CMV: there's a greater chance of you getting with a woman if you are ok getting rejected by her

My_House_on_Mars · 2026-01-18T15:53:32+00:00

there's a greater chance of you getting with a woman if you are ok getting rejected ~~by her~~

Not acting resentful after rejection and be able to continue searching for someone who actually likes you back is absolutely truth, that is how you get a woman

Now continuing to pursue a woman after she said no, best case scenario won't probably lead to a good relationship, worst case scenario you are a creepy stalker lol

tiktok smells like rage bait

Reasonable_Mouse789 · 2026-01-18T16:24:40+00:00

I’m just so blackpilled at this point, it’s ridiculous

Women do not reject guys they’re attracted to. Women do not have trouble sleeping with guys they’re attracted to. Women will look at you “like that” during an introduction if they’re attracted to you. Women will not care what your finances are like if they’re attracted to you. Women will not need to talk to you for more than a few hours before sex if they’re attracted to you. Women do not play games with guys they’re attracted to.

All women will be “easy” for you, if they’re attracted to you. All women are like that. Every sexual encounter with every personality type I can think of had very similar aspects, because women act very similarly overall to guys they’re attracted to.

griii2 · 2026-01-18T15:45:08+00:00

Being ok with rejection, and not giving up after rejection are two very different things. Your title is quite misleading.

Vaudeville_Clown · 2026-01-18T16:18:41+00:00

Women who want to reject and then be pursued even more by the same guy, are mentally disturbed.

bondepart · 2026-01-18T15:52:31+00:00

If she says no, he should take it as a no. Continuing to pursue her anyway is rapey.

ChadChasingBReturns · 2026-01-18T16:22:29+00:00

No means no. A man still pursuing you after rejection means he doesn’t respect your word or your boundaries. That’s not attractive.

Lemon_gecko · 2026-01-18T15:44:12+00:00

I think that what you're implying is horrible. One thing is to be okay with being rejected. Another thing is to be okay with being rejected and don't stop pursuit. That's super uncomfortable, and that an unhinged take.

NoDanaOnlyZuuI · 2026-01-18T15:55:42+00:00

Being emotionally okay with rejection is good. Treating rejection like it improves your odds is not. A no isn’t an invitation to push harder. Teaching persistence after no creates entitlement, and that’s how people end up ignoring boundaries.

No-Comfort1229 · 2026-01-18T15:46:37+00:00

no. you got it backwards. you have more chances of getting with a woman if, in the chance shed reject you youd be okay with it and move on. because independent people who aren’t desperate are more well liked than those who are.

Ok_Cook_3098 · 2026-01-18T15:51:46+00:00

JESUS FUCKING CHRIST LORD ON HEAVEN HAVE MERCY ON OUR SOULS

you probably get more problems with the law then succes with woman with this method

this post is an absolut excelent point how many woman have no fucking idea how dating works, jesus christ please bless this woman

Clear-Kaleidoscope13 · 2026-01-18T23:46:51+00:00

Oh hell fucking no.

No means no... What a creepy ass post. Eyuk.

Velocirappthor · 2026-01-18T15:53:42+00:00

If he can’t take no the first time, when else he will also ignore her no?

midnight_blue77 · 2026-01-18T15:59:55+00:00

She is advocating for men to be simps. There is a reason men move on - and MUST move on - after getting rejected. And that's to NOT BE A SIMP.

Her advice is malicious because when women initially reject a man and he still demonstrates favor and commitment towards her, she is not going to be intrigued by this, she is going to be irked and turned off even more! She is going to see him as a stupid tool, a clown she can use. Which is what he is if he lingers after she says no. Masculine men who have a healthy sense of dignity and honor will just instinctively move on. Once rejected ALWAYS rejected. This is non-negotiable if a man wishes to maintain his masculinity or even just is basic dignity.

sablesalsa · 2026-01-18T16:14:59+00:00

If a woman rejects you, she doesn't wanna be with you. Taking it well won't change anything for her specifically

warichnochnie · 2026-01-18T16:17:15+00:00

does no mean no?

Hefty-Lobster-5513 · 2026-01-18T17:56:44+00:00

Im not pursuing any woman that rejected me.

