Vet🙌🏻them

radsera99 · 2021-08-17T15:57:17+00:00

Just. Dump. Him.

Lonlinessandtitties · 2021-08-17T15:55:34+00:00

Sounds like Matt is the one he loves. She's not his girlfriend. Matt is his boyfriend.

And of course the advice on this post is "You should tell him you want him to treat you nice!"

"Maybe he can't afford it so you should offer to split the bill or pay for the places you want to go!"

Y'all...

pickmieshaexorcist · 2021-08-17T15:37:17+00:00

This is a clear example of how men don’t mind splurging if it’s something they care about. They’ll treat their bros to dinner or a round of beers without a thought. Maybe they’ll take their mom or dad out on mother’s/father’s day. They’ll definitely drop mad money in hobbies.

We all know the ones that are cheapskates across the board (avoid of course), but I’d argue that this ☝️is worse! If a guy is generous with everyone except you, his gf, it’s a big sign he doesn’t give a shit about you. As Deb Cooper says, you’re just something for him to do.

ALISHAISHERE123 · 2021-08-17T15:59:18+00:00

Basically my narc ex. He had to have the best of everything, but kept triangulating me with women who are "happy with so little". Him and his friends having standards and preferences was something to be proud of, but I was made to feel like a lesser than, defective woman if I had the bare minimum of expectation- unlike rando pickme wives they kept comparing me to- to be treated to the same standards he had for himself. That shit was crazy making.

the-worst- · 2021-08-17T16:59:14+00:00

He said "do you really want to go there? It's expensive" and she just chose a different place? Lady, don't let them bully you into lying.
He's trying not to splurge on her so he can splurge on people he actually cares about.
Throw this clown out.

ItsFreezen · 2021-08-17T17:50:41+00:00

Your boyfriend has a boyfriend.

onceuponasea · 2021-08-17T15:43:57+00:00

My ex did this. Never again. It sounds like he’s future faking her a lot.

Edit:typos

mitzislippers · 2021-08-17T18:20:45+00:00

baby yo man got a boyfriend.

sassyheather · 2021-08-17T19:06:42+00:00

Am I the only one thinking Matt is Mattilda?

jupitarianrise · 2021-08-17T16:26:57+00:00

Back in my pick me days, I made the mistake of telling a man (basically dropping hints) that I was thinking of booking a spa day, that I needed to relax, you know what he said? “Which one? I am planning on taking my brother to (enter name of fancy spa)” I was shocked. I wasn’t good enough to be taken to the spa, but my idea was a good one… for someone worthy, meaning his brother or another male friend. He never went to the spa with his brother lol, he’s cheap as hell, but he wanted me to know how much he didn’t value me. Men who act right with other people and not with you (and rubbing it in your face) are doing it on purpose, they are being disrespectful. They want you to “know” your place: beneath them. They are absolute trash. That’s the same type of guy who will lovebomb you tho, because they need your attention.

bigsquishycatface · 2021-08-17T17:50:30+00:00

this is why standards and keeping your partner accountable to them are so important! never let yourself be second best in a relationship.

PenneyPence · 2021-08-17T19:30:32+00:00

Ladies, remember that some men see their friends as humans and you as property. Don’t question why he does this, just leave at the first sign of it.

Wild_Artio · 2021-08-17T20:26:03+00:00

Matt is Melanie, or Matt is paying. Or… both.

Either way dude is future faking and she’s gonna get hurt.

Platipus6 · 2021-08-17T22:40:02+00:00

It's sadism and treat-teasing. The sort of thing you do to a dog to get it riled up and excited, then laugh and sit down.

He knows he's driving her crazy and making her think "what did I do wrong / why aren't I good enough to be taken out to a nice place" (which he's probably lying about, or his friend is paying).

He's laughing at how often she falls for it. He absolutely hates her.

