Dump him.

Pumpkinhead82 · 2020-05-19T15:39:10+00:00

I told my ex about the realities of childbirth and the fact that I wouldn’t be able to have sex for 6-8 weeks. This was all hypothetical since I was not pregnant (thank God). We did discuss marriage and children often though. He acted like it was the worst thing he had ever heard! I had to remind him that my vagina could rip to my anus during labor and he was still more concerned about his dick lmao. I feel sorry for whoever ends up with him.

evil_mom79 · 2020-05-19T15:30:28+00:00

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2340000 · 2020-05-19T12:27:14+00:00

I hate that women are pressured into sex before they are ready. I haven't had children, but from what I've heard most women need months before they're ready. You most likely tore your vagina, even to your anus, and some LV abuser wants sex??

Not only that, but if women can't "perform", the man expects fellatio.

We don't have to do anything. Why would I participate in sex acts that give me no pleasure? And I'm wearing an incontinence/ bleeding diaper??? Lies.

dahmerloveszombies · 2020-05-19T16:51:43+00:00

Many doctors still offer the “husband stitch” - an extra stitch when they’re sewing back your TORN VAGINAL TISSUE so that you’ll feel tighter during sex. I don’t have children but several women friends have told me this story. One friend’s (male) doctor did not consult her at all; he asked HER HUSBAND.

plutunic · 2020-05-19T14:04:57+00:00

producing breast milk puts your hormones out of whack for at least a year. a side effect of breastfeeding is vaginal dryness, so your body can heal after the trauma/discourage you from getting pregnant so soon again. pregnancy hormones take 2 YEARS to even out/go back to a new normal. meanwhile, LV/NVM are pushing women to have sex after 6-8 weeks when women are breastfeeding every 3-4 hours, healing, and trying to bond with the babies they spent the better part of a year risking their lives to grow and birth.

men are rarely appreciative or aware of the sacrifices women make to our brains and bodies to bear THEIR children. and this is why a majority of men don't deserve the honor of doing so.

skyerippa · 2020-05-19T14:34:12+00:00

I'd be raising that kid as a single mother.

SoniaLovesYou · 2020-05-19T17:29:09+00:00

This reminds me of a dreadful story I read here on Reddit once, from a guy who was teased a lot because he was only ten months younger than his brother. When he was old enough to understand, he was pretty upset and embarrassed, so he asked his mom about it. She said simply, “Your father couldn’t wait.” And that was the day he learned that his father had raped his mother weeks after she gave birth to his brother. 🙁

It’s so saddening how prevalent this seems to be.

cherrybombfield · 2020-05-19T16:39:28+00:00

My first husband was literally cheating on me while I was giving birth and then had the nerve to show up to the hospital and pick a fight with me. The nurses had him thrown out. I knew right then looking at my baby that bitch had to go. Everyone said I was crazy that I needed him and I couldn't do it alone, they were wrong. It is easier taking care of a newborn alone than with a selfish prick who only cares about themselves.

RedditRabbitt · 2020-05-19T17:39:03+00:00

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MomsSpecialFriend · 2020-05-19T15:04:45+00:00

The way I was treated after labor caused irreparable harm to our relationship. In addition to forcing me home before I was ready after a c-section, making me go house shopping the first week home, preparing me incredibly small portions because he wanted me to get my figure back (while breastfeeding.. he served me half of a bowl of cereal. I will never forgive him for that), going on a fishing trip on my due date with the next one, never taking a single day off for the birth of our children, insisting on Friday C-section deliveries so he didn't have to take time off (with one being scheduled at 36 weeks to meet that exact criteria, my baby had jaundice and was undeveloped at birth because he was pulled too early for convenience) among so many other things.... These things cannot be made up for, they cannot be forgiven, they cannot be forgotten. I am mad at myself for allowing it.

