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| 2 | The best thing about getting older and finding FDS is realizing that you don't have to "work" in a relationship - he is either great or you are gone.*Women are told to make sacrifices so that the relationship stays unbroken. Meanwhile men are told "there's plenty of fish in the water, she is for the street" when the women made some petty ass mistakes like forgetting to top-up the gas or some shit. NOBODY told men to stay "for the kids" when he contemplate divorce -- he says he wants out, everybody cheers him. Meanwhile you know how it goes for women. Double f**king standards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/22 10:11 PM |
| 2 | The Bite-Size Guide to Vet a Potential Suitor: Does he make you feel BALANCED?https://www.thefemaledatingstrategy.com/forum/general-dating-discussion/the-bite-size-guide-to-vet-a-potential-suitor-does-he-make-you-feel-balanced Here ya go. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/22 05:06 PM |
| 2 | The Bite-Size Guide to Vet a Potential Suitor: Does he make you feel BALANCED?Yep, it is me, haha. Don't worry I'll post all my postings on the website eventually -- just a bit busy with the handbook right now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/22 02:13 PM |
| 2 | I may already know a high value man. I just wasn’t healthy enough to notice it.I don't really mind it really because I am now active on the FDS website -- definitely more freedom and less worrying about being banned and scrotes sending threats because you hurt their delicate manfeels. We can still enjoy old posts and not worrying about it facing perma-ban forever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/22 09:01 AM |
| 5 | All those men that you've made a first move on in the past never wanted you.not marry a man with fat ass since that means he’s lazy. If his ass (and boobs) is bigger than yours -- RUN. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/22 08:09 AM |
| 2 | I may already know a high value man. I just wasn’t healthy enough to notice it.Damn sis you are really combing through old posts huh? I didn't even remember this until you reply to it 😆. Thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/22 05:26 AM |
| 23 | Some Website Forum Upgrades Happened! .... Is It Better now?Exactly. Talk is nice and all -- but put ourselves in the shoe of the people actually facing the harassment, the r**e threats, the d***h threats ON A DAILY F**KING BASIS. What I got from being a frequent posters pales to what mods have to deal with every single day. They do what's best for them -- they are human too. If the people here hate what happens and want FDS back on reddit (because y'all don't want to go to the website for some reason) -- great, do something. Otherwise go to the website … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/22 03:07 PM |
| 57 | Some Website Forum Upgrades Happened! .... Is It Better now?FDS felt like fighting back. Leaving the platform and letting men run wild here feels like giving up. I hate the idea of women retreating to a different site to talk quietly amongst ourselves. Listen to what the mods have experienced and you will understand. They have been bullied every single day with more and more ridiculous rules -- because reddit want FDS to be permanently banned. At least this way FDS will still exists and people can read old posts. But we have the freedom to posts more wit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/22 02:27 PM |
| 7 | Some Website Forum Upgrades Happened! .... Is It Better now?https://www.thefemaledatingstrategy.com/forum/updates-announcements/reddxit-why-fds-is-abandoning-reddit-and-you-should-too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/22 10:08 AM |
| 11 | Some Website Forum Upgrades Happened! .... Is It Better now?Yes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/22 10:06 AM |
| 2 | Mother in laws that prioritize their son in laws over their own daughterMen cut people off all the time without a second thought -- and nobody call them "over reacting". Why is it always women? If they hurt you, they hurt you. F**k them, who cares what they feels -- the most important thing is what you feel. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/22 05:38 AM |
| 9 | Stop putting the man on the pedestal - sit on it YOURSELF.Go to the website, we all have migrated there. This site is no longer modded, so be careful with hoardes of scrotes tryna "ask you some innocent questions". See you on the site! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/22 08:07 PM |
| 44 | Stop putting the man on the pedestal - sit on it YOURSELF.It is sad that we have to work so hard at convincing women that they matter too, and it is not "evil" to prioritize themselves. Meanwhile scrotes could learn a thing or two about being less selfish and self-centered for once. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/22 07:03 PM |
| 113 | Stop putting the man on the pedestal - sit on it YOURSELF.Sit up there yourself and make them work to get your attention up there YES. That is the original design of how men and women work. Because we are the chooser, the egg, the original owner of that pedestal. Men are the ones who should work to get our attention - not the other way around. They have the continuous energy for it, the desire, the means, the strength for that chase. And we are the one who should sit and take care of ourselves and be cared for by our partner because our energy is far m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/22 05:39 PM |
| 60 | Stop putting the man on the pedestal - sit on it YOURSELF.100% Agree. You should never martyr yourself even for you own children in day to day life - that's a surefire way for them to see you only as a "mom entity" and not a person. Children should be thought responsibilities from young - that's how you teach them to be a decent person. And to remind them that mommy is a human being too - not their servant. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/22 05:16 PM |
| 436 | Men using "mathematical calculations" to drive down women's standardsThat's one of the reason why female criminals are so popular - men are desperate to prove that "see, women are evil too!" ignoring the ginormous percentage between violent female criminals and male criminals. Like that depp and heard thing right now. And that's only focusing on the prolific criminals - who knows how much more the female percentage will be dwarfed when we take into consideration smaller and unreported cases. Men like to think they are the victim even when they are literally hitti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/22 04:38 PM |
| 233 | Stop putting the man on the pedestal - sit on it YOURSELF.Love this! Ladies, remember this when you insist on going 50/50 with a man (pre and post married), doing wifey duties for him, acting like the "cool girl" who won't trouble him, propose to him, drag him to the altar and pay for the wedding etc. - basically all the LibFem "teachings". You aren't showing him that you are "great" - you are just putting him on the pedestal and force him to look down on you. While you work yourself into the brink of insanity trying to do a million things all at once. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/22 04:21 PM |
| 5 | My boyfriend (31) says he wants to move in with me so he can “save” and is not talking about going half on bills. How can I tell him that I expect him to pay bills if he moves in with me ?Or maybe it's a red pill LARP-er. They love making up fantasies where they get to be the girlfriend. Do they really? That's so creepy - do they secretly wants to be a woman or what? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/22 08:03 PM |
| 13 | My boyfriend (31) says he wants to move in with me so he can “save” and is not talking about going half on bills. How can I tell him that I expect him to pay bills if he moves in with me ?31 years old Earns MORE than her Have been at hers 5 TIMES A WEEK and ain't paying shit Wants to move in with her to "save" HIS MONEY He has been loudly and clearly telling her what he thinks she is - an atm machine and a free mommy bangmaid. The red flags are literally yelling in her face right now but she doesn't see them because he cooks, clean, and take her out on dates. And she asks where the bloody handbook is. Damn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/22 05:58 PM |
| 20 | My boyfriend (31) says he wants to move in with me so he can “save” and is not talking about going half on bills. How can I tell him that I expect him to pay bills if he moves in with me ?How can I tell him that I expect him to pay bills if he moves in with me ? You honestly think he will listen if you tell him? You honestly think he will care? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/22 05:20 PM |
| 27 | Is dating bad or are you bad at dating?That's the correct way to look at it. Continuos self introspection about what you did wrong in the past and recognizing red flag that you ignored - so your vetting skill will be sharper. Vetting is a skill, and you can't master your skill unless you learn from mistakes. But also take a critical look into the male population and recognize that majority of them are varying level of scrotes. HVM is rare simply by the fact that most men are immature and spoiled rotten. You don't want to live a resen… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/22 05:42 AM |
| 74 | Is dating bad or are you bad at dating?That is still putting the man on the pedestal. Reframe your mindset into "he is the one who should be anxious he doesn't run into a HVW soon" while you get busy levelling up and enjoying your life. You cannot truly embody a HVW mindset unless you drop the man from the pedestal and sit on it yourself. Putting the man on the pedestal is a sure fire way to never be truly happy, even when you finally met that coveted HVM because you still end up putting yourself last. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/22 05:26 AM |
| 31 | Is dating bad or are you bad at dating?I would hope that there would be more room to discuss building our lives as single women regardless of whether we date again rather being in a "stage between relationships." Female level up strategy sub is the one you are looking for. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/22 05:19 AM |
| 33 | An Ode to Living AloneHe pretended to be shocked at how angry I was because he was "just helping" Helping you what, get pneumonia? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/22 10:35 AM |
| 96 | An Ode to Living AloneIf I tried to read a book, he would constantly interrupt me. It was like he felt excluded if my attention was anywhere but on him. Come to think of it, I have yet to met a man who doesn't need constant attention. Sibling, coworkers, even strangers on the street always feel the need to interrupt me when I am peacefully in my zone. They just have to be the center of attention at all times. Men like to say women are needy, ironically they are even needier. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/22 10:28 AM |
| 51 | An Ode to Living AloneWeird how women with ADHD can still manage kindness, decency, and respect in a relationship but men can't. Can confirm. Friends with a lovely woman on the spectrum, my sibling is on the spectrum, and I suspect I have ADD myself. Still know how to treat people decently, albeit a little more straightforward than expected of a woman. If you have ADHD and treat people like shit - it is not because of ADHD. It is because you are a shitty person who happens to have ADHD. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/22 10:07 AM |
| 5 | All those men that you've made a first move on in the past never wanted you.Free sex, free maid, free attention, free home-cooked meals, free money (if the woman is richer), free social status from being seen with a partner, free - (fill in the blanks). Men don't think like women - when they got a woman freely offering herself to serve him, most men will take it and keep her around as long as she remains convenient. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/22 04:49 PM |
| 103 | I ended my relationship - A cautionary tale to ALWAYS VET and ALWAYS FOLLOW FDS STANDARDSScrew me for thinking that being open and honest about such a huge dealbreaker would mean the other person would engage with me similarly No unfortunately you can't expect other people to give you the same treatment as you give them. That exists in the ideal world - not our world. Especially not from men. Be secretive, withhold information, and trust nothing out of a man's mouth until he really, truly proves he is what you think he is. Let him walk over fire and climb mountains for you, metaphor… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/22 06:37 AM |
| 22 | Why Does He Do That? - A Study100%. You can't help someone who doesn't want your help and want to punish you instead for his misery. At some point he gotta take responsibility for his own actions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/22 08:47 AM |
| 93 | "Why do FDS tell women to cut people off all the time, isn't that too cruel?"She said, "Well, you just have to communicate with these people more so they finally get it." Unless those people mysteriously lose their damn brain - they already get it. They just don't care. If a guy came in with the same exact problem I bet she would just be like, "Oh honey, you don't need to deal with this, you deserve better! RUN!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/22 06:11 PM |
| 189 | "Why do FDS tell women to cut people off all the time, isn't that too cruel?"To me, block and delete is very serious. It’s literally the FIRST LINE OF DEFENSE in a woman’s life that can protect her. Before she gets embroiled or emotionally entangled. Before the narc gets his claws in. Before she’s in too deep. I’ve heard a lot of sad stories that might have been prevented had someone blocked and deleted at the FIRST SIGN of disrespect, skeeviness, criminality etc. This is the GOLD. So, so many problems can be avoided if women would just stop "giving him a chance/second c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/22 06:07 PM |
| 68 | "Why do FDS tell women to cut people off all the time, isn't that too cruel?"Apparently prioritizing yourself over some people's feefees is "cruel and heartless" sis. What a world we live in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/22 05:58 PM |
| 96 | This Post Will Probably Offend You.“feminism is about equality, so feminist should fight for men’s rights too!” In the end men still succeed in making women do their work for them. And modern libfem followers eat that rhetoric right out of their palm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/22 05:17 PM |
| 319 | Ali Wong Getting a DivorceHe’s a stay at home dad Yeah, nah. This only work in the la la land where men and women are raised with the same core values - aka they naturally take on their chores as responsibility seriously. And for men to have the same depth of empathy and teamwork ethic as women. And see women as human being. Ladies, sadly we don't live in la la land. MAJORITY of men are raised to be sitting on their asses playing games all day and being tended hand and feet by mommy dearest - you really think they will b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/22 04:43 AM |
| 43 | Thoughts On This “Men Paying On Dates For Them To Look Out For Entitled Women” article??Men who complain about paying for dates are broke whiny manchild who can't afford to properly court a woman, much less to be expected to carry the responsibility of a man in a relationship. He still want to play the big adult game knowing very well he can't afford it - how immature. Drop him and find a fully mature, relationship-ready men instead. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/22 02:23 AM |
| 13 | True Crime: Male Friends are a Liability EditionEven with women at work. I've lost count how many men at work start to talk shit about their wife, gf, friends, relatives, even fellow workmates to me under the guise of being "concerned" and want to "discuss" it. Scrotes are catty af. And just can't wait to talk shit about the women in their lives. What's more, the drama and chaos starter in any community I've been involved with are mostly men. The pickme women are the spreader sure, but the starter are men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 02:41 PM |
| 188 | All those men that you've made a first move on in the past never wanted you.Even the men who roll their eyes at the "ancient" courtship process - once they are in the position and have all the means to court the woman - will be the one most excited and engaged in pursuing the woman. Because it gives them the thrill of the chase like nothing else - it directly engages their lizard-i-must-find-mate brain and makes them feel alive. Nothing beats finally able to fully immerse in their biologically designed role. That's why you will find some men not even blinking spending t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 12:35 PM |
| 6 | A Porn Producer's Take on Bridgerton and Similar Explicit Shows: They Are No Different From Porn.Season 1 is super explicit Ahh yes, why am I not surprise. fifty shades of grey all over again huh? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/22 06:52 PM |
| 45 | A Porn Producer's Take on Bridgerton and Similar Explicit Shows: They Are No Different From Porn.Damn, the youtube shorts make it look like such a clean show. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/22 05:50 AM |
| 92 | A Porn Producer's Take on Bridgerton and Similar Explicit Shows: They Are No Different From Porn.I don't watch Bridgerton but is it a racy show? I thought it is like that Pride and Prejudice thing? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/22 03:52 AM |
| 115 | True Crime: Male Friends are a Liability EditionThese men are the biggest gold diggers A lot of men nowadays truly wants to be the "trophy" husband. They are jealous of the sugar babies, trophy wives, real gold diggers - and silently want that lives for themselves. That's why they are so enraged when you expect them to act like a man - because most of them don't want to even be the man in the relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/22 12:59 AM |
| 178 | True Crime: Male Friends are a Liability EditionYour average men don't see women as "friends" - just something to be used or sexual object or emotional dumpster/free therapist. They will talk about you behind your back, just to have something to talk about with their beloved bros. And backstab you (like in this crime) without remorse. Because for them, you are sub-human and they are entitled to get things from you. Now, great decent men who can be reliable friends do exist - but I rather be friends with their wives/girlfriends/sisters to be h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/22 12:52 AM |
| 11 | Ladies, understand that by becoming a HVW - LVMs/NVMs/ZVMs/Scrotes/Toxic people are no longer in your LEAGUE. So stop wasting your time and energy on them.Any attention is satisfying for a parasite whether it be positive or negative. EXACTLY. Even snapping back with witty remark, unless the situation can benefit you (in front of the bosses or in a meeting) - is giving them attention. Scrotes thrive on that sh*t, and will keep coming back to waste your time even more. Don't do it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/22 03:40 PM |
| 365 | Little reminder about "red flags"I'll one up you on this one - ANY feeling that makes you go "huh? Why do I feel off?" LEAVE. Maybe it is nothing - maybe it is something really bad. Your intuition is telling you that it is sensing something - LISTEN TO IT. JUST LEAVE. You've got plenty of others to deal with anyway. Get used to heed your intuition without questioning it. That's how you hone your intuitive skill. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/22 09:08 PM |
| 22 | Ladies, understand that by becoming a HVW - LVMs/NVMs/ZVMs/Scrotes/Toxic people are no longer in your LEAGUE. So stop wasting your time and energy on them.I've got a stalker or two sis, haha. You'll see me around on FDS so don't worry! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/22 09:00 PM |
| 66 | Ladies, understand that by becoming a HVW - LVMs/NVMs/ZVMs/Scrotes/Toxic people are no longer in your LEAGUE. So stop wasting your time and energy on them.Yes, that's why you get strategic. Like FDS, you creates spaces, channels, writing and just keep talking about it. Just keep hitting them with facts after facts until something inside them break. Be calm but firm, be very patient. Just keep talking and stating the same point in different way - it is a very long term game and require an astronomical amount of patience. Women don't respond well when fellow women shove facts at them in an angry manner - they get triggered and pushing you even furth… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/22 08:27 PM |
| 210 | Watching 'Ultimatum' on Netflix - the epitome of 'if they wanted to, they would'.Begging their partner to get married and trying to convince them by saying they'll be good wives because they cook, will have sex 4 times a day and clean etc. Have some value for yourself and self respect! You are more than a 1950s housewife. Idk why they are fighting so hard to marry these useless men. Interesting you say that. For all that people are saying it is MoDeRn PrOgReSSiVe dating culture and traditional courtship is "sooo old school!" - a lot of women act even worse that 1950s housewi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/22 04:33 PM |
| 246 | Access to HVW is a privilege. Cut off contact the second it does not serve you - you do not have to tolerate anything subpar for even a second.100% THIS! Our first instinct if anything, literally anything makes us feels off - is to drop him instantly. And move on to the next. Be efficient in your dating ladies, to get quality - you must cut down the quantity as swiftly as possible. Dating as a HVW may seem "cold and cruel" to the general masses - but remember that the general masses is full of toxic drama and very keen on keeping women perpetually insecure and chasing the men. So in that sense, you don't want to date the "normal" way. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/22 04:10 PM |
| 69 | I’m finally getting over himIt also helps to remind yourself that the feeling of longing and melancholy is a projection of YOUR ideal fantasy on him. There was a great post on FDS before, about crushes being about how you don't exactly want him - you actually want some qualities that he have and imagine how good it is to be around such qualities, and how those qualities can help elevate yourself. Another side to that is the classic prince charming fantasy all women grew up with - how we all fantasize about the one day find… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/22 01:59 PM |
| 1 | Why you should NEVER accept a 50/50 relationship: THIS. Imagine how life is if she just stay single and work on her business alone.Ugh imagine being humiliated like this every time they go out to have "fun". It is only seemed cute in the beginning, but infuriating af after years of marriage. Glad she is free now, and hopefully coming to her senses. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/22 09:50 AM |
| 67 | Eye opening vacationI want someone who takes things in stride when they do wrong This is one of the more subtle quality in HVM that isn't talked often - being able to control emotion, be calm and able to focus on solution even in the most stressful situation. You will face a shit ton of stressful situations outside of your control, and having someone who can take things in a stride shows peak maturity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/22 10:20 AM |
| 16 | How do you perceive big d*ck energy?Yess the difference between the master who truly value knowledge and wanna spread it - speak in easy language, only care about making people understand, never draw attention to himself, patiently explain until people get it. Otherwise just happily keep to himself and learn more. Wannabe-master - speak in sci-fi jargons and smug as fudgeeee. Think he is the smartest ivory dweller and everybody else are dumb mere mortals. Doesn't understand why you don't instantly drop to his feet begging him to p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 12:07 PM |
| 135 | You have a RESPONSIBILITY in being HVThis is so, SO IMPORTANT to remember ladies - especially in the current society where young girls are literally being groomed worldwide to normalize being sexually objectified and think of it as being "cool" and "empowering" and whatever BS they came up with next. Women are so confused and traumatized right now, and we have the obligation to show them that their hurt and pain is NOT wrong. So, so freakin' important that we model the correct behavior and show the women all around us that we have … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 07:23 PM |
| 156 | HVM prefer monogamous relationshipsHV people aren't driven by lust - of course they enjoy the sexual side of relationship, but aren't consumed by it, unlike your masses of scrotes nowadays. So it makes sense for them to be monogamous - they have other things to do too, instead of banging and thinking about banging 24/7. LibFem can argue it anyway they want, but the current state of normalizing porn addiction, open relationship, swinger and BDSM and kink and what-else-have-ya is NOT normal. It is not "empowering", it is sickening.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 05:32 PM |
| 128 | Have you ever seen your threads on FDS being shared in other subs?Yes it is normal. You will experience it a lot more once you become a regular posters. Plus that redditcare message. Plus scrotes pretending to be good boyz trying to butter you up with empty praises and listing "proofs" why they are not like other guys. And trying to start a conversation with you. Block and report. And turn off messaging. Pay them no mind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 04:45 PM |
| 52 | losing friends ever since accepting FDS valuesIt will be lonely for a period of time - imagine it like you accumulate a lot of junk in your house for years, and now you have to throw them all out because those things are dragging you down. Your house will be empty for a period of time because you have to start again, now with filling your house with only good things. Friendship and life is like that too - the period after decluttering toxic people will be the loneliest because most people accumulate mostly toxic people growing up. Especiall… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 02:46 PM |
| 127 | losing friends ever since accepting FDS valuesAs an aspiring HVW, what can I do to be a better friend? Should I have said nothing? Should I have defended her? Think whether or not she is worth still being called a friend from now on. Part of the journey of levelling up is realizing perhaps the friendship you have built until now is filled with toxic people - and perhaps it is time to let go and find new friends. You can lead the horse to the water, but you can't make it drink it. And ruthlessly enforcing boundaries and standards applies to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 02:00 PM |
| 2 | Why you should NEVER accept a 50/50 relationship: THIS. Imagine how life is if she just stay single and work on her business alone.Some men (and people) are just the engineer to their own misery and there's nothing you can do about it sadly - except to leave them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 04:37 AM |
| 123 | The amount of pickmes on reddit is too highYou said it sis. Men make fun of and loathe pickmes I'd say even more than they make fun of stoic/combative women. It is the desperation that triggers the worst of the worst attitude in men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/22 05:26 PM |
| 5 | FDS subreddit is NOT a landfill for depraved male content.There's also the thing where when we are angry and stressed all the time - we actually becomes more vulnerable to covert manipulation. Because when we are hyper focused on being angry and aggressive to a certain behavior from men - we think we got it all covered, we become way to open, our brain short-circuited a lot because we are extra-tired. Our anger clouded our judgement and we don't realize the quieter, patient men gleefully observing and planning on how to manipulate us in the long game. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/22 08:07 PM |
| 143 | Men saying that women go on dates for free food is them admitting that they have nothing else to offer.Considering that women are notorious for giving chances after chances to undeserving dudes and always about giving him the benefit of the doubt; if a guy is always yapping about how women is using him for free dinner - you can bet you ass he is just so repulsive and creepy, even the most forgiving women can't stand being around him for more than an hour. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/22 12:20 PM |
| 14 | We are taught that a woman's love is natural, and a man's love is validating. Do not for a second live by this lie.But when the "discard and the loser" don't act desperate around them and treat them professionally, suddenly they take it as a life mission to convince you you want them Dealing with so much of this BS with young 20s kids LOL. Like no boy, I still feel nothing when you flex in front of me. Now go back to work ffs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/22 07:55 PM |
| 181 | Man attempts to low-ball his date after getting horrendous advice from Reddit. Queen blocks and deletes in responseAnd he is a doctor. Unless he is actually still a resident or worse, a student he can afford far more than a stupid coffee. A cheap ass stingy scrote is what he is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/22 06:50 PM |
| 1 | 50/50 Cautionary Tales Part 1 : "Something feels weird here"I see, it was an oversight on my part. Extremely sorry for that and thank you for the explanation! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/22 11:38 PM |
| 1 | 50/50 Cautionary Tales Part 1 : "Something feels weird here"Submission statement? Can you elaborate a bit more please so that I would not repeat the same mistake in the future? Is it the too simple title? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/22 11:15 PM |
| 13 | 50/50 Cautionary Tales Part 1 : "Something feels weird here"Sadly in a lot of real life situation (that I found) - this exact situation is what happens after a woman agree to do 50/50 with a man. She goes to live with him thinking it will all fair 50/50 and slowly, like a frog in a boiling water - suddenly realize "Wait, this is not fair". By then she has already invested too much, wasted her youth, and they have a couple of kids. That's why FDS ban even entertaining 50/50 dude because it is a trap. I've yet to see a 50/50 relationship that remains truly… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/22 05:33 PM |
| 23 | 50/50 Cautionary Tales Part 1 : "Something feels weird here"It wasn't even an actual borrowing - she moves in too fast (which I think due to him pressuring her) and weren't ready, so he bought her things that she needed. Which is the barest of the bare minimum a man should do for her partner. But he doesn't see her as a partner at all, just someone to coerce money from. He forced her into a position of "borrowing" money from him. This relationship is a lie from the very beginning. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/22 03:33 PM |
| 37 | 50/50 Cautionary Tales Part 1 : "Something feels weird here"Me too sis - I eat once a day so my grocery bills is very low. Even a guy who eats the normal breakfast-lunch-dinner wanting to split 50/50 grocery bills will be extremely unfair to me - because I only eat 5% of that grocery. Unless he eats once a day like me and eat the exact amount I eat - that 50/50 split will never be fair. Now if the man wants to pay for my groceries together with his - theoretically it will be fair because he only adds 5% more of cost to his current cost. He won't feel any… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/22 03:17 PM |
| 50 | 50/50 Cautionary Tales Part 1 : "Something feels weird here"Bluntly put, if I meet a guy who I'm attracted to, who treats me the way I want to be treated, and who checks all my boxes, I don't really care whether I'm feeling some mind-melting soul connection or feel like he's 'the one'. Ironically, this is how you fall in love with a guy. It is a progression. The one about spark and mind-melting connection and 'the one' is surprisingly a male concept of love. Because this is how they describe the connection when asked "why her" that isn't the generic scro… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/22 03:10 PM |
| 48 | Saw this on Twitter and I’m ANGRY, dumb pick me"Empowered" until a slighted creepy scrotes doxxed her because she "played" him and she starting to get threats straight to her mail. And don't forget she is unable to get a normal job anywhere due to the risk of her OF being exposed. And she can do OF for what, 2 years before she is old news? And she is still pulling beads out of her ass. This girl does not think long term, glad you cut her off immediately before she pulls you down into her future drama. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/22 01:17 PM |
| 88 | Saw this on Twitter and I’m ANGRY, dumb pick meEventually she made an onlyfans and was excited to "tell me cool stories" about it, but I didn't want to hear that What Now she's "empowered" (her own words) because she's the coolest girlfriend ever with an OF WHAT we're all a bunch of jealous sexless losers WHAT | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/22 12:24 PM |
| 71 | Saw this on Twitter and I’m ANGRY, dumb pick meI know a woman who compete in showing off that she has more money than all the other girls - when in fact she doesn't. She bought expensive scooter and pay for all the food whenever the guys are around. While also brag about doing wifey shit. It is just so bizarre. Like she wants to be taken advantage of - she flirts with every male within eyesight, even obviously married men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/22 12:21 PM |
| 75 | 50/50 Cautionary Tales Part 1 : "Something feels weird here"To all the scrotes out there? They'll say it is "perfectly equal, in fact she should do more". You just know they j*ck off to this sh*t. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/22 12:16 PM |
| 152 | 50/50 Cautionary Tales Part 1 : "Something feels weird here"men use money to demonstrate their feelings 100% agree with you sis - the kindest men I know don't use words as much when they want to demonstrate their feelings (unlike women) - they use money and the act of protecting and taking care of you to prove that they love you. They say "I love you" by buying you a coat because it is going to get cold, or park the car right in front of the restaurant so that you don't have to walk far in your heels. Majority of his I-love-yous are money and actions. If… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/22 12:06 PM |
| 200 | 50/50 Cautionary Tales Part 1 : "Something feels weird here"A lot of women do love wrong; love is suppose to be mutualism - meaning two very independent people work together to achieve net benefit for both of them and the lives around them. Meanwhile a lot of these so-called "love" is actually parasitism - one party get all the benefits, the other party get all the harm. And the woman keeps on giving and giving in hopes that someday her sacrifices will mean something. Meanwhile the dude suck the life out of her, the kids, the dog, and everybody else unlu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/22 11:30 AM |
| 324 | "f around and find out" as a mindset makes it easier to blockReal life example guy I vetted knew I really disliked a certain type of genre. When he pulled up in his car, he quick changed the radio to that genre of music and then did an evil grin. Then mentioned "I know I told you I didn't like this either but let's have it on" and then turned it up. Told him I'd follow his car from the restaurant to the movies (i drive seperate snd wont get in a mans car) but after that I ended up driving home. Honestly, what did he think will happen? That you will just s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/22 10:45 AM |
| 8 | Why you should NEVER accept a 50/50 relationship: THIS. Imagine how life is if she just stay single and work on her business alone.Yeah, unless you really know what you are getting into, don't get with a man who have huge power dynamic over you. I always attracted rich trust fund kid - and being from a very poor family, I can just see how it will play out. Especially when he start making excuses about not wanting to visit my family. See too many cases like that, nah fam. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 08:31 PM |
| 7 | Why you should NEVER accept a 50/50 relationship: THIS. Imagine how life is if she just stay single and work on her business alone.Imagine if Grimes didn't get involved with that scrote and didn't have kids with him - just pursue her career individually, she would have gone far. Like those other singers like Doja Cat, Megan Thee Stallion etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 08:28 PM |
| 9 | Why you should NEVER accept a 50/50 relationship: THIS. Imagine how life is if she just stay single and work on her business alone.Fast fotward to current divorce situation, he refused to pay child, spousal support and the proceeds of the house sale are frozen in a trust account until he agrees to split it. How can he not get into trouble like that? Because I see posts where the woman earns more and after divorce, she has to pay him this and that. But I also see posts after posts about ex refusing to paying the woman and seemingly manage to get away it. He does this and that, in the end she didn't get a cent. Why is the wom… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 06:33 PM |
| 51 | Why you should NEVER accept a 50/50 relationship: THIS. Imagine how life is if she just stay single and work on her business alone.This is how you get the "We have been together 10 years but he isn't proposing yet, saying he isn't ready!" Like bruh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 03:04 PM |
| 11 | Why you should NEVER accept a 50/50 relationship: THIS. Imagine how life is if she just stay single and work on her business alone.If he uses words like "gold digger" to describe other women, he probably thinks you are one too. 100% I found that men who talks about "women being a gold digger" are either a) projecting or b) it is his inherent belief system. Type B just think women = gold digger - even those in his family. He just grew up with that kind of thinking, often with all the other misogynists views. He just doesn't trust women, some even truly hates us for existing. And that he still wants and needs a women if he is… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 02:53 PM |
| 8 | Why you should NEVER accept a 50/50 relationship: THIS. Imagine how life is if she just stay single and work on her business alone.She doesn't have any cash left because it is all gone to paying bills. And mind your her percentage is still smaller than him. Imagine what kind of lifestyle she is forced to follow to have that much bills to pay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 01:16 PM |
| 17 | Why you should NEVER accept a 50/50 relationship: THIS. Imagine how life is if she just stay single and work on her business alone.She is already doing that - she is starting some sort of business (that's the main reason why she is stuck at 20K preparing her business). But she ain't doing it to get out - she is just doing it to somehow "make things better" - not realizing that he is just waiting to offload more percentage of the bills once she starts making more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 01:12 PM |
| 76 | Why you should NEVER accept a 50/50 relationship: THIS. Imagine how life is if she just stay single and work on her business alone.This is why 2022 and forward we should drop this belief that we are the one who should "prove" ourselves as "not a gold digger" by going 50/50 with a rich man. Any man really but women do tend to think she has to prove she isn't after the rich man's money. You think it will all end one day and you will be "rewarded" for your suffering - meanwhile the dude got sadistic pleasure from seeing you broke all the time and crying to sleep thinking about debt. He views it as putting you in your place - f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 06:18 AM |
| 72 | Why you should NEVER accept a 50/50 relationship: THIS. Imagine how life is if she just stay single and work on her business alone.How to afford one though? With all her money gone after bills, she can't even save some for herself. Ironically if she stayed single, she can live more comfortably because she can live modestly and doesn't need to pay such a high cost of bills. Which I suspect is due to him wanting them to live according to his lifestyle. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 12:01 AM |
| 68 | Why you should NEVER accept a 50/50 relationship: THIS. Imagine how life is if she just stay single and work on her business alone.If he didn't left her first for a shiny new "toy". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/22 11:07 PM |
| 310 | Why you should NEVER accept a 50/50 relationship: THIS. Imagine how life is if she just stay single and work on her business alone.Goes to show that if more often than not, a 50/50 man is a horribly stingy yet entitled man that for sure demand sex and expect her doing all the house chores - but she better be paying every single dime of her half. Even when she makes only 20% of his income. He doesn't care if she suffers - everything is a transaction to him. He won't appreciates her sacrifices - he sees it as his "right" to get all he can from her while protecting his money from the her potential "evil gold-diggerness". You g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/22 08:18 PM |
| 217 | Why you should NEVER accept a 50/50 relationship: THIS. Imagine how life is if she just stay single and work on her business alone.Even a child asking her parent for pocket money get more than this. 20$... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/22 08:10 PM |
| 214 | This was on my LinkedIn feed with hundreds of likes and positive comments about how clever and hilarious it was.Yeah, that's the difference between marrying your typical scrote and marrying and a relationship-ready man. Congratulations to you OP! As always, never stop vetting and enjoy your relationship! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/22 05:27 PM |
| 3 | "I am afraid if I let him pay for dinner & dates OR don't go 50/50 with him OR let him pay for me all the time OR fully provide for me - he will have full control over every aspect of my life because I am financially dependent on him."Well I'll be damned - I've heard of many cases like that in the narcissist spouse sub. Seems like a favorite tactic of narcs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/22 05:23 PM |
| 3 | "I am afraid if I let him pay for dinner & dates OR don't go 50/50 with him OR let him pay for me all the time OR fully provide for me - he will have full control over every aspect of my life because I am financially dependent on him."Please tag me when you make it, I wouldn't want to miss it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/22 09:16 AM |
| 13 | "I am afraid if I let him pay for dinner & dates OR don't go 50/50 with him OR let him pay for me all the time OR fully provide for me - he will have full control over every aspect of my life because I am financially dependent on him."It is a justifiable fear - financial abuse is real afterall. That's why FDS never condone just straight up find a rich man - because rich LVMs exists. But by fearing the thing instead of recognizing the root of the problem, a lot of women make the mistake of staying farr to long. They think going halfies will proctect them from abuse - but you are still going out with an abuser. He will still abuse you regardless of you paying half or paying all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/22 05:13 AM |
| 156 | Woman finds out her boyfriend earns significantly more money than her, wants him to contribute more for their rent and take her on a nice date.But for some reason men really hate them. NSA sex Something about them not having the power over women. They loathe being given the taste of their own medicine. Majority of men hates women and want to see us going crazy crying and begging them to stop hurting us and treat us like human. Give them the sick sense of power they crave so much but unable to get from fellow men because they are pathetic losers. NSA sex girl won't act like that - it is a truly mutual transaction. They hate that so, so … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 09:41 PM |
| 81 | Woman finds out her boyfriend earns significantly more money than her, wants him to contribute more for their rent and take her on a nice date.This is the type of person that will hold against a woman for getting ill or pregnant because she abruptly can't do 50-50 anymore and he has to step up. THIS. This is always the downfall in most of 50/50 cases I studied. It always start with both are fine with 50/50 at the start, the man may even do his half of the chores properly because newlywed bliss. Everything is good and shiny and happy. Once it loses its spark though and they are faced with the real life of repetitive routine and life cha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 09:31 PM |
| 348 | Woman finds out her boyfriend earns significantly more money than her, wants him to contribute more for their rent and take her on a nice date.Sex. He wants the sex. Peepee lonely, need someone to stroke him. This is why you drop 50/50 dudes faster than he can blink. He wants the cake and eat it too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 09:10 PM |
| 7 | "I am afraid if I let him pay for dinner & dates OR don't go 50/50 with him OR let him pay for me all the time OR fully provide for me - he will have full control over every aspect of my life because I am financially dependent on him."potentially losing some or even all of everything she has so carefully saved in a divorce In what kind of situation that she can potentially lose it all? I am from Asia so the law (from what I can understand) is totally different. US law is very complicated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 08:54 PM |
| 21 | "I am afraid if I let him pay for dinner & dates OR don't go 50/50 with him OR let him pay for me all the time OR fully provide for me - he will have full control over every aspect of my life because I am financially dependent on him."Thank you for the explanation - law is confusing AF, haha. I can handle scientific terms, but damn law jargons make me cry. But one thing to take away from this - ABSOLUTELY NOT to practice hypogamy; hypergamy or single all the way. Read a post recently about wife earning six figure, the breadwinner, and do everything while the "proud househusband" is jobless, laze around all day or out playing golf. Get divorced, and she got totally f**ked in court. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 08:20 PM |
| 22 | "I am afraid if I let him pay for dinner & dates OR don't go 50/50 with him OR let him pay for me all the time OR fully provide for me - he will have full control over every aspect of my life because I am financially dependent on him."Yes. All. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 08:08 PM |
| 19 | "I am afraid if I let him pay for dinner & dates OR don't go 50/50 with him OR let him pay for me all the time OR fully provide for me - he will have full control over every aspect of my life because I am financially dependent on him."Yeah, and the argument that because you don't give birth to children (for him) means it is "justified" that you pay half the bills (for him) is still treating yourself like as second class citizen and putting him on the pedestal. Why do you want to do that? Instead of cutting him off and go date the next suitor? That will happily pay for all your expenses and treat you like a queen? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 08:06 PM |
| 18 | "I am afraid if I let him pay for dinner & dates OR don't go 50/50 with him OR let him pay for me all the time OR fully provide for me - he will have full control over every aspect of my life because I am financially dependent on him."I view a person who exudes aggression as someone who is as a form of defense, they attack first. Like the dude who throws punches first because they fear being punched. The one who is settled in their power don't exude aggression because they don't need to - when they need to stand their ground, they simply block the punch. No prelude needed. If you have to, calmly stand your ground and then move on and drop those people. 👆👆👆 Just stand your ground, no need for the whole sing and dance. It is … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 07:50 PM |
| 63 | "I am afraid if I let him pay for dinner & dates OR don't go 50/50 with him OR let him pay for me all the time OR fully provide for me - he will have full control over every aspect of my life because I am financially dependent on him."Yeah, it is common for people to think a HVW is the stereotypical "yass Queen" clapbacks girl boss who is always ready to argue and fight. Like she exudes aggressive energy because that's how the media and internet portrays it. But true power and confidence is not aggressive - it is calm, contained, settled. It is a quiet confidence because she doesn't need to prove anything to anybody - but people sees it in her anyway. She has the zen energy and you just know you can't pull any BS with her - s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 06:47 PM |
| 22 | "I am afraid if I let him pay for dinner & dates OR don't go 50/50 with him OR let him pay for me all the time OR fully provide for me - he will have full control over every aspect of my life because I am financially dependent on him."The general rule is that anything financial is his responsibility. You just chip in here and there when things are truly dire. Even then a true HVM will exhaust his option first before even think about troubling you. A true provider is unlike your typical scrote - it is almost mind-blowing how serious and dedicated he is in providing for you and the family, it is almost scary. It is actually an insult to him if you offer to help him financially because he is thinking "She thinks I am not doing e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 06:33 PM |
| 28 | "I am afraid if I let him pay for dinner & dates OR don't go 50/50 with him OR let him pay for me all the time OR fully provide for me - he will have full control over every aspect of my life because I am financially dependent on him."Sorry I can't agree with this. Not having a child doesn't absolve his responsibility from being the provider. He choose to marry you - he should know what that means. Let put it this way - in a relationship, woman tend to wear many hats. Her brain is designed to care about all the little details. Even excluding all the physical and financial responsibilities - she tends to be the worrier. The one who carries more of the emotional burden. The one that get stressed about the day to day details, or… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 06:19 PM |
| 11 | Genuine question: how can a woman maintain the hope that there really are good men out there?If you are feeling down and don't have any real life example - just watch Ned (The Try Guys) and Ariel. He is the most married man to ever married. Adores Ariel like mad, constantly talk about her, facing fatherhood with maturity and bravery without a fuss. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 05:23 PM |
| 24 | "I am afraid if I let him pay for dinner & dates OR don't go 50/50 with him OR let him pay for me all the time OR fully provide for me - he will have full control over every aspect of my life because I am financially dependent on him."So if say the husband has a total asset of 700K while the wife's asset is 300K - they will both get 500K each? And vice versa? How about alimony and child support? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 04:47 PM |
| 146 | I need support, I think I need to break up with himRead what you wrote. And reread it again and again and again. And ask yourself if this is what you want your life to be for the next 10, 20, 50 years. what if I never meet anyone better etc. But what if you will meet someone better? Or realize that living without him makes you soo much happier and healthier? Why does the future always have to be bad and hopeless? One thing for sure, staying with him means you will continue to be like this until you snap out of it, or you passed away first. We ai… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 11:09 PM |
| 4 | Abstinence is one of the most powerful weapons against scrotes.I have no experience with those kind of men, but from what I found: From msdmanuals: Possible causes include psychologic factors (such as depression, anxiety, or relationship problems), drugs, and low blood levels of testosterone. When libido is decreased, men have fewer sexual thoughts and fantasies and less interest in sex, and they engage in sexual activity less frequently. Even sexual stimulation, by sights, words, or touch, may fail to provoke interest. Men with low libido often retain th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 09:04 AM |
| 1 | Another Way Women Are Not Aware They Are ShrinkingLook up robo advisor options. It is the most beginner-friendly investment approach with manageable risk. Good as a learning progression before playing the big game. Also easy as heck to withdraw money in case you need it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 06:34 PM |
| 12 | reminder: power, not empowerment; equity, not equality👏👏👏 Bravo sis. Bravo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 06:25 PM |
| 36 | reminder: power, not empowerment; equity, not equalityI still don't understand why women even want to send nudes. Or take nudes. Like why? For what purpose? Just looking at yourself in the mirror isn't enough? They say it is an "empowerment" thing. IDK sis crocheting seems pretty empowering too. And have none of the risk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 05:33 PM |
| 7 | reminder: power, not empowerment; equity, not equalitydon't get me started on bras and sports bras OMG don't. I have atopic ezcema, my skin is paper thin. Bra is supposed to be comfortable. BRA IS SUPPOSED TO BE COMFORTABLE! But nooooo always the stupid, stupid, stupidddd lace and organza and bullsh*t. And t-shirt bras are always small cup. Like big boobs don't need them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 05:25 PM |
| 17 | reminder: power, not empowerment; equity, not equalityI too have flat feet, so the arch never works and my food doesn't have support while it floats in the air and is AGONIZING. Rightttt. Our entire body weight are crushing those toes and it. was. hell. F**k looking cute, I need my sanity more. the fact that we tend to make significantly less and spend it on crappier quality products that do not last and can hurt us/ cause damage is insane to me You said it sis - that's literally the entirety of womanhood. They purposely make our products crappy … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 05:16 PM |
| 32 | reminder: power, not empowerment; equity, not equalityI never can wear heels because my feet is big and flat - and I resent all those stupid stupid stupiddddd office rules that if you aren't wearing heels, you are "not professional". F**k them all. I wear men's hiking sandal and let me tell you - the QUALITY of that thing is mindblowing for 60$. Women's shoes of the same price can't even compare. We have been duped. Women's fashion industry is a joke. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 04:20 PM |
| 41 | reminder: power, not empowerment; equity, not equalityThat goes to everythinggggggg related to womanhood - including skin care. The base function of skincare is good - you need to take care of your skin. But damn we don't need 50+ different products and 20+ skincare steps daily. Now that skincare is the "in" trend - we are bombarded like crazy with all these products taunting how important this is and how crucial that is. All expensive AF of course even when the base ingredients are hella cheap. Also clothing that barely function as a protective la… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 03:09 PM |
| 16 | The Hardest HVW Lesson *for me*: No one is going to save you.As a fellow growing up in abject poverty who learn very early on to be hyper-independent strong woman and can do everything on her own, here's my two cents when it comes to resting: Yes, nobody will come to save you. You pretty much have to rely on yourself a lot of times - because each and every one of us are dealing with their very own unique burden in life. Yes, including the coveted HVM. BUT there are times when people come into your life and wanting to help you without any hidden intention … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 02:47 PM |
| 11 | Straight from the horse's mouth 🗣️And considering a high number of spouse/family homicide are done by men that look "harmless" and everybody calls him the "nice, good man" - yeah, I ain't playing that "not following gender norm" BS. Women have been giving the underdog, fugly dudes, and losers chance since what - 10, 20 years ago? How did that turn out? Women need to stop pretending that we are "above" our primal instinct when it comes to attraction - because the evidence is clear as day, just look around us. All that SJWs non-he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 12:22 PM |
| 23 | Abstinence is one of the most powerful weapons against scrotes.However, I don’t want a scrote who looks down on me for sleeping with him either. I don’t want a slut shamer. I don’t want someone who thinks he’s degrading my worth by sticking his dick in me. He will have a holier than thou attitude. He may be educated and look fine, polished and all that - but the way he speaks reek superiority and elitist view. And if he see a "slutty" woman in public - oh you will know it immediately. If he only respects me because I don’t sleep with him, then he’s hardly a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 09:52 AM |
| 29 | Abstinence is one of the most powerful weapons against scrotes.I feel pressure to take advantage of being in my “prime” mid-twenties That pressure to "enjoy your 20s, sleep as many people as you want!" is also part of the patriarchy propaganda because the MEN wants to sleep around as much as possible in their 20s before "being shackled" by marriage and social expectations in their 30s and forward. So when there's a need, there must be supplies. Hence the pressure for women to give out easily. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 09:47 AM |
| 22 | Abstinence is one of the most powerful weapons against scrotes.And for the ladies who worry about: 1) Porn-induced erectile dysfunction Vet for the tall-tale sign of porn addiction: the porn addict gaze, the way he looks at women in public, the way he speaks about women, his social media behavior. Snoop his phone, check his browser history. Do the blood in the water test, observe how he acts when the topic of porn addiction comes up. He can either be too callous or too careful - both are red flags. 2) Closeted homosexuality Either he is a raging homophobic,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 09:21 AM |
| 9 | Straight from the horse's mouth 🗣️He is exhausting to be around. Men with low self-esteem are emotional vampires and need validation every freakin' second or else he will throw an epic mantrum or suddenly give you the silent treatment. You walk on eggshells around him. He is never calm or stable for long. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 06:24 AM |
| 13 | Straight from the horse's mouth 🗣️They have to be Sharp. On the ball. Protective. Kind of mean looking but inside they are gentle /loyal with a glimmer in their eye Also he was kind of reserved, mature, masculine, simple - that made him more attractive …his energy was calm and contained THIS. There is just something with a simple, strong, protective yet humble and reserved man that is just ughhhhh. Makes me blush and giggle and swoon like a schoolgirl. Like you said, he is just so attractive at the primal level. He knows who he … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 06:02 AM |
| 219 | for the love of god stop explaining yourselfThink of it this way - you still go out of your way, carve some time out of your day, put in effort and energy into giving LVMs attention. What do all that clapbacks, last words, "education" wall of text get you? Quick burst of feel good chemicals because you "showed him"? But after that? NOTHING. You just spend all that time and energy for nothing. He still got the attention he crave plus shit load of information he can use to manipulate the next woman. Plus that quick burst of feel good chemic… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 04:19 AM |
| 2 | Don’t let men (or women) shame you for leveraging your looks.You are very much welcome sis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 11:07 AM |
| 111 | Why are men often so short sighted they sabotage themselves?You shouldn't have engage when he started the sexual text and cut him off immediately. That's a red flag sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 04:16 AM |
| 25 | Reddit advising women to "be honest and straightforward, don't play mind games" when the wife caught the husband cheating/or lying.I see this behavior as being a patriarchal psyop. It puts the moral onus on the victim involved to, for some fuckin reason, be more pliable and vulnerable to the person that hurt them. This also applies to when being "asked" (or rather, interrogated) about highly personal, sensitive, and safety-risk information in dating - like past trauma, past sexual history, financial information, your address etc. - women are expected to be "honest and open". And if we refuse to disclose any information that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 05:59 PM |
| 52 | Reddit advising women to "be honest and straightforward, don't play mind games" when the wife caught the husband cheating/or lying.Reddit likes to co-op official terminologies to suit their nasty narrative. My eyes rolled hard when they start saying how "manipulative" it is to investigate his browser history and pretending all is fine while getting all her ducks in a row. Or not allowing him to touch her because he cheated (hello STD!!) is "abuse". Or serving him divorce papers after collecting all the evidence and get lawyered up is "playing mind games". Meanwhile the cheating asshole is still cheating and treating the wif… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 04:33 PM |
