Women have it way harder then men in almost everything.

23eggz · 2022-04-07T14:29:37+00:00

I wonder how many women actually orgasmed when conceiving their child....

lileraccoon · 2022-04-07T16:31:23+00:00

My guy friend told me that women children and dogs are the only things loved unconditionally and women have it easier than men. I pointed out it’s wrong from the start to even state women are loved unconditionally. How can anyone say that. He truly believes this and being a man is so hard when all his friends dumped their wives of over 20 years for younger women.

xinxenxun · 2022-04-07T14:35:21+00:00

That last line, right there, there it is!

“Most issues men have are caused by other men.”

Perfectly said!

AnniaT · 2022-04-07T14:23:51+00:00

But women can get many tinder dates, women have it easy! /s

2022-04-07T14:18:33+00:00

And the best part is the response. "He puts food on the table and provides a roof over their heads!" If he didn't have a wife and kids what would he be doing? That's right, the exact same thing. Why? Because it's the bare minimum for human living, ESPECIALLY when his wife most likely has a job and is a full-time mother to his child in which case it would then be below the bare minimum.

LateDiagnosedAutie · 2022-04-08T08:51:03+00:00

This post doesn't even cover all the non-biological difficulties and disadvantages that come with being born female. There are too many sociological factors for me to list here, but one of the most devastating ones is the constant FEAR that you internalize. It's mercilness, unrelenting and EXHAUSTING! The fear of walking down a dark street alone.

The fear of accidentally bumping into the 'wrong kind of male' even in a bright, busy setting. The fear of passing by a group of males who will casually harrass you all in the name of 'good fun'. This fear goes far beyond inconvenient or annoying. It goes into being a perpetual source of devastating exhaustion.

If I could remove one, JUST ONE, side-effect of the patriarchy. It would be only that fear. Unfortunately, it's that very fear that is one of the foundational supports of the patriarchy, so I can't envision it being removed without dismantling the entire system.

Serious_Papaya8615 · 2022-04-07T13:07:56+00:00

Women are indoctrinated from an early age to always make themselves uncomfortable in order to please a man. We are expected to let go of the things we like or care about if men deem them as “unattractive” and to seek their validation instead. Men are taught to do the complete opposite and to immediately tear apart anyone who questions their interests (which on average are also far more deprived).

Men are also largely valued in society for just about anything they do, meanwhile women are told, once again basically since birth, that unless we are attractive and beautiful, we do not matter and we are discardable. That we are only valued based on our looks and as objects and that we should “hurry to get a man” before we turn 30.

Meanwhile 25 year old men are already half bald, with huge guts, hairy and with poor hygiene. bUt tHaT’s oK! Did I forget to mention, we are also placed under the expectation to “just give a chance” to every hideous scrote that finds us attractive, because otherwise we are a “a stuck up bitch” who will “die alone”.

However if that same scrote we did not want to be with but gave a chance because of social conditioning abuses us or disrespects us, guess what? We will be told that it is entirely our fault and that we should have “chosen better men”.

It really doesn’t end. Patriarchy is a disease and men who cry that they “have it difficult” should honestly just shut the fuck up. They have no idea what difficult is.

What’s difficult to them is women starting to wake up and refuse to put up with all of this garbage.

katiekat0214 · 2022-04-07T13:29:54+00:00

A hell of a lot of performative femininity and performative female-ness you can simply walk away from. I did, and my life is better for it.

I always knew from single digits I wanted to marry and be happy. Also knew from single digits I never wanted to have kids. I'm 54, twice married, happy the second time, no kids, no regrets. These days, I know for certain I'd like companionship, but living apart together, and we'd keep all finances separate. Saying all that out loud produces that vast disapproving silence from most men, and hearty approval from women. I'm on the right track by centering my needs and wants, and refusing to caretake and cater to what men want.

What pisses me off is how much social approval I got for marrying both times, and how much social disapproval I got for not wanting/having kids. Now that I'm widowed, and refusing to marry again (I'm NOT the Wife of Bath, thank you very damn much), once again, the social disapproval meter is high. I can't be arsed to care, because that approval and disapproval is so transactional.

I didn't have the words for it, but I realized that early on: if everyone is going to judge you for good and bad no matter what you do, the only sane solution is to ignore everyone and please yourself. Imagine if more girl children realized that, and then just did as they pleased! Let's hope that day is coming, and may we all work for it.

