He still keeps sex vids of him and his ex but going through his phone is the bigger violation of trust... 🤡

lilac-hiraeth · 2021-08-24T13:34:26+00:00

My last ex boyfriend had an album of all his exes (now to include me) and he had an album of all the nudes he’s collected online from women he had conversations with. 💀

Trophy hunting.

hopeful_flounder93 · 2021-08-24T12:15:26+00:00

K well I like that phrase "don't be stupid" 🙄

PickMe's little attitude here is gunna do a serious U-turn the day she finds this shit on HER boyfriend's phone smh.

Dumbass

sassyheather · 2021-08-24T12:23:37+00:00

i’M sOrRy YoU’rE uPsEt 🤡🤡🤡

throwaway-fds · 2021-08-24T12:45:52+00:00

Lol this is some clownery. A lot of guys do this, and lie about deleting your nudes. The only body a man should enjoy is his current partner, he doesn't need mEmOrIeS of his ex's titties. That's sus and creepy he has a little collection. 🤢 Don't buy the "I forgottt it was there babe" excuse either

give_mefries · 2021-08-24T12:21:02+00:00

Can people stop taking advice from influencers😭 she can’t get it out of her head for the right reasons. I wish women would stop discounting their feelings.

devilooo · 2021-08-24T13:22:47+00:00

Bruh! I’m so glad I went through my ex phone when my guts was telling me something was off. That’s how I found he was cheating for years and also found he had been going through MY phone and saving pictures I was receiving from my female friends. It was insanely creepy and it was so well hidden(Saved everything on dropbox), it was luck that I figured it out.

I am a firm believer that an SO can check their SO’s phone if they feel something is off.

arnezuara · 2021-08-24T12:50:58+00:00

All this gaslighting is absolutely disgusting. The girl who found the videos should leave. It’s always the lack of support for women like her who simply do not know any better. I hope she finds FDS.

daglowup · 2021-08-24T12:03:25+00:00

Seriously, I can’t tell who the bigger clown is, the poor girl who’s putting up with this scrote, or this libfem influencer who thinks she’s equipped to give relationship advice. It’s giving big “gaslight, girl boss, gatekeep” energy. 🤡

queenofswordsxxx · 2021-08-24T13:04:24+00:00

yOu sHoULd cOmMuNiCaTe

snootdidanoot · 2021-08-24T13:51:28+00:00

"I'm sure you do too!" No ma'm not 1 single thing because I MOVED ON

SeaNegotiation8 · 2021-08-24T12:32:34+00:00

If you wouldn’t keep sex videos of your ex, it is completely reasonable and fair to expect the same of your boyfriend. That is a very simple boundary to set.

There’s also another troubling question: Does he have his ex’s full consent to have this sex video?

This isn’t a courtroom, and men don’t have 4th amendment rights in a relationship. There’s no law against “snooping” through your boyfriend’s phone, but there are laws against making pornography without the other party’s consent.

Sounds like this OP is receiving a hefty dose of DARVO after she busted him doing something both morally dubious and probably illegal.

Fuckdoesithurt956 · 2021-08-24T14:28:37+00:00

Phones are extentions of our brains but it also doesn't mean anything... right...

modernmedusaa · 2021-08-24T13:45:46+00:00

Lmfaooo violation of trust

Like these filthy serial cheats are going to tell you what they’re up to

The whole point of cheating is to hide it

They must expect us to be clairvoyants

I_know_right_AS_IF · 2021-08-24T14:56:11+00:00

It's just a pReCiOuS rElic fRoM hIs pAsT!! we all have those!!!

🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄 fuck outta here!

AnniaT · 2021-08-24T13:40:38+00:00

I'm tired of the deflection with "snooping is a violation of privacy, shame on you!" When a woman finds evidence of cheating and deceit. Yes snooping is not exactly what you should do if you're in a trusting and healthy relationship BUT between snooping because you suspect something is going on and actually cheating and deceiving (and does the ex even consented to him still having sex videos of her??) of course the latter is much worse and that's where the focus should be on. And yes having porn videos of an ex is deceiving scrote behavior.

Mimosa_usagi · 2021-08-24T13:58:15+00:00

Yeah no that shit is strange. I'd download a bunch of dick pics of just huge honking shlongs. Like really big ones. And tell them they were my ex boyfriend. Just to see how he feels about it before I break up with him.

FlockAroundtheClock · 2021-08-24T14:37:52+00:00

What a gross response.

Praximaros · 2021-08-24T13:42:47+00:00

All else aside, there’s something very sinister about trying to equate phone data to thoughts that exist in your brain. I see the same thing with people trying to pretend a photo album kept in a closet and pictures on social media are the same thing. Never forget that what you do on your phone isn’t truly private!

the-worst- · 2021-08-24T14:33:34+00:00

"You shouldn't get rid of every single relic of a past relationship!" Um... sure but he should have at least DELETED HIS FAPPING MATERIAL OF HIS EX.

What women has ever been caught with even one naked pic of her ex? Let alone a video of having sex?

I bet the ex has no idea that video exists.

ChocoBananza · 2021-08-24T12:28:35+00:00

In the first few months of my relationship with my HVM (I’m comfortable with calling him that, after a year of vetting, and 7 months of relationship), I went through his phone and PC. ALL of it. Every browser, every chat, Instagram following, downloads folder, email, bank account, tried typing ‘p’ in search bar. Nothing. Zilch. Zero. No porn, no contact with exes, no depraved Insta accounts, no suspicious payments.

