. This is why I am so glad I do not have any close male friends. I think it's very rare for men to form a friendship with a woman for a non-sexual purpose. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 08:56 PM |
| 33 | This is what they really think of you.Same. LVM see it as a very easy way to get nudes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 03:44 AM |
| 7 | Seriously disgusting. And I left his name visible, as he is a public figure and has an entire page dedicated to this nonsense. 🤬It's not uncommon to see men who are in their 20s and 30s look like they're in their 50s and 60s. Most men don't age well at all, due to things like lack of good diet, exercise and skincare. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 03:44 PM |
| 7 | Seriously disgusting. And I left his name visible, as he is a public figure and has an entire page dedicated to this nonsense. 🤬Men are beyond delusional. Younger women don't want older men, and if they do it's because of their money. It's hilarious watching men ask on the sex worker subreddits if the escort genuinely cares about them and seeing them get shot down by sex workers who say it's just a job to them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 03:43 PM |
| 24 | Lol @ these men pretending to be women 😂 they really think we can’t tell 😭I'm dead LOOOOOL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 03:30 PM |
| 137 | Libfems - BuT iT's EmPoWeRiNgI had this discussion with a male colleague over the weekend. Sex work and violent sex cannot be empowering, because it diminishes women's power significantly even on a personal level. Sex workers face huge stigma, poverty, exposure to abuse and rape and loss of future opportunities. The BDSM subreddits are full of submissives who come seeking advice after their Dom had an "ooopssieee" moment that has resulted in the sub experiencing severe trauma, both physically and emotionally. It makes absol… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 03:29 PM |
| 125 | In response to the post about whether or not LVM cause monthly cycle disturbances. Explanation in description 😖I am so, so sorry, but this made me spit my drink out laughing. What a pathetic, entitled pornsick, probably limp dick, no-good, sex-obsessed SCROTE. How can someone write what he's just written and not be ashamed of themselves? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 03:10 PM |
| 6 | How many of you have been in sexually coercive situations/relationships? For me it's been pretty much 90% of men I've dated. And it's haunting me to this dayMen should be made to swallow their own cum. Perhaps then they'll stop expecting women to swallow it. What a nasty Scrote. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 06:59 PM |
| 5 | How many of you have been in sexually coercive situations/relationships? For me it's been pretty much 90% of men I've dated. And it's haunting me to this dayIt took me a long time to recognise that as rape, because he didn't look like your typical rapist, if that makes sense. I was physically larger than him and he was somewhat socially awkward. He even told me about the incident the next day, and was shocked when I told him I don't remember him having sex with him (because I was asleep!!!!). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 06:58 PM |
| 15 | How many of you have been in sexually coercive situations/relationships? For me it's been pretty much 90% of men I've dated. And it's haunting me to this dayMy ex guilt-tripped me into swallowing his cum because me refusing to do it was like "rejecting a part of him." He would also count the number of blowjobs I gave him when we were together, even though in the three years we were together I could count on one hand the number of times he went down on me and still have digits left. He also had sex with me whilst I was asleep. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 08:44 AM |
| 56 | When you give all that wife energyThe reason why guys do this is because they don't want to commit to you. It doesn't take a relationship length that surpasses a bachelor's, master's and PhD in length for a man to know whether or not he wants to marry you. If marriage is a must, DO NOT PLAY HOUSE WITH MEN UNTIL MARRIAGE. This man will either never marry her or be dragged down the aisle begrudgingly, which still won't change the fact he doesn't want to marry her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 08:42 AM |
| 13 | One in Five, or Twenty percent of WomenI have a mom and two sisters. Every single one of us have been sexually abused at least once. I am yet to meet a woman who hasn't experienced unacceptable sexual behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 08:35 PM |
| 82 | 🤮So true. The same men cheering them on when they post nudes on Gone Wild and Only Fans will swerve them hard when it comes to relationships. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 02:55 PM |
| 34 | The CEO Paying Everyone $70,000 Salaries Has Something to HideShe also has very little, if anything, to gain by making it up. His reaction was also very telling. He’s saying too many words to make a denial, which is a sign of deception. If someone accused you of something as heinous as what he’s been accused of, you would indignantly say “I could never do that!” But he blows the reporter off, pretends he hasn’t heard it before and then comes back with a strong denial. Nah, he did it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 01:14 PM |
