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Which realisations have shattered/changed your world view the most? (Trp or not)

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January 25, 2019
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For me it’s the fact that everyone wants something from you, whether stranger, friend, or parent.

What has experience taught you?


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Title Which realisations have shattered/changed your world view the most? (Trp or not)
Author Startlivingfornow
Upvotes 97
Comments 158
Date 25 January 2019 11:11 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/203422
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/ajo0jn/which_realisations_have_shatteredchanged_your/
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[–]Melanoma_man91 points92 points  (8 children) | Copy

Being diagnosed with stage 4 melanoma and being told I have 3-6 months to live.... if the treatment won’t work..

Yeah..

If someone told me 6 months ago I’ll be back in work full time, lifting 4 times a week and fucking girls from tinder and playing day game at the mall and occasionally bring a girl back to my bed 30 mins after a cold approach.. I would call them a liar.

Facing my mortality and fighting through cancer has give me the strongest frame I could wish for.

IDGAF about anything anymore but my mission.

As Walter white said “I’m awake”.

[–]alittletoosmooth9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Keep on keeping on, bro

[–]rpmc834 points5 points  (4 children) | Copy

What's your status RE: melanoma now?

[–]Melanoma_man19 points20 points  (3 children) | Copy

It spread to the brain lungs and liver. I had a shot of immunotherapy gamma knife surgery, and now I daily take trametenib & talifinar daily.

Well the liver is now clear and both the lungs and brain the tumours are now really small. Like a couple of millimetres in size.

My oncologist told me just a few yrs ago or maybe 4 yrs ago they was no treatment.

So I’m “lucky”.

[–]rpmc836 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

That's a powerful story. I hope things continue to get better for you.

[–]Melanoma_man9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thank you.

Certainly put things into perspective. Sounds like a cliche but it’s true. Lifting has helped mentally.

People who are close to me say I’m strong and tough to get through it all without complaining or wallowing into despair.

[–]lokilis3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

The new immunotherapies they have for cancer now are far and away superior to anything we had previously.

[–]Startlivingfornow[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Holy shit. Good on you man

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Awesome bro. Would like to hear more about your story.

[–][deleted] 83 points84 points  (13 children) | Copy

Studying economics when I was younger made me completely shift from the standard lefty/socialist to more libertarian. It felt like no one in public school taught you about how money actually works and human incentives.

[–]Endorsed Contributormonsieurhire216 points17 points  (8 children) | Copy

Trading equities makes one realize how many "stories" are actually time to manipulate prices by finding gullible sellers or buyers. I remember finding a Bloomberg magazine at the mechanics from a few years ago with the EBOLA!!! scaremongering headline. That was right when ebola cure/treatement related stocks were spiking, and the beginning of the end of the crisis. Also, the whole "Peak Oil" thing that lasted several years. Just think of all the high-priced oil that was unloaded on credulous fools during distribution mode.

[–]mrpoopistan4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

OMG. I literally read the financial press just to think about who's trying to push that narrative and figure out how to play accordingly.

The good information always requires a deeper dive than reading the funny pages.

[–]Endorsed Contributormonsieurhire21 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

The worst is when the bull-shit narrative takes over, or they are deliberately telling you the truth just to build trust that they can cash in on later when they fuck you over.

[–]mrpoopistan1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Trust building is easy. That's why it's a popular con.

Deep down, people are desperately afraid that they don't know jackshit. They'll happily let any con man tell them what to do because they're praying for someone to take over and save them from the dangers of thinking and doing for themselves.

There's a reason CNBC just keeps trucking along. The audience needs the con men more than the con men need them.

[–]resnine0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

Absolutely. News is just cherry-picked information to manipulate the narrative and usually economic incentives. I am a news junkie, mainly politics. Recently a lot of Chinese were throwing out their iPhones for Huawei phones.. then "magically" soon afterwards we begin hearing stories about how Huawei is using their phones to spy on people, how they are the "bad guys" trying to steal Americans data with their phones, the 5G network is going to used to technologically bring down the U.S.. iPhone = good, Huawei = bad, essentially. It would make perfect sense to me that big business is buying news time, articles, radio segments.. it's all one big manipulation, a war on your mind (as much as I hate Alex Jones he's right about that).

[–]Endorsed Contributormonsieurhire20 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Ha, I remember Alex Jones before he became a complete shill for the Trumpfuhrer. There was actually some good information on there. But then as soon he shifted to the tabloid model of showing endless puff videos of ranting on an increasingly thin gruel of shallow subjects, I smelled a rat and stopped following it. I suspect these "dissidents" make just enough noise and trouble to solicit bribes from the elites, meaning they gain market share by telling the truth, and then they use that market share to extort hush money from the elites, who are of course, by then, debating whether to bribe or send in the goons.

[–]resnine0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Alex Jones sold out, if he was on to anything big he would have been assassinated.

