Holding women back and beating them down, won't do anything to calm down hypergamy

Scramjet1 · 2025-11-30T09:53:29+00:00

Just don't complain about men when relationship doesn't go like you want to.

Take accountability for what you've chosen. Superficial demands over Compatibility

3ONEthree · 2025-11-30T08:49:35+00:00

Hypergamy gives the impression of “grass is greener on the other side” and undermines the concept of building and growing together.

OkOutlandishness6370 · 2025-11-30T20:38:56+00:00

Women can literally compare you to imaginary Chad from a rom com or romance novel so I agree, fighting hypergamy is completely a non starter. I think it makes much more sense for men to shift gears mentally to "some degree of unfairness and pain is going to be inflicted on me by women, but I have to tank it to get pussy, how do I cope"

And then just go really far down the rabbit hole of philosophy, eastern thought systems, meditation, the Jesus pill, exercise, working out, mixing just the right balance of anti depressants, male friend group/support system etc to inure ourselves to the emotional pain and shit test barrage that's going to be inevitably hitting us in the face repeatedly when we try to have relationships with women. Become immune to their weapons, basically.

None of this applies to good women btw. Just a theoretical world where all women are hypergamous and difficult to deal with. Detachment is key. I think trying to make women not be hypgermous and not behave badly is just handing them far too much power. Then it's like my emotional state is contingent on whether she's nice to me or not. Women can smell that out and just be not-nice to me on purpose, or even more hypergamous than she would normally be, to attain control. Unacceptable state of affairs.

ChicagoFaucet · 2025-11-30T08:45:52+00:00

How are you with dealing with accountability?

Why do you feel that you deserve a man who is twice as good as you? In this case, would you still see him as your equal?

Why would a man who is twice as good as you chose you? In other words, what do you bring to the table?

What would be your opinion of me if I said out loud, on the internet, that I deserve a woman who is twice as good a me. See how ridiculous that sounds?

Chance_Journalist_34 · 2025-11-30T08:45:07+00:00

Sadly even the most incompetent women 'think' theyre being held back. It is the current narrative of feminism despite all the structural advantages given to women in the professional environment.

Luckily my daughter had an epiphany that the patriarchy, wage gap and female oppression is BS. We had a large family disagreement about her University course. She abandoned her Chemistry degree to pursue Psychology which she found more interesting despite me spelling out to her its useless career wise. 4 years, £60k debt later she is bitter and resentful of her own choices.

Moral of the story, women think they can do anything. Reality hits them hard.

Also, women simply cant get to grips with the fact men are not interested in female success. It is not an attraction trigger for any men other than useless men. If you as a woman work to be twice as successful it will generally not open your dating pool to more men or better men. Though it may give access to dating men in the same field of work.

Say it with me sister 'Doubling your salary will not double the salary of your prospective date'!

PrecisionHat · 2025-11-30T13:46:25+00:00

Maybe if you guys didn't cry about every little preference men have that doesn't make you feel good.

TermAggravating8043 · 2025-11-30T10:14:07+00:00

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hypergamy

Hypergamy hasn’t been relevant since Victoria times. Men try to pretend women still are like this as a way to dehumanise them

PassengerCultural421 · 2025-11-30T15:49:52+00:00

Who is doing this op?

holmesksp1 · 2025-11-30T13:38:47+00:00

Holy mother of strawmen Batman!

I would be curious to understand some more concrete examples of this holding back.

The complaint men have about hypergamy you are not addressing, is how women are monkey branching towards toxic but attractive men, with those toxic traits being interlinked with the attractiveness. Then are crying foul on ALL men as toxic based on your experience with said toxic men, and pretending as if there's not a large set of normal men just below your standard, who do not harbor said toxic traits.

You cannot have your cake both ways, you have to take the bad with the good.

Most crazy hot women, are crazy, as a interlinked side effect of being very attractive. In that same way men, don't have a right to whine about how crazy women are if they want to chase hot women.

TheOneWhoThinketh · 2025-11-30T08:45:06+00:00

I'm a hypergamous woman, and if I 100% can't stand being with a man that's not at least twice as good as me, then you making me pathetic on purpose won't change my standards.

This has to do with self-image. The variables in hypergamy are what you think your own status is and what you think the man's status is. If your status is lowered, it won't technically change what you want from a man, but it will change what you consider "out of your league" and make the man relatively more attractive than before. This is kind of the whole reason that abusers are able to keep a hold on women. Of course, if you are consciously aware that a man is trying to do this, you'd likely avoid him, and his attempts to make you insecure would be more indicative of female behavior and so lower his status simultaneously.

That being said, men who seek to control women by lowering the woman's self-image rather than improving her image of them, generally seek out women that would be vulnerable to manipulation and more easily victimized, rather than trying to lower the self-image of an average woman. They usually also don't try to lower the image of an average woman but instead find one with a low self-image to begin with. Predators hunt the sick and injured animals because they're easier targets, rather than trying to injure a healthy animal to make it easier to hunt.

No_Self_2165 · 2025-11-30T08:24:15+00:00

That shit works because insecurity of a woman respond positively to narcissism of a man.

This is also why women keep repeating confidence is being attractive

That is just a dynamic and I don’t understand how that supposed to work against hypergamy?

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wtknight · 2025-11-30T16:32:37+00:00

It will make women somewhat satisfied with certain life outcomes that are still more preferable to her current reality. If a woman in a developing country from a poor farming family could have been a doctor but was kept from doing it, then she still might be happier marrying a somewhat successful farmer her own age rather than live the alternative of continuing her life single in a poor farming family.

Therefore, by limiting that woman’s choices, men benefit, because that woman likely would not have even considered that somewhat successful farmer if she had been given complete freedom to become a doctor.

DGenerationMC · 2025-12-01T02:45:24+00:00

Agreed!

Please don't hold and beat women down, it'll hurt your hands for an ultimately ridiculous reason.

Whiskeymyers75 · 2025-12-01T06:14:08+00:00

Why would a man twice as good as you want you for anything but a hole though? Why lower yourself to that of a cum sock?

kartu3 · 2025-12-01T08:40:03+00:00

Hypergamy is a noticed phenomena, that women, much more than men, demand that their partner is at least on their "level".

But there are no bars that we consciously set, no choice whatsoever here.

So we can "want women" (or man) be like this and like that, but it changes nothing.

ZennedGame · 2025-12-02T02:35:58+00:00

Don't overcomplicate this issue.

Men need to enforce healthy boundaries on both himself & her, which is part of making him her "best option."

Women need to get better at not taking their man for granted and respecting the limitations he sets.

This mutual respect dynamic can't be faked, it can't be half-assed, and it can't be negotiated into reality. It must simply be.

& If it can't be adhered to, then it should not be tolerated. Period.

That is why it is so uncommon in this largely self-centered, dysfunctional society.

autistic_cool_kid · 2025-11-30T08:24:32+00:00

Hypergamy is not even real.

Humans are attracted to social status, men and women.

It's like saying women are "naturally sapiosexual" because they're attracted to smart people - being smart is generally seen as attractive, it's true for men and women, it's more important for some people than for others. There are rare cases where someone looks for the opposite.

Redpillers force the "hypergamy" theory by encompassing just anything into "social status" to the point where it loses all meaning and is infalsifiable.

Title	Holding women back and beating them down, won't do anything to calm down hypergamy
Author	Emergency-Sell-6713
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Date	November 30, 2025 8:14 AM UTC (7 months ago)
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