"Why don't you have a girlfriend?"

WhyIsYosarionNaked · 2016-09-14T02:36:47+00:00

They're just generic people making generic conversation. That's just the usual stuff that office people bullshit about. Don't put too much thought into it.

denverwind1 · 2016-09-14T04:16:13+00:00

I'm as single as a dollar bill and I'm not looking for change

ministypill · 2016-09-14T00:41:21+00:00

I am going to copy and paste a comment I posted few days ago.

Unless you know this girl from very young age, and she was not slutting around, otherwise:

The Women in the west who are caring, greet you up on arrival, small talk during the process, don't use sex as weapon, don't leverage sex through you, care about the truth, feminine, workout to keep body in good shape and don't divorce rape you with alimony,

ARE THE PROSTITUTE.

103342 · 2016-09-14T00:04:10+00:00

The problem I have with the current "model" for LTR is that the guy has to take so much shit by default.

He has to accept the past of his girlfriend, he has to accept her keeping contact with male "friends", accept her going out in places that people go to fuck (bars, clubs...) without you... etc. If you go against all of the bullshit you are a controlling, jealous, asshole.

Keeping things casual is just so much easier... I really think that if you aren't going into a LTR thinking in really long term, you are just paying a higher price for a cheap pussy. This is what happens most of the times, in my experience and looking into my circles of friends.

I get happy to see "happy" couples, it gives me some hope for the future of our society. But, if you look closely, you will probably find a ton of fucked up shit going on, its always like this. Unfortunately.

80% of girls are just not really "relationship material". There just isn't enough "good girls" (not damaged beyond repair) to go around. I'm fine with that tbh. I like slutty girls, I like casual sex and I also like to spend time alone.

AlerioX · 2016-09-14T08:47:58+00:00

Quote from Esther Vilar:
Original:
"Ein junger Mann, der eine Familie gründet und sich hinfort sein ganzes Leben lang, meist in stumpfsinnigen Tätigkeiten, der Ernährung von Frau und Kindern widmet, gilt als ehrenwert. Einer, der sich nicht bindet, keine Kinder zeugt, mal hier und mal dort lebt, mal dies und mal jenes tut - weil es ihn interessiert und um sich selbst und nur sich selbst zu ernähren -, und der einer Frau, wenn er sie trifft, als freier Mensch gegenübertritt und nicht in der Uniformität des Sklaven, wird von der Gesellschaft ausgestoßen und verachtet. "

Just googled the translation:
"If a young man gets married, and starts a family and spends the rest of hise life working at a soul-destroying job, he is held up as an example of virtue and responsibility. The other type of man, living only for himself, working only for himself, doing first one thing and then another simply because he enjoys it and because he has to keep only himself, sleeping where and when he wants, and facing woman when he meets her on equal terms and not as one of a million slaves, is rejected by society."

My grandmothers ask me everytime I visit them when I will marry....the question gives me a vicious smile.

GrowlingBears · 2016-09-14T00:00:22+00:00

Are the others seeing the missed opportunity to improve themselves? Are they recognizing they could have taken a bit more time before settling? Are you a ghost they are staring at or a mirror they are gazing into longingly? Fuck'em. Life's a bitch and they likely married one.

CraigJusticeFor · 2016-09-14T01:45:55+00:00

Everyone gets told this. Women who don't want kids get crap because of it and called selfish. Men who don't marry get crap too, and called immature Peter Pans. It's just people making retarded assumptions about other people's life choices.

Ignore them, lift, improve yourself, live your life.

2comment · 2016-09-14T02:24:19+00:00

When the conversation of their SO's comes up, a few of my coworkers always seem to ask me my story, "are you married?" "do you have a girlfriend?" and when I say no to either question, it's like they've seen a ghost.

These people want you to reaffirm their life choices. It's like when you go into a church/synagogue/temple/whatever and have to believe in the magic beards or rub the fat guy's chubby stomach or have your kid fellate the priest, right along with everyone else. Half the herd may not exactly believe in the magic ritual but damned if you don't perform it just like they did.

I'm focused on me and improving my quality of life, but it's almost like my coworkers are crabs in a bucket.

