When a Tall/Rich/Highly Educated Woman says: "Men don't like to date us" that means, Men who are: "taller than them, richer than them, more educationally qualified than them". They don't see Men who are lesser qualified than them anywhere near.

Mrs_Drgree · 2021-09-21T22:58:42+00:00

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harold_shipman_gp · 2021-09-21T19:13:13+00:00

Agree on the tall, but don't necessarily agree on the rich/highly educated part.

I've known rich/highly educated women who left their even higher-status partners for guys who are unemployed/work in minimum wage jobs.

This is not in the US though, so I fully understand that it may be different over there because wealth directly relates to access to healthcare etc, so there's naturally going to be a bigger focus on the financial stability of a dating partner.

simeneta_two · 2021-09-21T18:56:58+00:00

All the six figure salaries STEMlord women I know are married or in LTRs. Statistically highly educated women are the most likely to be married. Just because some 40yo hag wrote a Jezebel article about how men hate her doesn’t mean this a widespread problem. If we’re actually looking at numbers the women complaining are by far a minority.

There’s also been an increase in women with bachelors degrees marrying men without them. Now you can argue that second point doesn’t strictly correlate to income (for example a school teacher with a degree married to a tradesman might still be making less than him). But the fact that there has been a steady increase shows that a greater portion of women are willing to “marry down” so to speak than before.

SpanishM · 2021-09-21T20:02:11+00:00

> When a female doc says: "Men get repulsed when they find out I'm an asshole with an ego the size of the former Soviet Union."

That's what she actually meant.

Don't get me wrong, most people aren't like that, but some are. This particular case is fucking easy, her word choice betrayed her.

"...when they find out I'm a doctor" Yeah, SURE :D

SonicBackScratcher · 2021-09-21T19:03:44+00:00

From what I can tell, ironically, tall rich intelligent men are the most likely to be married. I saw stats on this with jobs (not height so maybe not there) and jobs known for higher IQ's and incomes were the most likely ones for men to also be married.

The problem for a rich smart woman is she probably waited to long if shes the type complaining. If she would have LTRed some other smart kid in college she'd be married to them, but the ones complaining either didn't "have time", didn't try, or maybe had such a relationship that failed, but either way now most of those guys are taken.

I think most of the women who fit this are also married.

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HOLYREGIME · 2021-09-21T19:44:06+00:00

Whenever a woman’s says “men don’t like” it really means, the men they like don’t want them. Women can find horny bastard anywhere.

Mrs_Drgree · 2021-09-21T18:57:43+00:00

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Devourer_of_felines · 2021-09-21T20:36:54+00:00

Like other people ITT have pointed out; successful women statistically find men in their tax and age bracket just fine.

When a female doc says: "Men get repulsed when they find out I'm a doctor"

I mean honestly, how frequently does it actually happen that a man would turn down an otherwise good potential partner because she makes too much money?

Rosifer433d · 2021-09-21T19:18:49+00:00

I've dated classically attractive women who didn't get much attention from men because these women were 5'10'' and most guys don't want to date women their own height, or taller. I've dated attractive women who were ignored by men because these women had tattoos and piercings, and hair dyed green, and the men thought these women were crazy.

It's true. Tall women have a hard time dating. Most men want women who are shorter than them, and women who are 4'10'' to 5'4'' get the most attention from men, even when the women who are taller, are hotter than the shorter women, and it's true that there's plenty of women who make a lot of money whom don't have that many men interested in dating them(despite the women being attractive) because lots of men value themselves, define themselves, by how much money they make, and they prefer a woman who makes less.

Not me. I've dated women whose daddy was the rich president of sports clubs, and I'm just middle-class and I've never had much money, but because I don't feel intimidated by their fathers and by how much money these women have: I got to date them.

I've also dated women who are more qualified than me. I went to college but I got an Art History degree, and honestly the only reason I went for it was because I knew that's where the hot, alternative women with a high sex drive and a desire to try new things were at, because if I wasn't going to a college filled to the brim with attractive women, I wouldn't have bothered with college at all.

Women aren't as picky as you lot make them to be, and there's lots of attractive women with college degrees dating men who make much less, and who are much less educated than they themselves are. I had a teacher back in high school who was married to a dude who worked as a construction worker whereas she had a masters in Pure Mathematics, and she was hot as hell, and I've met lots of women who were doctors and dentists and engineers, and they were married to men who worked dead-end jobs with only an high school education, and there were those women married to dudes who dropped out during junior high school.

