Reminder: LVM will pick at absolutely anything to make you feel less than. See it for what it is.

ThrowRA_lantern · 2021-06-30T11:31:51+00:00

i remember a male acquaintance/classmate of mine from university saw me without makeup and his reaction was “Woahhhhh is that… is that your FACE?!?! NO WAYYY!” then he kept wanting to stare at my face. Like up-close and to analyse it. Over and over again. Then proceeded to tell all our mutuals that one time he saw my bareface and how “SHOCKING” it was! ugh! Thankfully, everyone rolled their eyes and supported me. I don’t think i’m ugly at all- but i definitely like to emphasise my eyes with a lot of eyeliner or neon colours. But that’s it!!

Like dude, i get it, you’ve probably never seen a woman without makeup on because you’ve never been friends with one (let alone a girlfriend). But DAMN. F*cking rude. And it’s behaviours like his that can make women insecure about their looks.

lunacmoonc · 2021-06-30T13:28:04+00:00

Oh boy, this is too familar, especially the uglies looove to project their insecurities onto women. Examples of my ex: 1) yeah, your tits are alright, but they can always be bigger ;)) 2) while noticing a stand of gray hair on my head: (broad smile) iS tHaT gRaY hAiR? (keeps smiling and wouldn’t let it go even when I wasn’t comfortable with the convo) 3) at the beach, touching my lower back and making a comment: see, you have a bit of fat right here (waiting for my reaction) but it’s cool, a lot of women have it here... like, who tf asked for your opinion?!

Meanwhile, he was overweight, never had any groceries in the fridge (if you don’t count beer) and lived off of takeaway, and had a 2 inch dick.

aplaceformythoughtss · 2021-06-30T11:59:15+00:00

I dated someone once who would ask too many questions for my liking. They were very judgmental/ critical questions such as “why are you doing this?” “Why are you eating that?” “Why are you wearing this?”. After the first couple times I started to snap back at him and he eventually stopped. I’ve come to realise because the first few times I let it slide, I was subtly letting him know that it was okay to say these things. When I stood up for myself he learnt any attempts of non constructive criticism used to bring me down would just be met with aggression.

OriginalCanCon · 2021-06-30T14:04:31+00:00

I once had a now ex who barely graduated high school claim I was intentionally using big words he didn't know to insult his intelligence and make myself feel superior.

I'm a high school English teacher with three English (and psych) related degrees. Raised by an English lit major mother. I am pretty sure my vocabulary isn't an act.

penelopekitty · 2021-06-30T11:16:51+00:00

If a man ever criticizes my physical appearance in any way we are done. Automatic deal breaker. You know what? The last scrote that tried that was my high school boyfriend back in 1986. Never happened again, they know better.

shockingupdate · 2021-06-30T12:20:47+00:00

I once had a scrote I wasn’t even interested tell me he knew I’d cheat on him because of course I would, look at me, my eyes are “too brown” 😂😅

jupitarianrise · 2021-06-30T13:27:16+00:00

All lvm do this. It’s ridiculous. Some will do it after a few dates, a few weeks. That man who used to compliment you all the time? He was love-bombing you and now that you’re attached to him, he’s taking off his mask. You need to get up and leave, delete, block the second they start to do this shit. No explanation given. If only I knew this before.

londochig · 2021-06-30T13:40:43+00:00

Wow the comments on here are crazy. I never hear women insulting men's appearances or mentioning their flaws to their faces. But men seem to be very comfortable looking for flaws or making some up like too many goddam eyelashes.

europoor24 · 2021-06-30T10:53:44+00:00

too many eyelashes? wow ...

aplaceformythoughtss · 2021-06-30T12:53:53+00:00

Women need to stay alert and agile, They need to be able to quickly identify when a man is using a neg and form a rebuttal. No more uncomfortably brushing off their back handed compliments. call 👏then 👏out👏. Teach them a lesson and then cut them off.

cml678701 · 2021-06-30T14:54:39+00:00

I dated a narcissist when I was in college. He was very cold, and withheld any kind of compliments (but expected me to compliment him constantly!). Once I asked if he even thought I was pretty, and he said, “well, objectively, there are a lot of prettier women out there than you! Like models, movie stars, etc.” I was dumbfounded! He was one of those people who thought he was a saint because he was aLwAyS hOnEsT. But he could still be honest and say he found me pretty, with the unspoken knowledge that of course, professional models are prettier! We didn’t even live in New York or LA, or anywhere we’d ever run into this type of person! He was the type who worshipped celebrities, so I think his view of what a normal woman is is warped. Today, he still lives with his mom and works a dead end job in his thirties.

