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LTR cheated. Need advice.

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July 29, 2019
322 upvotes

Had a fight with LTR last night. She met some stranger off some app and went straight to his house.

So I've blocked her and I'm done with that. I've read the sidebar before. I'll read it again. I'm going to focus on sky rocketing my SMV.

But I'm a mess. Give me any advice you can. Literally anything. Maybe it'll help me get through the next few weeks without breaking.

Thanks boys.

Edit: Overwhelmed by the response. Thanks alot. Reading your comments has helped me out a bit. Fyi this wasn't a troll.


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Title LTR cheated. Need advice.
Author fatbloop
Upvotes 322
Comments 174
Date 29 July 2019 06:04 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/247219
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/cj77ga/ltr_cheated_need_advice/
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[–]Endorsed ContributorFereallyRed640 points641 points  (10 children) | Copy

You had a fight and she ragefucked some random?

Thank god it's over. She's damaged goods.

Be happy you didn't put a baby in her.

[–]Kurush559 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

OP, be pleased and relieved that you dodged a massive bullet.

[–]jaznex45 points46 points  (0 children) | Copy

like him not knowing and her getting pregnant with some stranger

[–][deleted] 26 points27 points  (0 children) | Copy

All cheating is shit, but using an app and going to his house is beyond fucked

[–]sebastianconcept45 points46 points  (0 children) | Copy

Since marriage is like putting a gun in her hands that is ready to fire, but only to your neck.

So, yeah, you should go celebrate you didn’t got her pregnant nor married that girl!

[–]cracksniffer6668 points9 points  (2 children) | Copy

Yeah, that was the ultimate shit test.. if he would have sticked around after that, F

[–]DoYouConcur292 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Its not a shit test at all. Its way beyond that. If he "passes" or "fails" there is no good outcome for her, unless her goal is to be manipulative and have multiple guys at her disposal.

[–]cracksniffer6660 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She'll succeed as far as SMV goes for their relationship at least. Dudes just been a homie for 10+ years or I wouldn't give a shit. This is where RP really needs to come into play for me, and that's why i post here

[–]DWS33_2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

seriously

[–]MeansToABenz1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

u/fereallyred is the man lol

[–]Flip_Angelo1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

The only question on this test is “are you a cuck?”

[–]renaultcliodriver 1 points [recovered]  (14 children) | Copy

She's been cheating for ages if she has the app installed, and if she went straight to some dude's house, it's most likely already happened. She probably even wanted an argument to justify her actions moving forward. You are probably being drip fed the truth.

[–]RelucBeam13 points14 points  (1 child) | Copy

Also, shit like this doesn't just happen out of nowhere.

OP needs to improve his vetting system before LTR'ing.

She must have been waving hundreds of red flags in his face prior to this happening.

[–]fatbloop[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is true. I ignored all of them. I'm taking full responsibility for the position I'm in. The only thing I'm focusing on now is improving my SMV and holding myself and others around me to an extremely high standard.

[–]InsidiousCurve31 points32 points  (10 children) | Copy

Never understood women that go straight to someone's house they met on an app.

[–]TehJimmyy46 points47 points  (1 child) | Copy

simple it isnt straight. she probably talked to him before long ago

[–]umizumiz14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

This exactly.

[–]okuli14 points15 points  (6 children) | Copy

Women are more cautious, but if she has no suspicion that it's a serial killer and her intention is to fuck - why not?

[–]renaultcliodriver 1 points [recovered]  (5 children) | Copy

The fact is this dude has been pre-vetted before. This wasn't spontaneous. It's all pre-meditated. The argument was orchestrated.

[–]fatbloop[S] 19 points20 points  (2 children) | Copy

It wasn't. They matched and spoke the same night. I have access to her emails and I can see the notification emails.

[–]renaultcliodriver 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

Maybe with that dude. Has she shown you conversations with other men? Even possible she has deleted them or moved them to another service to continue talking. No offence buddy but if you think someone impulsive enough to jump like that has any degree of self control regarding their urges you're mad. She has definitely done it before.

[–]fatbloop[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Nope. Like I said, she gets emails for every action on that app and it goes straight to spam. I knew she was on the way to his house before she reached there. How? Uber sends a mail for everything. Gmail shows her mobile searches too. She's too technologically retarded to know how and what to do, to actively hide anything from me.

Btw that's what BPD women do. Act on impulse.

I know for a fact that she hasn't done it before but here's the question - why does it matter? She did it once and that's enough. Nothing she does/has done matters anymore. I've moved on. I'm focusing on myself now. I'm going to live a happier life.

[–]lastdumra9 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy

Not necessarily. It is completely possible for a girl to do that.

[–]TFWnoLTR1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah, I've had this happen to me before. She was a psycho, as I should have assumed. Great lay though.

[–]420KUSHBUSH4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Because some women aren't at all smart. With that being said there are plenty that are

[–]Dane500 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Nailed it.

[–]JimmyTheIntern138 points139 points  (1 child) | Copy

Sorry, man. Shit sucks. Sounds like you at least did some things right, though, since you don't have to file for divorce, find a new place to live, or figure out a custody arrangement. Be glad she showed you her true colors before you got trapped.

I know the wound's still a little fresh to be giving advice for next steps, but here are two things I always try to keep in mind:

Have an abundance mentality.

