After her big work promotion, chubby wife doesn’t want sex

athrowaway-9001 · 2021-06-17T16:20:41+00:00

Head off to married redpill and they'll get you into shape-- most importantly you have to put in the work and effort. Look at the OYS threads.

henrysmyagent · 2021-06-17T18:12:46+00:00

Leave. Her. Now.

I didn't say divorce. If you're not ready then your not ready, but stop settling for her bullshit marriage.

Remember, she is getting all of the NO SEX she wants. You are the one with the "problem" so you need to solve it.

Talk to a divorce attorney to map out a game plan to protect yourself. Once she realizes her pussy, or the denial of it, is not enough to keep you around she will go rogue.

Do. Not. Fuck. Her. Ever. Again.

Lots of women suddenly fall pregnant, just out of the blue, when they know their man is leaving them.

First thing you need to do is move her shit out of the master bedroom. That is a place reserved for your wife, not your roommate.

Roomies sleep in their own room.

Stop rewarding her selfish behavior by treating your roommate like a wife!

319Skew · 2021-06-17T16:14:46+00:00

Think about it this way. You get one life. You chosen to marry and give your nut to her.

She's chosen to let herself go.

You can choose to be in a sexless marriage with a growing orca.

You can choose to cheat since you're a sexual being.

You can choose to end it and enjoy the freedom.

The choice, cost and consequences are on you.

BranchCovidianZealot · 2021-06-17T16:45:42+00:00

Stories like this remind me of how free I am, and how glad I am I never allowed myself to get caught in the marriage trap. Thank you.

heathrowaway678 · 2021-06-17T16:58:53+00:00

My family would go ape shit if I got divorced. Our families are very close.

Who cares? They will forget within a year. They will likely gain more respect for you for not putting up to that whale anymore. And I mean both families.

I’ve worked hard renovating the house and don’t want to lose it.

Who cares? Sell the house, move to a nice apartment.

I’m also much better with money have have a huge 401k.

How does that matter? If you are good at money, then you will recover from any short-term divorce financial hit soon

I used to loathe infidelity but am inching in that direction.

Don't do that just yet. Go find a No More Mr Nice Guy group, do assertiveness training with a therapist, go to the gym to get bulk. Do all three things right away and in parallel. Once you figure out your own psychological issues, take that fat bitch to couples therapy and tell her that you are not putting up with her shit anymore. You can't fight the whale without making yourself strong though.

Dirty-anal-weebo · 2021-06-17T16:12:15+00:00

Withdraw 401k go on a lavish vacation and enjoy yourself, this is doomed from the get go. Go out in a blAze of glory and hookers.

Ultimately you can look up the resources of MRP. Learn from other guys and their mistakes.. and see if there’s any strategies you can use to salvage it.

MattyAnon · 2021-06-17T17:49:05+00:00

I’ve worked hard renovating the house and don’t want to lose it.

So instead you share it with a fat woman who won't fuck you.

I’m new to TRP. How would a RP expert proceed in my situation?

Look in married red pill.

Generally they recommend dread game.

Seriously consider divorce though, if you don't have kids.

If you do, cheat.

You didn't ask for this shit, and you shouldn't have to suffer it.

beginner_ · 2021-06-17T19:25:13+00:00

Sunken cost fallacy. Cut your loses asap. Yes it will suck in short sight but you sill be so glad you did it couple years down the road.

adam-l · 2021-06-17T19:39:30+00:00

'49. You are still young. No kids. Sex was never good.

This is a clear divorce.

Don't do the same mistake and remarry. Pull a "Stalinist": five year plans, then next.