| 61 | Don’t let men (or women) shame you for leveraging your looks.Its one of my biggest insecurities: that at the end of the day, any man I date is ultimately just there because he likes my physical features. But I still struggle to trust any man that might fall for my appearance. It is a justifiable fear - beauty is the number one factor that attracts men to women. I mean the opposite is true too - people like pretty things afterall. Even HVM. The difference being for a HVM, he will notice you at first because of the looks but will vet past that to see if you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 04:22 PM |
| 79 | Reddit advising women to "be honest and straightforward, don't play mind games" when the wife caught the husband cheating/or lying.A lot of women suffer from wanting to be seen as "the good woman" that they willingly stay in shitty marriage/relationship and forgive the cheating. They are so deathly afraid of what others will think about them. Female socialization is literally destroying the lives of so many women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 02:41 PM |
| 106 | Reddit advising women to "be honest and straightforward, don't play mind games" when the wife caught the husband cheating/or lying.I’ll match your respect but I will top your disrespect Words to live by 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 01:17 PM |
| 278 | Reddit advising women to "be honest and straightforward, don't play mind games" when the wife caught the husband cheating/or lying.I laughed out loud at the comments (obviously written by men) being all sappy wappy saying shit like "Look at him in the eyes, feel the love you have for him, tell him exactly how he hurt you and what you don't like about the situation. Being as clear as possible, be straightforward, be honest, tell him with lurveeeeeeee``" Like that dude lost his brain or something on the way home. Banged too much, his brain shrink? But they are the "LoGiCaL" gender!!!! /s Well scrotes, how about this - cheat b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 12:28 PM |
| 222 | Reddit advising women to "be honest and straightforward, don't play mind games" when the wife caught the husband cheating/or lying.Just curious, has this "bigger person" stuff ever been pushed on men? NEVERRR They will say he is "dumb" and "p***y whipped" if he chooses to stay. See? Even they know how stupid their own "advises" are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 10:56 AM |
| 34 | Don’t let men (or women) shame you for leveraging your looks.The caveat to leveraging looks is that to make sure you are in control. It is like putting on a bespoke suit and feel like a boss, and not putting on a suit and pray people will treat you better. It all starts from within, like the old saying goes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 09:31 AM |
| 1 | If you still live your life around the mindset "But what would my future HVM think about this?" - you are still stuck in that Pickme mode.Heard what sis? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 09:27 AM |
| 4 | Lol, all these winners.I can hear the high pitch, babying voice as she talks over the group about what her "hubby" does today and how proud she is of him. Ma'am, this is Wendy's. Also nobody asked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 06:08 AM |
| 35 | I cringe. Why are women not allowed to care about the way a man present themselves? Why does he act like men don’t treat women they find unattractive like shit all the time? Also women are not that simple minded, a good looking scrote is still low value. Being HV is not based on mere looks & income.Also guys, date in your range Hah, men will throw the mantrum of the century if they are forced to date in their range. They won't even pretend to be nice to those poor ladies, just straight up nasty and demanding from the first date (if there's even one). And act spiteful af talking about how he wish he date hotter girls instead. And you bet he will be the desperate skirt chasing loser in the office. Fugly dude with fugly attitude should not be dated, they should be left in the curb where they … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 05:38 AM |
| 191 | Don’t let men (or women) shame you for leveraging your looks.I am the kind that want the best of both worlds - being seen and being invisible. I tasted both, and I like both. So I choose the career road that are more relaxed on the looks department, while leveraging the f**k outta my looks elsewhere. I love the full control over my looks and what it brings to me, but I also love the freedom of being free from expectation. I love being me, haha. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 05:17 AM |
| 13 | Not suprised.Also, why is 3 years bad? I’m not trying to get married at 22 :’) It is a slippery slope into being a forever girlfriend - especially if you already live together and do all the things married couples do sans the legal connection. Unless it is by your (the woman's) choice. Assuming you engage in regular sexual activities, avoid getting pregnant. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 05:17 PM |
| 39 | If you still live your life around the mindset "But what would my future HVM think about this?" - you are still stuck in that Pickme mode.internalized misogyny is also a thing that needs work! Uff yeahhh, internalized misogyny is a real demon - especially because I have been continuously bullied by a lot of toxic women of all ages growing up. It is hard not to project old wounds, more so for the ladies that grew up with toxic abusive mothers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 01:43 PM |
| 30 | If you still live your life around the mindset "But what would my future HVM think about this?" - you are still stuck in that Pickme mode.Then she knows what she is and will not be triggered by this post. I have faith in her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 01:27 PM |
| 27 | If you still live your life around the mindset "But what would my future HVM think about this?" - you are still stuck in that Pickme mode.You are the most expensive ice cream in the world sis - dripping in gold! 🍨 Yeah, unless we are completely out of the brainwashing - which will take our entire life to undo - we are always susceptible to pickmeism. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 01:15 PM |
| 50 | If you still live your life around the mindset "But what would my future HVM think about this?" - you are still stuck in that Pickme mode.making decisions that are good for yourself I don't have casual sex. It's a rule for my physical and emotional safety but I also am looking for a partner who has this similar value Stop there, that's great enough. You choose to do xyz because you want to. And you seek a partner with similar value as you - that's great. that you also hope a future partner would value in you? who will see that as an asset (it's great that she sticks to her values/is committed to this even if it's an unpopular ch… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 12:57 PM |
| 53 | If you still live your life around the mindset "But what would my future HVM think about this?" - you are still stuck in that Pickme mode.Women are competitive and comparative when it comes to men - especially a great, gorgeous, loving, financially stable, sexy, down to earth, just very good HVM. The real challenge begins when you get with a HVM, and you start seeing how vicious other women can be in trying to get your man. If you are still stuck in a certain mindset - from my experience a lot of women end up becoming example 2). A lot of them don't have pickme attitude before relationship, engagement, marriage, but the mindset of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 12:37 PM |
| 54 | If you still live your life around the mindset "But what would my future HVM think about this?" - you are still stuck in that Pickme mode.It is also not healthy psychologically and limiting yourself if we center our life around that fear of "what will xyz think?". We grew up with all types of fear-mongering beliefs being shoved down our throat every single day - we all know just how not great living like that is. It is debilitating. We can't fully grow into ourselves unless we let go of all that fear and start seriously prioritizing ourselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 12:08 PM |
| 184 | If you still live your life around the mindset "But what would my future HVM think about this?" - you are still stuck in that Pickme mode.Yeah, pickmeism at its core is the desperation of wanting to be "picked" by a man - no matter what kind of man. Wanting to be "picked" by a HVM is still being a pickme. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 09:08 AM |
| 62 | Not suprised.I am gonna give you the perspective from an outsider that personally know someone who is "a really sweet respectful progressive guy" but his friends are all shades of mysogynist. He is married to my best friend. I hate him after meeting him for the first time - he has all the talltale sign of a covert narcs. He remains "sweet, kind and respectful" up to the point when a woman dare to criticize him in any way - even jokingly. He still deep down hates women, but is smarter about it. Also, boyfrien… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 07:45 AM |
| 84 | Not suprised.My manager was telling me about how if a woman doesn't know how to clean or cook, then she's useless That's why I am at the point in my life where I strive to be seen as useless by the male population - can't cook, can't clean, can't do laundry, can't bear children, too old, too difficult, won't give a f**k, won't coddle men or care about male feelings, won't play pom pom girl for their ego, will just snort if they came to me whining about needing my help, and no I won't let men touch any inch o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 07:33 AM |
| 61 | Pickme women in the workplaceSevere pickmes are those that pimp other girls, help their men traffic kids, sell their own children and let horrible people do horrible things to them, and turn a blind eye to their man's sick crime on their own offspring. And blame it all on their own blood and flesh because to them, any other women that dare to exists on this planet is a competition for a man's attention. So yeah, severe pickmes exist and they are the dangerous hidden enemy that lure you in with a sweet smile and pretend to h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 06:26 AM |
| 48 | Pickme women in the workplaceJust sounds like bankruptcy in the making imo - that is not a good business decision. I understand works like secretary, private assistant etc. because she deals with the boss' schedule, if she f**ks up - no major loss on the company. But handling money? Yikes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 06:17 AM |
| 80 | Pickme women in the workplaceCan't spell, can't do simple math and she handles money for our company. How does that even work? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 05:21 AM |
| 5 | Just met a career pickmeThat's why a stay-at-home-dad can never be a thing - because like one of the sister here said, SAHD will never do even 0.0000001% of what a SAHM does on a daily basis. Maybe there are outliers out there but honestly - knowing men as they are, do we really want to bet on it? A breadwinner wife is honestly the worst position to be in because not only does she pay 100% of the expenses, her tasks are endless from work to home. And she has to give money to a grown ass, able bodied man who most often … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 11:46 PM |
| 55 | Just met a career pickmeYep, I even know one who purposely find a jobless, weak man to marry - I guess because she is afraid of losing control so she wants a man that will listen to her and obey her. What they don't realize is that you can never control a man - he may act like he does in the beginning and let you wear the pants, but time will reveal everything. A man is still a man no matter how he act outwardly, and he will feel emasculated, resentful, and his anger will grow over time. A lot of ladies disagree with m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 04:24 AM |
| 78 | Just met a career pickmeA LOT of barb the builder that I know of are really awesome career/business ladies that's really killing it in the making money department - but end up with really weak manbabies. No drive, no backbone, whining all the time, hobosexuals, parasitic, lazy, entitled like a toddler - basically the most childish unmanly man I ever see. Honestly it makes me uncomfortable seeing their mommy-son dynamic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 03:24 AM |
| 4 | I don’t approve of low value behavior from any one, including a woman. However the FDS in me is suspicious as to what her side of the story is. She sounds miserable, burnt out, and exhausted. I can’t help but wonder how evenly the work load is shared in the house. For both of them, it appears toxic.Did he cheated in the past? She is in a perpetually angry mode and lashing out when coming home. If she is stressed about work but have no problem with the family - she would complain. This is a very specific lashing out on the family - on him. The first thing that comes to my mind is that she found out he cheated and is currently lashing out all her anger and frustration of being betrayed on him. Plus point if she is actually happy at work (but he won't know that because she is always angry at … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 12:21 AM |
| 14 | This is why you should NEVER be the breadwinner! ultra huge red flagI like what you said so much! Yeah a lot of this 50/50 women proponents deep down struggle with believing that she deserve being fully provided for and cared for by a man. In dating stages, early in marriage when things are all still new and exciting - sure, that 50/50 looks fine and "fair, things are expensive, I love him so I don't mind supporting him". Just wait 10 years. Hell, 5 years. That resentment will come. Especially when you see other women being taken care of and fully provided for b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 11:42 PM |
| 16 | This is why you should NEVER be the breadwinner! ultra huge red flagIf he doesn't mind 50/50 for THEIR WEDDING - you better bet he will be 50/50 on every financial thing going forward. Because he doesn't mind taking and accepting money from her. Men are all or nothing creature - if he is a full on provider, he will never agree to 50/50 that wedding cost - he would rather wait until he have enough money to fund their wedding. Like other sisters said - she learned nothing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 11:27 PM |
| 22 | Being vulnerable to help build intimacy in relationships.Agree 100% - the way men think and use communication is very, veryyyy different from women. That's why this notion women have about being open and sharing her past traumas to create intimacy and connection with a man is bullsh*t - not because it isn't right, but because men simply don't think that way. They see sharing trauma as displaying weakness - and of course women who do that to them will be seen as weak and ripe for manipulation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 09:39 PM |
| 36 | Being vulnerable to help build intimacy in relationships.Even something as petty as "she used to wet the bed in kindergarten" will be twisted to hell and back in order to humiliate a woman - never underestimate how vengeful a man can be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 09:32 PM |
| 63 | Being vulnerable to help build intimacy in relationships.I'm still learning to be less open, it doesn't get interpreted the way I intend. It normally wont - because other people, especially men will never be in our shoes and experience the severity of it all the way we did. So there's always a risk of opening back the wound because of careless words and flippant attitude. So unless you can get something good out of it (like with a therapist) - you better off pouring it into journals or write a book or something - hell sharing with strangers on an inte… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 09:15 PM |
| 55 | Being vulnerable to help build intimacy in relationships.Save that for later. Or save that for never. I don't know where this idea that woman must "tell men about your traumas to build intimacy and connection" came from - but I'mma tell y'all now that this is bullsh*t. That man is not a professional therapist that can help you heal from your trauma. That man is not you most trusted girlfriends that share a deep understanding because they share the same experience as a woman. That man is not your mother that will hug you and wipe your tears and carry t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 09:01 PM |
| 16 | It took me years to get out of the Pickme mindset.PS it has worked for OP but male friends aren’t friends. Agree, men are either potential suitors, professional acquitances, or total strangers. I dislike having men around me and my girl friends because they shifted the energy into something not fun. I hate dealing with men when it is not absolutely necessary - they are so exhausting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 10:59 AM |
| 12 | True Crime: LVM EditionAgree! Providing no matter what percentage - 80/20, 50/50, 60/40 all attracts the kind of man that doesn't mind accepting and taking money from woman. That in itself won't go well in the long run - no matter how "good" and "it is working for us" arguments some women try to convince me with. Just wait 10 years. Resentment will build up. The money will be the very reason of conflict in the marriage. It is just not natural dynamic. The man will feel entitled, emasculated and resentful, the woman wi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 10:35 AM |
| 2 | Have not cringed this hard in awhile; at the woman (kirra_kitty1215) who responded to the original TikTok made by dworkfem … it seems like a ‘cope’ to force your ideal of being okay with your boyfriend watching porn. You can’t force other women to be okay with exploitation just because you are.even a guy a few years younger than me makes me feel like an older sister to him. For real, I am in my 30s and any men younger than 25 seems too damn young. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 10:08 PM |
| 104 | Absolutely 100%I always laugh when broke/ugly men cry about women wanting successful/attractive men and saying that if it goes on like that they'll join the gay community because women are too shallow. LOL in their f**king dream. Even the gays are saying how women tolerate ugly men far too much - there are sooo many couples where the woman is gorgeous and the man is sheesshhh. They could never. And don't even dream about treating another man like how they treat a woman - being a literal parasitic manchild who … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 09:49 PM |
| 14 | Anyone else feel like there is A LOT missing from this story??You are welcome sis! I feel like the ex would also try to make me be more "grateful" to him. Yeah it is a common gaslighting tactic with abusive men. But no you should not have to be grateful just because he choose not to abuse you - because wtf. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 09:36 PM |
| 259 | Absolutely 100%And yet they still demand to be respected like the "man of the house". Bruh you act worse than a toddler, what man of the house. More like parasite of the house. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 09:13 PM |
| 139 | Absolutely 100%The average scrote will be invisible in the gay community - their standard on looks is really no joke. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 09:09 PM |
| 18 | Anyone else feel like there is A LOT missing from this story??Yep, when he can describe exactly what he is or isn't doing - it is because he keeps thinking about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 09:05 PM |
| 7 | Forever Girlfriend finds out her baby daddy isn’t going to marry her. This is why we need FDS.Thank you sis! waiting to wed subreddit Why am I not surprised, of course there would be a subreddit for that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 08:36 AM |
| 32 | Anyone else feel like there is A LOT missing from this story??My last dude told me explicitly that he never put hands on his ex and rarely raised his voice. When a man feels the need to explicitly tell you that - deep down he wants to do exactly that. If he doesn't have the desire, he won't say things like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 03:42 AM |
| 72 | Anyone else feel like there is A LOT missing from this story??The fact that he has to emphasize that he "did not cheat, nor did I ever raise my voice or lay a finger on her" is very telling. He wants to do all that but hold himself back. Yet his silent, seething anger is probably showing. No wonder the girl is "overwhelmed" - her instincts is screaming like mad telling her to run. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 03:34 AM |
| 127 | A reminder that you have more power than you thinkIt is like a child coming to you and keep saying "You ain't shit! I am better!" and trying to act cool, pretending like he doesn't care about you while staying within your sight so you can see how "cool" he is. A projection stemming from deep insecurity and intense need for validation from you. Women will always have the power to choose - regardless of what the patriarchy is saying, all women have the power to choose her partner. We are born as a chooser - it is what the universe had dictated fo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 03:26 AM |
| 7 | Forever Girlfriend finds out her baby daddy isn’t going to marry her. This is why we need FDS.I genuinely believe that these women dissociate from their reality and cling onto the false hope and dreams in their little fantasy land Uff yeah they really do. I see the physical evidence in real life - their eyes literally glaze over and you can see them shutting down whenever you try to talk some sense into them. And whenever they have another conflict with their shitty score, their eyes are wild and darting all over while making excuses for the dude. It is very sad and concerning. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 03:06 AM |
| 16 | Forever Girlfriend finds out her baby daddy isn’t going to marry her. This is why we need FDS.Also some comments suggested that SHE propose to HIM!!!!! 🤮🤮🤮🤢🤢🤢 And it will probably end up like that "Happy as Larry" tiktok woman - months preparing with ballons and everything to propose to him (on her birthday too I think) - only for him to not come back all night, being drunk somewhere (or be with another woman). Sis doesn't need to propose, sis needs to run. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 03:00 AM |
| 67 | Forever Girlfriend finds out her baby daddy isn’t going to marry her. This is why we need FDS.Modern dating in a nutshell: Date 1: going 50/50 or she ends up paying it all because she "isn't a gold digger" Date 2: She goes to his house for "netflix and chill" Date 3: He goes to her house, she cooks for him (with her money) and give him sex Date 5: They move in together or he moves into her house "because it is cost-efficient" and pay half of the bills, the other half plus groceries, cooking, cleaning, chores is all on her. After some time, they got a kid. He pay half the bills and maybe … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 02:51 AM |
| 19 | Forever Girlfriend finds out her baby daddy isn’t going to marry her. This is why we need FDS.Women need to realize that for LVM/NVM/ZVM scrotes, having kids are not a life-changing, mind-blowing, humbling experience like how it is for women. They only love themselves, they see children as something to be used for just like how they measure women by how useful we are to them. So don't be surprised when they can drop their kids like hot potato once they found a new girlfriend. Or once the kids become a burden to them. "How could he do this to his own children???" - because he doesn't love… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 02:34 AM |
| 39 | Best friend is on her way to being a forever GFJust read that exact situation on another sub. Guy has a side piece, force wife to open the marriage, wife reluctantly agrees, after a while start liking it because she gets sooo many attention, side piece left guy, guy realize he don't have women lining up to f**k him, wants to close the marriage and start saying his wife is cheating, wife realizes she can do far farr better and they divorce. Tale as old as time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 03:04 PM |
| 3 | Mother in laws that prioritize their son in laws over their own daughterOh I've heard a lot of that too, it is very weird. Like a power play move of some sort when the wife is at her most vulnerable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 03:39 PM |
| 6 | Become of ZERO UTILITY to men in dating.There's also the issue of manipulative narcs psychos - who have the patience to disguise themselves a HV as long as possible. Even marry you and trap you in for years. If there's is one thing I learn from dealing with them - you truly cannot give them any motivation to pursue you. If they think they can use you in any way, shape or form - especially if you are a high challenge prey (intelligent, good career etc.) - they are going to savor playing the long game. And break you down bit by bit. One… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 07:57 PM |
| 5 | Become of ZERO UTILITY to men in dating.I’ve had guys lose interest in me when I mention I don’t cook (which is a temporary thing for me), and I’ve had guys see how busy I am and actually step up to the plate and bring me food and offer to help. Like a guy should be able to tell whether you have your life together regardless of your stance on cooking or cleaning, And also what's wrong if the woman don't cook, clean, and do house chores? I grew up with a father that did all that, my mother just cook sometimes. So I grew up with that vi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 05:42 PM |
| 5 | Become of ZERO UTILITY to men in dating.The men I’ve dated have always been tidier than me. But mysteriously, I wound up with men who were the ones doing the cleaning and tidying up. Sis sis sissssss sameeeee. I don't know why, I never purposely want or aim or seek these men out - but I always end up with men that do all the tidying. I mean I am not horribly dirty but if compared to all these amazing women with pinterest looking room - mine looks bad. I am also horribly lazy so I don't do a lot of things just because (that's how I got… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 05:14 PM |
| 3 | Can we talk about how hard it is not to internalize the message that it’s a woman’s responsibility to “keep her man interested”?People always say "humans are social creatures" Maybe at the most core, we are. But that definitely vary with people though - my energy drain like a phone on their last life when I have to socialize. I need 3 days rest after. I don't hate socializing, but it is draining. But being okay with being alone is absolutely the key to being free and happy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 04:58 PM |
| 7 | Become of ZERO UTILITY to men in dating.Yeah, I experienced that not in dating (thankfully) but in university and work. Being the one with skills, knowledge, hardworking work ethic and all that means you are the one being hammered to dust while everyone get to scrutinize everything. The goal post keep shifting, nothing you do is ever enough. The burn out is like no other. Never again. Work smart, and know your enemy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 04:53 PM |
| 4 | Become of ZERO UTILITY to men in dating.I think some sisters think the first three sounds like weaponized incompetence. My bad, I didn't realize people equates playing dumb about chores to lying. I see nothing wrong with it but apparently it is that serious of an issue to some people huh. If my experience if anything to go by, parasitic scrotes slithers away once they realize I won't lift a finger for them - or give them any money. Or paint their fence or some shit. And those who do stay cook for me, clean for me, and do chores for me… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 04:44 PM |
| 18 | Become of ZERO UTILITY to men in dating.It’s even better when a man sees you can do all of these things but that you aren’t going to lift a finger to do them for him. “It looks like you’re a good cook. I saw that dish you posted earlier 😁” And never cook for him. I can just imagine the kind of face he is making when you did that. I have a lot of skills and men at work are dying to get me to help them do this and that. And I just give them a shit-eating grin and walk away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 04:04 PM |
| 6 | Mother in laws that prioritize their son in laws over their own daughterUnfortunately it is a long time ago, I accidentally stumble upon it really. I only remember it is a rather old transcript, ancient-ish language. Sorry sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 02:29 PM |
| 31 | Become of ZERO UTILITY to men in dating.otherwise said: date like a man Ohh I like that. Indeed, date like a man. I think especially about sharing private information - just soooo many women think they are "obligated" to reveal literally everything about themselves to the point of it being a safety risk. By date 6 he already knows your entire family history and deepest darkest secret. I can assure you ladies, even HVMs don't share anything that will potentially risk them and things they don't want sharing with strangers - even with da… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 02:15 PM |
| 27 | Become of ZERO UTILITY to men in dating.You will know that he is a (potential) HVM if you don't feel like you are forced to be anything other than yourself. Dating a HVM is a whole another ballgame than your typical scrotes. Everything feels natural, easy, like breathing clear fresh air. You won't even be thinking about "proving yourself" and whatnot - because the way he treats you is just so easy and natural, you are comfortable resting and enjoying yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 02:06 PM |
| 23 | Become of ZERO UTILITY to men in dating.I only wish I could see the confusion and disappointment on the scrotes' faces when they realise they haven't found a bangmaid. It is delicious, I tell ya sis. Doesn't need to be a dating setting either - I deal with weaponized incompetence pretty much every time a man sees me. At work, in public, at the Goddamn bank. Suddenly they can't google the map and have to ask me for direction, doesn't know what's wrong with their phone and have to ask me to see to it. One dude even, "doesn't know" how s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 01:56 PM |
| -36 | Become of ZERO UTILITY to men in dating.If the dude is genuinely a HVM - you won't have to do this at all. Because he won't force you to be. You are as you are, he will be as he is. But being surrounded by the massive amount scrotes who just waiting to pounce at any crack they see? I do like to play dumb and watch them squirm. Especially the money one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 01:50 PM |
| 7 | Mother in laws that prioritize their son in laws over their own daughterThen she would coo to my husband about how she could cook him the best pot roast, or how she wanted to make him a REAL full breakfast (So creepy! Plus he hates eating in the morning) Eww eww ewww eww ewwwwwwww. Seriously gave me the shiver this one. But unfortunately, it is quite a common behavior with chronic pickmes. Their intense need for male validation makes them prone to cheating and homewrecking behavior. Even with older pickmes relatives, it is still really creepy seeing them cooing over… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 01:44 PM |
| 10 | Can we talk about how hard it is not to internalize the message that it’s a woman’s responsibility to “keep her man interested”?Heyy fellow loners! Same here, have been alone for the majority of my life and it can get lonely sometimes - but the payoff of being absolutely okay alone is incredible. You have ZERO problem cutting people off and being ostracized because it is normal. Going zero contact with toxic family members and being alone on holidays because you don't want to deal with shitty people is easy. You aren't as susceptible to peer and societal pressure to mold yourself into the "norm" - because what the worse … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 10:12 AM |
| 26 | Can we talk about how hard it is not to internalize the message that it’s a woman’s responsibility to “keep her man interested”?"don't spend too many years at school, you need to give birth and you're not getting any younger". As someone past 30, the push to "just get married already, your clock is nearing its end!" is insane. Not to mention younger pickmes getting smug and rude with me because they deem themselves more valuable in the men's eyes. I'm just gonna start saying I am infertile from now on and watch their head explode. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 08:48 AM |
| 29 | Mother in laws that prioritize their son in laws over their own daughter"lovely deep brown eyes" Uhhh what??? That's.... weird. Is your mum having a crush on him or what? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 08:37 PM |
| 48 | Water boarding couldn’t have gotten this confession out of me 😭😭And even when it is your own son - the healthy way to raise them is to slowly give them more responsibilities and trust them to make decisions on their own. Not babying them to the point of becoming a doormat mommy. I've seen 7 year old boy in china who can cook and feed his 5 year old brother while they parents are working (very poor family, ultra-independent children are common there). While we should not aim to be that radical - it just shows that children are hella adaptable and independent … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 05:37 PM |
| 97 | Mother in laws that prioritize their son in laws over their own daughterYour story reminds me of a religious transcript I read somewhere about how parents should be extra grateful when they got daughters because she is a "direct gift from God" or something like that. Because women are naturally more empathetic, righteous, caring, nurturing, emotionally intelligent etc. if they are raised with proper love and care. Daughters are the sign that humanity will continue to prosper. And do you know what is the sign that the end of the world is approaching (according to the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 05:30 PM |
| 78 | Mother in laws that prioritize their son in laws over their own daughterYeah definitely sounds like a pickme narcissist who wants all male attention on her and only her. Like those "mothers" who thinks their own flesh and blood is their "competition". Happy that you are out of that clown ass drama sis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 05:04 PM |
| 132 | Mother in laws that prioritize their son in laws over their own daughterAnd this is why we should normalize women cutting people off with speed even when it is your own family - because of shit like this. F**k being nice and "keeping peace for the family" - they can keep their own Goddamn peace while we peace tf outta there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 05:01 PM |
| 250 | Water boarding couldn’t have gotten this confession out of me 😭😭You had to be dating the guy exclusively for at least a year and it came with certain privileges Unless that "privilege" means a car, a house, or a whole ass plot of land 100% ain't worth it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 04:47 PM |
| 118 | Mother in laws that prioritize their son in laws over their own daughterI remember my aunts glaring at me when my date fixed a plate for me on Thanksgiving. They told me the woman is supposed to fix the plate for the man. My own grandma has told her daughter that 1 son is worth 3 or 4 daughters. Ugh reminds me of my own asian aunties. The way they hate me existing because I have the audacity to be smarter than their precious sons, and my father spoiling me so I rarely fall for their pickme male-pandering BS. And everytime any men give them grief, they come to our ho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 04:38 PM |
| 17 | FDS works: Why men refuse to pay for dates"But why would I pay for a random woman I met? I don't even know her". So why do random woman want to meet you? And stick around in her expensive make up and clothing, listening to you babbling about stupid shit? She doesn't even know you. Men and their entitlement, shessh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 08:35 AM |
| 16 | The Bite-Size Guide to Vet a Potential Suitor: Does he make you feel BALANCED?😘 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 03:57 PM |
| 72 | The Bite-Size Guide to Vet a Potential Suitor: Does he make you feel BALANCED?Yeah, a lot of sisters here have talk about "feeling the ick" when talking to men - that's it. If you feel anything other than comfortable and balanced with the man - RUNNNN. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 03:55 PM |
| 32 | Valuing Yourself- Differences in How People Value ThemselvesI see this kind of thing I just assume the person's stupid. Yep they 100% are. Don't feel bad about it. Ain't our fault they choose to be a smug ass pos instead of learning more knowledge. I just look at them and snort mostly nowadays, I don't waste time entertaining fools. Got better things to do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 03:51 PM |
| 10 | Valuing Yourself- Differences in How People Value ThemselvesTrue but they insane thing is how many people bought it. Yep, that's why so many management looks shiny on the outside - but are actually at the brink of destruction taped with adhesive on their last life. A lot of people do have that Dunning-Kruger delusions and they support people like them - aka other Dunning-Krugers delusional. It is that house of cards, castle of glass situation. You will be surprise just how many seemingly professional industry are merely house of cards on the inside. They… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 03:48 PM |
| 17 | Don't cry, beg or show emotion or over communicate. State what you want then leave when it's not met. Men enjoy the begging, crying and emotional outbursts because they know this means you're wrapped around their finger and will stay. It is a massive ego boost for them to have that power over youNo you don't suppress emotion - but you don't confront him and sent wall of text either because: 1) You pour your emotion to him hoping that he will understand - he instead use it as a knife to cut you deeper - you end up getting more hurt and no closure. 2) He will use the information you give from that wall of text to be better manipulator for the next victim. You cry, you scream, you pour your heart out to your (trusted) friends, the beach, your pets - anything else that you know will not hur… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 03:31 PM |
| 19 | Valuing Yourself- Differences in How People Value ThemselvesBut there is a difference between confidence and delusion Yep, unlike what Hollywood like to portray confidence as - confidence is quiet. Delusion is loud. Confidence is something that other people view you as after they see you and they sense you. It is an embodiment thing. If you have to force it down people's throat, otherwise people don't really feel it from you? That's delusion. You don't tell people you are confident - people point it out to you. For you, it is just you living your normal … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 03:14 PM |
| 14 | Don't cry, beg or show emotion or over communicate. State what you want then leave when it's not met. Men enjoy the begging, crying and emotional outbursts because they know this means you're wrapped around their finger and will stay. It is a massive ego boost for them to have that power over youSounds like your shitty ex-husband has a shitty family. Birds of a feather flock together. You are lucky to be out of that clownery sis, very happy for you! 💕💕💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 02:56 PM |
| 53 | Valuing Yourself- Differences in How People Value ThemselvesIt is the Dunning-Kruger affect plus grandiose delusions. Still rooted in deep insecurity so they lash out by screaming to the world and thumping their chest. Like those kids who scream every five seconds so that everyone in the vicinity look at them. A lot of lower educated people are like this - lost count of how many people feel the need to fluff their peacock tail whenever they know I have master. It is frankly annoying but hey, props to them I guess. We can learn how to market ourselves bet… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 02:50 PM |
| 6 | Big yikesIf he proves after 15 years he is the real deal, then yes - it will be a noble sacrifice. But for the majority of men who will leave or cheat the instant their wives get sick - it will be a stupid move to do. Also the men in his family should be volunteering first - gene compatibility and all that. A wife should be the very last option after all the other male donor option is exhausted. Because the health risk for female donor is far bigger than a male donor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 09:08 AM |
| 30 | Can we ask HVM to change in smaller ways?Agree, I can't condone some of the suggestion above because they are all entering the "settling, communicating, and doing things for him in hopes he will change" territory. LADIES, REMEMBER TWO THINGS: 1) YOUR STANDARD IS NOT UP FOR NEGOTIATION 2) YOU CAN'T CHANGE A MAN Some ladies don't care for weight gain or loss - that's your standard. Others like OP cares very very much about physical apperance - that's her standard. Not up for negotiation, not up for logical morality debate. I don't care f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 08:29 AM |
| 7 | Can we ask HVM to change in smaller ways?If you don't like the pouch - that's your standard. Even when he completes 98% of your standard, thay 2% will become the source of resentment in your relationship. Don't do that to yourself and to the man - it is not fair for both of you. Only accept a guy who fit 100% of your standard. If you get with a 10/10 guy and he let himself go once you are in a relationship? That's not a high value attitude - that's a potential red flag. Unless he got a truly unavoidable reason like illness or something… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 08:16 AM |
| 117 | Big yikesWhere is his family btw? Why aren't the male members of his family donating? Why from his girlfriend? This dude is susssss.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 02:38 PM |
| 3 | If you broke just say that. If you’re insecure just say that. If you’re inadequate just say that. Men get on my damn nerves. One minute relationships should be 50/50. The next minute if we are too independent and have our shit together then we’re unqualified. Pick a damn struggle.I've known so, so many nurses who married a jobless guy - who give zero shit about them and the child, who is demanding money from the working wives to go out partying and cheating, who asks for "babysitting fee" when the wife told him to care for the child. It is madness. Education and career won't save a woman if she is still stuck in her pickme mindset. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 02:29 PM |
| 142 | Let's Talk About Woke Bros and NeggingIs this negging? Yes. Toxic positivity woke bros are a giant red flag.Block and delete How do we encourage a conversation instead of men mansplaining their wisdom? You don't, if he want to he would remember? It is not your responsibility to change people. Block and delete - that's your only responsibility. If he isn't to your liking, next. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/22 06:26 AM |
| 93 | A simple trick to combat negging...I ended up the villian in that situation though. Sucks. Then just be the villain. In their eyes, in the eyes of everyone around them - let them think whatever they want, it is not like you can control it. Do it often enough and you will realize that: People don't think about you all the time, unlike what we have been "trained" to believe. Do this mental imagine training, I call it the "constipation test" - Imagine you are struggling with a huuugeee one and can't wait to find a toilet, and came a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 11:40 AM |
| 38 | FDS Speaks: "[You] have yet to find a man you can fall in love with."OMG Sis thank you so much!! I am glad you find it helpful. Gosh you make me blush! 😆 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 11:00 AM |
| 34 | The Bite-Size Guide to Vet a Potential Suitor: What is he SAYING?Still words, have no meaning. And is this said on the early few dates? - if that's the case, sounds suspiciously like love-bombing. Be careful. Words are cheap - people can say bunch of deep thoughtful things and yet it is his actions that will tell you he embody those words or not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 06:47 PM |
| 32 | The Bite-Size Guide to Vet a Potential Suitor: What is he SAYING?If you feel like he’s really hard-selling himself to you right away, don’t wait for actions, listen to your gut and cut loose. 100% this! And also applies to his entire persona, body language, charm etc. If he is too charming and suave to the point we feel drunk and overwhelmed by him - I'd say that's a red flag. Case in point? Henry Cavill. That dude is really something - he got mad skills with his words, the way he speak, his body language. He is like the young Marlon Brando. These type of guy… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 05:28 PM |
| 47 | The Bite-Size Guide to Vet a Potential Suitor: What is he SAYING?Yep - a very good storyteller/debater scrote is like a political candidate. At the end of his speech and stories, somehow, we are convinced we know this guy deep down. And proceed to trust everything he says and fall freely into his trap. Same tactic used by love scammer too. Which is why the old adage to never trust a man's word is extremely important - whatever he says, it means nothing. He can portray himself as the literal savior of humanity or whatever, it means nothing. Rely on our senses … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 05:05 PM |
| 18 | The ad I got on a video about domestic violence. On International Women’s Day!The key is when he SAY he has no problem doing "women's work", they are lying. Don't trust a man's word - observe him instead. Words are cheap. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 01:30 AM |
| 49 | Met a creep and now motivated to not repeat. How do you motivate yourself to glow up when you've had nothing but bad experiences with men?if your weight gain is the biggest factor in your insecurity - then focus on losing it and practice on not thinking about men at all. Just put 100% of your mental power on losing weight and exercising. Just think about hitting new milestones everyday and stop thinking about men and relationship. I had been obese my entire childhood until my early 20s, and while it never affect my confidence, I did experience being treated as invisible by men and don't feel woman-ish, if that makes sense. I give … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 05:43 PM |
| 111 | The ad I got on a video about domestic violence. On International Women’s Day!TBH I used to think it was progressive for women to propose…like…how come men get to do everything?? Can’t women do “men” things? The funny thing is with this "progressive culture" is that - it is only progressive when the women do "men" things - going 50/50, paying half or all the bills, proposing etc. But when men do "women" things? - do household chores, childcare, sewing, knitting, gardening, heck even loving their partner wholeheartedly? "Lol he is a simp", "His balls are tied", "He is g*y"… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 05:18 PM |
| 42 | If you broke just say that. If you’re insecure just say that. If you’re inadequate just say that. Men get on my damn nerves. One minute relationships should be 50/50. The next minute if we are too independent and have our shit together then we’re unqualified. Pick a damn struggle.Yep, both spectrum from HVM to shitty scrote successful men marry equals - just look at the wives (and former wives) of current riches men on earth. And wives of political members - most are women who are similarly successful and highly educated. The scrotes that left their educated wives to be with hot young models and celebrities all do it in the later stage of their success - when they are all already established in the society so they can get away with anything. But in the beginning when the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 05:04 PM |
| 52 | If you broke just say that. If you’re insecure just say that. If you’re inadequate just say that. Men get on my damn nerves. One minute relationships should be 50/50. The next minute if we are too independent and have our shit together then we’re unqualified. Pick a damn struggle.Who wants you after you achieved these things Tell that to those dudes who keep hitting on me even when I loudly and clearly say I have a master (because I thought it would discourage them). Nope, they keep on hitting. Must've miss the memo eh? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 03:49 PM |
| 85 | If you broke just say that. If you’re insecure just say that. If you’re inadequate just say that. Men get on my damn nerves. One minute relationships should be 50/50. The next minute if we are too independent and have our shit together then we’re unqualified. Pick a damn struggle.Doctors are marrying other doctors. It is more than that - male doctors tend to marry fellow doctors or women in similar level of profession - lawyers, lecturers, execs. They rarely marry nurses or attendants - dating and flings? Yes. Marry? Nopeee. So these spiels that "successful men don't want to marry successful women they want to marry young teenage girls hurrdurr" is again, a scrotes lie. Successful men knows more than a broke scrote about the social value of having an equally successful p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 03:44 PM |
| 66 | When men in professional settings treat you like sh*t when you don't wear makeup. I'm sorry, was this supposed to be a date?!Maybe next time he call you out or anything else to publicly humiliate you again, you can try give a bland answer with a blank face. Don't apologize or show emotion to anything he say - just a perfectly blank, lazy face (or maybe a lazy smirk if that's your thing). And let the awkward silence continue until he can't stand it anymore and let you go. Narcs like to use public humiliation as a tool to shame their victim - but that's under the assumption that their victim will feel the intense shame … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 09:46 AM |
| 118 | When men in professional settings treat you like sh*t when you don't wear makeup. I'm sorry, was this supposed to be a date?!I noticed that whenever I spoke, the professor would brush me off, interrupt me, or ignore what I said only to look to someone else for an answer. An answer that I had already provided, but he dismissed. He would reiterate what I'd previously said as if no one understood what he was asking for. At one point, I get called on out of the blue (no one else was called on for the entire duration), and my thoughts weren't very collected. I spoke a bit before apologizing for rambling, which was a huge m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 07:59 AM |
| 36 | The truth about "the wall"That redditcare thing? I blocked it some time ago and everytime scrotes pull the same shit now, I just got a message from a "blocked user". Fills me up with joy everytime. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 03:14 AM |
| 2 | Why we need to de-center men from our life (yes, even in dating) - It gives you the power to walk away.Thank you sis! 😁 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/22 05:03 AM |
| 14 | Why we need to de-center men from our life (yes, even in dating) - It gives you the power to walk away.I feel like I’ve de-cantered so hard that no guys actually want me to be their girlfriend. What do you mean by this? Because this still sounds like you desire to be chosen instead of thinking like a chooser. Forgive me if I assumed wrong but de-centering is not the same as avoiding men, being anti-social, being distrustful etc. - and especially not about feeling jaded or hopeless about men - but deep down inside you still want that prince charming. You do daydream about happy family and loving h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/22 04:56 AM |
| 11 | Why we need to de-center men from our life (yes, even in dating) - It gives you the power to walk away.I believe you have met some members who are leaning towards FGTOW - I've got them too in my past posts. After the redditwide ban of the more "radical" subs they all come here and unfortunately, some do try to force their ideology on other members. If you feel you are being harassed, just report them sis - they are breaking the subs' rules afterall. And no, de-centering does NOT mean "don't date" - it just means you don't burden yourself with the foolish majority and only allow the quality men to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/22 12:30 AM |
| 43 | Why we need to de-center men from our life (yes, even in dating) - It gives you the power to walk away.To truly elevate yourself as a worker you have to start showing up with options and solutions in hand And when it comes to personal relationship - self introspection. Yes, we are all bombarded with victim blaming message since the day we are born. Patriarchy is toxic and want us to crumble in misery, old news. But that doesn't absolve us from looking inside and investigate what wounds we have, toxic belief we carry, insecurity that stops us from healing and get out of the helpless victim mindset… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/22 01:31 PM |
| 74 | Why we need to de-center men from our life (yes, even in dating) - It gives you the power to walk away.Hear ya sis, I do enjoy the occasional rant post but when it is too much, it is too much. We need to shift back the gear into more helpful posts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/22 01:15 PM |
| 128 | Why we need to de-center men from our life (yes, even in dating) - It gives you the power to walk away.it just makes me smarter and more pragmatic. Our society would truly be better as a whole if we all have this mindset about relationship. Yes, being in love and have great chemistry is a must - but that is only a small side of the equation. The larger side requires strategic thinking and making smart decisions because that's how you make sure your life continue to stay stable. Just "being in love" won't help us when the bills are piling up and he won't lift a finger helping with the kids. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/22 12:37 PM |
| 123 | Being a more private personI used to wear my heart on my sleeve and tell everybody everything about me so they would feel comfortable and like me. Whoever thought us growing up that this is the only way to get people to like us should be put into jail for life. Imagine how many heartbreaks and danger we could've avoid if we knew that being private and secretive is crucial for women, especially young girls. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/22 11:45 AM |
| 23 | UPDATE: Part 1 of my 3 experience implementing the 3 month rule. I HAVE MADE A HUUUUUGE MISTAKE with cohabitation.100% agree - we need to stop viewing men the same way we view our female friends, children, animals. They are the only group of people we have to put all our energy into viewing as how a judge would view her contestants, or how a scientist would view her sample. Zero empathy, absolute ruthlessness, cold and critical. Even ONE tiny, tiny mistake and they are out - next. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/22 03:01 AM |
| 18 | UPDATE: Part 1 of my 3 experience implementing the 3 month rule. I HAVE MADE A HUUUUUGE MISTAKE with cohabitation.Have your own property, assets, income and independence so you always have easy recourse if you need to dip I will add to that - all those property, assets, income? Nobody should know about it. It should stay an absolute secret - yes, even to the husband, and family. And it is a secret until the day we die - only uncovered by the announcement of the will of whom it will be inherited to next. That's how the empresses and princesses of the past protect themselves when their marriage failed - they … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/22 02:54 AM |
| 52 | UPDATE: Part 1 of my 3 experience implementing the 3 month rule. I HAVE MADE A HUUUUUGE MISTAKE with cohabitation.No, you are not lying - you are withholding information. Because it is none of their business how we manage our private life - and it doesn't effect them in any way, shape or form. Just like an executive board doesn't share private stuff with their employees that doesn't affect them - because it is none of the employee's business. WE DO NOT OWE THE STRANGER WE GO ON DATE TO ANY INFORMATION ABOUT OURSELVES. There is nothing - literally nothing wrong with being secretive with a man we go on dates … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/22 02:12 AM |
| 19 | Nice Guy Syndrome in Women- Why Women Get PlayedWould it be nice to have someone do my chores, cook for me, and cater to my wishes? Of course it would. But that is labor that can be rewarded with money or other things of equal value. It is not something that will necessarily result in love. Interestingly - this is exactly what LibFem and the patriarchy teach women to do - that in order to get love, affection, validation, respect etc. from others - they have to essentially "buy" them by giving money and/or services. Which is a horrible, horrib… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 02:47 AM |
| 2 | You know how you feel about a man within the first 5 seconds of meeting himTed Bundy often used a ruse to trap women- he’d pretend to be injured and act like he needed help moving a piece of furniture or unloading a car or something. I see, that makes sense. Definitely made the women more vulnerable and viciously gaslighting themselves to feel horrible for thinking that something was off with him. Ugh most moral values they thought in school really put us at risk of being harmed - they should have put a rule where women only help women (but even then be very careful). … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 12:20 AM |
| 69 | You know how you feel about a man within the first 5 seconds of meeting himSorry for being morbid, but I do wonder sometimes what victim of serial killers like Ted Bundy felt when first meeting him? Because it is hard to imagine they felt nothing or safe around him - there must be something. I want to believe their instinct did go crazy upon meeting him - they just either ignored it and thought they were being silly, or confused it with the butterfly feeling. Because the report said he was charming, but no matter how charming he is - that evil aura of his reeks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 11:36 PM |
| 7 | “I Am Just A Simple Man”Inherently all humans are complex - if only we spend more time focusing on discovering ourselves and give no care about external validation. It is a tragedy of humanity really - chasing after empty recognition that makes us more miserable at the end of the day, and let our inner self stunted at that phase of a little girl wanting to be seen. We all are already, by definition, "not like others" by the virtue of being uniquely ourselves - if only we spend more time cultivating it and don't waste t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 11:26 PM |
| 8 | “I Am Just A Simple Man”You are welcome sis!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 11:28 AM |
| 143 | “I Am Just A Simple Man”The general rule is this - anytime they feel the need to say "I am [insert a description here]" that cannot be immediately proven (like jobs, age, ethnicity etc.) - 99.99999% they are using it as a manipulation tool and they are problematic in some way. "I am kind" "I am a nice guy" "I am a simple guy" "I am built different" "I am sensitive" In my experience genuinely kind and great people don't talk about themselves too much, and they avoid describing themselves as anything - because it feels w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 03:40 AM |
| 41 | This is a new low. The bf is a doctor and social media famous and yet she is buying him a house 🤡No, because she is still the one chasing by giving him this and that. Men chase, women choose - because men only appreciate what he really climb mountain and swim the sea for. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 08:59 PM |
| 115 | This is a new low. The bf is a doctor and social media famous and yet she is buying him a house 🤡The funny thing is, she being asian - she still go for a man with prestige and money instead of looks (aka the asian mindset when looking for a husband) - but do it the western LibFem way to try to earn his affection. Which is a clash of culture in the worst way. Like sis, if you are chasing that bag - why are you giving him your bag? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 12:32 PM |
| 215 | This is a new low. The bf is a doctor and social media famous and yet she is buying him a house 🤡I think she genuinely believe she can buy his affection by lavishing him with money, care and attention - that masculina "I don't need my man to provide I can provide for us both see I am better!!!". Meanwhile everyone and their dogs can plainly see he doesn't like her. This is how you get women dropping into relationship sub asking about their bf "changing seemingly overnight, he was a great bf before!!!" No, no he is not. She just can't see it because she is too clouded by her projection. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 07:18 AM |
| 46 | pickme pays for everything and lets him sleep with other girls! he gets to have his cake and eat it tooAh that was delicious... I am gonna go make a hot chocolate and enjoy the sun just for that (even tho I hate the sun)!. Edit: I believe because he keep saying all the women he abuse is "crazy" - life is like "a'ight since you ask for it so much" and send him a legit A-level psycho girlfriend that will take pleasure in messing with him till the day he die. Ahh that will soo freakin' delicious... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 12:59 AM |
| 2 | Vetting Vetting, imagine being with a man for 30 yrs plus and he doesn’t love you, only as a best friend…. This is sad.Hah this is like 99.99999999% harem love trope out there - which is why I despise them with the force of a thousand sun. But you just know if this shit happens in real life? The exact same thing will happen - the hero will choose the crush over the best friend that is beside him through thick and thin. Most male mangaka who create these stories often go for realism for the plot twist. Men don't fall in love with efforts - they fall in love with standards. The more ruthless you are, the more madl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 12:54 AM |
