A Woman's Perspective on Getting a Blowjob

monsieurhire2 · 2014-04-25T17:05:27+00:00

Anyone who takes an overly transactional approach to sexuality is asking for trouble, IMO. Partners SHOULD be sexually attracted to each other enough that they WANT to have sex with each other. If you have to bribe or negotiate sexual "favors," your relationship is in trouble.

On the other hand, some people don't have a high sex drive, or it declines for whatever reason. In that case, people need to work out ways to work around the issue constructively.

Whisper · 2014-04-25T17:19:54+00:00

I've said it before, I'll say it again.

Men want to be treated awesomely by someone good enough. Women want to be treated well enough by someone awesome.

Supplication to a woman does her no favours.

Varrian · 2014-04-25T15:00:02+00:00

No one takes into consideration that having to massage your wife's feet and watching her favorite movie to get a blowjob is also mistreatment but this time of the husband. Both men and women require physical and emotional things from their partners. Now, getting a blowjob is not a necessity but neither is a foot massage or watching her favorite movie.

Great post, btw!

trpfieldreport · 2014-04-25T15:23:53+00:00

I started with TRP in January after being a doormat to my girlfriend (now ex) for the previous 8 months and having her cheat on me.

Once I got to TRP, it started to make sense. I acted the way I was raised and told I should act towards my girlfriend. I made her my princess. She had a bad day at work? I bought her favorite candy and a card. I did this out of a genuine desire to see her smile.

But I never put my foot down to her bullshit and her disrespect. She openly flirted with other guys in front of me, which I now know was her way of telling me to man the fuck up. Ultimately, she fucked a long time beta orbiter and tried to hide it.

Recently, she's been a plate of mine, and I've gotten a bit more aloof about what I want from her. Where I used to hide my agenda of sex, I now put it right out there.

Where I used to say: "Let's go to dinner, have a good time, get a couple drinks and then maybe go hangout somewhere."

I now say: "Let's go get some good food, have a couple beers and then I want to fuck."

The response? She acts offended (but I can see her smile underneath) and says "Is that all you want from me? SEX?"

I say "And dinner."

And then the rest of the night is typically really good, with a sexual charge to everything, and ends in great sex. She especially enjoys swallowing these days, whereas when we dated it was a special treat.

A lot of it has to do with being upfront, saying what you want and maintaining frame when she says "Oh men are such pigs" etc. I tell her what I want to do to her, and make her blush. It's incredibly disarming, and it results in what I think tingles are. She just kind of looks at me, and falls into line. She defers decisions to me, and I no longer have to argue anything.

Frame, people. Frame.

AfterC · 2014-04-25T14:53:39+00:00

It is very sobering to me to find that a lot of people consider not being a doormat as being abusive or manipulative.

A man stands behind his principles, respects himself and knows what he wants? Absurd!

xantris · 2014-04-25T17:53:51+00:00

how dare you suggest that women be treated as actual equals in a relationship and not placed on a princess pedestal

AWildFuckYouAppeared · 2014-04-25T21:54:00+00:00

To those asking about how my husband demands respect this is a message I sent to another redditor and perhaps will help:

OK, now to answer your question on how does he not allow me to disrespect him. Overall, I would say that he is calm and firm. Let me give you some examples:

1.) He doesn't tell me what I want to hear, he tells me what he is thinking. This can be tricky because you don't want to come right out and tell your wife or girlfriend she is fat, for example. But, at the same time, you shouldn't be afraid of being honest. An example of this with my husband would be this:

I'm sitting on the couch and I have just devoured a box of cookies. Although I am not fat, I say to him in a whiny girly voice that is filled with regret from having just eaten an entire box of cookies in one sitting, "I'm so fat." He says "You're definitely going to be if you keep sitting round eating cookies like that all day."

Okay, this may not seem like a big deal, but how many women do you know who would be offended by his blunt honesty? And further, how many women do you know who would punish their husband or boyfriend for saying something like that? They might withhold sex, or shut down emotionally, or do something passive-aggressive. I know, because I have done things like that!

