Which realisations have shattered/changed your world view the most? (Trp or not)

Melanoma_man · 2019-01-25T17:12:13+00:00

Being diagnosed with stage 4 melanoma and being told I have 3-6 months to live.... if the treatment won’t work..

Yeah..

If someone told me 6 months ago I’ll be back in work full time, lifting 4 times a week and fucking girls from tinder and playing day game at the mall and occasionally bring a girl back to my bed 30 mins after a cold approach.. I would call them a liar.

Facing my mortality and fighting through cancer has give me the strongest frame I could wish for.

IDGAF about anything anymore but my mission.

As Walter white said “I’m awake”.

monsieurhire2 · 2019-01-25T13:53:16+00:00

Studying economics when I was younger made me completely shift from the standard lefty/socialist to more libertarian. It felt like no one in public school taught you about how money actually works and human incentives.

i2dontlikeusernames · 2019-01-25T12:15:42+00:00

I realised that I don't have to wait for anything or anyone to make me happy and I just have to find happiness inside me. In the past, I was spending a lot of my time looking at people on social media thinking how much fun they have and that I'm not worthy of it. Now I see everyone as who they are and I'm just happy with myself.

xx-Rain_Maker-xx · 2019-01-25T11:32:10+00:00

Memento Mori. Once I realised I will inevitably die, I started living my life in a different way.

ay013523 · 2019-01-25T16:25:15+00:00

The red pill made me realize the world isn't as rational as one would like to believe. Its rational in its own way, as red pill concepts have been evolutionary and scientifically explained,

But the whole concept that being nice to women would actually make them like you less was mindblowing to me. It made me realize the world, and people, aren't as rational as men would like to believe.

KingRead · 2019-01-25T13:34:23+00:00

I realized after finishing school and starting my career that everything I valued in my life was a direct consequence of the decisions and work I put in. I now have a body I'm proud of because I spent years in the gym, I make good money because I busted my ass off in school, and I have good friends because I really connected with them and helped them get through struggles - as they helped me.

This realization confirms that my life is in my hands, I decide how I want it to be. And the best part is, I just have to continue these efforts and future me will reap even more benefits.

mazraj99 · 2019-01-25T15:23:34+00:00

You don t need to ltr a girl to fuck her

IHeartFemanons · 2019-01-25T11:34:08+00:00

I was a Lefty, feminist, antifa, pro immigration nice guy. Got treated like shit by my 'woke' peers I considered friends after questioning the 'Islam is the religion of peace' narrative. That lead me down a very deep rabbit hole. My views and life turned by 180 and I feel so much better and consistent now. Plus I pull way more women.

bobjoe177 · 2019-01-25T17:07:21+00:00

Surviving cancer 9 years ago gave me a new perspective. Make the most out of the time that you have and surround yourself with people you love. Just when you think you've got it all figured out everything can collapse in a few seconds. Since then I've spent years travelling the world, trying out new experiences, meeting a ton of people, and advancing my career. I make more money than I ever have in a career I find truly fulfilling and my ample free time is filled with invigorating experiences. It's worth the hard work and time to create a lifestyle that makes you happy.

Nergaal · 2019-01-25T17:15:40+00:00

The world does not owe you ANYTHING, even when by any moral standard you are deserved something.

rpvp · 2019-01-25T12:16:00+00:00

The concept of the ego and ego death

DadOnDabs · 2019-01-25T17:45:07+00:00

Life isn't all about girls.

After discovering TRP women and getting laid was the center of my life. Only after sleeping around a shit ton and not feeling satisfied did I realize that women are just an accessory to your life. They will never bring true happiness.

INNASKILLZ2K18 · 2019-01-25T11:55:59+00:00

Blue pill bad...red pill good.

Too many realizations to mention.

Though I do have friends who don't want something from me. They are very few and far between.

shinywhitedarkness · 2019-01-25T12:29:52+00:00

That I'll inevitably die. That I'm half animal, half symbolic. That nothing matters. Yet free to do what I can.

Reading the Denial of Death from Ernest Becker, Myth of Sisyphus from Camus, Existentialism is a humanism from Sartre and exploring Terror Management Theory did change my world view completly in addition with TRP. Nothing is like it seems.

HotHead121 · 2019-01-25T13:14:53+00:00

That we are alone

MisunderstoodAsian · 2019-01-25T15:16:56+00:00

Loyalty means nothing.

Idontgetitboyz · 2019-01-25T16:44:07+00:00

When I started going out to approach and realised my smv was a lot higher than I thought. It was the 1st time after my last ltr when I did not feel lucky that I got with someone because it was normal and I was worth dating

[deleted] · 2019-01-25T19:47:05+00:00

Money is really this arbitrary obsession. I still prefer to make lots so I can pursue amazing opportunities but really once you hit “your number” , just walk away dude.