[–]Endorsed Contributormonsieurhire20 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

There was plenty on there that was useful, but a lot of it was already out there anyway, so there would have been no point in bumping him off.

[–]resnine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yep, but holy fuck was there a lot of people thinking he was on to some serious shit. If anything Alex Jones is part of the system, even back when he started. Same with that idiot David Icke..

[–]SolarTortality8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Agreed

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

This! When I got into entrepreneurship my views switched to from Democrat/left to more independent/right leaning. I’m absolutely in love with capitalism & I feel like people were taught that “money isn’t everything” when it’s what runs our society...

So in turn they were never taught about money and became 9-5 wage slaves and hate life. It is why our country seems so divided right now. People are angry.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Capitalism and free exchange is beautiful. It is progress. It is peace. It is freedom. It's a natural force for good. It's such a shame it gets demonized.

[–]i2dontlikeusernames77 points78 points  (0 children) | Copy

I realised that I don't have to wait for anything or anyone to make me happy and I just have to find happiness inside me. In the past, I was spending a lot of my time looking at people on social media thinking how much fun they have and that I'm not worthy of it. Now I see everyone as who they are and I'm just happy with myself.

[–]xx-Rain_Maker-xx67 points68 points  (6 children) | Copy

Memento Mori. Once I realised I will inevitably die, I started living my life in a different way.

[–]i2dontlikeusernames8 points9 points  (4 children) | Copy

I'm still working on it. What opened your eyes to accept the truth and get over it?

[–]GS600Life8 points9 points  (2 children) | Copy

You said it yourself, it's the truth?

[–]i2dontlikeusernames10 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy

Indeed but a lot of concepts are true like "smoking is bad" but I still light a cigarette now and then. What I meant is what was his "aha" moment

[–]usernameishardtomake6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

My aha moment was when I almost died in high school. Getting super close to death made me appreciate life a little more and i try to live like im gonna die any second.

[–]Wakawakaheihei3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Go to the highest cliff you can find, or highest building. Come as close as possible to the edge, sit on it. Contemplate how by taking 1 more step you're going to be dead. And it's okay, accept the fact that we all die, but some die leaving a mark in this world, and others just fill the space.

Keep facing death every couple months or years just to stay humble.

[–]jrr6415sun1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Also just realizing nothing after death makes you see that so many of the small things in life don't matter.

[–]ay013523 1 points [recovered]  (3 children) | Copy

The red pill made me realize the world isn't as rational as one would like to believe. Its rational in its own way, as red pill concepts have been evolutionary and scientifically explained,

But the whole concept that being nice to women would actually make them like you less was mindblowing to me. It made me realize the world, and people, aren't as rational as men would like to believe.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

The world is "rational" in an animalistic way. Once you realize this you can play along but the pointlessness of everything eventually sinks in. Then what? The Red Pill doesn't cover that.

[–]ay013523 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

I disagree. I believe humans are animalistic, we had to be as a species to survive, but life isn't pointness. I believe in spirituality, brotherhood, and you can love females in a red pill way.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

you can love females in a red pill way.

That doesn't look like love at all to me. Utilitarian partnership, maybe. I mean, point is, you don't love other men in a Red Pill way. You'd think such men are irrational. Why not hold women to the same standards?

[–]KingRead46 points47 points  (1 child) | Copy

I realized after finishing school and starting my career that everything I valued in my life was a direct consequence of the decisions and work I put in. I now have a body I'm proud of because I spent years in the gym, I make good money because I busted my ass off in school, and I have good friends because I really connected with them and helped them get through struggles - as they helped me.

This realization confirms that my life is in my hands, I decide how I want it to be. And the best part is, I just have to continue these efforts and future me will reap even more benefits.

[–]TeamLitten8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

You’re right! This whole time I was trying to get girls but the real way to succeed is to do this for yourself. To be your own man. I feel insanely motivated now, I’ll do everything for me.

[–]mazraj9950 points51 points  (0 children) | Copy

You don t need to ltr a girl to fuck her

[–]IHeartFemanons 1 points [recovered]  (51 children) | Copy

I was a Lefty, feminist, antifa, pro immigration nice guy. Got treated like shit by my 'woke' peers I considered friends after questioning the 'Islam is the religion of peace' narrative. That lead me down a very deep rabbit hole. My views and life turned by 180 and I feel so much better and consistent now. Plus I pull way more women.

[–]cybercipher9 points10 points  (6 children) | Copy

The best description I ever heard of the difference between liberals and conservatives is that overall liberals believe people are inherently good and conservatives believe we are all inherently bad. There's lots of research into this and the more you look into it the more it makes sense.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy

It could be that they are thinking about the same aspects of human nature but liberals deem them good and conservatives deem them bad. If that makes sense.