Now, what I respect about this scenario is that my husband isn't afraid to be honest with me. He's not even afraid of hurting my feelings if we're having a conversation in which I've provoked him to be honest. While I may not necessarily like what he is saying, I like that he was man enough to say it, and he can say it without being malicious.

2.) He doesn't do what I want to appease me. In my past relationships, my boyfriends always did what I wanted, when I wanted. If I wanted to do something even if I knew they didn't want to, I knew that they would do it anyway. I knew this because they taught me to treat them that way. It's healthy to say no and not allow one person in the relationship to get what they want all the time.

Let me give you another example of this with my husband:

It's the weekend and I like to get out of the house. I stay home all week with our baby and I go a little stir-crazy. He works a high-stress job all week and is worn out. So, we are already at odds here. I will say to him, "let's go downtown and have coffee and walk around." Now, if he doesn't want to do this (or whatever I have suggested) he says no. He doesn't care if I don't like the answer, he doesn't care if it means a lot to me, he says no.

In the beginning of our relationship, this used to fucking piss me off. I would argue things like, "I stay home and want to get out of the house" or "it's give and take in a relationship and you're being selfish by not doing this with me". For a long time, I believed I was right. Then I realized over time that I was the one who was being selfish. I was the one who was putting this extra responsibility on him to make me feel better.

This is tricky because a relationship is give and take. There are times that I fully expect him to do something with me even though I know he'd rather not, and I do the same for him. Sometimes I have to remind him of that. Sometimes he surprises me by suggesting we do something that I know he doesn't want to but he does it because he knows I want to. What is important to remember though, is that he stands firm and stays true to himself. He doesn't let me bully or manipulate him. He doesn't always tell me no, but if he does, he means it and I respect that.

3.) He doesn't react unless he needs to put me in my place. This may sound harsh, but it's true. If I am throwing a fit and saying shitty things to him, he will either walk away and ignore me, or he will say just enough to defend himself that makes me shut up.

Now, just recently I made a remark to him when we were fighting about him being lazy. I knew as soon as the words came out of my mouth that I had fucked up. I know he's not lazy. He knows he's not lazy. He knows that I know that he's not lazy. But was he about to let me talk to him like that and get away with it? Fuck. No. He looked me dead in the eye and in a very stern, deep voice he asked in a confrontational tone, "You think I'm lazy?" Again, "DO YOU THINK I'M LAZY?"

He never broke eye contact, he never yelled. But he nipped it in the bud. I have a nervous laughter and so I started giggling and then apologized. He didn't laugh and didn't engage anymore in the conversation with me.

This is tricky because not all women will respond the way I did. He has taught me to respect him by being calm, firm, and authoritative when he speaks to me. He also picks his battles. Like I said, he will sometimes just say no and ignore the rest of my banter. However, if I cross the line and am disrespectful, he knows how to firmly and effectively handle the situation.

Of all the ways he has taught me to respect him, I think these three things stick out the most. I hope this has helped!

neelaryan · 2014-04-25T15:16:49+00:00

i got hard reading this, a philoso-boner. thank you for supporting mutual self-respect in intimate relationships. the spice girls spoiled a lot of girls.

myhairsreddit · 2014-04-25T15:19:31+00:00

You are my soul sister, girlfriend. Everything you wrote in this post is exactly what I believe/how I feel. I have been in relationships where I make all the decisions, I decide if/when we have sex, and I got the princess treatment. It honestly gets quite boring, it does nothing for me, made me greedy, and made him way too needy. I don't need someone to beat me, ignore me, or take me for granted. I need a man that I can respect, obey, and love. I need a man that can decide for himself where we are going to eat, decide what we are going to watch, and tell me no if an idea is stupid, but do it in a respectful manner. There is a major difference between being dominant and being abusive. Most people tell me I want to be abused, I just want a MAN. Not some wimp that says yes ma'am when I tell him I want a salad for lunch.

RedPillDad · 2014-04-25T15:03:54+00:00

Solid advice. When you man up, everything improves. Hell, it's worth it for the BJ's alone.

