I have noticed that a lot of discussions and conversations seem to go awry rather quickly. Assumptions, reactivity, strawmanning, defensiveness and undercurrents - and I wonder if you have clarity around what kind of interactions/responses you are truly hoping for, but not getting.

In my relationship with my partner especially, we have had fruitful dialogue around so many of these entrenched topics from here on PPD. And having both given, and received, awknowledgement and care, even when it felt hard, has made it clear that there is a path that leads to connection and peace. Even between two people of opposite sex that have suffered trauma at the hands of a parent of the other gender as well.

I would be happy to see more connection, safety and mutual acknowledgement happen here, because from experience that leads to better understanding, discussions and actual progress.

A big step in that direction, I believe, comes through expressing what we'd truly want, and actually receiving it - or at minimum a genuine effort.

(Oh, and if you want me to actually try my hand at responding the way you prefer, add *OP challenge* at the end of your comment, so I'll know.