| 3 | Vetting Vetting, imagine being with a man for 30 yrs plus and he doesn’t love you, only as a best friend…. This is sad.I want to hear her side of the story. I want to know that there were, in fact, red flags throughout their relationship that she has willingly overlooked and accepted her fate for any reason. There is 100% red flags littered everywhere at every corner every single day. And why does she overlooks it for 30 years? Because at best he is a "meh" husband. He isn't abusive, he isn't yelling at her, he is nice enough to help wash the dishes sometimes and go buy groceries she asked - but their relationsh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 12:31 AM |
| 134 | pickme pays for everything and lets him sleep with other girls! he gets to have his cake and eat it tooHow can she read all those words and don't see just how pathetic she is being? This is just... I don't understand her logic. This is some boss-level pickmeisha shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 11:37 PM |
| 16 | "But hon, in this city no one will want to wait 2+ months to have sex with you" -- female acquaintanceI had one of my coworkers tell me I should have a “hoe phase”. It is one thing if she has the "hoe phase" and ask for your understanding. It is another thing when she is actively coercing you into having a "hoe phase". Sounds like a pimp. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 11:26 PM |
| 82 | pickme pays for everything and lets him sleep with other girls! he gets to have his cake and eat it tooAnyway, a lot of hilariously karmic things happened to him that he totally deserved as a result. I laughed when I found out. Sis you CANNOT drop that without giving us the TEA.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 11:23 PM |
| 130 | pickme pays for everything and lets him sleep with other girls! he gets to have his cake and eat it tooIs she.. is she bragging? Or is this calling out the side chick? I am confused. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 11:19 PM |
| 17 | Am I the only one who's starting to believe I'll never be loved?Hahaha thank you sis!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 11:14 PM |
| 24 | Am I the only one who's starting to believe I'll never be loved?That stays in your head I feel. It does, and that's a wound that you have to heal first going forward. It won't completely disappear, there will be scars but you should aim to reach a place where you no longer need other to validate what you feel. You are completely in control of yourself and you choose to let a man love you - not entirely depending on him to feel loved. I wish you all the best in your journey sis and don't worry, you will get there someday. One step at a time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 09:11 PM |
| 15 | Euphoria: libfem propaganda or thoughtful series?I don't watch it but have seen it around Youtube. It is set in high school but nobody is studying shit, kids dressed in extremely sexy clothing, drugs, sex, porn, violence, toxic "love", neglectful parents. I get it, it is realistic life experience for some kids - but didn't we see this already in 145366778666 other dramas and movies produced by Hollywood? It is nothing new. If anything it ain't gonna teach the teen viewers anything, just encourage them to emulate what the characters are doing i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 08:27 PM |
| 24 | Imagine being this uselessnot rich but don't need to be Love it, I do think most of us don't exactly want to live a billionaire trophy wife life - we just want enough to live a stable life. And if we meet a guy, we want to make sure the stable life stay stable. It is those LVMs that actually want to live a trophy wife life and don't want to work for it, so they find gullible pickmes to leech from. Majority of men really are feminine nowadays. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 08:17 PM |
| 51 | Imagine being this uselessTHIS is what hypogamy struggle love 50/50 I-don't-care-as-long-as-I-got-a-man LibFem thinking will get you. She would've live a much richer, calmer life with her one job if only she didn't hook up with that useless POS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 07:41 PM |
| 171 | Am I the only one who's starting to believe I'll never be loved?It is all about how you frame your mindset. When you think "I'll never be loved (by a man)" - deep down, you are still hoping to be chosen. You still put all the power on the hands of the man. You still let the man make the choice. You still give the control of yourself over to others. And despite knowing better, subconsciously you feel that it is your fault that fate doesn't turn out the way you want. That's why you feel hopeless. Men chase, women choose. And being a chooser means you never giv… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 07:32 PM |
| 26 | From my feed. Post after post, same ol' BS. And yet scrote tryna pretend they are innocent angels being taken advantage by "manipulative evil" women.They engineer their own misery than blame women for it till the day they die. And yet still wonder why we avoid them like the Goddamn plague. Hah. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 07:03 PM |
| 9 | I love it when scrotes just perfectly illustrate why we need FDS. This is the type of guy you will weed out with the "unreasonable" rules he mentionsI feel you - just so done with all this BS men trying to put us through. Honestly I had the energy to tolerate them in my 20s. But that energy immediately vanish when hitting 30. So so done. Getting older is a blessing for us women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 04:10 AM |
| 9 | I love it when scrotes just perfectly illustrate why we need FDS. This is the type of guy you will weed out with the "unreasonable" rules he mentionsand that I’m desperate. Ohh yeah I got this vibe from the younger guys too. Them thinking single ol' me hitting 30 means I am "desperate" so they circling over gleefully thinking I am easy prey. Flexing muscles and talking about how many girls want them. Ugh I want to vomit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 03:01 AM |
| 13 | I love it when scrotes just perfectly illustrate why we need FDS. This is the type of guy you will weed out with the "unreasonable" rules he mentionsSame age or younger? Heard this similar thing from a rich celeb recently, the guy is trying to lure her into being his sugar mommy. Because men fear "women being gold diggers" like we are the new virus, meanwhile the very same men proudly prowling out there looking for his bags. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 01:25 AM |
| 20 | Can an LVM turn into a HVM later in life?Why are you calling him a HVM? What's HV about him? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 09:21 AM |
| 52 | 70 Year Old Scrote Grooms 20F for 6 Years Then Ends it As She Approaches 30I want to feel sorry for women like her, but the performative, feel-good bs just irritates me with these age gap people. Saw a tik tok of an 18 years old (or younger, basically still in school) with a 50 years old guy. And the kid is gushing about how it is good to be with older man because they are mature. Ain't no mature sane mentally stable 50 year old man gonna get with a literal kid. Because wtf. All these kids are groomed to hell and need serious adult intervention. Yes I am including the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/22 01:08 AM |
| 18 | Friendly reminder that your career will never betray you like thisThe poster already said that "he is a lazy father & partner and she accepted that". The question is not what red flags, the question is why she ignoring all the red flags waving in her face in all of those 10 years. You see this all the time in relationship sub - the red flags are all there, the poster herself write it all down without realizing just how obviously red the flags are, yet denying with all her might when the commentors pointed it out. Denial is one hell of a drug. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 11:56 PM |
| 49 | Friendly reminder that your career will never betray you like thisThings like selling a house and child support and a baby in NICU pale in comparison to the needs of muh penis. This is why I love to say the only real tragedy in a scrotes life is that he can't get laid. Natural disaster? Nope. Lost his job? Nope. Family members get hurt? Nope. Wife get complication during childbirth? Lol nope. Can't get his dick wet? OMG THIS TRAGEDY WHY ME WHY MUST THIS HAPPEN TO ME THE WORLD HATES ME EVERBODY HATES ME MY LIFE IS NOTHING BUT MISERY WAHHHHHHH!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 11:49 PM |
| 59 | 70 Year Old Scrote Grooms 20F for 6 Years Then Ends it As She Approaches 30his mind, he is super intelligent. That's it? There is shit ton of super intelligent people on this planet, she can't find anyone closer to her age? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 11:35 PM |
| 64 | 70 Year Old Scrote Grooms 20F for 6 Years Then Ends it As She Approaches 30says his 70 year old scrote dick saying it’s the best sex of her life. The liest lie to ever exist on this damn planet. This is like those playboy girls saying hefner is great in bed - ain't nobody believe dat sis, she is just lying to herself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 11:33 PM |
| 3 | Waiting for Sex: Not a Zero Sum GamePerhaps it is the fear of those "creepy virgin nerd" who will turn into obsessive stalker or p*rn addict - which can be vetted without the need to bed him, Or that old age propaganda that men "must" bed a thousand women to be a great lover, and virgin men knows nothing and will be absolutely shit in bed. Conveniently forgetting that the point is pleasing you - and don't underestimate what a man who loves you is willing to do to please you. Nothing beats a man who loves you so much he will spend … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 09:31 PM |
| 14 | Co-Worker Randomly Offered to Rent His Room to Me 😅🤣My friend say I gave him "mixed signal" Nope nope nope NOPE stop. You ain't giving him shit, you are just talking like a normal person and this old asshole decides to be a creepy mccreepy with you. They do shit like this alllll the Goddamn bloody time with the young female intern/worker - he is just preying on you. They are all treating you like a fool - been there myself Depending on your position in that company - unfortunately reporting to HR might get you in trouble instead because most HR w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 09:03 PM |
| 8 | Waiting for Sex: Not a Zero Sum Game100% agree! If we worry about porn-induced ED - it is better to investigate his porn addiction (there will be evidence, addicts can't hide forever) and train ourselves to observe the sign - instead of getting to bed with him to find that he suffers PIED. Similarly if he have any depraved sexual fetishes - I truly rather train myself to be so sharp at noticing the red flags and sherlock holmes myself investigating him rather than get to bed with him to find out. It is just 1) you are still at ris… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 08:43 PM |
| 55 | Man wants to have a kid with his wife's younger sister....the traditional way. This poor woman is actually confused about it. WHAT.Yepppp. The assumption that her husband is cheating with the sister behind her back and wanting to cover the pregnancy is actually better than assuming he wants to prey on the younger sister. That's how horrifying this man is. Sis needs to RUN. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 07:46 PM |
| 18 | Above all, FDS has taught me to value my time. Following FDS would have prevented this from even happening imoWe want financially responsible men - not a money manwh*re. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 07:41 PM |
| 19 | Above all, FDS has taught me to value my time. Following FDS would have prevented this from even happening imoPlus male “subs” can turn into needy weaklings and that is SUCH a turn off. True, I watched interviews with dominatrix and they say the same thing - male clients are still their entitled selfish men self even while being dominated and expect the women to do everything they want, wanting the dom to put 200% effort and more because they "paid for it". Only to turn around and claim fraud wanting their money back after the session, claiming all sort of bullshit. There's also cases of them getting vi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 07:39 PM |
| 12 | Above all, FDS has taught me to value my time. Following FDS would have prevented this from even happening imoThey seriously expected me to be physically able to pin them down, hold them down as they struggled (with seemingly more or less their full power behind it and whilst giving all sorts of distress signals!), and 'have my way with them', all whilst maintaining an 'angry' demeanor. Ugh this sounds homoerotic. Perhaps they will do good try finding whatever the hell they left in that damned closet and leave women alone. Even femdom push 100% of the work to the women while the men just lie there and e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 07:21 PM |
| 189 | Man wants to have a kid with his wife's younger sister....the traditional way. This poor woman is actually confused about it. WHAT.Reading all OP's comments shows that the husband is indeed - a narcissist abuser. She alluded to her already used to him treating he mentally, physically and emotionally like shit and this is another conflict added to the toxic puddle. But this time he is preying on the younger sister under the guise of surrogacy. He talks about this openly in front of his family - he doesn't see OP and her sister as human being at all, just sex objects. He feels entitled to OP and any young women related to her… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 05:47 PM |
| 12 | Waiting for Sex: Not a Zero Sum GameThen that is your standard and you design your vetting in a way that you can be 100% absolutely sure he is not impotent and know his bed stuff - BUT ALSO he will not ghost you after getting what he wants like what OP is posting. Or you are suddenly facing an empty bedroom after marriage, kids, life changing events. Or you get stuck in a madonna-whore situation. The thing is, sex for women is a bonding process - usually the more sex you have with a man, the more you fall in love with him. Which n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 05:34 PM |
| 22 | Waiting for Sex: Not a Zero Sum GameAn impotent guy who loves you so much he will do everything in his power and learn every trick in the book to make you thoroughly satisfied will be a far better lover than a 7' guy who treat you like a fleshlight every time. Women sexual pleasure is not dick-centered. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 04:40 PM |
| 128 | Waiting for Sex: Not a Zero Sum GameI want y'all ladies remember this point straight from the horse's mouth: "Women have this weird notion that love and sex is the same thing" Remember this ladies - sex to men IS NOT THE SAME as sex to women. Men can still have sex with you even when they honestly want to vomit seeing your face. Sex to them is just that - sex and they won't magically fall for you after you agree to sex with them. Even after you make them wait. Change that mindset of "making him wait for xx months" to "He can never… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 08:46 AM |
| 190 | Forever girlfriends turned wivesThis is how you get tales after tales of bridezilla going crazy trying to make sure the wedding celebration is perfect in every way, while the groom is busy getting drunk with his bros. Only to end up fighting and hating each other a few months after the marriage. Feels like a lot of women only think about getting that wedding ceremony of her dream, and will drag the unwilling boyfriend if she has to - not thinking what lies beyond that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 02:35 AM |
| 1 | Straight from the horse's mouth100%. If a guy treats you like shit - he treats every women like shit. Hollywood (and books) are lying liar who lies about "the shitty guy will treat his dream girl right" trope. Abuse shitty man will stay abuse shitty man even when he got with VS supermodel or something. HVM will treat every women kindly, politely, and respectfully even with those he has no interest in. Because he is a kind, polite, respectful human being, period. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 01:12 AM |
| 18 | Vetting: if a worst case scenario happens to you, can you rely on him?This is so funny because I LOVE haunted houses and creepy dark places because it makes me calm. Always shocked people because I went to haunted houses alone and enjoying every second in there. Had a concerned employee made me go into a haunted house with 2 guys once - and I ended up dragging their scared asses all the way out. Sheeesh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 12:24 AM |
| 11 | Vetting: if a worst case scenario happens to you, can you rely on him?In certain situation try not asking him to do x, y and z - just state that you are in pain/problem/discomfort and watch how he react. If he truly likes you he will do everything in his power to make the pain and discomfort go away - because he hates seeing you in pain. If a guy sees you as merely a tool for his pleasure, he will get annoyed very quickly because you are "malfunctioning". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 12:14 AM |
| 10 | Midlife crisis is reconciling your youth and impending death…another one bites the dust 🙄Eh, never liked the dude. He preaching too much hustle culture despite (that I know of) being born into wealth. And he is very smug - so no surprise here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 11:09 PM |
| 42 | Dating has no second chances. Stop giving them!"That's harsh. Men make mistakes. You won't find a real relationship if you jump ship at the first struggle with Men. Love and marriage takes work, etc. but only on your side tho, men can dump you anytime they want lolololll" There, fixed it. If a man forgive his cheating gf/wife or taking her back after some mistakes, other men will be the first to jump on him and calling him "stupid" for forgiving her. "She is for the street, you can do so much better!" Yet we are expected to forgive a man's c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 10:26 PM |
| 17 | Scrolling Reddit is downright depressing: women with no dignity or self-respectYeah, they always started of with "He is an amazing, loving, caring, great guy!!!" but list the most horrible, outrageous, cruel things he did. And when people ask in the comment what's so great about the dude then - it is the same old stupid "He pay the bills" or "We love each other so much". Yeah sure sis, he lovessss you but also wants to hurt you. Sure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 09:12 PM |
| 11 | "b-but I'm homeless king"Aye sis if he can't win his own battle what can I even do? I'm not a charity organization. He is a healthy adult male with all limbs intact - go figure something out. There are animals out there who needs dire help - ain't gonna waste it on some dude who can't even be assed to help himself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 01:06 PM |
| 22 | The Bite-Size Guide to Vet a Potential Suitor: Does he uses FILLER WORDS?Indeed never stop vetting. But they also say stuff about "Don't compliment her obvious qualities to make her stay humble." Red pill can be pretty polarizing. I tried to watch them but it gets confusing. They can't get their teaching straight sometimes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 12:09 PM |
| 73 | The Bite-Size Guide to Vet a Potential Suitor: Does he uses FILLER WORDS?Case in point, my biological father never let my mother forget that my paternal grandmother worked a full-time job, raised three children, kept the house immaculate, was the best cook in the world, and never raised her voice while my grandfather went to the bar every night. You know what, it is great you brought this up because I have been thinking how men manage to lower the bar that's already in hell, meanwhile women keep having to raise above a bar that's already in another galaxy. Women as a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 02:55 AM |
| 18 | Men want me to back down even when I am rightI've heard. Unfortunately a lot of them weren't what we thought they were - Thomas Edison for example. F**k that guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 12:32 AM |
| 184 | The Bite-Size Guide to Vet a Potential Suitor: Does he uses FILLER WORDS?“Are you kidding me? My mom is a SAINT. She literally always put everywhere before herself. She always helps everyone and never complains and never asks anything in return”. Oh yes this is goood. A lotttt of men will fail this test in an instant because martyr mom is so normalized and romanticized that they won't even hesitate saying this. And apart from what their mom does for they - most of them have zero knowledge about their own mom. Some even don't know her maiden name! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 11:48 PM |
| 45 | Men want me to back down even when I am righteven though he's a super smart and super sensitive guy (sensitive to his own needs i guess) and had in theory high moral code None of this matter when he treats you like shit. He can be Mahatma Ghandi for the world but if he treats you like shit, he is shit. RUN. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 10:17 PM |
| 18 | Men want me to back down even when I am rightSis all three of them are (probably) narcissist - or at least you keep getting on with immature assholes who can't have a conversation without resorting to fights. This is not healthy. Drop you current boyfriend ASAP and maybe stop dating for a while and re-evaluate your vetting strategies. You should cut this type of man very early in the future - none of them should even enter the boyfriend stage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 10:13 PM |
| 11 | FDS lessons from a social worker-in-trainingOr get buried with their husband alive. Grim but true. They treat women worse than livestock in the past. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 10:03 PM |
| 61 | FDS lessons from a social worker-in-trainingSociety's retirement plan for women was (omg, seriously!): Spend your best years being a bangmaid to other people and in return they'll be there for you when you are old and infirm. I can only laugh when other people say "But aren't you afraid of dying alone?? Without husband and children to care for you in old age??" If you mean spending your years being martyr maid to your family, losing your identity and only be known as "mother and wife" - and let them get used to be served hand and feet by … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 01:29 PM |
| 41 | FDS lessons from a social worker-in-trainingIndeed, if we go by the distribution of hours per day in a married household - almost 80% of that is spent outside of the house. More so if the husband and wife both work different shift. And the wife is more likely spending more time doing household chores and childcare - and actually spending only 2-3 hours with their husband, mostly in bed. So it is easy to think that their marriage is "great". When in fact they have no idea who their husband of many years actually is. I am reluctant to belie… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 12:37 PM |
| 22 | Say to a man : "I don't trust men"We had gone on a few dates and I finally admitted to him that I’d been through an abusive relationship and wasn’t ready yet because I was scared of men. Going forward, I advise you NOT to share anything vulnerable about yourself. Some secret MUST remain a secret, especially if it is your weakness. You are lucky this dude throw a tantrum and left you - a more sophisticated manipulator will definitely use this information to trap you. When I say tell him you don't trust men - it is meant to be a f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 03:41 AM |
| 66 | Tale as old as timeIgnore him harder, treat him like he doesn't exist. Let him go yippy yap yap to other people - you just play deaf and be nice only to those who are nice to you. If those friends side with him, drop them too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 03:31 AM |
| 78 | Polyamorous PickMe comes *so* close to getting it... but doesn't 🤡THIS. There's never at any point in the history of mankind, a woman acting like a playboy man will be seen as "cool". She will always be seen as a sl*t, always. Men have difficulties respecting women in a normal everyday setting - how on earth can they respect a woman engaging in polyamory? We don't live in a ideal sex-positive men-respect-women-choices world sadly, never was and never will. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 10:40 PM |
| 119 | On men frequenting OF/internet models/cam girls etc : If this were the 90s would you date a man who carried around a box of swimsuit model magazines 📖 so he could ogle them a couple times an hour??Following fitness/thirst trap/bathing suit posters makes me automatically disinterested and gives me the hardcore ick. Genuine ambitious, hardworking, good men have absolutely ZERO reason to do this either - like what benefit do they get from doing this? Tons and tons of wasted time, that's what. Men with a purpose in life won't do shit that waste their precious time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 08:40 PM |
| 34 | Adopt a scroteAlso 22 years old with a 34 years old. That's... wrong. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 08:13 PM |
| 28 | Adopt a scrote22? I can get behind 27 and above (given that they already establish a career track), but 22 is a kid. A very very very immature kid. What are you doing??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 08:11 PM |
| 66 | Say to a man : "I don't trust men"It is "All Men" until proven otherwise - those scrotes can yell to the void all they want, we. don't. care. If they get offended so much that we don't trust any of them, go ask their bros why many of them treat us like sh*t. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 08:07 PM |
| 2 | "Vetting is exhausting"You are very much welcome sis! Good luck! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 08:02 PM |
| 39 | Say to a man : "I don't trust men"Men who yells "not all men!!" doesn't really care about the issue at hand - they just get offended because they are also men, so how dare we say anything bad about them! Making a generalized issue a personal attack, such a "logical" gender amirite? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 08:00 PM |
| 15 | Signs of Cheating: How to spot them?Cheaters never change Yeppp, 100%, always say this to people - cheaters never change. No matter how hard the media try to romanticize the idea that "people can change" and "he will realize you are his true love" and cue running to your house in the rain. F. that - he cheat, he trash. Kick him to the trashcan where he belong. Ain't none of this "second chance" BS - it is always the woman who have to give second chance anyway, most men inherently know how stupid and humiliating it is to get back w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 02:32 PM |
| 22 | Signs of Cheating: How to spot them?Suddenly gets new underwear, particularly if it’s different than what he usually wears Suddenly manscaping, or paying attention to being more careful about cleanliness or grooming Taking showers when he first gets home, or at times that are not his usual Funny how men can't even bother showering and wiping their asses when they are with loyal girlfriend/wife, but suddenly can turn into mr mcclean when they are cheating. Make it make sense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 02:23 PM |
| 24 | Pornsick Scrotes Want Their Money Back!where this guy blew $800 in one night on Only Fans And then these people go on dates and complaining about paying a 50$ meal. Hahaha. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 01:34 PM |
| 2 | If he can't plan a date, he isn't worth going out with in the first place.Wonder who thought them this eh? Didn't know reddit have redditcare until a scrote send me one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 09:42 AM |
| 42 | "Vetting is exhausting"Learning is always a painful process, but shifting our mindset into accepting and enduring will have far better outcome that feeling resistance every time we think of doing it. It is not "exhausting", but the learning process won't be easy. But the start of a changing person is that she will acknowledge that, and keep doing it anyway. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 06:45 PM |
| 101 | "Vetting is exhausting"Samee. Naturally don't believe anything out of a man's mouth and always observe his behavior. There's always signs, no matter how small. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 06:17 PM |
| 3 | If you can't see any good reason not to date a man with a female best friend, LET THIS BE IT! Selfish pickmeisha got stood up, so she ruined another womans valentines day. To add insult to injury, she & this mans girlfriend are related 🤢I don't do friends with men, and I expect my man the same. For me friendship requires depth and platonic love connection that is hard to maintain between men and women. I can be civil with men, respectful and all when conversing about similar topic of interest. But they are never, ever my friend. Only women have that special level of access to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 06:13 PM |
| 12 | Rant on modern dating/men in generalprefer 50/50 to make it abundantly clear there are no expectations to be had on the man's part. Thing is, he won't see it this way. It is more likely he think you are desperate for him because you are willing to pay to be with him. Male ego y'all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 10:14 AM |
| 59 | Rant on modern dating/men in generalAgree. I hate dealing with stranger when I eat, and hate wearing fancy dress while eating - so going out to dinner date is a whole ass process to me - need to be in great mood and good headspace. Any scrote who dare even hinting 50/50 for something I need a week to prepare will get the instant boot, I will walk out right then and there. Stingy ass scrote can go talk to the damn wall while I'll be home with my big feast and a good movie. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 09:57 AM |
| 15 | A Thought About the Nature of "Protect and Provide"I call them Feminina (from Chloe_) but yes yes yes! I think that majority of men nowadays are effeminate - they want to be the one courted, wined, dined, propose to, taken care off, have all things done for them - but they also resent women who do that to them. Because deep down they know it is wrong to be like that. I agree with the concept of masculine and feminine energy, and every human have both but the dominant energy in men should be masculine and women feminine - that's the healthy dynam… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 08:41 PM |
| 8 | One for the horror movie fansThe Conjuring & Insidious series have a special place in my heart because they are family oriented and focus on protecting each other. Maybe not everybody's taste but I found myself rewatching them and being satisfied each time. Thank you for the recommendation, gonna check it out! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 01:01 PM |
| 7 | How'd You Find FDS?to date an ugly guy so he'd treat me well. This is the one thing that even pre-FDS me struggle with because I was fat growing up, and the ugly guys treat me the WORST. Much more handsome athletic guys actually have the decency to speak politely to me and ask to help if they see me struggling. The ugly dudes just summon their gang to bully me, laugh at me, or treat me like I am invisible. Sometimes even purposely put me in dangerous situation for their amusement. I feel the full force of their re… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 12:24 PM |
| 18 | How'd You Find FDS?Sometimes, I think "this is a bit much", and this was especially prevalent when I first read the handbook That's the thing though - after decades of being brainwashed to be nothing but utterly nice and accomodating to men even when they treat us like shit - reading FDS handbook and some of the stricter standards sound "whoa too much, what about the men's feelings??" Only to realize down the road majority of men never treat us even a micro of kindness and empathy we give them. And that men don't … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 12:11 PM |
| 4 | Shyness or Fooling Around?"I want to ask you out on a date" - if he can't even say this simple statement, he is a waste of your time. Shy is not an excuse to be incompetent. And also he is flirting with you, so "shy" my ass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 11:48 AM |
| 8 | I’m not like other girls, and that doesn’t mean what LVM think it doesUnfortunately have yet to meet anyone up to my standards - but just like you sis, I am not impressed by wealth and big spending but I would go as far as saying even I don't exactly know what I will be impressed on. I purely follow my intuition when it comes to social interaction and I only maintain lifelong relationship with people my intuition like. It is honestly a mystery even to me, but so far it haven't dissapoint me yet so I dutifully listen to it. Safe to say no men manage to impress my i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 11:37 AM |
| 30 | Y’all were not kidding about men who are upset about the conversations we have on FDS. If the comments were so stupid why weren’t you able to comment and share your opinion? Immediate block !!!Same as mine, from a comment on another subreddit yearssss ago. They really are obsessed with us. I just say "eww stalker" and block. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 11:24 AM |
| 15 | Holy shit this is genius 😂😂😂🤣🤣😂If IRL just ask him extra question they surely can't answer and "call out" their lies. If online just block and delete. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 11:21 AM |
| 76 | The term Pickme gaining traction? thoughts?I like anime and pizza too, but those are not "different interest" - those are destressing after work thing. That every women do in a variety of way. NOT on a day of romantic celebration that are suppose to be memorable. Pickmes can say they are "cool" with that now, but bet that ain't be cool anymore after 7 years being forever gf, 3 screaming kids she has to take care of alone, and 2 jobs back to back to afford a 50/50 relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 10:48 AM |
| 119 | HV Traits I've Observed in men I know - basically a few real life illustrations of why you shouldn't settle.THIS. THIS is what each and every relationship should look like. If people would just understand how healthy this dynamic is and will produce healthy-minded generations, our future society will be in a far better place. Ladies, read this again and again and internalize that THIS is the bare minimum dynamic you must have, otherwise stay single. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 10:12 AM |
| 12 | I may already know a high value man. I just wasn’t healthy enough to notice it.I am referring to a specific phase - where they still have that belief of what a relationship looks like. Commonly in younger women but I've seen it carry on into old age. Speaking from my own past phase - I struggled with anger a lot and would find a reason to be angry everyday - it was like being addicted to drug. So naturally I was attracted to dangerous and emotionally distant guys because they were "exciting". They gave me that thrill I was horribly addicted to. I recognized high value quai… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 08:56 AM |
| 3 | Valentine's Field ReportOh okay that's really really amazing then! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 02:04 AM |
| 73 | I may already know a high value man. I just wasn’t healthy enough to notice it.This is one thing that a lot of people struggle with because we live in a society that celebrates toxicity and values narcissism. Contrary to what the media tries to convince us - being charming, suave, "exciting", butterflies in the stomach, hot and cold, screaming match under the storm, hot blooded fights then equally hot blooded make up - all of those are NOT "love". Or what a relationship should look like - they aren't healthy in any way, shape or form. Healthy minded people with high value … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 10:40 PM |
| 9 | Valentine's Field ReportOhhh love it! gonna watch Death on the Nile tomorrow and i am glad to hear you love it! A question though - does the movie have a lot of those unnecessary sex scenes or anything stupid like that? Because I can barely tolerate them, takes away from the plot. Also can't wait for Knives Out 2 - the first one is tooo freakin' great! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 10:07 PM |
| 62 | Men will not compromise on their space and living arrangements just for being in a relationship. They can use the woman's place as their own when it suits them but not return the favour. Women who compromise for the men that don't, disrespect their own boundaries.THIS is why ladies, unless you live with your parents (and even then be very, veryyyy careful) - ALL dates should stay formal in public places, and NO going to his place or your place. Especially your place should stay secret till the day he put the ring on your finger. Because 99% of the time your place will be better than his, and hobosexuals will jump at the opportunity to enjoy the comfort of a complete home without spending a dime. Scrotes like to brag about them "not needing much, unlike w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 02:27 PM |
| 30 | Just relax and let HIM worry about the date.Men usually spread this lie that they won't invest much in the beginning but once they see your worth and fall in love with you they'll shower you with dates and romance. I think this is like the standard lie men in every country on the planet use. I've heard this very lie in at least 5 different countries. And this is how we got generations after generations of women desperate to prove their worth to scrotes who can't even hold down a proper job. HVM of course wouldn't fly you to atlantis and t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 04:41 PM |
| 24 | Just relax and let HIM worry about the date.Watch out for the men who are a little too calculated, but you can easily spot this when you're out on a date with them. Oooh yeah this is a good one. Lazy whiny manchild is one thing - but the one that appears too charming, too perfect, too smooth, too suave, too careful down to the way he moves and his facial expression? That's a dangerous one. This is the person that makes my internal alarm blazing like a tornado siren and a shiver run down the spine. This is the one that you have to plan you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 03:36 PM |
| 52 | Just relax and let HIM worry about the date.asking other women to help them plan dates for scrotes Only for the scrote to end up whining all night nitpicking about every little thing. Such date, much wow. A scrote does not understand the concept of "thankfulness" and "gratitude" when it comes to women doing things for them. They think it is their God-given rights because they are born with the dangly bits between their legs. Cleaning the ocean is far better use of time than planning dates for these manchildren. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 02:58 PM |
| 19 | Just relax and let HIM worry about the date.Yes indeed! If he can't even be assed to do the most basic thing in courtship, give up the hope that he will do anything for the relationship. Libfem likes to say "Well this mean he respect your power and trust your decision!". Well I respect my girl friends, but when I asked them out I don't push all the responsibilities of planning and managing the meetups to them. Because that's rude. Libfems and patriarchy be out there twisting common sense and call us "radical" for saying "Hey, that's bulls… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 02:53 PM |
| 16 | Reminder to watch out for how he treats you around his friendsWhen I think about HVM, I think about men who, although he understands the dynamics between men and women, and how heterosexuality comes into play, can at least still be respectful and courteous towards women without having to go into extremes: He doesn't outright ignore all women who aren't his mother, sexual conquests, or romantic partners, and at the same time, he doesn't get too cozy with women 'platonically' as an excuse to monkey branch, cheat, and/or triangulate a bunch of women against e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 12:51 PM |
| 30 | Reminder to watch out for how he treats you around his friendsMen like this are often homosocial and will put their “bros” above everything and ESPECIALLY above women, even in long-term relationships and marriages. They seek validation from other men more than they ever would from a partner and thus only respect other men. THIS. Man who has large group of bros usually pursue relationship and marriage not because he likes you, but because he want to be seen as the "alpha" of the group. And brag to his bros about being desirable and having constant access to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 12:48 PM |
| 5 | I'm now less obsessed with finding "the one"thought i needed to be with another male academic, but and least in my experience, they're the worst of all! Sis sameee. I think women going into academia at first all sort of have this thinking - that we should pair up with fellow academia since we can relate to them much better right? FALSE. I never in my life encounter the biggest misogynistic, covert narcissistic, God complex bunch than in academia. Like all that brain power is channeled into making them the most smug ivory tower dweller eve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 06:08 PM |
| 32 | Shower thought: Society literally had to coin the term ‘gentleman’ in order to accentuate behaviors that show a minimal level of consideration and respect towards women. Also, it indirectly shows that the vast majority of ‘other’ men don’t care about such values.More women and children survived with the Titanic because the men were held at gunpoint by officers who insisted upon it Seems like the officers were the true gentlemen in this story. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 11:50 AM |
| 7 | "What do I do when a man give me expensive gifts/do something nice for me?" - Say "Thank You", Smile, and Feel Happy that He CHOOSE to Do It.The way I’ve been dealing with this while dating is acting like my behavior and basic milestones are gifts to them. For example, one guy has been awesome (so far) so after our last date I “gifted” him my phone number LOL! To be clear, my second number. Because a true HVW doesn’t ever compromise her safety nor makes exceptions. A personal number requires boyfriend level clearance, and even then is a calculated risk. Another date brushed all the snow off my car before we parted ways. He was gifted… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 08:44 PM |
| 7 | "What do I do when a man give me expensive gifts/do something nice for me?" - Say "Thank You", Smile, and Feel Happy that He CHOOSE to Do It.What's even stranger is that when you hear other woman talking about being resistant to her partner giving her things and spoiling her - we will be like "That's ridiculous! He should be spoiling you! You shouldn't be guilty you deserve it!" But when it comes to ourselves being the receiver, suddenly we don't even know how to human. Haha. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 04:55 PM |
| 11 | "What do I do when a man give me expensive gifts/do something nice for me?" - Say "Thank You", Smile, and Feel Happy that He CHOOSE to Do It.Exactly - I feel like with all this hookups, FWBs, and porn culture spreading around, men's entitlement to a woman's body is through the roof. And woman doesn't see how serious it is keeping yourself and only allow man who has walked the fire to be intimate with you. That's just how precious our body is - but because of this sexposi culture, women are afraid to be labelled a prude instead if we don't give in right away. If being a prude means you protect yourself from getting hurt - then ladies,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 01:03 PM |
| 56 | Good Luckwith attempts to convince me how women need it more than men Lol he is really out there thinking real life women are like the actress in adult videos - just thirsty for woody 24/7. And get the shock of his life when women in fact, do not. All these jobless basement dweller men thinking we don't have a life to live, jobs to do, friends to meet. You know, unlike them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 11:27 AM |
| 24 | Next time he says women are “gold diggers” for wanting a stable guyWow every country on planet earth should do this, we can solve deforestation in no time! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 10:07 PM |
| 243 | Next time he says women are “gold diggers” for wanting a stable guyIn fact, if you think about it, many problems in society are caused because too many women are ok with procreating with men who can't afford to be fathers. Damn right, soo many societal problems in this Goddamn planet can be solved if people who just... stop procreating when they are unfit to be parents. This planet need less stupid ass human engineering their own stupid ass conflicts and more plants dammit! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 07:31 PM |
| 18 | He’s crazy if he thinks Gen z/millennial woman are gonna put up with this😂💀Yep, probably that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 05:34 PM |
| 81 | He’s crazy if he thinks Gen z/millennial woman are gonna put up with this😂💀He wants someone with a BMI of 17.7. His taste is extremely concerning. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 03:52 PM |
| 75 | He’s crazy if he thinks Gen z/millennial woman are gonna put up with this😂💀Height can't be under 5'9" Weight can't be over 120 pounds BMI = 17.7. He wants us to die. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 03:49 PM |
| 81 | No coffee dates no walk dates no drink datesThen let him plan a date where you can be perfectly comfortable while also get to observe him fully. I don't like eating while wearing fancy clothes either - so he will have to come up with something that I can fully enjoy while also allowing me to vet him properly. Your job is not to worry about the logistic of the date itself - that's his job. Your job is to show up and vet him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 03:42 PM |
| 28 | No coffee dates no walk dates no drink datesThat's for him to worry about, your job is to show up and have a good time. Tell him in pre-date conversation about your preferences and let him sort it out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 03:37 PM |
| 12 | "All the good men are taken! They're all married by now!"Don't forget the good ol' "you will die alone being the crazy cat lady". I know a lot of single cat ladies - they are all beautiful and happy surrounded by their furbabies, and have shit ton of suitors - yes, even the 50-something ones. They just choose not to entertain men because their prioritize their cats. Fearmongering indeed, and total projection. I meet so many men, upon knowing my past wall age and no sign of desperation to settle down or even wanting to seek a man - try so hard to fearm… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 12:47 PM |
| 7 | Let’s hear your clever responses to “How are you still single?!”You should make this into a strategy post - more sisters should realize the intention behind people asking such question - so that we don't fall into the trap of giving what they want. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 06:08 PM |
| 3 | Let’s hear your clever responses to “How are you still single?!”Samee sis, I have no energy to entertain such questions because they aren't asking for answer, they just want to gloat at your expense. Unless absolutely necessary, short answer or no answer is the way to go. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 06:01 PM |
| 2 | Let’s hear your clever responses to “How are you still single?!”"I am lazy." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 05:54 PM |
| 5 | "Are you a feminist?" How do you answer this?It was supposed to be a feminist piece to empower women Ugh maybe it is just me but I find a lot of "empowering" fictions that are written solely for the sake of the ideology is quite cringe and dare I say - shallow. You just have to make a great story FIRST with all the depth and engaging plot, and carefully weave in your message as the moral of the story. Always, always show, don't tell. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 07:06 AM |
| 3 | "Are you a feminist?" How do you answer this?What do you say when they press you for more details? State what you want to state then go up and leave. Or keep quiet and smile. You have the choice not to answer - just like how a person under interrogation can choose to shut their mouth and give nothing away. If the battle is not worth doing, then don't do it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 06:51 AM |
| 25 | Are most high value women “doomed”?Are some HVW destined to be alone? A huge part of destiny is what you make of it - so if you aren't actively looking for relationship and hugely inclined to choose singlehood forever - that may be very well your destiny. But if you are hugely inclined to want to be in a relationship, than perhaps not. Any advice for women like me who are incorporating FDS principles in our life but can’t seem to find a good guy worthy of a relationship? Keep on dating, keep on being open to new people, keep be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 06:30 PM |
| 46 | The darker underside of the “cool girl”"men are easier to get along that you are, I don't have to put up with them like this, I can just f them." And then they wake up one day when they no longer have the looks and youth, and get surprised when the once "easy to get along men suddenly change" and treat them like shit. And proceed to be one of those older ladies who hate every young women on sight and do everything they can to destroy the youngins while acting like a complete doormat to men. Being a pickmeisha that get treated well is… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 05:28 PM |
| 17 | Why am I doing things to make myself more attractive when at the end of the day, men are still going to look at other women anyway?I also wore a mini skirt and crop top once when I was pushing the pram and I got beeped at so many times 😭 I thought the pram would be protection but men don’t care. Actually for a certain type of degenerates - seeing a mother alone with her kids and babies makes her seem far more vulnerable than single ladies because "she is more likely to give up herself to protect her kids". You are assuming from a place of them still having some sort of moral values - Degenerates don't have any. They don't s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 10:52 AM |
| 23 | Remember this post everytime you feel guilty dropping the guy over seemingly "small" issue. Men won't tolerate even 0.000001% of the crap they put us through.told her he'd never stop because "that's who he is", everyone in the comments gaslighted her and said she's ridiculous for getting upset. The f**king double standards. The commenters in my post never once told him to CoMmuNiCaTe - straight up telling him to dump her because she is "immature and disregarding your feelings!". If the woman is made upset, she is just being "ridiculous". If the man is made upset, the woman is "evil" and should be punished/dumped/"thought a lesson". And they dare call… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 01:55 PM |
| 57 | What are the telltale signs that he might actually have mental illness and/or personality disorder?The only constant and foolproof tool is your own feelings. If you're feeling like you described, then that's all the proof you need. 👆 👆 👆 And considering women's intuition is the greatest power we have - almost verging on otherworldly accurate, it is foolish not to use it. I think that's why usually the initial phase of abusive process is them making us think we are "crazy". That we are full of nonsense and we shouldn't trust ourselves. They know just how scary our gut intuition can be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 09:54 AM |
| 44 | What are the telltale signs that he might actually have mental illness and/or personality disorder?If this is going to get you into some real trouble - like you become the scapegoat when some major problem occurs - you have to start secretly recording and documenting every interaction with them in secret. Will save you the legal trouble if you need to defend yourself down the line. Also save your sanity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 08:43 AM |
| 114 | What are the telltale signs that he might actually have mental illness and/or personality disorder?One thing scrotes and pickme like to say whenever I say anything - literally anything, even the most mundane stuff is "Ehh really? Are you sure that's right?" Even when they are the one asking me about the thing. Even when it is asking about time or something blatantly factual like that. Classic poking at the monkey gaslighting - they are egging me so that I will lose my composure, get mad and confront them, and they get to be the innocent victim who has "no idea" why I am mad at them. Most comm… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 06:54 AM |
| 132 | What are the telltale signs that he might actually have mental illness and/or personality disorder?I think if you are asking from a non-professional standpoint, the most surefire way is to focus on what you are feeling. If being with him makes you feel off, uncomfortable, confused, overwhelmed, irritated, exhausted, stressed, dread - basically if you can never feel calm, safe, stable and sure - it is time to RUN. Men can fake their behavior, even your own brain can lie to you (brain fog and self-gaslighting), but your gut intuition will never lie to you. Observe him with critical eye and don'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 06:39 AM |
| 90 | Trafficking disguised as dating or job offersGot one approaching me and asking if I want to share an uber with him... In broad daylight. There's people around, but perhaps he thinks I look naive enough (the curse of a nice resting face) and can be easily duped. Ugh no, first of all I don't know you and second of all, is it uber or is it perhaps your accomplice? Be extra vigilant in public ladies, don't trust anyone over anything when you are out alone. Only go out during the day and even then, carry weapon and alarm. I got stalked again in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 06:21 AM |
| 6 | The best thing about getting older and finding FDS is realizing that you don't have to "work" in a relationship - he is either great or you are gone.I am so glad you are here sis! And hope to hear wisdom from older queens that I definitely won't get in real life! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 05:18 AM |
| 55 | Remember this post everytime you feel guilty dropping the guy over seemingly "small" issue. Men won't tolerate even 0.000001% of the crap they put us through.You will be surprised. IRL I've heard men complain of their wives about the stupidest thing - like that post here before where he throws tantrum when she forgot to pack him fruit snack. Meanwhile a husband literally put grinded snail in the wife's smoothie and she still wants to "work things out". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 04:17 AM |
| 73 | Remember this post everytime you feel guilty dropping the guy over seemingly "small" issue. Men won't tolerate even 0.000001% of the crap they put us through.We all at FDS would no doubt - but the average women out there? Pretty sure if the poster is a she, she will be ridiculed and gaslighted to hell and back. Reading some of the comments there, the way they talk about her - you would've think she cheated or something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 02:36 AM |
| 241 | If men don't do little things for you, they won't care about taking care of you or helping in any way.I mean, the very definition of being IN LOVE is that you care so much about your partner. You don't want them to be in pain, in trouble, in danger. You are happy and they are happy, you are worried when they are sick, you feel joy and happiness whenever they are around, you miss them when they aren't around. Cuz you know, you like them and vice versa. Being in love means being that sappy and cringy couple who play chase around the house, laughing out loud and embarrassing your children. Couple w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 09:44 PM |
| 59 | Does anybody else get tired of fake women's posts undoubtedly written by men?FACTS! This 50/50 culture is a very westernized European/African American culture - going Dutch and ride or die chick and all that. In asia and (I think) other parts of the world man paying for dates is still pretty much the norm. Even in the Indian culture where the bride's family has to pay the dowry to the groom's family - in dating and marriage, the man still pay. Because duh he the provider. He must work, pay the bills. And can you imagine if Asian men just laze around all day playing video… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 09:25 PM |
| 24 | Does anybody else get tired of fake women's posts undoubtedly written by men?It is really like night and day when you factor in the desperate need for approval. The pickme can be the most beautiful girl in the room, supermodel look and got all the package but people can't be comfortable around her because of her desperation. It is just not fun interacting with such a person. Meanwhile the quiet woman who is content and sure of herself doesn't need to say anything but people are drawn to her anyway because her calmness and sureness makes everyone around her calm by associ… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 09:17 PM |
| 27 | Does anybody else get tired of fake women's posts undoubtedly written by men?while pickmes chime in with "On behalf of all normal women, we apologize for this hoe 😔😔😔 I would rather pay for every date with a man than be single FDS-reader". And after a few years being a forever GF post to the relationship sub - "My BF who is 255 years older than me is the most perfect, loving, greatest man I ever seen. But he doesn't work and just lying around jerking to underage girls all day. It is straining our relationship, how can I work on this?" Play stupid games, win stupid prizes… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 09:12 PM |
| 24 | On the term 'old wives' tales' in the English language and its cultural relevanceUgh I remember falling for stupid shit. I didn't backstab or catfight but I did gossip - feeling sooo shameful remembering it. And you are right - internal fights between female coworkers are rarely started by the women themselves. All my experience in this is a male coworker coming to me and started subtly talking shit about the other women, while pretending to be on my side. And even if a pickme starts a drama with me I am 99% sure it is because a male coworker is goading her. From now on I am… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 06:01 AM |
| 54 | How heartbreaking, talk about long con on the husband’s part!At the very base level - he would be just a "meh" husband that do stuff just because he has been told to, or for sex. And I am prettttyyyy sure the bedroom stuff is all about him, not her. Men can't fake the warmth of intimacy. Hell they can't even fake excitement for long. They can perform romantic gestures, but there will be no warmth or excitement when she is within his periphery. A man has to be continuously excited about you till the very end - if he starts to be lukewarm after a few months… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 05:23 PM |
| 118 | The best thing about getting older and finding FDS is realizing that you don't have to "work" in a relationship - he is either great or you are gone.what did we(fds) do wrong, other than protect ourselves from creepy men???! Nothing. We did nothing wrong, we just tell the truth. That's why they hate us. Abusive assholes don't like it when their supposed victims retaliate and call them on their bullsh*t. Because that means their can't abuse us anymore, they can't manipulate us anymore, can't play mind games on us anymore. And they absolutely hate that. Spare yourself the heartache sis, shitty people are shitty - let them be in their toxicity.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 03:29 PM |
| 49 | The best thing about getting older and finding FDS is realizing that you don't have to "work" in a relationship - he is either great or you are gone.EXACTLY what I think every time these people came and blabbing at me to "give him a chance, you should be the bigger person, you should act like an adult!". I mean if they luuvvvv him so much go deal with. Leave me the f**k alone. And they won't. Ohhh those people won't. They know better - that's why they tell us to deal with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 03:02 PM |
| 52 | The best thing about getting older and finding FDS is realizing that you don't have to "work" in a relationship - he is either great or you are gone.YES! The ONLY stressor you should have in your relationship is that of external circumstances not caused by or related to your partner and/or his family/friends/social circle. Like the pandemic, or world economy or something. When the very source of that stress comes from the said man - it is time to drop everything and run far farrr away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 02:29 PM |
| 83 | The best thing about getting older and finding FDS is realizing that you don't have to "work" in a relationship - he is either great or you are gone.Lol how often were our instincts “corrected” as children? How many bad situations could have been avoided if you trusted your gut? Sissss especially for girls and women - our instincts get "corrected" so much that we grew up thinking that we have to be nice to creepy ass strangers and abusive assholes!! My God society just want us all to die a horrible death with the way they are teaching young girls. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 02:04 PM |
| 99 | The best thing about getting older and finding FDS is realizing that you don't have to "work" in a relationship - he is either great or you are gone.“Reddit users are all 14 year olds, only children leave at the first sign of trouble.” Ugh my first instinct as a child when people treat me like shit is to run far farrr away - and the teenage me was always troubled when people say shit like this. And also because the adult around me stayed and "work the relationship". Now I know I am in fact, correct. My small children ass knew better than the adult around me, who would've thought. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 01:34 PM |