2014-04-25T16:34:22+00:00

I'm in utter shock after reading this post. The adoration I have for your outlook on romantic relationships, sexual desire, and level-headed approach to both is something I have longed for more women to adopt. And you have proved the benefits of internalizing this philosophy by having spent time in a feminists fantasy relationship, and an actual, natural, fulfilling relationship.

I applaud your willingness to shed light on this subject and the blunt style you chose to to do it in. Once I am off mobile and back at home, you will be receiving gold. Thank you again, I hope to see more of you in our community.

ballahcareum · 2014-04-25T17:51:22+00:00

what does a guy got to do to get a blowjob around here?

Look sexy and ask for one. It's really that simple.

They should be honored to have your dick shoved down their throat.

Any woman who disagrees with this simply isn't dating a man she's attracted to. If a woman thinks of sex as a reward she gives her man instead of a hunger to devour him then she's not only not worth dating, she's setting herself up for failure. If she doesn't crave sex with her man and he's constantly begging for it then she'll lose respect for him and end up blowing some random dude in a bar bathroom. But this isn't to say that she deserves all of the blame. The spineless boyfriend capitulating to her every whim in the desperate hope of getting blown is just as equally pathetic. He is treating sex as a reward for himself instead of as a hunger to devour her. We are fucking animals, so we should fuck like animals. Sex is one of the only places where we are still able to abandon our divine humanity and plunge into the unholy primitive beast within. We should rejoice in our depravity.

I blame feminism, disney movies, political correctness, chivalry, and now /r/askreddit. You can sure as hell bet that those people giving shitty advice have shitty lives and are shitty lovers.

AWildFuckYouAppeared · 2014-04-25T22:11:08+00:00

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L3aBoB3a · 2014-04-25T19:04:23+00:00

I never understood why it was a popular joke among people that blow jobs were out the window once a marriage took place. I love pleasing my man. It's not a matter of, "I'm servicing him. I'm a generous god." People have become so selfish and self-serving that even romantic gestures are seen as an exchange. I don't expect anything in return for a bj, and frankly, if he was to assume that, I would feel turned off because it's so transactional. No. I sucked you off because I wanted to and I enjoyed it as much or even more than I would have enjoyed receiving. When someone does something for you, it should be done because of their intent- not because they've made a deal or have been guilted into reciprocating. BJs are important, IMO. What better feeling than knowing you're the source of so much pleasure to the person you love? Why don't more people see it this way? Am I totally insane? I feel like so many people are in passionless relationships that are solely based off mutual respect or need. Sad. /rant

2014-04-25T22:08:04+00:00

This post was fantastic.

2014-04-25T17:09:32+00:00

People don't realise that the slow emasculating process those women demand via foot rubs and Shit is so humiliating for a man he will end up a man she no longer likes.

2014-04-25T17:26:54+00:00

Hey OP, great post. You just might find yourself right at home in /r/RedPillWomen

RedPillDad · 2014-04-25T17:28:57+00:00

My wife controls our joke of a sex life and does not respect me. Just waiting for it to fizzle out at this point. When I declined sex, the advances just stopped and eventually she threatened separation because we were roommates and nothing more. We're "better" now because I told her id be fine no matter what happens.

She was raised by bitter and controlling women, and also was a foster child. I had both parents, but my dad was on autopilot.

I can't figure out how the fuck to get out of this. She will never change. I have always been big on keeping the peace, especially now since we have a 5-yr-old boy.

Thanks for listening.

deepthrill · 2014-04-25T16:37:51+00:00

One of the girls I'm dating likes to give me a blowjob at once or twice a day every day we hang out (plus sex once or twice a day) and she said to me yesterday: "I love giving you head, it makes me happy to make you happy."

It's also her way of showing appreciation for things I do (I cook/barbecue for both of us sometimes because I love cooking). But she'd give me head regardless. She just likes to do it extra after I do something.

evilpuke · 2014-04-25T16:28:21+00:00

I'm a lot more RP than I though.

Chet_Manly0987 · 2014-04-25T16:26:36+00:00

They should be honored to have your dick shoved down their throat.

I mean, she does have a point there.

LadyLumen · 2014-04-25T22:12:24+00:00

Lastly, I am not saying that you can force someone to respect you. You can't.

