Does getting older make game harder? Will it be harder to get dates?

WhatsTheAnswerDude · 2025-12-16T04:24:03+00:00

Really depends.

I think a LOT of it depends. Like people mentioned here theres a VARIETY of circumstances that could effect things.

I think it's also just that life tends to come in waves at times and there's different seasons to every persons life. It also varies with the economy and different outside factors that can affect people's overall moods and such and trends within a city as well.

Sometimes youre flush....sometimes you're bust.

Sometimes you're working your ass over and OVER and get nothing.....sometimes you can ride momentum and it's almost like you're point blank gravitational.

It also ebbs and flows with women and relationships. Like sometimes you'll keep running into newly divorced women over and over that are sick of vanilla sex and men that can't follow through or give them depth. Sometimes you ain't getting shit. Sometimes you might meet something genuinely amazing. Sometimes you meet toxic chicks. Sometimes you'll have women that are young and wanna be trained by an older guy that ACTUALLY knows what the fuck they're doing.

There's honestly SO many variables with women alone and almost like the "market conditions" that are out there.....and that's not even mentioning what the heck YOURE doing or working towards.

You could look genuinely older. You could have salt n pepper women go crazy for....we absolutely don't know.

Your age can absolutely help make things better but it's also dependent on you being aware of the SPECIFIC hand that life gave you and knowing how the hell to maximize it as much as possible.

Sometimes it's summer.....sometimes it's winter.

The one thing I can say like was kinda already stated.....it's a LOT easier to generally walk away from shit if ain't right for you.....WAY too many BETTER things you can put your time into.

As a guy that's about to turn 38 and just witnessed my grandmother's basically die the last few days.....theres also a weight to getting older and dealing with heavier shit over time. You're absolutely less up for bullshit which....can actually help you.

Older women can also feel that in their life too.

Some people also will call this next decade or two the SHIT GETS REAL point of life.

The guys and men with depth and presence can run CIRCLES around clowns because as was said in Jerry McGuire.....women have already seen the circus.

Let that give you presence and focus that's genuine raw and real.

MOST men don't have that or even anything CLOSE to that when they're younger and women with any level of maturity are VERY much so genuinely drawn to that.

ChicoBrillo · 2025-12-16T01:50:19+00:00

I wouldn't say so.

With age I've become much more focused on personal goals and growth. Sex isn't the prize as much as it used to be when I was younger.

I feel that when I was younger I did a lot more chasing, but now, I feel like as long as I'm in a location with a good dating pool (rural bad, city good), I typically have women who are interested in me.

It could also have to do with my attitude shift, I don't crave validation anymore, I think it makes women find me more intriguing.

I actually feel more attractive than I have in previous years to be quite honest. People usually clock me a few years younger than I am which may also help.

Idk man, if you were in a rural area it probably would be harder because people get hitched younger. It probably depends more on where you live and the kind of crowds you find yourself in

OpinionThink481 · 2025-12-16T01:26:53+00:00

Depends on more factors than age some. How young you look despite your age, how hot you look, how rich you are, how confident, how funny, the type of women that you go to,… etc

Fidel__CashFl0w · 2025-12-16T02:40:23+00:00

It becomes easier and easier to find confidence within yourself. However, I feel like I personally stopped caring about dating as I got more focused on my career and personal growth.

TonytheNetworker · 2025-12-16T04:37:24+00:00

It’s not really “easy” as much as it’s getting older as a man allows you to gather more knowledge, traveling, money, charisma, all things that contribute to a man’s attractiveness.

NotUsedUsernameYet · 2025-12-16T02:34:15+00:00

More difficult past 35 in my experience. There are less single women with age, many stop caring about themselves, people are bitter, have emotional baggage, and many quit dating market completely. Those who are still dating often have higher requirements than they had decades ago.

Past age of 40, 71% of single women and 42% of single men quit the dating market without intent to ever date again.

JudgmentPuzzleheaded · 2025-12-16T10:54:26+00:00

I mean personally I'm doing a lot better now than I was in my early and mid 20s, because I was a gamer shut in, socially underdeveloped and very insecure.

Now at 30 I'm in the best shape of my life, more confident, more social and am constantly dating beautiful women.

I was speaking to a friend who is early 30s, and had more success when he was younger, and he claims it's more difficult now and he struggles to get 'hot 25 year olds' but has no problem dating women in their 30s. I actually don't have a problem dating hot women in that age range and get plenty.

We're similar height and both good looking guys, but he's let himself go a bit more and gotten skinnyfat, while I'm in good shape. I'm also actively making an effort to date as much as possible and have optimised my dating apps after a lot of picture taking in cool places and A/B testing.

So I think the point is; your milage will vary depending on the effort you put in, some people bloom early, others bloom late.

TripleDigitNomad · 2025-12-16T04:38:16+00:00

I think 30-35 is the peak for dating for men. You got money & stability, you got options both up and down, you got experience + stories to tell, you're at your most attractive looks-wise.

saryiahan · 2025-12-16T01:17:07+00:00

Made it easier for me. A lot of college woman like older men.

