Where did you move out to?

TheLawOfDuh · 2024-03-24T19:53:29+00:00

We agreed to live in the same house (biting our tongues) until she could get a loan to cover some of her debts & to kind of(simplified explanation) buy me out at which point I moved into an apartment. It was a nice break from all the obligations of home ownership as much as I loathe apartment living. I estimated it would take 2 years to save up for a new home down payment …living cheap & constantly working I surprisingly moved into my dream home in ONE year. Years later happily remarried & living my best life. My ex hasn’t done so well.

Par_then_Bar · 2024-03-24T15:28:44+00:00

I was able to get a temporary judgment and get her out of the house. I was able to prove long-term financially she could not stay and afford the house and I could. As soon as she moved out and the support started the clock started as well. This is very important. That way the support payments I am paying account towards my grand total. Make sure you have everything dialed in BEFORE you or she moves out. Do not let emotions drive this decision

flinderdude · 2024-03-22T02:09:18+00:00

I moved within 1 mile of where my daughter is. Makes it so much easier when coparenting. In fact, her mom is moving next year and I’m going to try to move very close to where she will be moving to. It’s all about my daughter now.

rsmiley77 · 2024-03-22T00:44:49+00:00

I didn’t leave. She did. Had to live in same house for a little over three months. Seems like it was way longer than that. The worst part was that she’d come home and take out her emotions (new relationship fights, money problems, who knows what else) on me. Talk about crazy town. Thank god that’s over.

tyyyy110 · 2024-03-22T00:28:37+00:00

When I moved out years ago after I found out she was still sleeping around I spent the first few weeks literally at the office. The office back then had a sleeping lounge, TV, bathroom and showers. I didn't need anything else. I was in survival mode.

Then once my family got wind of the separation I reluctantly stayed in my sister's basement (which was another hell) for 6 months until I found a livable apartment. Got back on my feet in roughly 4 yrs and now years later I'm 1000% in a much better place.

Larrysbirds · 2024-03-22T00:28:35+00:00

We just had the divorce discussion yesterday and so now I’m here lol.

We are living together since we have a 3 BDR and are civil trying to work together on how we will split debts, etc. We anticipate going our separate ways in about 3 months.

We just moved to Texas so we have to be living here for 6 months before we file. Luckily the reason for our divorce is simply us changing and becoming different people and so it is pretty amicable.

GoHorns1998 · 2024-03-21T22:21:41+00:00

Stayed in the house, as in my state, you can't file until you're living apart. She didn't want to wait the months that would take to get going, so when I told her I wasn't going to move out, she called up a friend she hadn't spoken too in years (because she didn't like her for being 'constantly dating old creepy men') and moved in with her.

Still living here, though it's cost me dearly.

Adorable_FecalSpray · 2024-03-21T20:55:48+00:00

I didn’t move out. She was leaving the marriage she can leave the house and find somewhere else to live.

I knew she would immediately sell the house as soon as she could, if I let her stay. I wanted stability and consistency for the kids. I’m still in the same house 5 years later.

Meanwhile, she has moved 5 times in 5 years. Always for some “valid” totally necessary reason. 🙄

Ecstatic-Shopping313 · 2024-03-21T20:24:40+00:00

That bitch fled the day I caught her cheating and never came back. I kept the house and all the equity. She lives in her mommy's basement and sees her kids every other weekend.

tellmemorelies · 2024-03-21T19:39:29+00:00

When I separated I went to a friend's mobile home, where I slept on his couch for 3 months while I got my poop in a group. Then rented a cheap apartment in a questionable neighborhood for another year before being able to get back on my feet. It was rough, but I couldn't stay in the home as she filed false abuse charges that were later thrown out of court.

Isthisthereddits · 2024-03-21T19:21:29+00:00

Ex actually walked out on the marriage and got an apartment. I of course got blamed relentlessly by her for her own decision to sign a lease in shared student housing at 30 years old. I also got blamed for her being broke as she left a situation where I was supporting her through her PhD coursework, handling the mortgage, bills, anything we did when we went out (food, movies, travel, etc.) as well as half the food, her car insurance, etc. In the end she did it to herself. I didn't make her move out and actually offered early on to remain roommates, but told her rule was neither of us would bring a new person home while we were under the same roof. While she was saying she wanted to work on things and talk in 3 months she was sleeping/dating around behind my back. So glad she made her dumb decision that financially burdened herself so that I could remain in the home I paid for with my dogs.

theheffbomb · 2024-03-21T18:03:41+00:00

Currently living with my STBXW through the proceedings because she got fired and I'm currently paying for literally everything. I couldn't leave if I wanted to. Can't wait for this to be over it's living hell.

Flick1981 · 2024-03-21T17:56:28+00:00

My ex walked out on me, hence the divorce. I kept the apartment by default.

whiskey_piker · 2024-03-21T17:36:33+00:00

Consult an attorney; not us.

That said, I stayed as long as I could. Every day was a chore and the impact took a heavy toll on my 10/12 kids that Im still working through today with them. Don’t EVER “stay for the kids”. But also, don’t abandon your real estate asset. It’s totally find to grab a place to rent and spend tome there whole still maintaining the home and spending a night or two. Moving out is expensive for anyone. That’s why so many have to sell the home. Doesn’t matter that the mortgage is less than all rent in the area, getting the equity out is impossible.

i80west · 2024-03-21T17:08:13+00:00

We sold the house before D day. I'm staying with a friend until the divorce is final. She moved to an apartment. I'm hoping it'll finalize quickly, but we'll see.