They are crabs in a bucket, not almost. Many marriages suck (betas are on a constant treadmill of making their women happy through one form of supplication or another) and so do extended relationshits people are in these days and their shit 9-5 or whatever grind.

Misery loves company. They don't give a fuck about your actual relationship status, only that you eat like a sheep, shit like a sheep, and bleet like a sheep just like them.

Probably has a lot to do with (non-stem) college degrees too that don't teach shit about the actual job but damned they went through it and are under crushing student debt for decades, you should get in on it too! Position Open for Janitor : Bachelor's Degree Required.

blackierobinsun2 · 2016-09-14T09:47:05+00:00

The reason I don't have a girlfriend is because I can't afford one

Davidkpa · 2016-09-14T01:38:04+00:00

You have to coddle coworkers, it's why I'm essentially self-employed. They have their little worlds and need reaffirmation of their lives. A Real Estate Investment firm I do legal work for as In-House counsel got in a couple of new girls for their office staff and they both found reasons to visit me in my corner cave (I come in the back door and leave via the back door).

One flat out asked if I was seeing someone. Not paying attention I cracked out "yeah but don't tell my girlfriend or my wife." The woman got a real odd look on her face and walked out. The next time she saw me, she asked if I had been joking and if I was married. I smiled politely and explained it didn't matter, she got an annoyed look on her face and I don't talk to her anymore.

Garconanokin · 2016-09-14T02:05:39+00:00

I like the "my mom set the bar too high" as a means to dealing with the girlfriend question. Shuts them up quick.

iheartdrums86 · 2016-09-14T03:22:31+00:00

*could not care less.

if you COULD care less then that means you at least care a little.

Adderallabuse · 2016-09-14T00:56:37+00:00

"Why dont you have a girlfriend?"

Because it makes my boyfriend jealous.

This is a test to see if you are successful with other women. Pass the test with an answer that a man who IS successful with women would say

I_Need_More_Space_ · 2016-09-14T04:40:25+00:00

I get two reactions from co-workers when they see me living life with a disregard for the mundane and chasing awesome goals like: I'm gonna become a ski bum this winter, ski 60 + days, and work 1 day/week from December to April.

a) They don't want to hear about the Scarpa ski boots I bought Sunday. They look at me with a vindictive and jealous look. They say that one day I'll meet someone and "everything" will change. I tell them that I don't believe in love and the whole Disney thing. LOL. Really, I straight up tell them.

b) They light up when I speak to them or approach them, because I'm a positive guy. They love to hear my plans for adventure and freedom. And they tell me, "You're doing it right. I wish I would have been able to do that." And they agree that love fades and complacency replaces it... At least, that's what one of them has told me.

There are haters that want to see you fucked like themselves, and there are people who cheer you on for living by your own terms. That's life.

Andgelyo · 2016-09-14T01:55:16+00:00

I'm in the same situation and I've realized the grad school I attend is pathetically blue pill( suburban/rural area). In addition, the majority of my classmates are females who are engaged, as well as most of my guy friends are in LTRs. How do I combat the " damn, dude, I'm sorry" or "you'll find a good girl" comments? Apart wants me to show all the nudes I get from tinder and laugh at their faces

agentapelsin · 2016-09-14T05:34:10+00:00

"I don't have a girlfriend, I just have a few girls that would be sad to hear me say that"

JK_Hardwood · 2016-09-14T02:41:38+00:00

Five years. Five fucking years I have been single. In that time I went from dating several girls at once to fucking one or two then being single for months. Why? Because that's what pleased me at the time. Then I went into my "MGTOW" Faze where I was celibate for two years. After that I figured I'd try the relationship game again. Bad fucking idea. First girl I met was a stage five, multi- babies daddy, downright clinically psychotic, substance abusing criminal. But damn was she a stellar lay. That ended with her having a tweaker ex of hers steal my Harley at 7am on a Saturday ( I have no proof, unfortunately). Then I was single again for nine months.

This whole time every one of my friends and family pestered me about "finding her" and "getting a girlfriend."

Moral of the story: they just don't fucking get it. If you're perpetually single in our society you're a weirdo, a loner or socially retarded. Don't justify yourself to these people. Be you, live in the moment and fuck the haters.