Great point! Anyone who directly asks for respect by saying "You don't respect me," is not going to get respect. You have to demand respect through your actions. This involves learning when to say "no." If you think letting her pick your clothes and reading your text messages is too controlling, you need to put your foot down and say "no!"

I'm not completely red pill, I have to admit, but I do like it because it's the only place that really acknowledges that the modern day relationship dynamic is not equal. It's typically a relationship where the woman has most of the power. Any time where a man competes to even have a little of the power in the relationship, he's seen as a dick. An important part of a relationship is reciprocating sexual desire. If you make your partner beg for sex, or hold it over their head in exchange for favors, you probably don't really love them.

I understand that people have different sexual desires, and it is okay to NOT want sex sometimes. It is okay to turn your SO down for sex if you are not in the mood, feeling sick, in pain or whatever. But it's not okay to use it as some sort of bargaining chip to get ice cream, dumb movies or whatever. This is like if your boyfriend made you give him a foot massage every time you wanted to eat dinner at a fancy restaurant.

If you find yourself having absolutely no sexual desire for your SO, there is a problem, a problem that you need to work out with that person.

My current boyfriend is the first guy I've dated that I actually have a sexual desire for. Maybe it's because he's the first guy I've dated that has had some alpha characteristics. He's not afraid to fuck me hard in bed, grab me to give me a deep and passionate kiss, slap me in the face with his dick, take risks, assert his opinion in a conversation and assist in making the decisions about where we're going to go to dinner and what not.

All in all, we have a pretty egalitarian relationship though. We split all the bills for food, listen to each other's emotions, help each other out when needed, compete with each other in video games and attend to each other's sexual desires. He's actually very nice and sweet (so you can have a somewhat red pill relationship with a nice person). He's just not afraid to take charge when the moment is right.

He also has very Beta moments too, people are complex.

But yeah...if you desire and respect your man, you don't make him beg for sex (unless its part of some agreed upon kinky dynamic or something).

2014-04-25T22:14:01+00:00

I am going through the ''butt heads'' stage you mentioned in your post, I'm also female. Everything you said is exactly what sums up my relationship, and exactly how I need to start acting...something I've gotten much better at. Thank you. I really needed that. It helped more than you could imagine.

1NV0K3R · 2014-04-25T15:32:13+00:00

Just wanted to come in here and say one fucking god damn thing.

There is nothing - I repeat - nothing wrong with Harry Potter marathons.

Fuck.

SHITLORDHERE · 2014-04-25T15:41:29+00:00

If a guy has to crawl on his fucking hands and knees and beg some overweight, unappealing/unattractive house frau for the most basic affection (which is part of the marriage "contract") fucking dump her. Life is short and the door swings both ways. WTF would a man, or a woman, stay in a relationshit that is so unilateral/one-sided. |

BluepillProfessor · 2014-04-25T16:17:09+00:00

It really is such a small thing to ask! Seriously it is one of the most pleasurable things for a man and, AT WORST, it is not a soul shattering screaming orgasm experience for the woman. I can rub my wife's shoulders for 80 minutes several times a week until my fingers are sore but 5 minutes of her precious time is to much to ask? The ONLY reason to deny a quick BJ is to assert your power of denial and torment the man by showing who is in charge. The ONLY reason. Remember that next time she denies you. She might as well be laughing in your face and telling you "I am woman" you exist to serve me. I think if a man is not getting sex on demand and regular BJ's it is the WOMAN who is cheating and the man has every right to drop the heavy dread and supplement.

1701ncc · 2014-04-25T17:43:54+00:00

there is one thing I noticed in this post that is the central problem in people getting what they want (blow jobs, money, anything). If you want a blowjob, ask for a blowjob. stop dropping subtle hints or favors. Just outright ask for what you want. COMMUNICATE!! it really is that simple

Phaint · 2014-04-25T18:03:27+00:00

I enjoyed this post because it exposed a lot of TRP users in the comments.

2014-04-25T19:11:59+00:00

(Hey SRS, what's up)

Haha, I like your style.