LadyGrimes · 2020-05-19T15:56:19+00:00

Kick him in the nuts, he won't have needs for a long time.

dahmerloveszombies · 2020-05-19T16:49:42+00:00

I have heard this story WAY too many times. Audacity is stored in the balls.

sexxxybae · 2020-05-19T18:02:51+00:00

It's ridiculous. Why can't a man jerk off? You had his baby, and he's still trying to take from you? Even blowjobs, what new mom wants to do that when she's waking with the baby taking care of the baby all the time? some men are super selfish

luciesssss · 2020-05-19T15:54:58+00:00

I sometimes worry the bar is too low so I never like to call my husband a HVM but I’m pregnant and when I discuss it could take months for us to have sex after I give birth he’s like “so? It’s taking you 9 months to prepare to give birth it won’t go back to normal overnight” and that’s not a HVM it’s just a regular decent man thing to do? Isn’t it???

carachu · 2020-05-19T13:42:36+00:00

This post hits me in the feels for other reasons. Men really suck the life out of you dont they

hilariouslystated · 2020-05-19T16:20:04+00:00

Women have a bunch of stuff available to them to get rid of a child before a man even knows she's pregnant with it. A woman actually choosing to have your baby, ALLOWING you to reproduce, is a privilege. Unfortunately, a lot of men don't even deserve the privilege of reproducing.

kwalden2 · 2020-05-19T14:59:15+00:00

The responsibilities of fatherhood are so vast and the needs of mothers and children are so vital that een the bare minimum of the ground floor cannot from where the fathers in this post are at. Men who don't appreciate what it means for them to have a child really need to wrap it up and get vasectomies.

kikivegan · 2020-05-19T16:05:08+00:00

This shit happens all the time. Guys can't wait for their girl to heal mentally and physically, and either cheat or turn to porn (also cheating in my eyes). Of course, finding out about this behaviour after such a major change (your body is different, your life is different, you don't sleep, you don't even have time or energy to bathe sometimes), causes irreparable damage to the relationship. I honestly have a very negative feelings regarding my own pregnancy, birth, and newborn stage due to how my baby daddy acted during that time. In my case, having my son brought me a lot of clarity and I realized I didn't need my baby daddy's sexual attention in order to feel valued anymore. And thank God, or else my self esteem would be in the dumps.

0kfornow · 2020-05-19T13:13:01+00:00

Dump him.

sunnyxbaby · 2020-05-19T20:28:32+00:00

I have a girlfriend whose husband did this shit to her. She now has 2 kids that are 11 months apart because not only did he demand sex, but he demanded it without a condom. She left him finally, but this shit is straight up ABUSE.

incognetolaure · 2020-05-19T19:19:11+00:00

Smh reminds me of a guy I used to be friends with. Not even a month after his girlfriend gave birth, he was hitting up old exes to see who’d take the bait and started cheating on the mother of his children. His logic was that if he’s taking care of the household financially and doing his main part at home, then it’s not wrong. He also justified it because he was waiting for her to be ready, but in the meantime he had needs.The nerve.

dzgata · 2020-05-19T20:55:33+00:00

Do you know how depraved you have to be to not be willing to go without sex for a couple months? I could easily do that (seeing as I’m celibate) and without any masturbation. Shoot I could do that for a year+ with no sexual stimulation at all. Something is incredibly wrong with someone who is that reliant and dependent on sex or masturbation.

Logicalidiot · 2020-05-19T14:42:03+00:00

Ugh. Why are men like this? And better yet why are we as women expected to deal with this fuckery?

BabyGotBantz · 2020-05-19T21:04:32+00:00

He needs to get the fuck out then. Lovemaking is a privilege someone you love does with you and it's enjoyable because you love each other and want to make each other feel good. It's not just ME STICK PEE PEE IN HOLE ME FEEL GOOD. I don't even think they realize how unfulfilling that kind of sex really is.

If you want to make your pee-pee feel good buy a sex toy, you whiny little bitch.