Jojothereader · 2024-03-21T17:06:56+00:00

Don’t leave your home. Ever

p71interceptor · 2024-03-21T16:49:20+00:00

I'm trying to stay in the house. Not sure if it's doable but I'll be damned if I don't try.

beezo123 · 2024-03-21T16:05:41+00:00

My divorce is pretty amicable. At first I started staying at my grandma's a couple nights a week. Then after a couple months I found a really centrally located townhouse, and I moved into that. It does really well with the ladies. That's also close to my son's school. Anyway she later bought me out of the marital home.

Heavy_Guitar_4848 · 2024-03-21T16:00:14+00:00

I was going to stay in the house until I found another one to buy but then she stopped coming overnight. Used her guilt to negotiate SA when she got home. Once SA was signed I left that week.

MartyMcFly7 · 2024-03-21T15:38:03+00:00

We lived in the same house for 2 years while the divorce went through. Why should I leave? It's my house too! Eventually bought her out and she moved.

AntisocialBehavior · 2024-03-21T15:29:03+00:00

We moved out at about 3 months. We got a 2 bedroom apartment with door locks and we each rotate out of the house on a 2-2-3 schedule. It sucks, but it is stable for our kid. I don’t want the responsibility of a massive house/property and she likes the house, so she is going to buy me out and I’m ok with that. It was “our” house anyways and it wouldn’t feel good to me to live there by myself. I’m now looking at small homes to rent for the year while I figure out what my next moves are going to be.

Living together after D-day sucked. I couldn’t even look at her. I couldn’t even pretend to have pleasant interactions. I knew about the affair about 6 weeks before I confronted her and did the pick me dance every waking minute while she treated me like a fucking house plant.

Being out of the house is better, but it is cumbersome to switch locations every 2 or 3 days. It’s also weird to open the fridge at the apartment and see food she prepared with a note that says “help yourself”. It fucks with the mind because she has made it clear she wants a divorce and wasn’t very nice when we were still living together. I just leave her food as her food.

DigitalisEffect · 2024-03-21T15:27:59+00:00

I moved into an apartment nearby. She was nice enough to help me out with moving and finances.

WittyBeautiful7654 · 2024-03-21T15:02:20+00:00

Sleeping on my sister's couch

zauriel1980 · 2024-03-21T15:00:51+00:00

Unfortunately, I’m living with my parents. My wife makes 2.5x what I make, so she’s keeping the house and buying me out with my share of the equity (currently fighting over that number).

I moved out about 3 weeks after she dropped the divorce bomb on me, after consulting with my lawyer to make sure it wouldn’t bite me in the ass legally. We had already agreed on 50/50 custody and started a 2-2-3 schedule immediately after.

While I could afford to rent an apartment for me and my son, with the rampant inflation I’d be living on like $350 a month after bills, groceries, gas, etc. My parents have watched our 4yo son while we’re at work since he was 7 weeks old. So it made more sense both economically and custody-wise to move in with them. I get to save money paying no rent, utilities, etc., and I also get to see my son more often than she does, as I get off earlier than she does so I can see him for an hour or so even on her days. Better for him to also not have to shuffle between 3 different homes, just the 2 he’s known all his life.

Of course I don’t like living with my parents. I mean I love them and they’ve helped me so much throughout my life, but it’s definitely not going to win me over in the dating department. Their house, which is not lavish but is a nice house (worth about $315k), is fully paid off and will become mine whenever my parents pass, but that’s probably 10+ years off. So I will eventually have to find a place for me and my son and just live poor for a while.

slow-motion-pearls · 2024-03-21T14:46:25+00:00

Renting out a bedroom in a friends house. I could be here for years. Thanks CS.

jimsmythee · 2024-03-21T14:42:41+00:00

I told my now exwife that I wanted to divorce her, specifically that, "I don't want to be financially responsible for you and your pill popping disasters anymore." But we couldn't separate just yet. Kids were little and she refused to work. No way to pay for 2 households. I moved permanently into the spare bedroom.

And when more sh1t got stirred and yet another disaster of hers, I filed for divorce and she got served. That night, I packed my suitcase and moved to a hotel. By the end of the week, I got my own place. It was actually renting out the master bedroom in a friend's house, but it worked.

cnarsystems · 2024-03-21T14:40:58+00:00

Things suck so bad now and I have t even filed yet/ told her to get a. Attorney and she said we can work it out ourselves (bullshit). Ones I file the tension in the house with 3 kids will be horrifying

treborcj · 2024-03-21T14:36:20+00:00

Both lived in the same house for 3-4 weeks until she moved out.

RichardCleveland · 2024-03-21T14:26:39+00:00

The biggest piece of advice you will get from both attorney's and the other guys here is to NEVER MOVE OUT OF THE HOUSE! With the only exception being if you are in a dangerous situation. Otherwise you have the full right to occupy the residence.

This holds true even more so if a custody battle will be had. As in the eyes of the court you straight abandoned your children.

Just stay, tell her to leave if she doesn't want you to be there.

Title	Where did you move out to?
Author	cnarsystems
Upvotes	10
Comments	54
Date	March 21, 2024 2:14 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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