What do women here think of the female dating strategy advice ?

EulenWatcher · 2025-03-06T14:13:52+00:00

I don’t condone either side here, and a lot of people creating content about dating and how bad the other genders are just grifters pushing their agenda.

I’m egalitarian, so most of this advice goes against my values.

OkSun6251 · 2025-03-06T14:24:47+00:00

It’s obviously toxic.

Outside_Memory5703 · 2025-03-06T15:09:32+00:00

I’m not looking for a provider, so I don’t need it

waffleznstuff30 · 2025-03-06T16:50:43+00:00

I agree with some of it but it's not unheard of revolutionary advice it's kind of practical things you should be doing anyways. You don't really need a "strategy".

Centering yourself and putting your best interest first. This weeds out a lot of insecure/unserious men. A guy can't humble you. And take you down a few pegs if you have a healthy sense of self esteem. A guy can't manipulate you if you respect yourself.

Invest in guys who invest in you. A guy who actually likes you. Is going to invest time and effort into you. He will remember those little quirks about you. He will take time to get to know you. It's not money. It's just personal investment. Men who want casual or are unserious just want to mess around. Will invest nothing. They won't remember the small things about you.

Don't give too much too soon this is healthy boundaries? Don't be exclusive loyal for a guy you just started talking to. Don't sleep with a guy too soon. Like get to know them first? To make sure this is a safe person. I'd say the first 2 months? Don't expect much.

These are common sense? And rational approaches and not really a "strategy". It's just protecting your self interest and having healthy boundaries? So you can weed out toxic user men or guys who don't like you.

I don't agree with using men for money. Or high value/low value nonsense. Or calling men scrotes. I think the Red Pill is foul. And you aren't better if you act the same. But I understand.

leosandlattes · 2025-03-06T15:08:42+00:00

I downloaded the FDS "guidebook" because I was going to write a post on it for RPW. I've read through it all; I would say like ~30% is good advice for vetting men. Things that women should be incorporating anyway.

Some of those women are probably bitter, especially the older ones. There's a subsection of younger women who strategize hypergamy and it works out for them.

justdontsashay · 2025-03-06T14:21:49+00:00

None of it is how I approach dating, so I don’t get any of my advice there.

I don’t like body shaming from either side, no one should feel obligated to date people they’re not attracted to, but you can just not date someone, you don’t have to go beyond that and make them feel like their body is unacceptable.

SayuriKitsune · 2025-03-06T14:54:45+00:00

I never used any advice from anywhere, I just act how I think is right.

I don't expect for a man to pay, but if he does it, I'm grateful, I don't have a problem with paying either.

The 50/50 .. if its not just financially. 50/50 on house chores too. If he doesn't want that, well then he can pay and Ill take care of the house. What I'm not doing is 50/50 and everything on the house... f that

Shaming people for their appearance its classless and I wouldn't do that.

Disastrous-Lynx-3247 · 2025-03-06T15:17:31+00:00

Same as any PUA/red pill space. It's populated by people who aren't great with social skills or limited by cultural/social issues seeking cheat codes or hacks for manipulating the opposite sex.

angelbaby933 · 2025-03-06T14:55:02+00:00

None.

They have no interest in finding meaningful connection or improving themselves in ways that don’t directly impact their desirability to men.

I’ve read something about the importance of education, not for yourself, but because rich men are more likely to pursue educated women?? All that debt and hard work just to improve your odds of securing a man??

It’s supposed to be empowering but is incredibly vapid and male centric.

It’s also very idealist, only a small portion of men can afford to fully fund another person and how many of those can you expect to not leverage that power over you in some way?

They don’t understand that the hand that feeds you can choose to starve you at anytime, hinging your financial future in another person is a stupid gamble.

Not my monkey, not my circus. I’m happy in my relationship and proud of the way I’ve adhered to my own moral compass in my own life and dating.

RoseyButterflies · 2025-03-06T14:24:56+00:00

Just go for men you are attracted to it's not that hard 😂🤔

Tylikcat · 2025-03-06T15:43:47+00:00

Never looked at it, doesn't sound like something I'd be interested in.

2025-03-06T16:17:59+00:00

What do women here think of the female dating strategy advice ?

It’s very toxic and not effective advice.

no going 50/50 with men , asking men to pay for the first few dates fully etc.

This is dumb. Unless you’re actively seeking a traditional conservative marriage where you’ll be the housewife and he’ll be the provider, this advice makes no sense.

The biggest issue I have with that sub is the overt body shaming of men

That’s just bullying, and it’s horrible and unkind. Regardless of gender.

Also do you think the women there are misandrists or are they just bitter from whatever they've been through in their lives'(from men perhaps)?

Both. Their previous experience is what’s made them a misandrist. Mind you an explanation for their feelings doesn’t excuse their behavior, it’s still spewing hateful unnecessary shit on the world. Basically the same issues I have with most red pill ideology.

ThatBitchA · 2025-03-06T15:38:59+00:00

FDS is basically women deploying the same techniques as men.

