What does the blue pill get right and what wrong?

EetinAintCheetin · 2025-01-29T10:52:01+00:00

The two most commonly hated pieces of BP advice are actually profoundly brilliant:

“Just be yourself” and “you will find love when you least expect it/aren’t looking for it”.

The problem here isn’t that the advice is correct and that it works, it’s just not very prescriptive for guys who are struggling. Of course being yourself is the best way to be, but it means you have to be comfortable with who you are. And no, being an awkward, specially regarded weirdo isn’t who you really are. That’s the product of insecurities, poor social skills and distorted beliefs about yourself. The true core of the person is something not many people get to tap into. But the reality is, there is nothing to fix or hide about you, which TRP implies by telling you that just being yourself is wrong. When you accept that awkwardness, shyness, lack of confidence, etc., are simply manifestations of not being taught proper social survival skills in early childhood, then you will stop being a ashamed of feeling like that and you will understand that you are okay as you are.

The other piece of advice, that you will find love when you aren’t looking for it, is also brilliant. It describes the neediness paradox. The more you seek out and need love, the more it will elude you. But the second you give up the search and stop waiting around on someone else to make you happy and start making yourself happy, suddenly people come into your life without any effort.

What many people get wrong about this advice is that they interpret it to mean “just give up, become a depressed incel and never leave the house again”. But it simply means “stop looking to others to make you happy, stop being so needy and desperate for someone, and they will be more attracted to you as a result”.

wtknight · 2025-01-28T19:25:32+00:00

Blue Pill just means “not Red Pill”. It’s not an ideology or philosophy. Different Blue Pillers can hold different beliefs so long as they are not RP beliefs.

RapaxIII · 2025-01-28T21:15:45+00:00

Blue Pill means the person is completely open to swallowing whatever bullshit social phenomenon/programming gets thrown our way (my most BP belief is that illegal immigration actually makes my life better!!) while still being forced to go through the motions to prove you're a "good person" to mainstream society.

Women react with pain and horror to RP beliefs at a base level because it would cost them social standing with other women, that's something BPer men typically adhere to as well (their values are based on what increases your status, not themselves). RP is more likely to call shit out that, while a BPer would literally give their life to defend that same shit.

It's a very weird conundrum, the mind of a liberal man

GoldSailfin · 2025-01-28T20:27:01+00:00

Attraction cannot be negotiated, but mainstream advice is to fake it until you make it, or just try harder. It doesn't work and people should stop pressing couples to stay together who are not a good match. I guess that is "blue pill" and it's wrong.

Outside_Memory5703 · 2025-01-28T18:58:35+00:00

The blue pill is for everyone

The red pill is not

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Artistic_Speech_1965 · 2025-02-01T18:49:15+00:00

What BP get right AND wrong is "being yourself", because it's right but don't give any explanations

There are things about you will never be able to change because it's physically/virtually impossible or you won't feel yourself anymore. But there are things about yourself you can change without being fundamentally different, they can make you feel ackward at the beginning but can become a second nature

ThrowRA965527 · 2025-02-02T14:30:07+00:00

The main thing that bluepill gets that all other pills fail on is that humans and society are extremely complex. Very very few black and white rules will even end up being true for 51% of a population. Dating is complicated and weird. Men are complicated and weird, women are complicated and weird. No two people are the same.

TLDR: nuance

BlueAndYellowTowels · 2025-02-25T06:08:35+00:00

“Be yourself” is the right advice. Because it’s the path of least resistance. When you are always yourself, then you don’t have to lie or spend energy maintaining a facade.

What we get wrong? Some people, are objectionable and when they are themselves they drive people away. We fail to understand that some people are just shitty and like being shitty. We fail to see that some people want to be with other people but also don’t want to change.

Like, that shit just… I don’t even know what the fuck to do with that…

Title	What does the blue pill get right and what wrong?
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Date	January 28, 2025 6:23 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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