Regarding the issue, I can only say that if I wanted to trade sexual acts like blowjobs and things like TV marathons, foot rubs or whatever like common goods, I'd go to a hooker and trade sex for money.

In a relationship is only healthy, when both are actually enjoying pleasing the other. In other words, if she doesn't want to blow him, she probably doesn't like him to begin with.

laere · 2014-04-25T20:29:12+00:00

This may be a tangent, but what's the best way to become respectable as a man? Just by taking charge and dominating? What does dominating even mean?

SkorchZang · 2014-04-26T01:12:37+00:00

Welcome to the club!

Carbone · 2014-04-26T02:41:12+00:00

For the first time in my life, I was with someone who cared more about being respected than anything else I had to offer.

And This is what I started to apply since I swallowed the pill. Now plate/girl are texting to me to come fuck them because for once they are not with a beggar. Oh and the fact that I treat there body like a piece of meat when I fuck them give a little boost.

cdlawton07 · 2014-04-26T05:03:24+00:00

I'm currently single but many of my past relationships had been that way. Me wanting it. Her saying no.

What I really appreciate now is the ability to recognize this. This only occurred to me over the past few months of bring on TRP.

Just recently I went out on 3 dates with a girl, dates went quite well. At the end of the 3rd date we kissed for 1 - 2 minutes tops. Then she pulled back and told me I'd have to wait "till next time" to get more. NOPE. Haven't texted or talked to her since, that was about 2 weeks ago. I'm not putting up with that using sex to control a relationship b.s anymore.

slaphappy · 2014-04-25T15:05:03+00:00

Really great post, motivating and insightful.

I've earned an understanding in my own life after a notably painful relationship failure: I may be meaningfully solo (romantically) the rest of my life. And I'm good with that. So while I may not ever find myself with a woman that appreciates and executes the logic in your premise, the fact that you've embraced that of your own accord and it exists SOMEWHERE make me happy for humanity.

p3ndulum · 2014-04-25T17:08:35+00:00

Too many fags in here getting hung up on the "tits or GTFO" thing. Stop getting your butts hurt over inconsequential bs. Get over it - this is a high quality post.

NoFatChicks88 · 2014-04-25T15:53:19+00:00

Thank you AWildFuckYouAppeared for your valuable input. Wish more guys would realize that there are plenty of level-headed women like you out there and we need to stop viewing you as the enemy. Thank you for being a woman that actually tries to understand men. You're awesome.

AWildFuckYouAppeared · 2014-04-25T16:20:41+00:00

A lesson in brevity could be used but high five and welcome to the club.

megatron37 · 2014-04-26T01:40:50+00:00

Thank you for stating this in a rational and logical way. I wish more people were receptive to your message.

bama79rolltide · 2014-04-25T16:35:04+00:00

First thing I noticed was that he doesn't beg me for sex. Never. Not once. He might once in a while ask me for it, but I do most of the initiating or it just happens naturally. The psychology behind this one is simple: if you don't put the pussy on a pedestal, she doesn't have anything to lord over your head. If you don't treat her like a princess in regards to sex, she won't treat you like a pauper.

This is in the red pill bible. Shit test beyond measure.

lupilipid · 2014-04-25T16:52:53+00:00

Just read the comments at /r/sex. Seriously, do they not have common sense? For a woman to be sexually attracted to a man, she needs to respect him. Even more so in a LTR. There is a reason why most women marry up.

Also x-post this to /r/RedPillWomen. Great username btw.

DoDraper · 2014-04-25T17:17:59+00:00

A whole new perspective in the survival for fittest realm I must say!

jacobman · 2014-04-25T19:19:19+00:00

Which leads me to why I'm here. Well, first, I believe I have good things to say on this blowjob matter.

I'm interested.

I just saw a thread on /r/askreddit[2] about a husband asking what movies he could watch with his wife tonight that would make her want to give him a blowjob. I laughed a little, but I knew the seriousness in this man's plea.

Blowjobs are serious things.

But, what I've found is that women take the control and the power and men are left feeling helpless.