| 276 | 🤮Watch. In a few years, these women opening Only Fans accounts and bragging about how it got them through the pandemic will be writing think pieces about how it’s stopped them from getting the jobs they want. The same men that jacking off to their OF will be the same men turning them down for jobs. It’s a sick level of hypocrisy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 12:05 PM |
| 32 | The CEO Paying Everyone $70,000 Salaries Has Something to HideI believe his ex-wife. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 09:38 AM |
| 43 | Correct me if I’m wrong.. but isn’t this like textbook definition of a “pick me”? Was my advice really that terrible?If she was as nice as she thinks, she wouldn’t be so upset that she didn’t get the outcome she wanted. I am a typical people pleaser, but when I realised that I was doing things for other people to try and get a certain response from them, I put an end to it. That’s not nice or kind behaviour - it’s manipulation. When I started erecting boundaries and standing up for myself when necessary, I not only became more authentic, but I also noticed that the right people responded better. Nobody respect… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 06:17 AM |
| 287 | Just... NO 🤢🤮Why should women have to *ask* to be pleasured? Why can't men take the initiative and try to find out what makes us feel good sexually? These men who are shit in bed can learn complex information. Men who are bad in bed and "ignorant" of female sexual biology can be doctors, lawyers, quantum physicists, engineers, ect. Their inability to pleasure us is not down to lack of intellect, after all, many of them also watch porn and visit prostitutes. They just don't care. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 04:45 AM |
| 18 | Did you know that "aftercare" was a thing with BDSM?Having been involved in the BDSM scene, aftercare isn't a thing at all. All of the Doms I met did not have a clue how to do it. But why would they? Expecting aftercare from a Dom is like expecting a misogynist to care about feminism - A PIPE DREAM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 09:32 PM |
| 8 | The subreddit r/deadbedroomsI’ll never forget this particular post on r/deadbedrooms. The husband was complaining that his wife wasn’t putting out and that she was sexually lazy. His wife then commented that she had almost died giving birth a few weeks before and her husband was still asking her for sex. The scrote then deleted his post after he was downvoted to hell and called an asshole. The lack of empathy for his wife WHO NEARLY PASSED AWAY GIVING BIRTH TO HIS CHILD and his fixation on getting sex just made me sick. ED… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 05:18 AM |
| 14 | The subreddit r/deadbedroomsThe brain is arguably the most powerful sexual organ. That’s why foreplay is so important for women. Feeling safe, and like your partner is invested in your pleasure, does a lot more than just make us wet. I can remember the first, and only, time my ex spent about 20 minutes on teasing me in different ways. He remarked “I can get it in so easily now!” Who knew that spending time on fore play as opposed to ramming it in dry would make it easier 🙄 it’s so pathetic that women recieving adequate amo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 05:13 AM |
| 66 | Never trust a man who calls himself a feminist.I’m glad you’re here. Your husband knows what he’s doing. He knows what he’s doing when he’s leaving you to do all the chores and take care of the baby. I’m assuming he doesn’t have any problems with his vision. He can see that the house is untidy. He can see that dinner needs preparing. He’s actively making a choice to not help you, and he’s leaving you to bear the mental load of the relationship [bear the mental load of the relationship (https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-ask… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 01:38 AM |
| 323 | How You End Up A Forever GF, Or A Reluctant FWB...STRAIGHT From The ANIMALS Mouth...I have to admit I laughed out loud when he said that. What a scrote. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 10:21 PM |
| 33 | Why are women expected to change for men?It’s the same with synchronised swimming. It’s easily one of the hardest sports in the world. These women are dancing in water, often upside down, whilst holding their breath for majority of the routine (check out this routine from Russia, the best country in the world https://youtu.be/ttSUhspgwUA). My brother, who can’t even swim, said that it’s easy. 🤡 Yet, these women never get the recognition they deserve. And when they do make it into the news, the article focuses on their legs and ass as o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 11:43 AM |
