Pick me gf and pornsick bf vibes

Frogspocket · 2021-11-22T22:33:24+00:00

I had an ex who watched porn of a particular body type (not going to say which one bc it doesn't matter). it was the exact opposite of my body type. So I got upset and told him it upset me and be explained that he prefers my body type in real life and considers it the most beautiful, but he doesn't respect women with this particular porn search body type. He so graciously explained "If I respect the woman I can't get off to her"

Should've broke up with him over that dreadful insight 🤡

23eggz · 2021-11-22T22:22:22+00:00

Theres a lot to unpack here but the fact hes worried about triggering "passive aggressive hell" rather than worrying about giving her body image issues.. speaks volumes

pickmieshaexorcist · 2021-11-22T21:32:43+00:00

Just the choice of words he uses while talking about her tells me he doesn’t give two shits about her.

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2021-11-22T21:58:48+00:00

The guy who shows you vanilla porn IS LYING TO YOU.

No_Fig2938 · 2021-11-22T20:46:42+00:00

They know why women don't like it and are cautious about showing it, but also porn is cool and there's no problem with it and you're a prude if you're against it, hypocrisy 101.

all_or_nothing_bet · 2021-11-22T21:14:05+00:00

That could be a pretty good vetting strategy, actually! Just keep it a secret or sneaky scrotes will be like "what is porn?"

swatir24 · 2021-11-23T04:16:18+00:00

I was this woman! My ex would just not be able to get it up and so I'd think of all the ways to make sex work for us. I'd buy lingerie, sex toys and even offered to watch his favorite porn videos with him. We actually tried it once. The idea was to watch porn together and then have sex, but a few minutes into the video and I was so disgusted that I just left the room.

Such intense shame when I look back at this incident.

herbivorouscarnivore · 2021-11-22T20:52:28+00:00

Pick me…or a sister whose antenna is up and she just wants confirmation that he’s a scrote and she needs to lace up her running shoes?

I hope he shares the stuff he likes and his girlfriend leaves.

arnezuara · 2021-11-22T22:27:22+00:00

It’s almost as if they deliberately choose pornography with “performers” in it that have nothing in common with you looks-wise (or worse, you are nothing but a sexual fetish to them).

Helps them stay detached. Helps them feel entitled to mistreat you (in and outside of bed). Helps them justify the abuse they inflict on you.

KindredMaximus · 2021-11-23T03:22:07+00:00

Man, this shows so well, that men know exactly what they are doing. What they don't want are consequences. He knows it's hurtful and doesn't care. He also knows her vision of him will be detrimentally affected if she finds out who he really is. Because of stuff like this I just presume men are sickos and depraved until they prove otherwise. It's a way more realistic way to approach having a man anywhere near you or the people you care about.

ninefiveoneone · 2021-11-22T22:41:05+00:00

His worry when his GF sees that he prefers a different body type isn’t her feelings, it’s that he may have to deal with them.

That’s all I need to know about this man.

Bwolffff · 2021-11-22T22:32:15+00:00

I saw this and immediately thought 🚩🚩🚩. The fact that his taste in porn is so humiliating he has to lie about it.

alphinaudsboots · 2021-11-22T20:48:27+00:00

Me at 20 years old, begging my boyfriend to show me the kind of porn he likes so I better knew how to please him 🤮 I hated hated hated porn but wanted to be a cool girlfriend so badly.

Me at 25 years old, crying because my next boyfriend told me he preferred the kind of “skinnier” girls he saw in porn and hadn’t touched me in 2 years. I had an eating disorder and was about 5 lbs away from being truly underweight.

Me at 30 years old, crying because yet another boyfriend had limp dick because he was cheating on me and spent too much time looking at increasingly god awful porn.

I wish I could go back in time and tell my 20 year old self to stick to her guns.

dembar126 · 2021-11-23T00:12:07+00:00

Men who watch porn are walking breathing embodiments of raw sewage.

OvarianSynthesizer · 2021-11-23T01:47:35+00:00

At least it’s porn featuring adults.

A particularly pathetic pick-me I made the acquaintance of years ago was interviewed by police over her BF looking at and distributing CSA images.