She's not yours, it's just your turn.

[–]TheNashvilleConnxion4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Pain is normal and should be understood as part of the process.

[–]boy_named_su246 points247 points  (24 children) | Copy

Never communicate w her, on penalty of death

Take six months off chix

Learn to eat like a heterosexual male, lift, fight

Read all the red pill books

No more LTRs til you fuck ten more girl

[–]Gordon-G58 points59 points  (4 children) | Copy

Watch AMS Alpha Male Strategies videos

[–]ThrowawayYAYAY200210 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy

Rubs hands together

[–]Gordon-G3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Haa..yes

[–]Psycholephant4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Didn't know who AMS was. Went to look him up. First video I see says "Never go no contact". I'm a little confused now

[–]Gordon-G0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

[–]Two_kids_in_a_coat23 points24 points  (1 child) | Copy

I agree except the six months off chicks. He should enjoy the single life and fuck anything he wants. Just stay away from LTRs.

[–]Sin-Silver19 points20 points  (0 children) | Copy

I’d interpret that as six months off of emotional dependency.

[–]SturbyT26 points27 points  (13 children) | Copy

eat like a heterosexual male

Elaborate

[–]darklogic42039 points40 points  (9 children) | Copy

Eat a diet that can support the lifting you do at the gym. Eat to support your workout goals. Don't eat like a skinny vegan or like a fat ass, but like a man should eat to maintain peak physical performance. Lean meats, fruits, vegetables, nuts, healthy sources of fats and carbohydrates such as olive oil and whole grains. If in doubt get an app on your phone to track calories and tell it how much you want to weight and use it to honestly track your food intake.

[–]nobody_thinks5 points6 points  (7 children) | Copy

this is awesome advice. Nutrition, sleep, exercise, control of sexual impulse and self-pedestalizing are some of the most fundamental aspects of masculinity.

i am starting a new subreddit on masculinity called / r / antiantiGame . check my user profile.

I am just about to post some stuff on nutrition. If you could elaborate on your comment here and post it to my sub it would be awesome.

[–]FourQue_2 points3 points  (6 children) | Copy

Please do not give nutritional advise to people unless you're a qualified dietician/nutritionist.

There is far too much broscience when it comes to nutrition.

[–]darklogic4201 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I intentionally made my advice somewhat broad. I have no idea if I'm talking to someone skinny, fat, or someone who only needs modest fine tuning of their diet.

That being said, for most people who don't have specific dietary needs due to allergies or other chronic conditions, diet is not too complicated so long as they can be honest to themselves and maintain discipline. Watch your calories is the the primary thing to watch for. Secondary to that is maintaining a good balance of macro-nutrients based on your goals. And then after that goal is met make sure you get enough micro nutrients your diet may be deficient in, and remember that food is a better source to get micro-nutrients from than vitamin pills.

[–]FourQue_2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good bloke

[–]nobody_thinks0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

lol i thought you were a woman with this comment until i looked at your post history.

just the basics. count calories. keep track of your macros. up protein if lifting. prepare your meals from simple ingredients.

[–]FourQue_0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I think the best advise would be learn to track your macros and be consistent. None of this fear mongering shit about eating after 5pm, carbs making you fat, ect ect.

[–]nobody_thinks0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

exactly. if you want to write up your thoughts and post it to my sub, be my guest. you can check my submission history for my thoughts on nutrition. but that is just a draft. I left out a few things like fruits.

[–]salahm1017 points18 points  (0 children) | Copy

Eat a lot

[–]boy_named_su0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Enough to put on muscle at the gym.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lmao learn to eat like a heterosexual male. Love it

[–]Khiv_2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

I read "learn to eat a heterossexual male"

[–]pussykiller0099 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ok

[–]BluntMFer39 points40 points  (0 children) | Copy

Damm what a bitch lol

Boy did you dodge a bullet. Imagine the poor sap that marries her lmao

[–]proplfax104 points105 points  (3 children) | Copy

if you communicate with her, it will reset the clock to being over her. that's about the only thing i know for certain. also don't lose grip over the other guy being better than you or some nonsense, and don't let this magnify whatever insecurities you have. if we knew about him, we could break his pathetic life down just like any other guy. and if we knew this girl, none of us would give a fuck about her. you're under a spell bro. remember it.

go get some asian massages and drink lol blow some steam off

[–]CasaDeFranco30 points31 points  (1 child) | Copy

I had an ex cheat, I had some plates in between.

I went no contact.

I have a mission, I have a purpose, I work hard and try to keep social.

It's a massive ego hit, it's a rite of passage though.Was mich nicht umbringt macht mich stärker.

What doesn't kill me makes me stronger.

[–]youwontfindmeout5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ja wohl!

[–]Psycholephant0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Love this reply man. Put some things in a great perspective for me.

[–][deleted] 29 points30 points  (3 children) | Copy

Is there a way to access the sidebar on mobile?

[–]Impulsive66616 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy

Top right, then "community info"

[–]Qba19943 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Up

[–]MatSapientia2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Through the browser

[–]0io-32 points33 points  (1 child) | Copy

Skyrocketing your SMV is always a good thing. As your physical health improves your mental health will follow along. Then when you get in really good shape buying some new clothes and getting a haircut makes it fun to go out and approach again. If I were you I'd avoid alcohol completely.