Alpha_Aries · 2021-08-17T16:35:56+00:00

This type of man just needs to date other men and leave women alone.

modernmedusaa · 2021-08-17T19:40:31+00:00

Once a week? That isn’t your boyfriend.

If a man is invested he’ll be seeing you minimum 3 x a week but usually more if he truly wants to mate gate

It is is high key likely he’s taking other women out to dinner

He made the ‘expensive’ excuse because he’s taken another lover there & doesn’t want the staff staring

Very odd for a 20yr old straight male to be going fancy dinners with his male friends all the time.

He’s future faking & stringing her along

He also might be bisexual tbh- he could be dating a man instead

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2021-08-17T21:27:14+00:00

Sounds more like he's dating his buddy 💩

eru378 · 2021-08-17T23:51:00+00:00

I've had boyfriends do this. They'd spend a lot of money on outings with their male friends and with their family, but I wasn't worth a nice dinner out or some moderately costly activities on a day trip or weekend away. And these were relationships in which we each paid separately for everything! They would not have been paying for both of us, just themselves - and it still wasn't worth it. Insane. How much louder can a guy tell you you're not worth shit to him? This dynamic of the girlfriend being valued so much less than anyone else in a guy's life is truly horrible yet I let myself go along with it many times. Glad to be older and wiser.

deadinsidelol69 · 2021-08-17T19:05:46+00:00

Matt is this dudes boyfriend, she's just the bangmaid.

RussianAsshole · 2021-08-17T22:51:39+00:00

Something is seriously wrong if Matt is the one he’s trying to impress and not his girlfriend. Like dude, just ask your homie out on a date if that’s how you feel and leave this poor girl out of it.

akashyaboa · 2021-08-17T23:41:45+00:00

Sounds like matt is his real gf

seraphinelysion · 2021-08-17T16:37:39+00:00

I get the feeling his friend Matt has been paying for all these fancy places and her bf is just a mooch. No where does she say her bf pays at these places when he's out with his friend. Not even a mention of splitting or 50/50. 🤔

FirePreferred_theOG · 2021-08-17T23:44:58+00:00

so he's matt's bro-wife and she's matt's side piece. got it.

daisy_0720 · 2021-08-18T06:11:17+00:00

He rarely takes time off with her.

He only sees her once a week.

He never takes her out and instead they end up staying in and getting pizza from Dominos.

She's 100% the sidechick and "Matt" is the girlfriend.

Noemie_Mathilde · 2021-08-18T02:26:21+00:00

Maybe Matt is footing the bill.

fak_beauty_standards · 2021-08-18T05:35:00+00:00

She breaks up and he be Pikatchu surprised face. These guys never see it comming.

In his mind, she won't break up because that would mean she doesn't have a man and there's a stigma to it.

ceilingkatwatchesus · 2021-08-19T03:45:05+00:00

OMG Who gonna tell her?........... That "Matt" is short for Matilda or Matthew

FlockAroundtheClock · 2021-08-18T05:44:12+00:00

What do you guys think? Your man is trash. You really need opinions from strangers to tell you this?

catsuramen · 2021-08-18T04:23:40+00:00

OP's boyfriend is probably too poor to treat his gf to nice places. Matt is expected to split the bill, but it will hurt the BF's ego of appearing machismo & rich if he cannot pay for OP too.

Basically, OP's boyfriend got some growing up to do...

slayeroftruth · 2021-08-18T13:23:39+00:00

Is it possible his "friend" is girlfriend. He lied to her about being single to use her as side chick? Either way she should leave him.

Wkndwhorechata · 2021-08-18T14:22:44+00:00

To save money on take out too, let's just cook at home. I have a great idea: I'll get naked, and you put some raw meat on my body so it can cook because MY BLOOD IS BOILING!!!

Title	Vet🙌🏻them
Author	Previous-Focus-2013
Upvotes	818
Comments	49
Date	August 17, 2021 3:20 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/p65ww4/vetthem/
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