All of these women were hot and the men were nothing special to look at, and no, I am not a Chad. Average height for a Caucasian American, a natural 160lbs at a a flat stomach body fat percentage, and I have a small chin. I'm just like every other dude in LA, probably below average, as I've spent a lot of time at Muscle Beach just staring at Arnorld Schawrznagger when he'd show up there, and I don't look remotely like those men.

Women not wanting to date red pillers or black pillers doesn't mean women as a whole are very picky and hypergamous. It's that red pillers and black pillers are very much bellow average and they can't make the cut, that's all there is to it.

Guys think too much about what other men think of them. Then there's me, a guy who dated a woman who was 6'6'' barefoot, who would shoot up to being over 7 feet tall when she would put heels on, and I would take her to the nightclub and every guy would be staring in shock at us, and there I was laughing to myself, because my masculinity isn't defined by how long my leg bones are.

Now, see, the problem with the red pillers and black pillers who claim women who are average or below average are only interested in men who are 10 feet tall, billionaires, and handsome as Cary Grant, are the same men who have never looked at a mirror and haven't realized how ugly, deformed, and obese they are, which is what is keeping them from getting to be with the women they want to be with. It's not ''women's hypergamy.'' that is keeping this dude or that dude from getting laid, that's just nonsense, it's the guy itself that is cockblocking himself because he's aiming for women who are better than him in every regard.

junk_mail_haver · 2021-09-21T19:38:32+00:00

I saw post on /r/relationship_advice about how a sahd denied sex to his high earning wife, and it's kinda hilarious, because she basically demasculinized him, by making him a sahd, and now wondering why her husband is all mad.

Men need to feel masculine and powerful, women need to feel submissive(at least the majority of men and women, I'm so sorry about the PC police who are about decimate me completely), but match up with the opposites, if you are a man and are submissive, go to a dominant woman.

But you know, life works mysteriously. I keep seeing examples of tall women, short men on reddit, maybe they do exist.

JacobMoogberg69 · 2021-09-21T21:15:20+00:00

Everyone wants to bang a 10, it doesn't matter if you are a man or a woman. Any guy that claims he is completely happy with a 3 is a liar.

CatchPhraze · 2021-09-21T20:37:06+00:00

This is a crock of shit. 44% of mothers bring in 51% or more of their family income. Woman under 30 outearn men on average and more then half of them are on relationships. This is fake.

Mrs_Drgree · 2021-09-21T18:58:26+00:00

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heyitsjeape · 2021-09-21T19:30:51+00:00

Haha. Is there a slew of tall, rich, “educated” females with problems dating?

Responsible-Bike9047 · 2021-09-21T21:09:19+00:00

yeah bc you cant submit to someone on your level, by definition of the word you cannot submit to someone w equal capabilities as you. and frankly why tf should an educated rich woman settle for some poor short guy? just so shes not alone?

Kairos_GMHB · 2021-09-21T21:41:14+00:00

Why should they? They can actually get them, so... If you could date a Victoria Secret supermodel you wouldn't be looking at girls from your neighbor. I only see jealousy here.

Sewud · 2021-09-21T22:42:50+00:00

No, the problem is that if you are a 5'7 girl who is rich and educated, it's hard to get a man of the same level of height, money and education.

Reality: Testosterone-puberty gives men 5 inches on women. A 5'7 woman is like a 6'0 man. Height is desired in both men and women that's a fact.

But the man who is 6'0 and has the same amount of money and education as her might prefer to trade in his money and height for a hotter woman.

For instance if a man is 6'0 and is a 5/10 in looks, maybe he's fat or something, and he makes 100k and has a bachelor degree, he can choose one of these two girls:

A) the 5'7 girl who is 5/10 in looks and makes 100k and has a graduate degree

B) a 5'5 girl who is a 7/10 in looks and makes 60k and is a bit less smart

A lot of guys would regard girl B as better, they even might consider it better that she's less smart and that she makes less money, as this makes the man feel more secure

But girl A isn't terribly interested in dating a less intelligent man or a shorter man, so she remains alone, because men would rather pick beauty and less smart

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Latter_Ad_6840 · 2021-09-21T21:13:18+00:00

You know I've always (until now, I got very lucky with my current partner) dated below my league as a woman who is kind of educated/has an okay job etc and the main problem I encountered is how insecure it made the men in my life.

I don't like brag about it or anything, but every time every single dude I dated who didn't have as much going for them tried to take credit for my work to brag to people about when it made no sense for them to do so, got insecure when I was working, like I used to think it was just the men I dated but I really think there is something behind this. I used to play dumb a lot because it was a good way to deal with that but I am dating someone who doesn't have that issue now and it's totally different. That's another aspect that isn't spoken about that much.

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