T-toborn · 2021-06-17T16:17:33+00:00

The RP thing to do is whats best for u, u have 2 optiosn either divorce or get a side piece, given ur situation getting some strange on the side is the easier option

adam-l · 2021-06-17T19:57:01+00:00

Go to married RP unless you want the advice of 20 somethings with little to no LTR experience

MrNeurotypical · 2021-06-17T20:02:05+00:00

Same thing happened to me but it was more like the kids went off to school, we left the farm for the suburbs, and she had all this time on her hands. It turns out that women slowly lose their estrogen and progesterone. I gave my wife estrogen and progesterone cream. I'd apply the progesterone vaginally and now she gets wet naturally and has a strong vaginal wall but she's also horny as hell. I started working on giving her orgasms and once she got a taste of that she became a nympho. Next I convinced her that our health was our most important asset and if we don't work out 3x/wk we will have very poor outcomes. So we go do an hour at the gym 3x/wk now. Now I have a nympho porn star riding my cock 3hrs/day.

i-am-the-prize · 2021-06-17T16:30:05+00:00

get on the /marriedredpill sub, not here.

setup a new kindle account on a new email address she doesn't know about, use read.amazon.com site to read, not a physical kindle. buy:

"Mindful Attraction Plan: Your Practical Roadmap to Creating the Life, Love and Success You Want" by Athol Kay (and rational male series, and the other sidebar reads)

Get on mrp and read other people's OYS and start posting yours there. a few things

your stay plan is your go plan
- you need to level up for yourself. if it ends up 'saving' the marriage, great, if not, no biggie, you're ready for a great life
you need to stop worrying about what your family/her family will 'say'.
- this is your life. period. you need to be your locus of control and your primary judge
you need to be sure you want sex for the pleasure, vs. validation.
- huge part of bad sex life in many men, and christian good guys
you're not the first, nor will you be the last going through this. read how others have bettered their lives by putting themselves first and living congruently.

MikeAlphaGolf · 2021-06-17T19:26:29+00:00

No kids? Divorce is always on the table.

VanillaG69 · 2021-06-17T17:29:36+00:00

Just cheat lmao shits not rocket science

shubhidoobi · 2021-06-17T17:16:42+00:00

You need Dread 101

Don_Draper27 · 2021-06-17T17:21:19+00:00

I recommend reading the sidebar in the marriedRP subreddit. Read all of the books as well. Do so before posting another question.

Also, look up the levels of dread and apply them today.

Saying that you "can't get away during the day" is absolutely ridiculous. Just leave often and don't say where you went.

And most importantly, take a very hard look at yourself. What are your 1RP in the gym? What's your body fat percentage?

It's easy to consider cheating as an option, but be honest with yourself. Maybe your wife doesn't want to fuck you because nobody does.

itiswr1tten · 2021-06-17T16:37:27+00:00

I wrote this post specifically for you!

https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/cnqwfc/infidelity

The reality is you're almost unquestionably a gigantic pussy and your fat asexual wife is YOUR FAULT.

What have YOU done to maintain your attractiveness? What do YOU do to lead your wife into the behavior you want?

Post this to askmrp. You'll be shredded to ribbons but it'll be good for you

btrpb · 2021-06-17T19:27:57+00:00

Man the fuck up and get divorced. I feel you, I was involved in intertwined families, and had property I'd thrown my life into and I was the main bread winner.

But seriously, you're 49 and are worried about your family going ape shit? You need to grow some balls. I remember telephoning around all my family telling them I was getting divorced. Was it unpleasant? Yes. But then my life was moving forward again.

Or you could just wank into a sock every night for the rest of your life. Your call.

GrandmasterHurricane · 2021-06-17T22:09:21+00:00

You've been married 20 years to some cow and you have nothing to show for it. Why the fuck are you with this beast? You have NO kids, you're NOT fucking, she's NOT attractive, AND she's giving you an attitude all the time. Seriously what is the point of this "marriage"? Are you that pathetic and weak that you would rather be tied down to a hippopotamus than be by yourself? This is crazy!

You're 49, you hit the gym, you have money, you have a career, you have experience, and you're tuned to TRP. Dude, you're about to exit your prime and you have NOTHING to show for it. You could be getting with younger, more submissive, more fun, and less stressful girls that would actually ENHANCE your life! You're wasting your time and your years. Your marriage sounds like garbage. Leave her and get living son! What the hell is this shit? And don't even bother try to tell me that you want this to work, it WON'T. She is who she is. You can't change her. She's comfortable in her lifestyle and is content with absolute mediocrity. Find you better girls. You literally have no reason to be with her. If you want a proper companion, get a dog. You need to be out there dating younger women!