You're better off raising one child on your own instead of two. He should be getting up with you to do bottles and diapers and feedings so he should be too tired for sex if he's really helping you raise your child and support your family

coocoocachupoo · 2020-05-19T21:33:07+00:00

A good friend of mine had a baby 9 months ago. It was an emergency c section and all of her abdominal muscles are still in so much pain she has difficult standing up straight or laying in certain positions. She can’t do anything physical. Holding her baby causes her pain. Her bf has been so patient during all of this. He had mentioned it being difficult for both of them. Real men don’t walk away from the mother of their children for sexual needs. I’ve had so many friends get cheated on while pregnant and I’m Like “you couldn’t keep your dick dry for 9 whole months?!?! Really? After a lifetime of body changes she is going through for his child.”

Men who cheat on the mothers of their children have a cold place in hell waiting for them. Pathetic.

wowwhatnoway · 2020-05-19T15:58:18+00:00

This was my ex best friend. She was 3 days post partum with stitches before her low life boyfriend started complaining that she could at least give him a bj. We aren't friends anymore because I couldn't watch the train wreck any longer.

deltadawn6 · 2020-05-19T16:02:29+00:00

There's a reason they call it the 4th trimester (which I know is a misnomer) but your body needs another 3 months to heal and level out.

alluringiv · 2020-05-19T18:54:38+00:00

The moment she said have a baby for him. Made me sad for her. A baby is for you is shouldn’t be for a sperm donor.

Postcardtoalake · 2020-05-19T22:51:06+00:00

My biological father went on a trip when my bio-mother gave birth bc he was “so stressed out.” His bio-dad did the same pathetic ass loser move when my birth dad was born.

Both left teenage mothers to cope for themselves, and when my brother came along, I babysat him after school for YEARS until my birth dad decided to come back, that POS.

I will say, though, raising my baby bro was one of the best things I have ever done.

I just wish that we had completely different parents. Completely different.

I’m the white sheep of the family. I don’t even associate with the black sheep anymore - it’s a hot mess of religious zealousness, MRA behavior, Narcissistic assholes, and sexual, physical, soul, mental, and emotional abusers.

fabianoid · 2020-05-19T16:13:52+00:00

Oof, this is accurate

RedditRabbitt · 2020-05-19T21:53:39+00:00

Oh just wait until you hear my story. My ex, when I was in the hospital after having our baby.. left to “go on a blunt ride” (and see his other girlfriend) then came back and asked me if I wanted a shot of vodka to celebrate the baby.. while I was breastfeeding and on hard medication. 🙄 Thank god I found my way out of that one and am married to a HVM now :)

WestAtmosphere · 2020-05-19T16:02:01+00:00

The audacity LOL.

SorayaSeven · 2020-05-19T22:18:10+00:00

I don’t trust any man enough to consider having his last name or his child. My dad gave me his last name when I was born, so I’m not nameless. Men are soul destroyers, and then to add having his wide-shouldered baby just for him to cheat? No ma’am.

CutieHomey · 2020-05-19T20:26:39+00:00

When you had to do anal because he couldn't wait for me to heal from my surgical abortion

ravingregina · 2020-05-19T16:27:05+00:00

In my previous work, my senior fucked my co-worker since she can't have sex with her wife who's dealing with sensitive pregnancy.

TheWayofTheStonks · 2020-05-19T12:37:48+00:00

She's not dating a man... She's dating a little boy.

straightprisonfish · 2020-05-21T07:12:39+00:00

Laughs in childfree. Seriously, reading the comments makes me feel so glad I'm never having children.

meanemad · 2020-05-21T00:04:26+00:00

I have 3 kids and i would say the best is to wait from 3 to 6 months, you are in risk of infection, stroke, permanent damages or incontinence in future... anyway you sleep so little the first months that you are exhausted and the same for the man if he is helping correctly. any man who insist in sex too early or doesnt help properly is a negative value man that is better to dump soonest as possible🙄

Title	Dump him.
Author	straightprisonfish
Upvotes	2168
Comments	120
Date	May 19, 2020 11:39 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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