| 142 | The best thing about getting older and finding FDS is realizing that you don't have to "work" in a relationship - he is either great or you are gone.It’s more than ok to walk away but society seems to demonize that especially for women. Only women it seems. People have no problem convincing the man to leave the woman on the spot - even for something as petty as "she didn't load the dishwasher right". Men knows they will never accept even 0.0001% of the crap they put us through - that's why they rely such much on the society ganging up on us to stay and "work" the relationship. F**k that. 2022 and forward, drop men with speed if they don't pe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 12:46 PM |
| 9 | Act around men you are attracted to but haven't signaled their interest in you yet as if they were takenThis should be a post of its own, bravo sis. Nothing but pure, raw truth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 08:47 AM |
| 25 | Act around men you are attracted to but haven't signaled their interest in you yet as if they were takenJust look at him in the eyes and smile. Seriously that's all you need. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 06:59 AM |
| 34 | Why he will punish you for giving him second chancesMost men would never put up with the amount of abuse women deal with at their jobs. Ugh I still struggle with this because I hate changing jobs too soon. My abuse radar when it comes to working is waayyy f**ked up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 05:53 AM |
| 68 | Why he will punish you for giving him second chancesHear hear! Narcissistic scrotes (and pickmeishas) all have this wrapped up sense of "being wronged" when you retaliate and defend yourself from their abuse. Being the perpetual victim they are - they see your justified anger and backlash as "wronging" them. Because in their head they are always the victim you see - so how dare you hurt my feelings you are a monster wahh!! And they embark on this "journey" to get revenge from how - to ensure you are properly punished for the sin of "hurting them"… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 05:51 AM |
| 41 | Beware of men who repeatedly turn conversations sexualThe day some weird-ass folks shouted "sexual freedom!" and started normalizing talking about anything sexual in a public setting was the day it all goes to shit. Sex and sexual talk has always been and will always be a deeply private stuff that should never left the bedroom. There's a reason no matter how much "politically correct" policing out there - your first instinct when hearing sex talk in public is to cringe and get uncomfortable - because it is, uncomfortable. Even when the person is ta… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 01:15 PM |
| 1 | Stop getting into cars with men.Sorry for the late reply! The general rule is like this: By Month ONE - he already state a clear desire for serious marriage commitment and is waiting for me to be ready. By Month THREE - he has all the plans lined up and openly discussing with me about when we will be engaged, how long should we stay as fiancée etc (if there is no serious life-changing events that occurred, I prefer short engagement period, one to two months top). He will also brought up marriage planning and asking me about wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 01:04 PM |
| 56 | The beauty of boundariesYep - I am the kind that drop people like nothing when they pissed me off enough. And promptly forgot about them after. None of that "second chances" BS - if I say we are done, we are DONE. Both men and women. And watching them go from trash talking behind me to smear campaigning to everybody who will listen to asking people about my socials and basically just go crazy because I act like they didn't exists? I wonder why they would spent all that time and energy on good ol' me when they can just … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 05:42 AM |
| 45 | Saw this on IG. Could say I'm shocked but sadly I'm not.13 year-old friend in 8th grade. She had a baby at the age of 11 because of the asshole who raped her repeatedly and the mother who blamed her for getting pregnant instead of breaking up with the boyfriend. Her mom's ex-husband had to take her in because her mom kept letting her go to high school and college parties alone and she kept getting coerced to have sex or raped by the guys at the parties. This "mother" should not be allowed near any children, ever. The poor girl will need lifelong ther… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 04:59 AM |
| 73 | Saw this on IG. Could say I'm shocked but sadly I'm not.When I start thinking some of the women here are being way too hard on PickMes Yep, some newbies gets triggered and claim "Victim Blaming!" when we asked them to take accountability for their own actions. Victim blaming is attacking a girl when she came forward as say she has been SA'ed. Telling women to stop looking through rose-colored glasses and start being more strict with your safety is not. You can't expect gentle handling here - FDS is not a "good vibes only" sub. We will tell you what y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 04:54 AM |
| 46 | Does the quality of men you attract affect your self esteem?In general LVMs go after any women they can get access to - they are that desperate. BUT there is one particular vibe that will get the most attention from predators - it is the vibe of being vulnerable. When you are sick, grieving, going through a breakup, stressed, annoyed, basically anything that makes you seem "weak" - they will be circling like sharks. That's why teenagers got harassed the most. Hell I am 30-smthing but look like a naive high schooler when I am not working. Creepy men hit o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 04:17 PM |
| 42 | Stop getting into cars with men.I didn’t go to another evening date for years because of it. Same! I am strongly against going out at night with a man (I am a legit nightowl but night is definitely a private time, I am uncomfortable spending it with a stranger) and will insist on day date. Accepted a night date once - safe to say I ain't gonna do that ever again. Too weird and I am too far concerned about my safety to enjoy it. Day-time date is definitely where it is at. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 01:57 PM |
| 109 | Stop getting into cars with men.So we go outside and my car is further into the parking lot and it’s really dark. All I asked him to do is drive me to my car because I didn’t feel comfortable walking in the dark. I think, for reference the next time this happens (or for the other ladies that face this kind of situation) - better just ask someone inside the restaurant, maybe some female workers who can help, or some other kind guests in 3-4 who can walk you to your car. In my experience workers are willing to help because they … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 01:21 PM |
| 160 | Stop getting into cars with men.Yes, women nowadays have been getting too lax with their own safety - and too trusting of the man. Even on a date, the man is a stranger. You are getting into a stranger's car - he can take you to God knows where because he has that power. Do you not get nervous getting alone into uber in the middle of the night? It is the same as getting into a man's car for a date! Better being extra paranoid than you know, dead. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 01:11 PM |
| 120 | Stop getting into cars with men.Also to add: Do NOT go to a man's house or let a man into your house - even on date #123. You two ought to get the marriage discussion down first before getting into each others' privacy. This is to avoid danger, false sense of intimacy and fake bonding - because even though it doesn't seem much in modern dating - once upon a time crossing the threshold of the house is a wedding night ritual. Because that is just how much valuable your private space is. Do NOT go into any private jet setting lon… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 01:06 PM |
| 44 | One thing these scrotes gonna do is drop their masks. Their real intentions show when they feel they have trapped their wives. Girl run!Oh my viewpoint is far simpler that yours - checking the lights throughout the house is in similar vein to checking the locks, the doors etc - it is safety related. And my old school ass is on the side that those kind of things are strictly a man's responsibility. Sending the wife to do that is a coward's move - he should be ashamed. If the man can't make sure the safety of the house - why have him in the house? Might as well just get a dog, spare all these trouble. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 12:18 AM |
| 81 | One thing these scrotes gonna do is drop their masks. Their real intentions show when they feel they have trapped their wives. Girl run!Nah definitely she is being too kind and overlooking red flags before. She is the one doing the rounds switching off lights - that's a man's job. No way no how. But this coward pos told his wife to do it - already tells me everything I need to know. He is not "a little lazy" - he is a coward, spineless, can't even be called a man scrote - just a spoiled pathetic manchild. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 09:33 PM |
| 45 | Ladies, if you have to create a vision board just for him to get the right groceries, just leaveDid anyone feel concerned about how his face looks? Round eyes, dead stares, mouth hanging open. It is either he tries really reallllyyy hard to look dumb and clueless - or he really is that dumb and clueless. It is disturbing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 07:15 AM |
| 49 | If he doesn’t lovingly and passionately kiss you during sex, he does NOT love you.I would even say it's empowering to go on dates with men who plan the dates, pay for them and kiss you tenderly. Yesss sis unlike what these libfem pickmes and scrotes tryna convince you - those 50/50, pay your own dates and pay for the guy, do hookups and give out on the first date, be the "cool girl" that allow all sort of depraved "kinks" etc. is the exact opposite of empowerment - it is modern day slavery. True empowerment is letting the guy do all that he needs to do to impress you, and get… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 02:38 AM |
| 49 | Groom smashes bride’s face into cake & she rightfully is leaving himUnfortunately this thinking is common across the globe. A lot of wives, when talking about the "hurdles" in marriage - it is almost always about the husband being shitty and unsupportive. Even when dealing with real struggles like losing job or sick children - the biggest stressor in their life is still the parasitic lazy whiny manchild who do nothing yet adding burden to their already exhausting life. Talking to struggling single women (like myself) and single mothers - we do struggle but can c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 02:06 AM |
| 22 | Groom smashes bride’s face into cake & she rightfully is leaving himYes indeed - we will save so much hurt down the line if we learn to be absolutely ruthless in vetting even the smallest of the sign. This sister isn't keen on being married to the guy - that in itself is a red flag. And she is responsible for half the marriage arrangement and sounds like she didn't ask for much but take care of a lot - another red flag. If he is truly that excited to be married to her - she wouldn't have to lift a finger. We all should learn how to accept without guilt and comfo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 01:55 AM |
| 89 | Your male friends WILL masturbate to you, and it’s not their fault. Here you have it Queens, If you are friends with men, they will masturbate to you, because they can, and because it’s private, and none of your business.It is the typical gaslighting - the truth is very simple, we all know that but scrotes will vomit all the word salad and do all the twist and turn in an effort to make you think you are the crazy one. The truth is very simple - these disgusting perverts are masturbating to pictures of women who think these disgusting perverts are "friend". They aren't friend, they are disgusting predators in a sheep skin. They should get sued in some sexual-related crime. Disgusting perverts like this should not… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 01:09 PM |
| 112 | Your male friends WILL masturbate to you, and it’s not their fault. Here you have it Queens, If you are friends with men, they will masturbate to you, because they can, and because it’s private, and none of your business.Yep, you can see it on their faces even when their mouth say otherwise. Not even other men - scrotes can't even handle being ogled by other women they deem unattractive for fear of being made fun of by their bros. What they truly mean is that they will be flattered ONLY by attractive women that fit their criteria. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 12:57 PM |
| 150 | Your male friends WILL masturbate to you, and it’s not their fault. Here you have it Queens, If you are friends with men, they will masturbate to you, because they can, and because it’s private, and none of your business.Is the scrote okay if other men masturbate to their pics? Cuz you know, masturbating isn't equal to treating them like sex object and all that. Creeps do say a lot of bullsh*t trying to justify their disgusting creepy behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 12:42 PM |
| 210 | Men are crying out that no one cares about their mental healthPure raging entitlement. They are so used to growing up in easy mode and everything served to them on silver platters they can't comprehend why their adult independent life aren't like that. Meanwhile most women get treated like shit since the day we are born, we learn to survive this stupid ass society and create our own safe haven. And men see that and goes "Why she has that and I don't?? That's not fair I want that wahhhh!!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 08:54 AM |
| 54 | Men are crying out that no one cares about their mental healthjust men complaining about women focusing on their own problems and not men's problems. For such a LoGiCaL gender they can't see their own irony aren't they? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 08:45 AM |
| 28 | Men are crying out that no one cares about their mental health"No one cares about MY mental health, wahhh" while screeching on a female-focused discussion talking about shared experience between women. Upon suggesting kindly that they make their OWN thread and and ask other MEN to come and support them - they again screeeching about how women are all evil heartless b***h that only care about ourselves. Yeah, at this point unless it is a women related problem I couldn't even give a f**k. Go solve your own problem with your own gender. "Bros before hoes" rem… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 08:43 AM |
| 9 | Pays 40K for his gambling addiction or his incompetence (dunno which is worse)Uuu yes sis! I found that instead of debating them or getting offended - which what their ultimate goal is, negging to get your attention - I just go blank and snort when they say something particularly stupid. What's the use of talking to pigeons - they don't understand your language anyway. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 03:46 AM |
| 20 | If you wanna see a man's true character break up with himdamned if we don’t have sex (because they turn cold after they get tired of trying) Turn that mindset into "we are lucky their mask dropped FAST and we are free to move on with our life!" Don't get trapped by the scarcity mindset. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 03:06 AM |
| 5 | Not accepting text conversations is THE BEST!Sometimes, in life, you just gotta piss some people off sis. A lot of bridges are meant to be burned. You already know the solution to your own problem - the only thing stopping you now is yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 02:50 AM |
| 98 | Don’t ever let a man make you think you need him for ANYTHING. Women everywhere are raising their standards and LVM are getting desperate. This one in particular is trying to use fear and coercion to find himself a lower income wifeOR if you make 50k a year you can be single, control your own finances and treat yourself once in a while WITHOUT the scrotes manchild drama that demands you go 50/50, get you into debt because he has "a lifestyle to keep", stretching yourself thin picking up more jobs because of babies or he wants a new xbox. Why go 50/50 when you can go 100 by yourself? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 02:09 AM |
| 11 | I got chucked off a left wing political facebook page I followed for years for challenging this. How do you vet for men who believe they are owed access to a woman, I'm starting to feel it might be all of them.More like they don't see it as a problem - they see it as a tool to get woman. Kinda like the nice guy thing - if they can't attract woman the bad boy chad way, lets see if woman will give them a chance if they use the victim of tragedy angle. And if it works? Betcha they will be the forever victim till the day they die. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 11:25 PM |
| 152 | I got chucked off a left wing political facebook page I followed for years for challenging this. How do you vet for men who believe they are owed access to a woman, I'm starting to feel it might be all of them.And they can go fuck themselves. Or go f**k their bros. Cuz bros before hoes amirite?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 11:48 AM |
| 147 | I got chucked off a left wing political facebook page I followed for years for challenging this. How do you vet for men who believe they are owed access to a woman, I'm starting to feel it might be all of them.Ya know, reverse the gender - a widow who just lost her husband, a girl with crippling anxiety, a virgin woman with cancer etc. Do you think those women first thought is "I want to find a gigolo to bring me "joy" (aka to f**k)"? I assure you sex is the last thing on their mind because duh, common sense. Most men are so sex-crazed that regardless what happened in their life - the only thing in their mind is how to get sex. The tragedies aren't really a tragedy for them - just a tool to get women … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 11:46 AM |
| 2 | Backfooting: the Disturbing New Dating Trend Men Don't Want You to Know AboutAww thank you so much sis!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 06:45 AM |
| 8 | You will KNOW when a man wants you as his everything. Because HE KNOWS right away.It’s nice to be thoughtful, but don’t be making that much effort before you’ve even met. It is really being thoughtful tho? Would she go this far for say, a homeless woman, a sick dirty kitten, an old lady in need of assistance? Hell, will her mother get this level of thoughtfullness? Bet not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 05:01 AM |
| 38 | Ladies who have taken back an ex, did he change and what made you take him back?I personally wouldn’t feel guilt because I believe it’s an indication of things that have nothing to do with me Yeah people who do that are all selfish, manipulative pos who instead of working on his issue, put all the burden and blame on you. They choose to be like that, so what ultimately happens are solely their business. It got nothing to do with you, you are a victim of a manipulative asshole. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 12:06 AM |
| 26 | Play stupid games, win stupid prizesI am sensing her family has already knew from before the marriage that he is shit - hence the financial arrangement. And his daughters can see clear as day that the dad is shit - probably had been discussing with their grandparents behind his back. His ex-wife was the only one who loved him (maybe naive, trapped by that sweet highschool nostalgia and subsequently thinking she already spend too much time with him) and even now, still tolerating him. I am pretty sure part of the reason why she get… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 09:08 AM |
| 30 | Play stupid games, win stupid prizesRight??? Men and their astronomical ego and delusion, thinking 20-something are allll droolling over their old sleazy asses. Newsflash scrote -NOBODY likes old men even the genuine old foxes unless he has money. I repeat - moneyyyyy. And even then it takes a special kind of women to tolerate your greasy old-manness. Stop deluding yourself! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 06:57 AM |
| 115 | Play stupid games, win stupid prizesEhh considering how fast his daughters cut him out of their lives, and have no problem accepting the family friend as the new father - he is probably a shitty father that think he is a "good" father. Men like to overestimate how big their contribution to the household is. Probably one of those passive aggresive father that makes his daughter do most chores but take all the credit because he cook shitty dinner sometimes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 06:42 AM |
| 14 | My friends keep telling me, “not all men.”Comparing how longingly and livingly women talk about men and the opposite, how awfully men talk about women That what happens when women grew up with disney fairytale and romance stories, while men grew up with porn and macho movies (that objectify women and vilinify them). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 12:14 AM |
| 71 | You will KNOW when a man wants you as his everything. Because HE KNOWS right away.Lovebombing - grand gestures, over the top, pushy, impersonal, give zero f*cks about your comfort, reek of desperation, feels off. Most importantly imagine replacing yourself with some other woman - lovebombing will work on her just the same. True interest - it is clear, you are not confused, he is honest about his intention but won't push, he works with your pace and comfort level, his courtship is personal, his gift is something close to your heart. It feels very easy being courted by this guy… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 11:26 PM |
| 6 | you're not toxic.because I get the sense the majority of women who are happily married either don't have kids or they get hired help or lots of help from extended family. This is very true - even without knowing their husband, married women I know who get hired help or family help are more relaxed and emotionally stable by virtue of having more rest. They age gracefully too. Especially for babies and toddlers - having a fulltime nanny is crucial, considering how much actual rest women need after giving birth, an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 10:59 PM |
| 26 | Romance, erotica novels and every kind of media related to it.I never understand the lure of cheating, adultery, hookups and love triangle. It just all lazy writing and same shit repeated over and over and over again - it is all just stupid characters creating stupid conflicts. OTP characters that only have eyes for each other are far more interesting because the writers are forced to develop an actual engaging story line and creative conflicts because it will make or break the story. This is why I tend to enjoy the secondary pairing or the comedic side pa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 09:39 AM |
| 12 | Pretend you can't cookSis rightttt?? And honestly even at my laziest I am wayyy neater than 99% of scrotes' horror stories out there. Like yeah my bed's unmade majority of the time but it has all the components - and not ya know, a bare mattress with suspicious stain on it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 09:17 AM |
| 27 | Warning ⚠️ Some red-pill guys have started adopting FDS lingoI enjoy playing charming and "dumb" it works out well for me. People often underestimate me, which works to my advantage. Samee sis - I am scarily competent in my work, but enjoy being dumb and shy outside of it (not much an act, I am just too lazy to summon brain power), in public. It is like giving them fake sense of power - you see quickly who is genuinely good people, and who are out to get you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 08:43 AM |
| 52 | Pretend you can't cookDon't have to pretend - I am shit at household chores (lazy) and have no desire to change (lazy). I am better than you typical scrote but there's dust everywhere (lazy). The best vetting tool ever because I feel no shame about it (lazy) and if the man can't take it? There's the door. Being lazy and totally shameless about it is the best thing everr. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 11:32 PM |
| 67 | Pretend you can't cooknobody cooks as well as his mom. Lol to those who try to make you "compete" with his mom. Like dude eww no, go away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 11:19 PM |
| 71 | Petulant vulnerability. A newly coined term, it seems, to describe the behaviour of emotionally manipulative men.That's why we are advised to not confront narcs and abuser head on - we grey rock immediately. Narcs are perpetual victim in their mind and anything you say to challenge that bubble will be met with vengeace. They will do anything in their power to get back at you. The best way to spread the truth is to talk to other people who aren't flying monkeys and is open to listening to you. They may or may not believe you but they notice something is very wrong with the narc - that's the people you want … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 11:46 PM |
| 22 | Backfooting: the Disturbing New Dating Trend Men Don't Want You to Know AboutIf he makes you start to question yourself, take a step back, readjust your crown, and keep it movin!! This!! If in any way, shape or form being with him starts to make you defensive - and feel that you have to prove yourself to him - it is time to go. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 09:29 PM |
| 40 | Backfooting: the Disturbing New Dating Trend Men Don't Want You to Know AboutLove this! And do you notice when you double down on the insult and accusation instead of getting defensive - other people tend to trust you better? Some even get defensive on my behalf! And even in the case the other people choose to side with her instead of you - they have to deal with her tantrum and drama every time you manage to piss her off - and those people will end up getting tired of her. I just love being the lil shit and watch the shitstorm unfold. Just makes my day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 05:44 PM |
| 16 | Where is your kids dad? Not 1 mention of him. Be careful who you procreate with.I agree - the nanny and housekeeper is mainly to help the mother while the children is young and need constant care like this lady. The husband should still shoulder the brunt of the household chores while the kids, when they are of age should immediately be put to do their own chores. I am all for spoiling the mom rotten! Contrary to what the patriarchy say - I believe mom should do the least work in the household, more so if she is working and children should be taught to care for themselves a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 05:36 PM |
| 29 | Socialising with men pre FDS vs post FDSThis is why I get so put off by networking events - as a woman, you can't never truly network unless you entertain their sleazy asses. Men always find a way to hit on you even in the most professional setting - it is f**king exhausting! If only there is women-only networking events or the participants are thoroughly vetted before allowing entry - sort of HV-exclusive event. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 04:48 PM |
| 58 | Where is your kids dad? Not 1 mention of him. Be careful who you procreate with.Ladies, add this to your standard when finding a man and you want children: Aside from providing you a house and a car, he MUST also provide you a full-time nanny and a cleaning lady. Can't? Don't let him touch you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 04:42 PM |
| 123 | Backfooting: the Disturbing New Dating Trend Men Don't Want You to Know Aboutif you want to have fun, double down on their accusations My favorite tactic with nasty relative backfooters - pickmeisha aunts mostly. I am very smart and highly educated despite being female and my family being the poorest - and oh boyy do they not like me. I got called everything under the sun from arrogant to being a wh**e. And I proceed to use every single insult they throw at me as a weapon - whenever they make a scene because I didn't go to their precious son's wedding? "I am an arrogant … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 04:18 PM |
| 84 | Backfooting: the Disturbing New Dating Trend Men Don't Want You to Know AboutI think projection is the reason, and backfooting is the action taken against you. So they cheat, feel the guilt and shame, project the feeling onto you because "i am not the bad guy here, she must do it too!" - and thus do the backfooting so that all the focus shifted onto you. That's why backfooters tend to spread the nasty rumors about you - they want to be absolved from the guilt and shame by making you the villain. There is no convincing backfooters that you are innocent - most of them know… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 04:02 PM |
| 10 | Men Abuse Women Who They Perceive to be BETTER THAN THEMIn no way did I wrote to go date LVM and be quiet - you are on FDS sis, it kind of already the understood that we do NOT associate ourselves with LVM in any way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 10:15 PM |
| 5 | “Do You Like Kids?”, Being Used to Judge if You Are a Bitch or a Nice PersonYep, that's just it is with those people. Nothing you can do will make them change their attitude sadly - your existence triggers them, so they won't stop until you basically die in misery or something. You can't change toxic, you just have to stay away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 07:53 PM |
| 11 | “Do You Like Kids?”, Being Used to Judge if You Are a Bitch or a Nice PersonSecretaries in the legal field. Ah no wonder. You are the quiet and minding her own business kind right? Those kind of profession really don't like quiet people like you (and me) and are really rampant with that mean girl high school bully culture. Also high density of pickmes, what's with you working with (I assume) a lot of highly paid men. Women, and especially pickmes are are highly competitive and comparative in that kind of environment. In comparison, I worked in academia before and despit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 07:32 PM |
| 7 | “Do You Like Kids?”, Being Used to Judge if You Are a Bitch or a Nice PersonWhat kind of work did you do? Do you work closely with all those problematic people? Perhaps it is the industry you work in that attracts those kind of people in high density - and also I would worry if your other coworkers are easily swept up in this kind of petty drama. Yes, there will always be that one person who just can't help but stir drama - but if you worked with professionals, they tend to avoid being involved with her, much less ganging up on you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 07:16 PM |
| 14 | “Do You Like Kids?”, Being Used to Judge if You Are a Bitch or a Nice PersonTime to brush off that resume and start looking sis - that drama ain't worth your mental health. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 06:45 PM |
| 41 | Someone in the comments said stories like this are why FDS exists 😂The downside to that is that is that they focus only on financial capability so it is still toxic in other ways. Their version of HVM is basically a really rich guy - and we all know how that turns out. Marital affair is rampant, and the pressure on their kids to be the best of the best is vicious. BUT we all should follow their ruthless standard in never dating down and making sure the guy is financially established and can afford a family before giving him a chance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 04:32 PM |
| 10 | Men Abuse Women Who They Perceive to be BETTER THAN THEMMost likely to get beat in my mind are the outspoken mouthy ones 100% agree with you - and this is not a hate towards outspoken aggresive women. But let say you see Mel B side by side with say, Queen Elizabeth when she is young (and we all don't know who she is). We all can agree that Mel B will be seen as a target, while the Queen is the girl next door. It is the matter of who LVM predators see as "in need of a lesson" and will put all their cards in so that they can conquer her. And usually it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 04:13 PM |
| 62 | Someone in the comments said stories like this are why FDS exists 😂This! While there is still a lot of stigma about leftover women and the strong patriarchal society - the chinese women I know are ruthless when it comes to the standards of their future husband, financial wise. The man MUST have a stable career, a house and a car at the MINIMUM - and even they will tend to marry women of way lower income. Higher earning women want a husband far richer than her. And man leeching of women while being jobless, live in her house, use her car, make he support his med… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 03:28 PM |
| 81 | Scrote abuses and manipulates wife into thinking she is ugly and blames herself for his cheating and abuse.This is like 99.99999% female response to their partner's shittiness in any relationship subs. Like this people literally backflip into Antarctica and back with their mental gymnastic - confused as to why people are telling her "he is evil" while she literally lists allll the reason why the man is indeed, evil. Sis, read your own post and stop lying to yourself! And oh whenever they claim "he is amazing and great!" - the best they can come up with is that he pay bills. That's it - he pay bills s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 12:35 AM |
| 56 | Cautionary tale - a man will literally take your kidney and cheat on you with no remorseWhere I came from (asia) people's view about organ donation is pretty much still in the post-war time - aka robber will rob your organ and you will die on the street-side. But the most important thing is that that man is a coward - like so many other men here. They have no problem letting their wives bleed from pregnancy and whine about them being "lazy" because they can't instantly spring back to life and do chores after birthing a child. But those very same men will faint at the sight of blood… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 09:57 PM |
| 123 | Straight from the Horse's Mouth: Daniel SlossCultivate yourself, show that love you have to yourself. Become a HVW and LIVE your life like a fcking main-character! This is the biggest thing all our sisters here need to realize - what does it means exactly by being a HVW and a chooser instead of a chaser? It is by completely decentralizing men from your life and just be. A sister here used a perfect symbolism - it is like having a rose garden. You are the gardener to your rose garden, and men are visitors. You didn't go out chasing after vi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 08:57 PM |
| 171 | Cautionary tale - a man will literally take your kidney and cheat on you with no remorseKnow someone whose son needed either a kidney or a stem cell transplant - and the father is a compatible donor. He REFUSED. And the son, his son - DIED. Tells you enough about men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 08:39 PM |
| 1 | The absolute bare minimum, and an automatic dealbreaker. NEVER, no matter the circumstance. Do not ever let a man think that it is justifiable to try to physically intimidate you. There exists not a single excuse for violent behaviour. It will always escalate.My ex moved very fast to asking me out Was that fastness comfortable to you or you are pushed into accepting? If pushed, red flag. very gentlemanly during our first date, apart from a surprise kiss at the end He violated your boundaries, red flag. HVM ask for consent, in every single little thing. was him not really getting to know me beforehand which I chalked up to just wanting to check in person chemistry. That means he doesn't care about you, red flag. HVM who are genuinely into you will hav… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 06:52 PM |
| 32 | Hmmm, Am I Crazy or Are Women Wising Up?I still believe in women's free choice but that's the only positive I see coming out of this The thing is, a lot of this "free choice empowerment" narrative is about things that makes men feel good - hookups, casual sex, porn, onlyfans, 50/50, low effort dates, forever gf, bdsm, kinks, polyamory, open relationship. What about things that benefit only women? - right to abortion, no shaving and body hair, no makeup to hide imperfection, higher wages and fully supported maternity care, reporting an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 02:11 PM |
| 49 | Today I watched a scrote make a pickme pay for all the groceries and then load them into the car herselfthat she really thought he was this amazing prize so many women are after Yet for all the mate-guarding that these pickmes did - their partner is really, really not great. Rarely I see pickmes with men who are worth at least being called an eye-candy. All I ever encounter is the same bloody dad-bod, greasy face, balding head, and creepy stares. I have no idea what these pickmes saw in them, much less thinking that other women find that creepy ass f\*ker attractive.* I am honestly insulted whenev… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 06:40 AM |
| 195 | Men wanting to have sex with you is not the compliment you think it is! Men will have sex with a mcchicken sandwichI used to think that sex after marriage was such an outdated concept The funny thing is - things like sex after marriage, courtship etiquette, men being the financial provider for the family, men must be financially stable and socially established before they can ask a woman's hand in marriage - ya know, things that benefit women are all "outdated concepts". Meanwhile "wife duties", house chores, cooking, cleaning, child care all 100% on the women alone are never outdated concepts. Wonder why. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 05:37 AM |
| 29 | Irritating mannerisms are a red flag and your intuition telling you that something is off!he can’t get out of his own head and stop passive aggressively feeling sorry for himself! Oh yeah this damning epidemic of men that just have to be the victim in every single bloody thing and whines about "lack of support". But instead of taking initiative and bloody do something about the problem - just whines and whines and whines into oblivion. And somehow manage to blame it all on women. Even when the root of the damn problem is caused by their beloved patriarchy and "bros" - when they encou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 02:49 AM |
| 78 | Irritating mannerisms are a red flag and your intuition telling you that something is off!If there's one type of mannerism that will never fail to make me instantly angry in 5-seconds flat - it is the big man-baby act. You know the one who pouts, whine, use strategic incompetence like oxygen, sulk in the corner if you didn't grant his wish, wants you to lead and be the man, basically just act like a helpless bumbling idiot who know absolutely nothing and need you to be his momma and take care of everything. Which is, strangely, is getting popular with the youth today? Lost count how … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 12:26 AM |
| 85 | Irritating mannerisms are a red flag and your intuition telling you that something is off!Looking back I wonder if he watched pickup artist videos or something cause he would try to do your typical manipulative tactics, but didn't have the subtlety to pull it off. Fortunately for us - this inability to pull of the fake act is in the majority of men. Men rarely have enough patience and grit to hone and perfect the persona they created, and they can't keep the lie straight even when their lives depend on it. Men are extremely lazy, and only have the energy to pull of that act at the in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 12:16 AM |
| 115 | Another reason why we don’t do coffee datesThe only couple that is allowed to do those type of dates are teenagers - the standard movie, ice cream, coffee dates. Because duh they don't have their own money and they are in that puppy love stage - nothing to get serious over. Adults though? Low effort dates are a straight block and delete, no question asked. It is insulting to take an adult woman out on a low effort date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 09:03 PM |
| 6 | Lol you thought this would make us mad? Dude, we already know that this is what 99% of male lurkers are doing. You want a HVW w/standards. That’s why you’re here. That’s why you send us hate. Any interaction with us turns you on. Y’all need to stop acting like we are undesirable 😂Everytime I get to block another scrote, I imagining them keep screaming into the void, and getting redder and redder as the void stays silent. The ultimate insult to these scrotes are indeed - treating them like they are invisible. Entitled manchild who think he is the most important thing in the world really can't handle that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 04:09 PM |
| 10 | Lol you thought this would make us mad? Dude, we already know that this is what 99% of male lurkers are doing. You want a HVW w/standards. That’s why you’re here. That’s why you send us hate. Any interaction with us turns you on. Y’all need to stop acting like we are undesirable 😂It is like if you want to understand the psychology of drug addiction - you have a better result reading papers, books, hearing from the researchers and doctors. Asking directly from the drug addicts will get you nowhere - maybe they are telling the truth, maybe they are bullsh*tting you, who knows? You asking trashy men why they are trashy will just give them more fuel to drag you into the mud - you are wasting your time. Block them, then look up psychology websites. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 04:06 PM |
| 28 | Ladies, stop coddling your sons.The difference in your story is that he is a bully before they allow him to learn martial arts - kinda like a band-aid solution to a gaping wound - of course it wouldn't work. I am talking about starting young - like when he starts to be able to do chores, start training him in martial arts, instill the discipline and humbleness at the age where they are eager to learn. Usually the kids that do - that I know of - that have something like that in their routine aside from school and chores are cal… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 09:33 PM |
| 45 | Ladies, stop coddling your sons.Maybe not the military itself but military-like discipline boarding school - or some sort of rigorous martial arts training? IDK just seem like boys who get involved in some sort martial arts/defense discipline seriously tends to grow up better. Something that direct all that frantic energy properly and humbles them on a daily basis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 08:08 PM |
| 178 | Ladies, stop coddling your sons.Am not a parent so this is purely an opinion - but I do think sons have to be treated with far more discipline and authority that daughters. Just based on the reason that the entire society is hell-bent on turning boys into horrible adults by teaching them that smoking, drugs, alcohol, hookups, treating women like shit, cheating etc. etc. are cool and "manly". Whenever I have to deal with school-aged students I found that softer and friendlier approach work on girls - but with boys it just have … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 06:27 PM |
| 123 | Ladies, stop coddling your sons.I was thinking of this two weeks ago while watching trials for a few men who were very coddled and entitled Yeah this! There are a few cases of born psychopaths that turn evil even when their parents did everything right - but when there is a LARGE number of entitled narcissistic whiny manchild in adult bodies currently occupying our society - we all damn well know why that happened. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 06:19 PM |
| 79 | The Bite-Size Guide to Vet a Potential Suitor: Does He Care about YOUR COMFORT?He’s 100% a dog person, but he takes care of my cat’s needs as well, making sure he’s fed and playing with him if the kitty’s bored. Ahhh this is my kink right here - caring for your animals even when he isn't a fan. Happy for you sis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 05:13 PM |
| 35 | A disussion about men's heights and lies thereof with my HV fatherbout half of them said they would overlook the lying!!! I simply don’t understand their reasoning. Because for them, it is a "small thing". Meanwhile being on FDS makes you realize those "small", almost invisible thing that triggers your intuition but you can't put a finger on it is actually a prequel, a teaser to the tsunami of red flags you will discover the deeper you get into the relationship with him. Remember that this world is toxic - the majority of what considered "normal" is actually r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 01:59 PM |
| 29 | A disussion about men's heights and lies thereof with my HV fatherAnother thing about height - I never really notice a man's height - even when he is only up to my shoulder or something I will be like "Oh he is short" and immediately forgot about it after. Because it is not really that important in the grander scheme. But the blatant insecurity and the man unable to just shut the f**k up about his damnable height is the thing that I can't ignore - a lot of men are insecure about their stupid height and it shows. And instead of looking inwards, their project th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 01:50 PM |
| 29 | This is what we mean when we say don't go 50/50. You'll be doing 100% of the childrearing while he's at work and he will expect you to give up your savings as well.I heard women saying that the drive to and from work is "the only time I got for myself". And I am like I go to malls for some "me time away from my room" and my room as "me time away from other people". I have no idea how these women endure this torture for years - I will definitely go insane the first year. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 11:31 AM |
| 59 | This is what we mean when we say don't go 50/50. You'll be doing 100% of the childrearing while he's at work and he will expect you to give up your savings as well.They have the delusions that modern women can work 8 hours then come home and pull another 8 hours out of thin air to do 100% of the housework and childrearing, then 2 hours to be a porn star, then actually get refreshing sleep. Not to mention time for self-care to be a supermodel trophy wife, plus commute to work, plus grocery shopping, keeping up friendships so hubby can just swan along to birthdays, dinners and BBQ's like King Dick. I realize just how insane this lifestyle is when I came home… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 10:40 AM |
| 20 | This is what we mean when we say don't go 50/50. You'll be doing 100% of the childrearing while he's at work and he will expect you to give up your savings as well.At this point women should realize if you lead your relationship with 50/50 - your entire relationship will be about that bloody 50/50. When you are so concerned about making everything "fair" - that will be the main thing you worry about 24/7. And one day you will wake up and realize that relationship isn't enjoyable anymore - it is just stress after stress about making everything "fair". There's a reason why HVM husbands reject 50/50 even when their wives work full time - they don't want the u… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 10:32 AM |
| 89 | Strangest icks and dealbreaker?Maybe it is the blatant fakeness - like you know they are scheming for something and he is trying to manipulate you with that damn stupid tone. Or maybe they fancy themselves being suave and seductive like James Bond or some shit - but none of them can pull it off. They ended up sounding condesending or downright creepy instead. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 11:42 PM |
| 96 | Being disrespected at workThis is the essence of BULLYING sis - it is not about you at all, it is about THEM. They feel threatened, jealous, insecure, bored, etc2 - and you become the target either because they think you won't retaliate, or because they are jealous of your work ethic, your youth, your kindness, whatever. And you blowing up after enduring the bullying is the CORRECT course of action - they realize they pushed you too far and you get rightfully angry - and they are now trying to save face. They try to make… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 10:47 PM |
| 287 | Strangest icks and dealbreaker?Yeahhhh - I found that the "fun people", "the life of the party", and obnoxiously loud people in public tend to be selfish and insecure, or worse narcissistic and desperate for the spotlight. They are fun to party with - but a total nightmare to engage long term. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 08:45 PM |
| 111 | Strangest icks and dealbreaker?Same - any infatalizing pet names are instant ick. Same feeling when women call their husband "hubby" - it is just.... weird hearing 30-40 something men being called a "hubby". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 08:39 PM |
| 309 | Strangest icks and dealbreaker?Don't know if this is strange or what - but his tone of voice. There's just something with the tone used by men, that isn't his actual normal tone that just triggers my anger. Unless you are auditioning for voice acting or something - f**king speak normally. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 08:32 PM |
| 118 | We don't do that no moreImagine if we said this about men 🙄 Sis whenever I make posts about never doing 50/50 with a man and let him pay all - the scrotes screeches like the world is ending. And say FDS hate men because how DARE we expect only a functional human being who can afford a family to pursue us - and not manbaby leeches who can't even make his own bed. How DARE we expect more than the crumbs they offer! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 02:09 PM |
| 16 | She Needed FDS a Long Time AgoWe are HAPPY And yet she says nothing about how HE makes HER happy - the typical response would be that "he is amazing and great! He works and pay bills!" but never nothing specific about making the wife happy. And after digging deeper - he is basically doing the barest minimum while the wife almost go crazy from working too much. But they are "happy" you see! It is a projection - the wife gaslight herself into thinking that she is "happy" - and forcefully project that into the relationship and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 09:51 AM |
| 9 | Weaponised incompetence is a manipulation tactic. It is not a cute “quirk” that men do and it’s also not funny to actively KNOW that they do this and defend it. Pick me’s are just so delusional.Yep, if military men is good for something - it is for their legendary neat bed. Because they gonna face hell if that bed ain't crisp and tight. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 04:13 PM |
| 15 | Weaponised incompetence is a manipulation tactic. It is not a cute “quirk” that men do and it’s also not funny to actively KNOW that they do this and defend it. Pick me’s are just so delusional.Sis, don't use the b word - use scrotes or something men-focused, manchild or something. We wanna try avoid using slurs that are commonly targeted to women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 04:12 PM |
| 7 | Why vetting is SO important. I hope this woman gets a divorce and full custody asap.I would go out of a limb and say the MAIN trigger for post partum depression is being tied to horrible partners - because the stress must come from somewhere right? Birthing and dealing with babies is tiring but didn't mother have that nurture motherhood brain chemical thingy that courses through them making the whole experience bearable? Unless the mother truly (for whatever reason) hates the baby upon birth, she should have some form of mental relief. Meanwhile dealing with shitty partner is 1… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 03:43 PM |
| 47 | Why vetting is SO important. I hope this woman gets a divorce and full custody asap.Now he’s fat and bald, she’s had 3 kids and I’m delightfully living my best life. Hah! I remember being in my 20s and men threatened me with being "expired" and "no men will want you!" because I have no desire to get married. They all smugly marry young to poor women who fear the "wall". Now they all look like you say - dunno why but damn these men get really fat past 30 and start balding. While I get mistaken for a high schooler the other day. And guess who started flirting with me? Yeah, the s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 03:30 PM |
| 9 | Why vetting is SO important. I hope this woman gets a divorce and full custody asap.Sadly THIS is almost the 99% of marriage out there - the happy marriage where both husband and wife work together to take care of the household only made up of 1% - FOR THE ENTIRE WORLD. It is a deeply rooted belief and widespread culture - men only welcome "feminist" thing that benefit them like 50/50 and "giving the guy a chance" - but you will never get out of the stereotype of what it is being a wife and doing wife duties - unless the husband hold the 1% belief and go against the masses. Eve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 03:18 PM |
| 3 | Why is there so many "crazy" mother-in-laws? (Let's discuss from the perspective of FDS)Yeah I like Chloe_ because she ain't messing around - she tells the straightest truth in the most civil manner and focus on the root of the problem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 11:53 AM |
| 97 | Women Who Say Their Single Mother is All That's Wrong With ThemRead a case where the split couple have 4 school-age children - and the mother voluntarily give the custody to the father. Everybody in court was stunned silence - and boy did that give me a laugh. I am sure the mother know the father isn't abusive, but the typical leave-everything-to-wife that will find ways to stop paying for the children. She outsmarted him, salute that woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 11:20 AM |
| 103 | Why is there so many "crazy" mother-in-laws? (Let's discuss from the perspective of FDS)I will not allow myself to be collateral damage of others' weak boundaries. This need to be shout out at the top of our lungs! Enforcing our boundaries also mean only associated ourselves with men and people who also have iron clad boundaries. Being with someone who have weak boundaries, no matter how strong ours are - will mean we will involuntary dragged into the chaos ensued by their inability to solve problems. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 06:19 PM |
| 70 | Why is there so many "crazy" mother-in-laws? (Let's discuss from the perspective of FDS)It’s funny because the old boomer jokes of the horrible mother in law was always about the wife’s mother making things hard for the poor husband, like on Bewitched. The Flintstone’s had jokes about Wilma’s mom. Damn I kinda want to see that dynamic on modern media - because seriously, this monster MIL of the husband and abused wife is everywhere - western, african-american, indian, chinese, korean, arabic, telenovelas. The only time there is a "poor husband" character is when the wife is an abus… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 04:59 PM |
| 13 | Let’s talk about choosing not to blockWhen I block I get a surge of fear, like what if they retaliate from my block? It's confusing sometimes. Enduring that surge of fear is the very first step to become strong. That's literally how I conquered the fear of many things - OCD, snake, monkey, spiders, dogs, bugs, worms. It is common actually, to feel very intense, almost illogical fear, that pain in your chest, that feeling of panic and like you might have a heart attack. I still feel it as intensely now when overcoming new fear despit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 09:46 PM |
| 51 | REMINDER: Those "small signs" that you let slide at the beginning of the relationship? Those aren't "nothing" - they are 3-seconds teaser to what's coming.or whether it is a personality disorder or mental health issue. Even if it is mental health issue, there is no reason why he should treat you like shit. I like what Dr Ramani says (paraphrasing here) - "Who decide that you have to hurt too just because he was hurt? That is his issue, you are not a dumping ground." The point is his problem is his, and he has no right to hurt you and treat you like shit for it. That's selfish, arrogant, and narcissistic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 05:42 PM |
| 50 | REMINDER: Those "small signs" that you let slide at the beginning of the relationship? Those aren't "nothing" - they are 3-seconds teaser to what's coming.Media always want to paint the narrative that men are "driven" into doing something monstrous by their partner - he is a reallll great guy you see, totally sane and great but this woman..... Meanwhile the dude has been making sexist joke and harassing women since he first started school. But nuhhhhhh it is the womensssss faulltttttt.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 05:33 PM |
| 55 | REMINDER: Those "small signs" that you let slide at the beginning of the relationship? Those aren't "nothing" - they are 3-seconds teaser to what's coming.If I could do things differently, I would keep a record of events so I could see it all together. I agree with this method 100% - sometimes by just writing it down you can get out of the fog and start seeing the whole situation from an outsider perspective. And an outsider perspective usually is the most reliable one because it lays down all the facts without bias. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 04:16 PM |
| 106 | REMINDER: Those "small signs" that you let slide at the beginning of the relationship? Those aren't "nothing" - they are 3-seconds teaser to what's coming.Yes! This so much! I read somewhere that healthy couple, even years into marriage don't fight - they just squabble about trivial, funny things. If they do have misunderstanding or issue with their partner, they will sit down and discuss calmly. Fighting, just like wanting to debate your partner all day everyday lies on the foundation that you see your partner as "incorrect" so you have the urge to correct them. It is toxic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 04:02 PM |
| 179 | When your husband sets a timer for how long you spend together each dayGoes to show that no matter how educated a man is, it doesn't make him high value by default. Nah sis, I worked in higher education. Most of those "mild-mannered" professors you see are the biggest covert narcissist with God complex out there. And they enjoy getting the attention and admiration from the young and pretty 20-something. This guy is cheating for sure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 03:38 PM |
| 3 | "I am afraid I will be conned by a psycho man that only reveal his true face after years of marriage"men are truly dumb and lazy and would never go this length to con a woman unless she was the president of some country. THIS. I just watched a documentary last night about Porfirio Rubirosa - hailed as the most charming men in the world after Casanova, and married the a dictator's daughter, the first and second richest women in the world, the richest girl in the world, an actress and have scandals with numerous female celebrities and royal princesses. And even he didn't bother to keep the red fl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 07:19 AM |
| 3 | "I am afraid I will be conned by a psycho man that only reveal his true face after years of marriage"I have literally seen a post where a woman is dating a convicted pedophile. He disclosed early on in the relationship AND SHE STAYED. She's on reddit asking if he can ever change despite him continuing to message underage girls during their two year relationship. Oh my f**king hell. Sometimes you just can't help but wonder just wtf is going on in those women's head. I want to sympathize - I really do because the brainwashing is no joke - but some women are making it really reallyyy hard. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 09:31 PM |
| 3 | "I am afraid I will be conned by a psycho man that only reveal his true face after years of marriage"Yes! Relationship sub be like "My partner is kind and amazing!" and the procees to list 10 red flags and asks "He never like this before! He flipped overnight!". Only for her to let slip there has been red flags in the past - but it is just a "small matter - he had a bad day!". It get to the point even the whole community have no more argument and have to acknowledge that the dude is f**ked up. And yet she still stubbornly arguing and backing him up - "he is amazing!" - WHERE??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 08:59 PM |
| 113 | What I hate most about reddit.Only until they themselves become the target of the unzip pants joke and it is suddenly not funny anymore, hahaha. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 04:37 PM |
| 38 | A tip for (recovering) PickMes and people who want to follow their heartYeah, most women would benefit greatly from understanding that those "small" problematic attitude, "small" burst of anger, "small" disrespect he accidentally show you, "small" ignorance when you need his attention - basically anything "small" that most women in relationship like to chalk to as "Oh he is having a bad day". HE IS NOT. That is his mask slipping because he is careless. And his "apology" after you pointing the issue out and "righting" him is not him apologizing for his mistakes - he … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 04:20 PM |
| 16 | A tip for (recovering) PickMes and people who want to follow their heartYEET, I say YEET that person who does not respect what you find important. YEET that person, because they WILL risk pushing what they find important over your bare back. In the entirety of my life - this is the best example of using YEET in a sentence. Bravo, my lady, bravo! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 04:12 PM |
| 205 | What I hate most about reddit.The mark of a truly funny person is the person's ability to make a totally clean joke - if the person can't do that, they aren't funny. Dirty jokes are cheap and you don't need to think much - just repeat the same damn highschool fratboy bathroom joke and people laugh. Meanwhile clean jokes require actual plan, knowledge, knowing the target audience - the whole work. That's why when you hear a good clean joke - it stays with you for years and you always chuckle remembering it. Most men can't do … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 04:07 PM |
