Best thing I never had

Muffy217 · 2020-06-24T02:06:07+00:00

I was talking to my Mom today on the phone and somehow my ex fiancé came up. We spent like 10 minutes laughing hysterically about all the stupid things he did. It’s good when you get to the point where you can laugh and wonder how in the world you ever wasted your time on a loser like that.

outside-perception · 2020-06-24T03:18:16+00:00

Remember the ex you did marry?

F

coolestgirlyoueverme · 2020-06-24T03:54:38+00:00

The love of my life at 20 who I fantasized marrying and having 3 kids with = unemployed druggie hipster who is up to his ears in credit card debt and has no job experience related to to his degree

I am so thankful that he broke my young heart 🤣🤣🤣

BellaStayFly · 2020-06-24T03:48:56+00:00

Thank God 21 year old me didn’t wind up with 36 year old him. Why the age gap wasn’t the biggest red flag back then is a mystery to me. It hurt like hell, but I cannot imagine my life with him in it now and who I would be.

jenaemare · 2020-06-24T05:36:02+00:00

Lol the ex I wanted to marry was sure that one day he would be in a famous band and get into Hells Angels or lead a new motorcycle club. Now he plays the guitar in the park and works as a child camp supervisor. Not a bad outcome but I was convinced when we broke up that he'd become this really famous rock singer motorcyclist and I'd hear him on the radio and cry years later. Also he got fat and is starting to bald.

JunjiMitosis · 2020-06-24T06:20:45+00:00

Lol mines dm’ed me a dissertation coming at me for my involvement in blm protests and volunteering.m, and tried to explain to me A BLACK WOMAN about how I was hurting his feelings and invalidating our love because he’s white

plembb · 2020-06-24T02:12:02+00:00

Good riddance, Sam. You were too skinny and an obvious narc.

throwawayitst · 2020-06-24T02:23:56+00:00

Riddance straight from the heavens

PollyAnnaSunshine · 2020-06-24T02:53:49+00:00

My ex now has a tee shirt company where he sells poorly designed tee shirts with vulgar slogans. This is in addition to his day job. So glad we do not share a last name!

warinmymind94 · 2020-06-24T09:25:18+00:00

The guy that wanted to marry me didnt even do a proposal, hed just sit around in his apartment and be like so what do you want in life to get married and have kids? I was like 21 at the time and was like I'm not ready for any of that I want to be young and have my fun right now. He was cheating and we broke up shortly afterwards because "I didnt want to marry him and there was no point". Later I found out that during the last 3 months of us still dating that he had actually started dating another woman, 6 years younger than him. Their anniversary was when me and him were still living together and dating! He ended up proposing to her about another 6 months later (they had dated 9 months) and she said yes. The worst part was that he proposed to her with a hard boiled easter egg that said "will you marry me?" Written in crayon on it while they were staying at her moms house. He didnt even give her an actual ring. They eloped and are living in some small dingy apartment in some tiny bumble town. I drove through it on my road trip. I thanked God for dodging such a bullet.

AbundantOverflow · 2020-06-24T06:08:55+00:00

Yes. And. Amen.

Best wishes to his current baby mama and the way he hides her from the world.

Bullet dodged.

Grateful that I didn't get what I thought was so right for me.

Life is good.

meri_cherri · 2020-06-24T06:20:53+00:00

Omg same my ex at 20, from 12 years ago just added me on Facebook. Didn’t even have Facebook then and somehow he found me: Blocked. What was I thinking then.

phulkari2784 · 2020-06-24T05:26:55+00:00

Seriously, I'm so glad we all evolve and I hope we don't get into that kind of rat hole ever again.

AnansiNeon · 2020-06-24T02:51:55+00:00

Woooo, thank you for the laugh.

plannergorl · 2020-06-24T11:45:34+00:00

He wanted to control how I dress down to my mismatched socks.

afrodeasyak · 2020-06-24T06:36:31+00:00

He never wanted to understand how my culture was so complicated and terrible in comparison to his, or how I had difficulty tackling serious matters with my family. He just wanted things to happen as he envisioned, what a control freak.

veruscka · 2020-06-24T03:49:59+00:00

Woof

Minkiemink · 2020-06-24T06:57:57+00:00

God help me. I married him....then....of course....divorced him. What was I thinking!?