Also, who cares WHAT your family thinks? This is YOUR life! Your family aren't the ones in a miseravle and pathetic marriage. You know you made a mistake marrying her, so fix your mistake. LEAVE! Quit being a little phaggot and grow some balls dude godamn! You're a grown ass man! Have you forgotten that? You're a GROWN ADULT! Yet you're living for your family? Did they buy you your house? Do they pay your bills? Give me a fucking break! Don't cheat on the cow, because that would make things a lot worse in court. Go speak to a lawyer about divorce and how you can keep as much as you can.

Huffnagle · 2021-06-17T20:09:47+00:00

You know why divorce costs so much?

It’s worth it.

The rest of your one life is at stake. I wasted some years trying to decide if I should divorce my wife. I was broke for a few years, but never regretted it, not for 10 seconds. One of the highlights of my life was the day she called to bitch at me and I simply hung up the phone without a word… Free

You’re worried about money. Money ain’t shit if you’re miserable. Broke guys can get pussy. Besides, with no kids to support, you’ll end up splitting shit in half, you’ll be fine. That house? Fuck that house! Either buy her out or fix up another one. The families? Fuck them too. Only you get to decide how to live your life, they can eat a bag of dicks if they don’t like it.

Getting divorced kinda sucks, being divorced is pretty nice.

Lisichka_smokem · 2021-06-17T19:24:59+00:00

Well you can always talk to her alot of people here think that communication is beta af its not tell her that you want sex and for her to lose a few pounds if not then talk with her about eventually divorce common man get to that abundance mindset either she does this things or you leave tell her the choice is her show her that you mean it if she wants a divorce so what ur a man who has stacks and takes care of himself its not like no chick would let u dig her actually quite the opposite

jlwip · 2021-06-17T20:20:30+00:00

Copied & pasted from another redpiller a while back:

Since you have a significant amount of money in your accounts you may want to start withdrawing it and hiding the cash. Then start attending AA and/ or gambling addiction support groups for several months. Have the chairperson sign your attendance sheet that you keep for your records. If there's a casino near you withdraw money from their on site atm and keep the receipts. If you get divorced and the judge wants to seize your assets you will have proof that you drank and gambled it all away. You will also have your cash to fall back on once the dust settles.

SenorTonto · 2021-06-17T21:40:08+00:00

no kids? shit get the hell outta there brother. You are only 49 and she most likely isnt going to change. Sounds like you are in a good position my dude. Making money, fit, set for retirement... Yea go live your life without her

FuzzyDice12 · 2021-06-17T21:56:47+00:00

Don’t cheat, prepare for divorce(lawyer tf up ASAP). You have no kids, no offense but this is pretty much the perfect situation for a divorce and you are being a moron about it.

tradsouthernmale · 2021-06-17T22:02:32+00:00

No kids? Get an attorney and figure out the best way out. You've got some great years ahead of you. No need to be anchored to a shitty wife.

There is absolutely NO REASON for you to be married to her.

NONE.

scorned · 2021-06-17T22:29:20+00:00

You are inching closer to death everyday and you are a genetic dead end. What the "families" would think if you divorced is the least of your problems lmao.

covertpenguin3390 · 2021-06-18T04:36:58+00:00

Sunk cost fallacy. You can stay with her and be forever unhappy and ruin the one life you got, but ohhhhh you get to keep your stupid fucking house that has that beached whale in it every day repulsing you from being able to enjoy it anyways.

Or you could pull the band aid, lose half your shit, still be richer than most Americans, and be FREE. Freedom is happiness and that combined with time (you only have a little of this left) are the two most valuable things on planet earth. What’s the point of money if you’re not happy and wasting your time while you sleep on it like a dragon.

Quit being a cuck and get a divorce. Who cares about what your family thinks. You have like 10-15 years of your life left before you start shitting in a bag. Do something with it.

