What makes women feel sexual energy/Sexual tension from men

CrvCrx27 · 2025-07-08T18:51:30+00:00

Your presentation (cleanliness and understanding a little bit of fashion) is the gatekeeper.

Sexual attraction is entirely how you make her feel.

Obviously if you are such a specimen that you ooze sex appeal, that can start you off on a great foot…

But every gorgeous motherfucker can fuck it up for himself if he’s an awkward loser.

Rhino3750ss · 2025-07-08T19:56:53+00:00

You cannot create sexual tension the same way that women do because you are the opposite gender.

Women feel sexual tension when a man is social with her but detached from her appearance simultaneously. They judge a man's strength by how sexually patient he is, and this is what every shit test evaluates for.

To a woman's emotions, the less urgent you are, the more preselected you appear to be and women's safety mechanisms are satisfied and her vagina feels that energy.

The cause of nearly all ghosting is that the man behaved in a way that signaled non selection via urgency.

You know you are in the right energy when you can talk to a dime with your heart rate remaining normal the whole time. You have to be both consciously and subconsciously outcome independent to achieve that.

maprunzel · 2025-07-08T22:41:33+00:00

Well recently I (40F) went on a date and he (45M) questioned my height so we stood up to compare. There was this chemistry I wasn’t expecting when we were standing close up. I know he felt it too. We just sort of both got surprised but had a nice kiss later. Pretty sure he will be my boyfriend soon.

ChicoBrillo · 2025-07-08T20:25:34+00:00

imo its a dance. Tension is the play between "will we?" and "won't we?" Putting your cards on the table immediately is the antithesis of tension, that's why teasing is a common way to flirt, you're acting like you don't want them, but you do, and that is tension.

I say dance because I think it's more of an art than a science. You can play it too cool, to where they just think you're not interested at all. For me, I balance bold actions like asking them out, showing interest, touching etc, with more non chalant actions, ie being non reactive and cool when they pull back, treating everything like its no issue and I have my own cool life to get back to etc.

That all being said, this can't really even take effect without physical attraction. You should have what I'll call a sense of style. That is to say a way of dressing, grooming, and presenting yourself that is unique and shows that you care/ are aware of your appearance.

Lack of tension isn't going to be fixed like an algebra equation where you just find some missing object in your repertoire, it's an art. Keep practicing

bezbrains_chedconga · 2025-07-08T19:19:06+00:00

Being able to dance is the easiest way. I flipped the script and do what women do. I dance for myself, by myself. And then they come to me. I’m not even a good dancer. I move for myself and couldn’t care what other people think. I’ve just eaten enough acid/mushrooms to get grooving if the music is moving.

If you can move in syncopation and remember that everything is on the 1– women just sort of innately assume that you can fuck. Or at the least they get curious about how you fuck.

My looks are mid. I’m def not ugly, but no Adonis either. 5’9, 200#, buzzed bald, out of shape but strong and stout. A 6.5 on a good day. It’s about the vibe.

2025-07-08T21:59:48+00:00

Your presence. It’s what energy you’re projecting (your vibe)

Turbulent_Cry3134 · 2025-07-08T18:41:04+00:00

LOOKS buddy, that's all. When I'm lean and I look like a god compared to most men suddenly women look at me with animalistic intensity want to devour me, when a fat slob nobody even notices me lol

DrinksAreOnTheHouse · 2025-07-09T00:21:08+00:00

Make her feel safe emotionally, physically, and financially.

liftingnstuff · 2025-07-08T19:23:57+00:00

Eye contact, physical touch, your intonation/voice, the conversation topic, creating a man-to-woman frame. Sexual tension is built off of attraction, but you have to do things to make the interaction non platonic. She can find you attractive but if you are acting platonically, there is no tension.

New_Banana3858 · 2025-07-08T19:47:46+00:00

be delusional.
you need too be willing too die for your cause, soldier.
it's hard to put in words... but it's not just looking at a woman.
it's looking at her with a intent, that says damn i want you.
in a non needy way

SpamStranger · 2025-07-08T22:25:01+00:00

I think it’s a weird triangle balance of confidence, attention, and withdrawl. Which seems counterintuitive, but the tension happens when there’s visible attention kind of like how you mentioned your eyes just naturally draw to that person. When you pay attention to them, but are thoughtful in your interactions with them they’ll often notice it. But you also have to be both fairly self assured in your own confidence/being without being “too full of it”/investing ALL your time in them if that makes sense. Thoughtful attention/intention is food, but there’s a different balance for a different person based on how much they can handle before it gets perceived as negative. For example exuding confidence is good, but sharing how confident you are… can be portrayed differently.

ndundu14 · 2025-07-09T02:02:19+00:00

The balance between masculine and feminine energy..

Masculine for looking strong to look after her, but there's still femininity so she doesn't get scared

CrazeeIvan · 2025-07-08T19:42:57+00:00

There was a tip I was given when I was a much younger guy and though I don't know who to attribute credit for it to, I can absolutely confirm it works.
When it's just you and a girl alone, and your conversation is getting intimate, while listening and making eye-contact... imagine that the next thing you say is going to turn her on so much that she's going to make an excuse and go to the bathroom to masturbate while thinking of you.

