Yep

Mcccy · 2021-06-06T23:47:18+00:00

WoMeN bE plaYinG GamEs!!

No dude she is literally just being friendly and tries to tell you no in a nice way.

thatjimmylove · 2021-06-06T22:59:14+00:00

I find it so weird how some people evaluate and treat people based on how f*ckable they find them, I mean what a self centred way to go through life. If I was a cashier for instance I would not be rude to a man I found unattractive the thought probably would not go through my head ( unless he was being creepy towards me). Even if I find a man attractive I don't go haywire and be nicer to him especially if we are in a situation where attraction is not even relevant ( i.e. at work), I just it's such a weird way of thinking. Can men really not separate the world from their dicks, also it operates under the assumption that those same people would be even remotely interested in you.

But also some women are this way I remember my friends being really men pleasing, they were so weirded out by me when I did not give a guy I had a crush on 5 bucks when I was 12. Like so what I have a crush on him why would I give him my money lmao

awhileagonow · 2021-06-06T23:24:11+00:00

This also ties in with abusive men thinking their partners are flirting with random men when they are just having passing, routine encounters, example that comes to mind in my life was a man stopping us (both of us!) to ask for directions, I answered his question and the man went on his way, the whole exchange lasted about fifteen seconds, ex accused me of flirting.

BlueSkiesOverLondon · 2021-06-06T22:58:53+00:00

As I saw another commenter here post, men objectify women, women personify men.

purasangria · 2021-06-06T23:44:28+00:00

Wow, men see even ordinary kindness as transactional, something that they do to fuck women. Amazing.

curlywurlyprincess · 2021-06-06T23:23:30+00:00

that’s why I prefer being bitchy. Guys will overanalyze the smallest actions and become convinced you’re into them. Being called a bitch > some scrote thinking he has a chance

Dnotchtiebd · 2021-06-06T22:56:10+00:00

I was talking to an uber driver today and he told me he gets the same type of advances from gay men. The common denominator here is MEN. To no one's surprise.

the-worst- · 2021-06-06T23:11:31+00:00

My husband and I were watching King of the hill and in this episode Peggy walks outside, sees Dale messing with Lady bird (their old dane) and said "oh sure, she barks at me all day but will let any old riffraff in the yard!" Then told Dale he could borrow lady to find a truffle pig he rented.

My husband said "wow Peggy just flirted with dale!" And I was like "if anything that was maybe friendly banter between 2 people who have known each other since high-school"... and that was enough to start an argument.

He claimed she should have just told Dale when hank would get back.

So, LVM and NVM think even insults are flirting.

Lemon_bars_addiction · 2021-06-06T22:51:45+00:00

Holy shh so true

KiwiTigerLoon · 2021-06-06T23:59:50+00:00

As someone who has struggled with an eating disorder (and consequently seen my self-worth & body dramatically fluctuate)—-one of the most powerful things for me is realizing that when I am in a “healthy” body for me (which means not super skinny from starving myself) all of a sudden the number of men who want to talk to me (not just hit on me, I mean talk to me in general) went way down. Suddenly it was only the guys who viewed women as human beings who wanted to engage with me.

“Disordered Me” of the past had a sinister voice that used this as proof that I was a “better” person when I was starving myself & more deserving of love when I was unhealthily thin—-but now, healthy & in recovery I see that I’m blessed to have a body that keeps most shallow people out of my life. I hope society isn’t like this forever—and one day we become more accepting of different body shapes & sizes because we collectively get better at seeing someone’s inner beauty. But for now, hey, I’ll take this built-in filter as it cuts down on how much vetting I have to do!

Cultural_Training249 · 2021-06-06T23:19:05+00:00

Very true I don't even bother smiling at male strangers anymore. I was leaving Coffee Bean and Tea Leaf one day and a man kindly opened the door for me and held it open. I smiled And then it turned into... Hey, in a low seductive tone as he then looked me up and down. I walked off so fast. Heterosexual men and women are not friends. A lot of Heterosexual men take smiling, polite conversation, And even holding the door open & compliments as flirtations. I do not talk to men unless I am interested in them. I'm tired of that type of treatment like it's some type of speed date or I'm in a meat market and I'm for sale. Even letting a man hold the door open for you can be risky. I even had one man go off on me after he held the door open and I said thank you. He said angrily... Damn! I held the door open and I can't even get your number! Men are not doing anything for woman that they are not attracted to.

4BigData · 2021-06-07T00:25:55+00:00

Had the flip side happening to me. When I told a male friend that I haven't connected with anybody in years romantically he called me "incredibly offensive".

Other men called me "super selfish" when I turned them down for sex.

