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[–]iamthatguyiam 260 points261 points262 points 4 years ago* (19 children) | Copy Link
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[–]HamsterSashimi 280 points281 points282 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Sex mid walk tho?
[–]moortin19 62 points63 points64 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
A new Olympic sport
[–]ZZWALDOOO 39 points40 points41 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
It's called ranked competitive sex
[–]ricewheelie 10 points11 points12 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If you make her orgasm while brisk walking you are 7000mmr/immortal
[–]Sometimes_She_Goes 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Significantly more rewarding than pubs
[–]Disney_Princess137 20 points21 points22 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lol
[–]2old2beCool 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah. And the time to get home, you have 2 kids!
[–]FaithInStrangers94 26 points27 points28 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I mean that would only work if she’s at the stage where she’s 100% wanting to kiss you otherwise it would be a bit off putting possibly even disrespectful
[–]iamthatguyiam 14 points15 points16 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
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[–]JoeDoeKoe 15 points16 points17 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This guy just cracked the hardest code..
[–]FindingE-Username 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Midway through your sentence is good, midway through her sentence she might think you don't care about what she's saying
[–]iamthatguyiam 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
You make a good point and it’s not an exact equation or anything. When the moment is ripe you’ll know. In my college days that sort of thing made me feel SO good.
[–]KingAJ032304 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
When the moment is ripe you’ll know.
You most definitely won't, that's the issue with many guys
[–]iamthatguyiam 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That’s a fair point but you can only hold off so long! There are times where I wanted to do it but sensed she wasn’t that into me so I didn’t.
[–]Prestigious-Sense942 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I would love it.
[–]charltonngige 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Happy cake day!
[–]Prestigious-Sense942 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
What is cake day?
[–]badassitguy 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
And that is how you get your steps in for the day
[–]Ambitious-Ice2357 258 points259 points260 points 4 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
Some of them talk so much that you have to kiss them just to get some silence.
[–]Starshine-moonlight 37 points38 points39 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Think that would be me lol
[+]Ambitious-Ice2357 -56 points-55 points-54 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Right! Why do you women love to talk so much? One of the great mysteries of the universe.
[–]nitrolimitz 25 points26 points27 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Another great mystery would be finding out where your braincells went, although some have came up with the conclusion that there were any to begin with
[–]LolaBijou 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I have a theory that there’s a group of them that share one brain cell, but they spend 99% of their life waiting for their turn with it. Kind of like orange cats.
[+]SigmundFreud -21 points-20 points-19 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
In my experience, women don't talk. After disrobing, all they do is look at you with their cold, dead eyes.
[–]nitrolimitz 12 points13 points14 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
As if you’ve been 5 ft close to a woman 😂
[–]SigmundFreud 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]psean1977 15 points16 points17 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
👌
[–]ZosoWicca 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]KrAzYkelly2411 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I never stop 😂
[–]NoticeSlight949 68 points69 points70 points 4 years ago (55 children) | Copy Link
When to ask for a consent to kiss and when to go directly?
[–]FSUSMC 194 points195 points196 points 4 years ago (15 children) | Copy Link
I've done both and had both backfire.
I've asked and had her respond "that's weird to ask, you're supposed to just go for it"
I've gone for it and had her reaction be "that's fine because I was into it - but you definitely should've asked"
Now, 95% of the time - it's been a non-issue either way. But, there is no easy answer for men here. Just gotta learn to read the room brother. That's the price of entry for being able to stand-up while we pee.
[–]ftdrain 50 points51 points52 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
I never asked for consent and never had any problems with it, I think the odds of asking backfiring in some way are greater
[–]FSUSMC 50 points51 points52 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Like I said, as long as you can read the room - it's usually a non-issue. And it's only as weird as you make it. Normally there is a moment where it's clear that things are escalating and you can just say "I'd really like to kiss you right now". If she wants to kiss you, she's going to let you lean in.
But, now I only do that when it's clear she's pretty big on that kind of stuff. If she brought up her intersectional feminism class, I'm asking. If she chased her whiskey with beer on the first date, I'm just going in.
[–]ftdrain 21 points22 points23 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Lol if she starts talking about intersectional feminism and how all men suck I will get the explosive diarrhea, maybe right there on the spot
[+]thiswaytoalltheporn -10 points-9 points-8 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Why are you being wierd?
[+]Sin-cera -6 points-5 points-4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I wouldn’t worry, you’re in no danger of women starting to talk to you.
