Where to start...

venomous_g · 2021-03-06T02:35:38+00:00

So he has not one damn picture of his cat other than the video of him fucking his only just legal ex wife when he was still thin enough to see his dick? Yeah, right.

She got herself a slob of a man pining after his brief peak. He'll only grow fatter, older, and more resentful. A liability.

lisanolisa · 2021-03-06T02:41:17+00:00

He would already be out the door if she had a sex tape with an ex she keeps and watches lol.

Platipus6 · 2021-03-06T02:26:08+00:00

What happens if you flush a USB stick down the toilet?

Asking for a friend.

spinsterchachkies · 2021-03-06T02:55:46+00:00

Oooh. I do enjoy these stories it’s like gossiping with girlfriends.

That’s a lot of weight. I think he is jacking it to when he was hot and doing a hot chick. Which is something he will never do again because he’s a slob and sounds gross. Verdict, Dump him

a20922 · 2021-03-06T02:20:09+00:00

Who makes a porno with their cat in the room !

gcthwy · 2021-03-06T02:36:29+00:00

Those reasons have me cackling!

eatchickpeas · 2021-03-06T04:09:58+00:00

the cat thing is nonsense lol. he either wanted to use the videos as blackmail against his ex wife or he just enjoys seeing himself sleeping with a woman who isnt his current wife. i bet in his mind hes still the skinny, attractive man he was when he got his 1st wife and he cant get over that time in his life

he knows what kind of damage a video like that can do to a woman, especially in our deeply patriarchal society. he knows if that video ended up on a porn website his buddies would congratulate him, his ex wife would be horrified, she would have to explain the video to all her family before they find it and she would be embarrassed. i hope she divorces him and tells the ex wife

MissouriBlue · 2021-03-06T06:01:34+00:00

Screenshot the cat images, then delete the video... we learned that in 7th grade.

Divorce. Dump. Delete. Block.

Sewud · 2021-03-06T08:13:47+00:00

Imagine loving an obese man and he's pining over the girl he could have when he wasn't obese.

basicbagels · 2021-03-06T02:12:08+00:00

Btw, OP claims to be 35F, husband is 30M, and ex wife is 26. So much wrong in this post, idk where to start!

Summerlycoris · 2021-03-06T06:41:06+00:00

Boo hoo on the cat thing. So this dude never took photos of his cat outside a porn context? Never had any memories? Come on. It's such a shitty lie.

The_Pyramidion · 2021-03-06T09:46:40+00:00

I wish more women would realize that ConFrOnTiNg and CoMmUnIcAtInG achieves nothing but being dished a big platter of gaslighting and bullshit. They won't stop, they'll just hide it better.

Just don't. If they hid it from you, they KNOW it's inacceptable behavior. Plan your exit. Give them rope. Hit them hard and fast while they don't see it coming.

GodILoveTheEnglish · 2021-03-06T04:16:41+00:00

keeping videos of a 19 year old ex when he is a 30 year old man ew ew ew i pretend i do not see it

Throwawayrightaway28 · 2021-03-06T08:53:50+00:00

First off, his ex-wife has done everything right! Yes, sis, divorce these obese Jabba the Husbands! Second, his current wife is a damn fool. That’s it.

Pahapan · 2021-03-06T05:22:45+00:00

It's such objectively shitty LVM behavior to keep sexual pictures/video of an ex. The respectful thing to do when a relationship ends is to delete all that sort of stuff (but we can't trust men to do this, which is why FDS discourages sending nudes and making sex tapes). You're no longer with that person, you should no longer have access to intimate material of them. I'm pretty sure this ex wife he groomed when she was a teenager would be disgusted to know this asshole still has this video, ogles her body, and masturbates to it.

My ex has pictures and videos of me. I asked him to delete everything but I know he didn't. I'm not worried he'll use it as revenge porn (he knows I'd press charges plus I know he's so homophobic that he doesn't want men looking at his dick) but it makes me unspeakably sad and repulsed to know he probably masturbates to them. He did his best to make me feel inadequate and undesirable and it worked, yet he gets to keep pleasuring himself to images of me while I struggle to cobble my self esteem back together. It's just one more violation on top of everything else he did to me.