[–]iintrOOutroo21 points22 points  (0 children) | Copy

If I were you I'd avoid alcohol completely.

This. Could lead you down a slippery slope.

[–]ThrowawayYAYAY200222 points23 points  (0 children) | Copy

Like somebody said previously: If she's installed the app and went to a dudes house, it's been going on for a while.

How long was you with her for, OP? Got kids or a house with her? Marriage talk?

I can only speak for myself. But I have found that the best way to get OVER a woman, is to get UNDER one. ASAP.

That let's you even the score, remind yourself that there are plenty of women out there and takes your mind off things.

Keep her blocked on all platforms. Go to the gym/train. Better yourself.

I've had it happen to me, but DO NOT let this thing consume you!

[–]AnEyeForAnAye20 points21 points  (1 child) | Copy

OP.

I got cheated by a 4LTR that I helped so much in those 4 years and was planning on building a life together. Just like that POOF.

These 2 months after have been THE BEST of my last 4 Years Jesus fuck..... trust me you will have low days but overall the amount of time and SMV increase in these 2 months is making me regret the 4 years of waste lol

[–]fatbloop[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Man, reading this gave me some hope & made me feel good. Only good times ahead. Can't wait!

[–]wanker717118 points19 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sorry to hear that brother. Think of it as a blessing that you found out, a lot of guys never do. Remember that while it hurts you shouldn't buy into that crap that she is any more special than the millions of other girls out there.

[–]kinthiri20 points21 points  (0 children) | Copy

As others have said, you've dodged a bullet. Anyone that is going to go fuck some random after a single fight is definitely not worth your love. If you don't have a kid with her, consider yourself one of the fortunate few. You've learned something young that many learn after it's too late.

Focus on your fitness. Focus on hobbies. Learn to spend time with yourself without anyone else around. Become comfortable with your own company. Tramping and hiking were my choice. You can also join clubs and find others that share your passions. Focus on things you really enjoy.

Your SMV will grow as you focus on yourself. It's not assholes that get the girls, it's guys that know what they want, are confident in themselves, and that don't compromise themselves for others.

As for the LTR... She's shown herself to be a woman of no character. If she's decided she wants to be that easy for any guy to get, then you are absolutely better off. Close that door. Don't let her back in. If you're not living together, ghost her. If she has a key to your place, or any property at your place, meet at a public location to exchange them. Get your key, return her stuff. Be the better person. Petty revenge is worthless. Being "a man" in this situation will make her regret her actions and show her just how much she's lost.

*IF* she wants to try again, if she wants to repair the relationship, don't do it. She's already destroyed any trust you can have in her. What's to say the next argument doesn't drive her off to some other man's bed yet again? She broke the trust and faith. There is no going back on that. For either of you.

Once everything is taken care of, all her property is out of your place, you have your key back, or anything similar .... ghost her. If she sends you texts, don't respond. If she tries to call you, don't answer. Don't even listen to her voicemails. If she tries to visit you, don't open the door. Ask her to leave through the closed door. If you see her in the street, ignore her or walk the other way. She's the one that fucked up, and the consequence of that is to completely remove her from your life.

[–]Unlikely_Composer14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

This shit sucks, I’ve been there. Got cheated on by a 3 year ltr. Made me rethink my whole life and actually put me on the path to the red pill.

I know how much it hurts when someone demonstrates how worthless you are to them, I get it.

You need to build your shit up and realise that this girl was never the one you thought she was, she was always an evil bitch.

Well done with dropping her immediately - that’s a strong move and a lot of men would struggle to do it.

Now it’s time to work on yourself even more, lift more weights, read more books. Remember that the emotions will wear off if you stop indulging them - take your time to be upset or mad, and then enjoy the rest of your day.

You’re one step closer to winning the game now.

Edit: someone else mentioned not having contact with her because it’ll reset the timer of you getting over it. THIS IS ABSOLUTELY TRUE. 0 contact is the best thing right now. Also, the more distance you have from her, the more she’ll realise that you’re a high quality, strong man and that she’s fucked it up. This might reduce the chances of her fucking someone else over too.

[–]1walawalawa12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fuck Ten Other Women...

I've been in similar situations. There is no way to "fix" this. There's nothing she can do to make this right.

What you need to do is read everything you can and do everything you can on the alpha way to get over a break up. The hardest part will be all the second-guessing you will do. Stop.

There's nothing more you could have done. Chalk it up to experience and move on.

The best advice is Fuck Ten Other Women....

[–]IOwnMyShit13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

Wow that’s some next level whore shit.

Forget about her, she’s gonna contract something nasty, never find true happiness, hit the wall and settle for some fat beta.

Every second thinking about her is a second wasted.

The only thing you can change the outcome of is your actions. Eating in surplus and lifting weight WILL build you muscle and make you more attractive. Meditating daily WILL give you more inner peace/clarity. Talking to more people/socializing WILL up your confidence and mood.

Go make yourself as happy and attractive as you can and be grateful that slut didn’t ruin your life!

Edit: Oh and a bit harsh truth that you need to hear, I did the same thing, as many do: If you LTR’d a girl like that it’s on you. She definitely showed signs of being a hoe, you just ignored them, and it burned you badly.