[–]FaithInStrangers94 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I had a few girls get a bit put off when I went for a kiss so I’ve stopped doing it, now I mention it
You don’t say “ma’am if it isn’t too much of an inconvenience I would rather like to kiss you at present” you just say something like “hypothetically if I went in for a kiss right now how would you react?” And they usually tell you to find out or in the case of a bad reaction you could just say duly noted and move on
[–]geardluffy 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Same I’ve never asked for consent, never had any issues either. As long as you’re not going for it if she backs off then you’re good.
[–]TheMutantWing 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That's the price of entry for being able to stand-up while we pee.
thanks for sharing LOL this is hilarious
[–]Afletch331 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You can ask without asking , just kinda look a little heavier , glance at the lips all you have to do is read their body language… the slight smile, they are a little bit closer, break up your words a little longer make them feel that you want to kiss and then it’s not that hard, everyone says be able to read the room, make yourself easy to read… I never ask, it’s usually just I give off clear signs and just say come here to finally initiate, by then they knew I wanted to kiss and already prepared mentally without getting ambushed sorta speak
[–]ClavasClub 4 years ago [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link
If someone gets turned off by consent, they're whack, especially girls imo
[–]JohnnyLazer17 13 points14 points15 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Asking to kiss is whack. If I’m on a date and I feel like it’s going well enough to go in for a kiss and they get mad that I didn’t ask that’s a huge turnoff. It’s a kiss, they could just pull away and say no thanks. It’s not like I’m slipping in the back door uninvited.
[–]FSUSMC 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Some women don't kiss on the first date, some do. I respect that, and have found that a lot of the women that don't end up being sexy, intelligent, stable, well adjusted women when I've gone out with them again.
Sometimes they just want to get to know you better before they put their mouth on you - I take no issue with that. Most women like me more the better they get to know me, and a little suspense never hurt anyone. But, like I said I rarely feel the need to prempt a kiss with anything.
To each their own, if what you're doing is working for you. Keep doing it.
[–]angry_fap21 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It’s tough but you have to have the social awareness.
[–]Abdelkader98 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I try to avoid asking her for consent most of the time. But I also go for the kiss when I sense her body language is comfortable and were vibing.
I've had this one girl I was going out with, she's very shy. She low-key wanted me to kiss her. For her sake, I told her I want to kiss her, that made her get more shy that my intention was out there, and she kept talking left and right while she blushed.
I didn't go for the kiss. And realised if I had just gone for it straight away, the ice would have been broken. Safe to say this the last time I'll be asking 😂
[–]throwaway_6196190012 24 points25 points26 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I've recently been on a first date with a shy girl. Halfway through the date I went for a kiss and she gave me the cheeck. I didn't let it bother me and kept the vibes good.
Later on we were in a park and I asked playfully about kissing. She gave me the green light so we did, it was great. Ended up with sex on the 2nd date.
I would say in a scenario like that first date I had, that's when I would ask about it. Otherwise, just go for it. Girls like guys who go for what they want.
[–]Yamochao 19 points20 points21 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
My golden secret:
If you want to just go for it, what you do is just lean in really slow, gently turn their head towards you, and hover over their mouth for a second, draw out the moment rubbing cheeks and the corner of your lips for a second and lightly hold their neck. People love this. That way you give them a chance to say no, while also being alpha af and building out the tension for a really hot make out sesh. After just 2-3 seconds (it'll seem like forever) as long as they're responding in kind, you dive in fully passionate. If it seems like they're into it but just frozen, give them a light kiss and then ask if it's ok.
Asking for it ahead can definitely break the mood, but no-one who was excited to kiss you will change their mind because you ask.
[–]NoticeSlight949 7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sir do you write erotica?
[–]FaithInStrangers94 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
What do you mean turn their head and Hover over their mouth?
[–]Yamochao 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Gently guide their face into a position/angle where your lips align.
[–]ksmith11011 45 points46 points47 points 4 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
Ask when you don’t want the burden of just going for it because of mixed signals but also don’t want to be kicking yourself for not making a move. I’d rather get verbally rejected than have the unknown hanging over my head.
Imo agreeing to a date practically gives consent for someone to try to kiss you unless it’s going horribly but even then some will still expect you to try. I’ve asked about that with several friends who are women in person and they always agree. I said “even if you don’t want to kiss him?” They say yeah, it shows courage even if they have to reject him.