That's what the redpill and MGTOW are for. The redpill is for those that have it in them to build enough attraction with a woman to have the power to stand your ground. MGTOW is for those that either think they don't have that in them or who are actually incapable of building that much attraction, but they refuse to compromise their expectations in response.

GuildedCasket · 2014-04-25T21:00:37+00:00

I agree with the gist of this post, even though I am not an RP woman (I float around TBP and PPD as well). It is awful when women try to control men using sex, as if sex isn't just owed to each other by the virtue of being in a relationship. They're buying into the bullcrap in the culture about how sexual desire, male desire specifically, is inherently evil and overzealous, so it is perfectly fine to take advantage of it for resources or favors.

I love, love, love sex with my partner, and feel it is my duty to satisfy him whenever possible. I love giving him blowjobs to please him if I am not horny, I am always ready to indulge his kinks and satisfy his needs. He does the same for me, and he is amazing at it. Sex is for nothing but our mutual pleasure and connection, there is no "owing". A good, healthy sex life where both partners are eager to please the other is a beautiful thing, and when people pervert it into a bargaining chip, it is horrifically sad. Respect helps protect against this, of course. If you look at your partner and only see what you can get from him/her, how is that healthy? If you look at your partner as a "turn in a blowjob for a free dinner" machine, then how can you possibly say you have a healthy relationship? Sex is such an important part of a romantic relationship.

Only_A_Username · 2014-04-26T03:04:00+00:00

The only thing that I have to say about this is that if you expect her to go down on you, it's reasonable for her to expect you to go down on her. It's just plain selfish to demand blowjobs but refuse eating her out.

Fryguy48 · 2014-04-26T06:42:18+00:00

i feel like your saying mutual respect? Isn't that common sense? WTF am i missing?!

hatchettrydar · 2014-04-26T10:23:33+00:00

Upvote for you! I agree with nearly every single thing you said here and I couldn't have said it better myself. Fellas, seriously, if your girl needs bribery to blow you, know this- some women would happily do it, love it, and rock you like a pornstar. You can get what you want.

10J18R1A · 2014-04-26T12:06:39+00:00

I feel validated. Good post.

2014-04-26T14:06:09+00:00

Dear diary,

Today OP was a pretty cool chick.

ALexusOhHaiNyan · 2014-04-26T14:17:49+00:00

TL;DR :

" No Respect = No Blowjobs "

Riusakii · 2014-04-25T17:54:38+00:00

I've tried giving advice myself on /r/deadbedrooms & /r/relationships and got met with the same griefing.

I now go to these subreddits for laughs. Reading the failure stories of betas is quite funny and entertaining.

Hrel · 2014-04-25T20:12:17+00:00

Great post! Wish there were more like you.

You may also like /r/RedPillWomen

FortunateBum · 2014-04-25T17:40:58+00:00

Baby, you should write a book. Seriously.

That said, I'm amazed that more women don't think like you. WTF is up with women? It's an epidemic.

darthfisch · 2014-04-25T16:40:00+00:00

A wonderfully written paragraph, Even if someone disagrees. I wish you many upvotes and karma for your time and input.

barcoed · 2014-04-26T07:16:13+00:00

Yes! There is nothing that is more of a turn off than a guy who pretends to be into doing all these nice things for me when he really just wants his dick sucked. I am so much more into open/honest/frank interactions.

Rubbing feet and acting all sweet to try and get bjs is CREEPY AS FUCK. Not to mention you probably think your partner is so blind that she doesn't feel how fake you are being.

By being creepy like that you are asking to be used. She knows the game and the score. She will get what she can/wants but wont get turned on, and then you will be whining on reddit later about how horrible women are.

Creep.

variances_in_thought · 2014-04-25T15:35:20+00:00

I'm a woman and agree with about 70% of this. But I will tell you that this line was straight up hot and very true:

I respect him because I genuinely respect him and he never gave me the option to not respect him.

AgentSmith27 · 2014-04-25T18:45:21+00:00

The simple fact of the matter is that most people will try to avoid doing things they don't want to do, while at the same time trying to get everything that they want.

If they don't want to have sex with you, they won't. If they don't want to give you a blowjob, they won't. At the same time, they'll try to get things from you, if you are willing to give it.