JJMcgray · 2016-09-14T04:03:38+00:00

I actually watched something about this. It's society's way of shaming you into settling down. Just remember , they tell single women they don't need to settle down and they can whore it up.

Anyway. Fuck em. You're fine. Misery loves company so seeing you go against the norm triggers them into shaming you. As a man, you can decide to settle down at 50 and get some 18 year old pregnant. There is no rush at all.

Any man who treats you like not having an anchor leeching your time and money is bad, he can be written off as a fool.

DoesNotMatterAnymore · 2016-09-14T10:42:12+00:00

Just go with this answer:

"I don't have a girlfriend, but this doesn't means i'm alone!" smirk

If you follow the basic tips to improve your attractiveness (workout, dress well), no one gonna question your statement. It doesn't matter if - currently - no one is in your life.

If the follow-up question is "Why?", ignore it / Agree and amplify it, don't start hamstering about it, keep your frame.

themanbat · 2016-09-14T03:06:26+00:00

I'm Mormon. I have three wives and five girlfriends. Want to be number 4 or number 6?

nice_and_friendly · 2016-09-13T23:57:07+00:00

id even take it a step further.. not only am i perfectly content being single and just sleeping with whoever i want, but i actually feel pretty bad for guys in LTRs. the fact that they actually desire committment makes me think that something hasnt clicked for them yet. or, that they just never figured out how to be attractive to women and dont have an abundance of options like i do. like why would you want one when you can just have them all? whatever their reason is, i silently feel bad for them. and guys my age who literally got legally married? i actually just feel pity for them. so its a bit funny how people ask why dont you have a girlfriend, why arent you getting married.. as if thats something that a high caliber man should even want in the first place.. as if its some kind of life accomplishment or success to be proud of. when i see my male peers in committed LTRs and getting married, all i see is a giant failure. so they can feel bad for me all they want, i feel bad for them too. i generally try to avoid these kinds of conversations though, we all gota live our own lives and make our own choices

bh150 · 2016-09-14T02:08:21+00:00

If you take your work seriously, which it sounds like you do, how do you keep that focus on you and making your life improve and catch up with all your women?

TrumpRules2016 · 2016-09-14T02:19:52+00:00

I will just say that I also hate getting that fucking question. It's just really intrusive and I want to tell people so badly that it's none of their business.

trpthroway123 · 2016-09-14T14:12:28+00:00

"Why aren't you married?"

"Polygamy isn't legal"

"Why don't you have a girlfriend?"

"Because having 5 is more fun"

Problem solved.

yung_shkreli · 2016-09-14T19:38:37+00:00

I usually tell them I'm skipping my first marriage.

steel_tube · 2016-09-14T22:12:53+00:00

I don't have a girlfriend because I have no balls and miss out on every flirting opportunity that comes my way.

Most of them I only realize when I think about them later, then I hate myself. Sometimes my inner self is screaming "hit on her you stupid schmuck," but I puss out, or cant think of something to say, or don't feel right, or whatever bullshit excuse seems convenient at the time.

Evileddie13 · 2016-09-14T00:02:42+00:00

Just tell 'em you got a bad case a 'choke-a-bitch.'

354999556 · 2016-09-14T01:20:17+00:00

The question will always come up, being in a relationship is like having a job, everyone has one. You're weird if you don't.

Apexk9 · 2016-09-14T07:58:42+00:00

"Yeah man its terrible to be able to fuck young hot pieces of ass I don't know how I can sleep at night with my huge grin from side to side"

"Yeah must be nice to have sex so easily I could only have sex like 40 times last month if only I had a wife"

Just do under handed insults.

PantsonFire1234 · 2016-09-14T14:02:02+00:00

It's two fold, for one their commitment has been validated whilst yours has not, they think. And second they are incredibly insecure that they made the wrong choice. The fear of missing out is real with the beta/slut. They have zero confidence in their life choices, thus everyone has to be in the same boat as they are. The possibility that someone made better choices and is eventually better off frightens the shit out of them. They hate competition.

I've seen guys utterly break down just by the idea that you are slaying poon while they are dry humping their overweight girlfriend or wife. The hamster explodes and they attempt to say and do anything that makes them feel good again.