Tatterhood78 · 2021-06-06T23:55:17+00:00

Men really do love jumping to assumptions about women, and then acting on that instead of reality. They are raised to be the heroes of their own particular story and the rest of us are NPCs that "he" gets to manipulate to get the world to serve them. It's why they're more proud of "gaming the system" than working hard to get the reward.

We're things, not autonomous people. Their wants will always come before our needs, because we shouldn't have any/important ones.

Being friendly has brought me nothing but trouble. I've gotten so sick and tired of being the bitch that turned out to be a real person that I actively avoid being around them. Just last week, one of them had a mantrum because (even though we only know each other in passing while playing an online game) he had decided it would be nice to date.

He lives in Vegas, I live past the East Coast of Canada. I told him that I was not into LDRs when he mentioned he was interested. His solution?

I would uproot my life, get another job in a market where I have no contacts, and move to a city that is twice as expensive as the one I currently live in (that just happens to be 7100 kms away). Just so that he could take me out on "A" date, and see if he'd be interested in a second

"No promises!"

The fucking audacity.

cantsextihavebills · 2021-06-07T01:15:20+00:00

Men also don't seem to realize we're polite out of fear.

RussianCat26 · 2021-06-06T23:43:16+00:00

I've found a semi-antidote to a man's politeness: I deserve it. I walk like men should move out of my way (they always do), on approaching a door I proactively say thank you if there's a man there, and then he knows to hold the door open for me, but I barely give him a passing glance and definitely ignore him after. I started expecting politeness, and I stopped feeling so obligated to return it.

Protoetype · 2021-06-07T00:50:08+00:00

Ohhhhh, a woman acknowledges his existence?! SHE MUST WANT THAT COCK

Meredeen · 2021-06-07T00:57:34+00:00

I know we here believe men are smarter than they let on about a lot of things, but y'know honestly in this case I think they're so stupid from porn that they don't understand the nuances of courtship anymore, hence why they mistake politeness for flirting.

I had a super awkward experience from a way older coworker because I was just being friendly and he thought I was leading him on. I KNOW how to flirt and what I was doing was so far from that, I believe they are hopelessly stupid when they've had blue balls for years.

quasarbar · 2021-06-07T00:49:54+00:00

This phenomenon has been driving me crazy since college, when I first noticed that whenever I showed basic courtesy to a male, he'd assume I had a crush on him.

I know, these men are just being arrogant idiots and I should be able to laugh it off, but it honestly just annoys the hell out of me. One particularly frustrating incident was when I told a male friend how much I appreciated his friendship and he looked all awkward and said "you know we're not going to be more than friends, right?" He thought he needed to politely let me down as if I were coming onto him. On my end, I had to suffer the sting of rejection (which is never fun) when I wasn't even putting my heart on the line.

It ruined our friendship. That's what I got for expressing my appreciation for that friendship.

TellCerseeItWasMe · 2021-06-06T23:48:12+00:00

YEP!

Newwavesupport3657 · 2021-06-07T00:55:03+00:00

One time this guy misinterpreted my anxious chatter as flirting.

Lol no dude.

xessywintr · 2021-06-07T01:07:25+00:00

Very true. My cousin is the definition of LVM who does this. I tell him all the time just bc he doesn't want to f her doesn't give him the right to disrespect her. He really thinks these women secretly want him and it makes him mad. It's disgusting.

Guuurrrl_okeehay · 2021-06-07T02:27:08+00:00

😂 that's why I wear headphones with no sound, have a resting bitch face, wear a fancy ring, have 2 phones both on speed dial to bail myself out, and act like they don't exist.

DeepestWinterBlue · 2021-06-06T23:36:19+00:00

No truer words have been spoke .

kinkardine · 2021-06-07T00:58:41+00:00

Sigh.. as an unappetizing woman(someone said to me that) I get surprised when someone is nice to me.. I just assume these are pity courtesy..plus being a solo parent and brown in a non brown country people ( men and women) just think they can get away with me by anything, with men.. I gave up... but it hurts so much when I encounter these from women.

wildlife_bee · 2021-06-07T01:19:38+00:00

Oh fuck. (Popcorn falls out of mouth)

anotherdamnloser · 2021-06-07T01:45:00+00:00

So true. They only acknowledge what they think they have a right to fuck.

asupernova91 · 2021-06-07T02:04:59+00:00

This is the truest thing I've ever read.

FDSfollower1 · 2021-06-07T03:09:41+00:00

Really, this explains so much.

Title	Yep
Author	shinyjewels
Upvotes	0
Comments	76
Date	June 6, 2021 10:48 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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