No1Statistician · 2025-12-16T01:48:45+00:00

Dating your age every year it gets easier

towerandhorizon · 2025-12-16T03:56:15+00:00

As an older man, you are expected to have your sh*t together more. Women are no longer deciding on your potential...they are deciding on your results. Sadly, though, with average Gen Z and Gen Alpha guys...uh, let's just say...having less potential, it really isn't that hard to stand out.

Lenovo_Driver · 2025-12-16T04:27:48+00:00

It’s only harder if you have nothing going for you.

Being in your 20s and not having a high paying job or your own place is one thing but to say the same thing in your 30s is detrimental

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-12-16T06:06:11+00:00

It depends what you mean by "game." My goal is always with a future in mind, so a girlfriend and potentially a wife. And I say that as someone who's been married once starting in my 20s. I'd like to get married again and am doing more checkpoints this time to evaluate and reflect. I'm not getting caught up in "the sex is good" as a priority marker; there has to be more going on than the physical.

But dating in general compared to 20s, I'm not sure if I'd say it is more difficult to get dates overall in the 30s. Online, perhaps, because it's more based on just photos and you can't share a well crafted profile as no one's going to read it like the old days. I eliminated online dating/apps and focused solely on cold approach and social game.

Surprisingly, I was able to get dates with college women after my divorce. I hadn't been on a date with anyone else other than my ex since I was like 26 after going on tons of dates from 18-26. But in my 30s I didn't resonate with the younger crowd anymore. I felt like their dad on dates and didn't connect on any real level as there was a huge life experience gap and the financial security/emotional security gaps were also pretty large.

I found much greater connection with women closer to my age by around +/- 5 years. I'd say at this point social game is my preferred way of finding a partner and it's how I've met several girlfriends, including my current one. The transitioning tends to be much smoother and more effortless since you have the shared commonalities of people you both know. Shared interest groups are great as well and my go to have been volleyball and climbing, activities I've done for years.

Ladline69 · 2025-12-16T11:09:51+00:00

Depends... I've seen some sad old guys at the club - not a great look but each to their own

Known-Student-381 · 2025-12-16T20:06:22+00:00

age tends to be more of a factor for longterm relationships. Short term is a lot more vibes-based.

ThrowRA_fajsdklfas · 2025-12-16T01:54:33+00:00

100% became easier. 36M recently single after 3 years. I’ve matured a lot since then.

SWIMS_labrat · 2025-12-16T02:11:36+00:00

Yes 100% college girls will think its creepy if a guy in his 30s is gaming. Ive gotten some lays with them but it's because I look younger mid 20s. But as long as you look good for your age you can. Girls in their 30s dont care much about age but ya cant look alot older than you are

Ill-Worldliness3401 · 2025-12-16T01:49:44+00:00

Hookups are definitely doable with early 20s, but dating tends to be around a narrower range

DrBarackPendergrass · 2025-12-16T06:01:26+00:00

My "dating prime" was age 38 to 46 (90+ dates/Most in their 20s/30s) -- Stop thinking about "age" and simply keep improving/evolving.

CHINO-HILL · 2025-12-16T15:32:58+00:00

yes it does. when youre young, u walk around with a shaved head with flanels on, have other gang bangers asking u where ur from. when u get old, no gang members will ask u that, cause youre invisible to them. the same goes for dating. even in ur 20s compared to ur teens, u will notice a decline. u also have to remember, more people get taken by 30. alot of people will take 1 of 2 routes. 1- give up on dating due to bad experiences, or 2- already found someone

lf ur thinking of targeting younger females, they are very age sensitive, and a 20 yr old can easily perceive a 23 yr old as being "old", and a 30yr old would just be invisible

alot of things are working against u at this age. as a man, u also become more self concious, because youre no longer as fit, handsome as u used to be. u probably got a lot less hair.

your social circle also ages. alot of the people we tend to date come from our social circle, so the older our social circle gets, the less oportunity it will provide for dating

Shoddy-Lingonberry-4 · 2025-12-16T03:15:28+00:00

Nah. Body game helps

lovemycats65 · 2025-12-16T06:15:37+00:00

Confidence improves with age, which actually helps in dating.

epimpstyle · 2025-12-16T09:47:51+00:00

I'm 47, and I wouldn't say it's harder, but I've noticed that sometimes I just don't care about going out. It could be Friday evening, yet I prefer to stay home doing something else. I guess the older I get, the more frequent these 'I don't care' days will become. I can't say it's harder because in the last 5-6 years, I have become more sociable, and I realized that this small change alone was huge.

I saw with my own eyes that 90% of the women I talk to are all friendly, nice, and polite. If I find them at the right moment and the right place, then everything becomes easy. Therefore, it's more about whether I want to put in the energy to talk to her or not, it's not truly harder or easier.