[–]cybercipher1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy

Absolutely. Things like welfare assisting people vs. nurturing dependence and taxes, property rights, wealth, religion, family ties, immigration, etc. It depends on if you want to see the best in people vs. people taking advantage everything they can every step of the way.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

A matter of perspective then. Nietzsche said something on that didn't he? Point is, people will see as good whatever benefits their particular demographic group and as bad that which doesn't. R k selection stuff.

Reposting this because some dumb bot deleted it for some dumb reason.

[–]cybercipher1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yep. If you're interested in reading about it you could read The Righteous Mind by Jonathan Haidt. He was on Joe Rogan about a month ago too if you wanna see what he's about before dedicating to a book.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

At a glance, reminds me of Hoffer's True Believer. I will take a look, thanks.

[–][deleted] 42 points43 points  (38 children) | Copy

Im a proud muslim, and someone made that “ islam is the religion of peace “ thing up. Islam doesnt even mean peace, the literal translation is “submission”.

[–]CodyCodeine9 points10 points  (37 children) | Copy

Why are you proud to submit

[–][deleted] 28 points29 points  (36 children) | Copy

Im proud to submit to God.

[–]CodyCodeine-1 points0 points  (35 children) | Copy

Did you submit to him, or your parents at a young age?

[–][deleted] 11 points12 points  (34 children) | Copy

My parents are muslim, and by adhering to the islamic faith you obey the rules of God, so yes i submit to God.

[–]CodyCodeine-4 points-3 points  (33 children) | Copy

Ah, I see. Well I often try and search for religious people who weren't either A. Programmed by their parents, or B. Did horrible things and have to use it to cope with themselves. Unfortunately, they're incredibly rare.

Also, isn't TRP against Muslim faith? Actually, objectifying women and being aggressive is a very Muslim thing. Never mind

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (18 children) | Copy

plenty of converts out there.

[–]CodyCodeine0 points1 point  (17 children) | Copy

Is there? The only ones I've seen have converted from Islam to Christianity. I don't like either

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (16 children) | Copy

lmfao. No other religion is getting more converted people than islam, christianity is actually dying out. I think you’re trolling

[–]LasTitan0 points1 point  (13 children) | Copy

Actually being PUA is against Muslim faith. Islam doesn't say you MUST be blue pilled women slave, you can be strong and masculine man

[–]ramokaly2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Islam encourages men to be strong and masculine. It also encourages women to be feminine and submissive to their husbands. Probably what the western societies miss and TRP is trying to achieve. Given that both the man and woman are good willed people and don’t mean no harm, this man to woman ecosystem is optimum.

Being a PUA (or whatever the hell) is against muslim faith because fornication is a huge sin and sex should only be had within marriage. Probably also the western societies got cursed after the sexual liberation and feminism and yada yada.

[–]LasTitan0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Totally agree with you

[–]g5qU9PQ5RY 1 points [recovered]  (3 children) | Copy

pro immigration

Everyone is pro immigration. Some are anti illegal immigration.

[–]IHeartFemanons 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

Splitting hairs but yes.

[–]goblinboglin2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Not everyone is pro immigration.

I'm anti immigration.

[–]mrpoopistan2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

This was waaaaay before TRP for me, but I was in college on 9/11/01.

Of all the stupid fucking shit I've ever heard in my life . . . I remember this one girl during some stupid staged thing (because college, where every issue of the day requires a public gab session) lecturing the crowd that America basically deserved it and that we shouldn't attack al-Qaeda.

I'm a pretty open minded person, but revenge is elemental. It is to be human.

Of all the things that harm leftist movements, the ones that hurt them the most always take the form of putting a lion on a vegetarian diet. Plain denial of existence as it is because someone's thought exercise escaped the lab and turned into everyday practice.

FTR, my position on "religion of peace" is that Islam is going through the same cycle Christianity went through during the Religious Wars of the 1400s through the 1600s. History records a lot of folks died and there was very little peace at that time. Also, I'm not certain that unchecked religious wars are good thing in the age of the atom bomb, but hey . . . opinions are like assholes, I guess.

[–]bobjoe17711 points12 points  (2 children) | Copy

Surviving cancer 9 years ago gave me a new perspective. Make the most out of the time that you have and surround yourself with people you love. Just when you think you've got it all figured out everything can collapse in a few seconds. Since then I've spent years travelling the world, trying out new experiences, meeting a ton of people, and advancing my career. I make more money than I ever have in a career I find truly fulfilling and my ample free time is filled with invigorating experiences. It's worth the hard work and time to create a lifestyle that makes you happy.

[–]Melanoma_man1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Me too brother

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Damn man, this is good shit. Good for you.

[–]Nergaal12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

The world does not owe you ANYTHING, even when by any moral standard you are deserved something.

[–]rpvp19 points20 points  (7 children) | Copy

The concept of the ego and ego death

[–]horuspill4 points5 points  (6 children) | Copy

I had an "ego death" a couple of times while heavily stoned and slightly drunk. Felt like my perception was absolute, like there was no "judgement" but only truth, and I could see through the social gestures and know exactly what happened between the lines. Super weird. I sometimes can force myself to "stop" thinking and judging, but I couldn't ever reach the same feeling as when I got high.