I won't pretend to understand the psychology behind it, though I have my theories, but if used correctly and there is already some degree of interest on her part; I have found it to be incredibly effective.

citygrl_xx · 2025-07-09T02:07:39+00:00

for me it’s talent / intelligence and hygiene. also an organic introduction instead of canned pickup lines that sound like they’re also using them on everyone else.

kenbsmith3 · 2025-07-09T08:20:35+00:00

Overall posture and energy

Also: 1. Proper use of pausing, don't rush to fill silence with noise. Learn to sit in it 2. Balancing complimenting and making her work. You approached her because you're attracted to her but you should still qualify her. 3. Strong eye contact, no, it's not staring, but it's not backing down. Once she looks into you, let her look away first.

Icy_History_4728 · 2025-07-09T19:14:12+00:00

Calm and confident energy. Calm and grounded. That's literally it - the rest is nature (your dick, her pussy) doing it's thing. You literally don't need anything else besides a dick and a regulated mervous system.

Educational-Drink623 · 2025-07-11T12:19:21+00:00

Girls lust over guys way more than you'd think. They might not be as forward as a guy would be to a girl because guys are just naturally way more prude. We show attraction in different ways. That's why a lot of times girls complain guys are never able to identify the cues they give. But have a female friend or check their text with other girls... They are as lustful as guys can be.

Now, in my opinion, I think status, wealth, clout is what really draws the direct expression of attraction from girls the same way guys show to girls. I don't think basic attraction matters as much to them, similar to how a woman's status might not matter as much to guys even if we can find it hot from time to time.

hotspur200 · 2025-07-12T17:56:42+00:00

Go to YouTube and search Dan Bacon

Affectionate-Ant4888 · 2025-07-09T03:15:58+00:00

raw confidence

iletitshine · 2025-07-09T04:53:28+00:00

lol it couldn’t be more obvious, even over text

FriendlyWrenChilling · 2025-07-09T07:32:51+00:00

Creating tension usually means witholding escalation. You build up your attraction but choose not to escalate. This is explained in my post "how to make women chase - frames 101" This is quite advanced, and you'll need to learn the trifecta first (approaching, escalation and flirting)

The creation of tension is in her imagination of your future and hers. So things like innuendoes and incidental kino build up this tension, but is lost when escalation occurs, because the future becomes more certain/validated, so the tension is lost. The mechanisms behind that is explained in my post, the principles of escalation.

Eitherway you sound like a newbie, this is probably the last of your concerns. Focus on getting enough approaches so that you can get enough exposure to kill your approach anxiety. You can't create tension if you constantly transfer over your anxiety to the girl via the law of state transference.

bonkwodny · 2025-07-09T10:58:20+00:00

Sexting and kino

MineDesperate2920 · 2025-07-09T13:30:05+00:00

It’s the vibe between you 2. The energy. It’s hard to create this with everyone because not everyone ‘clicks’ with eachother. But having fun and getting out of your head helps. So don’t be thinking about how to do while you try to do if

iROLL24s · 2025-07-09T17:16:58+00:00

Danger with a sense of safety

UltraAirWolf · 2025-07-10T00:46:38+00:00

Teasing her, not giving her a straight answer, not saying anything when she asks you a question and just staring into her eyes instead and smiling, touching her, doing anything she doesn’t expect, making her jealous, taking control of her in any way, etc…

Tricky_Ad_1855 · 2025-07-11T05:52:12+00:00

I stick to low 4s to avoid this problem lol

BusinessDrag3450 · 2025-07-08T20:03:29+00:00

Nothing. Search free flowing sexual energy. Search for mco circulation. It what gives sexual tension. Here people knows nothing. Absolutely dumb answers.

Matter_Still · 2025-07-08T21:22:57+00:00

It's a mystery. I knew a woman who was considered 10+ by my coworkers. She did nothing for me. I did nothing for her, and nine women out of 10 wouldn't spit on my hair to put out a fire, but my girlfriend at the time thought I was a god.

No matter what the "coaches" and PUAs try to tell you, it's a mystery, and if anyone really had cracked the code and could patent it, that individual would have wealth that would make Elon Musk look like a pauper.

Scary-Onion-868 · 2025-07-30T15:17:11+00:00

Height and physical appearance. Facial leanness, facial symmetry and harmony.

This is 99.9999% of it.

You can go out as a tall guy in a basic target t shirt and shorts and pull more than any other guy if you’re just tall and attractive. You don’t have to be a good conversationalist, you don’t have to be confident or funny, just good looking.

kaspersaif · 2025-07-08T22:22:56+00:00

Genetics You are either born hot or ugly

LimbBisquet · 2025-07-09T00:27:03+00:00

Not giving a shit about them.

Title	What makes women feel sexual energy/Sexual tension from men
Author	legitturtlelova
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Date	July 8, 2025 6:38 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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