| 30 | REMINDER: STAY MADYeah angry women are treated like they just committed the worst crime in human history. While angry men get excused because "they had a bad day." F**k off with this stupid patriarchy pandering bullsh*t. Women even are afraid of being labelled "overreacting" nowadays when their SO do something utterly shitty that honestly, deserve all the wrath of the world. Women are NOT overreacting - we have a chronic problem of underreacting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 01:50 PM |
| 82 | This is why FDS is so important !Can we normalize NOT giving "wife benefits" to husband's either? I'm totally serious🤷 I am with you on this one. Women allow men to marry them, give them a home, a family of his own, automatically raise his social status just by being partnered - something he can NEVER get if he isn't married - that is more than enough benefit to them. Wife should be spoiled rotten because she is the heart of the house - men are biologically stronger and have more energy anyway - they should shoulder the brunt o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 10:04 AM |
| 85 | This is why FDS is so important !Can women stop, stop, STOOOOOPPP doing wife duties and financially backing men when they are studying? He can get loans and grants and work part-time - and much more importantly live within his MEANS and not waste time dating! Student live a student life - myself included and know how I did it? By living within my means and not tricking some poor woman into financially backing me. Yeah he going to med school and is busy and will be a future doctor and whatever - but he ain't that special that he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 09:59 AM |
| 8 | "I am afraid I will be conned by a psycho man that only reveal his true face after years of marriage"Agree! I also think if women can see more example of genuine men with genuine empathy - we can see the difference between them and someone who only emulate the empathy and don't actually have. It will take more meticulous observation but it is like observing the actor versus the real people - there will be signs, no matter how small. We can't control how other people will be, but if we practice our observation skill and critical eye hard enough, we hopefully can extricate ourselves from the into… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 09:03 AM |
| 78 | REMINDER: STAY MADYes! A lot of women are afraid to get angry - one because they fear the repercussion. But more than that - they are afraid of getting labelled as the "crazy overdramatic karen" and made fun off by the society. So even when the time is appropriate to get angry - they nervously laugh it off instead. Ladies, be like the mama bear. Mama bear is usually just chillin', minding her own business, giving attention to her cubs. But if anyone tries to disturb her area or harm her cubs - may God have mercy … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 08:50 AM |
| 15 | Foolproof vetting strategy : tell him "a man did something to you"but I'm not for lying, especially in the long term. If you feel exhausted lying, you can also try "I don't want to talk about it" and keep quiet - watch how they react. If they try to prod, neg, interrogate or worse get mad at you for not wanting to "open up" - big red flag, run immediately. The only acceptable reaction (not just man, everyone) is to show an understanding attitude, keep quiet for a bit because they can see you trying to calm down from remembering bad experience - and then try to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 08:04 AM |
| 31 | "I am afraid I will be conned by a psycho man that only reveal his true face after years of marriage"And then there is the posts about "He has all this HV qualities, almost the perfect guy! But...." - "he watches porn" (A BIG RED FLAG) or "he is currently jobless" (ANOTHER BIG RED FLAG) or "he just got out of prison" (ANOTHER HUGE ULTRA MEGA GIGA RED FLAG). Sigh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 10:22 PM |
| 14 | "I am afraid I will be conned by a psycho man that only reveal his true face after years of marriage"I am truly glad to hear that sis! I worked for a narc before and she drove me crazy within 4 years not because she never reveals her colors - the exact opposite. The red flags are there on the first month. And every single day after that. I just can't see them because I didn't know about narcissism and always justify that "well she had a bad day" - which was every day apparently - and believe if I just be better, work harder, please her more she will be back to the "nice" her - nope. Kick me to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 10:15 PM |
| 5 | "I am afraid I will be conned by a psycho man that only reveal his true face after years of marriage"I PM'ed you just now, let see if that works. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 09:22 PM |
| 16 | "I am afraid I will be conned by a psycho man that only reveal his true face after years of marriage"The sociopaths and narcissists I know are all high-achieving, successful and surrounded by good looking, healthy, powerful people, because they're social climbers. They also only date up (women who are wealthier than them) etc. I don't know to call it a silver lining or what - but I found that if you happen to work under or have relationship with narcissists as an adult - they tend to really show their colors after a few months. Maybe because they see you as slave, so they don't bother to hide f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 09:03 PM |
| 18 | "I am afraid I will be conned by a psycho man that only reveal his true face after years of marriage""When the child fears the dark, you can't immediately tell her about the monster under the bed. She will just be paralyzed with fear, forever. You have to tell her first that the dark isn't to be feared - she is powerful and brave, but she has to realize it first. After she no longer fears the dark, now you can tell her about the monster under the bed, and let her know she is powerful and brave, and she has to be ready. And she will now, because she took a look inside and realize she has the str… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 08:42 PM |
| 18 | "I am afraid I will be conned by a psycho man that only reveal his true face after years of marriage"I admit that my post doesn't include men with actual personality disorders because they are a whole another ballgame - I am no expert on these things so I simply can't include them - so your comment are very helpful, thank you sis. My post are meant to make the ladies realize that the common problem that repeats itself over and over and over again in many relationship subs including FDS - the red flags are glaring, and yet the woman work hard to deny them. Someone just has to point that out firs… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 08:12 PM |
| 39 | "I am afraid I will be conned by a psycho man that only reveal his true face after years of marriage"Yep, it is all about taking back power. Sure you can never control how others will act, what kind of manipulative psycho narcissistic scrotes you will came across next time - but you will spare yourself the suffering when you learn to not get influenced by the man and instead have the skill to take a step back, and observe everything with a critical eye. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 06:29 PM |
| 45 | "I am afraid I will be conned by a psycho man that only reveal his true face after years of marriage"Ridiculously, I'd be so stressed I'd start having nightmares in which my worst fears (the truth I was avoiding) came true. My gut and my mind always knew. Still angry at myself for never listening. Forgive yourself sis, we are bound to make mistakes and fall prey to obvious lies when we didn't even realize it was all a lie. But we absolutely owe it to ourselves to learn from the mistakes and try hard to never fall for the con again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 06:12 PM |
| 96 | "I am afraid I will be conned by a psycho man that only reveal his true face after years of marriage"If such a rare thing happened to me, I’d pounce on the opportunity to get a book deal out of it 😅 Me too sis, me too. Probably gonna increase my profiling skill by 90%, dealing with that one legendary con man. The signs are there over the years, and the mask slips before a “point of no return” escalation- the women just ignore the signs. Yep, just look over at any reddit relationship sub, and this sub even and you just want to headdesk repeatedly over how blatantly blatant the red flags are, but… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 06:04 PM |
| 60 | "I am afraid I will be conned by a psycho man that only reveal his true face after years of marriage"The reality is that many men, abusive men, can keep a very very good facade to the public They can lie to the public - but they can't keep up that lie for long to you - the woman he is trying to conquer. That's why it is very, very crucial that we realize this is all part of the brainwashing system and get out as soon as possible - and start learning the defense mechanism we truly need to avoid con men altogether moving forward. Listen, sometimes you gotta have give women some tough love. I want… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 05:55 PM |
| 120 | "I am afraid I will be conned by a psycho man that only reveal his true face after years of marriage"The shitty ones aren't all that smart, and they're all the same. This is the very thing you realize after successfully internalizing FDS' teaching - LVMs/ZVMs and even pickmeishas ALL ACT THE SAME WAY! They all learn the same shitty manipulation tactics, triangulate the same way, negging the same thing, even have the same exact smug smile on when they think they "got" you. It is nothing new, they all just copy the tactics from each other and regurgitate the same old shitty BS - you just need to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 05:41 PM |
| 151 | "I am afraid I will be conned by a psycho man that only reveal his true face after years of marriage"It's like teaching sheep "not every wolf" and to be polite and give the benefit of the doubt to every single predator that approaches them and just "communicate" and "forgive" and be "understanding of their tough childhood" and then being completely suprised that they all get eaten. They didn't get eaten because wolves suddenly became smarter. They got eaten because we taught them not to listen to their natural instincts and to instead put their own lifes at risk so the wolves' feelings aren't h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 05:31 PM |
| 104 | "I am afraid I will be conned by a psycho man that only reveal his true face after years of marriage"I believe it stems from the desire to control - basically if she can train and mold this dude into becoming her very own ideal man - she will finally have her happily-ever-after. It is very sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 05:28 PM |
| 218 | "I am afraid I will be conned by a psycho man that only reveal his true face after years of marriage"Which she will eventually realize, after the damage was done though. Sadly most women realize only after she is thoroughly exhausted both in body and soul, and wringed so dry she doesn't even have any ounce of energy left to properly fight her rights - she just want to get away. Which leads to women being robbed (again) in the divorce + custody battle. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 05:10 PM |
| 3 | "When can I do 50/50 with a man?" - How about NEVER?Just read the handbook and thoroughly understand the content before posting next time. When people don't read it properly, it shows. You are at risk of being banned if you keep this up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 07:26 AM |
| 1 | FDS and safetyNow that you say that, I think I will. Thank you sis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 06:57 AM |
| 17 | FDS and safetyAgree with you - actual full blown psychopaths and sociopaths that are so methodetical and calculative are extremely rare it is almost impossible to stumble upon them in the wild. The majority of men are terrible liars - even trained professionals. They can lie and act to other men, but they won't put much effort with women because they see us as beneath them and truly believe we aren't as smart as them - so that's how they treat us. The emotionless stare and inappropriate affect are their marke… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 05:13 AM |
| 13 | FDS and safetyThe thing is, a lot of women think they found the most perfect suave psycho out there when they realize they have been conned after the fog lifted up - but in reality actual psychos are quite rare. Most men are terrible liars, because they don't need to work hard on their lies - because women have been brainwashed to gaslight ourselves to hell whenever we detect something off. Just look at how many posts here questioning "Should I give him a chance? He is great potential HVM but ..." and then la… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 04:54 AM |
| 7 | "When can I do 50/50 with a man?" - How about NEVER?When "Going 50/50" is only ever about finance that obviously benefit the man but the woman stays burdened with literally everything else - plus now having to fork out money for halfsies - You just know it is a scam. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 04:18 PM |
| 27 | Scrote just find the pettiest sh*t he can from his girlfriend and proceed to share it with the whole damn world. It is like he determined to make her hate him.LOL sis you know what? Vet men by how their piss smell! No smell or very little smell? Probably take care of his health well, a good candidate. Stinky enough for the foxes to keep away? Hell no runnnnnnnn~~~ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 01:53 PM |
| 11 | "When can I do 50/50 with a man?" - How about NEVER?You should read the handbook to understand why FDS won't ever accept 50/50 with a man. If it works for you, great, but do know that we don't do that here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 01:21 PM |
| 33 | Scrote just find the pettiest sh*t he can from his girlfriend and proceed to share it with the whole damn world. It is like he determined to make her hate him.Men's toilet is always piss-soaked no matter what you do. And the ammonium smell is really freakishly strong too - perhaps because most men don't drink water much so their piss stink like hell. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 01:17 PM |
| 120 | Stay Strong and NEVER Lower Your Standards!!Wait for a good one, ladies. A hero, a giver, a standup guy. They are out there. Accept nothing less. Stay single till then. Reminded me of Steve Irwin and Terri Irwin. Their both are two very complete people that weren't looking for love when they meet, but found it in each other anyway. Steve may not be your kind of HVM, but he is the perfect HVM for Terri - I don't think Terri can fall in love with the typical office worker HVM that don't share her deep passion of protecting wild animals. Tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 11:26 AM |
| 27 | Scrote just find the pettiest sh*t he can from his girlfriend and proceed to share it with the whole damn world. It is like he determined to make her hate him.Often for the most arbitrary things and often for the wrong reasons: by people who are offended because they feel attacked. Yes! Only after you grow up and live independently that you realize so many of those angry adults saying you are a bad child for the pettiest shit is literally just that - projection because they personally feel attacked. It isn't about you at all. Like yeah they are angry you are "wasting money" on paper tissue because they don't see the importance of it, but have no probl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 11:13 AM |
| 54 | Scrote just find the pettiest sh*t he can from his girlfriend and proceed to share it with the whole damn world. It is like he determined to make her hate him.If he really, truly cared about the environmental aspect of that he'd install a bidet for her. Yep agree! If he care so much about wasting money on rolls, pay to install the bidet and foot the water bill, case closed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 11:05 AM |
| 32 | "When can I do 50/50 with a man?" - How about NEVER?and in gay relationships, forget it! It's usually surrogacy which uses poorer women and exploits them I am sooo gonna get heat from this but I really feel off about gay partners using surrogacy. At least the lesbian partners use their own womb, so they don't trouble other women. Using surrogacy, even in hetero partners is something I can never agree because it drags other women into experiencing all the trauma and pain for 9 months and birth - it is just not right. Why not just adopt those babie… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 04:59 AM |
| 45 | Spoiling men financially is always a mistakeIf women want to give men gift so much, just peck him on the cheek and sweetly say thank you for his gift - or if you have that much energy bake him a bread or something simple. STOP spending money on men - men who DO care don't want you to do it, and men who DON'T care won't be grateful, they will think you are desperate for them and demand something bigger and more expensive next time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 04:42 AM |
| 58 | "When can I do 50/50 with a man?" - How about NEVER?By watching his actions really. If he expect to go halfsies, neg you about paying "next time", or pay all but wouldn't stop grumbling about "wasting money" and how everything is expensive, pay all and expect "reward" (aka sexual favor later), pay all but being really smug and never fail to remind you that he pay all so you better be thankful - and etc. that you can add yourself - he is the 50/50 guy. True provider would just pay and move on, never even bring up anything money related on the date… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 04:07 AM |
| 69 | "When can I do 50/50 with a man?" - How about NEVER?They really going crazy with the downvotes sis, I see it in real time. Die mad scrotes, die mad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 05:18 PM |
| 44 | "When can I do 50/50 with a man?" - How about NEVER?I am honestly very honored to cause such a reaction! xDDDD | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 05:17 PM |
| 12 | This ZV Canadian politician put his ineptitude on blast for the entire world to see.They bring up the male chefs being better than female chefs I truly don't believe male chefs are better than female chefs - they are more popular and employed more because of the grueling work in the kitchen - but as usual with the dose of toxic masculinity and God complex, so it is just another frat boys clique. Most female chefs tend to open their own shops away from all the bullshittery and I honestly more inclined to go with female chefts because they tend to care more about cleanliness and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 04:29 PM |
| 24 | This ZV Canadian politician put his ineptitude on blast for the entire world to see.Once, when I was very young and was all into that "I am stronk woman and can do anything men can!!!" - I would see this as a complement, as a honor that the man is acknowledging how "strong and capable" I am - that he acknowledged I am "his equal". Damn turning 30 really annihilate that belief clean - realizing that 99.9999% of men will never see us as their equal. We are just being used and abused to the brink of exhaustion while they are laughing behind our back. Now all I can see is what a sc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 04:21 PM |
| 75 | Demand more from men! Evolution demands itMillennial women are just supposed to be compliant sex dolls who also cook and clean and go 50/50 on all bills–maybe even be the breadwinner in addition to taking care of those household duties. And they definitely cannot expect marriage which they are told is just a “piece of paper” when it clearly isn’t. And to think Millenial women have the most freedom in terms of self-rights, career advancement, and financial power - we can CHOOSE to not engage with men who doesn't benefit us, and no public… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 02:16 PM |
| 26 | This is one of those things that sounds "Cool" and "Empowering" when we are young with no responsibilities, but once you get saddled with a parasitic man that takes everything and gives you nothing, you will realize just how NOT cool or empowering this is.The attitude in the meme will get you nothing but used by hobosexuals and losers. It will get you broken down on the side of the road alone with no help coming. Eventually it will land you a cheap and yes, EMBARASSING, ring. And trust me. People will notice that he went cheap on you and it will hurt like hell when they say it bluntly. Ughh reminded me of those women bragging about getting Walmart ring, toy ring, and whatever trash their scrotes unearth from God knows where. Maybe sounded cool on… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 09:25 AM |
| 47 | This is one of those things that sounds "Cool" and "Empowering" when we are young with no responsibilities, but once you get saddled with a parasitic man that takes everything and gives you nothing, you will realize just how NOT cool or empowering this is.They shame us until reality hits them like a brick wall - then they desperately shame us in hope that we will fall into the bucket like them. And they turn quite brutal in their slanders when they see men doing favors for us voluntarily. Play stupid game, win stupid prizes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 09:00 AM |
| 55 | This is one of those things that sounds "Cool" and "Empowering" when we are young with no responsibilities, but once you get saddled with a parasitic man that takes everything and gives you nothing, you will realize just how NOT cool or empowering this is.I know someone whose partner is (at least vocally) willing to pay in line with their relative earnings and yet she insists on being "50/50." She isn't even a pick me at this point, she's already graduated to financially and familialy entangled forever gf - but if you ask it's her that doesn't want to get married. I foresee this being one of those in some years, he got a "midlife crisis" and either left her or cheat on the side with - get this - a woman who let him pay all. And the woman can eith… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 08:55 AM |
| 108 | This is one of those things that sounds "Cool" and "Empowering" when we are young with no responsibilities, but once you get saddled with a parasitic man that takes everything and gives you nothing, you will realize just how NOT cool or empowering this is.bought for My new guy, when he was Love Bombing: entire wardrobe, couple iPhones, a vehicle, and finally 11 acres and a home. Sis... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 06:39 AM |
| 130 | This is one of those things that sounds "Cool" and "Empowering" when we are young with no responsibilities, but once you get saddled with a parasitic man that takes everything and gives you nothing, you will realize just how NOT cool or empowering this is.His NW was $650k, mine was 10% of that and yet I was happy to along with his insistence on 50/50 because feminism🤡Never again, seriously. 50/50 sounds great when all we do is high-school dates - going to the movies, eat ice cream, dinner at fast food etc. That same 50/50 suddenly become NOT great when you had to split bills on things you can barely afford because that is his level or that what he wants - and threaten you with shit when you suggest going lower. And that 50/50 become really really… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 04:44 AM |
| 168 | This is one of those things that sounds "Cool" and "Empowering" when we are young with no responsibilities, but once you get saddled with a parasitic man that takes everything and gives you nothing, you will realize just how NOT cool or empowering this is.Even the toughest breadwinner women who make tons of money eventually break down with a parasitic LVM husband - because they don't come home to freshly cooked dinner and clean home; they come home to trash everywhere, no food, crying children, lazy husband who is sitting on his ass all day playing games and bombard them with all the negging, manipulation, passive aggression and toxicity that just make them even more stressed. Pickmes like to imagine if they become the provider with a "house-husb… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 03:49 AM |
| 72 | Low Energy Men - How energy vampires are createdLove, love, LOVEEEEEE this thread of yours! One of the reason why I am so put off by marriage is that I can see how the energy of the once bright, cheerful, lovely, lively young women are drained after a few months of marriage - and the further into the marriage they are, plus the kids in close succession, the more empty they become! They can't even smile properly, and often when talking to them, them have that look of desperation and confusion in their eyes - tell-tale sign of extreme exhaustio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 04:52 PM |
| 79 | Never stop vetting! Even after being faithful to your partner for 8 years, he could still think that he can do better and want to bang other women. Scrotes like this just want to get their dick wet and are never satisfied no matter how spectacular their gf is.What are the signs that someone has this pathological inability to bond? But while he was "behaving" he was acting like a normal human. ^^^ Remember that we, collectively, as women mostly (aside from a really, really few lucky ones) grew up within toxic, LVMs and NVMs scrotery behavior being seen as "normal". What what you are actually experiencing is the bottom of the barrel, "meh" men. The okay-ish men that don't treat you like shit but don't treat you great either. A man who genuinely likes Y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 01:55 PM |
| 24 | Tired of the men obsessed with women “reciprocating”They are afraid to be seen as "gay" or effiminate - same shit as not liking veggies, yoga, skincare. Although the not-liking- sweet thing coz "gay" is not just a western thing, I observe same culture with japanese men. They like sweet thing alright, what's with chugging soda and eating tons of chocolate bars - they just don't like girly-looking sweet stuff. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 05:29 AM |
| 8 | The idea that men peak in their 30s is a male fantasyYep - one of those "toxin in bodiez from chemicallllsss" crowd but apparently his cigs don't count, lol. The smoking men are the worst double standards neggers out there I swear. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 05:06 AM |
| 22 | The idea that men peak in their 30s is a male fantasyTell that to the 99.99999% of male population on this earth. I believe the MAIN reason most men start smoking is because of OTHER men - they don't want to be the odd one out, and want to connect with other men so they smoke - all the risk be damned. Got one negging me about "toxin" because I like to eat sour stuff - claiming that his father got heart attack that way. He forgot to mention about the father's smoking habit for 40++ years. And the dude himself smoke 2 packs a day. What a f**king jok… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 03:40 AM |
| 115 | Although painful at first, this perspective will save you so much grief in the long run. A man who is sincere about you will not play mind games. If commitment is not spoken AND shown, it’s overIt is really about the shift into focusing on quality instead of quantity, and understanding that dating is about efficiency - not "struggle love". We all SHOULD cutting men at a drop of a hat and get used to being seen at the heartless cold b***h because that is what guarantees we get the best result. Too many women waste time sludging the mud with trashy men and just keep all her time, youth, energy, focus on that trash to the point when they get away, they are too jaded and burned out to be e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 10:11 AM |
| 8 | It's official. This is the most HVM I've ever seenMy problem with mainstream Hollywood tbh. Most female characters just start to grate on your nerves after a while. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 05:44 AM |
| 283 | Nah men, women are visual creatures too.That's why whenever fat ugly slobby men and their armys of pickmes try to neg and gaslight you to lower your standards and "give him a chance" - double down on your standards instead and piss them off even further. Nobody can shame you for your standards when you yourself are proud of it and if they can't accept that - the door is that way. Let them die mad, you got so much better things to do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 01:46 AM |
| 14 | It's official. This is the most HVM I've ever seenI have not, just goes off by OP's description but if she is how as you described - than I will give it a go. Just that I got burned so much with ridiculous female heroine that I am really wary of such movies. Often they just swap the terribleness of typical hero, make it female so that they can highlight how good and patient the partner is. It pisses me off I can't even finish the movie. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 01:30 AM |
| 87 | It's official. This is the most HVM I've ever seenI like how you make Gabriel sound but damn I start getting pissed with this Bathsheba girl - I personally dislike a female character who instead of sitting down and think things through - go all over the place and tend to create problems along the way. I understand the film wants to create opposite attract drama and all that but damn Bathsheba sit yo ass down and think for a bit! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 12:11 AM |
| 79 | The "Happily Ever After" marriage fairytale sold to women is a lie. The truth is most marriages are miserable FOR WOMEN because most men are NV/LV. Society gaslights and (in some parts of the world) even forces women into settling.Agree with you - while I am surrounded by women who don't see it weird gifting adult men things, pay their food, give them money etc. - I still find it weird. I grow up with the belief that MAN PAY, no matter what. It is what they are made for. And I can't help seeing men who have no problem taking gifts, money, leeching off women as akin to eunuch. And once I start seeing a man as eunuch-like, he is no longer a man in my eyes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 11:07 AM |
| 28 | Men's reactions to having their lies exposedBeing from a third world country, I get this a lot too. Even a NVM from my country has promised to "take me in and take care of me" years ago, like I was some sort of stray puppy. 100% sis! Being from asia and from the poorer side, I would say we have no problem spotting red flags a mile away because men, especially the richer more privileged ones don't see the need to hide their mask - they stare at us like we are worse than trash and scoff at anything we say. And even if the guy himself choose… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 10:52 AM |
| 57 | Men's reactions to having their lies exposedHe’ll magically become your “knight” but reality, that fool is your nightmare. I get hit with this type the most because my financial struggle is pretty out there. And I don't have a license, much less a transportation of my own. Damn sis the minute they hear I am broke suddenly they bust in with that "shining knight"-ness and promise me to help with this and pay for that even though I never asked. "Don't worry I will pick you up and drop you off everyday! You just need to ask!" - uh huh, and if… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 06:35 AM |
| 122 | The "Happily Ever After" marriage fairytale sold to women is a lie. The truth is most marriages are miserable FOR WOMEN because most men are NV/LV. Society gaslights and (in some parts of the world) even forces women into settling.Throw some age on that lv/nv and you have an old, fat and ugly man living with you for years Sis sis sisssssss everytime at my (past retail) work and some old, fat and ugly obviously married man (I am sure some of them are my age but God what the hell happened) hit on my - all I can think of is "God, some poor woman have sex with that" and legit have a full body shudder. I don't know how those women did it, all I need to do is glance at their greasy skin and have a whiff of their body odor and I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 05:49 AM |
| 6 | Self-aware guy realizes he doesn't take debate seriously when he perceives the person to be a woman.We all wish we don't have to in an ideal world, but alas think of it as a Trojan Horse tactic. Blend in and then take them out from the inside. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 03:12 AM |
| 16 | what happens to men's physical appearance when they have a guarantee that they will find a partnerIf looking at the trend where I came from (also asia), they all start having serious health problems at 40. Stroke, diabetes, heart attack. It is becoming common for men to die at 40 years old nowadays, and 30 is the new 60. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 02:54 AM |
| 26 | Going for a man you think is below you, only to have it backfire. Has anyone else dealt with this?While men do hide who they are all the time - most men (yes, even the socio & psychopath) aren't exactly slick about it. In most cases I see it is more about the women ignoring flags and giving too much leeways. Often I see stories where the red flag is very, very blatant from the get go but women as a whole has been so desensitized that they see nothing wrong with it. Trust me - men are very very bad liars. The true problem lies in women are surrounded by these bad liars since childhood that it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 02:35 AM |
| 24 | Going for a man you think is below you, only to have it backfire. Has anyone else dealt with this?See it this way - you want to find someone at the same moral levels and worldview as you. If you are highly educated, you value knowledge so naturally you want someone who value knowledge just as you are. If you care very much about health and fitness so that you can keep active and strong till your golden age, you naturally want someone with similar belief. If you care about your financial freedom and value the hard work that goes into it, again you want someone who undetstand you and stand at … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 01:59 AM |
| 103 | Flip that script and call a spade a spade!Here's the thing y'all should know ladies: the truth is, if scrotes suddenly have a million dollar next morning - they will immediately go for the highest maintenance woman they can get, and kick their low-maintenance woman to the curb. Because no matter how they try to lie to us, their actions is crystal clear - they only respect high-maintenance, difficult woman who knows her worth and silently resent low-maintenance woman. Just see how they treat their barbara the builder, starter wife, forev… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 09:13 PM |
| 79 | I’m so sick of hearing praise for the most basic behaviourbefore I surprise him with his favourite candy because he deserves it💖” I don't know what they put in the food nowadays but seems like women of all ages treat supposedly "adult" men like f**king toddlers - coddle them and give them sweets when they play nice. To the point those "adult" men literally act like f**king toddlers - no shame whatsoever pouting and throwing tantrum with the flailing hands in PUBLIC. I can't even began to explain how disgusting this phenomenon is. Ladies, please stop co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 11:28 AM |
| 6 | When do you expect what?100% the truth. A "date" with a LVM is pretty similar to an outing with that one annoying pickmeisha friend who is all about herself and wants you to be the chauffeur while she takes endless pictures and humblebrag about how special she is. AKA you will be very pissed off at the end of the date. Don't waste your time ladies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 11:15 AM |
| 22 | Another FDS hate post on the frontpage of LV males frothing at the mouthDon't be - whether we like it or not, pickmeism is still the majority mindset because of the systematic brainwashing by the patriarchy since the start of humanity. Many women grow up with internalized mysoginy and see any attack on men's questionable morals as personal attack on their fragile world of blissful ignorance. We just have to keep strong and don't falter, and eventually they will realize we say the nothing but the truth after the 100th time the same men they love and protect so much d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 09:36 PM |
| 100 | Have any of you ever known a man who initiated a split with his partner WITHOUT getting into a new relationship right away?Ugh not just therapist - I worked as a cashier and had "men" in various ages act like ACTUAL TODDLERS - complete with the flailing arms, the whine, the pout. Especially married men in their 50s. Men see women out in the wild and their attention-seeking switch is instantly turned ON. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 07:33 PM |
| 56 | Guy dumps his GF over not enthusiastically having oral and not doing anal, and gets hailed as an upstanding guy for doing this in the commentsI should have been so turned on just by the thought of sex with him because he's such a prize! That's what all these libfem "equality", 50/50 bllshit, hollywood and prn, pickmeishas and barbara the builder mommy bangmaid coddling have made the men into - their ego got soo big and delusion soo massive that they believe, just by being a proud owner of a d*ck, women would be salivating and throwing themselves at their feet, begging. And got sooo confused and throwing the mantrum of the century when… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 07:19 PM |
| 49 | When do you expect what?Here's the similarities between a love-bombing guy and a guy who isn't serious about you : They don't care about YOU. They don't care how you feel, they don't care about what you have to say. They don't care what their attitude is doing to you. They all just talk too much but ain't doing shit to support all those words. And even if they are doing some actions like gifting gifts etc. - it is all about making THEM look good instead of making you feel special. So many excuses, so many talking in ci… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 06:46 PM |
| 103 | Guy dumps his GF over not enthusiastically having oral and not doing anal, and gets hailed as an upstanding guy for doing this in the commentsWhen men love their women, they stay even if she's "bad" in bed How can a woman be "bad" in bed anyway? She is just... laying flat and being unresponsive? Not enthusiastic? Dry as a sahara desert? Last I check all of that is due to the man being an absolute shitty partner (in sex and as a whole) and ignoring the woman's pleasure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 05:53 PM |
| 252 | Men will marry women who they don‘t love, find attractive or even hate. How does one even vet for this?The common theme in all similar cases like this is that the woman treat the man as the PRIZE - she is so desperate to lock this one down to the point she ignores every red flags and obvious signs of his disinterest and resentment - most men aren't exactly hiding it. Ask the people around them - most can see from miles away, only the woman in question is in denial. It is always back to the basic: if he want to, he would. If he is "nice" but don't worship the ground you walk on - he doesn't like y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 11:15 AM |
| 138 | Men will marry women who they don‘t love, find attractive or even hate. How does one even vet for this?But the thought of a man swindling me into marrying him by "doing all the right things" and pretending is scary to me. It is not as hard as you think - as long as you don't gaslight yourself and becoming desperate to "keep this one down". You have to do all the internal work necessary to be someone that is iron-clad with her boundaries and standards, take no shit from people and willling to walk away the instant something is off, and don't mind dropping men like hot stones if you aren't satisfie… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 10:50 AM |
| 315 | If you found yourself starting to NAG your man - LEAVE.Let’s stop giving men the benefit of the doubt and assume they “forgot” or “they had a long day.” Interesting to note - women are never given the benefit of the doubt as much as men. Even when we did honestly forgot or was bone-tired from endless working. We just need to do the mistake ONCE and suddenly the wrath of the titan are upon us. Meanwhile I saw a news about a killer who murdered his wife's toddler because "he was making too much noise" - and still hoardes of pickmes and scrotes in the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 01:25 AM |
| 142 | If you found yourself starting to NAG your man - LEAVE.It is sadly soo entwined in the cultures all over the world that when you got married - you suddenly turn into the stereotypical "nagging wife" when the truth is it is a strategic abuse tactic invented by the patriarchy. Because when women are the "nagging wife" - the husbands will be the "poor calm husband" who have infinite patience enduring his wife nagging his ears off. He will then go out to his friends getting the pat in the back while the wife continues to run herself haggard cleaning up … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 01:16 AM |
| 86 | Rejecting men is harder on women than menyears of "ugly fat guy gets hot chick" movies have addled their brains Not just those movies, Hollywood and media as a whole only allows the cream of the crop beautiful women to portray the "love interest" role - anything other than extremely pretty women are either totally overlooked or put in comedic role. Meanwhile you see variety of men portraying the love interest - like Adam Sandler, Adam Driver (no hate on him, just let's be honest here) and lets not forget - no neck Ed. So yeah when you … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 01:03 AM |
| 127 | If you found yourself starting to NAG your man - LEAVE.Yeah, just look at single women vs married women in an unhappy relationship - the difference is day and night. I never met a woman who is a "natural" nagger - it is always the unhappily married women who nags the most. Even happily married women don't nag - because when they say something, their partner listen and take the appropriate actions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 12:52 AM |
| 2 | Stop Oversharing and Be SecretiveSure getting murdered like that would be rare but I wouldn’t want to risk it. You can also attract con artists and abusers too. THIS! If not murderers, there can be other types of predators too - you can never be too careful out there. My heart goes out to that poor lady. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 07:57 PM |
| 206 | I wish men were required to watch this video before dating womenI'm gonna go a step up here and suggest - IF at any point in time, the man you are with causes you to START nagging - LEAVE. Nagging is no natural - that stereotype that women are nags can go burn in the seventh hell. You start to nag because he didn't listen when you tell him nicely the first few times. You nag because he keeps doing the stupid ass bullshit you clearly tell him NOT to do. You nag because his blatant disregard of your words and opinions and feelings is frustrating and insulting.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 10:06 PM |
| 46 | A man being honest is the bare minimum. Do not let men manipulate you into believing they did something noble by telling you the truth.His buddies then tried to tell him he should have kept it and then told me how lucky I was that he wouldn't even take a girl's number. Shitty buddies who should NOT be associated with unless extremely professionally. They will keep trying to push your husband into acting shitty because they can't stand having an honest guy around - he must be tainted so they wouldn't feel like shit. Be careful with them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 03:20 AM |
| 9 | Beware of the chronic resentmentInstead he tried to reassure me,"I won't hurt you." I got in my car and left. He was definitely planning on hurting me. 100% planning on hurting you - he is trying to convince you and himself. Silent rage can explode in an unexpected way. He can seem like the most indefinitely calm and suave person you will ever see - but suddenly explode one day out of nowhere and you will be in a very real danger. Glad your senses are sharp enough to see his real face on the first date sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 04:03 PM |
| 5 | Men being body shamed 😢Same, I hate hairy men. All of them don't manage their hairiness well and looks really messy. Also greasy because all the trapped sweat - and they don't clean it well. IMO most men especially my age and older looks really greasy - guess all those drugs, alcohol, smoking lazy habits catch up to them eh. Body-shamed my ass, they shame women's appearance on a daily basis - yet their body odor alone will make even racoons gag. Just look at conventionally not attractive men and women - the women usua… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 01:15 AM |
| 33 | Men being body shamed 😢Lol right media is the biggest enabler of men everrr. Image if commercials start being honest about men's horrific hygiene - "you stink like the trashcan, that's why your wife don't want to kiss you, so shut up and buy this damn soap!" Image the outrage - perhaps the parliament will erect a new law the very next day lololollll. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 08:58 PM |
| 85 | Men being body shamed 😢Men don't get shamed enough - they are the most spoiled bratty manchild ever. They should be shamed more often. Oh your fee fees hurt because girl don't want to date your stinky ass with bad breath? Welcome to the real world scrotes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 08:42 PM |
| 10 | It is NOT about "Finally finding the perfect HVM so that I can have my happily ever after" - It is about prioritizing YOUR HAPPINESS no matter what happens.I like to think this way - rather than thinking and wondering "Will I ever find my HVM" and start getting jealous of other women who found theirs (not gonna lie, that's the hardest part especially as we get older) - I start thinking "What will be, will be". I start focusing on the present rather than worrying about the future, and just try to be as happy as I possibly can. All the more important in this pandemic years. Do stuff, find something to laugh about, relax, just be content and at peace … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 05:52 PM |
| 6 | It is NOT about "Finally finding the perfect HVM so that I can have my happily ever after" - It is about prioritizing YOUR HAPPINESS no matter what happens.Perhaps this commenter is young or don't quite yet understand the nuances of dating as a high value woman. This reminds me of a post here before by one of the mods talking about makeup and how the patriarchy weaponize it by making women highly insecure and constantly buying make up to hide perceived flaws. Nobody ever said "fds ban make up, don't wear it everr" - just that they encourage us to take a step back and see the bigger picture. Yet some commenters somehow take it to mean that fds rejec… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 05:22 PM |
| 33 | Was anyone else CONVINCED they were asexual?And if you talk to other women or people about your boundaries around sex they are like “what about sexual compatibility?!” Funny thing is if you develop the mental intimacy with a man, you trust him wholly in your vulnerable state, and he cares deeply about your pleasure - you will be sexually compatible. Sex should be about the whole experience - not just the act itself. I don't know how you can be sexually compatible anyway if you barely know each other. Honestly if all we want a true profess… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 02:02 PM |
| 42 | Was anyone else CONVINCED they were asexual?Yeah I think the modern dating scene have been so lust-crazed that it is the norm that if you date, you bang. Meanwhile I am here be like well if sex and lust becomes the main focus of your relationship - isn't it kind of empty? Sex can be powerful if treated right - but when in reality many couple bang so much before marriage but suddenly face dead bedroom after marriage - well something is definitely not right there. It should be the other way around. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 01:39 PM |
| 91 | Was anyone else CONVINCED they were asexual?I genuinely believe having lust towards someone is the LAST step in the courtship process - you should start with the sappy hand holding and gift giving etc. just to build that fondness, then go through things that makes you trust each other. It is like you should be intimate mentally before wanting to be intimate physically - that's why I am firmly on the side of no sex before marriage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 01:19 PM |
| 189 | Why do men act so nice to other people but seem to hate their own wife and children?Their answers boil down to "doesn't outshine me and has low self-esteem so she'll never leave me." Multiple men have literally told me this. As someone with the smarts since childhood - this is the kind of threat I hear on a daily basis by scrotes and pickmes. An uncle even told me straight to my face when I was 11 to quit school and learn cooking because that's what "he prefers". Still boils my blood till this day, remembering it. Even in adulthood when people suggest career trajectory, it is a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 01:25 AM |
| 13 | It is NOT about "Finally finding the perfect HVM so that I can have my happily ever after" - It is about prioritizing YOUR HAPPINESS no matter what happens.Exactly! It is the difference between dating and getting into relationship because you desperately want happiness (which makes up for the majority of relationships nowadays) vs being complete, whole and happy by yourself that you go into dating with clear eyes and knowing what you want and won't settle for anything less. You should date to win - either you have a fun healthy relationship with a HVM, or you have a fun healthy relationship with yourself. Unburdened, none of the desperation, happy … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 01:09 AM |
| 48 | It is NOT about "Finally finding the perfect HVM so that I can have my happily ever after" - It is about prioritizing YOUR HAPPINESS no matter what happens.I also think that women delude (and comfort) themselves by thinking that if they find a HVM he will always be HV and they won't have to continue vetting or keep saving money in a private bank account or remember to self-advocate. 100% this! I think almost all women struggle with continuous vetting even after you get the guy - because of our inherent need for balance, peace and security. We just want get it done with and not think about it anymore after. I understand, it can feel tiring if you ar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 12:50 AM |
| 62 | It is NOT about "Finally finding the perfect HVM so that I can have my happily ever after" - It is about prioritizing YOUR HAPPINESS no matter what happens.Yes exactly sis! Finally letting go of all that scarcity mindset, desperation to race against the wall/the biological clock, the "all good man will be snatched away if I don't hurry up!" mindset - feels like finally breathing the real unpolluted air for the first time! The biggest thing for me, that takes some years to sink in is that I can walk away at any point in my life if things don't make me happy anymore - no matter how many years I have been with the man. I shouldn't just endure "for the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 12:40 AM |
| 27 | It is NOT about "Finally finding the perfect HVM so that I can have my happily ever after" - It is about prioritizing YOUR HAPPINESS no matter what happens.If you read all that and all you can think of is that I am advocating "Don't date at all!!!" - then I say cheers sis. You do you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 12:30 AM |
| 33 | It is NOT about "Finally finding the perfect HVM so that I can have my happily ever after" - It is about prioritizing YOUR HAPPINESS no matter what happens.Yes FDS wants you to date - but as I stated, dating and relationship should be fun. If a newbie comes here and starts saying things like "Vetting is exhausting!", "When will I find my HVM??", or saying she "finally found a HVM!!" after two dates - the handbook precisely state that she needs to take a step back and work on herself first. This is a dating strategy sub that maximize the benefits for women - that also means treating dating as the cherry on top of your already complete ice-cream, not… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 12:05 AM |
| 13 | It’s the weekend!! Let’s have some fun. Thought I’d share some of the recent DM’s (I never respond) I’ve received."You're going to live alone with your 30 cats" That is called a cat sanctuary and people do make businesses out of it - best of both worlds. Even cat cafes are rising in popularity nowadays. But if course scrotes being the "logical" creatures that they are can't think that far. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/21 09:38 PM |
| 70 | Beware of the chronic resentmentPerharps no need to wait years - we all will tremedeously benefit from honing the skill in reading body language and detect chronic resentment, ideally during the early dates. It is always present in the little things - the way his smile never reaches his eyes, the way he stares at you with that round unblinking eyes yet there are no warmth in them, the way their tone and words are extra sweet and too "perfect", the way he smiles extra wide and being extra nice and polite when you are being "dif… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/21 06:46 PM |
| 17 | Stop Oversharing and Be SecretiveHe accused me of dishonesty and later abused me over this prescription. The problem is not the prescription, the problem is him. Nobody with a sane mind will act like this over a damn medicine ffs. I’m scared this will happen again and thought disclosing early might prevent this. No, realize that you had a relationship with an abuser. It is not about the prescription at all, it is about control - he is enraged that you keep certain things private because in his mind, you are his slave so how dar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 06:11 PM |
| 30 | Stop Oversharing and Be SecretiveLong life experience has shown me that oversharers, male or female, are red flags. Whether you are dating, schmoozing at work or just trying to expand your friends circle, watch out. Keep oversharers at arms length. Thank you for sharing your experience and yes, overshares are usually toxic. I also want to share another perspective for the oversharers - you never know who is listening. When women overshare, they tend to forgot their surrounding, fully immersed in their storytelling and keeps goi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 06:00 AM |
| 56 | Stop Oversharing and Be SecretiveThe most powerful position to be in is when you know something and he doesn't know you know. LOVEEEEEE this so much! Women all around the world ought to learn to be strategic instead of playing the offensive-defensive game. There's power in moving in silence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 05:45 AM |
| 57 | Stop Oversharing and Be SecretiveWait till he wants to share all his secrets first. Gotta be careful with this sis - because it is well-documented already that LVM especially covert narcs weaponize sharing secrets (and it may not be true, narcs can fabricate anything) so it is not a good indication that he will be trustable with your secrets. I am the strong proponent that you slowly disclose general private matters like where you live and meeting your family after thorough and careful vetting - but vulnerable secrets stay a se… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 05:42 AM |
| 43 | Stop Oversharing and Be SecretiveHere's the thing - all you need to say is that "I don't keep in contact with my family and never plan to do so" and that's that. If he won't respect your boundary, he isn't the one. If he prod, ask, insists, question, or just force you into a corner you don't want, he isn't the one. Don't worry about how he may feel - if he can't respect your life, he won't respect you. So if it comes to that, just leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 05:33 AM |
| 61 | Stop Oversharing and Be SecretiveDefinitely the good ol' practice and fighting the desire to fill the silence. It does become a knee-jerk reaction to some, wanting to continue the conversation and don't want the awkward silence to stretch - and what blurted out without proper thinking tend to be private because it is easier, not much thinking required. Being secretive and smoothly avoiding private talk is indeed, a skill that needs to be mastered. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 12:02 AM |
| 110 | Stop Oversharing and Be SecretiveI quite agree with you - this oversharing culture seems to be the computer generation thing. Though not just millenials, I found enough boomers who do it. But at least long before this keeping secrets, even between spouses is normal. You just have some secrets that aren't meant to be shared with another soul. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 11:45 PM |
| 24 | This holiday season I urge you to take trip down the girls toy aisle.that is when I discovered boys clothing was made of tougher fabric than girls'. It wasn't more expensive though! Clothing and attire for girls and women in general are an absolute joke. Everything is too fragile, too see-through, too harsh/itchy, and designed to impress other people rather than making the people wearing them comfortable. I have atopic ezcema and my skin is paper-thin, so finding women clothing that wouldn't hurt/irritate/bleed my skin is a challenge from hell. And wtf is that pr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 11:38 PM |
| 12 | If you have trouble thinking about continuously vetting after finding a man - try the "Wing Mindset".I love this so much! A beautiful garden full of blooms and greens, smells like heaven in the summer's breeze and the most beautiful place on earth. Ain't nobody gonna ruin my beautiful magnificient garden! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 02:47 PM |
| 31 | If you have trouble thinking about continuously vetting after finding a man - try the "Wing Mindset".You are absolutely right! The biggest difference between a HVM and a LVM is that when HVM see your wings - they will be entranced and insist that you take great care of your wings and make sure to clear the way so you can tend to your wings peacefully. LVM will take one look at your wings and immediately gaslight and belittle you because he is jealous and intimidated. And insist that you focus on him and only him. Find a guy that will be the biggest supporter of your wings ladies! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 02:42 PM |
| 63 | single womenI literally don’t understand this jealousy because when you’re in a relationship you’re supposed to be a team. With a HVM that respects your career and goals and understands the nitty gritty of it because he deals with his own career and goals, yes. LVM who just want constant attention and everything in this world revolves around them, no. They will get jealous simply because the "servant" who is suppose to serve only them and focus only on them 24/7 is "malfunctioning". There is no love in thes… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 09:32 PM |
| 12 | I thought for a long time that my male friends were actual friends, but everyone of them ended up trying (aggressively) to get me to sleep with them. So it's a NO for me.That's really interesting/horrible how it took you losing weight and the attitudes shift...ugh I had an inkling something's gonna change when I lost the weight - there had been some slight jealousy from the girls but because I lost it during my homeless period, they were more concerned. I just didn't realize the men tho... they literally flipped 180 degree - especially the married guys! Which is ironic considering I got thin when I hit the "wall" - so by their "logic" I should be well past my ex… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 08:34 PM |
| 10 | Don’t convince anyone of your worth. If they can’t see it, it’s their loss.but I am pretty girly, and love dressing up. This is a very important distinction when it comes to becoming more yourself rather than mold yourself into what you think men likes - it is about what you love to do. Some women love dressing up, some women love comfy style. Some women love full make up while some women love bare face. YOU have to love and be happy with whatever you choose to do, how you choose to present yourself. The ONLY time it is "wrong" is when you feel that you must absolutely… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 04:19 PM |
| 48 | Reminder: If you want children you need to be 100% clear on what you expect from the dad (for yourself). Division of labor for house, etc and especially child care is so important ladiesIndeed, I am an early 90s kid and I still remember the norm that fathers handle the hard chores and the rowdy sons. While fathers were still the less active parental figure (silent father reading the newspaper was the norm) - they were still expected to be the protector of the house and the ones the children would feel safe with, discipline them and be the harsh scolder while the mom comforted the scolded children. With the rise of smartphone addiction and the "fun free-spirited dad" stereotype … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 02:25 PM |
| 21 | I thought for a long time that my male friends were actual friends, but everyone of them ended up trying (aggressively) to get me to sleep with them. So it's a NO for me.Same. I find zero reason to be friends with men because it is not like we can talk deep with them like we do with girl friends - there's always that line we have to maintain and not cross with a man - it is exhausting. Between myself and my girls time is already limited, I can't afford to allow male friends in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 01:57 PM |