Truth is that they know, they fully know that a guy with much higher SMV than theirs is getting attention from women. They know that the only reason he is single is because so many women are vying for his commitment, that he can play the field. But they can't take that reality so they tell themselves that there must be something wrong with you and that they're better after all. Whilst putting in zero hard work to actually better themselves.

These people can't be helped, they are doomed to rot away as slaves and losers in the current system. Beta's, and Sluts

Fragems420 · 2016-09-14T05:08:47+00:00

Friends with benefits are the best way to go for me for self improvement without the need to invest too much time or emotions.

Do what works for you. Rub one out before you think about settling down.

johnny_hamilton · 2016-09-14T06:53:20+00:00

That definitely provides value for me. I get that question a lot, and I feel like a nobody after I answer it with a "no". Good for you for not comparing yourself to other people and really killing it overall.

TheStumblingWolf · 2016-09-14T07:39:34+00:00

I actually remember watching an interview with a musician I really like. He's solo too - no wife or anything - and he said he just wanted to focus on music. At that time I thought "wow, he's like 50 and so behind in life". Eventually I learned that other ways of life are just different, not worse. Such is the extent of the blue pill conditioning.

BlackFallout · 2016-09-14T09:27:43+00:00

Late 20's Same problem. Out of all the girls I've fucked since I started following TRP 3 years ago, I have not found a single one I would ever want to be in a LTR with.

JusticeHunter · 2016-09-14T11:23:21+00:00

Inspiring story man! As i guy who is in his early 20s, my 3-5 years plan is to keep lifting and grow some balls to approach. Self-Discovery has been pretty rough for me, thank you for sharing your perspective!

Johndoesmith67 · 2016-09-14T11:41:31+00:00

Tell them "I am focused on fucking bitches and stacking paper to the ceiling."

TheDialecticParadox · 2016-09-14T11:42:17+00:00

They like to shame anyone/anything that shatters their world view. The media tells them to pity and sneer at willingly single men, because secretly they 'must have small penises', or 'crippling abandonment issues'. There, there little hamster. Isn't marriage wonderful? Isn't it nice being 'normal'?

Don't ever say any of this though. Just play your part and keep slaying.

pirateninj4 · 2016-09-14T12:41:49+00:00

It all comes down to your personal choices. I personally chose to find a girl who I was attracted to that would follow me and be my first mate.

When I found her, I was fine being in a LTR. Up till then, I was fine playing the field. As much as that's possible with a field full of bad fruit.

People ask about this sort of stuff because it's generic conversation. Not much to think about here. It would be more interesting to know the ages and looks factor of the people involved.

Mouthpiece · 2016-09-14T13:08:14+00:00

Be sure to note the assumption in the question: somehow, you SHOULD have a wife or girlfriend. Your failure to conform to the expectations of others threatens them, because it forces them to it knowledge the fact that not everyone needs to have a spouse or LTR.

Different people are scary to those who conform.

favours_of_the_moon · 2016-09-14T13:23:38+00:00

"Why don't you have a headache?"

DarkisKnight · 2016-09-14T13:26:00+00:00

Give it a few years. Many of them will be unhappily married or in a sexless relationship with their gfs and not know why. While you will be dating hotties and having the time of your life. At least among the men you'll probably be treated more with envy and disbelief.

ballietbran · 2016-09-14T14:11:53+00:00

"Pre-TRP me would have compared myself to these people, thinking that I'm somehow behind in life, less attractive than the married guys, whatever." Exactly this, who gives a fuck about their lives. The reason they look at you like a ghost is because they're the one's doing everything that society told them to do. Good on you man for becoming the best version of yourself. And there is nothing wrong in not wanting a specific woman in your life like you mentioned earlier. Great post!

pedler · 2016-09-14T14:24:59+00:00

I don't get it either.

I feel like peope are going to judge if I say I'm waiting for a 9 or a 10, so I just make up some excuse. I'm leaning towards starting to tell people I'm gay so they stop prying.

indeydius · 2016-09-14T15:21:50+00:00

Q: Why don't you have a girlfriend?

A: I'm still holding auditions.

jm51 · 2016-09-14T15:39:27+00:00

Why don't you have a girlfriend?

Medical reasons.