That realization, that I actually can do whatever I please, and walk away from social feminine norms, and not suffer major if any consequences, is what makes people super angry, so you know you're on the right track. You're not conforming to societal expectations; you're not mirroring those who have conformed but are still shaky about their decision. You listened to yourself, knew what you did and didn't want, and then acted from your own volition. That's power. People do not like it when women claim their own power, but it's so easy to do.

Yes, you'll have to put up with some people looking down on you -- big deal. There will be a few comments, but there are always comebacks, plus simply straight up ignoring ignorant boors. Resting in your power, pleasing and centering yourself, knowing that your decision impacts no one else... worth it, so very, very worth it.

Do whatever it takes, whatever you can to make your life better, easier, and more efficient.

MixWide · 2022-04-07T11:51:47+00:00

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Dnotchtiebd · 2022-04-07T12:30:18+00:00

In my culture, the child gets both last names and my bf is American and he understands that it's something I won't give up. My abusive ex on the other hand was very firm on not doing that but also had chosen the names based on his father and grandmother, and I had agreed to it all. According to him, all I was allowed was choose their middle names. He's the biggest clown for not only trying to negate me any choice in hypothetical children that I would carry and birth but also for wanting to erase their ancestry.

2022-04-07T17:21:14+00:00

They say we have it easier because they consider us the gatekeepers of sex, and they wish they were. They also think we have it better because they view having their male privilege pointed out as oPpReSsIoN.

Also, I too am totally shocked that most women are okay with birthing a child (aka literally risking their lives) given that all the man did was have an orgasm without a condom. And I also find it horrifying that any so-called “loving” man would be able to impregnate his partner without much thought as to the trauma her body will endure. I get it, women consent because they want to have a child, but it still strikes me as horrifying that men impregnate women they supposedly love. At a bare minimum, a man should act as a pregnant woman’s servant and be at her beck and call to care for her. Also at a bare minimum, all children should take the WOMAN’S SURNAME. Women bring life into this world and we risk our lives in doing so. Fuck equality. Women deserve equity. And in this case, that means being treated like goddesses.

P. S. God is definitely a misogynist. Well, at least all versions of God created by men in major religions.

2022-04-07T12:34:49+00:00

“Most issues men have are caused by other men and then blamed on women” - that’s so true. I was thinking about it recently and for real every problem men have with every single thing they complain about was created by other men.

capresesalad1985 · 2022-04-07T16:51:24+00:00

I did something to my knee recently and I have an appointment with an orthopedic tomorrow am. I’ve been an athlete my whole life and I’m fairly certainly I tore something (most likely meniscus) because I can’t walk without pain/clicking. I work on my feet and I cannot afford to be out right now (I’m a costume designer, I need to run up and down stairs to storage and do fittings, and I have a show opening in a few weeks). So my bf was like “ask the dr to give you some pain meds” because it’s also been hurting while I sleep. I laughed and was like “oh hun, I’m a woman, the dr won’t give me anything besides Tylenol”.

The sad part is this is 100% true.

Aht-Aht-Aht-Scrote · 2022-04-07T13:45:26+00:00

“At this point I feel like if God exists he is a misogynist” How men conned the whole world into thinking “God” is a man is the funniest part of all. Only women can create life so in what way can God ever be a man?

ivory_727 · 2022-04-07T12:53:34+00:00

I wouldn't mind it so much if society didn't also expect us to be bad-ass career women. But no, not only are we expected to be amazing wives and mothers (and sexy to boot), but we also need to be high powered earners contributing financially to the family.

Sorry, I'm not doing both. I'm not sure which one I prefer at this point, but I do know that I don't have it in me to be everything to everyone.

Natural-Object-4628 · 2022-04-07T15:28:28+00:00

And they'll ask the ladies to lower their standard as if they did something to deserve it. ✨

thefutureisXX · 2022-04-07T17:32:02+00:00

That’s what I tell my daughters! “You can’t please everyone so please yourself! :)”

Creepy-Night936 · 2022-04-07T13:08:23+00:00

I'd rather have my mom's last name than my NVM father. Seriously, he's just a sperm donor and I felt like he's an immortalized infant. Fuck. That's why I'm not having children. You'll never be sure when will the mask slip

Creative-Dirt1170 · 2022-04-07T16:33:22+00:00

I have a co-worker who told me something that made me really stop and re-evaulate my life: he told me, "you earned your position, he demanded his" (my male-coworker).

I worked my ass off and proved myself capable and they gave me the promotion, the guy I work with simply demanded his position and they gave it to him. Imagine what would happen of we just started demanding shit we deserve instead of politely asking?

violetevergarden1 · 2022-04-07T12:22:43+00:00

I agree with you totally. I guess alot of women were brainwashed in the name of acceptance and status.. Honestly I don't think I should handle this much of body pain and sacrifice just because the society wishes me to...