If you want a LTR then do it, if it makes you happy. You don’t NEED to fuck 20 bitches before getting into an LTR. Sure it will give you more abundance but it’s not for everyone. Learn to listen to YOUR needs and wants. And grow the balls(through training, socializing, achieving goals) to go all in for them!

[–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

Time heals all. Gym speeds it up.

[–]Scheme0021 points22 points  (5 children) | Copy

Sorry man, check out some coach Corey Wayne videos on YouTube about cheating etc, will make you feel better. Hit the gym, stay away from getting drunk and or drug use. Go monk minds and read some self esteem books for a few weeks and get back on the horse

[–]BaronIncognito5 points6 points  (4 children) | Copy

I know he’s not popular around here but I really like his stuff.

[–]CasaDeFranco9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

He's solid, approachable, nice guy. A lot of men don't have good male friends who can give them solid advice, Coach does some good work to help.

Red pill is a little more unfiltered.

[–]ThrowawayYAYAY20022 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

His take-home message is always the same, but I've always liked the guy.

You see his true colours every now & then when he gets animated on a rant.

Cool dude with great content. I've learnt a lot from him.

[–]CasaDeFranco2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

What is his true colours? Making money?

[–]ThrowawayYAYAY20021 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I worded that wrong.

You see some videos and when he goes off on one you think "yep, she did that to you too".

[–]su8iefl0w20 points21 points  (1 child) | Copy

Get on tinder and get you some p. Go to a strip club. Talk to a girl you have a crush on. Think of this as a positive that it happened sooner rather than later. I know it’s easier said than done but it will pass. That’s a promise

[–]nexther5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Well done for blocking her. Hard next: Never contact her every again. Fuck other girls.

That’s literally it. Now you have the freedom to start spinning plates.

[–]Velebit5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Nothing went bad for you. She has shown her true colors and how unworthy of being a girlfriend she is. Don't just assume 'that is women for you'... but learn to recognize what signs she was giving before that you missed and get better at choosing who you commit to.

Other then that. If you had a fight many people just assume the relation is over so I would not even be describing it as such.

The reason she fucked another guy as soon as she felt she had enough of you is due to her being Disagreeable and or Neurotic. Disagreeable and Neurotic have capital letters due to them being diagnosable personality traits you want to avoid in women (and most of men you interact with). People who have them have an overabundance of ability to hate, find fault in others, negativity towards any opposition, satisfaction in doing bad things, lack of selfless altruism and are prone to have mood issues.

No matter how strong their willpower being Disagreeable and Neurotic is a nasty type and can only hide it for a while.

[–][deleted] 13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks boys.

Contort yourself into the correction position and suck your own cock.

Man to man...it's all good, those of us who haven't been there just didn't notice.

Take care, man.

[–]boom_bostic4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Take some time to go in monk mode & work solely on yourself....not scoring another piece, not fixing a relationship. Be a bit selfish with your time & energy for a change.

You fix yourself—you’re current problems will be reduced greatly as a side effect.

[–]deadcastles 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

Still recovering from a relationship that ended 2.5 years ago.

Back then I had 5k to name, mad 45k a year, weighed 203 pounds, had no muscle, had lame hobbies like watching star trek and smoking weed, and no spirituality or higher purpose.

Now i own 2br/2bth condo, make 92k a year, weigh 175, don’t smoke or drink, solid muscle tone, creating a digital arts portfolio, and have found a close connection with god.

I’ve been with 3 women since (>30 dates; not really the hook up type). 2 of which I walked away from because I saw obvious red flags.

Anyways, I won’t sugar coat it, being single is sad, lonely, and depressing. But every time I’m at the grocery store and see another man’s girl make ‘eyes’ at me I remember why I choose to be alone. Keep focused on your dreams and don’t stop until you get there. That’s really the only purpose to exist honestly.

[–]ThrowawayYAYAY20020 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Good man! I love a success story ;-)

[–]Stupyyy2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dude you dodged a bullet.
You are free to do whatever you like.

[–]Better_when_Im_drunk2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I broke up with my last ltr because we were at a bar, she was drunk and thought it would be fun to try to make me jealous by giving some other guy the “doe eyes”. I told the guy, “she’s all yours buddy, good luck”, and walked out. It was hard- I was really in love and hadn’t even heard of the red pill yet. So what I did was wrote a list of every little thing that was wrong with her, and how I was feeling about her being an asshole that night- exactly how that felt, so I wouldn’t forget when she came calling later. It helped me to stay steadfast in cutting her out of my life completely. Because you know they’re gonna offer to fuck and act submissive and say they’re “truly sorry “. They’re not. It worked for me. And everyone is right- getting laid will close the chapter. Sorry that happened to you. I also believe you are better off. No one needs that shit.

[–]porkmissiles2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

My advice is to be proud of yourself for doing the right thing. When I was in my early 20s I did the exact wrong thing in this situation. So if it's any consolation I'm sitting here wishing I had the presence of mind back then that you do now.

My other piece of advice: ride out this shitty time. It gets better. SO much better.

Edit: some other advice my dad gave me when I was younger: girls will try to get you back at this point with their pussies and they'll often try to get pregnant. Whatever you do keep your dick out of her at all costs.

