This is why EVERY woman needs FDS

ManchurianCantaloupe · 2020-02-13T16:22:50+00:00

Oh man. This is currently posted in BPT. There's exactly one sane comment and the rest are telling women to keep acting like this and insisting it's "victim blaming" to tell women not to go above and beyond for a shitty, cheating LVM who doesn't appreciate them.

rosapalmera · 2020-02-13T15:43:30+00:00

I’ve been guilty of this. Stayed over at a guy’s house and he had a towel-shaped mold stain on the back of his door. I could actually smell the mold from the bed.

I went and bought cleaning supplies, some hangers because all his clothes were everywhere, and a towel for myself.

I normally wouldn’t have done this, but I was visiting him in another continent for two weeks, and I couldn’t afford a hotel.

I cleaned and tidied everything, but when he thanked me I made it clear to him I had only done this for MYSELF because I didn’t want to breathe in samonella and step on his dirty boxers or use his gross ass towel.

And he THEN had the BALLS to get upset with me saying I didn’t need to treat him like a baby because he had been living by himself since he was 18 and he was doing just fine.

I was like boy, you’ve not been “living” you’ve been barely surviving look at yourself! We broke up shortly after that lol.

EDIT: the mold only took one swipe with a sponge and mold remover to clean. Absolutely no scrubbing. So this clown hadn’t even TRIED to get it off.

NoThisIs-Patrick · 2020-02-13T16:35:10+00:00

I did this. Same story. Cleaned his nasty-ass apartment - kitchen, bedroom, living room, bathroom - made dinner, got his favourite beverage for him, etc. Turned out he was cheating on me.

Never again. Anyone wants me to contribute like that there better be a ring on my finger and us living in the same home.

scarletbegonia79 · 2020-02-13T16:34:16+00:00

At that point I would have set that house on fire! OMG these men have no shame in their games! How do they sleep at night? This kind of shit is what causes us as women to be considered cold, bitter bitches! We are building up men for their next relationship while they are destroying us for ours! It’s a vicious world when falling in love has us women literally fearing for our lives! Avoiding love like the Ebola virus & rightfully so! Used to be love was the greatest experience life had to offer! Now just look at us. See why we can’t have nice things.... ??

Slothity · 2020-02-13T17:39:32+00:00

About five years ago, I cleaned a guy I was dating’s entire house just like this. Top to bottom, bedrooms, kitchen, bathrooms, while he was at work.

I still get texts to this day from different girls, confessing that they were sleeping with him while we were together and they’ve always felt bad about it.

But hey, at least I’m not the girl he married right after me that I hear he cheats on constantly and the man I’m with now worships the ground I walk on 🤷🏻‍♀️

RadarFemef · 2020-02-13T18:59:28+00:00

So many guys are not just ok but HAPPY to live in actual filth

Part of why men die sooner?

PieOfMine · 2020-02-13T17:25:37+00:00

Definitely did this. I used to think it was my ‘love language’ to “mommy” him. Nope. All you’re doing is helping him marry the girl after you. I’ve learned my lesson.

super-vain · 2020-02-13T15:27:12+00:00

Seriously, is this actually common? I have never once cleaned a mans house for him, and wouldn’t do so unless it was my house too (and he was contributing equally to chores). I also don’t do grand gestures or cook elaborate meals for men I’m dating at all, and would only do it for a long term boyfriend on special occasions. Why are women putting in so much for men who wouldn’t do the same for them?!? Keep this extra shit for special occasions a few times a year MAX. If you do too much he’ll come to expect it and won’t be grateful for it anymore.

RavenWudgieRose · 2020-02-13T19:44:14+00:00

This reminds me of my bff who tearfully tended to her ex's wounds after he got into a minor motorcycle accident... right after she found out he's cheating.

Trillian_42_ · 2020-02-13T16:47:11+00:00

She’s beautiful and so sweet and kind I don’t understand how men cheat on women like that

HoneyNJ2000 · 2020-02-13T20:28:57+00:00

No good deed goes unpunished, does it?

Most of them aren't worth picking up a Happy Meal for, much less knocking yourself out like the gal in the meme did. Sadly, you'll all eventually find that out.

neenas77 · 2020-02-13T20:33:00+00:00

I never ever give more than what they do. So that when things end I know I didn’t give my all. But usually I switch my actions when soemthinf feels off. You gotta pay attention to patterns and realize because so many women don’t mind being the side chick-your man will run w a raccoon looking bitch from the woods...🤷🏽‍♀️

gursky0 · 2020-02-13T16:41:26+00:00

Ew. I once told my ex he needed to clean his moldy bathtub and he went out and got cleaning supplies and cleaned it that afternoon. No way in hell would I have cleaned it for him.

It was still pretty moldy after he cleaned it. Men are gross.

jeanneeebeanneee · 2020-02-13T23:01:22+00:00

I cleaned a boyfriend's gross apartment once, about 10 years ago, mainly because I couldn't stand being in there in the state it was in, and he was clearly unwilling to do it himself. (He "helped" me by taking the huge pile of old newspapers out to the dumpster while I did everything else.)

He and I only dated for about 5 months. He never cheated on me in that time, to my knowledge, but he did stand me up at a wedding for which he was supposed to be my date. I went early to do the bride's and MOB's makeup, he never showed up and then texted me during the ceremony to tell me that he was too hung over to make it. To a 6 PM wedding. K. I dumped him and he had the chutzpah to act like he didn't understand why. He's still single and a loser, from what I hear.

BookwormJane · 2020-02-14T02:12:27+00:00

A man will never GIVE A SHIT if you're playing a Stepford Wife when you're not even married to him.