Wtfbyamey · 2021-06-18T05:47:05+00:00

My man, you have failed trp badly, if you are calling and keeping a chubby woman as your wife, You should have divorced her ass when she started being overweight Or atleast warned her Women might want sex , but they don’t “need it” Men , on the other hand, it’s a necessity for them, not a choice. So I will advise you to have a affair, or atleast pretend that you are having one, That way it can create jealousy and ignite possessive within her, and she might start giving you sex again to keep you with her But if the damage is beyond that Which I think it is (given your married sexual history) I don’t think you have any other choice than hiring escorts/affair to get sex

Ps:- I don’t intend to spread negative thoughts or demotivate you Just telling you hard facts and viable option The problem isn’t you You are in decent shape The problem is her Usually women don’t have sex only in 3 conditions Either she’s ill( which I don’t think applies to your case) She already getting it somewhere else( in which case, the ship has already sailed) Or she’s asexual ( nothing you can change )

In either of the last 2 cases, you should get sex somewhere else Hope you do what best suits you, and get laid soon

anonymous_3246 · 2021-06-18T08:38:53+00:00

Please head to biblicalgenderroles.com he’s an anonymous Christian blogger who has written much about this topic. After that head over to biblicalsexology.com (written by the same guy). Your wife not giving you sex is completely her fault and you don’t have to do anything to earn that. She has an obligation to look good for you and keep you satisfied. Read his blogs and you’re going to understand better.

kclanton80 · 2021-06-17T18:52:18+00:00

Divorce. Take the hit to be happy.

CoyoteMiyamoto · 2021-06-17T19:41:05+00:00

Brother, drop her. It's easier said than done, but you'll be the happiest mf on earth afterwards. As you've said, it's good you don't have any children. This makes the whole situation a whole lot easier. Her body isn't going to get any younger, nor will her tits be firm and bouncy all of a sudden. Go through the desert and you'll find the ocean.

You're not old yet. Still got your late 40s, 50s and 60s ahead of you. Those are good years if you take care of yourself. And the stress will take a toll on you if you're in an unhappy marriage. It's your choice and your fate. We can't push you decisions. Do what makes you happy.

ChadBreeder1 · 2021-06-17T19:57:22+00:00

I think you should explain to her that you need sex and that if she isn’t down for that it’s ok but that instead a good compromise will be to just jack off over her body and just bust on her face every time. I believe that she will change her stance rather quickly.

omega_dawg93 · 2021-06-17T20:13:42+00:00

OP, there is no rewind button on this thing called life.

you can't live based on how your family feels, how her family feels, or how the families feel about each other. fuck all dat.

your story is very similar to mine: my ex got into corporate life, got the big money, and let herself go. the stress caused her anger management issues and eating issues. she went to the gym but after 3 months and no IMMEDIATE BREATH TAKING results, i heard, "love isn't about a dress size." she quit.

i said ok... and found a nice lil Asian side piece and a red head fire goddess who kept me busy... my balls stayed empty. after about 4 months of no sex with my ex, she got the clue.

i left... just one day, grabbed my shit and didn't look back.

after losing our relationship to anger & food, she is now on a mission to "find herself" by traveling around with a bunch of single women... jumping on dick after dick and collecting cum.

that's not my issue and your wife's behavior after you won't be yours... as many women jump on the cock carousel AFTER marriage.

no kids makes it very easy... so just go bc being with someone you don't want sucks while she's not sucking.

cfbovernfl · 2021-06-17T20:20:31+00:00

I can't take overweight people seriously. If you don't have enough respect for your own body and health, you surely can't have respect for the work and ideas you produce.

Welcome to the sub. Read the sidebar, get out of this marriage and best of luck ahead.

ENTPunisher · 2021-06-17T20:26:30+00:00

This is your fault that you sent your wife out to be a man and work 40 hours a week, get influenced by a bunch of bitchy friends, and inflate like a land whale. It's probably too late to reverse the effects of her lifetime career, so good luck with that.

A woman's place is in the home: cooking, cleaning, caring for children - which you don't have, which is good because then you'd transmit your poor leadership to the next generation.

grimbasement · 2021-06-17T21:04:22+00:00

Why is divorce so expensive? Because it's worth it. Yeah it'll suck to liquidate but hanging around in a unfulfilling relationship for the rest of your days is far greater a price to pay. No kids so sell the house take your half and all the 401k and let the cow graze. Should be able to amicably separate assets as many jurisdictions are a no fault 50/50 split. Alternatives to this may be open relationship negotiations but the Jesus book likely says no to that unless you're an Old Testament kind of guy where concubines and polygamy were the norm. Lots of options for a go getter dudes though so don't sell yourself short. The lack of sex is likely because of how she feels about letting herself go but I'm just a random dude on the interwebs. Do a old school HONEST positives and negatives list of staying and going. Get to the point of whether your life with her is a net positive or a net negative then act accordingly.