She claimed to have been disgusted but wanted to get to understand his kink better. If she shows her face anywhere again she’s getting called out on that.

lets_get-2 · 2021-11-23T07:13:16+00:00

“Do I tell her how sick I am or do I pretend and give her a fase image of me to drag her along for my pleasure? “

BasieSkanks · 2021-11-23T10:16:33+00:00

That thread is full of pornsick losers. What’s shocking is that the OP said that what he watches is the “mild’ then goes on to describe choking, anal, peeing in a woman’s orifices. Porn has completely rotted men’s brains to the point they’re not even human beings. I hope he tells his girlfriend and I hope she leaves.

ronerolee · 2021-11-22T21:03:55+00:00

Of course, more people are saying to lie, but there are also people saying that if he has to lie about the body type he prefers (which is not hers), they should not be together in the first place.

Then, there's the fact that he likes to watch choking/spitting porn, which is a red flag for an abuser.

I'm starting to wonder if a vetting strategy early on in the dating process should be to ask a guy to show you what he pleasures himself to, rather than describe it.

Then when it's your turn, you can point to your head.

brylm92 · 2021-11-23T01:55:41+00:00

"Thin" = step daughter, incest, humilation, "barely legal" (most likely actual children).

Thin, skinny, amateur, "young girl" is code for paedophlia, or soon to be. Been there.

Fortress_of_Doors · 2021-11-23T01:07:00+00:00

I made the mistake of going into the comments... rip to my blood pressure hahhaaaa. The disgusting amount of pornsickness, all the men encouraging the OP to be dishonest and mislead his gf, all the pickmes and dismissiveness toward women....what a wasteland. And of course, the few comments that suggested not being a disconnected limp dick loser who uses porn get downvoted.

hexriot2001 · 2021-11-23T00:22:17+00:00

this is why pickme-ism and being the "cool girl" DOESN'T WORK

Macaronathon · 2021-11-23T05:47:21+00:00

The update was 10x worse. His kinks include DD/LG, braces, slapping/choking, and peeing in her.

Nervous_Resource8094 · 2021-11-23T03:28:04+00:00

She might be vetting? Don’t we usually advise women to ask what kind of porn guys watch — instead of “do you watch porn” (btw our strategy works VERY well)

timefornewgods · 2021-11-23T08:10:02+00:00

lol even in a situation where his partner is asking him outright to indulge in shared fantasy, the first inclination is to be distrusting and dishonest. Says a lot about the current state of heteronormative and sexual relationships, I think.

blaizesparks · 2021-11-23T04:08:31+00:00

I always downvote these until I read the subreddit 😭😭😭😭

333amelia · 2021-11-23T03:44:52+00:00

You’d think they’d have some kind of conscious thought process that goes..hm..if I really wanna downplay this and it’s something I need to hide so much, is this really normal ?

QueenRoseyPosey · 2021-11-23T05:09:21+00:00

He updated his post with his “real deal” stuff. It’s terrifying, and I don’t even know what most of it is.

catsandcafes · 2021-11-23T05:28:25+00:00

the fact that he has "go to" porn videos....

reddit_is_real_bad · 2021-11-22T23:16:01+00:00

I hope she sees sense and leaves this asshat; watching porn at all is a red flag tbh

Pillow_Thoughts_ · 2021-11-23T17:45:33+00:00

I had an ex refuse to show me the type of porn he liked. What does that mean?

I’m guessing it was weird shit, or violent. I don’t get why else someone would hide their sexual interests from their sexual partner.

onceuponasea · 2021-11-23T01:05:15+00:00

Gross

Amanda679 · 2021-11-23T13:27:48+00:00

Did you see the new update? 🤢 what a scrote.

Fuckdoesithurt956 · 2021-11-24T15:17:46+00:00

In his update, he clarifies his type is:

Anal, Ass to Mouth, choking, spitting, slapping, gagging, DP, gape, pee in gape, braces, gingers and DD/LG.

Sugarplum1125 · 2021-11-23T01:02:54+00:00

Where do I find this thread?

Title	Pick me gf and pornsick bf vibes
Author	filthy-weeb
Upvotes	702
Comments	106
Date	November 22, 2021 8:34 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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