Purge639ruler · 2026-01-18T22:54:01+00:00

Yea no thanks, I'm not gonna act like a clown and a fool to keep chasing a girl that rejected me once

2026-01-18T23:41:38+00:00

This is nothing more than a way to keep men pursuing.

Disregarded.

Every one of your posts - literally every one - is nothing more than a thinly disguised attempt to increase female advantage in the dating market.

Downtown_Werewolf_44 · 2026-01-18T15:57:19+00:00

Being OK being rejected is a good thing.

Keep pursuing after being rejected is not, no one should do that and you should never entertain a woman who is playing hard to get.

It's as simple as that.

Zabadoodude · 2026-01-18T16:18:39+00:00

Men should learn to be ok with being rejected and move on to the next one, not keep pursuing the woman that already rejected them.

At best he's not a priority for her or she's playing immature games. A worst (and most likely) she is genuinely not interested and he is now harassing her by persisting.

CelicnisGhost · 2026-01-18T16:22:42+00:00

I agree with the title but disagree with the rest of your post.

You absolutely should be okay with rejection.

You should not be "setting yourself up for it" lol.

Altruistic_Look_7868 · 2026-01-18T16:53:42+00:00

I disagree with her points, I think they are only valid in very specific scenarios.

Chances are men who are attractive enough to have options are less bothered by 1 woman rejecting them, since he knows he'll be able to get another one pretty easily.
When a woman who says finally says yes after a guy repeatedly asks her, it's usually because of some uncertainty on her end at the beginning. If there are already certain physical or personality traits about him that she finds utterly repulsive or unattractive, no amount of begging will make her say yes.

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Kingcrow33 · 2026-01-18T16:15:03+00:00

If I was rejected why would I try again? Are you saying she rejects them, sees a good response and then at some point asks the man out?

sensitive1young4man1 · 2026-01-18T16:48:40+00:00

Unless the "rejection" is unserious and playful, there is no point in trying further

Wide-Illustrator2906 · 2026-01-18T17:54:12+00:00

Men, Under no circumstances should you ever do this. Still entertaining a woman who has made it clear that she isn't interested in you is volunteering to be used amd seen as a resource and not a person.

FearInoculumTool · 2026-01-18T18:22:26+00:00

Not exactly how this works. It’s all about women wanting what they can’t have. If a guy approaches them and by his vibe and body language you can tell that his whole self esteem and self worth hinge upon you giving him his number, or even worse, if it is clear he has an agenda when coming over, then he is what this woman CAN have.

Why? Because he’s already decided he wants her. He appears needy and as if her saying yes will give him the value and self worth he so desperately needs. Ironically, this makes the man very unattractive.

However, if a man approaches a woman not because he’s decided he wants her already at any cost, but because he’s intrigued by her but still doesn’t know enough about her to decide if he wants to go to bed with her. If he is a hot skeptical of her and even behaving like he’s the one doing her a favor, all of a sudden the tables turn. He becomes what she can’t have, unless she figures out how to get him interested.

FaultySchematic · 2026-01-18T19:08:02+00:00

I'd rephrase that to "there's a greater chance of you getting with a woman if you're not preoccupied with getting with her" but overall yes

2026-01-19T03:08:33+00:00

I think I see the point she’s trying to make. I’ve had men I’ve rejected just act normal afterwards- not continued to pursue but just continue to act friendly. After that I started thinking about him differently and we later got together. For other guys it gets very awkward and uncomfortable and ruins the friendship, we naturally drift apart.

In general being ok with being rejected is always going to be better, both mentally for you and in terms of dating. But I really can’t blame anyone for being upset after being rejected, it sucks, and they have no obligation to stick around (and probably shouldn’t).

It’s just not really a good idea to take rejection as encouragement.

Reasonable_Style8214 · 2026-01-18T15:55:45+00:00

If women are so good at mind reading to the point they can sense if you're ready to be rejected by them, why do they complain about being played by men?

Title	CMV: there's a greater chance of you getting with a woman if you are ok getting rejected by her
Author	Windmill_flowers
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Comments	76
Date	January 18, 2026 3:40 PM UTC (6 months ago)
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