Jessor69 · 2021-06-17T21:19:06+00:00

She gets first crack at your libido, not sole custody. If she doesn't want sex, I'm sure she won't mind if you source it somewhere else.

Efficient_Film_149 · 2021-06-17T21:31:57+00:00

Hire someone that knows how to move money. Lose large sum of said “money”. Divorce

Qawali · 2021-06-17T22:29:04+00:00

Slightly unrelated but your mission kinda sucks. Its extremely undefined and unmeasurable. Like yea bro, everyone wants a “happy fulfilling and productive life.” What the fuck do you truly want? Specifically?

yobrozedx · 2021-06-20T12:54:10+00:00

First of all, if your family is not caring enough to understand your situation and help, they are not worth your mental peace. You dont have to stay miserable for their happiness if they dont care about your pain.

Secondly, if you have one truly trustable friend that you can trust by your life, you can transfer your wealth/money to him legally, in the form of a gift house, car, etc. Once this matter is dealt with, he can "gift" it back to you? This way maybe you wont have to loose your wealth.

For your house, maybe sell it before filing a divorce case so you may have atleast half the money to buy a new one. Better live in a smaller house with sex than a larger one with pricks.

RedkindasusNGL · 2021-06-17T17:05:20+00:00

Kinda your fault man. You really need to think about how you’ve supported her other than money or sex. Think about the emotional role you have.

SeasonedRP · 2021-06-17T17:32:47+00:00

I'd avoid taking advice from MRP. It's not RP; it's tradcons with backgrounds like yours who view women as perfect and sinless and men always at fault. And you won't get specific answers to how to go about infidelity. In those circles, only women get to have fun outside the marital relationship, not men.

CrossroadsinCtown · 2021-06-17T19:57:05+00:00

Is your name Art Vandalay?

lolomotif12 · 2021-06-17T20:00:21+00:00

Sorry but fuck what the parents would think about a divorce, it's your life. You make the decisions and don't be influenced by anyone.

In your mind you already know what the right thing to do is, divorce. However, in your case you will lose a lot financially it seems and I understand your concern.

I personally would try save as much of my money as possible wether by spending it and treating myself or in other ways. I'd rather blow it on holidays, cocaine and hookers over letting the ex wife have it. Wink wink*

You make a pretty good living so even if you divorce you will still be financially comfortable. You are 49 and time is ticking, so enjoy the rest of your freedom with no worries, no sexless marriage and no headaches.

All the best

twonomore · 2021-06-17T20:21:40+00:00

You don't have a 401k, you both do. That is how the court sees it.

If you spend money on other women, the court may try to make you repay your wife.

I decided my freedom was priceless- the divorce basically set me back 20 years. I am rebuilding, I don't regret it.

fxspeculator · 2021-06-17T20:24:04+00:00

You've got one life, and you are afraid of everything that surrounds you.

Seyda0 · 2021-06-17T20:27:19+00:00

I've been selling roofs (underlayment replacement 90% of the time) for a few years now. Becoming an architect has always been in the back of my mind. I am early 30s, still young definitely. But I don't want to be dealing with little old ladies and selling patios the rest of my life.

Advice on joining the field of architecture?

PatchThePiracy · 2021-06-17T20:46:51+00:00

Divorce on the grounds of sexual immorality.

For her to deny sex to you, her spouse, is just plain wrong. NO woman in her right mind can expect her husband to not seek sex elsewhere when he can't get any at home.

ThickDickWarrior89 · 2021-06-17T21:23:53+00:00

Several things wrong here. First of all, who gives a fuck if your family would “go ape shyt” this is your life; not theirs. Second of all, major problem- she’s chubby AND she doesn’t fuck. Two negative qualities that greatly amplify it they’re paired together. Third her weight gain is accelerating. And you say you’re 6 foot, pullin in 6 figures, shyt bro just go out and fuck some tail like there is no tomorrow. Tell her either 1, or both, of 2 things: you’re going out for a boys night out or you’ve got a major project at work that you HAVE to stay late for and will have very limited access to your mobile phone.