| 50 | I thought for a long time that my male friends were actual friends, but everyone of them ended up trying (aggressively) to get me to sleep with them. So it's a NO for me.when i was fatter i experienced that colder side to men but when i lost weight it really opened my eyes to how men see women Sameee sis when I was fat from childhood til early 20s most men treat me like I am invisible - though now I realize part of it is due to me be stoic and no nonsense - so they have no use for me. Now I am thin and pretty suddenly I am that cold ice queen that every men no matter what age try very hard to "break". Some of them literally start pouting and whining like a child… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 01:24 PM |
| 55 | Is it just me or do men not know how to talk to women anymore? It seems like every conversation involves some sort of pick up artist technique instead of being genuineIt is absolutely baffling just how weird men have become. Like they approach you yeah - but they aren't even looking at you - just stare at you soullessly unblinking while you can see their brain turning and twisting to form the next sentences - they don't even hear you, they are busy remembering all the teachings about how to neg and manipulate women to add to the next word vomit. And when the woman leave after being offended enough - they do the shocked pikachu face and scream "is it because o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 02:12 PM |
| 4 | Defining pickmeism: what it is vs what it isn'tYou can see it in their face sis, like they are dealing with constipation everytime they drink - they got zero enjoyment from it yet stubbornly keep drinking while eyes darting to see if anybody watches. They think they are the shit while in reality, they just look pathetic. This weird macho flex extend to other types of drink too - I got one short but perpetually angry middle-aged joke of a man sneering at me for drinking milk. Umm bro you obviously didn't drink enough growing up, leave me alon… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 01:49 PM |
| 16 | Came across this in OLD today, respectful women must chase the man, ladies we’re doing it wrong 😂Remind me of - I think it is Kevin Hart accidentally going on a gay date - and the dude treat him real good. Front row seats to Lakers game, nice dinner the whole shebang. He kept talking about how good it was and the commenters be like - "if a women don't treat me this good, I don't want her". Newsflash scrotes - women don't want you either. There's clearly someone out there who willing to wine and dine you if you so desperately want it so give them a go - stop bothering us. I still feel bad fo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 04:55 AM |
| 8 | Defining pickmeism: what it is vs what it isn'tDon't feel bad - we all have had our cringe moments sis. Once upon a time I walked like a gangsta rapper because I thought it seemed cool. It wasn't. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 04:48 AM |
| 83 | Do you have any male friends?Growing up, I am that awkward obese girl who men (and shitty women) either treat me like shit or like I am invisible. So I am mostly alone with a very few friends. Never have male friends, I don't even speak to men most of the times unless absolutely necessary. I did feel jealous seeing people easily making a big group of friends and woman having many male friends - it seems like they have many men looking out for them. That is, until I got close to a male friend during my undergrad. Damn he is … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 01:16 PM |
| 55 | Defining pickmeism: what it is vs what it isn'tHaha I drink my coffee black because I taste the bitterness in a good way - like bitter chocolate. Some days I just want the bitter bean juice and nothing sweet. But men drinking black coffee as an act of machoism is mega ultra giga CRINGE - it is just damn drink, not gonna make you suddenly want a rod up your ass dude, chill. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 02:49 AM |
| 143 | Came across this in OLD today, respectful women must chase the man, ladies we’re doing it wrong 😂Dude just say that you want to be wined and dined - aka you want a sugar daddy (sugar mommy have high taste, you ain't gonna make the cut) - you are in the wrong site bro! Lol at today's "men" claiming themselves alpha and sigma and whatever bs, but want to be treated like a fragile princess. Make it make sense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 01:16 AM |
| 91 | What are some early on signs he’s a cheater?about how his friends cheat Oh yes this! They always complain that their friends do all this baddd stuff but he will never do it - he is the "good" one! Listen ladies, birds of a feather will always, always flock together. I am loyal, can't fathom why someone would cheat instead of just breaking up - so why in the Goddamn bloody hell I want to stay "friend" with a known cheater? Who cares if he is "otherwise a great guy" - cheaters have no sense of loyalty, will backstab you the minute he deem i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 01:08 AM |
| 19 | Do Pickmes imitate their boyfriends?It is like voluntarily living on a toxic wasteland - eventually they themselves will become toxic. They become the environment they live in. I observe there's two big type of pickmeism - the chronic people pleaser, and the selfish narcissists who live and breathe male validation. It is the latter type that tend to be aggresive and combative with other women - the one that will find even the way you breathe is wrong and do the backstabbing smear campaign against every women they hate (which means… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 07:55 PM |
| 281 | Men date you to level up. Don’t date men to level down.That's why we should all practice hypergamy ruthlessly. There's zero - ZERO reason to date down. What benefit does dating down bring to you? To satisfy some sort of complex? Just to say "at least I have a man"? To be seen as the golden-hearted woman? NONE of those reasons benefit you in the slightest - you are better off alone and wait for the guy at the top. If there isn't any, then you live your single life to the fullest. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 01:52 PM |
| 86 | Is anyone else sick of seeing YouTube recommend these types of videos to you?Since "Alpha" is no longer the "in" thing - alpha is now asscociated with steroid-laden gymhead and that Dan-don-brazil whatever his name is - they all now flock to the sigma craze. It is the aloof i-walk-my-own-way guy who doesn't give a rat ass about women throwing their panties to him. Think Tom Hardy and Daniel Craig's James Bond. As usual it is a projection - more women start to realize men are shit and wont give them the time of the day - so they got their nut twisted and created this bs n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 06:16 PM |
| 3 | On subreddits outside of FDS women are coming to understand that being “independent” 50/50 women will only attract losersWhat kind of presents did he got for your mother? I am curious! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 05:02 PM |
| 26 | Ask Amy: I think my wife is lazy for not having a career while raising our kidsAlso have a feeling he is the typical fugly dude with beer belly - because he only brags about his "success", otherwise he would brag about his looks too. His wife is either the hot wife or overall better looking than him. And he is just the resentful lil' goblin who just hates everything on sight. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 01:31 PM |
| 2 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common arguments (Part. 3)You are very much welcome sis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 10:13 PM |
| 2 | Have you ever been depressed about being single? How did you get out of that state of mind?It makes me wonder if I’ll feel that sense of pride and accomplishment - like it’s enough - when I get there. In my experience, if you are still in that racing mindset when you get to that six figure goal - you will be estatic for a few days - but after that you will feel empty again. It is like getting the high from shopping, sugar, or drugs - you feel euphoric for a bit but then comes the crash and the emptiness and restlessness set again. Funnily enough, when I finished my master research I d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 04:58 AM |
| 7 | Have you ever been depressed about being single? How did you get out of that state of mind?Yes, exactly! The way our current education and society's system is shaped is that they produce the most advancely educated generation. But all the generation know growing up is that robotic way of riding the escalator into the next phase, racing and competing against each other. Nobody ever thought them how to grow as a human, how to be whole. As the years pass they have more knowledge but with a significant void inside. That's how you get the loneliness epidemic among our 20s and 30s generatio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 04:12 AM |
| 5 | Have you ever been depressed about being single? How did you get out of that state of mind?I sincerely hope you will stick around sis - I can say with absolute certainity you are finally on the right path and it will be very difficult, but it will be worth it. Wish you all the best sis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 03:50 AM |
| 11 | Mamabaiting 101: Beware of the manbaby! How LVM trick you into taking on the leadership role in a relationship 👶 🍼 Watch out for these red flagsAnd ooh, herobait is something I haven't heard of before, but that makes a ton of sense! Yeahhh I got my fair share of herobaiting and while compared to mamabaiting guys - herobaiting guys will seem great because they are capable, usually accomplished and financially secure, got the looks and WILL take care of you but damn he gonna be the most smug, negging, controlling, gloating POS you will ever see. Taking care and being attentive is one thing, but if he treats you like you are a helpless idi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 03:41 AM |
| 11 | Have you ever been depressed about being single? How did you get out of that state of mind?Alright sis I have a good news and a bad news - the bad news is that you are a risk of having atypical depression but the good news is you are here instead of settling with the first guy you see so that's great! The fault is not on you - it is on the education and society's system that just want to produce skilled labor instead of a whole human. You grow up only knowing about racing the escalator and competing with each other so that you will get people's praise as the "successful one". I was on… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 03:31 AM |
| 2 | Have you ever been depressed about being single? How did you get out of that state of mind?Yeah I think I know what OP's root problem is and it is not exactly loneliness. It is suprisingly very common among our young generation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 02:51 AM |
| 13 | Have you ever been depressed about being single? How did you get out of that state of mind?Suprisingly yes - it is quite common especially for your generation. I think part of it is due to that straightforward upbringing - it is all repetitive routine of schooling and tests, and living the after school life with friends. You go to school then to college then to work - it is like taking an escalator, you just step in and go to where you are suppose to go. And you have no reason to be unhappy or mentally unhealthy because everything is smooth sailing - BUT that's the root of the problem… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 02:47 AM |
| 16 | Have you ever been depressed about being single? How did you get out of that state of mind?Alright sis. I have been carefully reading all your responses and here's the result: • You are 27. • You have accomplished everything you want in life and dare I say - you are well off and don't have any financial worries? • You are happy in all other areas of life and have a healthy state of mind. • The only thing wrong in your life is that you don't have a husband and family like your friends and is slowly falling into depression because you find yourself alone. • You are dissapointed with the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 10:32 PM |
| 29 | Mamabaiting 101: Beware of the manbaby! How LVM trick you into taking on the leadership role in a relationship 👶 🍼 Watch out for these red flagsThank you for writing this OP - and congrats for your first strategy post! Reading this just reminds me why I haven't been impressed by all the men who had approached me - because they are either trying to mamabait me or herobait me depending on how I act around them. I am one of those who are extremely capable and kickass when I am in my elements - but is an absolute klutz and absent-minded in day to day love. Also I am superrr lazy. My life motto is if anybody else can do it, let them do it. I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 10:14 PM |
| 111 | Just broke up with a sweet, funny, kind and attentive guy, because he works a minimum wage jobSadly that is even rarer than finding a HVM - sure, there are certain guys that will say they want to be a stay-at-home parent, but in reality they are parasitic manchild. When they spend their years growing up lazying around, doing minimal chores badly, gaming all day while mommy dearest tend to all their needs - you can't expect to get a magically great house husband from that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 08:42 PM |
| 8 | Have you ever been depressed about being single? How did you get out of that state of mind?Then go out and date, what's holding you back? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 08:31 PM |
| 391 | Just broke up with a sweet, funny, kind and attentive guy, because he works a minimum wage jobLove love loveee your comment! Many women who are so desperate for a partner to the point that she is willing to do 50/50 or worse, be the breadwinner with jobless/low income husband fail to see that being the breadwinner means ALL responsibilities will fall onto your shoulder. ALL OF IT. You ain't go no rest. Which is ideal if the husband do 100% of the housework, chores, be pregnant and carrying the child for 9 months and continue to raise child into adulthood and deal with all the things - wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 05:08 PM |
| 60 | Just broke up with a sweet, funny, kind and attentive guy, because he works a minimum wage jobHave you finished the handbook yet? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 04:59 PM |
| 32 | I realized something funny : movies & tv series versus fan fictionFemale characters written by men though…sometimes men who’ve never even kissed a woman. Tragic! We are basically in our undies 24/7 at home and doing some weird shit in the kitchen. Or crying over men while eating ice cream. Or something-something-something bewbs. Yep. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 04:38 AM |
| 15 | I realized something funny : movies & tv series versus fan fictionRe: female writers thing. I think it's a selection bias. We primarily see the work of female writers who are successful in a male dominated industry. It is indeed selection bias but unless you are obsessed with scouring all over the books to find that one gem, you are really at a loss. One of the main reason I primarily stick to horror supernatural & natural disaster genres in official media is because a) the main focus is usually women and there are some variation and b) they aren't just wooden… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 04:30 AM |
| 31 | I realized something funny : movies & tv series versus fan fictionEvil seductress, evil boss, evil step-mother, evil mother-in-law (this one though is pretty realistic but cmon!), evil ex-wife, evil ex-girlfriend, evil wife, (please add to your own pleasure). The thing is - the evil women is depicted as karen-like - petty, annoying, nagging, jealous, scheming - just really surface-level stuff that makes them hateful and yet forgettable. But when it comes to actual interesting villain who captivates the audience and remembered to the ends of times? You know the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 04:18 AM |
| 42 | I realized something funny : movies & tv series versus fan fictionIf we really think about it, Hollywood and most medias are the biggest fraternity in the world. They love each other so Goddamn much it is blatantly obvious in each damn of their damn products - but in the same breath is the biggest homophobic group ever. To be clear I am not into shipping literally every male characters because that's creepy and disrespectful - but when the stories are so blatantly male-loving and women-hating - how do they expect the audience to react? Another sad thing to not… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 04:09 AM |
| 22 | I realized something funny : movies & tv series versus fan fictionI see, I understand. Yeah there's definitely two camps when it comes to shipping - those who do it because it is fun (it gets their creative juice flowing and often result in really interesting fics) and those who do it because of internalized misogyny and intensely hating on any female characters. The tendency of official media to vilify women doesn't help either. I don't identify with most female characters either, which is why I choose to create them instead. We are in the same boat sis. Ho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 03:00 AM |
| 66 | I realized something funny : movies & tv series versus fan fictionWhile I can't really understand your point of view because I personally don't identify with male fictional characters - I can agree with one thing - I never identify with most female characters. Too... cringe I guess. They are either too plain or too over-the-top, nothing that I can relate with. And honestly the fleshed-out male characters just are more interesting and thus - more fun to work with. You really have to try hard to flesh out a one-dimensional female character, and honestly nobody r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 02:35 AM |
| 16 | Quick test for misogyny while vetting: compliment a woman and watch for his reaction!If my experiencing in engineering is anything to go by - he despise his female classmates too. For having the "audacity" to be a smart as him. I suspect he is doing some sort of triangulating - so that you will be self concious about his classmates and compete for his attention. And/or using the smart classmates as "proof" that him belittling your intelligence is justified. Most men in my degree get excessively angry when us women surpass them in anything and talk shit about our appearance, our … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 11:08 PM |
| 8 | My friend’s husband brags about not having a job and her paying the billsThis is what happens when women let men skip on their RESPONSIBILITIES. I don't care if libfem want to call me old-school, not keeping up with time, anti-"equality" or whatever bulls*it else; If men want to date and marry women - they are RESPONSIBLE for paying all the things. Fullstop. That means they will work and have continuos financial source. If they can't do that don't f**king entertain them ladies! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 10:40 PM |
| 32 | We all want to feel wanted but there's a huge difference between being CHERISHED and being DESIRED. The first develops and lasts a lifetime, the second burns fast and leaves you empty, even feeling discarded. Doctor Ramani gives us a very important lesson!It is as Dr Ramani says - people who lack empathy struggle with this. That is like 99% of male population on earth sis. Most women I found have no problem doing cherishing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 10:29 PM |
| 89 | Normalize telling men they don’t turn you on anymoreWomen naturally don't - because abdominal fat signals "sick unhealthy mate" in our deeper, caveman brain. And that is BIOLOGY scrotes - men with abdominal fat means there's too much fat surrounding their organs - and coupled with sedentary lifestyle, smoking, alcohol, drugs, poor eating habits etc? That means heart attack at 40. That's all patriarchy propaganda as usual - because women should NOT have standards remember? /s Also they look like a pregnant woman - that's not attractive at all - ju… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 09:19 PM |
| 50 | We all want to feel wanted but there's a huge difference between being CHERISHED and being DESIRED. The first develops and lasts a lifetime, the second burns fast and leaves you empty, even feeling discarded. Doctor Ramani gives us a very important lesson!What strike me the most is when Dr Ramani describe how we have been feed by the media that "being loved" equals over-the-top, bombastic, grandeur, hot-and-cold, kiss-and-make up in the rain etc etc - basically all love bombing gestures that appeals to our primal need to be desired. Which make sense in entertainment settings because they need to retain our attention - so it haves to be that extra. They need us to feel that rush. But as always, not applicable in real life every waking moment. Mean… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 08:42 PM |
| 100 | My online dating experience was so similar, for a second I thought it's my old tweet! Feel free to add more typesBut they have a job! And women want providers! because none of us have jobs of our own, apparently. THIS is why there is just so, sooo many jabba-the-hut goblin-looking guys with beer belly, greasy acne skin and receding hairline try to hit on you - thinking their are hot shit. Like please scrotes your expensive car won't blind me from the fact that you look like shit and smell like shit. If the car is nice, the owner must look nice too. There's no other way around that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 05:20 PM |
| 18 | You deserve to be someone's first choiceI HOPE I come across "the one" now since I AM late in life. Are the 40s considered "later in life"? The better, happier mindset you should adopt is - whatever happens in life, whether you find the one or not - you will always, always choose to prioritize your OWN happiness and trust yourself to walk away immediately from anything that doesn't benefit you and won't make you happy. FDS isn't about finding the "one" HVM so that you can live "happily ever after" - it is about maximizing your benefit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 04:31 PM |
| 523 | You deserve to be someone's first choiceListen to this wisdom ladies! And I would like to add it a step further - ONLY date those who treat you like you are the rarest gem on planet earth. Anything less than being top priority - REJECT HIM IMMEDIATELY. And if you struggle with catching feels too soon when some guy show you even a little attention, don't date - date yourself first. Treat yourself so hard and so good you can't even stomach any treatment even a micro less than what you give yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 01:17 AM |
| 55 | You really are the prize. Don’t let the media and the patriarchy convince you otherwise.Hah they cannot even get their "facts" straight and they dare say we are dumb ones. WHICH AGE IS IT SCROTES??? WHEN WILL I GET MY GODDAMN WALL HUH??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 12:08 AM |
| 18 | Ladies please share your experiences with gamer guysWhy he can even get a girlfriend is a mystery to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 09:19 PM |
| 4 | When pickmes parrot LVM propagandaThe popcorn is extra delicious that way, sis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 09:07 PM |
| 7 | When pickmes parrot LVM propagandaWow queen way to go! I am dealing with my own Sobby Sally at the moment (she is younger) and the strategy you outlined here is definitely the most effective - just be glib, light, superficial and adopt the trickster attitude. Let others deal with her, just watch from the sideline. Anddd just like you expect, she started having problem with everybody (even the manager). She tries to start drama here and there, perhaps hoping to rile me up - too bad my laziness wins and my silent treatment drives … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 07:49 PM |
| 249 | You really are the prize. Don’t let the media and the patriarchy convince you otherwise.I officially hit "The Wall" this year and if we go by these scrotes' "logic" - I should suddenly grow all the wrinkles and nobody even dares to look me in the face. While all the 30-something men can walk into the room and all those pretty young model girls with start a war just to get his attention. Instead I had to buy a new taser because men of all. ages. (Yes, even school children!) won't leave me the f**k alone. I FEEL CHEATED SCROTES! WHERE'S THAT DAMN WALL???? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 07:21 PM |
| 90 | A wholesome dad 🥰Funny how non-able bodied men (I've seen a few example, and usually these men have defects from birth) tend to be very involved in parenthood - like they know they lack a little something but make up for it in a whole lot more ways that put able-bodied men to shame. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 01:31 AM |
| 62 | Currently viral on social media, please do not be a man’s free ATM!! Libfem behaviour is NOT empowering to women, it literally only benefits the man while draining your bank account, health and energy.Yeah, spoiling your loved ones does give you that helpers' high and feel good chemicals that are healthy for you - that's why charitable acts are encouraged if you want a happier life. BUT never extend that to a man who are suppose to pursue you romantically because a) that's HIS job and you deserve to be spoilt rotten (let him have all the helpers high and feel good brain chemicals, that's how you reciprocate his efforts) and b) women often forget to vet because they are busy giving, so parasit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 01:23 AM |
| 118 | Currently viral on social media, please do not be a man’s free ATM!! Libfem behaviour is NOT empowering to women, it literally only benefits the man while draining your bank account, health and energy.the feminine urge The feminine urge is when you see two very beautiful dresses, you love them both and can't choose which one is better so your HVM end up buying both. Don't confuse it with being a people pleaser pickme please. Feminine urge is for YOURSELF, not anybody else. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 01:13 AM |
| 39 | This is too funny 🙄Unless he works in japan where overworking is a culture or work in a company where the is a hugeee workload but they skimp on work labors (like animation industry) - those "busy overtime" is he busy chasing after other women, going out with his buddies and meet other women, or watch porn. If the upbringing of modern men involves them lazing around, playing games all day, partying with the frat boys, and having their mommy serve them hands and feet - do you really believe those same boys will gro… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 05:54 PM |
| 366 | Men calling women crazy, for a justified reaction, isn't new. The fact that so many women are gaslighted into believing it, is terrifying.Wish I can upvote this a million times. The reason why most (if not all) women are crippled by anxiety and self doubt is because we are mocked, ridiculed and belittled since birth while in the same breath, hammered to be good selfless forgiving martyrs because if not - you are the incarnation of the devil itself. Like adults get extremely angry when young girls are rude and maybe talk a little too loud - but boys can literally beat someone and forgiven because "boys will be boys". And they wonde… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 05:31 PM |
| 2 | Real love is effortless, it's giving, it blesses everything. A man who loves you will do everything for you.To say they should be effortless for us feels unrealistic and unhealthy… Read the handbook before commenting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 05:10 PM |
| 8 | Hot Take: Why I demand a beautiful proposal and an EXPENSIVE ring.I physically can't wear jewelleries (not even a watch unless I wear cotton something on the wrist) because my skin is paper thin. So mine's would be a simple gold ring (great resell value) but he would research the heck out of the materials and design to ensure I can wear it frequent without injuring myself. And I will take a couple of properties to go with that thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 02:21 AM |
| 54 | Can’t wait to see the male commenters of DM collectively lose their tiny minds.No, don't bother. They have a f**king brain - it is their choice to use it (or not). People's stupidity is not your burden to carry. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 05:00 PM |
| 35 | If you won’t bother checking the FDS handbook before posting your question, at least ask yourself this…I find it weird to HAVE to be with other people constantly and never have alone time... incomprehensible to me. Yeppp sis that screams codependency to the max and somewhat unhealthy. We really do live in an unhealthy society isn't? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 11:03 PM |
| 25 | Thanksgiving blues..I know you can't say it yourself so I will say it for you - your mother has crossed a line and that's entirely on her. Her being your mother doesn't excuse her wrongdoings. So prioritize yourself as hard as you can and keep her at a distance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 10:59 PM |
| 104 | Thanksgiving blues..You can never choose your parents but you can always choose to be happy. And yes that will includes making other people very angry. It is a shared experience by women across the globe. Do you have some thing, that you always want to do but can never seem to find the time, but will make you very happy? I suggest for the holidays - go do that instead of going back to your parents. They will be very very angry at you for sure - but continue to be silent and stubborn for a few years. Always choose t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 10:19 PM |
| 63 | If you won’t bother checking the FDS handbook before posting your question, at least ask yourself this…There was nothing sad or weird or brave about it. Right? People are genuinely surprised I go to the movies alone - I mean why not? You want to watch something, just go watch it, what's the fuss? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 09:38 PM |
| 118 | If you won’t bother checking the FDS handbook before posting your question, at least ask yourself this…Indeed. Especially when those activities are referred to as "dating yourself" or "treating yourself right". It just feels like "the bar is in hell" version of being alone. If you treat yourself to the whole setup of date (posh dinner, candlelight, flowers etc.) then sure - that is dating yourself. You go the extra miles for yourself. But drinking alone at a cafe or going to the movie alone should be just normal alone stuff. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 09:33 PM |
| 14 | If you won’t bother checking the FDS handbook before posting your question, at least ask yourself this…Thank you sis!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 08:48 PM |
| 56 | If you won’t bother checking the FDS handbook before posting your question, at least ask yourself this…Not everybody thinks this way, though. No hate on them either - but it makes me really really sad that this is the norm? Like sis you have your own money, go do whatever the heck you want because you finally can! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 08:21 PM |
| 85 | If you won’t bother checking the FDS handbook before posting your question, at least ask yourself this…You know, this applies to job searching too suprisingly. Sorry for being out of context but I am currently job hunting in different field from my master - and as usual, have doubt how employers will perceive me. But as you said, if they can't recognize my value - I don't want to work for them either. The working relationship should benefit us both - I am done being treated like sh*t just because they pay me. Thank you so much for this reminder and I will vet my jobs like I vet a man, FDS-style. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 08:17 PM |
| 481 | If you won’t bother checking the FDS handbook before posting your question, at least ask yourself this…One thing that baffles me is that some sisters here treat eating out alone, going to movies alone, going to the malls alone, hell even shopping for groceries alone is... groundbreaking? I've been doing that since I become independent and I thought that's just how adult function? Just feels like women have been too indoctrined by the society that being alone and doing stuff alone is wrong and sad - while in reality that's just the practical way to live. You can't just wait around until somebody i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 08:10 PM |
| 10 | No, a woman from a 3rd world country will not put up with your stink! (An anecdote)I pretty much bathe in ice water - it is really something. But it also really wake you the f**k up so eh I don't hate it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 08:00 PM |
| 1 | Is it crazy to have a goal to make enough money to hire a PI to vet?Yes - A PI and a whole gang of bodyguards you can call at will. That's true freedom and a man who can get past all that walls with flying colors - will be a force to reckon with. You must be that brutal in vetting a man because he either pass and literally blown you away - or you live the relaxed life far from drama and stress. I like my beauty, and no useless scrotes will ruin it for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 07:49 PM |
| 15 | No, a woman from a 3rd world country will not put up with your stink! (An anecdote)I remember as a child we get bath from hauling up the well water and it is freezing torture of a bath. At 4 am because my father is an early riser. I would shiver for 30 minutes straight after bath. Still, we bath twice, sometimes thrice a day (tropical country). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 07:27 PM |
| 84 | No, a woman from a 3rd world country will not put up with your stink! (An anecdote)Men joke about women smelling like fish, manager will have a "talk" with you if you don't smell like flower garden all the damn time, and they have no problem making faces and gag if you go past them. So no, they won't be nice about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 07:20 PM |
| 15 | Do you think most of us were very naive when we were younger?I will check it out, thanks sis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 07:12 PM |
| 15 | Do you think most of us were very naive when we were younger?Being obsessed with anything is generally a red flag. Healthy minded people are balanced, they have hobbies and interest, not obsession. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 07:06 PM |
| 53 | Do you think most of us were very naive when we were younger?The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off. I just love this! 100% the absolute truth! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 06:37 PM |
| 6 | Whoever needs this reminder! 👑like paying 50-50 (regardless of what each partner earns), asking men out, viewing casual sex as somehow "empowering" are all just later evolutions of misogyny. Libfem like to frame "female empowerment" as literally taking man's role and responsibilities and cite "well, that's equality!" - and that's good for women how? Forcing women to work more and allowing men to be lazy? They just end up gaslighting women to treat men as the prize and running themselves crazy trying to get these men who ends… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 06:17 PM |
| 27 | Whoever needs this reminder! 👑Also remember that you should not ever give to man. In dating and relationship - the man is the giver, while you, being the woman is the receiver. That's the base of a healthy relationship - the natural dynamics between man and woman. You can reciprocate when he proves that he is a HVM giver, carer and protector - but even then you'll find that he is happier being the giver. That's what makes him feel alive, hyperbolely speaking. A true HVM feels complete when he can provide and protect his lady… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 08:11 AM |
| 17 | My cousin turned into a LVW and Pick-me since she married an LVM.My cousin is actually a few years older than him, but she looks young. Initially when they get married, he doesn't care about the age much - he just want someone who can clean up his messes. But usually when these people hit 40s - because they already have the competent wife at home, they start hitting on younger girls - even teenagers. I think because they deluded themselves into thinking they are top dog or something and can hit on these young pretty girls. I would never even entertain a guy… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 01:19 AM |
| 73 | My cousin turned into a LVW and Pick-me since she married an LVM.I can imagine what that goblin husband looks like - I always call them jabba the hut because seriously - each and every one of them looks like that! The pregnant belly, the creepy stares, the smell, the face full of acne. And yet they all walk around women with that smugness - thinking they are hot shit. And also they really, really don't respect personal space and will purposely stand closer to any pretty young women. And oh usually they are married (that's why they think they are hot shit) and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 09:17 PM |
| 95 | New to me LVM tacticThis is why I think when being asked out on dates, you should purposely arrive 10 or 15 minutes late - or don't go in immediately after arrival, instead scout the place from the outside. Basically make sure the guy is there before you sit - besides it is socially acceptable for women to be late to date - getting ready takes time afterall. Saves you from embarrasment and wasting your time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 04:34 PM |
| 2 | Tropes I’m tired ofYep, that's the exact video I watched too! And the comments are freaking hilarious! Ahh the wonder of romance novels... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 12:01 AM |
| 47 | disillusionment is so painfulThat's why FDS teaches us to leave at the FIRST sign that something is off - dating is about quality, not quantity. So the sooner and faster you can cut off potential LVMs from your life - the more proficient you will get at cutting off toxicity before they can fester. Trust your gut ladies, when someone is even slightly off - end the engagement that instant and walk away - block and delete, bathroom and ghost and move on. Don't doubt, don't give him a chance, don't fight for him, don't work for… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 10:14 PM |
| 5 | Tropes I’m tired ofCool, thanks for the tip! I'm a big fan of del Toro. Big warning though - the gore is pretty up there. Glad I didn't bought popcorn for that one. Maybe try The Green Knight? I haven't yet seen it, but the trailer looks incredible. (ETA: not a disaster movie, though) Yep, The King's Man isn't either, it is the prequel to Kingsmen but I adore the first one (kinda hate the second one TBH) so I am looking forward to it. Disaster movie isn't really produced much this year, wonder why. Maybe people ge… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 09:47 PM |
| 11 | Tropes I’m tired ofHave you seen the trailer for Don't Look Up, with Leonardo DiCaprio and Jennifer Lawrence? It looks like a pretty good dark comedy. I personally don't like anything with Leonardo DiCaprio in it because... I guess I just can't stomach the guy. I watched The Antlers though because Guillermo Del Toro and the pace is a bit too fast, but it is kinda neat, character-wise. Seems like there isn't any disaster movie that caught my interest this year - but the king's man looks promising. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 08:31 PM |
| 23 | Tropes I’m tired ofEven with that, it's a great action flick. It is isn't? People say it is over the top, because duh, disaster movies but I got a soft spot for this kind of movies because generally, the characters will have some good traits that makes them likeable. What did they say, facing disaster brings the humanity out of you? There's just something warming about seeing people working together and watching each other's back in disaster movies. Also the male characters tend to be more tolerable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 08:04 PM |
| 43 | Tropes I’m tired ofI adore San Andreas - but as you said the main couple is bleh - they just want to show The Rock being macho as usual. But Ben (the guy partnered with the rock's daughter) - man, what a solid guy. Not only he protect his lil brother through the entire ordeal, his protective instinct towards a woman he just met a few minutes earlier just melts my heart. Ben's the real hero in that story. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 07:51 PM |
| 96 | Tropes I’m tired ofDamn you remind me of "the lumberjack" dude - I watched a booktuber review of it. Anyway, the girl was doing her master thesis in the town, meet a grandma, the town got hit by covid lockdown and she is stuck with the grandma's grandson - aka the lumberjack. Long story short she completed her master and move into the guy's house on a mountain to be a housewife. Romance novels, I tell ya. At least with the Billionaire Professor, if the girl play her cards right she ought to get a tenureship or son… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 06:47 PM |
| 17 | Men aren’t asking you on coffee dates because they care about your safety or convenience.You can owe him a kiss or two if he really wants some physical contact for his cash. Hold his hand and let him peep a bra strap or two on a real woman instead of his streaky laptop screen. (which is still unnecessary because if he likes you, he won't need it; if he does need it, he doesn't like you.) I have to disagree with this bit (everything else you say is great!) - no, you don't "owe" him anything. He CHOOSE to ask you out on a date and of course, that means he is going to spend money becau… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 05:57 PM |
| 84 | Lets talk about COWARD MenThe other ass let his bro pull me into his lap and restrain me there. Treated it like a joke and LAUGHED. What. The. F**K??? Might as well just ask him is he has a fetish and don't mind being some guy's b***h since he clearly have no spine. Pathetic losers. One bf told me to "shut the fuck up" when his mother injured me in a car accident. (I have permanent hip issues to this day) Hope you can find a fix someday sis. And may that guy get into an accident one day, just to see if he can "shut the f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 03:36 AM |
| 182 | Men aren’t asking you on coffee dates because they care about your safety or convenience.• He’ll expect sex if he pays for a dinner Many women fall into the trap of thinking that the problem lies in the "paying the dinner", not realizing that the problem is - you went out with a man who expect sex from you. That's it. Going out with a man like that, he will expect sex from you anyway even if you do 50/50, go to coffee dates, park dates, laundry dates, hell social distance dates across the street. Even is all he bought you is a 50 cent candy, he still will expect sex from you coz "b-… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 03:09 AM |
| 24 | Lets talk about COWARD MenI still stand by my worries for you sis, and although you know better about your situation that me - at least don't accept dates in those sketchy areas again please - investigate beforehand or at least walk away as soon as possible. It is a date, it should be an iron-clad rule to do dates at safe places. The man should prioritize the woman's safety - it is one of those basic courtship etiquettes. What you and your friends are doing is adventure - and I am sure you look after each other. Dates wi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 02:53 AM |
| 65 | Lets talk about COWARD MenOn one date, he suggested a place which was not in a great area. Sis, sis, SIS! Next time the second anyone, ANYONE suggest going to a place you know is not in a safe area, block and delete. Just, no. Don't rationalize it please - this is a hazard warning. You need to stay safe, and that means no dates in bad places, ever. I don't even accept dinner dates after 8PM - it is either early dinner or lunch - and in places I can investigate before. It is better to be extra careful than having to fend … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 02:33 AM |
| 3 | When a Man Negs You, Find a Way to Turn It Back on HimNo, I just give some bullshit excuse and basically being a stubborn ass mule until one of us give up - and that definitely ain't me. Maybe I am just too lazy but explaining means more talking - and more debate because apparently when a woman choose, "she doesn't know what she is doing!!!". I just cut them off as soon as possible. I believe that "just communicate!!" gaslighting extend to families and friends too and unless your family is really, really healthy - FDS rules apply to them too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 06:33 PM |
| 3 | When a Man Negs You, Find a Way to Turn It Back on HimSometimes you just gotta dip your toe in and make some people really, really mad for awhile. I've purposely not going home for holidays these couple of years (I go back after) and at first, they literally act like I killed their pets or something. But 3 years in and they give up, even start to beg me nicely because they "miss" me. Lol nope. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 05:18 PM |
| 23 | Posted in reddit 'Made me smile'. The bar is in hell."Muh peepee needs wet, muh biologyyyy!!!" - scrotes in their mother's basement. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 05:10 PM |
| 83 | Posted in reddit 'Made me smile'. The bar is in hell.Funny how women do the EXACT SAME hours of work and are still expected to continue slaving away at home after work. Meanwhile according to biology, men have MORE energy and strength than women and the more they use their muscles, the better so BIOLOGICALLY speaking it is men who should continue working at home after work, NOT women. Women needs more rest because our energy production per day is limited, and we are prone to fatigue and stress-induced disease. Not to mention that monthly reminder … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 04:59 PM |
| 37 | When a Man Negs You, Find a Way to Turn It Back on HimOr the alternative for the quiet ones - I am too lazy to talk to people so this works better for me. Or in case you are dealing with coworkers, clients, bosses etc. Do the blank stare - either you look straight into his eyes menacingly or look anywhere else distractedly, and let the uncomfortable silence strech for a long, longgggg time. I found men mostly really hate that silence and try to either backtrack or gaslight you even more. That's when you sigh, roll your eyes and leave. And avoid him… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 04:24 PM |
| 178 | Never beg a man to marry youhow they’re happy in their day to day life. Yeah that's the biggest telling - reminds me of that other post of "happy as larry" girl. They all know, deep deep down that they aren't happy but choose to lie to themselves. Ladies, if you have to post on social media and try to convince other people that you are "happy" - you are lying to yourself. Breaking that bubble around you is scary, but staying in that bubble and continue lying to yourself is far more dangerous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 10:10 PM |
| 19 | Life hack: 💡Yes, there is a time and a place to “take things personally”.💡Clarity brings peace to your life. AND bravery to no longer giving a damn about offending people. This means you no longer live on shame, thus pickme and scrotes can't shame you for your boundaries. As adults people use shame as weapon to keep women "in line" whenever we stand up for ourselves - so if you longer live on shame, you are pretty much invicible. Oohh, scrotes cry wolves because you criticize their bad behaviour - well sucks to be them, life's tough when you are a manchild 😘 😘 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 08:41 PM |
| 694 | Never beg a man to marry youSometimes I wonder what's going on inside the mind of these women to NOT SEE THE DAMN RED FLAG LITERALLY PUNCHING THEM IN THE FACE!!! That brain fog from extreme denial and patriarchal brainwashing is scary indeed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 08:31 PM |
| 58 | Life hack: 💡Yes, there is a time and a place to “take things personally”.💡Accepting that we, as humans aren't the perfect kind humble nice girl-next-door martyr snow white disney good girl b*llshit that the patriarchy brainwashes us since we are born is sooooooo damn crucial too. I see too many women (especially pickmeishas) struggle tremendously with wanting to be SEEN as the kind good girl Mary Sue that they will literally excuse abuse and assault because they worry other people will think they are "bad" for being "cruel & unforgiving" to the guy. F. THAT. Genuine k… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 07:28 PM |
| 6 | Kinds of men that should be a deal-breaker but aren't, for majority of women, idk why. Note: some are a mix of all these.Men who cares too much about how he is perceived by others - the "muh social status!!" men Coward weak men - if he can't protect/stand up for you against his friends/toxic family members, don't think for a second he can protect you in real danger. Men who can't & won't fight to protect weaker people - again, if you can't trust him with your safety, why bother? Men who are addicted to something - alcohol, drugs, smoking, games. Hobby is one thing, being addicted to it is a whole nother thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 05:46 PM |
| 4 | Kinds of men that should be a deal-breaker but aren't, for majority of women, idk why. Note: some are a mix of all these.Wait, is it really?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 05:37 PM |
| 61 | Ladies, please do not sleep with a man early on. This is what will happen.No it is not. No sex before marriage is really one of those old-school thing that ought to stay in the modern dating world because it benefits women. Sure it was a patriarchy tool before (the whole saving the virgin for the man thing) - but with the economic freedom women have now, that tool is our biggest weapon. Women literally get zero, ZERO benefits from sex before marriage but bear ALL the damn risks. If you say "well women have needs too!" - asks anyone on FDS and they can all agree a damn… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 02:14 AM |
| 23 | The "Feminine Energy" Pick-MeThat EXACTLY what it is! Evertime I think about genuine feminine energy, not the weewoo crap these pickme gurus are trying to push - I just look at cats. They are graceful, don't use their energy other than absolutely necessary, and they choose who they show their love to, and scratch people who don't respect their boundaries. They don't try hard to please their owners, it is the other way around. Just follows the cats ladies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 09:40 PM |
| 10 | My milkshakes bring HVM to the yard!If they have healthy male friendship, they can prioritize whats important at the moment - family, work, relationship, emergency and their friends will be respectful of their priorities. And they don't "hang out" - rather they arrange to meet when everybodies available to catch up. And you see the friends calling them once in a random while to ask about their well-being etc. It is a deeper, more caring friendship as opposed to the shallow "hanging out with the boys!!". Also if you are the girlfri… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 05:25 PM |
| 32 | My milkshakes bring HVM to the yard!You can actively avoid falling into this type of man by being observant in the early dates. If he is the kind that have that large gang-bros and they often hang out to have fun - avoid, it is a giant red flag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 04:53 AM |
| 122 | My milkshakes bring HVM to the yard!1 - He MUST have a strong protective instict. If the first thing he does when he sees me in pain or probable danger is to freeze, ignore me or worst run away - he is trash. I don't entertain trash. The only acceptable action to seeing me in dangerous situation is spring into action and use his body to PROTECT me. Because that's how I know my future kids will be safe with him. 2 - He MUST be strong and know how to fight so he can protect me and the family. I just can't deal with weak, whiny, femi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 01:32 AM |
| 6 | Perspective | For years, I pursued men and got nowhere. Then I learned how to sit in the passenger’s seat.It does indeed, speaking as a former I-am-strong-independant-womanz! myself. Learning to be comfortable letting other people solve the problem for you is in fact, liberating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 12:04 AM |
| 415 | I feel like there are no good menThat's why you don't engage with men other than absolutely and professionally necessary. Don't debate them, don't let them waste your time, don't give them your attention. Don't tell them your secrets and don't give them any weapons to use against you - move in silence. Treat their words as the bullsh*t it is and let it fly over your head - if you need to learn from them try online or put as much distance as you can. Don't play their game, avoid it alltogether. Be like Queen Gambit - she doesn't… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 10:46 PM |
| 1 | LV partners who ask to see us in VERY specific lingerieYes, yes you can. It is your man not some random stranger - it is part of the fun of relationship, play dress up and change the routine once in a while. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 04:56 PM |
| 27 | Perspective | For years, I pursued men and got nowhere. Then I learned how to sit in the passenger’s seat.Yes, it benefits us to understand the difference between being capable of taking care of ourselves and letting a man who is interested in us, take care of us. Libfem likes to make a one-solution-fits-all when it comes to women's independence when in fact - that solution means placing more and more burden on ourselves. Listen ladies, just because women are extremely capable of doing it all does NOT mean you literally have to do it all - not in the workplace, not with your friends & family, and es… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 03:19 PM |
| 59 | One of the biggest lies sold to women is the importance of upholding the relationship at any costSociopathic means you are actively trying to hurt others. Being ruthless about your boundaries is just healthy self-preservation, and every women on this planet should practice it. This is the only way to ensure that humanity can continue to survive and not being destroyed inside out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 03:50 AM |
| 112 | One of the biggest lies sold to women is the importance of upholding the relationship at any costits ability to "make it through" everything The only way that is valid is when both the man and woman work tightly together to make it through as a team, having each other's back all the way to the end. Sadly in most (99.999999%) struggle love relationship, only the woman struggle while the man sit on his ass playing games all day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 03:36 AM |
| 56 | One of the biggest lies sold to women is the importance of upholding the relationship at any costThat one of the sign of "I am an adult! I have social status!" is having a boyfriend/husband. It weirds me out that kids as young as 12-13 nowadays are all desperate about finding their "pair" and people look at you weird when you say you are voluntarily single. Some youngins 20-something even go as far as being smug and disrespectful because they see it as a proof that I am somehow "lower" because they have boyfriend(s) and I don't. It is freakin' bollocks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 03:30 AM |
| 15 | Reminder: Being The "Cool Girl" who isn't "materialistic" will get you nothing.Have it this way then - be non-materialistic about your own life - there's nothing wrong with that since it is completely in your control. Splurge when you want, save when you want. But never extend that treatment to man who wants to date you - because that is his choice, and he has to know what that involves. What you do with your own money and life has nothing to do with him, it is none of his business. He wants you to free your time up for him - that comes at a cost. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 02:51 AM |
| 15 | The Dying Art of ConversationAnd there are people who have those issues and suffer from it, not those men being dry af and uncaring and using it as a shield 🙄 And you can detect when someone has the real issue - they will be awkward and fumbling around, but you can see they try their hardest to engage with you. Because they are interested, so they put in the bloody effort. If the man doesn't even bother to try, you too shouldn't bother with him. Block and delete ladies, stop wasting your time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 02:44 PM |
| 10 | The Dying Art of ConversationOr even if they do talk - it is all about trying to prove that they are the greatest amongst thy brethen. They try to dominate over each other and conquer the conversation. And if you happen to sit with them, they will all trip over themselves trying to prove to you that they are great, the other guys are bad. It is so boring. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 02:32 PM |
| 92 | FDS theories confirmed"He says that older women seeking a husband should avoid men who have never married into their late 30s and 40s who have high-paid - even dubbing some of them 'unmarriageable'" Also they all tend to look the same - dadbod (ironic) beer belly and very bad posture from unsedetary lifestyle, but have this smug swagger walking because they think they are the shit. And that creepy unblinking stares when they look at pretty women. In short, jabba the hut vibes. Ugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 03:55 PM |
| 18 | Listen to your GUT not your Heart: guys will fake a nice first date and drop effort OR try a switch a roo as their masks slipMore and more dates that slowly turns from generic after the first few dates into more personalized ones the more he got to know you. The initial pace should be constant but not overwhelming - because he is also in the period of getting to know you and seeing if you two can work out. Ideally, the pace should pick up after you both are sure about moving forward with this relationship and this is when things start getting personal - visiting families and stuff. And, after 6 months to a year (depen… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 12:59 AM |
| 203 | I left a perfectly good man because FDS made me believe I could do better. And you were rightI've seen so many married and long term couples who at first glance, look happy - but the longer I watch them, the more I notice how alone and stressed the wives are. Even when she works and bring half the income (or being the breadwinner) yet housework and kids are all on her - coz it is the "woman's job". Meanwhile single ass me sitting here playing with my phone and procrastinating on laundry because I am free. They can threaten "the doom of singlehood" all they want, I'll take this lifestyle… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 06:44 PM |
| 61 | Every LVM's apology ever, to a t. Bonus points: doesn't include an actual apology :)"you were busy so I had to fuck somebody else" Cheaters always use this excuse - like... don't you have hobbies dude? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 08:53 PM |
| 25 | “Women catch feelings easier than men”Nopeeeeeee all you have to do is smile/have a happy face, and happen to glance in their direction. The speed at which they catch the Goddamn feelings will make even The Flash wince. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 01:01 AM |
| 59 | Stop having sex with men who can’t master vanilla.Anyway, our mom’s didn’t have anal sex. Actually, it was seen as depraved. Can't agree more. I understand the purpose in homosexual relationship, but I don't see why you need to allow that when you have a perfectly functioning sex organ. And as far as I am know, women don't get off from anal sex. In this case, only the guy gets off while you have to prepare so thoroughly so that you don't end up injured. It is depraved. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 12:51 AM |
| 214 | No one inherently HV or LV. We are what we repeatedly do.100% the truth. At the end of the day, the goal is not to find "the perfect HVM so that I can finally have my happily ever after" - it is about no matter what happens, you choose to prioritize your happiness, every time. People, things, circumstances change over time, nothing stays the same. Whether that change is good or bad, FDS at its core wants you to choose the path that maximize your benefits - that includes not beating yourself black and blue when things get bad. Sometimes you just gotta … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/21 05:18 PM |
| 33 | Men will date/marry women they aren’t even attracted to/like, if their appearance brings them status.That's why you don't chase a man, you don't ask a man out, you don't have crushes and imagine the idealized version of a man - you let the man chase and if he shows that he is not into you, you move on immediately. If he wanted to, he would. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 05:27 AM |
| 284 | Men will date/marry women they aren’t even attracted to/like, if their appearance brings them status.Yep, in many, manyyyyy couples both married and long term - it is blatant that the man is not attracted to the woman, he just tolerates her. Ladies, if the man prefers spending time with their friends, video games, work, hell even their dog more than you, and pull a face when he has to put effort for you - he is just tolerating you. If the date feels generic, if his affection is too much or too little, if he keeps looking at his phone even when you are in front of him, if the silence feels awkwa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 05:08 PM |
| 281 | A man asked, "most men aren't bad so why don't women trust us all?" Here is my my reply:Yep, "most" men aren't r*pist but "most" men will victim blame and don't stand up when women and children are harassed. "Most" men are accomplices. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 03:19 PM |
| 86 | Romance is not Love, Romance is Fun - About the role romance has in relationships100% agree - romance and genuine love is two very different thing. And no, it is not love when you are dating and everything is fun and easy. It is like a seed versus a tree - true love takes time and life testing you again and again until its root grows deep. Love is when you are tired and weary with life challenges yet found support and peace with each other. You are not in love until your bond are thoroughly tested and yet it remains firm. Don't confuse it with struggle love though - if you a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 12:56 PM |
