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If you don’t believe in you, then why should your family??

So you’ve discovered The Manosphere and have decided that you are going to take back your masculinity, own your shit, and lead your family. Before you start throwing around AWALT, Dread, and deciding to have a ‘Coming to Christ‘moment with your wife (which I have said time and again IS A BAD FUCKING IDEA) you need to get your fitness in check. I personally believe that your actions should do all of the talking. You don’t just sit your wife down and act like a Somali pirate saying, “Look at me, I’m the captain now” that’s fucking gay and your wife will laugh in your face. You don’t just ‘become’ a leader, you earn it.

This is why I believe that Fitness is the first brick we are laying in the foundation from which you are building the ‘new you‘. The reason for that is Fitness provides the most immediate effect on your psyche. Simply put – Iron doesn’t lie. You will immediately learn a few things.

  1. The King is alone; heavy is the head that wears the crown. If you don’t have a limitless reserve of confidence in yourself, you’re going to crumble and end up exactly where you were before, a beta provider weaksauce fuck. You don’t want that and neither do I.

  2. You’re weak. You may think it is acceptable that you’ve put on a few pounds as your married, that’s what happens right? You have to be a physical presence for yourself, your family, and for society to even give you a notice. Dread only works if your wife views you as a man who can get other women. Women know women; they know that nobody is checking out the dad with a white shirt showing under his polo and stained khakis that show his stomach spilling over the belt.

  3. Lifting kills that desire for instant gratification. This venture takes time and that patience and diligence will carry over to the other aspects of your life. Learn to calm the fuck down and take your time. Do it right, not fast.

Again, the Iron doesn’t lie, either you can lift it or you can’t there is no place for your male hamster or rationalizing it away. Are you strong enough? Yes or No? Why?

The confidence that you will gain through your relationship with the iron will lead to a newly found believe in your sense of self. You will know your body more intimately than ever before. You will know what you are capable of and the strength you are developing will be noticed by those around you. If you want to be the Master of Tingles you need to have a body that makes women wet. Fuck what women say, watch their actions as it’s what they do that truly matters. If your wife says she hates ‘muscular men’, what she is actually saying is there is no way she would have married a loser and the reason you aren’t muscular is because she doesn’t like that. It saves her ego and if you understand women’s solipsistic nature, this is an obvious example.

The next time you have sex watch as she grabs those hard triceps, holds onto your lats, or keeps touching your abs. The chick who ‘didn’t like muscles‘ is all about those new ‘hard‘ muscles you’ve built.

As for the instant gratification, the commitment needed to enter the gym day in and day out is fitness for your mind. You develop more self-discipline and remove the instant gratification that plagues many ‘men’ out there. The simple act of going to the gym is, in itself, improving your ‘self’. It also gets you away from your wife, developing your own life separate from her’s. My wife and I have a life together, but we also have lives’ apart. It keeps us from becoming needy, dependent, or desensitized to one another.

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