[–]needz9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Meditate

[–]FKaroundNfindOUT3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

Is that what that is? A few acid trips have come to that point.

I realize my extreme capacity for evil each time and refresh a feeling of the power i excersise to avoid it.

[–]needz5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

My favorite definition of ego death is 'to sense and perceive without perspective'

[–]CodyCodeine3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

lol you'd hate acid or shrooms

[–]xeroblaze01 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

No? Meditating on shrooms can lead to ego death.

[–]CodyCodeine-3 points-2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yes, but in a much more intense way than weed and alcohol LOL. Are you an idiot? What made you think I said that shrooms don't lead to ego death?

[–]DadOnDabs7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

Life isn't all about girls.

After discovering TRP women and getting laid was the center of my life. Only after sleeping around a shit ton and not feeling satisfied did I realize that women are just an accessory to your life. They will never bring true happiness.

[–]Flintblood2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

This effect put everything in perspective for me regarding the value of a woman. Sex matters a lot less to me now. Good companionship and enjoying time out with some lady where respect is mutual matters a lot more to me now.

[–]2INNASKILLZ2K1818 points19 points  (0 children) | Copy

Blue pill bad...red pill good.

Too many realizations to mention.

Though I do have friends who don't want something from me. They are very few and far between.

[–]shinywhitedarkness6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

That I'll inevitably die. That I'm half animal, half symbolic. That nothing matters. Yet free to do what I can.

Reading the Denial of Death from Ernest Becker, Myth of Sisyphus from Camus, Existentialism is a humanism from Sartre and exploring Terror Management Theory did change my world view completly in addition with TRP. Nothing is like it seems.

[–]Melanoma_man1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I’ll read those thanks

[–]HotHead1216 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

That we are alone

[–]MisunderstoodAsian11 points12 points  (1 child) | Copy

Loyalty means nothing.

[–]1MrTheFalcon9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

On the flip side, practiced loyalty is an extremely valuable gift. TRP has helped me not to take it for granted

[–]Idontgetitboyz6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

When I started going out to approach and realised my smv was a lot higher than I thought. It was the 1st time after my last ltr when I did not feel lucky that I got with someone because it was normal and I was worth dating

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Money is really this arbitrary obsession. I still prefer to make lots so I can pursue amazing opportunities but really once you hit “your number” , just walk away dude.

Don’t chase the bigger house, mansion, etc. there is always some higher level and it never ends. If that’s the game you love to play then by all means but if you feel like your hitting arbitrary metrics then just walk away.

If you can’t walk away. You don’t own your money-your money owns you.

Travel. Start a charity. Live life fully & freely. Meet amazing people and fill your head with amazing memories

When I made this paradigm shift, I literally felt like I could breathe again.

[–]DirtyBastard136 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

People are bad by nature. People are also flawed by nature. They have no sympathy for weakness. Your problems=weakness.

Only the fittest survive/breed.

Assholes win.

Never count on anything good happening/ no it won’t be ok.

Money is everything, merit means next to nothing in comparison to money.

If you don’t have a car/ money you are a scrub who should’nt bother dating.

If you’re poor, you are a scrub who stands no chance dating/fucking.

Love is’nt real , What we call love are emotions/hormones designed to keep people fucking/ breeding.

Women are’nt as capable as men, but rather spoiled and lazy eternal children whom society lets run around with no accountability for bad behavior. As children they are always after their next hit of candy/shiny toys. There is no loyalty and their moods change just as easily as chidren’s.

A woman will choose an asshole who might murder her one day over something stupid, over the good, well intentioned man who worships/ “loves” and has her better interests at heart.

Women hate/ won’t fuck weak men.

The Christian God is at best an indifferent creator or an Asshole with unrealistic expectations which he punishes you for when you fail (being a flawed person).

It’s possible that there is no meaning to life besides, work, fuck and die.

The Bible is a book written by men, to control society and finance a religious class who don’t do real work. Religion (rules and fear of punishment propped up by the boogeyman of an all powerful (and unprovable) sky wizard combined with the promise of paradise afterlife), is a tool to control people and for weak minds to cope with the meaninglessness of life.

[–]resnine1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

That nihilism bruh

[–]redpharma778915 points16 points  (2 children) | Copy

This is might sound a bit weird but everyone’s realizations are different.

The thing that changed my world the most was the first time I did it with a girl. We were going to do it doggy style and before I could even grab her hips to start she was already backing into me and started fucking.

This is when I realized that girls WANT dick too. Their not little, innocent princesses like they teach us in school. From then, my life changed with women.

[–]Melanoma_man7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah that’s hot when that happens

[–]FKaroundNfindOUT3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sex doesn't make you a man. This type of clarifying moment does in part.