So no, if you are with a HVM, you won’t find anything, no matter how hard you try.

P.S. I asked him about his porn use (‘What kind of porn do you watch, tee hee’), and he said that he used it in the past, but was disgusted by the actual lives of porn stars that he liked. And let me tell you, the lack of porn in his life shows. Like, so much, compared to my NVXs.

fashiong99 · 2021-08-24T14:03:56+00:00

This girl must be stupid as hell, it’s a criminal offence and she should have recommended to go to authorities not to “ calm down and be a cool stupid girl”. UGH THE AUDACITY, I wonder if she would say the same if it was her daughter. ACTUALLY let’s hope she doesn’t have kids otherwise poor them

EDIT: I saw a comment of someone complaining saying that it’s not a criminal offence, in the moment in which you don’t have the continuous consent to keep the photos it becomes a criminal offence, I advise you to go and read what the law states and especially in EU there are new laws on this topic which aim at protecting women in these situations and yes it’s a criminal offence. Bur even overlooking the criminal offence part, why would you keep photos/ videos of your ex when you are with someone new? It extremely it not respectful towards both girls

TERFSareawesome · 2021-08-24T14:48:53+00:00

LOL I am so glad someone brought this lady up. I follow her mostly out of morbid fascination because she kept coming up on some brands I follow.

First off, she doesn't have a boyfriend. I have never seen any HVM or any male whatsoever lusting after her in the comments. She has mentioned in the past that she usually "goes for" men with dad bods. She's posted at least one pic of an exboyfriend and he was... not that attractive. She has mentioned multiple times that she lost her virginity via a one night stand her sophmore year of college, wherein she approached some random guy at a party (she always giddily mentions that he was a water polo player, as if this makes it any less grim) and basically hit on him really hard, then they had sex and he asked her if she'd ever had sex before and she lied and said she had. To this day, I find this one of the absolute saddest "first time" stories I've ever heard.

WHY would anyone take advice from this chick? I get that she puts out this extreme "I figured it all out and I'll give you the advice" vibe- but- newsflash- it's always the completely delusional types who have that attitude!! She seems like a desperate mess in most of her posts and regularly advocates for women to send the first text, usually something like "Hey, I think you're cute. Drinks Thursday? Maybe by the beach? xoxo" and she thinks this is like some Gossip Girl sexy vibe that drives men crazy.

I mean... let's be real. She's single for a reason and it ain't because she has high standards. She's the typical pickme who has an obsession for men and thinks the tiny modicum of male attention she gets (relative to other women- because, yeah, every woman gets men being willing to sleep with them if they offer free sex, or agreeing to an easy drinks date when you make it clear you're DTF) means what she's doing is working, when she never gets a single HVM around her and generally has to beg for crumbs from dad bodded user type men.

It's just so baffling and fascinating to me. LOL, sorry- I didn't realize I had this much of a rant inside of me regarding her.

IDontAgreeSorry · 2021-08-24T14:41:03+00:00

LOOOOOOL “tough love” more like scrote defence. Not only is it disrespectful towards his new girlfriend to jack off to his ex (or any other woman in porn for that matter), but also is it major creep behaviour. If you end it with someone, you delete whatever you have of them like a normal respectful human being.

Shaakie · 2021-08-24T15:32:45+00:00

Stop being a crazy controlling bitch! If your BF cheats on you it's his right. StOp bEiNg A prUdE.

TERFSareawesome · 2021-08-24T14:51:06+00:00

Also... this stupid woman should have some compassion for this lady's boyfriend's ex as well. Like, I have never sent nudes or filmed anything because I find that stupid AF- but if I HAD and found out my ex had still saved them and was regularly watching them I would be enraged. it's such a violation. But of course it's not "cool girl" to admit you have feelings about being sexually violated, so everyone involved is forced to lie and play it off like they dont care. So sick of this libfem trash.

randomgirl34861 · 2021-08-24T20:44:06+00:00

It’d be one thing if he still regular pictures with an ex (I know I do) but a sex tape?! That should be deleted. If he respects her, he would delete it on the off-chance his phone is ever hacked, gone through and because the relationship is over. If he does not respect her, he would keep it because he likes having that power over someone. If he does not respect you both, he’d keep it to jerk off too. If he has this on his phone, you already lost. It’s just a matter of how bad.

comet2004 · 2021-08-24T15:59:58+00:00

Is it bad I would have deleted it lol

rebel4acause · 2021-08-24T16:48:14+00:00

That's a whole lot more than a relic lol. There's a difference between a picture of him and his ex and a SEX TAPE, which she may not even know he still has. It's not something kept for memory's sake. That's material he uses to get off and it's WEIRD.

ItsFreezen · 2021-08-24T21:05:25+00:00

F*** THAT

cherieblosum · 2021-08-25T05:28:08+00:00

Why are you following this pick me?

CityOfBirth · 2021-08-25T18:31:37+00:00

"I don't subscribe to the notion that we need to destroy every relic of a past relationship." Neither do I bud, & that's not what any of us want. You don't have to delete every photo you have of her, just the fucking nudes you dipshit

Title	He still keeps sex vids of him and his ex but going through his phone is the bigger violation of trust... 🤡
Author	matte_personality
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Date	August 24, 2021 11:56 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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