Of course, it can be harder if I'm not socially calibrated and I hit on women who are clearly not interested in talking to me, and then try to force a conversation. It can also be difficult if 2-3 young ladies all have open body language, are very vocal, and have high energy... an attempt to talk to them will just make them laugh or lead to a rude comment. However, these situations are very rare.

tattooedpanhead · 2025-12-16T10:43:34+00:00

I'm 61 next month. Been living in Italy and married for 18 years. I don't know what will happen in the future. I suspect things may not last.

But if I become single again. I'm not going to chase or game all that much. Let them come to me. I'll just show up and be myself un-apologeticly. Not giving a damn what people think. And only aproching based on body language and looks.

Does game become easy with age? It does when you realize you don't need to chase them.

Over the past 18 years and more even. I've had women make it known that they wanted me. Even knowing that I am married. Maybe I'm an anomaly. But I see things that. In the past I would brush off as a coincidence or me seeing things that aren't there. That came from a lack of self confidence. Now I still have confidence issues but not nearly as bad.

My advice is to go to places where women are. Just watch, be yourself and don't aproch any one. Only talk, with no expectations. Be yourself and see what happens.

neurothingy · 2025-12-16T11:22:05+00:00

Dating has become easier since I am in my early 30s, since women pay more attention to me and I am more confident and focused. On the other hand, I am also less interested in dating for the sake of it, which I'd say make the experience different.

masterofrants · 2025-12-16T18:31:57+00:00

Every post here gets philosophical comments about masculinity and purpose instead of what was asked lol.

The answer is your looks matter so stay fit dress well you'll be fine. Also skin care and hair care most men ignore those.

Film2021 · 2025-12-16T21:19:37+00:00

I’ve gotten more attention after 36 and 37 then in my late 20s. Last summer when I was 36 I had five dates in one day.

Dangerous_Item_6879 · 2025-12-17T00:31:46+00:00

Depends on your market. But in general if you are older you are usually wiser, have more money and have more status.

Lots of 20 something year olds looking for an older boyfriend and most guys in their early 20s don’t know anything.

Admirable_Image_8759 · 2025-12-17T04:37:05+00:00

In my 50s and I’m having no issues at all.

carlos11111111112 · 2025-12-17T15:07:18+00:00

Focus on SMV. Yes generally as you age you lose looks and women prefer healthy young guys. Buts it’s possible to increase status, wealth, game, and looks (even logistics mage HUGE difference) if you put in the work. Otherwise you may have to settle for single moms or older less attractive women, if your ok with that then yes dating becomes exponentially easier as their less picky once their past their prime.

TuckerTheCuckFucker · 2025-12-18T00:14:11+00:00

I’m in my 30’s and getting laid has never been easier

Remember when you were 18-24 and unable to get laid to save your life? Who do you think those girls were fucking? The 30 year olds

In your 30’s, you reap the benefits your forefathers enjoyed

I’ve found most women specifically go after older guys

I don’t usually ask age, I just talk to girls who are attractive to me and often times they end up being in their 20’s

NaiveAd6090 · 2025-12-18T06:02:08+00:00

It’s become easier for me as I’ve gotten older because I have confidence, self esteem, goals and motivation, lifestyle, money, experience, wisdom, practice interacting with women, social skills, and etc. etc. that I just didn’t have when I was in my early twenties. In terms of mentality if I was at where I’m at now when I was in my twenties I would have been absolutely killing it. Because now, despite all that I do have, I work so much and don’t have as much access to social life as I did back then so most of what I get is off apps and it’s slim pickings in a small town but I make it work. Theres trade offs everywhere you look so probably best not to think about it too much and keep getting your reps in and doing what works for you

Happyseducer · 2025-12-16T04:35:38+00:00

Not really harder. My results keep getting better but it does depend somewhat on how you look. I know a dude who is about 60 who crushes it with women in their 20s - but he is in great shape and super energetic.

Generally though standards of lifestyle raise a bit. Socially and by women you are expected to be a bit further a long in life.

professionalfumblr · 2025-12-16T16:43:58+00:00

Nah, if you take care of yourself and have youthful spirit, you can do quite well. There are actually a surprising number of young women who look for older men to date

devonthed00d · 2025-12-16T01:46:05+00:00

They don’t care, as long as you pull out a wad of money and or have a boat.

SilentAirline6611 · 2025-12-16T03:24:12+00:00

There is no such thing as an unattractive man with money

Money is the ultimate cosmetic. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Make sure you have enough of it. Stay in shape well groomed, have a decent personality you’ll be fine.

But DEFINITELY have money it can overshadow physical flaws, making them seem less significant or even non-existent.

SillyGayBoy · 2025-12-16T06:48:25+00:00

No around age 36 I became a daddy and guys around 20 would look at me like they wanted to rip my clothes off even when I was old enough to be their dad.

2025-12-16T12:28:09+00:00

For me it got easier.....but you are far more picky and a lot of the women interested in me or show the signs I am just not as attracted to anymore. After you have slept with a lot of women your beauty standards go up and even cute girls in my 20s I would chase, you just start thinking its not worth the energy or effort.

Has this happened to anyone else?

Title	Does getting older make game harder? Will it be harder to get dates?
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Date	December 16, 2025 1:09 AM UTC (7 months ago)
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