Q4M: Would it be cheating if your SO got her emotional needs met with an AI behind your back?

Life-Income2986 · 2025-04-08T05:47:59+00:00

Yes, but the relationship would already be dead if her emotional needs were not being met to the point where she's chatting with Ai-rone.

Peeloin · 2025-04-08T05:55:51+00:00

Yes, but like you messed up really bad if she is cheating on you with an AI chatbot.

Barely-moral · 2025-04-08T13:40:36+00:00

If the technology is that advanced then I could also get my emotional needs met by the same technology.

It is not cheating.

As long as I have something to get out of the relationship and she has something to get out if it, the relationship will continue.

NockerJoe · 2025-04-08T06:23:52+00:00

Relying on a program designed to gas you up for emotional fulfillment is ridiculous as hell, and I'm saying that as someone who actually does use AI regularly.

If my girlfriend were using an AI designed to be a racial caricature of the race I already am to meet emotional needs that kind of says a whole lot about her.

Kreeps_United · 2025-04-08T09:20:45+00:00

I wouldn't consider it cheating, but a reason to change and put in more effort.

This is a use of AI I'm okay with, but I'd want my S.O. to get those needs from me.

BrainMarshal · 2025-04-08T11:16:34+00:00

Maybe. But AI will never be enough for women.

AssPlay69420 · 2025-04-08T13:42:41+00:00

No. If she needs extra whatever, and she’s not seeking it from another human, I’m fine with it.

Superannuated_punk · 2025-04-08T06:49:43+00:00

She no longer needs much reassurance, she doesn't text you half as much, or talk to you about her haters at work, forgets anniversaries, isn't interested in Valentine's Day, or date nights, doesn't try to hold your hand, doesn't watch romantic comes with you, no longer says "I love you" everyday, etc

What if I like that stuff?

Odd_Book_9024 · 2025-04-08T07:07:38+00:00

Nope. Wouldn’t care in the slightest.

Might even improve my relationship

Quealpedoestoy · 2025-04-08T06:32:21+00:00

IMO this is not cheating, if it were, going to a psychologist in most cases would be considered cheating too.

wtknight · 2025-04-08T12:15:25+00:00

I don’t know how other men feel, but I’m not personally jealous of AI “men”.

Quealpedoestoy · 2025-04-08T06:32:30+00:00

IMO this is not cheating, if it were, going to a psychologist in most cases would be considered cheating too.

abaxeron · 2025-04-08T08:00:10+00:00

To quote an old adult comic about a couple visiting an "artificial partner" brothel,

"These are toys, not persons."

Not cheating.

growframe · 2025-04-08T11:15:10+00:00

I don't know nor care about the semantics of whether it's cheating or not, but if she's no longer emotionally intimate with me and doesn't want to go on date nights then the relationship has a huge problem and I'd be considering leaving.

Trancetastic16 · 2025-04-08T08:12:12+00:00

It’s not cheating, AI in it’s current form is just a toy that mostly regurgitates your input back with the expected responses, but it’s not healthy either to use in the way you suggest and the keeping it a secret to rely on for fulfilling her emotional needs is what I’d have issue with.

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Gitsumrestmf · 2025-04-08T09:15:01+00:00

Not in a strict sense, but it's bad. Spouses should turn to each other with their "needs", not some 3rd parties. That's a slippery slope.

BobtheArcher2018 · 2025-04-08T12:37:48+00:00

This would be worse than cheating. She has voluntarily joined the Matrix. I'm out.

Lift_and_Lurk · 2025-04-08T13:45:19+00:00

Bruh, if I can’t give a girl enough emotional attention that I can be replaced by an app then she needs to find a better boyfriend.

AidsVictim · 2025-04-08T14:08:26+00:00

No but it's probably a dysfunctional relationship. I guess it depends on what the guy wants and is comfortable with.

Seems like a gender swapped version of "is porn cheating?", which is also no but it doesn't mean you have to be happy with the relationship.

Legate_Retardicus84 · 2025-04-08T14:09:20+00:00

Yes.

Ego73 · 2025-04-08T19:53:14+00:00

She could be doing this with a flesh and blood human for all I care. As long as she desires sex from me, that's all I care about.

Puzzleheaded_ghost · 2025-04-09T00:32:51+00:00

This is a failure of a connection. Does it matter how you define it? If she fails to talk about it, then there is not much hope, I'm afraid. Does it matter where the attention has transferred? It's gone for you. It's been lost, and the past is the best predictor of the future.

Your following actions define you.

just_a_place · 2025-04-09T06:31:16+00:00

No.

How do you feel?

Why would I feel anything? That seems like average and normal female behavior to me.

Betrayed? Is this cheating?

No because it's no different than her reading one of those stupid erotic novels.

Livid-Log7463 · 2025-04-09T11:24:29+00:00

It could be playing with herself emotionally at most.

James_M_Croft · 2025-04-16T18:57:10+00:00

I don't care either way in the act on itself, it is just an AI.

I do care if it causes her to fuck other men or refuse fucking me tho.

Environmental_Day558 · 2025-04-08T06:07:50+00:00

My main concern about it would be what type to personal information she would be feeding it, especially if it's a foreign app. Other than security concerns, I wouldn't feel any type of way as long as it was confined to an app and not other people.

Tbh this could be sort of a positive for men not good with emotional labor.

Jetpine9 · 2025-04-08T15:56:09+00:00

It's hard to say from your post how checked out this hypothetical girlfriend really is. To me it sounds like she's happy with the primary relationship but not as needy now (for just one example, I've never had a girlfriend say "I love you" every single day, and not being hyper concerned about Valentine's Day actually seems like a plus), but I'm sure others will read it as she no longer loves you at all.

Bottom line, as long as she still loves me and is able to be present when we are together, no problem. Maybe we'd have a 3 some with the ai. j/k. And as long as the ai didn't get jealous.

Schleudergang1400 · 2025-04-08T07:16:26+00:00

No, it would not be cheating. Because cheating is individually defined in every relationship. In my relationship, emotional connections with other people are not cheating, talking to other people about anything is not cheating, and there are very few situations where having sex with someone else would be considered cheating.

But i would certainly not get out of that relationship what i need. I need date nights, hand holding and "i love you": expressing our love through words and physical intimacy besides sex, spending quality time doing things that keep the emotional bond tight.

Over a couple of weeks or months, our emotional bond would erode and my needs would be unmet, to a point where talks about the future of the relationship would be required, possibly a breakup, if the bond is not repairable or not even wanted to be repaired.

How would i feel? Probably sad, that i got out-humaned by an AI on one of my core abilities in relationships. Sad, about the loss of the emotional bond, the feeling of loneliness concerning the lack of emotional intimacy.

Odd_Book_9024 · 2025-04-08T07:08:21+00:00

I wouldn’t care if a woman I was with was in love with another woman

Why would I care about a computer?

berichorbeburied · 2025-04-08T05:52:40+00:00

I personally don’t care about talking or conversations

I became good at that with women irl ONLY for their benefit

Talking does nothing for me personally or emotionally

It may hurt me if I think something PHYSICAL happened

Other than that idc

Title	Q4M: Would it be cheating if your SO got her emotional needs met with an AI behind your back?
Author	Windmill_flowers
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Comments	125
Date	April 8, 2025 5:40 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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