And if you ever ask him to be more grateful for your efforts, he will mercilessly tell you "you did all that because YOU WANTED TO, never asked you to."

NEVER PLAY WIFE IF YOU'RE NOT MARRIED

And even if you're a wife, you don't need to become a housemaid.

SarcasmSlide · 2020-02-14T14:25:01+00:00

My best friend of 22 years was the side chick to a guy for 15 years through both a marriage and a girlfriend after he got divorced (when he got divorced he did not openly date her and immediately partnered up with one of the other ladies he’d been cheating with). He’s an alcoholic and an all-around gross human being.

She went over there when he summoned her for sex, and after he fell asleep she stayed up all night cleaning and organizing his house, doing laundry and just generally making it fit for humans. The response? He was pissed that she touched/moved/looked at his things. And the real kicker? The social media pictures the next day from his girlfriend, showing off the flowers and candlelit dinner waiting for her at her boyfriend’s sparkling house he spent all day cleaning to surprise her.

🙄 My best friend is a wonderful lady and I love her deeply but fucking hell is she damaged.

junesunflower · 2020-02-13T16:50:58+00:00

I was this nice to all of my ex’s and we broke up. They all claimed to take me seriously but it sucks when you realize you put in so much effort for a man who apparently was only temporary in your life. Also I like things clean and I like healthy home cooked meals so sometimes I feel like if I don’t do it I won’t get it. Idk how to find a man who’s more domestic because I think that’s super rare lol

2020-02-13T21:46:22+00:00

And yet they think they are God's gift to women! I can't tell you how many times I've entered a guys room only to be hit in the face with a nasty smell of dirty socks! 🤢

SanniCat123 · 2020-02-13T21:53:08+00:00

Unless we are just friends/ family or hes paying all the bills, im not cleaning no mans (or masculine partners ) mess ! 😳😳 they obvi wernt raised to appreciate a clean living space and will surely reck it in NO TIME!! paying half the bills whilst cleaning up after a man- awl hellll no. Literally would just save my energy and live alone. Regardless , never be a partners maid, or mom! You deserve sooo much more

EugeniaAlabaster · 2020-02-13T23:40:10+00:00

It isn't worth doing when you live together and it isn't worth doing when you're actually married, either. 😭 I just don't ever want to clean up after anyone else again!!

siberiansummer · 2020-02-13T22:12:36+00:00

I’m proud to say I never cleaned any bf’s house, or car, or did dishes for them, any of these chore stuff. Fuck that. Grown ass men can take care of their own shit

lavendersouI · 2020-02-13T22:18:00+00:00

I just need to know who did this girl’s acrylics if she can “take them out” just like that

cantstopthemachine77 · 2020-02-14T01:17:26+00:00

I can honestly say the only man I have ever cleaned like this for is my father when he was coming home from the hospital. The place had not been cleaned since my mother and I had left 8 years ago... there was black mold caked on almost every surface of the shower. That alone took me hours.

When he came back he was grateful for a day and then started ordering me around like a servant. I put up with it for a few weeks because I wanted to be there and make sure he was taking his meds, keeping up with the nurses and all the other stuff he was supposed to do to stay alive that he refused to do on his own, until we got into a big fight one day and I left.

He lived for less than a year after that, 65 years old. Official cause of death was an aneurism, caused by a blood clot that he was well aware of but wouldn’t take the medication for because he couldn’t drink on it...

dalia-chan · 2020-02-13T22:16:57+00:00

That’s probably why my lazy selfish ass never got heart broken 😂

TheChaosRitual · 2020-02-14T01:29:09+00:00

When I moved in, I had to clean years of dust off stuff. Now he complains constantly that I slack on keeping his house clean on my own.

They know what clean is, they just only care when someone else is doing the labour.

DunRuther · 2020-02-14T00:29:27+00:00

Back when I was the Queen Pickmeisha, almost 6 years ago now, I once met a guy online and then paid twice to fly to him across the country. When I was at his place the second time (five months later), I helped him clean his washer and dryer because it was covered in a layer of dust an inch thick. I also showed him how to vacuum his fringed rugs without messing up the fringes, and I think I even cleaned up the disgusting kitchen. I also called 911 for him because he had a heart condition that require EMS to come out and give him a shot when his heart started to race (or something similar).

Later that same day I saw him reddit messaging someone. I made a note of the user name, and when I got back home I messaged them. Turns out it was a girl he started seeing a month after the first time I visited, and she flew across country to move in with him shortly after. She was currently back at her parents house and she told me that if while I was there if I opened the drawers I would have seen all her lingerie and underwear.

I left his ass, last I checked they’re still together. Never again.

Edited to add: when I confronted him, he told me that he didn’t feel a spark with me like he did with her, and that he knows he is making the wrong decision by picking her because she’s terrible with money and likes to do drugs, and that I’d be the perfect wife and his mom would love me and she hates the other girl because she’s rude, but he just has to pick her because tHe sPaRK

Radenoughyet · 2020-02-14T00:30:51+00:00

We were on a weekend trip in a hotel room that I paid for because he was having financial trouble at the time, when his phone started buzzing at midnight and I found out he’d been cheating on me.

AntiCircles · 2020-02-13T19:59:13+00:00

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TheHistoryMachine · 2020-02-15T01:12:02+00:00

Sad.

fattybread83 · 2020-02-13T21:50:05+00:00

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Title	This is why EVERY woman needs FDS
Author	Trillian_42_
Upvotes	2121
Comments	118
Date	February 13, 2020 2:31 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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