| 28 | No way this wasn’t done on purpose so she’d never ask him again...The thing is with Breaking Moms is that they do know better. Their relationship is bad enough that they feel the need to complain about it on the internet to strangers. What they lack is the ability, or desire, to take action to improve their situation. And it’s honestly shocking that some of them think it’s okay to raise children with a lazy, useless LVM. Those kids will grow up thinking that such behaviour is normal because they saw their mom put up with it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 11:33 AM |
| 22 | So fun to see scrotes get frustrated when they realize they cant invade our space. 🤭They can't even cosplay as women. Their larping is sooooo obvious and easy to spot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 07:22 PM |
| 13 | So fun to see scrotes get frustrated when they realize they cant invade our space. 🤭This exchange reflects their whole approach with women. Women erect boundaries and standards that effectively shuts them out. These scrotes try and bust those boundaries anyway, knowing they don't qualify. They hit an "ACCESS DENIED" sign. They then go back to bitch to their fellow scrotes about how accessing women is so hard. Rinse, repeat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 07:21 PM |
| 62 | My wish for 2021 and beyond is that more women realise that they don’t have to put up with callous, selfish behaviour in their relationships.It's always better to cut a man off too soon than too late. There's no such thing as applying too much caution when it comes to men. The consequences for not applying enough caution can be disastrous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 06:14 PM |
| 52 | My wish for 2021 and beyond is that more women realise that they don’t have to put up with callous, selfish behaviour in their relationships.Some women live and die not realising this. You are still young (40 is't old) and you have enough time to internalise this message and seek better for yourself. I believe in you, Queen! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 06:12 PM |
| 76 | My wish for 2021 and beyond is that more women realise that they don’t have to put up with callous, selfish behaviour in their relationships.This. It's easy to believe that the nice guy is who he really is, which is why so many women end up chasing their own tail trying to get this non-existent man to come back. This truth is, men don't "change" - they get comfortable. Comfortable enough to show you who they really are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 06:10 PM |
| 8 | Having standards and boundaries and sticking to them, even when it’s tough, means you’ll always win in the long run.This is such good advice. When I was in my last, and only, situationship, I remember thinking “but I don’t even like this dude, because I wouldn’t want him as a friend. Why am I trying to convince him to love me?” That helped me snap out of the insanity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 10:20 PM |
| 34 | NEVER beg for a man!I learned very quickly that no man is ever worth begging, pleading or crying for. The men I used to cry over are not worth shit, and even they know this. If a guy is lukewarm about you/wants to leave, wave him goodbye. If anything, it will catch him off balance because these Scrotes actually expect women to beg them to stay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 12:19 PM |
| 94 | How to leave when you don't have a "good" reason?There’s nothing to discuss. You just leave. It’s clear he doesn’t respect you. There’s no discussing disrespect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 11:14 AM |
| 198 | How to leave when you don't have a "good" reason?Not wanting to be in a relationship is reason enough. You don’t need a reason to end a relationship. You can simply walk away. Relationships require the consent of both parties, which one person can withdraw for any reason. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 10:51 AM |
| – | How do we find his GF and tell her to dump his hobosexual ass?Removed for showing usernames. Please re post with this information redacted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 06:13 PM |
| 181 | This is why we don't send long paragraphs to men who've wronged usThe moment you feel the need to send paragraph/have a long conversation about what he’s done wrong, is the moment you need to pack your self-respect and dignity and leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 07:25 AM |
| 27 | A lot of men don’t love their wivesClassic DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender). Women are worse off after getting married by every single metric, yet men love to say that marriage is a trap for them. Society gaslighting at its finest. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 07:20 PM |
| 11 | Girl wants to send her boyfriend nudes but feels self conscious, predictable replies ensueI know someone who has kept nudes and videos of all his exes, including mine (we never dated, but we had a 'thing' during my pre-FDS/enlightenment days). It was disconcerting when he would comment on my nude body during texting conversations. It felt akin to a violation that this man was able to access my body whenever he felt like it, even though he doesn't deserve to see me that way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 06:48 PM |
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