| 19 | You should have a “hoe phase!”I've also witnessed and experienced the extreme in the other direction. Celibacy and fear of men. I was ready to quit dating all together and began to focus on me instead of everyone else. I was sickened by how men are, how they treat women, and how no matter how much I communicated my values and expectations, NVM only thought of "Hurr Durr get dick wet". I was disgusted, disenchanted, and figured I would be that awesome Aunt that travels the world. I was happy with being that. And then I met my… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 05:21 AM |
| 18 | You should have a “hoe phase!”I do believe women as a whole crave loving intimacy more than the act of sex itself - aka low sex drive but high intimacy drive. Like so many widows choose to stay single and don't mind a sexless life if they are happy enough - but you rarely will find a widower like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 04:16 AM |
| 8 | When evaluating a man, don't just look at how you perceive his behaviour. Also look at the factual realities of your life before/after he came into it.in a kind of parallel universe where they are lovely, amazing people, everyone from the outside world agrees that they are lovely, amazing people, but once they go home to their husbands, they enter a gaga-world where he makes her feel like there's something fundamentally wrong with her. All without laying a hand on her, all without a any easily visible signs of abuse. That's what my mum calls it: The gaga-world. Damn sis this was exactly what my childhood bullying was! I was viciously bullied m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 04:07 AM |
| 9 | When evaluating a man, don't just look at how you perceive his behaviour. Also look at the factual realities of your life before/after he came into it.Life with a good partner doesn't have it's "ups and downs". Not with the partner, no. But life in general always has ups and downs but the difference being the world's economy is suffering so you two endure a hard time vs he is being a totally lazy POS and won't find a better job or help around the house. The former is a challenge but you can withstand it because you have great support, the latter just make your life miserable day in day out, even when everything else (money, career) is stable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 03:11 AM |
| 86 | You should have a “hoe phase!”'Hoe phase', 'Hot girl summer' etc is just libfem conditioning which tries to convince women that they can "reclaim their sexuality" by fucking around. Libfem is really just pickmeishas wanting to get on the good side of patriarchy by being complicit with the brainwashing. Their "clapback" to abuse by men is by voluntarily get in the abuse and claim it is "empowerment" so that all the innocent women will get in with the program. What a joke. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 08:31 PM |
| 520 | You should have a “hoe phase!”Also interesting to note that women who have tried celibacy for extended periods of time reported that the urges to have constant sex goes away, but the need for intimacy and loving attention remains. They still want sex, but it has to be higher quality where they feel safe and loved and cared for. They don't want just sex, they want the whole experience and the sex itself is the lowest priority. It is different from men - when they say physical needs, usually it means sex. So I believe the cult… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 06:54 PM |
| 10 | A golden comment from this subI've known a few, but it is very very rare indeed. Most of the responsible fathers I know grew up already learning responsibilities from young, and know how to endure hardship. They have that training since young but also retain the empathy and compassion of their earlier age. A somewhat relevant example is How to DAD. I don't know his as a husband but watching how his children interact with him, looks like he is a responsible dad. But majority of men don't have that training, much less that sen… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 11:06 PM |
| 28 | A golden comment from this subA lot of men just want the image of happily married man and all the benefits of having the woman of the house without even thinking what all those actually entails - they are far more short-sighted than what they portray. They literally think it is that easy - just get married and things will work out somehow because that's what it has always been for them - not realizing how many sacrifices, blood, sweat and tears are drawn to ensure their spoiled little ass can continue living life comfortably… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 07:07 PM |
| 25 | Women: Don't accept a single neg. Check out the dating advice men give each other.It is Sigma male now apparently, because people starting associating Alpha with cringe asshole dickwad so they all flock to the aloof i-walk -my-own-road Sigma male. Funny thing is, before all these alpha sigma bs got popular, it is all about hustling culture, bodybuilding, anarchy etc - now it is the same basement dweller prattling about (suprise!) women wanting their "alpha/sigma" asses but they dont give a f because "alpha/sigma". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 06:43 PM |
| 30 | Pickmes and 🤡🤡🤡: “If you are so picky, you are going to be single forever.”Also interesting to note that when you see married couple who had a rough life but got each other back, the husband being HVM and all - the woman does age but she radiates happiness and contentment that makes her look really beautiful in this serene mature way. Woman in toxic relationship, no matter how young, great looking, comfortable rich life they have, always feel resentful and bitter and just overall negative. You really don't want to be around them for long because the negativity affects … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 12:51 AM |
| 115 | Pickmes and 🤡🤡🤡: “If you are so picky, you are going to be single forever.”The correct advice should be : moisturize and stay away from toxic men. Nothing age you faster that dealing with the toxicity day in day out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 08:37 PM |
| 131 | Pickmes and 🤡🤡🤡: “If you are so picky, you are going to be single forever.”I know a few "crazy cat lady" and they are all totally happy with their lives. Who doesn't, surrounded by cats! It is always a man coming to me and trying to convince me the cat lady are "miserable" like scrote, please who are you trying to fool. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 08:34 PM |
| 220 | Pickmes and 🤡🤡🤡: “If you are so picky, you are going to be single forever.”There's not one instance - not even ONE where a pickme tell me this, and they themselves are in a happy relationship. Those who are happy always tell me to take my time and that being single is better than being with the wrong person. That sums it up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 08:31 PM |
| 40 | I can’t help but feel there’s some propaganda going on to influence women away from education/ financial success… in favour of being a dedicated wife to a less intelligent, low earning partner. Here’s the evidence & my response:Society benefits from women suffering because they will always have a continuous supply of desperate pickmes wringing themselves dry to please the patriarchal men, and exhausted women that are easily taken advantage of. If all women collectively wisen up and be ruthless in their standards - the current patriarchal society will crumble and they will be forced to change for the better. They don't want that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 06:21 PM |
| 19 | Flip the scriptIt is sad to think that when we finally, finally got all the freedom and rights our ancestors can only dream of - we allow this insulting treatment on dates because patriarchy got us truly believe that we need the man because... f knows why. They played us good. Yeah I understand the desire to be in a happy healthy loving relationship - but that doesn't equate give them your body because they pay for the bloody food. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 02:16 PM |
| 25 | Flip the scriptRight? Flip the script and demand the guy to sleep with you or marry you or whatever because you pay for dates - and watch them go bonkers yelling how abusive and wrong that is. Yet somehow when it comes to us, this is "normal" and we are weird if we don't want to partake in it. What in the bloody hell. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 01:09 PM |
| 22 | Flip the scriptSadly patriarchy has been bullying us as long as humanity exist, and yeah they only get a slap on the wrist every time. I am referring to the particular early dating stage - where the man have to act decent and gentlemanly for the chance to court the woman - while the woman have zero rights back then, in that aspect the society helps them have some control. Now we get all the rights and freedom the women before can only dream off, we can date to our liking instead of for survival, we won't get s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 01:02 PM |
| 72 | Flip the scriptYeah it is not about sex before or after marriage or whatnot - but the current situation is that, woman are expected to be open to sexual activities on demand, like what we feel doesn't matter - if we don't want to engage, there is "something wrong" with us. We are treated worse than animal, that's the problem. Sex?? for dinner?? A sex worker charge double, heck triple, quadruple that amount. Are we that cheap?? Why are we allowing this kind of horrible, insulting treatment from a man - just bec… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 04:45 AM |
| 82 | Flip the scriptOf course there are assholes on every decade, but at least they face consequences before. I can still remember a time where this kind of attitude (expecting sex on first date) will get the guy shamed by the society. Sleazy dudes still did it, but it is all hush-hush because they know it is wrong. Now if the woman don't want to sleep with him on the first date, she is the "wrong" one. Seriously WTF. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 04:38 AM |
| 213 | Flip the scriptshe was absolutely terrified to let a man pay because she would feel obligated to him and she feared how he'd react if she rejected his expectation for sex BECAUSE he paid for dinner So a woman have to "pay back" with her body when a man pays for the dates... The current dating scene literally brainwashing us into placing our worth even lower than that of an animal. WTF happened?? Last I remember our grandfathers had to keep their hands to themselves and bring the women back before 10 pm. No fun… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 03:31 AM |
| 13 | How do you feel when people say “ a man needs to feel needed”?It is the difference between HVM recognizing what he can do to make you happy/solve your problem/improve your life etc. and act on it versus LVM wanting you to pretend to be weak so they can feel "manly" and needed. HVM have no problem being with independent woman because they know what to do to be reliable, LVM just screech and whine when independent woman don't wanna play their stronk boi fantasy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 06:44 PM |
| 6 | Never call a man out for negging youDo it this way: 1) They neg on chats or phone, where no one but you see it and they can manipulate your answer anyway they want? Don't engage, just block and delete. 2) It is a date in a fancy restaurant and his negging is subtle, something that you can't catch but your gut is telling you something is off? Up and leave, bathroom and ghost, block and delete. 3) Retaliating to his negging have high chances of putting you in real danger or making you look crazy or like the abuser? Disengage immedia… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 07:05 PM |
| 2 | Thanks for keeping us awareYepppp definitely something criminal, or at least a very bad and selfish scrote expecting you to go with his whim. Next time go straight to the store employee and ask them to tell that dude off. Or call 911 while you go and hide. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 06:14 PM |
| 26 | Thanks for keeping us awareeg. my happily married dad is always more likely to ask a lady for directions when lost Ugh, especially if you have a nice resting face. I suck at direction but people of all races, gender and nationality rather brave the crowd to ask me for direction - because I look "nice and kind". Face mask is a blessing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 10:34 AM |
| 49 | Thanks for keeping us awareIf he actually needs help, a true masculine-minded man will never ask a woman for help - it is a pride thing, they rather suffer and die than being seen ask weak in front of a woman. If a man especially ask a woman for help, it comes with hidden intention. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 10:29 AM |
| 9 | "You will end up 40, alone and desperate, because you so stuck up". A teardown of one of the most common negs out there.Ladies, the next time another scrote/family/pickmeisha/"friend" try to neg you with this BS, try smiling and calmly say "Oh, is that so?" and watch them continue to expose the real truth - it is their projection and the more calm and unbothered you appear, the more desperate they are becoming. It will be an absolutely eye-opening moment to see the raw truth directly from the horse's mouth. It is funny watching (mostly younger) scrotes trying to neg me with that (In my 30s, so got that a lot) and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 09:02 PM |
| 43 | Passive men are a huge turn off, and actually dangerous.Your case reminds me of that one nerdy scrote with a hot wife whose a drunk friend blatantly stated, in front of them and his other friends that he wanted to r**e his wife. His wife was crying and shaking on the way back and you know what he says? He doesn't "understand" why his wife was upset with him and the whole situation, his friend was just "joking" and his wife was being "too sensitive". Even the reddit community ripped him apart and hoping his wife leave him asap. Spineless passive man a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 03:25 PM |
| 57 | "Have no expectations, then you won't be disappointed" and "Stop expecting so much" being thrown around like they'll help you.There's also two types of expectations: A) Expectations you placed entirely on others and wanting them to be and behave exactly the way you want. Type A stems from a place of deep insecurity. You feel like you didn't have control of your own life so you lash out by trying to control other people - your partner, your children, your family, your friends. This is the type of wives that expect their husbands to be a certain way and is full of rage, insecurity and jealousy, all the time. You want to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 08:40 PM |
| 30 | The dates where nice, and he was a gentleman. However….There's no such thing as being too "sensitive" when the man is purposely testing your boundaries like this. Actual paranoia and chronic distrust are very, very different from you being uncomfortable with his manipulation. No sane, mentally healthy man who is trying to court you will do this - it is just common sense that is sadly uncommon in todays world. He is an asshole, good riddance op. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 04:39 PM |
| 2 | FDS is BACK!I am sooo glad, the wait was worth it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 09:15 AM |
| 18 | I surveyed a bunch of men so you don't have to! : Why guys ask those VERY personal questions100% the truth - it is the greatest tool ever to see whether the man you are speaking to care about you or not. If they go on and on and on all night without ever reciprocating - you got your answer. No more next time. Also the added benefit of watching them clowning themselves the more they flap their mouth. You can know so much without ever needing to do anything - that's so entertaining (to me at least, haha). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 08:30 PM |
| 192 | Sis needs helpI just lost the love of my life Can we please, pleaseeee STOP with this "the love of my life" rhetoric in dating? Love is something that takes years, years to grow and it comes with its share of life testing the two people's bond over and over again, yet the bond remains firm. That's love. Old couple still madly in "love" with each other despite all of life harsh circumstances - that's love. It is a fully formed tree with roots deep underground. You seeing someone and do fun stuff together isn't… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 07:35 PM |
| 66 | I surveyed a bunch of men so you don't have to! : Why guys ask those VERY personal questionsYep! Some women complain that those men talk too much during dates, not allowing them turn but that's a great vetting strategy! Just let em talk all night long and rip their own mask off - we just need to sit there, enjoy the dinner, and smile. F making "connections", make them show their true selves instead. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 07:13 PM |
| 11 | Queens, we have angered reddit again...😂 The comments are really nice.murdering men that aren’t attractive Bu-but FDS make posts about having height and peen size standard! That's literally violence! /s For real tho, they equate us with male incels. What a joke. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 06:08 PM |
| 179 | I surveyed a bunch of men so you don't have to! : Why guys ask those VERY personal questionsThis is such a great post, thank you for making this! I am saving it! This is why I hate, hateeeeee conversing with men (and pickmes, unsurprisingly) because they always, ALWAYS asking you very private questions that no stranger have any business knowing. Me and my best friends only get to each others private matters after months of friendship, not on first meeting. I am very private so every time a man wants to "chat", I always end up feeling like being interrogated. Hate it. If you can't make … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 04:04 PM |
| 22 | LVM: I build. I’m a pRotEctOr 🤣 FDS….They love saying most of the top chefs are males. Other men are top chefs, not them. But somehow you have to applaud them for other people's achievement. Talk about riding coattails, how shameful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 03:54 PM |
| 19 | The most painful part of heartbreak is realizing that he’s never truly loved you. He might’ve even hated you. How to cope with it?Well, honestly it goes wayy back to our childhood - boys get away with "boys will be boys" but girls are expected to be good and obedient otherwise we face consequences. This is a worldwide-women problem regardless of social status. It is a deep-rooted brainwashing, designed to make women people-pleaser - so that the patriarchy will always have someone to cater to them. We all at some point in time, cares too much about how people perceive us, and internalize every bad treatment with "what did I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 11:06 AM |
| 59 | Lies liberal feminists tellyou are just VANILLA It is just like those "cool girls" in high school sneering at you because you refuse to do drugs and dangerous questionable shit - "You are such a goody two shoes!" No sis, I just choose to use common sense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 09:18 PM |
| 29 | I think all women should have height requirements actually. 😌Yep, that's why women gaining chest sizes due to weight gain, pregnancy or plastic surgery suffer backache - they don't have the support they need. Same as bigger ass require bigger hips and thighs - they need support. Scrotes just want big boobs and ass while everything else must remain small and dainty? Go get a sex doll. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 09:10 PM |
| 64 | I think all women should have height requirements actually. 😌“I want a small girl with boobs an ass” Meanwhile biology be like "To carry the extra weight of naturally bigger boobs you need wider shoulder and ribcage" - so that's why usually larger breasted girls looks "wider". But that's "too masculine/fat" for scrotes. They want pornified version of women, not the real deal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 06:56 PM |
| 52 | Don't ever get trappedOur strong sense of responsibility, fairness and empathy are truly our enemy in this case. Many kind women I know don't mind paying for/supporting other people because they have money. But they are the biggest prey from LVMs - they know they can use the woman's kindness against her in the name of "love". We women need to internalize the cruciality of treating men with discipline, not kindness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 10:55 PM |
| 79 | Thoughts on Building With A Man20 year old neighbor I pray that young man will continue to be like that until the end of his life. One can always hope! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 10:49 PM |
| 51 | Thoughts on Building With A ManIndeed, especially in our current society. These men who still stuck in their 5-years old mindset are everywhere. They are way, wayyy too spoiled. I remember in my late grandpa's time, men acting like this will be shamed and bullied because it was extremely insulting for a man to behave like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 10:31 PM |
| 162 | Thoughts on Building With A ManYou can also look at it this way - a genuine HVM with moral values, integrity, and a sense of responsibility would want to make sure his life is stable and he can afford a married life before he goes out and find his future wife. Because relationship requires time and money. If his life is still all over the place - why would he waste time dating? He would be focusing on the important goals first - aka making money and stabilizing his life. He doesn't have to be mega millionaire rich - but a HVM… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 10:05 PM |
| 55 | If ever in doubt, ladies, read this.Also, “confusing” ?????? How condescending. The only reason any of us are confused is because men stay beating around the bush. They know there’s no way to explain their behavior truthfully without sounding like a complete user. Women like to think these scrotes's thinking are mysteriously complex and as deep as the iceberg - because of how confusing they are. In reality their mind is so simple and perverse, they have to do all that bullshit confusing roundabout to hell and back talk just to mak… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 09:03 PM |
| 29 | If ever in doubt, ladies, read this."You have to be a guy to understand" Ah yes, "thy man" argument that scrotes think sounds like they are this really great "being" unfathomable to our mere mortal women's eyes. While in reality women tend to think a man she likes is "more that meets the eye", while the man in question is as interesting as a rock. Sis, there's nothing "complex" about their reasoning. Their pee-pee wanna smash, so they seek you out. Simple as that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 08:58 PM |
| 26 | Don't ever get trappedYou go sis!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 07:51 PM |
| 125 | Don't ever get trappedThis is why I am against co-owning/leasing anything with a man. Let say he is at six figures and you are at four - co-owning/leasing usually ends up him wanting something at his level, so you end up being more financially burdened. I am a fan of letting him pay - but making sure he never touches my money. So if things go bad - at least I am not chained by anything I couldn't afford. And can rent something at my level almost immediately. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 07:35 PM |
| 72 | Don't ever get trappedAlso NEVER fall into the trap of "50/50 relationship". KEEP YOUR ASSETS SOLELY UNDER YOUR NAME! Remember the mantra - your money is YOUR MONEY, his money is for the family. Let him provide and pay for all the bills, while invest your money in your secret assets. He doesn't need to know your financial business anyway. Let men do their job ladies, don't let them skimp on their responsibilities! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 07:27 PM |
| 8 | Pewdiepie is a scrote to the world and to his wife. Look at their couple quiz and see how deeply imbalanced with their relationship and how normalized it is. 🤡 Raise your standards, ladies.and he has a point about Starbucks coffee and other expensive treats. I mean, if you’re broke at the end of the month and you have a daily $4 Starbucks habit and $15 lunch, his $0.20 iced coffee hack and “cook at home using cheap Trader Joe’s food” advice is literally cash money. This one kind of rubs me the wrong way because I grew up very poor, and starbucks and such is "very fancy drinks that rich people buy". So I understand very well the feeling of finally having your own money and affordin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 05:30 PM |
| 43 | Pewdiepie is a scrote to the world and to his wife. Look at their couple quiz and see how deeply imbalanced with their relationship and how normalized it is. 🤡 Raise your standards, ladies.While we are on the topic, does anyone here watches Graham Stephen? Considering he talks all the time about his millionaire-ness and being financial savvy, he does 50-50 with his much younger girlfriend (she is early 20s while he is 30-something). And complain about starbucks coffee and pet food being "expensive". His advice about finance is good but after knowing the above, reeks LVM attitude to me. And oh once he watched this video about a sugar baby buying a new house. And the way he looks at… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 02:32 PM |
| 74 | Don't have your life revolve around menAnother thing I want to add is - do not make HAPPINESS a GOAL. A lot of women fall into the rhetoric that once you find a man, you will finally be happy - that's how you will be forever unhappy and keep wondering what you did wrong. Happiness is a state of mind, you are either happy or not. You actually can train yourself to be happy by being grateful and appreciative of the little things - a good food, a nice weather, a pretty flower by the roadside etc. By doing this, you will train your brain… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 06:02 PM |
| 20 | Yeesh girl, no 😬 Sorry, but the guy is right here, he knows.IDK about slutty but definitely desperate. Something like "well if she is willing to go this far for ME, she must be very desperate for ME". Instant turn off because men, no matter what they say likes to chase, not be chased. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 12:21 PM |
| 12 | Do NOT listen to men when they say richer men don’t care about your educational background or job statusYeah, coming from higher education circle myself - men both HVM and LVM/NVM/ZVM all want equals when it comes to finding a spouse. The LVMs will play around with women from lower education background, but in the end they all say the same thing - that they can't bond with those women because of the vast difference in how they perceive the world. Think about it, when you decide to be with someone for a very long time - you definitely want someone who is at your level at least - so that you both se… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 08:01 PM |
| 49 | Being “understanding” will get you NOWHERE with men. They will lie, use, cheat, and abuse you. Save your empathy ONLY for your close family, children, & trusted friends.If there's one thing to take from FDS, it is that we, as women HAVE to be tough and firm with men. Doesn't mean we have to be assholes and screaming bloody murder to them - but we have to take the disciplinarian role. No cleaning up after them, no excusing and forgiving bullshit behaviors, no giving them 2nd 3rd 4th chances, no giving them the benefit of the doubt, no coddling them. Call their spade the damn spade and cut them off immediately at the first sign of bullshittery. Shame them for the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 10:29 AM |
| 27 | I don’t really have words for this one.Nope 18 years old are still kids. Especially in the current generation. Yes they can drive, can buy alcohol, can legally do all the "adult" things - but their brain is just barely starting the maturity process and it has been confirmed that our brain didn't fully develop until 25. That's not taking into account emotional and psychological maturity. I remember being regarded as mature at 18 and early 20s, but looking back now I definitely not anywhere near my current self. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 03:47 PM |
| 10 | Pickmeisha is not like the other girls, so she’ll only befriend men when they only want to be her friend so they can fuck herAdd to that of them always wanting to dominate the conversation and talk about themselves all the bloody fucking time, wanting standing ovation for doing the simplest shit, always wanting to "teach" and "remind" you how you know nothing and they know everything, and without fail reminding you that you are just a woman and they are "the man". Unless they are genuine HVMs, you will never be their "friend". You merely exist to serve them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 11:21 AM |
| 64 | Pickmeisha is not like the other girls, so she’ll only befriend men when they only want to be her friend so they can fuck herThe "fun" ones are definitely the ones we need to be extra careful with. Most "fun" people I met have been narcissists, and always, always flipped the second things don't go their very specific way. A lesson indeed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 09:57 PM |
| 3 | "It's ok if he cheats on me, my bills are getting paid." And other pick-me mom comments.would rather be forever single and for people in my culture to look down on me or with pity Same boat sis, same boat. Not just older women, even younger women in their early 20s look down on me being 30 and never had a boyfriend. Because culturally, the sign that you are "desirable" as a woman is to have a man. No matter how shitty you are treated, that "having-a-man" title is worth it all. And I am here sipping my tea and enjoying my peace, cocking my eyebrows at their "pity" while they stay aw… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 09:40 PM |
| 80 | Pickmeisha is not like the other girls, so she’ll only befriend men when they only want to be her friend so they can fuck herYep, toxic people are everywhere - the thing that makes LVM/NVM seem "attractive" is the same thing that makes pickmeisha seems interesting - they are the loudest, showiest, most dominating person in the room. And often great talkers and very charming - at first. Most people gravitate towards them. And that's how you get the stereotype of "gossipy girl friends". You need to vet potential friends just as hard and firm as you would vet potential suitors. And don't hesitate to cut off toxic friends… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 09:27 PM |
| 398 | Pickmeisha is not like the other girls, so she’ll only befriend men when they only want to be her friend so they can fuck herIf you try to befriend a bunch of pickmeishas/narcs (or both), yeah this is a common occurrence. But just how it is with toxic people, they are the loudest and showiest group of people and seems attractive initially - people love drama afterall, and pickmes are the definition of drama. Normal healthy minded girls mostly keep to themselves and because they are content just living peacefully, they often seem "boring" and thus overlooked. You gotta learn how to differentiate between toxic people an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 07:11 PM |
| 4 | If someone does not meet your standards, it is better to just not date them at all, rather than date them and try to change them into the person you actually want to date.100% agree! Getting into relationship with the mindset of changing and molding the partner into what we desire is a sign of internal issue. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 04:47 PM |
| 10 | There’s no way these ladies are serious…🙃Though, if you meet a guy who willingly and enthusiastically chop chop firewoods for you - you might wanna keep him around because hey, firewoods supply. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 01:49 PM |
| 23 | Why double your risk of STIs, when you can triple it? Tik Tok Pick Me logic at its finest :SYep, these pick mes forgot that our patriarchal society sees men cheating and sleeping with lots of women as "being manly". They got the bro-pat and high fives. While women doing the exact same thing? - "Oh, she is a cheap wh\re"* and "deserve" everything that's coming for her. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 08:29 PM |
| 13 | Don't trust men's words, trust their actions.You have to start not making your entire judgement based on first impression and what you think and start thinking "but we will see". "Well he seems nice but we will see" "Oh he talks about how he helped the old lady, he seems great but we will see." "He texted me every day, seems attentive but we will see" It is not about thinking the best or the worst of people - it is about not relying on your perception of those people. We tend to project what we think onto those people - but the reality mig… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 07:45 PM |
| 85 | Why double your risk of STIs, when you can triple it? Tik Tok Pick Me logic at its finest :SSadly this way of thinking is very prevalent in medias, books, comics, and mangas especially for teenagers and young adults. These young girls believe that getting the scrote to "taste his own medicine" will magically makes him rethink his entire existence, but in reality - scrote just gonna use your revenge cheating as "proof" that you are (excuse my language) - "for the streets". And his horde of bros and pickmeishas will back him up while conveniently forgetting his faults. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 07:31 PM |
| 8 | It astounds me how pickmes can be so... malicious.That's great sis, I am happy for you! (she would do strings-attached favors) Ohhh yes, I feel you on this one - the "kind favors" that were actually debt with hugeee interest that you never knew you signed up for. I've come to a point where if anyone bring up what they've "done for me" in the past, I cut them off right then and there. Who told them to do those thing for me? Sucks being them, assholes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 07:35 PM |
| 16 | It astounds me how pickmes can be so... malicious.Damn sis why are you still friends with her, just cut her out. Close friend or not, toxic POS is still a toxic POS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 07:08 PM |
| 38 | It astounds me how pickmes can be so... malicious.The day that a man we'd both met asked for my number (instead of hers) was the day she started smearing me to mutual friends. Ah yes, the smear campaign. Nothing out out their mouth can be trusted, nothing. It is almost fascinating, just how evil they can be when you just happen to get the attention instead of them - like a switch suddenly flipped on and now they talk like you just destroyed their entire extended family. I wonder what they feel when doing the smear - are they happy? Or are they … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 03:38 PM |
| 23 | It astounds me how pickmes can be so... malicious.by coming on way too strong Oh OH do you also experience them trying to drape themselves all over you? Like they have no respect of personal space whatsoever and try to "stick" themselves to you while conversing? It is sooooo weird, and creepy. Like lovebombing female-friendship edition. Usually they’re snarky about the man I’m talking about in question. Not even boyfriend, they get snarky when men, any men happens to give anyone other than them attention. They will be all smiley but their face … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 03:29 PM |
| 19 | It astounds me how pickmes can be so... malicious.I see, that makes sense. There's definitely a pattern of "I am better than all of women, look at me!" with pickme narcs. I remember these pickmes treating me in this weird, bossy way when they first know me - because although I don't hide my achievements, I am quiet and laid back. Seems like they thought I am a pushover, lol. ETA: omg I just remembered that the pickme narc I knew referred a lot to Jesus and his love. The underlying implication being that she was oh-so-Christ like, lol. Sissss … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 03:21 PM |
| 63 | It astounds me how pickmes can be so... malicious.If you think about it, a non-pickme will be guarded with men and let intimacy unfold naturally, and it should be the same for female friends too. Sometimes two women will definitely hit it off right away Agree with you 100% on this! The older I get, the more I get wary of "Omg we are BFFs!" women because that's not how normal, non-toxic people become friend. It takes time and there will be uncomfortableness at the beginning, definitely none of that "we are besties!" right away, like in elementar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 02:46 PM |
| 33 | Why it always seemed like that one mean friend always gets the best boyfriend…I am looking forward to that story sis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 08:56 PM |
| 3 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common arguments (Part. 6)Thank you for the kind words sis! xD My self respect is more important than any feelings I might have towards a man. Always. Yep, it sounds shocking and totally against any of the moral values we have been taught growing up - but the key to a great life is always, always about prioritizing yourself before others, especially men. We have to be 100% ruthless with men and never let them skip out of their designed responsibilities. This way, when we do start prioritizing others, we do it out of sinc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 04:46 PM |
| 2 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common arguments (Part. 6)I am so happy for you sis! You deserve all of it! Go you! Yep, once you taste that HVM treatment, you will slap yourself silly thinking "Why on earthy did I put up with so much shit before??" Like FDS said, once you go HV, you can no longer stomach any LVs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 04:37 PM |
| 2 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common arguments (Part. 6)That's the spirit sister! Go and get the life you deserve! xD | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 04:34 PM |
| 2 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common arguments (Part. 6)Yeah there should be absolutely no fear of losing out or obligation in something as important as choosing a mate. Sadly many women fall victim to abusive marriages and shitty relationships because of that fear of "losing out on a great guy" - too many "what ifs" and not enough "nope, next." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 04:33 PM |
| 2 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common arguments (Part. 6)Sadly I think the majority of women struggle with this exact problem - feeling immense guilt when we choose to prioritize ourselves. Probably because we have been conditioned since childhood to be "nice and good" and putting ourselves first means we are "selfish and evil". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 04:30 PM |
| 170 | Am I overreacting?You tell him "hey, don't do this thing because I am sick". And he does the very damn thing you told him not to do. Block and delete sis, don't waste your time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 01:49 PM |
| 5 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common arguments (Part. 6)Lol one of them even told me to "end your life for me pleaseeee~~" - that one is gold, y'all. Such a "polite" trash, lolololll. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 07:20 AM |
| 6 | "My well off husband is "guarded with money" because of pAsT eXpErIeNcEs and sits by as I flounder. How do I convince him I'm not a gold digger and ask him to please help me so that I can stop crying myself to sleep?"(and she's probably doing 80% of the chores too) Lets be real the only "chores" he does is probably cleaning his own car or something, entirely for himself. Everything of the house is on her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 02:39 PM |
| 12 | "My well off husband is "guarded with money" because of pAsT eXpErIeNcEs and sits by as I flounder. How do I convince him I'm not a gold digger and ask him to please help me so that I can stop crying myself to sleep?"🤡 scrotes with money are still scrotes. Ugh reminds me of a youtube millionaire who talks about owning mansion in las vegas and all that jazz. While his 20-something year old girlfriend pay half of the bills. He is 30-something I believe. And yet he complains about a 50$ bulk bag of dog food and starbucks coffee being "expensive". Being financially literate is one thing, but being holier-than-thou about harmless little luxury like that? Stingy scrote are the worseeeee. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 02:34 PM |
| 22 | "My well off husband is "guarded with money" because of pAsT eXpErIeNcEs and sits by as I flounder. How do I convince him I'm not a gold digger and ask him to please help me so that I can stop crying myself to sleep?"The "50/50" relationship in itself is a lie since it will always, always be 80/20 or more on the woman's part because we carry most of the non-financial, non-physical, intangible load in the relationship - having to endure pregnancy and trauma of giving birth being one of it. Relationship is not just about getting together and paying bills - being "50/50" and making finance "equality" the main focus will guarantee that us women will play the losing position till our deathbed. Your money should b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 02:20 PM |
| 1 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argument (Part. 5)You are very much welcome and I am glad to be of help sis. Writing this series (and hopefully many more) is my way of "journaling" because I suck at actual journaling (I can't be that honest with myself, yet) - and if I can help a few sisters along the way, that's even better! =) we have so few examples of what it looks like to be a woman who has a strong character and values, is successful and accomplished, and also is comfortable embracing her femininity You wrote down exactly what I am feel… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 09:02 PM |
| 53 | Adopting a nonchalant attitude to female dark triad behavior while dating.I was questioning whether a relationship “tactic” was morally corrupt or not. That's the thing with "moral code" though - we grow up learning moral code within the realm of patriarchy, so by design, the moral code that we all know will benefit mostly men (or perhaps only men). It seems to me that men apply the moral code to their fellow men, but don't do the same to women. While women are expected to religiously follow the moral code to each other, but especially to men. Like why in the hell do … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 05:29 PM |
| 2 | Accountability for Pickmeisha actionsBecause that’s what cool girls do 🙄 That's... dumb. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 05:18 PM |
| 2 | Accountability for Pickmeisha actionsI remember getting some resistance in the comments from women who claimed they were just naturally selfless and, therefore, had to put themselves second, or even last. I got some who says they "love paying the bills" and yep - it is one of those things that are so obvious to other people, but not to the one deep in denial. Nobody is "naturally" selfless, just as much as nobody "loves" paying the bills. If pickmes are "naturally" selfless they would have no problem being "naturally" selfless with… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 06:41 PM |
| 1 | Accountability for Pickmeisha actionsWait, why does she wants to go to a strip club? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 06:38 PM |
| 23 | List of BoundariesI agree with all of the above and adding points that are more personal: I refuse to accept date invitation other than public places, and only during the day. I don't do night dates. I refuse any type of skin contact - - Yes, that includes holding hands. NO. The only time skin contact is acceptable is when there is actual danger and he is shielding me from harm. And yep that also means no kiss, no sex, no anything until after marriage. I am that difficult, what can I say. Stand at least 2 feet … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 06:06 PM |
| 14 | It isn't "classist" to want a guy who is financially stable. Some FDS followers are working class women. I cannot think of anything more privileged than telling women who have known poverty, that it is shameful to want a man who won't drag them back to poverty level.And considering they will be financially better off alone anyway - poor working women can be the most hardworking, initiative-taking women out there and if they decide to do business, they will succeed because they have the iron will to make it through. But when they get saddled with broke-ass leeches, all their hard-earned money will be lost to the void, never to be seen again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 05:37 PM |
| 31 | It isn't "classist" to want a guy who is financially stable. Some FDS followers are working class women. I cannot think of anything more privileged than telling women who have known poverty, that it is shameful to want a man who won't drag them back to poverty level.I follow Chloe_ on youtube, a black woman who is a femininity coach and she talks a lot about black women engineered to be the face of "strength". Black women are pushed to go to college, get a degree and a high paying job, and yet expected to date felons, drug dealers, and broke losers because "struggle love". If black women wants to be provided for and God forbid, want to be a stay-at-home mom? They gonna get hell from everybody. This is ridiculous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 03:53 PM |
| 30 | How all of the "Chad" stuff really soundsThere's also the aspect of - by "jocks" and "chads" they often mean the whole gang of fit men who are into sports and take good care of they looks and health. And except gymbros who are too obsessed with their looks, many fit men tend to be healthy balanced individuals who can manage their emotions and stress in a healthy way, while nerds especially adult nerds tend to sit in their rage and resentment and using coping mechanisms like games and internet echo chambers. So in summary, it is a lot o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 02:01 PM |
| 4 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argument (Part. 5)that I already consider them in debt b4 they turn up Damn sis, this is gold. They are indeed, already in debt before they even turn up on the date. They are already in the negative and women are the one bringing 100% + the whole ass table. 50/50 my ass. Men frequently use attractive women as tools to pump up their dwindling esteem and get more women- literally use them like a social ladder no remorse and still cheat/ waste their time even if they were lukewarm in the beginning and took a chance … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 11:03 AM |
| 2 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argument (Part. 5)Thank you so much for the kind words sis! People are actually suspicious of those who give too much, who are too selfless and martyr-like, because they don't respect it nor understand it. 100% the truth! Being "too nice" and a people-pleaser stems for insecurity and the constant need of validation through pleasing others - it is not genuine, and healthy-minded people can be repelled by it. But narcissists and toxic people loveee those and will prey on them 24/7. Having no boundaries is not "bein… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 10:49 AM |
| 1 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argument (Part. 5)Thank you so much for your kind words sis! I can’t fathom the amount of women who still don’t get it Yeah, so sad to realize that it is so hard convincing your fellow women that no, you are not evil for expecting to be treated well. No, you don't have to choose between be a man's slave or go 50/50 (and still slaving yourself away anyway). No, you don't have to sleep with him just because he bought you dinner or a handbag. No, you deserve being provided for even though you aren't Scarlett Johanss… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 10:27 AM |
| 3 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argument (Part. 5)1) could you go into a bit more detail about how you learned to express your gratitude appropriately? I am currently working on this and having a hard time finding a middle ground where I’m expressing my joy at receiving but not going overboard to the point where the giver might doubt if my reaction is genuine. It is gonna take some time because there is so much to study on this (me too sis, me too) but I will notify you when I post it! 2) I’d love to hear more advice about how to stay a littl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 09:31 AM |
| 2 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argument (Part. 5)Thank you so, so much for you lovely comment sis, you made me blush! I am glad you enjoy the way I write - I am not entirely confident with it yet, but I am slowly getting there! xD | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 09:15 AM |
| 1 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argument (Part. 5)Thank you so much sis! xD | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 09:12 AM |
| 1 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argument (Part. 5)What strikes me is the self-confidence required to receive with gratitude. Whether in a romantic, platonic, or professional context, and whether you are receiving gifts, services, or merely compliments, if you don’t believe you deserve it, you’ll make both yourself and the giver uncomfortable. OMG you say it sis! That explain it all - I still get anxious when someone give me unexpected gifts because I grew up without the confidence of receiving. I am slowly getting better but damn it is hard. An… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 09:12 AM |
| 2 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argument (Part. 5)Thank you so much for the kind words sis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 09:04 AM |
| 1 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argument (Part. 5)Thank you sis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 09:04 AM |
| 1 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argument (Part. 5)I put the disclaimer is Part 4 : NEVER ARGUE WITH MEN AND PICKMES, JUST WALK AWAY! I REPEAT, JUST WALK AWAY!! These points are for YOU : it is for you to internalize and reflect on what your role is as the feminine counterpart in relationship, and why you are already worthy without needing to "prove" your worth. I disagree too that HVW will make a man feel like a man. A HVM will have a strong sense of masculinity and no one will be able to shake his confidence. What I mean is that HVW can make… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 09:04 AM |
| 3 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argument (Part. 5)Thank you for your kind words sis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 08:42 AM |
| 9 | How do you end a date early?In a sit-down restaurant, do you finish your food and then go? What do you say? Do you explain anything about why you’re leaving or make up an excuse? Do you just up and leave? Lol. The short answer is : YES. No explanation is the best explanation - trying to explain or making up excuses will signal them that you are hesitating, and it opens up room for argument. And argument can lead to manipulation, he will keep saying things and you will keep feeling guiltier and guiltier. And end up giving h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 07:52 PM |
| 2 | Don't take it personally if you get banned from FDS. We ban a lot of people, it's actually very common.But not anymore. I have experienced pure evilness of pickmes desperate for male validation. I also experience it from the other end of the extreme spectrum - the man-hater women who is hell-bent on making sure all women don't have any sort of interaction ever with a guy. They pretty much shaming you for even having an interest in man. But deep down, they are also yearning for male attention and will hate you simply because you get male attention. It is exhausting, dealing with these people. I th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 07:40 PM |
| 3 | Refinery29 Article: I Earn Much Less Than My Partner, But We Split Costs Evenly. How Do I Stop Resenting Him?People will say they are doing it for “equality” but the only thing they care about splitting equally is finances. The "equality" fight should only be reserved for women's rights - education, career, freedom to vote, that sort of thing. "Equality" have no business even touching the relationship between a man and a woman because that "50/50" bullshit will always give women the short end of the stick. Always. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 07:18 PM |
| 4 | Refinery29 Article: I Earn Much Less Than My Partner, But We Split Costs Evenly. How Do I Stop Resenting Him?Women need to learn the concept of "your money is your money, his money is for the family". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 06:42 PM |
| 6 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argument (Part. 4)Going 50/50 with a man will only put us in a lose-lose position - we give so much but somehow still end up being resented for it. You really can't trust a man's word - he may say and think he likes going 50/50 because he doesn't have to work as hard, but when he is in such relationship he suddenly realize he hates it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 12:39 PM |
| 8 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argument (Part. 4)You don't. There's a difference between how HVM and LVM handle their ego - our job is to vet and carefully choose who get to be in our presence. But it doesn't mean the ego isn't there. Why does everything have to be so extreme? Why when I say women don't live or breathe respect like men do, suddenly that is interpreted as OMG men will never ever respect us everrrr, we will literally be doormats treated like trash till the day we dieeeee. If you vet and find a HVM - why would he ever do that? Is… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 07:07 AM |
| 6 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argument (Part. 4)I love your story! Indeed, being in the presence of a genuinely feminine woman is like breathing fresh air - it is such a serene and happy feeling. There is no competition, no double-meaning words, no second-guessing what she meant - just gentle acceptance. I love, love, loveee to be in the presence of comfortably feminine women - but it is becoming quite rare now. What's with everyone favoring women to be in their masculine. THIS is what men ‘experience’ on dates with us and it is worth so mu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 06:08 PM |
| 6 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argument (Part. 4)You are very much welcome and thank you for the kind words sis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 11:48 AM |
| 23 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argument (Part. 4)Men need a home to come back to which means that ultimately they need us way more than we need them. 100% the truth! Men like to say that they are "chained down" in marriage but look at how they get desperate at 30 years old with balding head trying to find a spouse to settle down with? Hell, most of my male college mates start getting desperate immediately after graduation! They know that even having wife alone elevate their social status and open so many doors - that's why they project every s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 09:18 AM |
| 12 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argument (Part. 4)Thank you so much sis! xD | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 08:25 AM |
| 8 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argument (Part. 4)Unless men can be like seahorses and start carrying the baby halfway to term - we are always, always going to end up with the short end of the stick in 50/50. Since they still expect us to shoulder the majority of housework and childcare. It is not equal in the slightest - we have been duped. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 08:25 AM |
| 6 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argument (Part. 4)LOL I am going to sleep very well tonight! xDD | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 08:23 AM |
| 5 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argument (Part. 4)Yep - we are literally the whole ass table and men are the ones needing to prove themselves or else we are gone. I really hope more and more women can realize just how valuable our presence alone is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 08:16 AM |
| 7 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argument (Part. 4)Thanks sis! Yeah I am two points in and realize it is wayy too long. So stay tuned! =) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 08:12 AM |
| 3 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argument (Part. 4)Thank you for you kind words sis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 08:09 AM |
| 18 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argument (Part. 4)I used to think maybe I'm a gold digger like they say, deep down. I hate that women are pretty much labelled a gold-digger for asking basic decency - like you aren't out there asking Prada and Luis Vutton on the spot. You just want to be treated nicely because he asked you out. What about the parasitic men who brazenly move into their girlfriend's home and mooching of her for years? Isn't that what gold-digging actually is? Yet "gold-digger" is always just women, ughh. But I still feel bad whe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 08:09 AM |
| 12 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argument (Part. 4)Sis, here's the thing - nobody asked you to change your way. You can do whatever you want - I am writing my points from observations, the news and personal experience - there's no right or wrong here. Whatever works for you, you do you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 07:59 AM |
| 41 | Update: reining in the subAlso the concern on seriously lacking representation of what a HVM and High Value example. I mean yeah the posts about NVM/LVM and pickmes are entertaining sometimes - but all the times? No wonder women are getting discouraged from dating when all you see are examples of bad men. Yeah I know what scrotes look like now, but how about HVM? What do they look like? How to spot them? How to differentiate the real deal from the fake ones? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 10:03 PM |
| 18 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argument (Part. 4)I agree with the original purpose of equality movement - aka women asking for their right to be treated like a human instead of an object lower than man - a lot of women in the past fight for and sacrifice so much for us modern women to have the freedom they can only dream of. BUT as always how it is with the damn patriarchy, the initial movement got twisted so much into making it about serving the men again - and we got to the "50/50 equality!!" bullshit right now that has nothing to do with wo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 08:36 PM |
| 19 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argument (Part. 4)feels insincere LOVE that you said this! It does feel insincere when you have to split bills with a man. It feels icky and wrong. Even in those badly written YA and romance novels, the part where the hero spoils the heroine with shopping and dinner never fail to make me smile because it feels right. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 08:05 PM |
| 23 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argument (Part. 4)I think the great thing about a complementary mindset is that we can demand and expect 100% from them because we are also bringing in our 100% that the man needs in his life. It is a dynamic where both are complete on their own, but together we create something even better. I realize that the "equality" culture is very... surface level and focusing on technical side of the relationship but won't benefit the holistic side. It is really not just about getting together and paying the bills - it is … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 07:29 PM |
| 43 | “Nobody in history, has ever gotten their freedom by appealing to the moral sense of the people who were oppressing them.” Assata ShakurIt is really hard being a pickme because they are playing a losing game - chasing after love and attention from scrotes that want them to be miserable until the day they die, while HVM avoid them like a plague. They keep suffering in the abuse loop, not realizing that the reason why they suffer so much is because of the men they keep chasing - and the secret to stop that suffering is to stop chasing those men! Alas we can never save people who don't want to save themselves, so the best we can do… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 07:08 PM |
| 15 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argument (Part. 4)You are so very much welcome sis and truly, thank goodness for finding FDS to the both of us! Honestly, if not for this sub I probably will be one of those hyper-masculina that get stroke or something by 40 because of excessive stress! Never again! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 06:43 PM |
| 2 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common arguments (Part. 2)A combination of low self esteem and a lifetime of patriarchal brainwashing has her accepting crumbs and thinking she likes kink. This is the number one reason (plus desperation and fear) why so many women end up in unhappy abusive marriage. Which is why I think FDS emphasize so much about us being happy and free alone before joining the dating world - if we let society and especially men dictate our happiness, we will suffer till the day we die. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 02:57 PM |
| 5 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common arguments (Part. 3)You are welcome sis and we are on the same journey! I too am still at the beginning of my journey and writing these posts is like a form of therapy - I suck at journaling but I can do this kind of thing so here I am! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 07:49 PM |