[–]Bertuzzi44442 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Make the gym your way to release the negative energy. Put blinders on and make the gym your focus. Sweat away all the anger and sadness and turn into a fucking Savage. Then watch in amazement as women begin to notice you way more.

[–]TRP VanguardHumanSockPuppet2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

She made this easy for you. The answer is clear cut, and you've handled it already.

Now it's time for YOU to go out and ragefuck some rando girl. And yes, that is what will help you get over her faster.

Just don't let yourself get attached to the new one too soon. Make her go through the same fierce vetting process.

[–]nobody_thinks2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

hey /u/fatbloop just want to add something that I think has not been covered.

Your ex-gf is a bitch. No seriously, I mean, a domineering, manipulative, toxic person.

Unfortunately the fact that you entered into an LTR with her is very strong evidence of you having pretty serious family / emotional issues. I don't know enough to diagnose it and I am not a therapist, but I recommend looking into codependency. Also read no more mr nice guy.

basically at the end of the day she is the bad person but there is something going on with you if you have / had an emotional attachment to her.

[–]Akotad2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dude as somebody who went through a break up and as since has completely upped his SMV, BE THANKFUL. You get to become a better version of yourself. Not the best, because that's unattainable, but the best that you can be at this very moment. That is very attainable and very empowering.

[–]Flesh_Pillow54 points5 points  (15 children) | Copy

If she comes back tell her you don't value her as you did before. Covertly slut shame her

[–]shitposterkatakuri14 points15 points  (14 children) | Copy

Maybe I'm off, but I'd say overtly reject her and carry on. Giving up on a relationship and fucking someone else is not acceptable in any form or fashion. There shouldn't be a "if she comes back" ya know?

[–]Flesh_Pillow5-2 points-1 points  (13 children) | Copy

Yeah I agree but the slut shaming should be covert. She should feel it but not be able to name it. thats way it plays on her psyche. "I don't want to be with an easy lay" "I don't see you the same way so my feelings are gone" " I'll fuck but I don't want anything serious no more" " I just want head now, nothing else"

[–]TheStoicTao13 points14 points  (12 children) | Copy

Nah man fuck that. Where's the self respect? Getting cheated on and accepting her back is the ultimate cuck.

Never talk to her again OP.

[–]Flesh_Pillow53 points4 points  (11 children) | Copy

If she comes crawling back there's nothing wrong with cumming in her mouth and tossing her to the curb afterwards though. Use her body

[–]TheStoicTao5 points6 points  (10 children) | Copy

It's not worth it, just petty revenge. Better to look for new prospects and forget about her.

[–]isthisalreadyused2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

There is nothing wrong with revenge, applied correctly.

Trp needs to stop with this “all revenge bad” meme

[–]Flesh_Pillow53 points4 points  (8 children) | Copy

I dunno it's less revenge and more relegation. She's being demoted to side piece. Obviously OP should still be chasing a cornucopia of poon. But his a free man.

[–]throwaway199913125 points6 points  (6 children) | Copy

How to pick up a false rape allegation

[–]Flesh_Pillow5-1 points0 points  (5 children) | Copy

Cum in mouth dude lol. harder to prove rape I suppose

[–]throwaway199913120 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

No in this day and age it really isnt. Rape cases are being pulled up from years ago with no evidence apart from anecdotal. While the revenge is nice you have to realize its stupid and will get you into trouble. Read up on the laws of power my man its very important.

[–]umizumiz2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I still fuck my ex wife... Just keep her thinking she has a chance, you just need to "experience life" and "heal" from her bs.

But I have kids with her. Wouldn't ever see her or talk to her if it weren't for that. She cheated, as well. Hahaha

[–]Gordon-G1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Only your turn

Listen to some old Tom Leykis and Patrice clips

[–]Irtotallynotrobot1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Plan a trip alone for yourself, that helped me a lot in a similar situation

[–]mrp_awakening1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You're giving way too many shits. Probably because your SMV isn't high enough. Be grateful it happened now, and not after you've had 2 kids and bought a house together.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah sounds like she did you a favor if that’s who she is. Like others have said, she’s not yours, it’s just your turn. The circumstances just didn’t work out and the ride came to an end - so just let her go.

The most important thing here though is to not take it personally and know there was nothing you can do. Don’t blame yourself. An action like cheating is not healthy or justified and if she wasn’t happy, she should have communicated with you like an adult.

Good luck and be positive. Time heals all wounds. Work on yourself and celebrate your new found freedom, brother.

[–]Fuktiga_mejmejs1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ive been in your seat, but worse, dont worry brother use this as fuel for improving your SMV. I'm sure you deserve someone better anyway so dont waste your time and mental energi on her.

[–]Onein1024th1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don't waste another second thinking about this crazy woman. Be glad at the opportunity to focus on YOUR MISSION.

Without her distracting you, you have time to go to the gym 5x a week, eat like a lion, and sleep like a bear.

Go be the best version of you you can be.

[–]redmaxz1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I know it sucks a lot. You already did the right thing and blocked her. Now it's time for you to take care of yourself. Be selfish.

Lift, cook, read, meditate. There's many people going through this every day and some fall into alcohol or other traps. Everytime I feel sad about exes I went to read here and it helps me think rationally instead of emotionally.

[–]Wreckn1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hit the gym, ghost her, block her number and all social media. Don't give her the satisfaction of closure.