[–]bestsparkyalive9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

To what extent I was such a full on blue pill beta army commander. Gotten a lot better but damn boys what a tough battle against your self...

[–]Iceklimber10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

Was leftist believing every single social justice mantra until having the first job, hauling packages

Male lanes had the heavier packages all the time (Whenever trucks delivered heavy packages to female lanes we switched). If there were no light packages then only men worked while women waited. Minimum wage for all.

Then I started college and feminists complained how oppressed they are, this was the first crack.


This initiated a changing process from gullible ideolog to critical thinking and eventual unplugging.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

The whole structure of giving women what they need vs giving them what they say they want or need was pretty difficult to really hammer down.

It really fixed problems in my entire life. I basically view every person I engage with daily as if he or she is a woman that doesn't know how to communicate. I read through the lines and take right action and shit runs smoothly now. Before I was really good about giving people exactly what they said they wanted, needed, and doing exactly what they said it was alright for me to do.

In many cases, my actions that I verbally gained consent to take, were totally fucking wrong. People are just shit at saying know, or have no idea how they will emotionally be effected by those actions.

You have to know and understand those social dynamics clearly enough to take right action, but most people are very simple to read and understand. You make mistakes, but only with new people. If you've known someone a few weeks or months and you don't know clearly what actions they enjoy and will motivate them to really let you in, you haven't been paying attention close enough.

[–]resnine0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Most people are focusing on themselves instead of focusing their attention outwards to understand other people and their nature. And therefore be able to play off the social dynamics. It's not even manipulation, people want to be manipulated to some degree... people like to give up control because they are lazy and want others to think and do things for them. Seems especially true of women, at times.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Totally agree.

[–]tefllifestyle5 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy

That doesnt matter how much she is into you when a chad comes arouns her eyes light up and she becomes interested

[–]edivadd0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

What made you accept that?

[–]tefllifestyle0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I dont think i will be able to ever accept it 100%... deep down i feel it sucks...but it is how it is...what u cannot change shouldnt worry about it.

Remember there are plenty of fish in the sea. And even you feel you ,,love" a girl...you can feel the same to another girl

[–]resnine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That's the real red-pill right there.. You can find your soul-mate in probably millions of girls.. the whole idea that there is ONLY ONE girl out there for all of us is total Disney-laden non-sense.

[–]baeslick4 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy

I describe 2018 as three years crammed into one for me:

Shattered

- Learned in my penultimate semester of nursing school that becoming an RN was a glass ceiling

- Learned the relationship I had at the time was a recreation of my parents' pathological marriage

- Learned that my family dynamic is way more toxic than I realized

- Learned my ex, mom and sister have BPD

- Learned I had issues of codependency due to my abusive childhood and experience in nursing school

- Learned I was being lied to by people who said they loved me

Changed

- Learned what real love is

- Learned what healthy relationships are

- Learned I am way more valuable than I give myself credit

- Learned that God/the Universe will give you want if you know what it is and you ask for it

- Learned that I am responsible for myself first, and other people who apply to me second

- Learned that I have the capacity to make my way of success, and smart and hard work outweighs luck

[–]nowboarding 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

What is real love and what are healthy relationships?

[–]baeslick1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Real love is a slow burn, rather than the cocaine high sugar rush of infatuation. It's when you think a person's life is just as valuable as your own, and you want to see that person succeed. It's care for someone, it's being disappointed and hurt when they betray your trust, and being illuminated and rejuvenated when that person does something for you without you even asking. It's life perpetuating life.

Healthy relationships are based on foundations of trust and mutual respect. Without that, relationships are much less healthy. Family relationships, friends, and SOs are all different kinds of relationships, but at the end of the day if you are a narcissistic, lying, cheating son of a bitch, expect to be treated like one until you change.

I like TRP but there are way too many people here who pretend like they didn't get raised by parents in a family. Some of them didn't but a lot them have. Yes, feminism and postmodernism has made it a bit harder for healthy family relationships to be established, but people are starting to wise up to the fact that life is much easier when you fly in pairs. "She's not yours, it's just your turn" is a defeatist mantra, don't follow it. Just learn how to vet and find the right person that is most compatible to your flaws, lifestyle, and mission.

[–]resnine1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Learned I had issues of codependency due to my abusive childhood and experience in nursing school

Can relate. You start creating the same social environments in all these different areas of your life... through your relationships, friends, co-worker relationships, even strangers... It's incredible how much your current life is an a reflection of your childhood conditioning. You wonder why the same events keep occurring in your life.. is everyone just a complete asshole? No.. Upon a closer inspection of your subconscious you start to see how you are creating/attracting the same scenarios and people subconsciously.. It was an important part in my life too, that I am re-creating (subconsciously) the same situations. It was quite significant to me to realize that my sub-conscious is not my best friend, and that it's probably one of the best investigations one can do.