BiasedBavarian · 2021-06-17T21:33:52+00:00

Divorce, ASAP. You’re not attracted to her anymore, and she isn’t even giving you sex, nor cooking, two things which are pretty important in a marriage.

Greaterbird · 2021-06-17T23:06:36+00:00

Were you attracted to her when you married?

TominatorXX · 2021-06-17T23:23:58+00:00

Divorce is the answer. Screw the family. You only get one shot at this life.

BlondeHornyElf · 2021-06-17T23:44:05+00:00

many such cases!

brianmcg321 · 2021-06-17T23:49:00+00:00

You care way to much about what your family thinks. Divorce is expensive because its worth it.

stripedtanker · 2021-06-17T23:50:23+00:00

Cant you hide money via cryptos just have a secret wallet.

Also use the church divorce taboo thing to your advantage. Try to live separate lives and be like hey hon, since it's taboo to divorce let's keep it a secret. No divorce rape and both people happier.

WonderfulPipe · 2021-06-18T00:01:30+00:00

I know it's complicated and I wont pretend to understand it, but I'd say just go for the divorce man, seems like the most obvious thing you need, the only thing stopping you is literally what family will say and money, but you'd be free. You said it, you're not even attracted to her anymore. And you won't be hiding and cheating, so it's a win win.

mrrooftops · 2021-06-18T00:20:07+00:00

In your situation, the most cliched but the best advice is to read read read the sidebar. If you are looking for shortcuts, there's your problem.

Maleficent_Agent1121 · 2021-06-18T00:55:40+00:00

It sounds like you’re miserable in your marriage. Which sounds worse to you, staying in a sexless marriage to someone you aren’t attracted to or divorce and some negative opinions? You said you’re good with finances and money, you will recover.

anonyree · 2021-06-18T01:35:06+00:00

Paid consult with 3 diff lawyers. Look for a good one, not cheap one. Make an exit.plan with the most competent one

ImTheDoubleGreatest · 2021-06-18T01:53:17+00:00

“Sell” your house and your assets to your brother or parents for like $1 and keep paying for everything but through THEIR accounts. Have her stop paying for any utility bills, property taxes, etc. under the guise of “hey honey, you seem stressed, don’t worry about paying for this stuff cuz I got you. Feel free to treat yourself 🙂”

During this time, quit your job but sign a paper saying you can come back to them whenever; basically just take a leave of absence to where you’re technically out of the system. This ensures that you technically have less income than her. You can either file your taxes as joint or separate, doesn’t matter. Joint might mean that if you’re lucky, you can get her to pay you alimony or spousal support lol.

Stay this way for a year or so before divorcing her (however long it’ll take for you to report having a low income).

DismalBread · 2021-06-18T02:41:02+00:00

No kids? Just divorce.

Ay-Bee-Sea · 2021-06-18T02:59:31+00:00

I'd go see a lawyer, see what the actual monetary consequences are. Don't care about your family's opinion, they will soon understand that you're just trying to be happy. Why would an affair destroy you? It's not that hard to hide.

comcain · 2021-06-18T03:32:12+00:00

I've been through a divorce. It was a bumpy road but absolutely worth it. If I had to put up with her borderline personality one more day, I would have flipped out.

I'm sorry, brother. You're in for some tough times whatever you do. Stay strong in this time of trial.

Cheers

Chemical-Illustrious · 2021-06-18T03:54:02+00:00

Leave her. Do it. For two weeks. Ghost her fuckinf ass. It’ll be worth it. She’ll fuck your brains out after it. I promise. Fuck all other advice on here. Just follow this

roguesupport2021 · 2021-06-18T03:55:05+00:00

Incorporate and loan securities/assets to the corporation. This will give you LESS control but more security for what you have worked for.

Real Estate you have to abandon. Sorry, but that's just the facts. You are best just letting her have it. Only the lawyers profit from divorce.

It baffles me that incorporating is not the number one topic for ALL men here. Incorporation DOES NOT REQUIRE A BUSINESS, NOR ARE YOU REQUIRED TO EVEN MAKE MONEY! It's a myth.