Don’t chase the bigger house, mansion, etc. there is always some higher level and it never ends. If that’s the game you love to play then by all means but if you feel like your hitting arbitrary metrics then just walk away.

If you can’t walk away. You don’t own your money-your money owns you.

Travel. Start a charity. Live life fully & freely. Meet amazing people and fill your head with amazing memories

When I made this paradigm shift, I literally felt like I could breathe again.

DirtyBastard13 · 2019-01-25T20:37:29+00:00

People are bad by nature. People are also flawed by nature. They have no sympathy for weakness. Your problems=weakness.

Only the fittest survive/breed.

Assholes win.

Never count on anything good happening/ no it won’t be ok.

Money is everything, merit means next to nothing in comparison to money.

If you don’t have a car/ money you are a scrub who should’nt bother dating.

If you’re poor, you are a scrub who stands no chance dating/fucking.

Love is’nt real , What we call love are emotions/hormones designed to keep people fucking/ breeding.

Women are’nt as capable as men, but rather spoiled and lazy eternal children whom society lets run around with no accountability for bad behavior. As children they are always after their next hit of candy/shiny toys. There is no loyalty and their moods change just as easily as chidren’s.

A woman will choose an asshole who might murder her one day over something stupid, over the good, well intentioned man who worships/ “loves” and has her better interests at heart.

Women hate/ won’t fuck weak men.

The Christian God is at best an indifferent creator or an Asshole with unrealistic expectations which he punishes you for when you fail (being a flawed person).

It’s possible that there is no meaning to life besides, work, fuck and die.

The Bible is a book written by men, to control society and finance a religious class who don’t do real work. Religion (rules and fear of punishment propped up by the boogeyman of an all powerful (and unprovable) sky wizard combined with the promise of paradise afterlife), is a tool to control people and for weak minds to cope with the meaninglessness of life.

redpharma7789 · 2019-01-25T13:52:20+00:00

This is might sound a bit weird but everyone’s realizations are different.

The thing that changed my world the most was the first time I did it with a girl. We were going to do it doggy style and before I could even grab her hips to start she was already backing into me and started fucking.

This is when I realized that girls WANT dick too. Their not little, innocent princesses like they teach us in school. From then, my life changed with women.

bestsparkyalive · 2019-01-25T13:49:31+00:00

To what extent I was such a full on blue pill beta army commander. Gotten a lot better but damn boys what a tough battle against your self...

Iceklimber · 2019-01-25T18:03:53+00:00

Was leftist believing every single social justice mantra until having the first job, hauling packages

Male lanes had the heavier packages all the time (Whenever trucks delivered heavy packages to female lanes we switched). If there were no light packages then only men worked while women waited. Minimum wage for all.

Then I started college and feminists complained how oppressed they are, this was the first crack.

This initiated a changing process from gullible ideolog to critical thinking and eventual unplugging.

resnine · 2019-01-25T16:49:08+00:00

The whole structure of giving women what they need vs giving them what they say they want or need was pretty difficult to really hammer down.

It really fixed problems in my entire life. I basically view every person I engage with daily as if he or she is a woman that doesn't know how to communicate. I read through the lines and take right action and shit runs smoothly now. Before I was really good about giving people exactly what they said they wanted, needed, and doing exactly what they said it was alright for me to do.

In many cases, my actions that I verbally gained consent to take, were totally fucking wrong. People are just shit at saying know, or have no idea how they will emotionally be effected by those actions.

You have to know and understand those social dynamics clearly enough to take right action, but most people are very simple to read and understand. You make mistakes, but only with new people. If you've known someone a few weeks or months and you don't know clearly what actions they enjoy and will motivate them to really let you in, you haven't been paying attention close enough.

tefllifestyle · 2019-01-25T17:01:58+00:00

That doesnt matter how much she is into you when a chad comes arouns her eyes light up and she becomes interested

baeslick · 2019-01-25T18:27:28+00:00

I describe 2018 as three years crammed into one for me:

Shattered

- Learned in my penultimate semester of nursing school that becoming an RN was a glass ceiling

- Learned the relationship I had at the time was a recreation of my parents' pathological marriage

- Learned that my family dynamic is way more toxic than I realized

- Learned my ex, mom and sister have BPD

- Learned I had issues of codependency due to my abusive childhood and experience in nursing school

- Learned I was being lied to by people who said they loved me

Changed

- Learned what real love is

- Learned what healthy relationships are

- Learned I am way more valuable than I give myself credit

- Learned that God/the Universe will give you want if you know what it is and you ask for it

- Learned that I am responsible for myself first, and other people who apply to me second

- Learned that I have the capacity to make my way of success, and smart and hard work outweighs luck

fleuxroux · 2019-01-25T19:26:42+00:00

That we are bodies and minds tuned to a field of conscience. When we die it is like when a TV set gets broken: that does not mean that the original signal does not exist anymore.

rpmc83 · 2019-01-25T20:25:03+00:00

Awalt. I've dated the sweetest, most innocent girls who claim they're more honest than other girls and would never cheat....only to uncover their lies and discover they're cheating.