[–]NoticeSlight949 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
True. i do think asking requires more courage
[–]cronasminate 34 points35 points36 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
You don't need consent for a kiss. You just move forward and they'll know what you are trying to do if they don't want it, they'll say something or move out of the way. If I sense any hesitation I just act as if it's nothing because it's literally nothing. It's only naturally to try to kiss someone when you are getting intimate, it's not some big deal like everyone makes it out to be.
Similar to how you try to half hug a girl. I just put my arm up and they will instinctively move under it. It's a lot of body language communication. The more you think about it, the more you won't be able to vibe with the current mood.
[–]Seber 16 points17 points18 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I agree with what you said, but I feel the way you worded it may be easily misunderstood.
Imo, you don't need consent to TRY to kiss someone, while trying to kiss IS how you get consent to actually kiss. I.e. don't force your kiss onto someone, but lean in and thereby make your plans known while also ensuring enough space for them to pull back if they want to.
I'm sure that's how you meant it anyway, but someone just starting out may take your first sentence a bit too literally.
[–]cronasminate 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Imo, you don't need consent to TRY to kiss someone, while trying to kiss IS how you get consent to actually kiss.
That's a great detail to point out, actually. This is actually a very common issue when advanced people try to communicate with starters and they end up feeling dumb when people say "Just kiss her," Or "just be confident," etc. This actually could help me be better at communicating since I teach people non-seduction stuff on a regular basis and I often times get frustrated when they just don't get it.
[–]thiswaytoalltheporn 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You're a cool person.
[–]cronasminate 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lol I'd be happy to disappoint you.
[–]TerminatorReborn 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You don't need spoken consent is a better way to think of it.
[–]ZidaneLoire 11 points12 points13 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Best way is go 90% of the way and let her do the remaining 10%. If she doesn't want, she'll turn her head away or tense up. If she wants she'll move forward.
There, non verbal consent for you.
[–]Boomslangalang 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Such an important point that every male of every generation but the last generation learned the hard way.
[–]ZidaneLoire 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Tell me about it. Specially with the "ask for consent" bullshit before a kiss that 90% if the time backfires.
[–]YoDaddy1069 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Women always think that they want a guy to ask for consent, but they really never do. If she’s even remotely interested in you and showing IOIs, I always go for it
[–]GalaxyBrainU 7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It's all about how you ask. If you say "hey umm do you think perhaps it would be ok if I kissed you" it's probably a turn off. If you're vibing and flirting and moving into her space slowly, and she's not moving away, and then you playfully say something like "what would you do if I kissed you right now", it's alot cooler and still asking consent.
[–]HashZer0 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
just say "im going to kiss you now" . Its spontaneous enough while being sort of planned. Works on every girl thats into you.
[–]ozzzy83 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You never ask for a kiss, girls want to feel your confidence and dominance, and not lack of balls by you being unsure and asking for permission, lmao.
[–]AA7 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Never ask for consent. The best way to gauge if she will be down for a kiss is by escalating touch.
so where to put my hands while going for the kiss?
[–]FaithInStrangers94 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Never ask for consent should be the tagline on this subreddit
[–]vardarac 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I get what you're saying though I like "Nonverbal consent fucks" better
[–]Silver-Variation8903 4 years ago [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link
Consent for a kiss? What? 😂
[–]vardarac 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
It works for awkward uncalibrated people when you don't know the first thing about establishing sexual tension but there is attraction there
[–]thiswaytoalltheporn 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Well put.. I could never put words to that situation very well.
[–]travelling_cirque 4 years ago* [recovered] (8 children) | Copy Link
Woman here: ask for consent.
First off- if you kiss someone without consent and they aren’t ready or wanting it, that can be extremely jarring and/ or upsetting. MAYBE some women find it weird if you ask for consent, but as a woman, I can say that AFAIK I have never met another woman who genuinely doesn’t like being asked, so it is better to be safe than sorry if you’re not sure.
Next- I actually find asking for consent to be particularly attractive. It shows me that the person I’m with respects me, my autonomy, and my boundaries. It makes me feel safe and cared for.
Bonus tip- it is totally possible to turn the asking for consent into a steamy moment. Let’s say you want to recreate OP’s situation while asking for consent, you could look into her eyes, smile, interrupt her with a “hey”, maybe lightly touch her somewhere and then gently ask “can I kiss you?” while holding the eye contact. Or you could even throw in a (specific) compliment like “I love the excitement in your eyes when you talk about your interests, and it makes me want to kiss you…may I?”. (That phrasing might be a little cheesy or weird, but it’s what I came up with off the top of my head)
[–]bannedsoonsmh 11 points12 points13 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
No offense, but are we supposed to act as if everybody was autistic? Gestures, body language, facial expression, mood and everything can’t be read anymore? Only words work?
