This is a story from just over a year ago in the spring or summertime. I was using OLD and chatting with a man. Nice, tall, engineer (I am in a similar field of work so we had lots to talk about), lots of hobbies. Overall presenting a good picture.

I had scheduled a phone call as a pre-date. I would advise all ladies to do this as this saves lots of time going on a date if the man has red flags and you choose to block right after. We had a great conversation and wanted to see each other, and he proposed going on a walk as a date. Now, before I continue, I must say that I live downtown in a large city where I cannot even fathom going for a walk. Everything is extremely fast-paced, you can’t just “go for a walk” downtown unless you go to a nearby park. I’ve had lots of great OLD experiences in which we went to a nice cocktail bar or restaurant. I’m not even going to comment on the fact that we are both in good careers and could afford to go for drinks….

I gave him a chance to counter his proposal (in hindsight - don’t do this, leave at first red flag) and proposed going to this outdoor patio in one of the parks in the city. I figured it would be a good idea since it was hot out and that’s quite a good compromise to a walk. I’ll never forget what he wrote immediately after. Right after I’d said to go to this outdoor patio he wrote “by the way, I’m not looking for anything serious at the moment. I was thinking we could meet up and see where the evening takes us”, thus declining my patio proposal. All it took was me not settling for a walk for him to reveal his cards and to actually tell me that he just wanted to go for a walk and then hook up after. He could’ve told me that right away but hid his cards until I refused to settle for a fucking walk in 90 degree weather.

I stopped using OLD shortly after.