It's true, never listen to what people tell you about themselves; but pay attention to what they show you.

SeamusAwl · 2019-01-25T18:24:05+00:00

For me it’s the fact that everyone wants something from you, whether stranger, friend, or parent.

Similar. They all want to take and never want to give. It is because of this that I realized that I need to respect myself and cut out those who don't respect me. I am much happier because of it. I also no longer sacrifice my needs for someone else in the hope that they would provide it back.

Now I know this.. Relationships are give and take. I know what I am providing has value, If the return I get from you isn't of similar value then I cut you out.

BitingInsects · 2019-01-25T18:42:39+00:00

Realizing that in order to be the man I want to be I have to put up with mainstream media doing/following the complete opposite set of values. Watching the general public validate this behavior is frustrating and can be infuriating if you let it.

therandombiker1 · 2019-01-25T19:12:24+00:00

yeah that's true, but then again, you too want something from those you interact with. it's ok, as long as both needs are balanced.

for me it was the moment when i realized that i need to walk away, physically, from everyone I knew to be able to rebuild my life. because everyone expects something from you and you don't know what you want for yourself anymore in all that noise, if you don't break free.

buddhismo_communismo · 2019-01-25T20:44:01+00:00

She's not yours, it's just your turn.
Profit is the unpaid labor of the working class.
Women are always shopping for better deals, and that applies beyond Wal-Mart.
Life is Absurd.
Life is Stressful.
Life is meaningless.
Not everyone who works hard makes it. But everyone who makes it works hard.
Politics is a waste of time.
Religion is a waste of time.
She's not your Mommy. She's your LTR.

juliank47 · 2019-01-25T22:57:15+00:00

That working a normal 9-5 job is the most wasteful way to spend your life and that money has nothing to do with permanent happiness.

chazthundergut · 2019-01-26T00:16:10+00:00

I was regularly binge eating 5000+ calories per sitting. My life was going nowhere and I was paralyzed with anxiety about the future. I was completely disgusted with myself.

One day my best friend invited me to come over and take mushrooms. I took about 3 grams on an empty stomach.

I had many realizations that night. Among them:

Everything is going to be okay.

You are perfect, and the universe loves you unconditionally.

I havent been the same since. I've completely turned my life around, and each year is better than the last

Granite_Pill · 2019-01-26T03:07:00+00:00

Ayahuasca and Austrian Economics

SemiLoquacious · 2019-01-25T15:53:09+00:00

Realizing that there's no consensus among historians as to how the cold war ended or why the Soviet Union fell apart and that the members of the global communist movement simply moved into new movements once the cold war ended. Like Islam. And that answers the question of, "why is Islam just now a world threat when it's been around for a thousand years?" Funny how in 1990, population trends makes Muslims into a majority within the USSR and right then, the Muslim republics of the soviet union break away. The CIA, U.N. and POTUS all claim that they had no idea the soviet union would end even 24 hours before it happened. And what do you know, Islamism is the new menace.

That's a lot of coincidences.

Sero-Flex · 2019-01-25T17:08:00+00:00

It’ll probably sound like some hippy dippy drug shit to most but that consciousness is one singular encompassing entity and that the “boundary” we perceive between ourselves and others is just an evolutionary defense mechanism.

icecruzader · 2019-01-25T19:05:39+00:00

You can have anything you want at all, just pay the price

Oakester · 2019-01-25T20:07:49+00:00

Women are pretty much the same. The only difference is the crazy scale.

ibiki101 · 2019-01-25T20:26:38+00:00

I don't have to empress anyone if they want me they should make an effort

Casd12 · 2019-01-26T03:04:14+00:00

Two words, pareto efficiency. The idea is simple, but it applies to everything

BluBlac59 · 2019-01-27T19:11:24+00:00

Owning the way you earn a living is better than being an employee. And a very hard lesson that I learned was that "men" can be as jealous and envious and trivial as any woman can be of another woman. And will act out the same way with lies and rumors, cockblocking the whole thing. If your successful in life and especially with woman one leads to the other some men can be real cunts.

RedKepler · 2019-01-25T19:03:52+00:00

That America truly is the greatest country on Earth in its freedom of expression, and that other countries are going down the evil route of censorship and regulation of expression- like my home island Britain.

I've become more critical of what is going on around me (I've moved right on the horizontal politcal spectrum) and have found somewhat a sorrow towards the modern-day western world which is slowly moving backwards.