Think of a corporation as a store of your surplus value. It's not "illegal", and nor is it a "scheme"; It's something men have done for hundreds of years to protect their assets.

It's the one part of the West, that the feminists haven't fucked up (because it confuses them) and a corporation is a PERSON under the law. Have that new PERSON lien your name, and the divorce court simply has to wait in line for a century or so.

I STRONGLY encourage ALL of TRP to learn about incorporation. You can literally become a "slave" of a PERSON you created, and it is iron-clad legal protection from ALL women.

I'm not a lawyer, but I'm famous among them for asking "Why?" when called to the Bar. I'm why you now have to pay a "calling fee" (Yes, in Ontario, the call to the Bar is literally a collect call). Since this IS "Legal Advice", that means I can NEVER demand ANY valuable consideration for that advice, nor can I profit in ANY measurable way. Trust what I say is true, but VERIFY it. I STRONGLY ENCOURAGE you to consult with a lawyer to confirm this. You will not that they will get VERY nervous when you talk about liening your name. This is because they don't want to touch a security, you have claimed. THEY become surety for what they do, and they don't like that kind of liability. They will confirm that it's not illegal, and will make sure you understand that they NEVER said it was. Get ready for some strange behavior, but you WILL verify what I say here.

Protect yourself; Incorporate.

bouncedeck · 2021-06-18T04:41:21+00:00

Grow up and get a divorce. It will hurt but most married men these days go through it. You are a man, you should be ready to make hard choices. If you can make an up front payment to eliminate continuous payments to her. Chances are she will jump at it and you can then never talk to her again. You don't have kids, get over yourself and the family garbage and explain the situation to your father or whomever you really care about and move on. If they don't like it and can't respect your decision that is their problem.

Ensifror · 2021-06-18T06:10:06+00:00

Meet a lawyer and work out a plan to lose as little as possible in the divorce. Legally. You don't want to do something illegal and end up paying more. You might be able to salvage enough to recover swiftly if you do it right.

Then enjoy the single life.

You need to ignore family pressures. Your happiness should be more important than her families, or even your families selfish desire to stay friends with eachother.

anonymous_3246 · 2021-06-18T08:34:15+00:00

Please look into biblicalgenderroles.com he’s a Christian blogger who has written much about this topic.

sofferenzah · 2021-06-18T12:48:12+00:00

Well done on the stats man! I know you're asking for advice but what advice would you give to a 20 y/o! You've definitely done well in terms of the financial aspect of life!

Thoth_X · 2021-06-18T14:14:25+00:00

Bite the bullet and get the divorce. Prepare yourself beforehand.

ay-fuh-q · 2021-06-18T15:50:04+00:00

Sex has never been great between us.

In other words, you shoved your head in the sand and married a woman with whom sucked (clearly, no pun intended) in bed. You CHOSE this life.

If divorce is “off the table,” you’re still choosing it. Congrats!

spillledmilk · 2021-06-18T22:03:55+00:00

Lol. You’re an awesome Christian.

Kevlar__Soul · 2021-07-04T01:52:53+00:00

First get the idea of you have a large 401k and she doesn’t. Once you signed the marriage license it we, not hers and mine. She gets half of everything accumulated during your marriage doesn’t matters who’s name is on the account.

You been married a long time and as long as she isn’t being a terrible, a dead bedroom and her losing weight isn’t that hard of a lift. Personally I would go to married red pill (I am there now) and give it a year of hard work and see what’s happens. Worse case is you leave but during the year you increases your value and mindset. Don’t want to leave her just to get into another dead bedroom because you made the same mistake. YES YOU

If you decide to divorce and people you know don’t like it they can go fuck themselves. It’s your life and you can always move out of state.

Read “married man sex life” and “no more mr nice guy” immediately.

Dinkydee7 · 2021-07-12T21:53:50+00:00

tauna-infp · 2021-06-17T20:07:51+00:00

Sorry but you are really selfish. You think you are something better... With your money and your body or health.

But your heart is almost non - existing.

Do you know even what love is?

She doesn't cheat on you - but she doesn't have sex with you. Did you never think about this? Did you never guess why this happens with a woman?

