Women want men to be like women. Men want women to be like men.

0kayz00mer · 2025-01-30T00:10:13+00:00

It’s socialization. If you inundated boys with sexual solicitation they would grow up more like women and not be as obsessed with sex. If you starved girls of intimacy and romantic attention and stigmatized them as creeps all the time they’d grow up more like men and be more fixated on sex.

IcyTrapezium · 2025-01-30T00:37:14+00:00

I just want a straight man who works out and grooms like a gay man. For some reason most straight men think they don’t need to look seductive to women.

Makuta_Servaela · 2025-01-29T22:42:07+00:00

On the other hand, men would like a woman who sees things their way. A woman with an uncomplicated sex drive. A woman who understands male hobbies and doesn't get too much anxiety or emotional ups and downs. A woman who's straight forward and to the point and doesn't have complicated emotions to navigate. But this would basically be a woman who is more masculine than average. Compared to this the average woman will seem overly emotional, with a delicate sex drive and sometimes puzzling emotional needs.

Except men also have a complicated sex drive, anxiety, emotional ups and downs, and complicated emotions. For example, they are the sex that is terrified of interacting with an entire orgasm node in their body out of appearing "gay", the sex who requires constant arousal to be able to participate in many types of sex (since they need to be erect), the sex flushed with testosterone (the more emotional hormone), etc

I mean, I agree that men want those things in women, but the funny thing is that men don't even have those things in themselves.

GridReXX · 2025-01-29T23:50:57+00:00

Women want a masculine man she can pillow fight and kiki with.

Men want a feminine woman who enjoys sports and video games.

I’m generalizing like hell but my point is women still want masculinity and men still want femininity.

MongoBobalossus · 2025-01-29T22:07:40+00:00

This is absolute nonsense.

Women want you to be a man. Not a boy, not a woman, but a man.

Women will give you everything you’re asking for if you act like a man and allow her to be her feminine self.

Otjahe · 2025-01-29T22:02:11+00:00

The thing is masculine and feminine changes depending on time or culture. Not long ago we wouldn’t say that education or politics is also for women. Likewise we wouldn’t say men having face wash routines or jewelry is manly. There are things men tend to be better at women can learn from, and the same truth exists the other way around. My father learned me to be extremely stoic and inexpressive of certain emotions or interests, but then given the chance to do the opposite, it only grew me as a human being.

insert_dead_memes · 2025-01-30T01:00:32+00:00

I think people consciously want their partner to have the same sexual energy as them, because they want their partner to be like them, but they are nonetheless much more subconsciously attracted to the opposite sexual energy. Definitely agree that people understanding these differences would save billions of relationships though.

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FunPoltergeist · 2025-01-29T22:25:43+00:00

I would go further and say women are men and men are now women. The most important thing guys need to realize is stop caring about women in general, stop kissing their ass, stop placating them, stop simping, stop giving them validation. Women want attention, stop giving it to them unless they benefit you.

Women don’t care about 95% of men, they don’t even see you. They don’t think about you. Stop giving any care about women that isn’t personally beneficial to you and you don’t need to think about it. I wish I could stop all the simping and views that women are on a higher beauty and moral pedestal. You have to shame these men, they made women think they are better than us, it’s our own fault.

Former_Range_1730 · 2025-01-30T00:15:05+00:00

This is only true for people on the non hetero spectrum.

CaptainBrunch5 · 2025-01-30T17:09:01+00:00

Men don't want women to be like men. In fact that's one of the least attractive qualities of modern women.

Boniface222 · 2025-01-30T21:05:41+00:00

Women are encouraged to speak their mind since childhood so they run their mouths about men before they see some kind of feat.

Men are used to women speaking faster than them and not listening. They want maturity, and women don't grow out of the annoying chatterbox thing as universally

PullHisHairIDontCare · 2025-01-30T21:55:23+00:00

I've been telling y'all

Substantial_Video560 · 2025-02-01T10:05:05+00:00

I prefer women to be more feminine to be honest and less like men. Saying that I do find women with short hair attractive.

Schleudergang1400 · 2025-02-03T10:51:52+00:00

No, men and women are generally attracted to the differences. Even homosexual people are generally attracted to the differences, that somewhat are the same as typical female/male differences.

Sexual dimorphism traits are THE most relevant things men and women are into in the other sex.

Federal-Equivalent28 · 2025-02-12T20:51:26+00:00

They won't let me add comment telllign me I'm banned. What's going on? I barely know how to use this site. I keep getting the technique wrong and nobody tells me how to correct it. They just banned me, for what?

Jiburonotsu · 2025-01-29T22:06:13+00:00

What we do about it is leave each other the fuck alone. Both sexes on average are deeply inccompatible.

berichorbeburied · 2025-01-29T22:16:14+00:00

This makes completely no sense

I do not want a woman to be like a man at all

This is dumb

I don’t like women taller than me

I don’t like women who look like men

I don’t value a woman’s finances

Etc etc

I literally value and search for female exclusive traits or genetic markers

Idk what else to say

What I can concede on

Being understood and loved and being able to have sex frequently are important if I was looking for commitment or a relationship

I don’t see how understanding or love would be masculine though

Independent-Mail-227 · 2025-01-29T22:10:31+00:00

You should separate what women say they want and what women correspond sexually

A woman with an uncomplicated sex drive. A woman who understands male hobbies and doesn't get too much anxiety or emotional ups and downs. A woman who's straight forward and to the point and doesn't have complicated emotions to navigate. But this would basically be a woman who is more masculine than average.

No, this is what we would call an adult, not a child that learnt to take care of itself but a real adult.

Mr_Vaynewoode · 2025-01-30T02:01:09+00:00

I just want accountability and loyalty.

kvakerok_v2 · 2025-01-29T23:44:50+00:00

Literally no man that saw and touched a naked woman wants women to be like men. What men want is "femininity", and most modern women confuse it with "🐈".

MasterAd6260 · 2025-01-30T00:06:14+00:00

I have watched a video before that addressed this.

The argument was, some men want to go 50-50 with a girlfriend because they compare it to hanging out with their buddies.

Or they compare their gf to their male mentors, and how hard working their dad is. Which is why they don’t want to provide. They want their gfs to represent their male figures in their life (friends, dad, uncle, grandfather) instead of the female figures in his life (mom, grandma, sisters, aunts)

This is also why some men think women can fight other men physically. Because they are comparing her to other guys at their gym that have a lot of strength and muscles.

If you ask me, these men might be bi. Because they don’t like what comes with femininity.

Wanting a woman to be aggressive, assertive, 6’0, full of testosterone, have the same bulky builds that gym bros do, and being the one to initiate relationships would mean you want a very masculine woman.

Title	Women want men to be like women. Men want women to be like men.
Author	Boniface222
Upvotes	7
Comments	198
Date	January 29, 2025 9:54 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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