Ive seen this argument a bit on this sub, and also IRL lol

So on this sub I see tons of guys telling the women here that like men are the pursuers so therefore if a man isnt out there trying to seek out sex, he isnt getting any.

I met this girl in real life, and shes really attractive, but shes quite older than me at 37. But she told me she used to do drugs and stuff, and one time, she told me about all the crazy hook ups she had back in the day. Like WOW.

Im a virgin so I ask her for advice on that stuff. she told me that it just happens. She said shed be asked to just chill with guys who had tons of coke or meth to do, and sex would... "just happen".

I told her, that... I dont think sex is "just happening" and that these guys like planned on her being alone with them, high, so they could, you know.

I really wonder how much women think "sex just happens" im a 26 year old virgin LOL sex doesnt "just happen" for me.