If you women can despise/hate men but still date & have sex with them, because "sexuality isn't a choice", why do you question men's heterosexuality when they despise/hate women?

attendquoi · 2025-09-12T13:12:59+00:00

I'm not dating the ones I hate 🤣

CreepyVictorianDolls · 2025-09-12T12:55:41+00:00

I don't have official statistics, but the women who despise men most likely are not dating them.

Lysa_Bell · 2025-09-12T12:58:09+00:00

Women that find a guy despite hating men say "he is the exception" and they love and cherish him. The ones that cant find a guy just stay single.

Men that hate women pick any women despite their hatred and will treat her horrible because they dont think there is an "exception". And they dont want to stay single.

Redhotangelxxx · 2025-09-12T15:40:57+00:00

I don't despise men and I don't wish I was attracted to women, that comes with it's own things. The only thing being a lesbian would make me is more compatible with more potential partners, since I am a pretty girly girl in every way, which clashes with a lot of men I meet.

Avast_Lion · 2025-09-12T18:58:40+00:00

"If you women can despise/hate men..." I don't. "Why would you question men's heterosexuality when they despise/hate women?" I don't. A small minority of women do the former, and an even smaller contingent of gen-z internet memers and twitter jokesters do the latter. This isn't a "you women" post. You're going to have to take this logical inconsistency up with the women who are actually making "misogynists are gay" jokes.

NoDanaOnlyZuuI · 2025-09-12T13:22:38+00:00

Women who hate men, usually don’t date men.

Lemon_gecko · 2025-09-12T13:01:12+00:00

Because women don't date same men they hate? And men do?

My_House_on_Mars · 2025-09-12T14:54:08+00:00

I always thought it was dumb to suggest "just become gay" as a solution

I have only said it in specific contexts where the guy talks like he really despises women and loves men.

Nellylocheadbean · 2025-09-12T12:59:55+00:00

I always thought the idea behind “date men problem solved” is that the man never liked women to begin with and is more so an undercover gay man so he pretends to like women. A lot of women see on social media men being in a relationships with women but cheating on her with a man so that reinforces that idea.

I don’t agree with the shaming but just explaining the mindset behind it.

Soft-Neat8117 · 2025-09-12T15:04:18+00:00

Many men who hate women also happen to be very conservative and not really like gay people either. Calling them gay upsets them because they consider it one of the worst insults. Women who hate men aren’t homophobic the way men who hate women are. They don’t care if a guy calls them a lesbian. They like lesbians.

But when a man who hates women is called gay, it makes him more butthurt because usually these same men are homophobic.

Anonynymphet · 2025-09-12T14:55:09+00:00

To attempt to honestly answer your question:

I imagine calling the men-hating women a “lesbian”, they wouldn’t particularly care. If anything, I’ve seen extremist feminists even joking about how they wish they were lesbians, because they think dating women would be easier (I’m not agreeing, just saying their perspective).

The same can’t be said in the reverse though. I think heterosexual women, are GENERALLY more supportive of LGBTQ , so being called gay, is an insult to men, GENERALLY. Therefore, you’re more likely to see the insult of “go date men then if you hate women”, as opposed to “go date women if you hate men.”, because their response would probably be “I wish I could lol”

TLDR: This double standard is ultimately perpetuated by heterosexual men being more defensive of not being gay, as the sole intention in saying it is to insult.

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Superb-Foundations · 2025-09-15T07:22:10+00:00

We aren't dating the ones we hate. Men told us to choose better, and now we do.
A lot of women's "hate" comes from fear. And we have statistically every right to fear men due to men assaulting, raping, and murdering us.

Title	If you women can despise/hate men but still date & have sex with them, because "sexuality isn't a choice", why do you question men's heterosexuality when they despise/hate women?
Author	FlamingMetalSystems
Upvotes	64
Comments	154
Date	September 12, 2025 12:48 PM UTC (10 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
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