In general, if you want to kiss someone, you lean forward slowly, and if the person backs off, that means she doesn’t want to be kissed, as simple as that.
There’s a thing called non-verbal consent, that works quite well.
[–]thebarnhouse 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Usually of she does want to kiss you she'll close the gap herself.
[–]bannedsoonsmh 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Exactly
[–]Boomslangalang 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
It’s interesting because I have seen countless comments from women who do not feel the same way. You do you, but I just don’t think women are as honest with each other as they are to themselves.
[–]jtaylor27141 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Watch what they do, not what they say. Please don’t take advice on what builds attraction from another girl. It’s just like your mom telling you ‘all women like nice guys who bring them flowers on the first date’.
[–]WalidfromMorocco 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
“I love the excitement in your eyes when you talk about your interests, and it makes me want to kiss you…may I?”.
lmao.
[–]NoticeSlight949 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
hey?😏 may I kiss you?😏😏😘😘 Am I doing it right?
[–]rattled_by_rush 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah but first you have to say you like it when she spends 45 minutes recapping the entirety of Tiger King
[–]Ok_Lemon_7310 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I’ve started a thing where I lift up their chin, maybe move it slightly. If they are fine with this, and stare back at you with desire—they want to be kissed
[–]HowToStud 20 points21 points22 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This! Guys hesitate too much, we can never be afraid to lead
[–]emjosomm 8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
i possibly have a date soon and if he does this, i’ll have no idea what to do. i’d be weak in the knees.
[–]BarVegetable1512 7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
On one recent girl I literally kissed her our of the blue as she was talking and said "You talk too much!"
Being spontaneous works like a charm. Better than waiting for the perfect moment which just builds anxiety.
[–]LoneWolfRyan 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I read this as kissed my dad last night mid sentence
[–]ZodiacKatil 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Mongomery burbss
[–]TH3BUDDHA 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
as I've gotten older
How old are you if you don't mind me asking?
[–]The_Turbinator 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
58
[–]NoticeSlight949 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
[–]Bodacious_Dad_Bod 41 points42 points43 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
If you both are aware "this is a date", if she's touching you frequently, if she's giving you extended eye contact, if she's holding your hand -- just go for it.
In my date, when I put my hands on her hands and held them for just a couple of seconds, she then naturally would reach for my hands.
I also moved us from different locations. So we went from sitting outside, to going to the bar, to walking by the lake. When she started following my lead after the bar and still didn't leave the date, it probably was safe to assume I'm good to go for the kiss.
If she turns her head when you go for the kiss or it feels awkward, then pull away. Most women will verbally or non verbally tell you "I'm not comfortable with this".
Read the situation.
[–]Gordon101 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Very nice. What'd you do afterwards? Did you invite her over to your place to show her your record collection?
[–]Bill_Biscuits -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
“If I put my hands on her hands and held them for just a couple of seconds, she then naturally would reach for my hands.”
Can you rephrase this? Are you sitting? Are your hands like at your sides when she’s reaching for them?
[–]Contango6969 16 points17 points18 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Don’t ask verbally. If you look at her lips and lean in slowly she will know what’s happening and be able to reject it if she wants to
[–]Kronuk 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
My girlfriend told me after we kissed the first time if I had asked she wouldn't have kissed me. I was 100% certain she wanted to kiss though
[–]Technical_Hawk8547 10 points11 points12 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It’s pretty damn clear when a girl wants to kiss you. They will usually hold pretty strong eye contact and not say anything. I’d say 9/10 that’s a clear indicator they want you to make a move. You can ask for a kiss and some girls will think it’s sweet. From my experience they prefer the spontaneity and confidence of just going for it though.
[+]MrBlack__ -13 points-12 points-11 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
This isn’t a W, this isn’t seduction.
Good for you, but this is not a teachable moment
[–]BlueberryObvious 8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Shut up dude
[–]MrBlack__ 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This ain’t a W either, typing shut up to someone you’ll never see🤫
[–]Bodacious_Dad_Bod 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Sucks to suck.
[–]MrBlack__ -2 points-1 points0 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Going around telling guys who struggle with game to just kiss a woman mid sentence will end them in very awkward situations. Can you really not see how it’s literally 50/50
You didn’t mention you’re set up
How long were you talking? Did she give you any signs prior? We’re you secluded? How many dates had you been on?