But saying you have too many eyelashes? That seriously takes the cake!

vforvendetta87 · 2021-06-30T13:55:15+00:00

My first boyfriend at 18 (he was 23) so casually told me that I’d be perfect if were a c-cup. Yes, 15 years later and it’s still fresh in memory. He treated me like dog shit our entire relationship.

When my daughter was an infant I dated a man 15 years older than me (I was 25, I know), it only lasted 3 months because I wasn’t feeling it and when I broke up with him, he negged me so bad, he said the only reason I’m so hot is because I wear makeup blah, blah, blah and some other nasty comments as well. I think he’s still single. 🤭

Dazzling_Grass1727 · 2021-06-30T13:03:33+00:00

Everything that comes out of their mouth is an insult, at times it will be a backhanded compliment. LVW do it too. Don't respond and give you energy.

AceTabby00 · 2021-06-30T15:25:19+00:00

My ex would do this.

Using "skinny" as an insult describing me (while "casually mentioning" the "thicc" women he sees at the gym) but then backpedalling, saying "people LIKE skinny, it's a good thing". People. Not you. Got it. 🤢 He'd probably "tease" me about gaining weight if I wasn't "skinny". smh

Telling me I'm "too polite" when on the phone/interacting with retail employees/waitresses/etc so I sound "childish". What?

NoGutsNoGlory2 · 2021-06-30T18:01:34+00:00

Insecure LVM’s are the worst. When a man tries to pick you apart, it’s because he knows that he doesn’t even deserve to lick the dust off of your heels. I hope that you told him to kick rocks.

lskfjd743 · 2021-06-30T14:28:39+00:00

My abusive ex-husband (and believe me, there ain't no scrote like a South Asian scrote!) once grabbed a grocery store debit card receipt out of my hands, went all squinty-eyed at my signature, and screamed at me that handwriting was illegable!

Randomusername246742 · 2021-06-30T11:12:20+00:00

I’d grow more eyelashes out of spite LOL

Risoa · 2021-06-30T18:08:35+00:00

Damn, do I ever have endless examples of this shit.

Only one guy never made any sort of stupid remark like this to me. He happened to be the most attractive guy I've ever dated. I don't think this is a coincidence. Never give someone who you're not attracted to a chance, they'll always try and bring you down to their level.

Also, that attractive guy turned out to be a LVM too. Although I had to cut him off for ignoring me in the end which was painful and immature on his part, I would rather be ignored than be belittled and negged all the time by any guy. Obviously a HVM would never do either. Hold out for proper treatment ladies, we don't deserve all of the bullshit.

DistributionOk4143 · 2021-07-01T01:17:43+00:00

Yeah.. as time goes by, I just gain more confidence in myself (especially since discovering fds) and these attempts at negging are simply laughable.

A man I work with has made a comment about me having "long gorilla arms" twice in the past couple years, it is so bizarre. I am on the taller side but quite proportional and happy with my body and appearance (while he is middle age & shorter), so I never paid any mind. The most recent time he said it, I said "interesting ___, are you saying that you feel your arms are too short?" He had no response haha

thatjimmylove · 2021-06-30T20:37:16+00:00

had a guy tell me my stomach was too flat and not in a 'concerned' way in a way he was trying to make me insecure about, like thanks yup I'll pick that struggle aha

but for real guys will neg about anything my one friends bf did this and it is so gross to me, they can turn any trait into an insecurity

laffytaggy · 2021-07-01T01:41:57+00:00

Only hideous fat men have insulted my appearance..always zeroing in on the most obscure or random thing too. The irony is that people would look at us like why is she with him. Any fine man I dated let me know I am attractive.

Title	Reminder: LVM will pick at absolutely anything to make you feel less than. See it for what it is.
Author	snacksntats
Upvotes	397
Comments	59
Date	June 30, 2021 9:07 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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