Colour_riot · 2022-04-07T17:20:48+00:00

I don't even understand how most women are okay with birthing a child because the dad donated a little bit of sperm.

See, if we go back to bIoLoGy that LVM like to ignore, only they fittest men are supposed to breed. The Masai supposedly made men hunt a freaking male lion as proof. They don't have guns.

I'm pretty against hunting animals minding their own business, but until men have to do something similarly life threatening with not much more than a spear before they're allowed to have sex, they need to shut up about having it hard in any single way, because they don't

2022-04-07T11:35:34+00:00

Welcome to the patriarchy.

Fantastic_Jeweler_10 · 2022-04-07T17:39:44+00:00

My mom and I got into a disagreement the other day about time not wanting to take my fiancé’s last name. I had always been adamant about this and, when asked “why” I always found it so annoying that I have to explain myself extensively. I simply don’t want to. I also like my last name and it’s simply part of my identity. I also don’t want to deal with all the paperwork. I don’t think though that that’s enough for some people to justify not changing our last names for our husbands. It’s ridiculous.

My mom hit me with the “aren’t they (your kids) going to question why you don’t have the same last name as them? What if it makes you less of a family?”

Now I think this is absurd.

If I birthed these children, went though labor, risked my life, and, carried them for almost nine months, W why does not having the same last name outweigh all of these things? I am their mother because of all that I will do, not because of a different last name.

And, while I answered my mom, I realized ALL the things we as women would have to do to have kids. It was so daunting that I thought, “maybe I don’t want kids.” There’s such high standards on what a good mother is. In contrast, a man who is simply “there” is considered such a great father. So much of parenthood falls on women. I used to speak to my therapist about my fears of motherhood and the standards that scared me the most was “if you can’t do it all, you’re not a good mother.” The thing is though, I didn’t want to do it all; I don’t want to give up my entire life for kids because I am happy where I am now. I also know that I can’t because I’m a registered nurse working 12 hours a day for three days in a row. I know I don’t have it in me.

I’m not going to have kids until I feel like my fiancé (who wants kids much more than I do) shows me that he’s going to fill in that gap and be present.

sweet_birthday_babyy · 2022-04-07T12:22:28+00:00

Preach 🙌

2022-04-07T12:30:42+00:00

You’re DAMN right about that !!

The_Cat_Empress · 2022-04-09T14:31:26+00:00

"At this point I feel like if God exists he is a mysogynist."

LMAO I've come to this same conclusion sis...this is why it makes me angry when religious women go on about Allah or Jesus being for women and I'm like "Er...about that..."

George Carlin said it best, "Looking at the results I believe no woman ever could or would f**k things up like this...no contest"

"Most issues men have are caused by other men and then blamed on women."

Exactly!

throwaway7uvufuduf · 2022-04-07T13:07:00+00:00

I will never ever change my last name. As for my children, well I’m never having any. Pregnancy is a scam but that’s another topic.

Dreaunicorn · 2022-04-07T12:51:01+00:00

Personal opinion: It’s about the child. You sacrifice your body and energy and everything for the sake of the child, not the man who fathered the baby.

southindianPOTTU · 2022-04-07T13:57:25+00:00

Women bring this upon themselves though too. Like actively not “bothering” their spouse to help with kids. I don’t have many friends with kids but the ones I do have are just the worst at this. ALWAYS the one taking care of the kids, never is willing to take even a weekend vacation with us girlfriends. Damn, can’t even do a bloody video chat cuz she got busy with the kids. It’s annoying and I don’t find any of what she does cute or respectable. You wanna be a doormat, go ahead. Thank god I’m still single and don’t plan to have kids cuz I deserve better in life than to be someone’s b and be a nanny for my own kids 24/7.

Biracial_tooth_fairy · 2022-04-07T15:37:24+00:00

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Accomplished_Ad9592 · 2022-06-14T04:38:10+00:00

Women have it easier, it took years for amber heard to be exposed, men's suicide rates tops womens, men aren't allowed to share emotions. When a woman hits a man its "Yass queen" when it's a man it's "you should get the death penalty"

Lelking1 · 2022-08-08T20:41:07+00:00

If you dont want the inconvinience of a child then dont have one. Its really simple

Title	Women have it way harder then men in almost everything.
Author	Less-Weekend5123
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Date	April 7, 2022 11:29 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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