[–]the13thmonk1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

mistake in the LTR. pick better next time

[–]omega_dawg931 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

op is delusional if he thinks she just met this guy... or wasn't already fucking him.

lesson taught to me from my oldest sister: girls don't like to feel guilty when they meet someone they just want to fuck. so they CREATE DRAMA to cause a breakup... so they don't feel guilty about their actions.

then after a few romps with the new dick, they want to make up and get things back on track.

my sister says most women do this a lot.

only the fool takes them back... so op, get ready. she's coming back after getting her "strange."

[–]Bedtimeshine1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I wouldnt break up with her for hitting him up. I wouldn’t break up with her for going to his house. I wouldn’t break up with her fucking him. I’d break with her for being on the app in the first place...

[–]Don_Draper271 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

IMO the best thing you can do with any toxic relationship (romantic, sexual, or even professional) is to 100% just break it off and ghost.

I know you did that but I just want you to know that you're good now. No more arguing and fighting. No more dealing with BS. You're free.

Right now at this point, try to see your life like it's your own movie. Like you're that character who hit rock bottom and some big event caused their life to completely turn around (think 'Limitless' if you've seen it).

Be mindful of all the important lessons that you can now internalize because of this. AWALT, hypergamy, etc.

This is your new beginning and even though when you look back you'll see a storm and pain, if you look forward you can see a bright blue sky of unlimited possibilities. You can now spin hot plates, travel around, build your finance and social empire.

[–]McDrMuffinMan1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Start improving yourself, it's gonna be a long climb back up the mountain hoss

[–]xx-Rain_Maker-xx1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Go to the church, the iron church.

[–]Andgelyo1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Welcome, we have been waiting for you. This is s common path that usually awakens most red pill men. Consider this the best thing that has ever happened to you. Most men are not blessed to see the truth through these lens. Enjoy the climb to greatness.

[–]bluepillcarl1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Congratulations buddy!! You can now do whatever the fuck you want when you want. Freedom! Hit the gym, eat real clean and start going out and being around cool people and meet new chicks. I'd suggest never going back into an LTR but if you must then take a break for 6 months and enjoy the time of self improvement and happiness.

[–]fightclubdevil1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah that can be tough. I don't care what anyone says, that shit hurts. Time to work on yourself and find a new chick to take your mind off of the old one. Hang out with your buddies or do something else to take your mind off of her as you start working on yourself.

[–]Red_Pill_Brotherhood1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Remember who you thought she was isn't who she is. The person you had feelings for/fell in love with was what you made up in your mind. Reality showed who she really is. She exposed herself as someone who is NOT LTR material.

Good move by blocking her. Hard next and DO NOT ever contact her again. Ignore her if she contacts you.

Do not let your emotions control you. The oneitis, feelings and betrayal will go away. Focus on you and what is best for you. Fuck other women, focus on your purpose, hit the gym/martial arts/ballroom dance and keep social with others. Stay strong.

[–]RedPillAlphaBigCock1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

you got LUCKY - Lucky you didn't commit further and seriously damage your life

[–]theone2233441 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It will hurt. But that’s okay. Life is full of ups and downs and learning experiences. There isn’t always equality, fairness or righteousness. Accept that and control what you can - which is betting yourself.

Embrace the rage/sadness/disappointment and use it to better yourself. Heartbreak and failure are one of mankind’s best teachers. Just make sure you channel it the right way.

[–]willso861 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Just remember you get to walk away from this mess while she will always be the kinda person that does crazy shit like this

[–]red_matrix1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dude, she’s been cheating on your for a while.

Also, how do you know she went to some dude’s age met on an app? Did she tell you this?

[–]tprzzz1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I have recently just got out of a 18 year relationship after finding out my wife had been having an affair for the last 2 years. Long story short I’m far happier now. It’s only been a couple of months and divorce will be settled soon but I have moved on and can finally do what I have always wanted to do.

Chances are she has done it before if she managed to do it that easily after an argument. I was a mess for the first couple of weeks but once I realised there is a great big world out there waiting to be explored I got over it pretty quickly.

Move on my friend, learn from it and improve.

[–]Incaahhh1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Be thankful you are no longer with her. I know youre hurting OP, but keep asking yourself, "what kind of person and I hurting over?" a POS thats who. And whats the point of that?

[–]NOTaUSERNAMEperson1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Whatever you do, stay ahead. If she messages you, don’t message back. She made the decision for you, don’t let her make it again.

[–]Falco2561 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It sounds like she used this fight as an excuse to go get with some one else. There is a good chance this has happened before but you never found out.

Thats ok, your not a man until you have a couple scars on your heart.

We’ve all been through it.

Getting cheated on led me to the greatest journey of my life. I’m not kidding. It’s time for you to roam the plains and explore.

[–]LeEbinConchShell1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

lol what a pathetic whore. she probably didn't even ask for money. i know how you feel, but in time it'll pass. just focus on yourself. she's genuinely an unremarkable, run-of-the-mill whore dude. Imagine letting a stranger fuck you to get a reaction out of someone else. That's all she has, a set of 3 holes. good riddance.

[–]lemongrooved1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Scan your memory methodically, without touching down into the sentimental, and asses the other times when she displayed impulsivity, lack of self discipline, lack of fidelity to the truth, pettiness, and an immature capacity on her emotions. These were qualities she almost certainly displayed in moments throughout your time together you dismissed at the time, but will vet out carefully next time.