You can try a quid pro quo arrangement, or other forms of pressures, but in the end it won't fix the person or the relationship. Problems also come in when one person has a lot more to offer. The power is one sided then, and its often abused, and we are back to square one.

These situations are not always irreparable, but it will almost certainly be an uphill battle.

cooltrip · 2014-04-25T18:52:40+00:00

Sometimes I think that if a relationship doesn't work like you describe by itself and without a need of the man and the woman having to take efforts to make it work like that, then there is no true mutual interest between the man and the woman.

For everything else, political incorrectness.

PlusGoody · 2014-04-25T20:02:56+00:00

"Not enough blow jobs" is not even this guy's problem.

His problem is that he and wife don't give a shit about each other.

Giving his wife a foot rub is a burden he undertakes for quid pro quo? What an asshole.

Making him degrade his mind for two hours by watching a stupid movie for the hope of sex? What a bitch.

SheepKing · 2014-04-25T21:25:08+00:00

Its not being nice which is a problem, its being a faggot

dowork91 · 2014-04-25T23:15:39+00:00

I never got this shit about blowjobs. My girlfriend will give me a blowjob because I ask. Plus, I'll return the favor and go down on her. We both like doing it. Why is it so complicated for everyone else?

Pecanpig · 2014-04-26T00:02:24+00:00

I didn't know TRP had any women in it :/

2014-04-26T08:54:03+00:00

People equate taking power or controls in the relationship makes the man a dick.

He's the one with the dick! And women like dicks. If she doesn't like dicks, she's a lesbian.

Feminists must have penis envy. They want to be the dicks and they want their men to be their bitches!

When you spend too much time trying to be the dick in the relationship you forget that you actually like them in your mouth.

gustavsmg · 2014-04-26T09:58:44+00:00

the red pill will prevail

m_m_n_ · 2014-04-26T11:44:40+00:00

Does anyone else become worried at the nature of humanity if we take passive behavior as a cue to become the 'more powerful' and 'dominant' and 'in control'?

Hardparty · 2014-04-25T16:16:01+00:00

Where do I find one of you /u/awildfuckyouappeared

iDont_too · 2014-04-25T18:35:43+00:00

Where on gods green earth can I find a women like this, blowjob and a massage, this guy hit the jackpot

iDont_too · 2014-04-25T18:45:41+00:00

I'd be interested to know what you respect about your husband? I also think there's a fine line between having confidence and standing up for yourself and being an abusive idiot.

the99percent1 · 2014-04-25T22:44:19+00:00

Long piece of text, what the fuck is wrong with you people up voting this jargon to top of trp...

yummybits · 2014-04-25T15:55:10+00:00

Relationships are power struggles. Whoever wants the other one more ultimately loses and the other one holds all the cards. If a man rejects woman's advances and does what he wants, he's essentially saying that he can get any pussy he wants and doesn't need the current one, and in the woman's mind it's registering as "Ohh, he must have tons of other girls to fuck, since he's rejecting me, I better act extra nice and do what he wants, because he might leave me".

Quite simply really. This is essentially what women been doing to men since the beginning, and that's why they reject us so easily, we just never realized it. Abundance mentally goes a long way.

The more we don't want them, the more they want us. The more we want them, the less they want us.

BTW, the OP is a liar, he's a guy, not a girl ;) Check his history.

whoops_fap · 2014-04-25T21:30:45+00:00

There is no comparable reciprocal act for a man to perform on a woman in exchange for a blowjob. The blowjob itself is her reward, if that ever changes ditch the bitch.

Ferinex · 2014-04-25T16:10:20+00:00

Didn't we have a TITS OR GTFO post about announcing your gender?

rztzz · 2014-04-25T16:21:02+00:00

Great post. You're exactly what I want in a wife. I cringe so hard at most relationship advice from women to women, especially the "you deserve to always have his everything" sentiments.

What I love about this sub is it promotes takin reaponsibility from both genders. Right now it's me who desides to fuck most of the time. Almost no blowjobs though. Yes, I believe if my current girlfriend regularly blew me with enthusiasm, I would put more effort into our relationship. However I know that it's my responsibility to make her want that.

