Do men genuinely not understand that, for women, having some guy who wouldn't been seen in public with you dump a fuck into you isn't some great thing?

I was thinking about the "obese women have more partners" thread and I had to ask this question. Put aside your male solipsismigism for one second and try to think like a woman, can you see why the ability to rack up numbers by being used for sex by men who wouldn't take you out in public or want to hang out with you non sexually is no big feather in your cap? Or can you really only see "who cares, had sex". Do you understand this is not a female attitude?