[–]ThrowawayYAYAY20021 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yep.

I've had to do the same. Pretty eye-opening when you think of how many times she MIGHT have cheated.

[–]DoYouConcur291 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is not something you can blame yourself for or call a shit test or apply some other red pill knowledge. This is just a terrible girl. Anyone who responds to a fight with cheating clearly has some underlying desires to fool around with other guys. Any decent girl would cry in her room by herself and then get over it.

[–]Bob_Surunk1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ghost her. And when she reaches out (she will) keep on ghosting. Fuck her (figuratively).

[–]Kevchenkoo1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Boy you done dodged one hell of a bullet, ghost her ass

[–]Nergaal1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

She was never yours. It was only your turn.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Laugh. Listen to or watch something that will make you laugh your ass off.

Like this:

https://m.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJMBq1308zKsnwCT4642Coqc5DDxESydf

[–]SoulRedemption0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Many have given you some great advise. On top of it, if you have some boys who are not mutual friends with her, go do some activities with them. Dun let them be a crutch for your heartbreak but a crutch to helo you focus on something else to get your mind off things. This helps alot.

Meanwhile as what others say, dun get emotionally attracted to another woman till you put this behind, otherwise it will be a rebound n you going to go deep.

Find hobbies, read, lift, increase your SMV

[–]umizumiz0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Bros are the best to talk with. Just make a conscious decision to ONLY talk about the shit you can't get past, and ONLY after you have done everything you can. Then, you'll get advice you probably haven't tried yet.

[–]oooKenshiooo0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Bro, you did all the things right. Cut her from your life. Scrub off any trace of her. Lift, eat well, maybe go on a vacation. You will be better in a few weeks.

[–]uptimex0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I'd suggest having sex with another girl. Maybe using apps, maybe sitting at the bar. Maybe just calling someone you wanted years ago. If not possible, just do something physical, when you have free time: gym, martial arts, running, hiking. Also, meeting new people, without thinking, go to some events, try to meet some new people, not necessarily women, just to get new impressions. Also, you should try to forget all this situation and adapt to new circumstances, when you are a healthy, strong single who have several pretty plates to spin. You don't see it, but she gave you a gift, she gave you the freedom to not be a beta male. Now you can be whatever you want, changing your physical treats, your psychology, building an abundance mindset. And yes harsh truth comes with it, even if you are an alfa, women can spin plates as we do and that is okay. If a woman has sex with you it is good, if she had sex with someone else, you just don't give a shit, it can happen, you either do next or she is just a plate to spin.

[–]xNightly0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Know that time is the ultimate healer. You'll feel very shitty for the next few days/weeks but with each day, it gets better. Even if you feel a very minuscule amount better than the previous day, within time you'll be fine.

Shit sucks, I understand but you gotta move on with your life. Don't dwell on it and for god's sake, do not reach out to this bitch ever again. You deserve much better, hope it turns out well for you man.

[–]RagBeerBela0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Hard next, stop thinking about her i know it can be hard but practice and meditate it helps.

[–]Izzenw0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I know it hurts... I had a similar experience some months ago.

Hard Next her. BLock her on every single possible way, you are hurt, but you don't even imagine how hurt she will be by doing this.

Go lift ASAP...

[–]BusterVadge0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I agree with all the other guys, you dodged a bullet!

The best thing you can do is lift until you're too tired to think. I'm serious.... Lift extremely hard and immediately afterward you're going to be at peace for a few hours at least.

Also helps to take up mindfulness. That comes AFTER lifting because you're not going to be able to relax at first.

[–]thenewyorkmind0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Take the pain! Take the pain! -Platoon

[–]ManiaMcG33_0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I’m sorry man, I’ve been in a similar situation before. Besides working on yourself, which you already know, get the fuck out of the house when you can. Spend time with friends, gym, hobbies, etc. if you’ve got nothing to do and someone offers you an activity, do it. You’ve taken the right steps by blocking her. One day you’ll look back and realize how ridiculous this bitch is for her behavior. For now, it’s going to sting a little bit though. Also, if you want any tips in dating or meeting women again, check out AMS YouTube.

[–]NoBsMan0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Listen to Patrice O’Neil black Phillip show

[–]ManiaMcG33_0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

https://youtu.be/2FKOjdGwhUQ this and other Patrice O’Neal Vids can apply as well. Patrice was red pulled before it was a thing. He’s a true diamond in the rough

[–]sebastianconcept0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Work to improve the three fundamental parameters: 1. appereance 2. affluence 3. game

Set the right microgoals so you don’t shoot yourself in the foot with the wrong expectations

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That sucks man but see this as an opportunity to grow and work on yourself

Try and further your career, lift, raise your SMV, game and fuck a million other girls. The world is your oyster. If you don't have a mission then get one, and pursue it RELENTLESSLY.

I'd recommend you develop some close male friendships if you haven't already and work towards success with them.

Dont ever talk to her again, she deserves 0 closure, shes just a whore like the majority of women.

In the end this event will just have made you a stronger man, hardened to the world and to the nature of women. AWALT.