KandPol · 2014-04-26T00:33:51+00:00

I think heterosexual humans are not embracing of the Top/Bottom partner differentiation that homosexuals very often times embrace.

There seems to be this stigma that if a straight male is a bottom to a female partner, not in regards to getting it up the turd cutter with a feeldo, but in regards to not being aggressive, or the outgoing one, or the dominant member of the relationship.

This seems to be a very in depth aspect to homosexual relationships and it also seems to exist in heterosexual relationships but is not discussed.

Maybe it is the stigma against straight males being submissive to a female, of not being "Alpha" of it being a sign of weakness to peers.

Someone whining and crying like a little bitch about not getting their D S'd on Reddit is obviously not an alpha. But perhaps they are shamed into wearing the scarlet B for bottom in the relationship.

Check your alpha privilege ladies and stop shaming your little bottom boyfriends.

BluepillProfessor · 2014-04-25T21:09:11+00:00

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joansez · 2014-04-26T02:04:21+00:00

I'm a woman, and I have NEVER been in a relationship where I've gotten 'everything I've wanted' -- never. It's always been a two-way street with me. I never, EVER felt that I had power over any of the men I've been with. NEVER. I can't even imagine feeling this way. You were accustomed to getting everything you wanted in relationships? Really? That has NEVER happened to me. I can also say that I was never bossy, pushy, rude, or disrespectful to a man I was with. I never thought of myself as someone who could do that to another person, or who would even WANT to do that. That kind of person sounds just awful to me. Why would any man -- any PERSON -- put up with that shit? Seriously? You actually WANTED to be with men who were such saps? I have honestly NEVER been with a man like that. Why would you even find that attractive? My husband and I have respect for one another; neither of us had to DEMAND it or grab for it like it was a weapon. He treats me with respect -- he always has. I do the same for him. Where do you even FIND guys like the ones you describe? And that's attractive? You make it sound like your relationships were nothing but some kind of game where you came out the winner. Why would you want to do that to someone? Was that fun? Was it enjoyable to you holding your pussy in front of your men like some kind of carrot? What the hell? I don't think it's the men in your life that need training, I think it's YOU. It sounds like you were horrible to the men you were with. It sounds like you treated them like dirt. Maybe you finally grew up and realized you weren't God's gift to the weak, spineless, panting, horny men you chose to be with for some inane reason. Whatever it is, good luck with your current relationship. I'm glad you finally got your head out of your ass, stopped thinking of yourself as a fucking goddess, and finally considered someone else's needs.

Monstermart · 2014-04-26T03:43:37+00:00

I dont see how giving a footrub for a blowjob is wrong. Its an exchange of services. You pay money for food at a restaurant, its basically the same thing.

-nyx- · 2014-04-26T10:54:20+00:00

The only offensive thing about what you wrote is

"You need to train her" in my opinion.

It's not nice to talk about people that way. You don't train people like you train an animal.

That and the word "alpha" makes me cringe every time someone uses it.

LalaGotLoot · 2014-04-26T15:05:07+00:00

Jesus fucking Christ, it's her decision to decide to give her one or not. I'm not going to give oral sex to someone if I don't get something in return, why is that so fucking bad?

And women walking all over you? How the fuck does that imply that at all? He wants a blowjob, she wants to watch a movie

170612 · 2014-04-26T04:22:29+00:00

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rating_ · 2014-04-26T13:51:07+00:00

offering my husband a massage in return for him letting me suck his dick.

Lol, slut. A woman should not enjoy sex, she should tolerate it.

HighAngleAlpha0331 · 2014-04-26T04:56:55+00:00

Who up votes this shit?

Title	A Woman's Perspective on Getting a Blowjob
Author	AWildFuckYouAppeared
Upvotes	554
Comments	357
Date	April 25, 2014 2:39 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/23ycm5/a_womans_perspective_on_getting_a_blowjob/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/TheRedPill/a-womans-perspective-on-getting-a-blowjob.14595 https://theredarchive.com/post/14595

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