Do you talk with her? Do you love her? Do you ask her how her day was, what dreams she has, what she is thinking about. How her relationship with God is right now? No? - that is the biggest problem.

Because we woman need conversations. If we don't feel connected with our man through conversations and shared thoughts... Sex can't be done. Woman work like this.

"Edit: also if a woman still has sex with you, even if you don't really love her, talk to her like a best friend and share your emotions with her and connect with her on that level... Then sooner or later she will feel disgusted by you. Because she litterly has to force herself to have sex with you. That's how woman work. We don't give sex just like this, we naturally can't do this just like this. If a woman does it - she is broken and really not okay. And one day this will end really bad. "

If you are as you are and divorce her and get a new wife some day... You will have the same problem. Because you don't want to understand the woman God gave you. All you want is to fuck her and her looking perfect just as in your dream - world.

But no woman would be happy to have a husband who only wants his own wishes to be served and only his hopes to come alife.

I promise you - if you really start loving her and connecting with her emotionally - she will want to have sex with you again.

Man are not woman and vice versa. We work different.

So the problem is actually also on you. You don't want to love her and she can't have sex with you because of this and maybe that's why you also don't love her. This is bad. Someone has to take a humble step and make things better.

I hope it is you - because I guess you think you are better, wiser and even more mature than your wife. So profe this to the world, God and your wife.

Also woman sometimes don't care about their appearance anymore, when they feel that their husband's don't love her anymore. So this is also a problem.

The Bible says woman should respect their husband's and man should love their wifes.

So you do your part? Do you actually do your part? Or do you think woman are machines? If they don't "work" you have to replace them?

How about actually fixing the problem? She loves you, or she would never marry you.

Also a man should be to his woman like christ to his bride. Do you really gave your all? Or is that heart of yours stone cold?

2021-06-18T04:15:38+00:00

If you had kids and were actually practicing your religion then your life would have some purpose. Currently your life is meaningless which is why you're looking for meaning from a basic physical pleasure like sex.

ThatCub3K1d · 2021-06-17T20:44:09+00:00

My advice is prepare for divorce. If you get caught cheating she gets everything in a divorce. If you prepare a divorce and get well enough legal help she's (hopefully) not gonna be able to get very much from you. I would get as much advice and legal help as possible beforehand without her knowing, the more time you have to prepare before her the better for you. Your goal here is to maintain as many financial assets as possible. Once your divorced your free to have as much sex with as many women as you want. If you want a fulfilling relationship later on again you can look for that again when the time comes, maybe don't marry for financial reasons, but you could make another ltr happen in the future. Who cares what your family is gonna think. Either they want you to be happy and will understand, or they don't and they aren't people you should have in your life. Let them do or say whatever they're gonna do or say and be done with them as soon as you can. So long as they aren't hurting you or your mission it doesn't fucking matter. And if they are find ways to prevent them from doing so, solve your fucking problems. That's my advice at least, don't cheat you'll be financially ruined, prepare for divorce before her get the best possible legal argument you can, and fuck the haters. Or you can try to use more rp techniques in the relationship and lead her info having more sex, maybe she'll even see your value and raise hers if she's worried you might leave.

berttbeans996 · 2021-06-17T18:25:43+00:00

It all just depends on you and what you look like and what your SMV is. And your woman will reflect that.

jacknthepeenstalk · 2021-06-17T21:19:58+00:00

do NOT cheat!!! For fuck sake, thats how you get divorced and lose everything!! thats how you spiral out of the control and regret shit once she takes your house and starts fucking dudes in your bed. it will happen trust me. go on a vacation and get attention from other women. look good. dress good. improve your self esteem. hit on the waitress. dont do any of this around your wife. but for god sake dont cheat. ive been on both ends of cheating - its terrible. improve your confidence and she will come around.

Snoo87499 · 2021-06-17T21:54:19+00:00

Make a business put all your assets and your money under your business, I’m sure she can’t access that once you do that. Get outta there don’t waste time bro

NoFaithInThisSub · 2021-06-18T05:56:56+00:00

RPChristians and MRP might be able to help you better

Title	After her big work promotion, chubby wife doesn’t want sex
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Date	June 17, 2021 4:04 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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