Its what years of education has brainwashed young folk like me to believe, and only when I started thinking for myself and taking things not at face value, have I found a gratefulness for TheRP.

I know that money is not what makes you happy and that you should follow and embrace what you love and enjoy. Which is where I've found my happiness- and rather choosieness when it comes to women.

Imtoosexyformypants · 2019-01-25T17:29:57+00:00

All woman no matter the smv, mental illness, mentally sound, whatever...awalt

When you cater or give them too much attention, fail shit tests...they will all react and behave the same way

Awalt takes time to fully understand as each person is unique with the same underlying needs, like Pavlov’s pyramid.

Someone should actually make one of those for trp, the base of a relationship and needs of a woman.

thrwy75479 · 2019-01-25T16:55:53+00:00

Similar to you, I noticed that the people who were keeping in touch with me were doing so for their own ulterior motives.

However, the realization that I came to was that the fact that they thought they could get away with it was a failure entirely on my part. This is something that I am, and will always be, grateful to TRP for.

How you're perceived by others is important, and your responsibility.

AshyLarry27 · 2019-01-25T22:48:00+00:00

Right before entering college, Josh Pellicer from Tao of Badass flipped my world upside down. A LOT of what he taught on basic human behavioral psychology had me dive down the world of the "subconscious mind."

I learned REAL behavioral psychology and how the human mind ACTUALLY works.

The kind of stuff you WISH you learned when you took Psych 101 for the fuck of it. Once you dive down that path, you realize how many people around you live on "auto-pilot." You learn to talk to people's subconscious mind, and understand what they REALLY want. It was around this time I woke from that "auto-pilot" stage to realize people appreciate "take charge" and "leadership" types. I spent my youth being the "what can I do to make people happy, how can I serve them best" kind of person. That is when I realized 70% of people out there are exactly like this. We don't have a "people need help so let me be the nice guy" problem, we have a "too many fake nice guys who offer nothing to the world but will so weird favors in 'hopes' you will repay them down the line" problem. Even without favors, the "feelz" from doing good things becomes enough of a reward to them, as long as they are viewed as "good people" I guess.

Governor_Humphries · 2019-01-25T22:48:48+00:00

Don't invest emotional energy into outcomes that you have zero control over. That means TV shows (easy), politics (harder), and sports (really hard).

Mewster1818 · 2019-01-26T02:53:48+00:00

In university my final project was a research dissertation with topic of my choosing, at the time I was a feminist so I chose to write about the effects of culture and victim blaming on the low trial rate of rape cases. What I found probably wouldn't surprise you, female accusers were usually given the benefit of the doubt, more resources, more positive representation in the media, and generally more likely to be believed even with poorer evidence than their male counterparts.

Not only that but the questions I had been told were victim blaming such as:

"What were you wearing? Were you drinking? Did you say no?"

Have nothing at all to do with victim blaming, the police ask because they're trying to help the accuser by creating a clear picture of what you looked like, what you were doing, and what the situation was in order to find witnesses that can corroborate your story. Most accusations do not proceed to trial purely because there's no evidence, the accusations are withdrawn, or the accuser is non-cooperative. Male accusers on the other hand do face prejudice, are far more likely to be questioned about why they couldn't have prevented or stopped the rape, and are assumed to have enjoyed or participated freely so "it's not really rape, after all what teenage boy didn't want to fuck the hot teacher?"

My dissertation received a lot of criticism, and what sticks with me to this day is the comment that:

"Rather than using raw data from the DOJ and police training materials, it would have been better if you had used more academic resources. I would be more than happy to help you find acceptable scholars from which to source your data, such as Alexandra Rutherford or Susan Brownmiller."

miser1 · 2019-01-26T08:52:17+00:00

There is no “self” - no experiencer that gets carried through - only experience itself in the present moment. Nothing ever accrues to you. There’s no reason to be scared of anything because it will never affect you, just some possible future experience created by the same body. Each moment is all that exists, so try to find the beauty in it and be at peace.

Startlivingfornow · 2019-01-26T14:18:44+00:00

My experience with dating and women made me realize there was some massive disconnect between with how I thought things should be, and TRP taught me how things are. So I guess I'd say my experiences with dating lol

resnine · 2019-02-02T18:23:06+00:00

You don't ask for respect, you command it.

Reading doesn't make you more intelligent. It makes you more knowledgable, sure. Intelligence is something that is mostly genetic.

Opioidus · 2019-01-25T15:06:03+00:00

This, when it first came out.

Title	Which realisations have shattered/changed your world view the most? (Trp or not)
Author	Startlivingfornow
Upvotes	97
Comments	158
Date	25 January 2019 11:11 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	askTRP
Link	https://theredarchive.com/post/203422
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/ajo0jn/which_realisations_have_shatteredchanged_your/