Suitcase33 · 2020-06-24T09:58:14+00:00

Didnt try to marry me but my ‘ex’ (my dumber days so i me we werent even exclusive smh) was very bizarre looking back now. somethings still dont make sense. he asked me if i was ever molested when i came over to his house to netflix after a few weeks of knowing him (my pre FDS days). he wasnt dangerous at all i think he wanted to know all my vulnerabilities since he complained about me being hard to open up and secretive....despite him never opening up either 🤔 perhaps he wanted material to manipulate me with idek. Im just baffled that he really asked that. I said no w a straight face and shut that shit down. what a weirdo.

NubianQueen101 · 2020-06-24T02:41:30+00:00

Unfortunately I never had an ex. Missing a chance for a good laugh.

penelopesheets · 2020-06-24T14:01:05+00:00

Laughing at the fact that I wanted to marry a man ever in my life hahaha

themissdaydreamer · 2020-06-24T17:52:10+00:00

I remember wanting to marry my NVM first boyfriend and pass those damaged genes forwards lol that guy is cursed to be a waste of space, I dodged more bullets than Keanu Reeves in that Matrix scene

yegerska · 2020-06-24T10:32:39+00:00

He was straight up sociopathic sometimes. If I married him I’d end up in a body bad one day

pissed_af · 2020-06-24T13:33:10+00:00

Tbh I wasn't ever sure about him. Putting things on perspective all the stuff he did would make me less and less attracted to him, but I'd read that "so you're going to leave JUST because of x or y?" gaslighting bullshit.

meecy166 · 2020-06-24T03:06:55+00:00

I don’t have one but still laughing at my ex

Ms_Tilly · 2020-06-24T10:06:38+00:00

My ex when I was 16-18 had BO, didn’t brush his teeth, was much uglier than me, a year younger, hit me, cheated on me, was disrespectful to my family and I accepted it all.

FDStrategist · 2020-06-24T14:32:31+00:00

Ahhh I am so glad I didn’t marry him. At the start of lockdown I burst out laughing one day at the thought of having to be in that situation with him. I am so much happier alone. He was a PA and towards the end, violent. The proposal was the lowest effort. He was the kind of guy who never pays attention to what anyone else is interested in, if he bought you a birthday gift it was something he liked rather than something he knew you would like. He knew I would like a bit of fuss for a proposal. He knew what kind of rings I liked, yet I got the polar opposite for both.

I had a gut feeling that being engaged to him get wrong. So glad I trusted that instinct.

SuperSailorSera · 2020-06-24T15:41:21+00:00

Hoping I can get to this point! Currently in the midst of a failed engagement. The last straw for me was when his reaction to my sister needing emergency surgery for serious internal bleeding was to call his mom and talk about splitting an order for beer and noodles. I'm hoping that I can laugh about this and everything else in time but right now I'm just hurt and mad as hell.

eng2fly · 2020-06-25T02:08:14+00:00

Let’s all take a moment of silence for:

The guy who saw demons and got on tinder behind my back
The unemployed cashier

hellau1234 · 2020-06-24T14:10:12+00:00

My god I’m glad I didn’t marry that fucker.

spen7 · 2020-06-24T08:56:23+00:00

Ugh that was a hard jab lmao

beatlefreak_1981 · 2020-06-24T15:44:44+00:00

Whew! Dodged a bullet there!

Snowmist92 · 2020-06-24T20:17:04+00:00

He immediately proposed to a new girl 3 months after I left him. I wasn't even upset.

That was a really fickle thing to do on his part.

Title	Best thing I never had
Author	redbirdflies
Upvotes	1047
Comments	73
Date	June 24, 2020 1:48 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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