What medical reasons?

I'm an asshole.

GalacticSuperDrone · 2016-09-14T16:19:56+00:00

I hate this. I havent been in an LTR for about a year, girlfriend cheated yadda yadda yadaa.

People always ask me this, even guys ask why I don't have a steady girlfriend.

I don't fucking want one, I have my hobbies and friends and bang some chicks on the side when I can. Other than that chicks are pretty low on my priority list - after all, they've all proven to be complete shit bags, excuse me for not want to jump into an LTR with another fucking bitch.

red_reality · 2016-09-14T16:52:57+00:00

I see other men in relationships and pitty them. I know the real manipulation long term pussy can lead to. The gainz in fitness, work ethic, game and just general confidence I get from being single far outweighs the benefits of having familiar pussy and a shoulder to cry on.

Mckallidon · 2016-09-14T16:58:29+00:00

I usually respond with "they would say so". But I can say these things at my job.

Areu4realm8 · 2016-09-14T17:03:28+00:00

I just tell them im still looking, i have not choosen anyone yet. that the answer their gonna hear until im 100 yo old.

EscortSportage · 2016-09-14T18:48:49+00:00

Im in the same shoes bud, F those crabs! Stay focused on your own goals not those squares at work with fat/ugly wives.

squidracer · 2016-09-14T18:51:18+00:00

Maybe they can't figure out why a man would work there unless he had a family to take care of.

Seriously, life without a wife and kids is cheap.. Some days I question why the fuck I bother with a full time job anymore

Zerwas · 2016-09-15T08:09:19+00:00

I experienced the same thing, having been single for a longer period of time in my 20s. The social conditioning is strong in this regard:

Dude has no girlfriend, something must be wrong with him!

On the other hand I know lots of people who are in a "purpose-relationship" which are obviously not happy and just stay in it because it offers advantages like cheaper rent if they live together etc.
I'd rather be single and have some plates than live with someone mainly for function.

AFPJ · 2016-09-17T00:00:12+00:00

"Why don't you have a girlfriend?"

"Why did you assume I want one?"

/thread

Faymozilla · 2016-09-14T00:45:35+00:00

You can go into an ltr just have a frame and fuck other women, if she gets mad then ur frame will make her wet and happy again. Lift fuck bitches, get money, shoot betas girlfriends with cum, smoke weed

PissedPajamas · 2016-09-14T17:10:26+00:00

Hit them with "I'm too hot-headed for anything long-term. I wish I was as patient as you are with women." With this, you move the conversation from yourself to women in general, while complimenting them. People are suckers for compliments

vengefully_yours · 2016-09-14T19:51:53+00:00

Bitches be expensive. Fuck paying off her student loans and her phone bill just for some poon. Girl wants to be with me she had to have her shit together so I don't have to do anything for her unless I feel like it.

Why should I have to put up with her shit? I will not deal with her at her worst, or even her just a bad day or insecurities, she acts up she is fucking gone. She is not special, she's one of 3.5 billion. Finding one that isn't a compete entitled cunt is a pain in my ass. I have better things to do than spend my time here chasing pussy just to get my dick wet and install a worm in my bank account that drains my funds.

Don't need a girl to enjoy my life, feel good about myself, nobody needs to complete me there is no hole in my soul or other nonsense. The only reason I would require a girl is if I wanted to pop out some fuck trophies and pay support and fight for visitation. Ref. First reply, crotch fruit be even more expensive than bitches. I have two kids, trust me on that.

I love my dog, it loves me back and is always happy to see me, won't run off with some loser and take my house with it. I love my car, I can fix anything that breaks on it and since I built it, it's extremely fucking reliable. It is appreciating in value and I can change the color any time I want.

Sleeping with someone sucks, they hog the blankets or overheat me. The huskies can snuggle instead, they move when they get too hot and don't shove me off the bed.

Nobody asks me why I don't have a girlfriend. It's fucking obvious that finding a bitch worth having around is not worth the time and expense. I'll fuck them, but I catch and release, they don't stay in my boat.

mzi16 · 2016-09-14T03:15:25+00:00

I think it's easy to crap all over the idea of a LTR when you're in your mid-20s. I remember being in my mid-20s and saying the same thing, enjoying fucking HB6 sluts on a regular basis. Now I'm 32 and long for a LTR with a great woman. When people ask me "Why don't you have a girlfriend," I give stock answers, but inside I feel awful and anxious about it. I bet many guys in their mid-20s will change their tune by their early 30s if they're still single as well.