Trash advice and all the guys cheering you on are clearly those who struggle with girls because this ain’t it. This sub is called seduction for a reason
[–]focus_flow69 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Who gives a shit. Just do it you pussy and find out.
She'll either reject you or enjoy it. Anything else is overthinking, which is what everyone on this sub does too much of.
That’s fine…. But that’s not seduction:/ that’s just doing what ever the fuck you want.
How many brains cells more do you need to understand that
[+][deleted] -7 points-6 points-5 points 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Glad it worked out for you, but I'd never do that. Would feel like I took advantage of someone. I'm also single so...
[–]Bodacious_Dad_Bod 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Naw. You're projecting your insecurities. If you're vibing and the mood is there, just go for it. Most women will make it clear if they aren't into it.
It only becomes an issue if you ignore them.
[–]Boomslangalang 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
This is how it’s been done for millennia. And it worked out ok for generations upon generations upon generations. And yes, we have progressed as a society and that’s good. But it doesn’t mean the entire ineffable history and logistics of romance get re-written in a generation.
And before the consent-tards start freaking out, read the signals and DON’T do this if you think you have it wrong. But even if you do get it wrong, you’ll be shut down real quick and take the L as a lesson and accept graciously the lifetime memory of that burning humiliation and take it as wisdom to listen deeper, observe clearly, care more, for the next time.
Consent is obviously fundamental but contrary to what you may have heard it’s not always/often so clear or verbal. After all, a massive amount of human communication is non verbal. Just don’t go forcing yourself on people who have said they’re not interested and you will be fine.
And whatever you do don’t be a fearful shmuck who waits til the very last min of a date.
You wanted to know why you’re single.
[–]focus_flow69 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Bro you are on a date, girls expect romance. A kiss is one of the most basic things in romance. It's really not that big of a deal.
They expect it. You want it. So give it.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
That's why I said for me, if she doesn't initiate then I assume she's not interested.
[–]focus_flow69 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
That's actually what women think.
They think if men don't initiate, then they assume he isn't interested. Or worse, he's a pussy. Both assumptions will kill any attraction she has for you.
You are a man. You won't attract women thinking like a woman. Lead and initiate, take risks and do not allow the fear of rejection dictate your actions.
Will some women initiate if they want you to escalate? Sure a minority will, but will the majority? No. So if you want to play the losing game and miss out on all the other women who could be your potential partners, but since they won't initiate, you won't either and it'll just fizzle out.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
For me, any relationship where it's a girls interest is based on my "manliness" or "initiative" will fail, because that's just not my personality.
[–]focus_flow69 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Good luck on being successful at anything in life if you are ok with not taking initiative.
This is not something you should accept as your personality. Everyone should strive to take initiative in their lives.
[–]zzzrecruit -4 points-3 points-2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
For the people asking how do you know if it's ok - if you have a good understanding of social behavior and body language, you'll know if you will be accepted. If you don't have this understanding, ABSOLUTELY ask. And hopefully she'll respond by saying, "God what took you so long!"
[–]letmereaddamnit 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lmao I'm always over thinking it. The whole time before we meet up I'm questioning everything and worrying but then in the moment it just comes instinctively
[–]Litenpes 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Learn to identify IOI's real good. If you master that, you don't need verbal consent.
Fyi, this is coming from a guy who was oblivious to the "subtle" ioi from a girl in my joint class in junior high, who threw sugar cubes at me bc I was "cute" (the swedish word for sweet flavour and cute are the same). She eventually lost interest. I realised about a year too late
[–]Justashane 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I need to learn that too. I’m 40 now and have never really kissed a woman before 😔
[–]Remarkable_Aside4753 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The easiest way to tell if she’s down is that if you 2 are holding hands while walking.
Hold hands, walk slow and stop to look at her. Maintain eye contact and then go for it.
[–]tyler_chard 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
A female friend of mine had this done to her and she hated it. Made her feel ignored and not interesting. Be sure to read the room.
[–]pinkpaintt 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Glad it worked out!! I personally don’t like kisses mid sentence. It has me questioning whether the person is listening or even cares about what I’m saying or just thinking about kissing which is annoying. I guess I can understand why others might like it though If they want it that bad too.
[–]Schneggl 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
2 questions:
[–]Bodacious_Dad_Bod 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
1) This was a first date
2) If we're not meshing, the answer is no. I only go for a kiss if there is obvious chemistry. If she's touching me back frequently, I definitely will. If there's been no touching, then no.
[–]Schneggl 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
thank you, would have thought the same way:)
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