The biggest issue I have with that sub is the overt body shaming of men who don't fit their romantic criteria (just like incels) . They shame short men , men with small penises, overweight men and men who aren't their type physically .

You mean the same bullshit that men do in this sub every day?

They are just matching the same energy as men. 🤷

PracticalControl2179 · 2025-03-06T14:22:48+00:00

It’s excellent advice.

Men overtly body shame women on this forum and the mods do nothing about it. Look at the 19-21 BMI obsessed guy. A daily point of contention is how fat and disgusting these men find western women. Another common topic is how old and gross post wall women are (women above 25, 30, or 35). Why does it upset men when men do the same?

Furthermore, it says the same things as TRP.

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They literally say what TRP says about men. RP men get upset for some reason, but they literally repeat what men say about themselves and their nature. For example, this post is warning women not to be used for sex and “just another hole” by a guy who finds them unattractive. PPD says the same thing. A man is boasting about how men view unattractive women as holes.

FDS applies what men say about themselves on TRP and prepares women to protect themselves. FDS is basically “pick better men: the forum”.

AnonPinkLady · 2025-03-06T17:01:21+00:00

some of their guidelines just aren't realistic, so I don't fully support it. I think the idea of vetting way more is solid advice but I don't know that their tips on what to vet are all that smart

Routine-Present-3676 · 2025-03-06T17:59:58+00:00

i think any dating "strategy" beyond figure out who you are, your own values, how you like to spend your time, and how you need your partner to behave in order to feel loved, then date specifically with those things in mind, is a strategy that's not worth listening to tbh

S0yslut · 2025-03-06T19:35:20+00:00

Being paid for is “hot girl dating advice” marketed at women who might not be attractive enough to pull that off.

I agree with the fitness part, fat is unattractive. Obviously bodying shaming things people can’t control or change is just bullying.

The submission they display on the sub is too extreme and fetishy. There’s a couple good lessons, for example teamwork between husband and wife in division of the responsibilities that play to our strengths I feel reduces arguments and there is beauty in giving your husband peace at home. So while there are some great lessons, there’s also a lot of garbage to sift through.

StrugglingSoprano · 2025-03-07T00:11:33+00:00

Body shaming is gross no matter what gender is doing it.

I don’t like how transactional they talk about relationships. The “high value” man and woman stuff is really weird. So weird that I dedicated my flair to making fun of it.

Elliejq88 · 2025-03-10T16:14:56+00:00

"The biggest issue I have with that sub is the overt body shaming of men who don't fit their romantic criteria (just like incels) . They shame short men , men with small penises, overweight men and men who aren't their type physically"

Oh boy oh boy. You do realize most of the Internet does this with women and we are expected to just deal with it? Heck, r/askmen and r/askreddit even have threads filled with men saying rude awful things about women who have an unfortunate/less desired body shape even at a healthy weight.

Its interesting one female sub that gives back the same medicine men give gets demonized so much.

FDS gives excellent advice for weeding out poor quality men and also poor quality friends.

They arent against 50/50 at all, so I can tell you dont even really understand FDS. Most men who say they are 50/50 in relationships arent and FDS is all about not tolerating that. You go there and read a few comments without context and assume.

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attendquoi · 2025-03-06T17:44:48+00:00

Not familiar with it. I think it's lame to need an outside ideology to date successfully, regardless of gender. Just accept no one likes you

SwimmingTheme3736 · 2025-03-07T07:41:48+00:00

I disagree with it for many reasons.

First of all it’s shitty to talk about people like that.

Second if you are looking at men as a resource you will not end up in a happy marriage

Trouvette · 2025-03-07T13:16:42+00:00

They’re trash who were told they were princesses one too many times.

2025-03-07T22:39:14+00:00

Bits and pieces of it can be helpful for VERY insecure women if they wanna prevent being taken advantage of. But they’re too black and white and extreme for me. I listen to the podcast as background noise and for entertainment sometimes but I usually disagree with a lot of what they’re saying. Unprovoked body shaming about unchangeable things like height and dick size is not okay. The women I know that think like this happen to be perpetually single and kinda delusional about their own attractiveness.

NoDanaOnlyZuuI · 2025-03-07T00:59:02+00:00

They’re grifters, just like red pill male dating strategy

Give them shitty advice that keeps them single so they keep coming back

Windmill_flowers · 2025-03-06T15:05:42+00:00

What do I think of them?

They don't seem terribly pleasant. They ban at the drop of a hat if you go against the hive. Much like North Korea, they do not tolerate dissent

What advice do I agree/disagree with?

Women should be cautious around men. See Bear in the woods

How much of what is stated there do I resonate with?

I agree with some of the underlying views, like women should have their own hobbies and not center men. I just don't agree with the conclusions they draw. Like men are "scrotes"

Are they misandrists or bitter?

Misandry is a myth

https://youtu.be/6zerQ1XSx0s

Title	What do women here think of the female dating strategy advice ?
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