| 2 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common arguments (Part. 3)It is okay, I understand. Hope you will find the strength to break away from those years and get to be as happy as you want. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 07:46 PM |
| 3 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common arguments (Part. 3)Just stare at him like he's grown antlers and walk away. Can vouch for this. I accidentally did this once to my boss because I was completely stumped by what she said. She shriveled into herself almost instantly. Narcs know they are wrong, and oh boy do they world crumble when they see you know exactly how wrong they are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 01:32 PM |
| 5 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common arguments (Part. 3)I’ve dated many a Feminina and they always gave me the ick, or strung me along “forcing” my constant pursuit. No thanks. It is really exhausting isn't it, dealing with Feminina. Like I don't mind if they want to be the house husband or whatever, but damn it keep it to yourself and stop pushing us into role we don't wanna be! Like it is really, really icky when they tryna start drama with us - I thought I left that BS in high school dammit. The more I contemplate and embrace my feminine energy, t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 01:27 PM |
| 5 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common arguments (Part. 3)Sis you just made my cheeks burn! Thank you so much for your kind words! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 01:20 PM |
| 2 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common arguments (Part. 3)I am saving your comment because this is sooo, sooooo important! Sisters, take heed! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 06:49 PM |
| 7 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common arguments (Part. 3)Glad I can be of help sis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 02:29 PM |
| 6 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common arguments (Part. 3)I was parentified as a child by a Feminina father I am glad to be of help to you, and my heart goes out to you sis. No child deserves their childhood being robbed away by that, especially by parents who are suppose to be their guardian! This is another warning for us - letting ourselves fall into the Feminina's trap will ensure that our future children will be the toxic Feminina's next caretaker. They are very parasitic and destroy everyone around them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 02:29 PM |
| 8 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common arguments (Part. 3)He was bringing none of the healthy feminine (listening, caring, thoughtfulness, pro-active, making sure people are comfortable, safe) and none of the healthy masculine (follow-through, ambition, provider, leader, assertiveness). Right?? It is like the more capable we are, the worse they get and it is somehow "justified" because they are "the man"?? As if their "muh penis" BS can grow me a gold tree or some shit, but nah - they just want the best of us for free. They want to be a (toxic) littl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 02:20 PM |
| 16 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common arguments (Part. 3)I think as long as you are able to express that in a serious relationship you want to be provided for, etc. you can still avoid getting into situations with LVM. I agree with everything you said - just that this is the ideal situation when the woman is aware that she is being a Masculina - she knows when to step up, and she also know when to step down. This is a healthy, balanced woman that knows what she is and is capable of relaxing in her feminine while also drawing out the masculine when nee… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 02:14 PM |
| 7 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common arguments (Part. 3)how did you determine which elements of being a “Masculina” were true to your personality (if any) and which were a persona? Or perhaps I should ask, how did you decide what to change about yourself and what to keep? For now, I have 3 "boxes" - 1) "Do Less", 2) "Do More", and 3) "Just do it dammit". If it feels like work or responsibilities that I have to do to survive and thrive - but will stresses, deplete and exhaust me at the end of the day? - it goes into "Do Less". Basically do just what's… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 02:02 PM |
| 4 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common arguments (Part. 3)Thank you for the kind words sis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 01:29 PM |
| 4 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common arguments (Part. 3)Thank you so much for bringing this up, I will answer your question in Part 4! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 01:28 PM |
| 10 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common arguments (Part. 3)What am I supposed to do when during a fight for example, the guy starts reproaching me all he did for me? So they do things for you with hidden intentions, and keep tabs on them - the classic Feminina. Stop asking for and accepting help from them, cut them out or put a distance, and start vetting. Only accept help from sincere people. How should I react? "So you aren't sincere when you helped me? Alright, I won't bother you from now on. Thank you and goodbye" with a calm voice. And truly mean i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 01:19 PM |
| 13 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common arguments (Part. 3)You are very much welcome sis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 09:15 PM |
| 16 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common arguments (Part. 3)Glad I can be of help! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 09:12 PM |
| 15 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common arguments (Part. 3)Yep, agree. I can pretty much do everything myself or learn how to do it or who to call - but helllll naw am I gonna be playing mummy for a grown ass man. F that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 09:12 PM |
| 6 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common arguments (Part. 3)You are very much welcome sis, glad I can help! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 08:51 PM |
| 56 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common arguments (Part. 3)Sadly, there is really no way to make a man want to be a giver - he has to come into the enlightenment himself. Your job is to immediately end the interaction and move on to the next - or focus on yourself for now if you think that's part of the issue. I honestly don't date right now and won't be until I am 100% sure I am out of that Masculina mindset and know exactly what I am looking for when it comes to relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 08:50 PM |
| 13 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common arguments (Part. 3)Thank you so much! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 07:49 PM |
| 49 | Remember that a bad relationship can literally change the trajectory of your lifeAt the very least, filters out the ones who want to use you down the line for services. YES! An insider even speaks about a playbook of sort on how to discover these working women, where they hang out etc. and how to manipulate them. It is so, soo repulsive. Sadly a lot of them fall for the scam because of the "wall" fear and due to their busy lifestyle, can't put much focus on really filtering these scrotes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 07:47 PM |
| 63 | Remember that a bad relationship can literally change the trajectory of your lifeSad that these women with a loving and giving nature can end up wasted on garbage humans. Yes, really so sad seeing them being exhausted on the job and at home. While those leeches just happily start cheating on them with the new, younger nurses, ughhh! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 07:43 PM |
| 13 | 🚩 RED FLAGS 🚩 Career edition 🤭😳 (psychopath edition 🥲🧛♂️)Keep in mind this dude is extremely nerdy looking and not at all a charmer. Years of being in higher education teach me that the "nerds" probably are the most raging mysogynistic, covert narcissistic, God-complex, resentful men out there. Funnily enough the women don't have this much problem, but it is very prevalent among the men in higher education. I guess the status of that ivory tower really does make them go cray cray. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 07:20 PM |
| 4 | 🚩 RED FLAGS 🚩 Career edition 🤭😳 (psychopath edition 🥲🧛♂️)And in my experience paramedics are the funniest and possibly the nicest. Do you have any idea on why that is? Since paramedics work insane hours too right? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 07:16 PM |
| 145 | Remember that a bad relationship can literally change the trajectory of your lifeMaybe he's interrupting your sleep most nights. I can vote for this. They like to call precisely at the time you are suppose to be sleeping! (3 am, for example) and raise hell when you don't pick up. Excuses ranging from "I can't sleep" to "I just want to hear your voice" like boy, you gonna hear the death's whisper next time you tryna pull that BS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 04:58 PM |
| 380 | Remember that a bad relationship can literally change the trajectory of your lifeMy mom has a tenant who is in her early 30s. She is a nurse Where I came from (asia) nurse and teacher are popular targets for leechers LVM because they can get government loan and great benefits. Lost count on how many nurses I know who end up with a jobless parasyte of a husband. Those men have nothing, they even look repulsive from too much smoking. I can't even begin to understand how and why these amazing nurses fall for their scam. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 04:53 PM |
| 4 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argumentsGood luck to you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 02:27 PM |
| 11 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argumentsdo you all still do the fake “make a move for my wallet” thing just to be polite For me personally, I never do. If it is a formal date I just expect he will pay - that's the polite thing to do because he asked me out. If he tried to pull that bullshit with me I will just very pointedly sigh, get up and leave. It is also interesting to note that you said "make a move for my wallet" is the polite thing to do - modern dating really has fucked up our perception on what suppose to be polite date etiq… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 09:32 AM |
| 4 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common arguments (Part. 2)I do plan a breakdown on why you should never accept low effort date - netflix and chill, walk date, coffee date, drink date, pub/clubbing date (yes that's low effort sisters!) etc. if that what you are looking for. But it will be after I am done with this 50/50 series. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 08:24 AM |
| 7 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common arguments (Part. 2)If you mean can I do breakdowns on what to do - it will be pretty much the same strategy - up and leave, block and delete. If you are worried about your safety maybe you can entertain him for a bit but if it is just the two of you walking into some creepy ass park with no one around? Run sis, just run. Walk away, say nothing, don't look back. Sprint. Block and delete. If you mean why do they do that? Honestly who knows, scrotes be scroting as usual. We can continue to ponder why scrotes do this … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 03:13 AM |
| 8 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argumentsYep, you nailed it. Some men go on dates to find a relationship potential. Others go to find a one night stand. You gotta choose your battle. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 05:10 PM |
| 15 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common arguments (Part. 2)Seriously if we make a spreadsheet tallying how much we spend getting ready for a date versus how much he spend? That alone will probably be 70/30. Adding paying for our own food? Might as well just pay for his share too since we are on a generous mood here! That "50/50" is a LIE. It is actually 80/20, hell might be already 99/1 at this point with how men get away with wearing shorts and t-shirts on a date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 02:36 PM |
| 10 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common arguments (Part. 2)Yep, been there done that. The exhaustion and burn out is not worth it. I am lucky I don't get into anything too serious, but many have fallen into lifelong relationship with such dynamic. I don't know how those ladies can still stay sane. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 02:32 PM |
| 13 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common arguments (Part. 2)this guy called me a whore because I said girls shouldn’t pay for dates Yep, you already are that in his mind, he just found a reason to say it out loud. Just today a 18-year old said he felt embarrassed because our female coworkers treat us all to some ice-cream - because in his own words "Well, it is men who should treat women, not the other way around." His dad clearly know how to raise a gentleman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 02:21 PM |
| 14 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common arguments (Part. 2)After learning to enjoy your own company and seeing the world without a guy filter on, it makes you demand a higher level of company when you date. Right??? It is like a veil is finally lifted out of your face! I cringe thinking back at how I got all gogogaga when my highschool boyfriend bought me a cheap ass keychain. It wasn't even a heartfelt present, just something he snatched from a random stall. Yet I planned to give him thoughtful present on my birthday!! Cringe cringe cringe, never again… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 01:39 PM |
| 9 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common arguments (Part. 2)There's a difference between 50/50 not matching his values and him feeling like it impacts his manliness somehow. Men, by design have ego over women and will feel emasculated anyway if you try to challenge his ego. The difference between HVM feeling emasculated is that it is a minor yet nagging feeling - it results in him being less interested in you but will end the date in a respectful way. LVM/NVM will play like they loveee how strong and independent you are going 50/50 and equality!!! and st… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 01:28 PM |
| 7 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common arguments (Part. 2)A really great tip! Imagine if he is one of those that don't wipe his ass properly and leave brown streaks on his bedsheet... ugh... Thank you to you too for this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 05:17 AM |
| 15 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common arguments (Part. 2)If you don't seek a provider, chances are you will get saddled with a passive man who contributes nothing to the household and you pretty much have to be the one doing alllllllllll the work. It is a common occurence nowadays and well, the end result is not pretty. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 05:13 AM |
| 17 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common arguments (Part. 2)This is another phenomenon that deserve a post of its own. I will make a part 3 focusing on this so thank you for bringing it up! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 05:07 AM |
| 33 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common arguments (Part. 2)Dick is abundant and of negative value. When you go 50/50 on a date sis, you're essentially agreeing to reduce your value and even pay a man to access your body in the future (hopefully it doesn't get that far). Right now we are looking at a bizarre phenomenon where "equality" means women start taking the masculine role of the provider and not only agreeing to 50/50 - women would go as far as taking the lead role in the relationship, financially supporting the man while doing all the works, and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 08:43 PM |
| 6 | This person could not legitimately see the glaring red flags. Comments are filled with women telling her to run and she's still confused. Don't let this be you.Right?? I keep reading this and wanted to slam my face on the desk - it is like she is describing a bottle of poison one after another and then calmly sipping them! WTF WHY SHE KEEP ON SAYING YES??? WHAT'S WRONG GIRL WAKE THE FUCK UP!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 06:04 PM |
| 29 | Take note liberal feminists: this is how men really view you. Here they are openly gloating about how men tricked women into ‘choosing’ to degrade and objectify themselves. They know.I've seen it a million times - a pickme bend over backwards, forwards, sideways and up to the damn sky for men, and men swarm around her giving fake compliments and cheer for her. But once she leaves, oh they still talk about her but there's absolutely nothing nice said. It is all degrading, mocking and condescending words. Even the nicest guys among them simply don't want to talk about the pickme and find her exhausting. It is a very sad and lonely dynamic being the pickme serving a group of gu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 11:49 AM |
| 1 | Since some people seem to think we mean “very wealthy” when we say High ValueA broke HVM will avoid dating too when he is still broke because he know dating is a huge responsibility and requires invesment in time and money, so he is not gonna waste it now. He will only pursue dating when he is finally all setup and ready for the commitment. If he is broke and he is out there on OLD, that's right away is a huge red flag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 06:06 AM |
| 9 | OopsIndeed, the only way to maintain your youthful look in marriage is to be married to a HVM, otherwise just stay single. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 04:26 AM |
| 39 | OopsPeople left and right trying to convince me that I am not normal and I will regret it when I choose to be steadfastly single going into my 30s. But I just take one look, just one look at their faces and I am like "nah I'm good". Makeup and pretty clothing can't hide how stressed and exhausted they are. Some even stuck in that "dumb barbie" headspace so they don't have to face their sad reality. I can't even remember when is the last time I met a truly happily married women. There's always someth… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 04:13 AM |
| 19 | OopsSissss I love vegetables (not vegan or vegetarian, just love em) and tend to order veggies when I found a good one. It gets attention easily because it is kinda rare here where I live to eat just veggies. The look on their faces when that happens... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 04:01 AM |
| 18 | OopsThe funny thing is, I watched documentaries with people who wears makeup all the time, some even to their sleep and they look... older and greasy. That makeup can't hide how tired they are and how skin just wants to do its thing but being constantly blocked. So unless you have a team of professionals for continuous touch up, you will never look "perfect". Bare-faced people actually look younger and fresher. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 03:49 AM |
| 6 | When a man says “If you don’t lower your standards you’ll die alone” he is admitting he is not good enough for you.you’ll die alone At least I will die after living a fully peaceful life. The other options is to live like everyday is hell and hoping for that death to come sooner. Oh no such a "hard" choice /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 02:31 PM |
| 9 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argumentsBTW sisters if any of you get this notification, I am planning to do a part two, focusing on women's insecurity and low self-esteem, so stay tuned! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 01:30 PM |
| 7 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argumentsI was bombarded by rad fems saying that this is objectifying women. This is really sad because they still can’t understand they are not entitled to sex if a man pays you a mediocre dinner. The only way they can even think that letting the man pay means we are "objectifying" women is because they think that by default, we sleep with men after a couple of dates. Now that's is one hella objectifying and degrading mindset. WE OWE NOBODY OUR BODY, EVER. Men choose to ask us out on a date, so they pay… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 01:28 PM |
| 15 | Can we talk about the hypocrisy?because under 25 you are way more likely to make a poor decision. Yes yes YES! Regardless of how "mature" you are growing up, until 25 you are basically governed by raging impulses and adrenaline spike, not to mention the extreme need for attention and validation hence an absurd level of people-pleasing and attention-seeking tendency. Also you think you know everything and facing failure gets you on the emotional roller-coaster right away. I was that nerdy academic gal who didn't do anything too… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 01:51 PM |
| 48 | Can we talk about the hypocrisy?You reminded me of a comment I made in someplace online saying "24 years old is a kid" and people went crazy citing you can buy alcohol, can get a licence, can consent to sex, can this can that. Well yeah you can do all that but doesn't mean you are fully developed in all aspect, especially EQ-wise. Especially if you endure emotional trauma growing up, your 20s won't be pretty. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 07:59 AM |
| 25 | HOW THE HELL HAS NO-ONE POSTED KEANU YET? Seems like a dope af person, too.and I found it interesting that in couch interviews (I watched Graham Norton's), he make sure to do eye contact and head turns with everybody when it is his chance to talk, and listen well when others talk. It is subtle but not many celebrities do that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 10:23 AM |
| 6 | A report on the consequences of OnlyFans by a member of the websiteTimothy Stokely, British tech entrepreneur and investor. What is Onlyfans? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 10:17 AM |
| 7 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argumentsThank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 09:56 AM |
| 7 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argumentsThank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 09:56 AM |
| 2 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argumentsYou are welcome and thank you for the kind words! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 09:56 AM |
| 14 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argumentsYep, 50/50 or not, LVM will coerce you into sex sooner or later. Because they don't see sleeping with women as something special - they feel that it is their right to sleep with us whenever they want, and is enraged when we don't allow it that easily. Doing 50/50 and continuing to hang around them only makes you more susceptible to their manipulations. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 09:55 AM |
| 5 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argumentsYou are welcome! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 09:51 AM |
| 13 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argumentsI don't know why men think they own us or our body. It is the "magical penis effect". They think we owe them our body because "muh penis" and we dare to exist on the same planet as them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 09:48 AM |
| 21 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argumentsImagine them demanding sex after a walk date sis. Just imagine. Scrotes gets everything for doing nothing these days. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 06:48 AM |
| 21 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argumentsJust don't pay. Just smile, and say thank you. Maybe express your gratitude in more words if you feel like it. JUST DON'T PAY. Leave your purse at home if the urge is too strong. If he asks you to pay or being passive aggresive about it - leave, block and delete. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 06:33 AM |
| 41 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argumentsA man should feel privileged that he got the opportunity to take you out. I’m literally blessing him with my presence and he knows this. Ideally, this is how every women should feel. A man is lucky when a woman decides he is worthy enough for her presence. Sadly the patriarchy knows this very well and start the brainwashing as early as our childhood. They manage to make us believe that we should be thankful a man decide to choose us, and to never demand for anything more than crumbs lets he gets… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 10:08 PM |
| 49 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argumentsStupid isn't? It is just downright dumb, disrespectful and insulting really. He asked me out. Why TF should I fork out money sitting there listening to his bullshit when I might as well just spend it on myself, doing things I want? If a guy want to ask me out on a DATE, he better damn well be ready to pay for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 09:58 PM |
| 43 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argumentsMen who are interested are scared of losing their opportunity and will never risk it by expecting you to pay. They have the urge to give and to prove their value to you because they know that if they won't, someone else will and they can't let that happen. You said it sister - men have the urge to give. If it is someone they are serious about impressing, they rather take a bullet than letting you pay. Insisting on going 50/50 just make it very loud and clear that they aren't interested in you - … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 09:55 PM |
| 40 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argumentsI find paying 50-50 or paying on the first date degrading. Not just first date. NEVER pay for dates. The only time going "50/50" is when you are married, and he has proven himself he is consistently a HVM and you struggle financially for whatever reason. But even then a true HVM rather work to the bone first before thinking about troubling you. That's just how a healthy male ego works. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 09:51 PM |
| 31 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argumentsBut for some reason, women constantly worry that if they let the man pay, he is entitled to sex And they expect sex after a laughably pathetic amount of money. If we seriously calculate the amount they claim they "spend" on dates - I doubt it even make to 10k, hell in some stingy ass scrotes I doubt it even hit 1k. How can we not see how degrading this expectation is? Is our body that cheap?? And no, before anybody misunderstand I am not saying you should sleep with him after he spend xxx amount… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 09:41 PM |
| 42 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argumentsevery time i went 50/50 it always feels like 80/20 You nailed it sis - it doesn't "feels like" 80/20 - IT IS 80/20, THAT 50/50 IS A LIEEEE. Without counting everything else, the effort you make to get ready and the risk you take to go out with stranger already cover that 50% portion. Going halfsies means you contribute wayy more to the date than him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 09:32 PM |
| 57 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argumentsNot to mention men will say yes even if they don't like you, it sets a precedent that you are the one chasing him, and he'll brag to others about how a desperate chick asked him out. Yep. We have seen it time and again - men will have sex, date, propose, get married, make children with women they hate. Chasing after a guy pretty much just ensure that you will be at his mercy - and no the media lied to us. They won't "magically" see our efforts and loyalty after years together, after kids. They j… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 07:44 PM |
| 89 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argumentsYep if you chase after a guy - you will always lose; If you chase after a scrote - he thinks you are desperate, accept the invitation, lets you do all the heavy lifting, and expect sex after. And you scramble along try to please him because you want him to choose you. He might string you along for years until he find what he wants or he doesn't so he settles with you. You pretty much becomes a bangmaid mommy slave for life. If you chase after a HVM - he thinks you are desperate, and even if he h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 07:35 PM |
| 6 | Libfem sexual culture is a cursemaybe it was super popular with people who aren’t big readers, and so the readers assumed any difficulty they were having with the text was due to their own comprehension? I do think this is it in countries like mine where English is second language. But how about native English speakers? A bookseller even said that "the guy is really kind!" and I can only stare at her with the shocked pikachu face. Ma'am he is rich and they fuck a lot, I don't know where you get "oh he is kind" from that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 12:16 PM |
| 6 | Libfem sexual culture is a curseBut this was unreadable bad, like run on sentences, repeating sentences in the same paragraphs, spelling errors etc. Omg sis, I literally open the book, read one paragraph, just one and I was confused - the sentences were gibberish. Like a kid giving up on her school essay so she just mashed in whatever she can think of. If anyone here are a fan of 50 shades can you explain why it got so popular? I really just don't get it, there's a lot of smut out there, pretty sure some are more well-written … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 11:35 AM |
| 14 | Libfem sexual culture is a curseI thought she published under a company, not self-publish right? Since she has a worldwide distribution. I read fanfictions on regular basis so I am not a snob when it comes to fiction but hers is just badd bad badddd kind of writing. The kind of, if I read a fic like that I would stop immediately. And yet millions of people pay for that shit so yeah, people never cease to amaze me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 11:25 AM |
| 7 | Libfem sexual culture is a curseYep definitely, I like my stories and I damn well know there are people who will enjoy it out there. Thank you for your kind words! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 10:39 AM |
| 14 | Libfem sexual culture is a curseI think so, it is a rewritten twilight fanfic. But one thing I can take from her is that if you can write, sell it. I am not ashamed to admit my motivation to write and publish is in part, thanks to her. Make no mistake, I don't support or respect her in any way but she did make money from her writing, so I can too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 08:30 AM |
| 10 | No Other Spaces To Vent About How I Really Feel About MenYep when a man comment on woman-centered discussion, it is always alwayss alwayssssss about shifting the focus on them and wanting everyone to coddle them while minimizing the woman's experience. It is fucking disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 08:24 AM |
| 47 | Libfem sexual culture is a curseAnd also it is not a good book. I flipped it once in a bookstore and the writing sucks. I don't know how people enjoy reading that. But hey props to her, she proves that even if you suck at writing, some people will still buy it if they like it enough. She found her niche and she reap the absolute shit outta that niche. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 07:12 AM |
| 26 | Libfem sexual culture is a curseSecond you on this. Why do we equate being confident and "empowered" with adhering to beauty standards so much? What's wrong just being confident as is without aid of any sort? Sure looking nice and put together is great - but tying our feeling of confidence and power with tangible material isn't the best way to go about it. Especially not something that requires expensive endless upkeep and people can see and comment on it. Even something as simple as putting mascara everyday and one day you st… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 07:07 AM |
| 14 | Libfem sexual culture is a curse100% agree. I think if a person who does makeup as art, hobby or even profession can look at that post and think "oh this is not about me, this talks about the pressure for women to adhere to beauty standard". But some replies took it wayy to personally and making it as an attack on themselves. OP never blame anyone for wearing makeup, just that we have to realize what it is and why we do it. Really weird how some replies just go straight to the extreme and imply that FDS say makeup is evil and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 06:53 AM |
| 78 | NEVER call a man attractive to his face.Woman: accidentally glance in his general direction Man: so you ever interested in threesome? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 11:01 PM |
| 2 | The Pink Tax and Makeup CultureSamee sis, Lisa Eldrige is my jam. I just love the look of well applied makeup and can't wait to put all that knowledge into practice when i have the means. But the trend nowadays to cake yourself daily on top of hair, clothes, nails etc? That's wayy over the line. Who needs 25 different types of eyeshadow palettes? 45 lipsticks? 9 concealers? It is getting a little out of hand. And i also hate hateeeee how wearing heavy makeup has becoming mandatory in the workplace now, like your work performa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 10:31 PM |
| 7 | The Pink Tax and Makeup CultureAnd quite coincidently, there's never ending beauty community drama when male makeup gurus hold the reign. Wonder why. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 10:15 PM |
| 4 | The Pink Tax and Makeup CultureNah I do that too - on the rare occasion where i am out with my girls or out alone, i put extra care into my appearance because it feels good to me, and i have zero concern about what "people" think. Wanting to look nice is normal, we as human likes pretty thing afterall. But when maintaining your looks becomes a burden because you are terrified of what "people" will think, that's when it becomes a problem. The current trend of heavy makeup daily and dolled up/glam/perfect 24/7 for women or else… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 10:12 PM |
| 33 | The Pink Tax and Makeup CultureThe same goes for excessive skincare regimen too. Yes, by definition you should take good care of your skin and that requires expense, but do not get suck into the trends like 11 skincare steps, buying all the serums and ampuoles and acids and whatnot just because somebody say you absolutely have to have all these thousands of products in you arsenal - those are all patriarchal marketing to ensure you keep spending on things you don't need. Skincare is pretty simple - clean well, moisturize well… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 06:07 PM |
| 6 | We absolutely are being bullied into having zero standardsAh yes, it is "mean" to ghost a guy during dinner, but we are expected to sleep with them after two dates. Sounds very fair /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 03:42 PM |
| 22 | We absolutely are being bullied into having zero standardsYep, this is my issue with modern dating - why in the damn hell that women agree to go 50/50 on dates just so that the man won't demand sex after??? How does that even work?? Since when do we owe men our own body just because they decide they want to pursue us? Sisters especially the young ones, we don't owe anyone anything, definitely not our body just because some scrotes do something nice for the evening. Hell even if he bought you a goddamn yacht, you still owe him NOTHING. Not your body, ev… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 05:58 AM |
| 6 | The myth that young women will lust after 45 year old men in their apparent ‘peak earning potential’ 🤪don't let them pay and they won't get handsy They will get handsy anyway, they just gonna start playing the longer game. Men don't have just one way to coerce you into sex - they have an arsenal of manipulation tactics to use. Thinking that going 50/50 will exclude you from being a target of sex coercion is indeed, quite a naïve thinking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 03:34 PM |
| 57 | Woman on Tik Tok reminds us that LVM neg confident women, and that patriarchy relies on women hating themselves"well if Scarlett Johansson is average then I must be revolting" and their self esteem and confidence goes down. Sad that women have been brainwashed since birth to think that they are always less attractive in one way or another, even when they look like literal models. And then we have guys like that no neck dude be acting like he is the hottest shit on earth. Here's a fact ladies - women are beautiful - that's just what femininity is, that's just how we are built. And I am not referring to th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 04:53 PM |
| 23 | When FDS haters pretend to be “reasonable” peopleBut pretty sure those same scrote have no problem wringing money out from their dates and the women around them, hah. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 09:18 AM |
| 148 | Men and Pickmes are confused because they think men are necessary, rather than optionalSo remember next time someone acts horrified that you aren't interested in jumping on the first semi-passable male you happen to find. Men are not houses, they are handbags. You just made me chuckle remembering the absolute horror on people's faces when I say I have zero interest in dating right now at 30, and they scrambling for the usual "but-but you will die alone! y-your biological clock! the wall! the expiry date! No men will want you past 30!" blah blah blah. Guess what, that exactly is wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 06:50 PM |
| 79 | Men and Pickmes are confused because they think men are necessary, rather than optionalWas “I couldn’t find a HVM quickly enough so I settled and didn’t want them to give me shit for it”. Sounds like those people going to FDS hoping that this sub will magically land them a HVM - basically treating this sub like matchmaking .com. Also in the same energy - newbies who are interested in being sugar babies because that "hopefully" will land them a "decent rich older men". Essentially pickmes who are still too deep in the pickmeism hellhole and looking for another mlm quick-fix. if you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 06:46 PM |
| 5 | Overweight men have shorter penises. (and my thoughts on obesity and body positivity)And most importantly, HAES pushers are still entirely male-attention-focused - which is 100% against FDS principle. It is just the other extreme side of the same male-pandering bullshit - "Well, not only skinny girls are beautiful, I am thick and curvy and beautiful and worthy of being sexualized too!". A lot of their "movements" are based on being hyper-feminine and being sexually attractive to men to the point of making fat fetishist a "great" thing. If there is not male-pandering involved, I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 06:10 PM |
| 12 | Dear Scrotes: cope and SEETHE. 😎✨she actually shamed me and would tell me “ew” for liking actually handsome men Denial is strong with that one. So she doesn't secretly will drool over Chris Evans instead of Adam Sandler? Yeah right. The only exception I can think of is Benedict Cumberbatch because despite his feature, he is very charismatic and professional. Men seriously have it easy in making themselves attractive - they just have to work a little harder on themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 04:53 PM |
| 12 | Dear Scrotes: cope and SEETHE. 😎✨Yep, scrotes can try to lie and gaslight us alllll they want, and pickmes can scream to our ears allll they want but our body and heart aren't capable of LYING - we know INSTANTLY what is attractive when we see them. and by them I mean those abs, dayummmm. Seriously, you KNOW what makes you all squirmy and gooey inside and that is certainly NOT dadbods beer belly and wacky smell from weeks of not showering. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 03:56 PM |
| 41 | Would like to announce the winning name: Fine AF Friday! And here is our first fine hottie!Yeah men just literally have to be clean and wear nice clothes and they are instantly more attractive to women. But noooo apparently that's "too hard" and we are "emasculating" them. Don't know what's so "emasculating" about taking the damn shower and brushing your teeth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 03:11 PM |
| 3 | Women are choosers and it literally does not matter what men wantStill a really weird thing to ask your date tho. Like, if she said she likes xx and yy and the guy obviously don't have xx and yy wouldn't that be an issue later on? It is just a dumb thing to ask. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 02:48 PM |
| 13 | Women are choosers and it literally does not matter what men want“So, do you like boobs or butts?” HE asked HER this? He asked his date, a (straight, I presume) woman whether she likes boobs or butts on their date? Damn the absolute stupidity in that whole thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 07:09 PM |
| 9 | That sounds more like having a child than a marriage. I'm glad to be single rather than deal with something like that.This is sadly a very common thing in marriage all over the world. I wonder if it is a coping mechanism of some sort - if you started thinking of your husband as "helpless child" and you use maternal type love on them, all their uselessness won't torture you so much on a day to day basis. I mean even younger, barely post high-school nowadays start acting like a helpless child around women so that they will be coddled - maybe they learn that dynamic at home and know that if they act like a dumb he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 10:38 PM |
| 8 | I finally just quit makeup. It's awesome!And the stress is gone the stress of checking my makeup in the mirror, itching my eye and worrying I've ruined my whole look This is the TOP reason why I don't do makeup (even if I LOVE watching tutorials and want to do them), don't wear white or light color outfit (I will dirty them, no matter what. My OCD will come back full force), and I dress honestly pretty sloppy most days (I work in retail at the moment and WILL get dirty so why bother?) - the STRESS. The stress to worry about ruining my … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 09:55 PM |
| 10 | Be as “ELITIST” as You Want in Choosing a HusbandYour comment reminds me of a youtube book analysis on a romance book about being in quarantine with the dream hunk, all abs lumberjack. And at the end of the book after finishing her master, choose to go live with "the lumberjack" in his house atop a hill somewhere and be a stay at home wife. I mean it is just a quick cash grab book but dammit girl!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 09:19 PM |
| 30 | Be as “ELITIST” as You Want in Choosing a HusbandFemale PhD students are a delight to be around, they are very intelligent yet very humble and it was such a fun learning experience. Males on the other hand... their damn God Complex sis, ughh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 09:14 PM |
| 2 | Keep your standards high for your friends too, not just partners and potential partnersI never understood that about myself before and even in high school I was the person that people would dump all their problems on and go to when they needed a confidant..... but then didn’t treat me so well in public. Damn sis that's how it is for me too. It is like people (usually pickmes) see me and goes "yep, that one is a free therapy". Yet still treat me like shit when there are scrotes around. The problem is these people aren't close - they are workmates who I am not particularly close to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 03:06 PM |
| 15 | TW: THIS IS WHAT BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A SCROTE LOOKS LIKEI just laugh when a man tries that bullshit & thinks his withdrawal/silence/denial is a form of control over me. Watch me withdraw from this relationship in 5 4 3 2 1 I vote for this too. The most efficient way to deal with stonewalling is that you go one step further and ghost them immediately. It stings really deep because you literally use their own game against them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 12:38 PM |
| 22 | Female friendships and misogynistic propagandaI love me some good gossip! Unless it is about backbiting each other which I steer clear away from (the one starting that is always a pickme and it is dangerous to be around her anyway) - a lot of the time gossiping is pretty much information trading, vetting and sharing toxic experience in the workplace. Gets me insider exclusive information on who to avoid and to be careful when dealing with. Usually I will be the one listening and judging whether the gossip is worthy of listening or not - you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 06:31 PM |
| 15 | I have never had a man treat me with kindness or respect after I did these things.Men don’t like kind women. I think it is more accurate to say that "men don't like women with no boundaries". You absolutely can be kind to animals, orphans, kids etc. But don't do kindness to those who don't need it, and absolutely don't give kindness to those who will not respect your boundaries. Part of being kind also means you have to be disciplined and strict - kindness cannot be executed successfully if you allow people to take advantage of it. Be kind, but also be absolutely ruthless and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 06:22 PM |
| 2 | Does anyone feel bothered when Scrotes use that "soft, almost babying voice" to talk with you? It feels extremely condescending to me.In my case it is pretty much random scrotes tryna flirt because I work in customer service. My go to is just death glare and dead silence because I am too angry to say anything or act in any way. Guess we will have to wait until they are bored, ugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 02:37 PM |
| 2 | Does anyone feel bothered when Scrotes use that "soft, almost babying voice" to talk with you? It feels extremely condescending to me.That's definitely weird. Even if you aren't the one with knowledge like him, why does he need to talk like that? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 10:49 AM |
| 2 | Does anyone feel bothered when Scrotes use that "soft, almost babying voice" to talk with you? It feels extremely condescending to me.It is very condesending as well - like we aren't good enough to be treated like equal so they speak like we are somehow less than them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 06:41 PM |
| 15 | Stop dating men that you aren't attracted to! Stop giving ugly a chance!Then we have humans. And patriarchal ones at that, who think they can buy a lifetime subscription for the price of a beer gut. They surely think because they have a penis, they are the best gift this world has to offer. The audacity sis, eughh. Every other highly social monogamous/polygamous species the males have to prove themselves—their fitness, their intelligence, their interactive ability, their aesthetic qualities. Then many of them have to defend the shit out of the girl that picked them,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 02:26 PM |
| 5 | Does anyone feel bothered when Scrotes use that "soft, almost babying voice" to talk with you? It feels extremely condescending to me.Feels like they think we don't have a brain isn't? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 02:19 PM |
| 9 | Stop dating men that you aren't attracted to! Stop giving ugly a chance!Though at least socially speaking it is agreed upon that women requires a lot more preparation both physically and mentally for us to be able to fully experience the pleasure of sex. Foreplay is extremely crucial, and I think doing all that flirting and talking, making our hearts flutter and our cheeks pink really adds to the spark. There's a reason why women prefer reading romance and erotica before watching them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 10:22 AM |
| 38 | Stop dating men that you aren't attracted to! Stop giving ugly a chance!Yeah sis it is so headache-inducing. One day you are just being yourself doing your job and being friendly with people, the next thing you know a drama unfold and you get the cold shoulder and passive aggresive attacks. Working with pickmes is so exhausting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 08:55 AM |
| 6 | Does anyone feel bothered when Scrotes use that "soft, almost babying voice" to talk with you? It feels extremely condescending to me.What kind of language does he use? Is there negging and like making you feel like a dumb person? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 08:03 AM |
| 19 | Stop dating men that you aren't attracted to! Stop giving ugly a chance!100% the truth! Giving birth is a very traumatic thing, so unless it is to give life to new generation with better chance of survival, why do it? What use is it for us to carry a nvm/lvm legacy? It doesn't benefit the world, certainly doesn't benefit us, so why do it? Women wanting the best of the best mate just make sense - it is not just about us, it is about the survival of humanity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 08:01 AM |
| 18 | Stop dating men that you aren't attracted to! Stop giving ugly a chance!Yeah I just heard this somewhere so it may not be entirely correct, but I do agree that it makes sense that women are the ones needing guarding because we are the ones who will birth the next generation, so of course we want the best mate in every way possible. What's the use of women mate-guarding men? So you can continue to procreate with his low value ass? Why??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 07:54 AM |
| 12 | Does anyone feel bothered when Scrotes use that "soft, almost babying voice" to talk with you? It feels extremely condescending to me.Oh, another favorite of mine was to tell them their voice was so high pitched my ovaries were shriveling. I can vouch on that ovaries shriveling - got a young one literally pouting on me and while he has a nice face, I can feel my insides shrivel that instant. Just, no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 12:22 AM |
| 17 | Does anyone feel bothered when Scrotes use that "soft, almost babying voice" to talk with you? It feels extremely condescending to me.I often just give them death glare because that stupid tone is definitely my kryptonite - I can't even speak out of pure rage. A lot of their negging don't work on me but once they put on that tone... instant rage mode. It is just extremely condescending but I notice a lot if younger guys do it when they try to flirt - I guess to appear more cute? IDK give me the creeps. Or older but obviously married guy - and that makes me wonder did they find success with their wife using that stupid shitty t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 11:47 PM |
| 112 | Stop dating men that you aren't attracted to! Stop giving ugly a chance!married women seem to engage in more mate guarding than is really necessary It is interesting to note that biologically (I think) speaking, like in the animal kingdom - it is the male side who naturally have the mate guarding instinct because they are the ones needing female to continue their legacy - and that in itself is a hard, exhausting work designed for men. Female side are naturally inclined to choose the best partner in every aspect so that they can ensure their families' survival. In ot… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 11:37 PM |
| 21 | Does anyone feel bothered when Scrotes use that "soft, almost babying voice" to talk with you? It feels extremely condescending to me.Ugh sis just reading your story makes my blood boil. I hateeeeee when supposedly professional people pull shit like this - like what do they think they will achieve doing that? Do they get richer by pissing us off? It was paired with a lot of other casual misogynistic comments that he considered funny. Ah yes the good ol' "it is just a joke!" BS. Yet if you pull the same shit on them they will throw the mantrum of the century. Seriously such drama queens, all of them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 11:21 PM |
| 32 | Does anyone feel bothered when Scrotes use that "soft, almost babying voice" to talk with you? It feels extremely condescending to me.I seriously don't understand why men want to date us if all they care about is pissing us off. Like go bang your homies if you hate us that much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 11:17 PM |
| 52 | Does anyone feel bothered when Scrotes use that "soft, almost babying voice" to talk with you? It feels extremely condescending to me.Oh yes sis when they "mimic" girls voice but acting like we are weird and wrong for having a girl's voice because duh - it is like they hate that we exists and make it their life mission to turn everything about us into a freakin' joke. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 11:15 PM |
| 19 | Does anyone feel bothered when Scrotes use that "soft, almost babying voice" to talk with you? It feels extremely condescending to me.Same, I can't even reply - I instantly go RAGE MODE when I heard them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 11:12 PM |
| 16 | As a single woman, at any given time you should be either dating multiple people at once, or not dating at all.If, by design you just couldn't do multiple dating (extreme introvert, don't have the energy to deal with multiple strangers) - is it okay to "multiple" the dude with say, hobbies and other activities? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 11:13 AM |
| 5 | I felt this. Love and life are so much more than your relationship status.The funny thing is, those who always preach you on how you are "missing out" by not pursuing boyfriends and dating only have their world revolves around those boyfriends and waiting for their calls and dates and all. And if they ask you out, alll they talk about is their boyfriends or anything related to men/what men think of them. While you are busy juggling work, study and your 20++ hobbies and friendships and families - with conversations spanning pretty wide topics. Um I am sensing some kind… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 08:43 PM |
| 8 | Mainstream "women's empowerment" is a lie.Just keep refusing to take no for an answer and you, too, can have the manic pixie girl of your dreams! Ugh this is why I really hate nerd male characters because they are either a stalker who won't take a no so essentially just wears the girl down at the end, or he does have a girl liking him (often childhood friend) but even when he gets on with the childhood friend, still pining after the manic pixie girl. They can yell about girl "friendzoning and leading him on" all they like but how about … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 07:48 PM |
| 31 | Mainstream "women's empowerment" is a lie.Also if the main female character is suppoae to be nerdy but secretly really great, she would still have some sort of make up on, well done hair and styled "nerdy-ish" clothes. And almost always have that "butterfly emerging from the cocoon" stage where she put more make up on and wears more revealing clothes and high heels. And the guy falls in love with her "true" self but somehow she stays with that full make up revealing clothes look until the end of the movie. Main male neardy charater? He … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 03:27 PM |
| 80 | What we do to remain “proper, considerate and polite” keeps us meek.Reminds me of the good ol' "men don't like it when the women is too smart" and proceed to tell me to quit school and learn how to cook instead. Yeah nah I rather have my education and oversalted pot over great food cooked by me yet treated like trash every single day. Even instant noodle taste delicious when you have your freedom. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 05:06 PM |
| 36 | (Not my post) but my own dad told me to use this strategy to weed out the losers, and here it is working!Yep, at least the more women we can elevate, the less pickmes there will be around. I hope at least some years in the future we can beat them in numbers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 07:26 PM |
| 24 | (Not my post) but my own dad told me to use this strategy to weed out the losers, and here it is working!happy for the opportunities I create What are you an Apple CEO in disguise or something? What opportunities? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 07:23 PM |
| 3 | I got my coworkers to tell on themselves; a translation of the male mindIt’s so frustrating to see people make excuses for their bad behavior over and over again. It is frustrating and enraging almost when you realize how enabling society actually is towards male assholes. Like they villainize us to hell and back for being cold and standoffish, but men can be a serial killer and somehow some people will still take pity on them. Also, what you said about them pretending to be dumb reminded me about what someone told me once. “Even dumb people are smart in getting wha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 07:18 PM |
| 8 | How is this even a question??!!I would like to go out for coffee with the guy I like and not be Venmo'ed $1.50. Is that too much to ask? Is this what modern dating has come to be?? WHAT. THE. ABSOLUTE. F**K. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 05:17 PM |
| 12 | I got my coworkers to tell on themselves; a translation of the male mindSadly even when they snitch on themselves all the times (they are more transparent than you think), a lot of women tend to idolize and rationalize men's behavior (patriarchy's brainwashing, anyone?) and "try to see the good in them" and "give them the benefit of the doubt" - even when they are literally being a raging asshole. And be careful when you call them dumb sis- men are master at pretending that they are dumb. It is learned incompetence - they know that what they do is wrong - they just … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 03:03 PM |
| 18 | I got my coworkers to tell on themselves; a translation of the male mindYou will be suprised how a lot of those seemingly decent husband contributes nothing to the household. You only see what they want you to see, God knows what's happening behind closed doors. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 02:13 PM |
| 2 | Why I am now avoiding pickmes at all costs from today forwardYou are welcome, glad that i can help you in some way. Indeed, there is so much more we have to learn about narcs and toxic people in general - they do come in all types and what we think as "kindness" in our society might be something else entirely. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 07:07 PM |
| 23 | Why I am now avoiding pickmes at all costs from today forwardI told her explicitly the week before that I was willing to rent a car (I NEVER requested to use her car ever, she offered) because we were headed to a remote are where they don’t have taxis/ride shares. I told her I didn’t want my trip to hinge on her and yet she still behaved this way. It is a common covert narcissistic behavior, especially in female narcs - she has it in her mind that she is "a very kind holier-than-thou" and so she must ensure everything she does aligns with this mindset. He… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 06:43 PM |
| 7 | “How can I be a pick me when I’ve already been picked?”gifted girls were quashed and discouraged to the point that many succumb to depression and conformity. I also know of some extreme cases where they develop severe mental illness - because gifted children essentially have hyperactive brain, if they aren't allowed to channel all that hyperactivity towards meaningful learning - the brain will instead turn inwards and you end up suffering psychosis, paranoia, schizophrenia etc. Honestly speaking even with all the learnings and projects I have done, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 05:48 PM |
| 10 | “How can I be a pick me when I’ve already been picked?”children to the idea that being worthy involves being "better than"-- particularly for girls who tend to be subjected to misogynist "shaping" and especially for naturally competitive girls whose Amazon warrior/future CEO tendencies can be more easily jujitsued and subverted into a stupid race for which woman can appear more servile to men, infantile, weak and Pickmeisha-ish all while curdling with barely concealed aggression towards other women. So this is how the pickmeism starts - I always won… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 10:41 PM |
| 2 | Friendly reminder: we don’t have an expiration dateThat's how a lot of single 40-something women I know looks too, hell I know one 60 years old single lady, never married or have kids and she looks youthful. They can preach married life is the "ultimate bliss" all they want but nah, I have eyes. I can see what effect scrotes can do to my beauty, so I ain't having none of that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 06:23 PM |
| 9 | Friendly reminder: we don’t have an expiration dateBut yeah, good genes work too. Yeah, good genes are those who looks like they are stuck in their 20s forever - which is hey, more power to them. But for us who does look our age, there's definitely a difference between being 30 and stress free and being 30 saddled with a nightmare of a manchild. That stress really does something to your face, even if you happen to have a good gene. It is like being tortured endlessly from the inside - not a good look. Those who has peaceful lives looks youthful … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 01:43 AM |
| 51 | I don't careI always struggle with male-centric artistic works because... most of them lacked the depth that I am seeking. Even those considered masterpieces of their time doesn't satisfy my hunger for that depth - because men rarely can feel and thus interpret things as deeply and empathetically as women. I often found myself sticking to the very few female authors and artists that deliver that depth flawlessly in its full simplicity. Men can write all the epic fights and bloody war, but those gets boring … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 10:31 PM |
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