I am responsible for myself first, and other people who apply to me second

Ending co-dependency right there, not looking to other people for validation/vindication sense of meaning. You are the source of your own validation/vindication. Look to yourself for a hero. Look to yourself for a good time. Don't rely on other people for fun, excitement, happiness.. better understand yourself is the key to all of it.

Other things:Don't talk to people and act like you've known them for years...Investing too much is bad... calibration is key... if you don't throw some jokes in there you will come off as a CREEPY guy

[–]fleuxroux4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

That we are bodies and minds tuned to a field of conscience. When we die it is like when a TV set gets broken: that does not mean that the original signal does not exist anymore.

[–]resnine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

How do you know that?

[–]rpmc834 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Awalt. I've dated the sweetest, most innocent girls who claim they're more honest than other girls and would never cheat....only to uncover their lies and discover they're cheating.

It's true, never listen to what people tell you about themselves; but pay attention to what they show you.

[–]SeamusAwl3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

For me it’s the fact that everyone wants something from you, whether stranger, friend, or parent.

Similar. They all want to take and never want to give. It is because of this that I realized that I need to respect myself and cut out those who don't respect me. I am much happier because of it. I also no longer sacrifice my needs for someone else in the hope that they would provide it back.

Now I know this.. Relationships are give and take. I know what I am providing has value, If the return I get from you isn't of similar value then I cut you out.

[–]daymi2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

They all want to take and never want to give.

And then through hardship the most unlikely of people come through, the ones who you thought were for themselves and vulgar and un-PC, those come through and give. And the goodie-two-shoes are nowhere to be found. Life is weird.

I also no longer sacrifice my needs for someone else in the hope that they would provide it back.

​Yes, covert contracts are so bad. It took so long for me to acknowledge (1) I have needs and (2) It's necessary to verbally demand my needs be met (or even through direct action - that took like forever).

[–]resnine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

NMMNG goes into so much detail about these. Essentially people like us see everything as transactional, it's mind-blowing and you start seeing it in some many different areas of your life. The expectation and HOPES you have for other people to do things is what causes innumerable and un-needed suffering...

[–]BitingInsects2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Realizing that in order to be the man I want to be I have to put up with mainstream media doing/following the complete opposite set of values. Watching the general public validate this behavior is frustrating and can be infuriating if you let it.

[–]therandombiker12 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

yeah that's true, but then again, you too want something from those you interact with. it's ok, as long as both needs are balanced.

for me it was the moment when i realized that i need to walk away, physically, from everyone I knew to be able to rebuild my life. because everyone expects something from you and you don't know what you want for yourself anymore in all that noise, if you don't break free.

[–]resnine1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

We are all like that... we all have the capability to be selfish-cunts, it isn't one-sided. It's important to realize inside ourselves that what we SEE in others is often a reflection of ourselves. What we hate about others is often something we hate about ourselves. Furthermore, like you said you want to reach a balance in a relationship. I am certain women understand relationships on a level that most man cannot even fathom. They understand the "BALANCE" who is getting more, who is getting less, you should always am for a mutual exchange where one isn't getting over on the other, where the scales aren't being offset to one side... just because someone has a vagina doesn't give them the right to use and abuse you.

[–]buddhismo_communismo3 points4 points  (5 children) | Copy

  • She's not yours, it's just your turn.

  • Profit is the unpaid labor of the working class.

  • Women are always shopping for better deals, and that applies beyond Wal-Mart.

  • Life is Absurd.

  • Life is Stressful.

  • Life is meaningless.

  • Not everyone who works hard makes it. But everyone who makes it works hard.

  • Politics is a waste of time.

  • Religion is a waste of time.

  • She's not your Mommy. She's your LTR.

[–]Startlivingfornow[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Saved

[–]buddhismo_communismo2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks Bro. What u/DirtyBastard13 wrote was spot on also.

[–]resnine0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Profit is the unpaid labor of the working class.

Can you elaborate on that?

[–]buddhismo_communismo0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Can you elaborate on that?

TL;DR Labor (wage) is a cost. Profit is impossible without workers laboring for a time on a good or service.

https://youtu.be/YMdIgGOYKhs

[–]resnine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Right right... your employer makes 2 or 3 times more than what they pay you, or else the system doesn't work, what are they payin' ya for! Thanks

[–]juliank474 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

That working a normal 9-5 job is the most wasteful way to spend your life and that money has nothing to do with permanent happiness.

[–]resnine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

What's the alternative though? Got to make money.

[–]3chazthundergut4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

I was regularly binge eating 5000+ calories per sitting. My life was going nowhere and I was paralyzed with anxiety about the future. I was completely disgusted with myself.

One day my best friend invited me to come over and take mushrooms. I took about 3 grams on an empty stomach.

I had many realizations that night. Among them:

Everything is going to be okay.

You are perfect, and the universe loves you unconditionally.