MajorLeagueMagick · 2016-09-14T09:16:04+00:00

Most Westernized women seem to lack feminine traits and aren't worth being in a long term relationship with. Bad location and higher standards makes the prospects worse. All these horror stories I've seen and read of women cheating in LTRs, and the fact that women have less testosterone, thus can be less honest, and are better at getting away with cheating scares me; and if a woman cheated on me I'd break up with her in an instant, regardless of how much pain it would cause me. On top of that, I'd rather be myself as much as I can, even if it comes across as beta, and not have to be emotionally drained to put on a constant front of having no negative emotions just to get sex and affection from a less feminine woman.

Having standards is part of self-improvement. I won't date fat girls or single moms, I don't want kids, and I won't sign a marriage contract. I'm also attracted to intelligence, so I'm hesitant with dating women too young, that are attractive, but ignorant and boring. I'm not interested in casual sex because it sounds more complicated, so I just stay a virgin and work on myself. Loneliness is better than bad commitment, and bad commitment kills you faster than loneliness.

The world can get in relationships for the wrong reason, smart men will not. If I am to feel depressed to whatever degree, I'd also happily rather be in a depression caused by loneliness than one caused by a manipulative woman. I've been burned badly enough by women to know that all the positive things they are capable of giving to me don't compare to how badly they can instantaneously and metaphorically rip out my insides, and make it my fault entirely, and shut off all of their affection towards me as if it never existed in the first place. Porn, sex technology, and even loneliness is better than women with too many red flags, or too big of red flags, the emotional roller-coasters they will try to create, and the status you have, or could attain, that they would be attracted to and will inevitably work to destroy.

J_AsapGem · 2016-09-15T00:30:00+00:00

today i smashed a girl that told me, " i'm in a relationship i can't do this " the way i look at it is, i could've been the other guy, she brought me feed and acted like a GF and gave me my space after, so why do we " need " a personal girl, specially after finding fulfillment in yourself.

cashmoney_x · 2016-09-15T14:13:14+00:00

and when I say no to either question, it's like they've seen a ghost.

No it's not.

aanarchist · 2016-09-14T00:40:36+00:00

have you ever considered that maybe they were asking you a question? you don't have to go full retard every time someone asks you if you have a girlfriend.

blackchadthundercock · 2016-09-14T22:49:31+00:00

Here's my answer and everyone please steal it.....

Why don't you have a girlfriend?

Because girls give away so much milk for free in 2016 that I never have to go shopping for a cow again. What do I need a girlfriend/wife for?

Be sure and pay attention to the bitches face when you tell her this, you'll be surprised as fuck.

TACTICALBLONDEBIMBO · 2016-09-14T06:46:33+00:00

Lol OP I can feel your pain bro. Legit had a few girls come up to me and ask if Im gay because they never see me with a girlfriend. Is what it is. Like I've told people, unless she's a really bad bitch and has the courage to approach me or give me her number. Im not just going to go up to some random bitch and ask her. I have very very very rarely done that. Anytime I've done that in my life which has been less than handful, the girl was a really bad bitch(like model type) and/or she had a nice phat ass.

I worked at Abercrombie and Hollister for awhile and there where quite a few hot girls.I might do the Manager in training thing. We shall see. Anyways unlike a couple of my buddies that worked there, I almost never approached or acknowledged any of them. Quite a few girls thought I was gay there as well. Accept there where a couple who knew I was just very very very shy around pretty girls.

One of my assistant managers at Hollister came up to me one day, and told me she really wants to have a baby. She's a tad bit older than me. At first I didn't think too much of it. Well she had mentioned to me a few more times. Started asking me questions like when I would be finished with school, if i had any siblings, etc..... I really thought she was just playing. Until she started asking me questions about having a baby, and maybe making a baby with her. Didn't even know she liked me.

Title	"Why don't you have a girlfriend?"
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Date	September 13, 2016 11:45 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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