There's a post in one of the other usual suspect subs at the moment from someone claiming to be a woman, saying that all their work colleagues in a PhD environment are single and complaining about how it must be because they're intimidating to men bit really it's because they're horrible condescending snobs who won't give men a chance. I suspect the angry janitor wrote it not some equally accomplished pickme but whatever.

The comments of course are full of how it's wrong that men often 'marry down' but women rarely do the same and we have the audacity to hold out for someone of the same or a higher career status. That or 'intimidating to men' is a self reassuring code for 'horrible woman rude to everyone'.

My best friend once suggested that I might be intimidating to the men that approach me and that's why it never goes anywhere. I asked what she meant and she said

"Well, you make it abundantly clear you don't need them and they can't provide you with anything you haven't already got for yourself"

We agreed that if that's the case, being intimidating is the best thing in the world if it keeps away men who add nothing to your life! I don't want a relationship with these men go to anywhere! Better single and happy than stuck in a relationship with a LVM.

Keep being intimidating ladies, it means you're doing something right.