I havent been the same since. I've completely turned my life around, and each year is better than the last

[–]resnine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I've heard amazing things about taking mushrooms.. what do you think causes bad trips? I'm guessing something like deep-rooted insecurities and fear. Drugs have a way of revealing the self to the self.

[–]Granite_Pill2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Ayahuasca and Austrian Economics

[–]ddcy18450 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

What's the best way to learn Austrian Economics?

[–]Granite_Pill1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

youtube playlist Mises Bootcamp

[–]SemiLoquacious5 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy

Realizing that there's no consensus among historians as to how the cold war ended or why the Soviet Union fell apart and that the members of the global communist movement simply moved into new movements once the cold war ended. Like Islam. And that answers the question of, "why is Islam just now a world threat when it's been around for a thousand years?" Funny how in 1990, population trends makes Muslims into a majority within the USSR and right then, the Muslim republics of the soviet union break away. The CIA, U.N. and POTUS all claim that they had no idea the soviet union would end even 24 hours before it happened. And what do you know, Islamism is the new menace.

That's a lot of coincidences.

[–]FKaroundNfindOUT3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

.... go on.

[–]SemiLoquacious0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The Soviet Union operated an international terrorist network in the cold war. After the cold war ended, most communist terrorist training camps would be shut down but the ones in the middle east remained.

[–]resnine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Another one is why did Pearl Harbor happen? Why the hell would Japan attack us.. what purpose was there.. it didn't serve them well, the U.S. was way more powerful than Japan. It's one of many wartime historical moments that doesn't add up.

[–]Sero-Flex6 points7 points  (3 children) | Copy

It’ll probably sound like some hippy dippy drug shit to most but that consciousness is one singular encompassing entity and that the “boundary” we perceive between ourselves and others is just an evolutionary defense mechanism.

[–]FKaroundNfindOUT0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

How did you arrive at that conclusion?

[–]DirtyBastard132 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Acid or the Ending of Evangelion?

[–]resnine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Kinda like Bill Hicks "we are all one consciousness experiencing itself subjectively"

[–]icecruzader2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

You can have anything you want at all, just pay the price

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Anything?

[–]Oakester2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Women are pretty much the same. The only difference is the crazy scale.

[–]ibiki1012 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I don't have to empress anyone if they want me they should make an effort

[–]Casd122 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Two words, pareto efficiency. The idea is simple, but it applies to everything

[–]BluBlac592 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Owning the way you earn a living is better than being an employee. And a very hard lesson that I learned was that "men" can be as jealous and envious and trivial as any woman can be of another woman. And will act out the same way with lies and rumors, cockblocking the whole thing. If your successful in life and especially with woman one leads to the other some men can be real cunts.

[–]RedKepler5 points6 points  (4 children) | Copy

That America truly is the greatest country on Earth in its freedom of expression, and that other countries are going down the evil route of censorship and regulation of expression- like my home island Britain.

I've become more critical of what is going on around me (I've moved right on the horizontal politcal spectrum) and have found somewhat a sorrow towards the modern-day western world which is slowly moving backwards.

Its what years of education has brainwashed young folk like me to believe, and only when I started thinking for myself and taking things not at face value, have I found a gratefulness for TheRP.

I know that money is not what makes you happy and that you should follow and embrace what you love and enjoy. Which is where I've found my happiness- and rather choosieness when it comes to women.

[–]DirtyBastard132 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

I completely agree on the first three. I appreciate what you're going for on the last one, but have yet to see a rich dude who'se miserable.

[–]thrwy754792 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I've met several. Despite that, they are still far better off than poor people.

[–]RedKepler0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Oh for sure, being rich is and having to worry little about money trouble is an amazing burden to be freed of. However the jobs I see said rich people having to get, and the lengths they go to (I know this is top notch alpha behaviour) are ones which they don't openly love most of the time, and most people who go for jobs about money don't enjoy them in their entirety.

I know this is a very anecdotal opinion, but I think if what is going to make you rich is a career you know you'll love every day you wake up, then I think good for you. I want a career path which won't necessarily make me rich, but will make me happy.

[–]resnine1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Absolutely. And we must protect our rights all at costs. Are liberties could go to shit if we don't keep these ideas sacred.

[–]Imtoosexyformypants3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

All woman no matter the smv, mental illness, mentally sound, whatever...awalt

When you cater or give them too much attention, fail shit tests...they will all react and behave the same way

Awalt takes time to fully understand as each person is unique with the same underlying needs, like Pavlov’s pyramid.

Someone should actually make one of those for trp, the base of a relationship and needs of a woman.

[–]thrwy754791 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Similar to you, I noticed that the people who were keeping in touch with me were doing so for their own ulterior motives.

However, the realization that I came to was that the fact that they thought they could get away with it was a failure entirely on my part. This is something that I am, and will always be, grateful to TRP for.

How you're perceived by others is important, and your responsibility.

