We need a sub called "Am I With An Asshole".

juliannawackenhat · 2020-02-27T01:46:13+00:00

Ask and ye shall receive. [r/amiwithanasshole](reddit.com/amiwithanasshole)

LordDunderhead · 2020-02-27T03:03:31+00:00

There's so many posts that sub would be applicable to. Like:

The woman who asked if she was the asshole for not wanting to cook for her boyfriend anymore. No matter what size portion she made for their dinner he would eat the majority it and barely left any for her. He insisted that they split the grocery bill evenly despite that she was only getting maybe 30% of the food.
The woman who asked if she was the asshole for wanting a durable wedding ring and not a cheap one that was falling apart within a month. The man spent $400 on a TV and spent <$100 on their ring.
The woman who asked if she was asshole for confronting her fiancé for getting her a $5 fake Tiffany ring. He spent $3000 on his electronics.
The man who made an engagement ring in his backyard and was wondering why his wife wasn’t happy with it.
The woman who’s paying half on a three bedroom apartment in New York and she only has access to one of the rooms because two of them are occupied by her crap husband. One room is exclusively for his gaming system. She can’t save money because they’re paying 50/50 when he makes almost 300k and she makes 50k. She does all the childcare and house chores alone.

pickmieshaexorcist · 2020-02-27T01:11:21+00:00

I hate those posts because reddit is so obsessed with everything having to be a 100% even Stevens at all times. They don’t even like when you suggest an income percentage based contribution. Like she could be a barista and he a doctor who insisted she move into his swanky penthouse. Then he tries to make her pay 50% of the bills even though it’s breaking her.

Datonecatladyukno · 2020-02-27T04:32:44+00:00

I’ve seen several of these. I get so damn frustrated for these women. “ he pays for a vacation sometimes to where he wants to go” jfc

Pitiful-Implement · 2020-02-27T02:19:04+00:00

I feel like if someone needs to ask if they are with an asshole they probably are.

classylassy28 · 2020-02-27T02:10:48+00:00

Haha the only way ill ever go 50/50 is if they made me orgasm everytime they did. Which is never going to happen in this world 😂

Avgirl10 · 2020-02-27T01:48:52+00:00

Splitting the bill 50/50 is not equal. contributing the same percentage of your income is equal. He contributes 50% of his income you contribute 50% of yours for example.

umbralgarden · 2020-02-27T02:05:31+00:00

Literally our TAXES don't even work this way. Why do lone men think that they have more logic and fairness than a system that is thousands of years old and has been refined by entire societies?

threadinsidepinhole · 2020-02-27T04:45:55+00:00

What if you make "Am I With An Asshole" but with a scoring system based on the LVM lists we have learned so far and wayband contrast it with the ideal standard of the types of men we should date.

Then average the score and give comments and suggestions.

CuriousCatNYC777 · 2020-02-27T04:01:37+00:00

DM them a link to FDS every time you see the need.

VaporwaveVampire · 2020-02-27T06:54:45+00:00

Equal rights politically, but I don’t like this 50/50 idea. Women and men are different and have different roles and society expects different of them (whether this is okay or not is up to you to decide, but you can’t escape it no matter how “woke” you want to be). Women are expected to spend thousands on beautiful outfits and lace lingerie, makeup (natural makeup is as expensive as more glam makeup), hair cuts and styling and often color, skincare, etc. Sure, men say they like “natural” girls, but in order to look natural and well put together, one must spend money, time, and effort. Not to mention the stress we go through trying to juggle home life, pleasing others, personal care, dealing with high risk of assault, schooling, and our professional lives. Going on dates with strangers is scarier for us too compared to men. Sometimes, dating can feel like dodging billets, not just in terms of avoiding people we don’t like, but also with avoiding situations that could jeopardize our safety. We took time to get ready and risked our safety by getting in your car, because we wanted to spend time getting to know you. All that and you, a man who still washes his hair and face with Axe 3-in-1 shower gel, still wants to split the bill? Jesus Christ.

rainbowcatsurprise · 2020-02-27T01:01:56+00:00

I would love to see this sub created

Mamma_Midnight · 2020-02-27T14:37:34+00:00

asking if they're being unreasonable gold diggers because they're contributing 50% of bills in a relationship where they're being out earned over 3-to-1!

...when they're also taking on 100% of the childcare & 100% of the (unpaid) domestic work, while their SO eats the majority of the food, and even takes a whole extra room in thier home for his personal gaming room.

AntiCircles · 2020-02-27T04:30:33+00:00

Make it

threadinsidepinhole · 2020-02-27T04:44:04+00:00

Omg yessss

Kelandry · 2020-02-27T13:30:39+00:00

There is a sub called r/JustnoSO that I read all the time. Always a good one

pinkliquor · 2020-02-27T14:10:41+00:00

My ex claimed I wasn’t playing my part because he paid the rent on HIS apartment that I wasn’t even living in, just staying a lot. I paid the rest of the bills though and groceries and the numerous other things I did. He expected me to be this perfect wife type while he contributed nothing. And wanted to claim I wasn’t helping him. I just... 🤦🏼‍♀️

rayvin4000 · 2020-02-27T08:45:25+00:00

I mean if you're asking, it's 99% yes.

Master-Purple · 2020-02-27T11:39:07+00:00

wouldn't the answer almost always be 'yes'?

IwantyoualltoBEDAVE · 2020-02-27T10:44:05+00:00

Let’s say man and woman earn the same and pitch in 50/50. He’s gonna eat more. Sooo?

TsunderePeopleRules · 2020-03-13T03:10:29+00:00

yes please! if someone already did it pleas tag! :)

SuperStar1124 · 2020-02-27T10:22:06+00:00

I just joined and I’ll be posting soon!

Title	We need a sub called "Am I With An Asshole".
Author	SigourneyReaver
Upvotes	1094
Comments	92
Date	February 27, 2020 1:00 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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