Lavender_flow · 2021-03-06T07:59:58+00:00

So there is a reason she started looking through his things in the first place. Becauae she knew something was wrong and she could t trust him. When will women start listening to their gut feeling?? She needs to divorce his fat ass like yesterday

K0rla · 2021-03-06T12:14:26+00:00

Sorry but the part about the cat made me laugh. Oh yeah I’m keeping porn just because of my beloved late cat. Sure thing.

barbedwiredaisycrown · 2021-03-06T09:20:45+00:00

Why didn't she just take it upon herself to smash the USB stick with a hammer and call it a day? It's what a man would have done. Look at the countless posts women have made of men destroying everything from their girlfriend's animal crossing island to a bonsai tree and those weren't even literally pornographic films of exes. The men perceived feeling inferior to video games or inanimate objects, to the point of having to destroy them. Could you just IMAGINE if this was the other way around? I'd fear a fatality honestly.

RikaRikaw · 2021-03-06T07:55:50+00:00

Edit the video so it only shows the cat lol Problem solved

missliberia · 2021-03-06T11:49:51+00:00

It’s the “what should I do?” for me...

redwineandsolitude · 2021-03-06T12:43:33+00:00

Posts like this solidify for me that men lie to women approximately 1 million times a day

eveloe · 2021-03-06T12:42:12+00:00

Call the ex wife and tell her her ex husband still has videos of her naked without her permission.

Then ask her for a referral for a divorce lawyer.

AimiHanibal · 2021-03-06T12:55:34+00:00

If mental gymnastics weren’t the only sports he does, he already might’ve been in a good shape 😂

2021-03-06T12:04:36+00:00

Scrote is pining for his ex. Probably stalking her on social media . Dump him.

Thesseli · 2021-03-06T13:13:28+00:00

Do what the first wife did -- divorce him!

SarcasmSlide · 2021-03-06T13:57:21+00:00

wHaT shOuLd i dO?!?!!

like_onomatopoeia · 2021-03-06T08:32:09+00:00

She can do for other reasons obviously what the first did: leave him.

nostradamusapologist · 2021-03-06T17:22:57+00:00

Aw, he misses his cat he never photographed 💔 better fire up the ol' porn of your ex

InaneObservations · 2021-03-06T17:08:44+00:00

This guy is jerking off to himself, lol. He uses it for "inspiration," really? Is he on a diet and workout routine, or does his lard ass still weigh 350 lbs and he's still housing double doubles while jerking off to his 23 year old self?

She should take the USB and tell him that she's going to start paddling the canoe to it, since she agrees he was so much hotter back then.

FrozenExpanse · 2021-03-06T04:58:35+00:00

This one gives me a lot of mixed feelings tbh...

Maybe it's because I'm so depressed, but I am actually the sort of person who would keep a video like this (not that I would ever make a sex tape but if for some insane reason I did) as a means of having a window to a past time in my life where I looked good and was happy. It would not have any sexual value for me, but it would be kind of proof for myself that I was beautiful and happy and bin love at some point... and perhaps I can one day be those things again.

However I DON'T believe a man would ever keep such a video for the same reasons I would. I just don't think their brains work like that. I think this guy is just getting off on watching his young "hot" self bang a teenager. It's first and foremost a massive ego trip for him. Also I'm sure there's a considerable amount of spite and rape fantasy involved- his hot young ex left him when he got fat, but having this video allows him to mentally/symbolically fuck her over and over again and she can't stop him.

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-03-06T14:00:02+00:00

she kept giving all those reasons, but all I was thinking was: revenge porn, he keeps them for revenge porn.

she should just leave him.

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read somewhere that the parents of a porn-addicted man destroyed his pornography stash and he sued them. ...In her case, I don't think those repercussions apply.

2021-03-06T23:30:10+00:00

I wouldve smashed the USB drive with a hammer and then divorced his ass

mtan15 · 2021-03-07T00:30:26+00:00

Delete him.

Kuanzhaixiangzi · 2021-03-06T05:54:29+00:00

If the cat was so beloved, how come he only has one weird porn video of it?? My cats take up 95% of my camera roll, that's such a pathetic excuse.

Title	Where to start...
Author	basicbagels
Upvotes	560
Comments	80
Date	March 6, 2021 2:11 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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