[–]AshyLarry271 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Right before entering college, Josh Pellicer from Tao of Badass flipped my world upside down. A LOT of what he taught on basic human behavioral psychology had me dive down the world of the "subconscious mind."

I learned REAL behavioral psychology and how the human mind ACTUALLY works.

The kind of stuff you WISH you learned when you took Psych 101 for the fuck of it. Once you dive down that path, you realize how many people around you live on "auto-pilot." You learn to talk to people's subconscious mind, and understand what they REALLY want. It was around this time I woke from that "auto-pilot" stage to realize people appreciate "take charge" and "leadership" types. I spent my youth being the "what can I do to make people happy, how can I serve them best" kind of person. That is when I realized 70% of people out there are exactly like this. We don't have a "people need help so let me be the nice guy" problem, we have a "too many fake nice guys who offer nothing to the world but will so weird favors in 'hopes' you will repay them down the line" problem. Even without favors, the "feelz" from doing good things becomes enough of a reward to them, as long as they are viewed as "good people" I guess.

[–]Startlivingfornow[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Any recommended youtube videos or books? I don't want your top 50, maybe your top 3 - 5 though

[–]AshyLarry272 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah definitely.

- Subliminal by Leonard Mldinow really paints the picture on how your subconscious mind works. Powerful stuff in there. In a nutshell, we have a conscious mind that takes in the basics, like what you see, what color the wall in front of you is, the basic things you have "control" of in terms of your thought process. Then you have the subconscious mind. This part of your brain takes in like 1 million bits more information, essentially scanning the enviroment, looking for "patterns." It works at an under-the-radar level, its primary goal to protect you. Think of when someone play-swipes at you and you flinch, that is your subconscious brain taking over. Another is like when you get a "gut feeling" when a scary looking biker guy approaches you. Why, he could be a nice guy, you don't even know him. That's your subconscious mind matching previous experiences with this type of person (think movies), giving you a bad gut feeling they may be a threat.

- Blink by Malcolm Gladwell does a good job hammering similar concepts to that in "Subliminal."

- How to Have a Good Day by Caroline Webb is a great one that works with these "subconscious" topics, and general psychology, to help gear your mind away from your emotions and to be productive. To be a goal setter and get shit done. I love re-reading this book to get my self back on track.

Mark Manson and Robert Greene write typically good overall well rounded stuff on TRP if you need other recommendations overall.

[–]Governor_Humphries1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Don't invest emotional energy into outcomes that you have zero control over. That means TV shows (easy), politics (harder), and sports (really hard).

[–]resnine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yes. Like covert contracts. Expecting certain outcomes due to putting in emotional energy.. like being nice to get people to be nice back to you. Relationships aren't transational, where you do one thing and the other does xyz. Looking at people like computer algorithms, or chemical reactions is a mistake. Humans don't operate like this, but it's an easy trap to fall into if you think in terms of rules and systems (nerdy/geeky types)..

[–]Mewster18181 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

In university my final project was a research dissertation with topic of my choosing, at the time I was a feminist so I chose to write about the effects of culture and victim blaming on the low trial rate of rape cases. What I found probably wouldn't surprise you, female accusers were usually given the benefit of the doubt, more resources, more positive representation in the media, and generally more likely to be believed even with poorer evidence than their male counterparts.

Not only that but the questions I had been told were victim blaming such as:

"What were you wearing? Were you drinking? Did you say no?"

Have nothing at all to do with victim blaming, the police ask because they're trying to help the accuser by creating a clear picture of what you looked like, what you were doing, and what the situation was in order to find witnesses that can corroborate your story. Most accusations do not proceed to trial purely because there's no evidence, the accusations are withdrawn, or the accuser is non-cooperative. Male accusers on the other hand do face prejudice, are far more likely to be questioned about why they couldn't have prevented or stopped the rape, and are assumed to have enjoyed or participated freely so "it's not really rape, after all what teenage boy didn't want to fuck the hot teacher?"

My dissertation received a lot of criticism, and what sticks with me to this day is the comment that:

"Rather than using raw data from the DOJ and police training materials, it would have been better if you had used more academic resources. I would be more than happy to help you find acceptable scholars from which to source your data, such as Alexandra Rutherford or Susan Brownmiller."

[–]miser11 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

There is no “self” - no experiencer that gets carried through - only experience itself in the present moment. Nothing ever accrues to you. There’s no reason to be scared of anything because it will never affect you, just some possible future experience created by the same body. Each moment is all that exists, so try to find the beauty in it and be at peace.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

My experience with dating and women made me realize there was some massive disconnect between with how I thought things should be, and TRP taught me how things are. So I guess I'd say my experiences with dating lol

[–]Startlivingfornow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

What did you think initially? lol

[–]resnine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You don't ask for respect, you command it.

Reading doesn't make you more intelligent. It makes you more knowledgable, sure. Intelligence is something that is mostly genetic.

[–]Opioidus-3 points-2 points  (0 children) | Copy

This, when it first came out.



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