God bless you man and best of luck

[–]TheHumbleAfrican0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Sorry for the emotional turmoil you are going through right now. It will get better. Time heals. Focus on you, your goals and ambition and your life. The only advice I can give you is Never Ever take her back or give her another chance. If you do, she’ll do it again.

[–]PincheeWhey0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Do not under any circumstances contact her again, don’t let her try to talk you back in. Stay busy, stay out of the house, do everything you can to get your mind off her.

[–]It_just_got_Worse0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Cut off completely, no contact and block on Social Media. I don't care if she sends a pigeon to your ass because she's exhausted all other forms of communication, this part of your life is done. Do not just sit at home and contemplate the what if's, go out there and focus on you. Build your life and your SMV. Everything else is a by product and will come to you in the process

[–]Houston2NYC0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I feel like there’s more to this story though.

[–]Rayquaza19990 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Sorry to hear that. Be done with her and don't go back is obvious. Go to the gym or exercise every day. Grab some male friends and take a cool trip somewhere, nothing like a few days with the boys to boost your confidence.

[–]HurricaneHugues0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Did u delete her text thread, all her photos on your phone? Did u delete her and her closest friends off your social media?

Do u lift? Have hobbies? Have friends? Have a job?

[–]addwater0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

What can you take away from this?

Why are you fighting with your LTR at all after having read the sidebar?

Why did your LTR cheat after one simple fight?

Guess you weren't as redpilled as you thought bro.

This ain't meant to attack you but get you thinking and more prepared next time.

[–]mikayla_rivera0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Why did she do that? It sounds like you guys have had other issues. I am not saying what she did was right, but maybe you did something as well for her to feel the need to do something like that. Either way don’t sweat it, women are abundant and one like that doesn’t really matter. Go meet other women at meet ups, the bar, sports, college, whatever. The moment I realized women are not scarce and there are plenty to choose from, I realized that no girl really matters in the grand scheme of things if she treats you bad.

[–]frick-a-frack0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Something is off with this story. If you’re not trolling, then her story is the questionable one.

It wasn’t a random fuck. It was someone she knows. Probably someone you know. But calling him “a random fuck” removes him from the equation should you be stupid enough to accept her back.

On the off chance it really was a random fuck, imagine the STDs you already have from such a whore who’s been willing to do this.

[–]Lazyman_4hire0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Fuck. So sorry dude, that must be rough.

Literally the only thing that helped me through bad break ups is hitting the gym. It only works for a few hours at a time per day but the end results are worth it and you just need to put one foot in front of the other.

Fearless Motivation on Spotify helps guide me and this video pretty much sums it up. https://youtu.be/9mbp0DugfCA

[–]goumbar0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Keep at it bloop. This shit'll hurt for a while, but only for as long as you let it.

Getting yourself back to strength won't be easy, but it's very much necessary. It sounds like you've got a great goal in mind, but another suggestion is that instead of focusing on your SMV, focus on YOU instead. What I mean here is do everything that helps you accomplish your personal and professional goals, eat as clean as you can, and most importantly, do all the shit that makes you happy. Your SMV will increase as a natural byproduct of those activities, and when you feel like you're back on your feet, you'll be back at it and spinning plates like a G.

Abundance man, might sound easier said than done, but you've been there before and you'll be there again. Get back to it as soon as you can.

You got this brother, and the community is here with you.

[–]1NathanHollister0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Dump her ass.

[–]c_h_940 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thank God you dodged that train wreck.

[–]TxnyMontana0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Well, your post isn't about getting back a cheater LTR, so we're on the right path.

We don't have a background on this one. Cheating can be a consecuences of a lot of mistakes in the relationship, or can be an isolated event.

The LTR balance is up to you, you will know the part of your fault in that fight or whatever.

Back to what happened, im sorry for this bro, I know is shit, been there.

As i can see, she made you a favour. She demostrated that she's not worthy of a LTR. Like having a fight and then inmediately cheating?

that's not a healthy behaviour inside a LTR.

The advice? continue with your life. Show must go on.

As we learnt in the sidebar, you gotta be ok by your own. So, if someone leaves, you're still ok with your shit.

[–]W_O_M_B_A_T0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Sorry to hear that, m8.

Take it easy at work for a couple of days.

It's OK to be pissed right the hell off. This is the natural defense mechanism against unjust behavior. She deserves your anger. Just realize that it's not healthy to live there for more than a week, for example.

Also keep in mind that being ignorant about someone else isn't a felony and it's not a weakness.

Consider yourself lucky that she educated you about her true attention-seeking slag character, in this short of a time. What you've learned is that your girlfriend is a sexual parasite type and can't live freely on her own.

Sometimes it takes a decade or more before a person is truly tested in the fire.

[–]ForrestAlpha-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

OP you shouldn't be so invested in women that anything they do phases you.

Women are dogs. If you take your dog to the park every day and then one day it scampers away from you and start to go play with another dog owner and then tries to leave with the other ownet, are you going to have a breakdown and cry?

Of course not. So why the fuck are you breaking down over some thot lol

[–]illmatic70810 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

A dog would never do that, come on man, you know dogs are the most loyal creatures on the planet. The gf can go tho, cya

[–]howigotin-4 points-3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Man that is rough. Treat yourself to some McDonald's and ice cream.

[–]Lilluzzo-3 points-2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Obviously a troll post



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